Discover the Personal Values Coaching Card deck with Expert, Clare Walker
Dive into a great discussion between Clare Walker, expert in Personal Values and Darren A. Smith, MBM CEO. Here, the pair talk about why Clare is perfect author of this deck, due to her expertise, training and extensive career experience, how the deck works and what you can do to improve your coaching whilst utilising Coaching Cards.
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Read the full Personal Values podcast transcript below:
Clare Walker, Vodafone 0:04
Yeah.
Darren A. Smith 0:06
OK, so the whole thing is probably, I don't know, 3-4 minutes, 5 minutes. You know, it's not a long video. It's as much as you want to say. Really the idea is we're helping people to understand and use them.
Clare Walker, Vodafone 0:20
Well, no, I'm not. I'm gonna go the personal values.
They just look at the opposite way around for the simple reason I built those as very bespoke, not bespoke. But yeah, I built them quite bespoke.
Darren A. Smith 0:34
OK.
Clare Walker, Vodafone 0:36
Yeah. OK. Let me go personal wrong.
Darren A. Smith 0:40
So the first question coming up after I ask you who you are and what you do is what are these personal values cards all right.
So we're just doing the what the what the why in the how.
OK. So let me make sure you're OK with that.
Clare Walker, Vodafone 0:58
Let me completely blame and just push my credit First off.
I'm gonna be on video.
Darren A. Smith 1:05
And then afterwards I got a different question for you. Nothing to do with the video, just something I've had your opinion on.
OK. All right. I'm ready when you are.
Clare Walker, Vodafone 1:13
OK.
I'm ready now.
Darren A. Smith 1:20
Talks, it looks real. It's good. Love the dunks.
Hi, my name is Darren Smith. I'm from the world's stickiest learning. I'm here with Claire Walker from Vodafone. Claire, how you doing?
Clare Walker, Vodafone 1:33
I'm very well. Thank you, Darren.
Darren A. Smith 1:35
And Claire, what do you do at Vodafone?
Clare Walker, Vodafone 1:38
I am the coaching and mentoring lead, so it means that I look after all things for external coaching, internal coaching, coaching resources and also training people how to have a coaching mindset as opposed to be coaches.
Darren A. Smith 1:53
OK. And how long have you been doing coaching? Not necessarily just a Vodafone, but how long have you been doing coaching things for?
Clare Walker, Vodafone 2:02
I started my professional or my my more structured career back in 2016, but actually through conversations and interviews like this, I realised I've pretty much been coaching all of my life.
Darren A. Smith 2:14
Love that, love it. Love it. OK, OK, now we're here talking about these coaching card things. We have a number of coaching cards and you kindly collaborated with us on a particular deck. So I'm going to ask you a few questions to share with the folks that are watching. What are these things? Why did you create it and how to use them? So let's start with the first question.
What did you create? What are they?
Clare Walker, Vodafone 2:41
I created a deck that our personal values cards and I have them all here.
Darren A. Smith 2:47
Oh yeah.
Clare Walker, Vodafone 2:48
And there are 80 of them that help people to understand what their drivers, they're motivators, their way of being is.
So by going through these you can really start to investigate what it is that's inside you that can.
When you look at them and investigate them can cause less friction for you and greater understanding of not just who you are, but who the people around you are as well.
Darren A. Smith 3:16
OK, so these are coaching cards. They look like they're the size of a playing card. OK, there's eighty of them and they come in a little box and their personal values. All right, got it. Got it. Could you show us a couple just so we can see what's written on these things?
Clare Walker, Vodafone 3:32
Yes, absolutely. So each one of the cards has got a different word on it. So you can see this collaboration, there is tolerance, pleasure, passion. And as we go through the deck, they're then going to belonging dependability.
Duty. Creativity. So there's 80 different words on here that when you look at them, they're not the top five or four or five words that you would normally choose as being your values. People normally say things like honesty and integrity and fairness and authenticity.
This is a a bigger pattern, goes deeper and when people go through this, they choose cards that they've never really considered as being their values, but suddenly understand that actually it's really important to them to have fun or to be empathic or to belong.
Darren A. Smith 4:19
OK, fabulous. And why did you create them or what problem do they solve?
Clare Walker, Vodafone 4:27
Yeah, they I created them because I've been using them for some time. I mean, we always through coaching, we will ask people questions such as you know which of your values do you feel has been restricted here or which of your values could come into play here that could help you collaborate with this person or through your coaching reach your goal. And so when we started looking deeper into how you know, how we could look at these and how how we could get a range of cards.
We started to really understand that when.
Give people these and they start pulling them out in front of them. There are certain cards that can resonate with them and they will pick one up. I had one person picked it up and burst into tears because suddenly this time they realised it meant something to them. They'd never considered it or they haven't considered it in that way.
And so it's interesting. We ask people, you know, to choose their set of 10 from this deck and out of that set of 10, you know, that's their top 10 for the day. But we asked them to to lay 10 out of this pack of 18.
Darren A. Smith 5:22
Oh, OK.
Clare Walker, Vodafone 5:30
The ones that resonate most with them, not the ones they think they should have. Everyone thinks I should have family and I should have love and I should have. They actually go with the ones that I didn't have family in mind. It doesn't mean that I don't value them, it's just their omnipresent. I didn't have to have them in my top ten, but people then lay out their top ten and start to recognise that actually the things they thought they valued might not be at the top of their list. People who say money, yeah, value money.
Darren A. Smith 5:43
Yep.
Yep, OK.
Clare Walker, Vodafone 5:56
But actually realise they have none left at the end of the month.
What they recognise is that further up the list are things like social interactions and.
Aesthetics, so they may instead of valuing money at the top of their list, what they may value is going out and socialising with their friends, which is why they have no money. But it's more important to them at the end of the day, to have those connections with their friends than it is to have money in the bank. So you start to really see where you put your values and how you can.
Darren A. Smith 6:17
Gotcha. Gotcha.
Clare Walker, Vodafone 6:29
Ensure that you give focus and energy to the ones that are going to help you reach your goals.
As well.
Darren A. Smith 6:35
OK. And you start to touch on there the how they work, so you've got these 80 questions, you've got a bunch of folks in a room and you've asked them to pick 10 each and then just give us an idea because you've done done this a number of times, what happens? You mentioned the lady bursting into tears, but what else happens with those values cards?
Clare Walker, Vodafone 6:54
Yeah, yeah, that was in a 1:00 to 1:00. So it wasn't too out there in the team. So fortunately we we sat and talked, talked through what it meant to and might have that reaction. OK. So when we do this with teams, we get people to choose their top ten and we get them to lay them out on the table. And then what? We ask people to do is look at that 10 and choose the one that feels most important to them, the one that really resonates with them, the one that's probably non negotiable.
Darren A. Smith 6:58
Ah, OK.
Clare Walker, Vodafone 7:20
That they don't want to live ever without. It's it's the one. And actually the one that they choose is normally the one that underpins everything else.
Darren A. Smith 7:21
OK.
Clare Walker, Vodafone 7:28
So if it's something like honesty or trust or respect, you'll find all family or inner peace. You'll find that everything else that they then talk about sits underneath that and relates to it. And So what we get people to do is choose their number one and then what we do is we ask everybody in the team.
To say what their card is, what that means to them, so really to give the definition of what that is for them. But then why that is so important to them?
Darren A. Smith 7:58
Of course. Yep, Yep.
Clare Walker, Vodafone 7:58
Some people will say family, my wife, my kids. They're really important to me. And you know, because they are my life and I do everything with them. Other people will look at the same card and say family. That's the people that are around me all day everyday. And it's not just the people who are blood related. Family to me are those people who are in my work team. They in my church that are in my my social group. That's what. So it sometimes goes bigger. And we had one guy who talked about wealth. He picked up wealth as he's number one and some of the guys on the team kind of went. Yeah. Yeah, of course. Wealth.
And money bags and he said no, no, I don't mean that.
