00:00:08:08 – 00:00:27:17

Nick McGowan

Hello and welcome to The Mindset and Self-mastery Show. I’m your host, Nick McGowan. And on this show, my guests and I unpack the stories that shape us, the lives that we lead on our path to self-mastery. So let’s not wait any longer. Let the games begin.

00:00:32:00 – 00:00:34:09

Nick McGowan

Hey, Pat. Welcome to the show, man. How you doing?

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Pat Di Domenico

I’m great. Thanks, Nick. How are you?

00:00:38:12 – 00:01:00:02

Nick McGowan

I’m good. It’s. It’s funny. When we first jumped on here before we hit record, we’re just shooting the breeze. Talking about the episode? No. I’d asked if you were drinking coffee because you told me it was 430 in the morning. So, man, I appreciate you getting up and having as much energy as you do. I I’d basically be dragging my ass around for 15 minutes, at least for at 430 in the morning.

00:01:00:02 – 00:01:17:04

Nick McGowan

And here I am, 12 hours apart from you. Vivian, thank you for jumping on being awesome. I’m excited to get into the stuff that we’re going to get into today. So why don’t you give us a little bit of context, tell us who you are, what you do for a living. And one thing that most people don’t know about you, that maybe a little odd or bizarre.

00:01:18:03 – 00:01:57:06

Pat Di Domenico

Yeah. So. So I reside in Perth, Australia. So it’s the timezone difference and previously I was in the construction and property business firm for industry for the last 20 years, but in the last year of of shifted. So I started to learn to try the Australian stock market initially and then from there I got into a I guess a mission that I felt sort of pulled towards, which was to help single dads, something that I’ve experienced myself and also from the perspective of, of a child as well.

00:01:57:06 – 00:02:24:15

Pat Di Domenico

And something interesting thought about myself. So the only one time that I’ve ever been to the snow was in Austria, and that was actually a surprise trip for my birthday. So we went from Florence by train overnight to Austria. And so I woke up in the snow and I was like, okay, cool. No hours. No one’s there at all in the town.

00:02:24:15 – 00:02:46:20

Pat Di Domenico

So this is a bit bit all a bit strange. So I go to the we go to this sort of the ski shop and that’s not open either. Okay, this is interesting. So we we get on the bus to go to the gym, to the where the snow is. And everyone’s a so we found out there was the Austrian national holiday.

00:02:47:18 – 00:03:16:01

Pat Di Domenico

So I’m saying these little kids that age of like six going down the mountain with the no, no, no sticks. And I was like, yeah, that’s, that’s pretty interesting. And so I’ve never experienced a snow skate or anything like before. And I was adamant that, no, I didn’t want to ski, I wanted to snowboard. And so for the majority of the first day, because there wasn’t enough time to organize a lesson, I was pretty much waiting.

00:03:16:01 – 00:03:35:12

Pat Di Domenico

So and we went in at lunchtime for, for a bit of a break and I took off my jacket and I was absolutely drenched where everyone else was completely bone dry. And so that’s that’s one of the stories that I hadn’t really shared so often there.

00:03:36:08 – 00:03:54:12

Nick McGowan

Yeah. I kind of wonder how you’d get into some of that stuff. Like that’s not like a random thing where you’re like, Hey, nice to meet you. I’m Pet, by the way, when I was little, this thing happened. Like what? Okay, I guess it’s only, you know, shit like this where some random bearded dudes like. Hey, tell me the weird thing about you, but what a hell of a story, man.

00:03:54:12 – 00:04:21:05

Nick McGowan

I mean, even just so the people here in the States, that’s not typically where somebody is like, yeah, I first experienced snow in Austria. Oh, that’s pretty awesome. Typically they’re like, Yeah, I was somewhere in Jersey and it started to snow and it looked dirty or, you know, something like that. It’s funny, as somebody who’s in Florida, I appreciate that I don’t have snow down here, but it is cool to be able to go see it every so often, and that’s just an interesting thing.

00:04:21:13 – 00:04:27:13

Nick McGowan

Do you guys are there any parts of Australia that get any sort of any sort of snow?

00:04:28:04 – 00:04:58:09

Pat Di Domenico

Yeah, more towards the east side of Australia where I’m originally from. Melbourne. Oh sorry. In Victoria there’s parts know you get to travel out probably maybe 3 hours from the city. And then I played in the Blue Mountains in May in Sydney, New South Wales, but they’re sort of pretty much that’s it, the two locations they get. So other than that the closest country would be New Zealand and that people venture too.

00:04:59:02 – 00:05:06:13

Pat Di Domenico

But yeah, so start for us is not a common appearance. So if we get a bit of hail, that’s like kind of snow for us.

00:05:07:03 – 00:05:30:01

Nick McGowan

Sure. That’s more like destructive snow. Like shit. My car windshields are going to be busted out. Snow, that’s what I mean. So that that is a little interesting. But let’s get into let’s get into the reason why you’re here. Let’s talk about the resilient dad thing. So it looked like there were some stuff that you just went through, some turmoil kind of growing up, but then found yourself in a similar spot that you didn’t want to be.

00:05:30:01 – 00:05:34:20

Nick McGowan

So kind of, you know, start us off from from where you want with the whole resilient dad story.

00:05:35:20 – 00:06:00:11

Pat Di Domenico

Yeah. So Jenny obviously begins as sort of a child going through that experience. But and one of the, one of the things that I always said that was I’m just going to make sure that if it’s anything that I ever do, I’m never, ever going to have my children in the same situation and benign. I regretted the pattern.

00:06:00:11 – 00:06:34:03

Pat Di Domenico

And unfortunately, my first son and his mother and I was just separated prior to finding out that he was that she was pregnant. And I thought it was the right thing to do to try and stick around and support through the sort of your initial stages. But for something like that, there’s, you know, a lot of emotions and and so forth and yeah, unfortunately, the the co-parenting experience wasn’t the greatest.

00:06:34:03 – 00:07:05:02

Pat Di Domenico

And you’re spending four or three years in family court. You know, my son’s only turning six next month, so it’s pretty much majority of his life. And so through that experience of, you know, going through those challenges, my sort of my health and my life is pretty much like a yeah, just constantly going up and down to the point where, you know, I, I couldn’t manage without anti-depressants.

00:07:05:05 – 00:07:32:11

Pat Di Domenico

It was like it was like necessity was like pretty much like air for me before. If I didn’t have tablets, it was like I’d freak out. So, you know, that way. That was a kind of state that I sort of got into. And then, yeah, it took for me to sort of get away from my, my situation and saying that, you know what, I’ve had enough.

00:07:33:12 – 00:07:53:06

Pat Di Domenico

I can’t continue like this because I’ve got, you know, three young boys. And I need to I need to step up and and, you know, and become the dad that I want to. And the role model for them. So, yeah, it’s I guess I reached my threshold and and that was kind of my turning point.

00:07:53:22 – 00:08:09:18

Nick McGowan

Yeah. It’s got to be tough as, as a kid yourself being like, fuck, I don’t want to any of this. I don’t want any parts of this. And in fact, when I get older and have children, I’m not going to do this. And then you find yourself being like, Fuck, I’m doing this. This is how this thing worked out.

00:08:10:16 – 00:08:29:11

Nick McGowan

I had a similar situation. My mom and dad, honestly, I think they still say they probably fucking hate each other, which sucks because there are times where I try to put them into different like same room. People talk because look, I’m a grown ass fucking man at this point we should be able to talk about things, but there’s still stuff that they had gone through that was trauma for them.

00:08:30:01 – 00:08:53:04

Nick McGowan

That was also trauma for me. And I’ve kind of said the same thing now. I don’t have any kids, at least yet. I’d like to have kids at some point. But honestly, dude, I’ve said the same shit where I’m like, I don’t ever want to go through this. I want to do this differently. So when you found yourself in that spot, then it sounded like the antidepressants and like needing your pills was a thing where you were like, Oh shit, I, I feel like I need this stuff to do.

00:08:53:04 – 00:09:02:21

Nick McGowan

This was, that, was that felt like breaking or the waking point or was there something else that happened that kind of slept in the mouth and you’re like, Oh, I need to do some different yeah.

00:09:02:21 – 00:09:26:07

Pat Di Domenico

The other major sort of impact that going through that experience had was I had a habit of like, I’d be constantly eating and not good for, you know, I’d been waiting for McDonald’s for breakfast. I think you guys call it Burger King in the States for lunch, KFC for dinner. And I even have a second dose somewhere during the day.

00:09:26:07 – 00:10:00:21

Pat Di Domenico

And I went from like 107 kilos to 137 kilos within months. So 30 kilos, which to believe is something close to 50, £60 for you guys. And I would reach that threshold and and snap, snap back where, you know, I could drop 20 kilos in in, you know, ten weeks. But it got to the point where it was affecting like I’d I’d have high costs and high blood pressure.

00:10:00:21 – 00:10:35:03

Pat Di Domenico

I’d developed like sleep apnea. And that’s where it was kind of like, okay, if I don’t actually do something, forget about potentially may not be able to cope through this situation. Miles is going to take me. So that was kind of one of the the other the other factors of having those getting into that, you know, that pattern of all those destructive patterns where, you know, I thought in the interim they’re great coping mechanisms, but that’s it.

00:10:35:16 – 00:10:36:16

Pat Di Domenico

They’re very shortly.

00:10:37:08 – 00:10:59:06

Nick McGowan

Yeah, just like McDonald’s and most of that shit is a great idea until afterwards. And you’re like, Oh fuck, no, I shouldn’t have done that at all. But were you using that too? Just looking for the best way to put this. But I think the easiest way is basically a happy, a little dopamine hit of like, I know I can get consistent shit from this and it’ll make me sort of happy.

00:11:00:18 – 00:11:12:08

Nick McGowan

After you went through that, did you find yourself being able to actually process through the stuff that was not making you happy, or was it just more difficult for you to like, work your way through that addiction, to then work your way to what the actual problem was?

00:11:13:09 – 00:11:40:00

Pat Di Domenico

Yeah, it was actually moving into state and, and moving away from, you know, the industry that I was in because, you know, I’d, I’d pretty much stopped my day at 5:00 in the morning because we started at 7:00 in the morning, sort of on site. And I wouldn’t see my wife and my kids. I wouldn’t see my kids when I come home.

00:11:40:00 – 00:12:03:02

Pat Di Domenico

I barely see my wife. And that for the last four years, I was kind of that was it like I’ve got to work my ass off to get through this while dealing with all the other stuff, but then being able to shift and sort of move away from that environment and just sort of take a breath. I was actually able to analyze some of my patterns and it was funny.

00:12:03:02 – 00:12:25:14

Pat Di Domenico

I was gone through some photos because I’d been unpacking and so forth, and I’d seen photos of me as a baby and one of them where was my grandmother and on. And she was, you know, she was feeding me so and so the closest people that I had in my life was my grandparents, because my mother and my father had me quite young.

00:12:25:14 – 00:12:54:19

Pat Di Domenico

So my mother was a couple of months shy of 18 and my dad was 21. So I’d spend a lot of time with grandparents. And that was one of the ways that they showed love, which was through food. And then I realized, this is this is how I’m I’m saving that love and connection through food, because that’s something that has been sort of ingrained in me as a child, that food is a place of love and family and all that.

00:12:54:19 – 00:13:17:21

Pat Di Domenico

So it was having that sort of like be able to realize those patterns. And then like you say, then these patterns are actually serving me and it’s actually helping me. And what are the things that I can actually do to replace those patterns? I think it’s great to get rid of the pattern, but if we don’t replace it with something else, we go back to it.

00:13:19:12 – 00:13:57:22

Pat Di Domenico

So yeah, I was fortunate enough that during the move to the other side of Australia, I was given a gift from a friend to a an event, a Tony Robbins event called UAW and, and it was literally one of the best four days because it was a completely different environment to what I was used to. And some sort of insights into myself really helped me to start formulating sort of an understanding of why I was doing certain things, as well as being able to say, okay, what is it that I actually want?

00:13:57:22 – 00:14:09:17

Pat Di Domenico

Because we focused so much on what we don’t want that we completely forget about what we want, why we want it. And yeah, and that really sort of helped.

00:14:10:18 – 00:14:17:17

Nick McGowan

I’m sure that ten day challenge where you can’t eat anything with a face at the end of you. P.W I’m sure that helped with that whole nutrition thing.

00:14:18:22 – 00:14:21:22

Pat Di Domenico

Yeah, that’s pretty much the start of the year. No caffeine.

00:14:22:09 – 00:14:53:11

Nick McGowan

Yeah. Oh, makes sense. All right, cool. Yeah, I’ve done EPW a couple times, and I know that can be one of those shockers in a sense, that can shock you out of the system that you’re in. But it’s it’s interesting the the shit that you went through when you were a little kid to now being in the spot where you need to kind of fix yourself and get yourself out of that spot, I would imagine that’s got to be pretty difficult being in the industry that you were in, having to work with different guys that are in a I don’t mean this in any derogatory way at all, but they’re grunts.

00:14:53:16 – 00:15:09:15

Nick McGowan

Some of them are just grunts and just almost brutal to the point where they they won’t allow for things to be able to open up and have conversation. And if you’re around that constantly and then same with the food, you just keep putting the shit in your system because it’s just easier to do it. It’s easier if you sort of thing.

00:15:10:01 – 00:15:25:12

Nick McGowan

So what was it that you found after you, P.W. that helped you to be able to kind of stick to that stuff outside of, like, the whole adrenaline? Because we get it. Whenever you go to any conference, you’re fucking excited and you’re like, Yeah, we’re going to do this thing. I’m all right. Then you come back and you’re like, Shit, real world.

00:15:25:21 – 00:15:29:00

Nick McGowan

So how did you go from that and be able to continually grow from it?

00:15:30:02 – 00:15:51:17

Pat Di Domenico

So one of the biggest things that I started with was I was like, You don’t regardless of what happens during the day, the mornings are mine and this is where I take take care of myself. And I credit this morning sort of, you know, I guess ritual or pattern where I’d start with a, for instance, just the 45 minute walk.

00:15:51:23 – 00:16:16:03

Pat Di Domenico

So it’d be like four in the morning and I’d just go out there and there’d be no and that was a perfect time for me to just get out there, get some fresh air and move my body. Because one of my goals every day was I’m going to get at least 10,000 steps in a day. So that helped me sort of on the yeah, halfway pretty much to, to my goal during that 45 minute walk.

00:16:16:15 – 00:16:44:02

Pat Di Domenico

And then from there I would, you know, listen to some sort of educational or positive sort of, you know, recording during the walk. So utilizing my time as efficiently as possible and then, you know, I’ll do a 15 minute sort of stretching and workout exercise where I look after sort of, you know, my body in terms of alignment and so forth.

00:16:44:07 – 00:17:06:06

Pat Di Domenico

You know, I used to be an addict of pretty much going to the okay car or the mistress move back was was always an issue, like it was a weekly occurrence where from that I was able to pretty much, you know, not need those, you know, therapy because I was actually taking care of myself. And then I’d finish up by jumping in the cold shower for 3 minutes.

00:17:06:10 – 00:17:29:09

Pat Di Domenico

So every day I get into a full on. I got as cold as I can and I get in there for two, 3 minutes and I pretty much just shuts body and wakes me out. And I’ve actually I use it on the weekend where I was kind of sort of in my head for a little bit. And I was like, okay, there’s a pool out there, it’s winter.

00:17:29:14 – 00:17:41:07

Pat Di Domenico

I’m not going to get into the shell. I’m going to jump in the pool instead. So I jumped in the pool. It was freezing, but as soon as I got out of it, I was like, okay. So completely got out.

00:17:41:07 – 00:17:41:21

Nick McGowan

Of waking up.

00:17:42:23 – 00:17:46:05

Pat Di Domenico

Yeah, yeah. That’s the last thing you’re wearing.

00:17:46:05 – 00:17:49:00

Nick McGowan

That is an actual shock to the system. Yeah.

00:17:49:06 – 00:18:30:15

Pat Di Domenico

Yeah. And yeah. So creating that morning routine where it was like, okay, it’s not time that I could be spending with my family or my kids or anything. I’m well, sort of prior to everyone waking up, but I’m taking care of of what I, you know, of myself every day. And I think creating that helps me to to be able to manage with whatever else was going to happen during the day, because I’d already taken care of myself and I wasn’t necessarily just putting myself sort of lost and trying to deal with everything else and leaving it to at nighttime.

00:18:30:15 – 00:18:57:00

Pat Di Domenico

And yeah, you pretty much can be fucked like at night and yeah. So I was, I just focused on morning routine and what are the things that I can do today to move the needle just a little bit for withdrawal? I was always about, okay, I get from 0 to 100 now or yesterday, but think that hasn’t worked in the past for me.

00:18:57:02 – 00:19:10:11

Pat Di Domenico

So what’s actually sustainable so and that’s where I’ve slowly built additional habits on that have yeah really sort of helped me to change things around yeah.

00:19:10:11 – 00:19:39:08

Nick McGowan

And that consistency especially in the morning when you, when you think about the time that you have be at if you’re at home by yourself or you have kids around or whatever you have that time to be will do whatever you want in the morning. And I think that’s our fresh time where we’re not saturated with bullshit. I mean, here you are at super early in the morning on this sort of call, but there’s there’s a lot that you can get into on your own to be able to work through kind of the unknown of life before you get in and start figuring out again who you are as a person.

00:19:39:13 – 00:20:03:03

Nick McGowan

Oh, I got kids, I got a wife. Oh, I got a job, I got this, I got that, I got this, I got that. So having those those routines are huge. I actually had a guest on recently who’s talking about how it hit him and he’s heard it different ways, I’m sure. You know, you kind of said it around the same way, but he’s heard that, you know, you you have to you have to give yourself love and energy before you do anything for your family, your friends or whatever.

00:20:03:03 – 00:20:25:16

Nick McGowan

And he’s like, I heard all that bullshit before. He’s like, It wasn’t until I actually sunk in and I got it and was like, Oh my God, I’m giving them like half or less than half. If only I spend a little bit of time in the morning, then I can prep myself to be able to do that. Now, how are you helping dads in that sort of way to be able to be better dads before kind of shit hits the fan?

00:20:25:16 – 00:20:26:06

Nick McGowan

In a sense.

00:20:27:08 – 00:20:59:02

Pat Di Domenico

Yeah. So a friend of mine recently reached out. We hadn’t spoken to each other for ages, so we used to coach kids basketball probably about ten or 15 years ago. And he said, you know, look, it’s like, I think what you’re doing is great. You know, I’m going through a similar situation. And and I, you know, I called him up and said, like, you know, let’s let’s have a chat and let’s let’s let’s see what, you know, what’s been happening and being able to listen to what someone else is.

00:20:59:02 – 00:21:27:18

Pat Di Domenico

Yeah. And connecting and listening to what someone else’s guy has to say. And that’s, that’s pretty much one of the big things is allowing people to be heard and then giving sort of, you know, like asking questions. I found it extremely powerful that, you know, even I use it to myself, ask myself questions like, okay, what part of this have I contributed to this situation and how many the other person be feeling in this situation?

00:21:27:18 – 00:22:02:12

Pat Di Domenico

And it’s amazing when we start to ask ourselves questions or whether in terms of asking questions to other people and they pretty much we all have the answers within us. It’s not that we need the answers, it’s the answers there, but it’s just being able to open up our selves with someone else. So that realization that, okay, these are the EPA, these are you pretty much got the answers already, just guiding them to that because we get so stuck in our heads that we clearly have the inability to think clearly.

00:22:02:12 – 00:22:03:10

Pat Di Domenico

I guess you could say.

00:22:04:16 – 00:22:25:07

Nick McGowan

Yeah, it’s almost like we are. I think we’re all pretty innately good at being able to talk yourself in and out of things, and therefore you talk yourself in circles and you’re just spinning and spinning and spinning, but being able to talk to somebody else, I find that at different times, having calls or just conversations with friends, they’ll talk through things and they’ll say, this is a problem.

00:22:25:07 – 00:22:44:20

Nick McGowan

And then as they talk through and you ask a couple of questions that are, you know, solid questions, not like, hey, what’s your favorite barbecue sauce? But like an actual relevant question. I can get to the point. They’re like, Oh shit, I think I figured it out because you’re right, we do have those answers that are in us, but it actually takes us talking and being able to get people to talk.

00:22:45:03 – 00:22:54:23

Nick McGowan

Now do you find that a lot of dads, especially the ones you talk to and work with, have a hard time actually being able to open up?

00:22:54:23 – 00:23:31:08

Pat Di Domenico

I think once you show vulnerability and that it’s okay to to feel the way that you feel and the emotions and natural and even, for instance, like crying might be one of the things that’s like, you know, I can’t cry because I’m a man and I know it’s bullshit. Like it’s a it actually. Like for me it’s helped me process obviously through the moment and, and I say more as like, okay, I’m not going to ignore what’s going on right now in a deal with the situation and the emotions and everything, because I’m not going to allow it to have control over me.

00:23:31:08 – 00:23:57:03

Pat Di Domenico

And once unable to face it, I feel like I in terms I had actually yeah, I’m proud of myself to be able to deal with the situation and and I see that with, with other dads as well. As soon as you show that you know the vulnerability and they feel connected because, you know, you’ve gone through the same experience, then they feel like they have permission to be able to to be vulnerable and open.

00:23:57:03 – 00:24:25:02

Pat Di Domenico

And and it is honestly beautiful to see when they’re able to transition from that hatred, anger to like the insights and and understanding and and being able to deal with their emotions and have that self-awareness of of their being able to catch themselves of of what’s going on when things happen and and understanding that, like, we’re all here and we’re not going to get everything right.

00:24:25:02 – 00:24:40:15

Pat Di Domenico

And and once I see that, you know, dads are able to to understand that, it’s like, oh, okay, I’m okay. This is this is it like this? Or We’ll get through this and things will be.

00:24:40:15 – 00:25:03:20

Nick McGowan

I have a suspicion that a lot of this bullshit of being a man and what we think is supposed to be manly is from trauma, from previous generations that has just been continually fucking passed down where they’re like, Well, my dad was a douche bag and I don’t know why, but I’m going to be a dick to you as well, kid, and just keep passing that stuff down.

00:25:03:20 – 00:25:26:01

Nick McGowan

Now, I think there are people throughout the course of time that weren’t like that, but I think as things change, I’m seeing something even happening now. Some of it might be because we have the amount of technology and amount of information that’s at our fingertips. But it seems to me like that’s starting to change where people like yourself were like, Oh, that was bullshit back then and it’s bullshit now and needs to stop.

00:25:26:14 – 00:25:39:03

Nick McGowan

But do you think that we can actually make that changes as men to be able than allow ourselves to be emotional and not not in a sense be like, all right, well, I’ve got to fuck and put dirt on it, get back in the game here.

00:25:40:03 – 00:26:28:09

Pat Di Domenico

Yeah. And I definitely believe that going through those experiences know, build strength in us. And I think the more people that show that, you know, by being able to deal with things is being strong and and having vulnerability to show your emotions. And that isn’t it’s not a weakness. And the more that men decide to sort of be able to take that stance, that that is in their weakness, I think that helps other other men or whether it’s their children to be able to to say that it’s okay to feel the way that you do and to be able to have those emotions that I even catch myself, even with my, you know, three young

00:26:28:09 – 00:26:51:17

Pat Di Domenico

boys at times it’s like, okay, now stop. Because I kind of see myself sometimes and it’s like I say, Yeah, me acting is like maybe one of my parents and it’s like, okay, now stop, take a breath. And then I’ll generally will get down to, you know, my son’s level. I remember which all of a sudden it is.

00:26:51:17 – 00:27:12:20

Pat Di Domenico

And, and I’ll just talk him through it instead of being like not just stop it, that’s it. Like go over there. And it is because of yeah, just because I said it now like if I don’t help them in terms of being able to communicate with them, it’s like, you know, how are they going to be able to communicate and deal with problems later in life?

00:27:13:06 – 00:27:31:01

Nick McGowan

Yeah, they’re not just straight up, won’t be able to and especially for you to be able to take that on and know like, all right, they shouldn’t do that. Those kids are seeing that in. There are times where I find myself being aware. Typically when I’m out driving, like somebody will cut me off or something. I’m like, What the fuck?

00:27:31:04 – 00:27:48:06

Nick McGowan

And instantly I’ll hear my dad come up. I’m like, Man, that was one of those things you taught me to freak out as a kid, and you have to like kind of pull yourself back from it. But having kids in the car when you’re like, What a sorry child. All right, let’s do this a little different. That’s some deep level of awareness, man, to be able to do that.

00:27:48:06 – 00:28:01:13

Nick McGowan

And it sounds like your morning routines are probably helping with that because that gets you in the right sort of spot. So outside of the morning routine, what sort of advice would you give to the audience that’s listening for their path towards self-mastery.

00:28:02:13 – 00:28:25:17

Pat Di Domenico

That anything is possible? And literally, one of the things that I’ve had through the Tony Robbins world is that, you know, our past doesn’t determine our future and we all have the ability to make make change. And it’s a matter of, you know, making that decision and action and commitment to what you actually want and focusing on that instead of not what you don’t want.

00:28:25:22 – 00:28:46:11

Pat Di Domenico

And being able to set a strategy and, you know, a routine in place and then you just slowly build up on on on each habit. And eventually you’ll, you’ll be in a completely different space, you know, it might take 12 months, but that transformation that you can make in 12 months is is incredible.

00:28:47:03 – 00:28:57:12

Nick McGowan

Yeah. And if you’re going to live another 12 months anyway, why not just keep going? So, man Pat, I appreciate you being on. Where can people find you? Where can they connect with you?

00:28:57:16 – 00:29:10:07

Pat Di Domenico

Yeah. And raising that icon and that website where we upload our weekly podcast episode as well as your Facebook Instagram at Resilience.

00:29:10:07 – 00:29:14:11

Nick McGowan

Perfect. And is that the plug for the podcast as well? Is there anything else you want out about the podcast?

00:29:15:14 – 00:29:36:07

Pat Di Domenico

Not that that’s it was just yeah, it’s pretty much just trying to share my own experience which which I hope that is able to help some out because it’s, you know, for me being able to if had I, I’ve been able to sort of listen to someone else’s experience and know that they were able to get through it and would have made my journey a lot easier.

00:29:36:07 – 00:29:44:22

Pat Di Domenico

So that’s pretty much the whole purpose of the podcast is to be able to hopefully give someone else the the insight that, you know, they can get through this.

00:29:45:11 – 00:29:56:16

Nick McGowan

That’s good stuff, man. Keep up the great work. Everybody go check out the podcast. Dad or not, I don’t have any kids. I’m going to say you should. Pat, again, it’s been a pleasure to have you on, man. I appreciate it. Thank you so much.

00:29:56:20 – 00:30:00:00

Pat Di Domenico

Thank you very much, Nick. Fireman, sunshine.

00:30:00:00 – 00:30:22:15

Nick McGowan

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00:30:23:04 – 00:30:43:20

Nick McGowan

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00:30:44:11 – 00:31:02:18

Nick McGowan

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