Typical, mainstream approaches
to being supportive don't work, and are often counterproductive. So
what can you do?
In this podcast I talk about what
is mistakenly identified as being supportive, why it's not so, what
are the principles behind proper support, and what are some
practical approaches one can take.
Principles discussed:
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"font-weight: 400;">Should be reciprocal - adult relationships are
trade-based. -
"font-weight: 400;">Should be given and asked for only in close
relationship. - Valid
support and advice can only be given with a strong understanding of
the other person's aims and history. - One
can only offer advice on things that they've already achieved, or
at least seriously worked towards. -
"font-weight: 400;">Unsolicited advice is to be avoided at all
cost. - The
ultimate choice is theirs - you shouldn't be on a quest to change
or save someone.
Practical tips:
-
"font-weight: 400;">Choose very carefully whom to
support. - Be
curious. "Tell me more!" is often the best default
position. -
"font-weight: 400;">Respect boundaries.
-
"font-weight: 400;">Consciously aim to have empathy - it is only
semi-automatic. - Ask
advice only if solicited - Help
self-leadership by not giving answers, but by asking questions -
non-leading questions. - Be
honest of your level of understanding - reflect your authority
accurately.
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