In today's episode, I am dropping a brand-new framework—straight from my own mental oven—showing you how to tell if your marriage feels like a nourishing refuge or a never-ending war zone. I am sharing a raw story about crying in the car with her task-focused engineer husband and turns it into a masterclass on collaboration, personal responsibility, and the power of a single re-frame.
✨ EPISODE AT A GLANCE
Sanctuary vs. Battleground—what those vibes actually feel like day-to-day, leaks in the roof and all.
The 80 % Rule for "safe enough" and why thriving might ask you to raise that bar.
Maggie's Three R's: Re-IMAGINE, Re-NEGOTIATE, or Re-LEASE when things stop feeling safe.
The Sanctuary Scale (1 = war zone, 10 = oasis) + game-changing coaching questions.
Two ways to "release": shift expectations or lovingly exit the relationship.
How to know if you need specialized support instead of another communication tip.
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