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00:24 min
Aaron Talks
Hey, welcome back. Here we go. This is the thing. Have you struggled with coping mechanisms to just get by in life. Have you been able to a way out of that coping mechanism into a state of empowerment and choice? Have you validated yourself to step through the hardships and the pain that life has.
My cousin Tracy-Rose has been so kind as to join for the last two episodes. Hopefully you caught the first one. This is part two where we're going to hear more about her story. She Overcame a moment when she had a choice to continue to suffer and continue to feel isolated and go back to harmful patterns. But, She choose differently.
Tracy is a therapy informed intuitive mentor. I love her story because we talk about the low moments when we are on the verge of being small, feeling insignificant and going back to old patterns that reinforce the belief that we're small. It puts us in a victim state. But we always have a choice to make things better.
Often we get comfortable in the chaos of our life. It's a survival mode. And that becomes the norm. It's interesting that in Tracy's story she learned to live in the chaos, to where living in peace was uncomfortable.
So here we go, a conversation between two cousins talking about loving yourself better, being empowered to make a choice, to authenticate yourself, and learn from your experiences.
2:40 min
Tracy feels uncomfortable with peace
Being the perpetuator of the wound and having Peter Pan syndrome
If it was healthy Tracy didn’t want. Tracy didn’t know how to trust peace.
breaking down to break through
Tracy was facing going to prison and that was going to be her life
Spiritual awaking, surrendering to death or surrendering to life.
In Jail you loose your identity you become a number
6:45 min
Tracy spent 3 months in county jail, cried and wrote letters to people she hurt
Jail was a big mirror
Standing in front of the judge Tracy said, “Just give me the time.” And by some form of her higher, humble self asked, “Don’t you rehabilitate.”
9:10 min
going through hoops
Tracy wanted out of torture, despair, suicidal ideation.
10:25 min
Tracy grew up with the idea that “Rehab is for sissies”
Woman’s meeting at rehab Tracy felt humanized again
Life is bittersweet
13:45 min
choosing to fight for yourself instead of against yourself
Loving yourself just happened for Tracy in the last couple of years
Not getting into the shame spiral
Punishing yourself for trying to survive
16:00 min
Tracy arrived at “whatever is meant for me, will be for me.”
Living in uncertainty
Lesson of intuitively knowing how to handle situations
Lesson 2 is learning to live with unresolved issues
18:25 min
We’re an impatient society, needing to be validated externally
the only one who can authentic and validate yourself is you
Parents and Caregivers are just doing their best
20:25 min
Tracy talks about creating a safe place for her son to feel all of his emotions
It takes knowing all your emotions first, children can be beautiful mirrors walking around
22:20 min
learning to not project
Aaron talks about neglecting vital things like water
learning to detach, non attachment
Attachment styles, put down what your doing and go learn yourself
25:25 min
neglecting avoiding self
Primary core wounds
Self-punishment, & shame spiral
Can i just be with myself right now
The power of being alone. Are we ever alone if we have ourselves ?
opening questions about God
27:35 the humble / confident place
Authenticity is a journey
appreciate you seeing what i see in myself, the also
And also, Compliments are humanizing, it doesn’t fill a lack, it adds
31:00 min
compliments can be toxic, like
Other people’s Words are spells
The unhealthy receiving a compliment,
Salve of the Circle, i needed to someone else could make it so that i know that i can make it through
34:20 min
Community is necessary “I need to know you made it through it
the elder reaching back to you reaching back to a child
Finding safety with women
38:45 min Aaron Talks
Hey thanks so much for listening in TKOL podcast. I’d love it if you would leave a review. Did you Connect with this podcast episode did you connect with Tracy’s story ? Have you been stuck in a pattern and needed to make a different choice, an empowered choice?
If you’ve been struggling in harmful relationship patterns and you’re looking for a coach to help you move past and future in your life I’d love to connect with you you go to thekindoflove.com or you can follow me on Instagram and direct message me @aarontosti
You could also connect with Tracy-Rose, @salveofthecircle on Instagram.
Often times it’s trusting someone with your story. It’s letting someone hold a space or the container or the room for you to really hear you and what’s going on in your life. That can be so transformational. Feel free to reach out to either one of us.
Thank you again for listening to TKOL Podcast.
I’m Aaron. Best of love to you.