Episode Summary:
In this episode, Justin and Janell dive into the most common and significant mistake people make regarding mindset and personal development—expecting that doing mindset work means never experiencing negative thoughts or emotions again. They share insights on how true transformation involves awareness, managing discomfort, and understanding that growth is not linear.
Key Takeaways:
The biggest mindset mistake is believing the goal is to never have negative thoughts or emotions again.
True mindset work involves awareness, acceptance, and learning to manage negative states, not eliminating them completely.
Growth and transformation often come through discomfort, and avoiding discomfort prevents progress.
Life experiences will consistently challenge your mindset, and the goal is improvement, not perfection.
Insights from Justin & Janell:
Janell emphasizes the importance of simply being with your uncomfortable emotions without needing to immediately fix or change them.
Justin draws parallels between physical fitness training (adaptation through discomfort) and mental/emotional fitness.
Both highlight how recognizing negative thoughts or emotional patterns earlier and managing them more effectively over time is the real sign of successful mindset work.
Actionable Advice:
Practice awareness: notice negative thoughts and emotions without immediately trying to avoid or suppress them.
Use breathing techniques to manage moments of overwhelm or anxiety, helping your nervous system remain calm.
Regularly expose yourself to small, manageable discomforts (like cold showers) to build resilience and adaptability.
Embrace setbacks and negative emotions as opportunities to reinforce your mindset skills rather than proof of failure.
Quotes:
“The biggest mistake that people make around mindset is thinking that you will never have any more negative thoughts.” – Janell Yule
“Growth occurs because of discomfort. You have to be willing to be uncomfortable.” – Justin Yule
“Life will give you as many opportunities as needed for you to embody what you’re learning.” – Janell Yule
Call to Action:
When faced with discomfort, challenge, or negative thinking, pause and practice being present rather than immediately seeking escape. This approach strengthens your ability to thrive despite adversity.
