How To Shut Down Unsolicited Advice
A behavioral researcher and psychology expert recommends these simple, effective phrases to effectively shut down unsolicited advice.
- “Thanks for sharing. I’ll consider it.” - It’s polite and keeps the peace.
- “That’s a useful view. I prefer to handle it this way.” - You’re listening to their perspective, but protects how to deal with it.
- “I appreciate your input. I already have a plan for how I’ll move forward.” - This gives a clear message you’ve got things under control and reduces a repeat.
- “That means a lot. Right now I’d really value support more than solutions.” - This is helpful because it guides them toward what you actually need.
- “I hear you. If I need more guidance, I’ll reach out.” - It validates their effort, but sets a clear boundary and discourages them from giving more unsolicited advice.
Basically, STFU.
Jobs That Make The Worst Spouses
How about DJ's?
More than 2-thousand responses have come in so far on Reddit.
- "Chefs, restaurant/bar manager/owners. They work every day, often 12–15 hours, every holiday and weekend. The term 'restaurant widow' is a real thing."
- "Surgeons. The personality type a surgeon is often a relentless and sociopathic person with a singular interest on one thing (being a good surgeon)."
- “Police officer: Very high rates of divorce, alcoholism and it can be a dangerous job.”
- "Lawyers. Often married to the job, whether it is for the money or a cause."
- "Flight attendants/Pilots. They work away from home for days or weeks, jetlag messes with the body, and they deal with unruly passengers with a smile. Also, cheating is through the roof."
- "Investment bankers often make terrible spouses. The job is incredibly demanding — long hours, high stress, and a spillover effect into everyday life."
- “Architects. High strung, type a, perfectionist, often narcissistic.”
- “Musicians, flakey, sh*t hours, always broke.”
Should Marcus Wear A Special Shirt To His Daughter's Game?
Marcus ordered a jersey that looks like his 11-year old daughter's volleyball jersey. It even has their last name on it. He is on the fence about whether to ask her permission to wear it to her next game or should he surprise her? Is it better to ask forgiveness than ask permission? We put it to the talkback.
Second Date Update
Dylan thought his rooftop wine bar date with Marissa was classy. He said they sipped, laughed, and leaned in close...he even thought they might kiss before saying goodnight. Dylan couldn’t believe she ghosted. He thought it was pretty unforgettable.
