Ask anyone who is married and they will tell you it's hard work.  If they say it's not, they're lying.  I talk with marriage therapist Mike Vaughn about some strategies we can use to improve our relationships.  He talks about the importance of maintaining a friendship and how to get through an argument in a way that's honoring to your partner.  Mike also tells us about the positivity/negativity ratio and the number positive interactions you need to have with your spouse to combat one negative encounter.  Here's a hint:  it's not one to one.  And Mike tells us the one thing you should never do when you're having a disagreement with your spouse.