Why Do Breakups Hurt So Much? | Brain Science, Trauma & Healing After Heartbreak
In this episode of Pulling Threads, therapist and coach Leslie unpacks why breakups feel so devastating—especially when you’re carrying unresolved trauma. From the brain science behind emotional pain to the impact of attachment styles, Leslie explores what really happens in our nervous system when a relationship ends—and why it can feel like your whole world is unraveling.
You’ll learn:
• The neuroscience of heartbreak and why it mimics physical pain
• How childhood trauma and attachment wounds shape your breakup response
• The stages of breakup grief (hint: they’re not linear!)
• Common emotional “minefields” to watch for post-breakup
• Real-life coping tools, grounding exercises, and emotional regulation strategies
• How to turn heartbreak into a powerful opportunity for healing, clarity, and self-discovery
Whether you’re reeling from a recent breakup or want to better understand the emotional aftermath of relationship endings, this episode is packed with insights, strategies, and encouragement to help you feel less alone—and more empowered.
🫖 Grab your tea, get comfy, and let’s untangle this together.
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro: Why Breakups Hurt So Much
01:09 – Leslie’s Personal Breakup Story
04:43 – Brain Science of Heartbreak
07:25 – Attachment Styles & Breakup Impact
10:27 – Stages of Breakup Grief
17:02 – Navigating Post-Breakup Minefields
22:36 – Grounding Tools for Emotional Recovery
24:55 – Final Thoughts & Words of Support
