In today’s episode of Healing From Within , your host Sheryl Glick author of The Living Spirit: Answers for Healing and Infinite Love takes a look at the human condition, how it often limits a clear view of our spiritual nature and our unlimited human potential and may inadequately fail to emphasize how through self-investigation and self-mastery of our emotions we can begin to transform and transcend ordinary challenging life experiences to reach a level of Higher Consciousness leading to greater health happiness and an improved human condition.
Joining Sheryl is special guest, Dr. Wendy Treynor (http://www.icanheal.com/), author of The Identity Shift Effect and her newest book The Gift of Cancer. Dr. Treynor is a social psychologist interested in the area of happiness and helping others understand that sometimes it makes people happy to make others unhappy and unkindness is an all too common factor in our daily experiences. Dr. Treynor’s insights into the “art of happiness” represents a convergence of science and spirit.
We will see how personal harmony can be disrupted by external conflict leading to a disruption of internal harmony sometimes leading to an “Identity Shift” or loss of self. Dr Treynor offers ways to maintain your balance and sense of compassion no matter what circumstances you face and shares how to thrive in the midst of darkness, ignorance or inhumanity.
The following are the tenants of The Identity Shift:
Step 1: Your Personal Harmony is Disrupted by External Conflict….Example When we enter a social group, we feel pressure to conform to the group if their standards are different than our own because if we don’t we experience the threat of social rejection…..we conform often to avoid humiliation or a group mentality of ganging up on the one who is different.
Step 2: Your Personal Harmony is Disrupted by Internal Conflict Example We conform to the group to eliminate this external conflict but as soon as we eliminate it a new conflict arise…which we may call “Internal conflict” or guilt: so we exchange humiliation for guilt…
Step 3: Giving in to the Darkness Completes “The Identity Shift” Finally to rid ourselves of the internal conflict or self-rejection we feel, we adopt the standards or values of the group as our own: we undergo an identity shift. NOW WE HAVE LOST OURSELVES AT A SOUL LEVEL
According to the Workplace Bullying institute 35 percent of US workers claim they have been bullied on the job.
Dr. Treynor offers her view of the telltale signs that you are in a toxic environment and may be susceptible to a shift..
Something’s Not Right
* You are the target –or fear being the target—threats of intimidation, humiliation or ostracism at work
* You dread going into work
* You feel in your core that what’s going on at the office is not right.
* You feel immobilized or afraid to speak up.
* You feel disrespected by your colleagues.
The telltale signs that you are about to undergo The Identity Shift:
They Made Me Do It:
* You get uncomfortable when people ask you to talk about your work or are afraid to tell others what is going on at work
* You don’t see yourself as responsible for the wrongdoing.
* Merely the thought of being responsible for the wrongdoing makes you ill.
* You don’t want to confront the responsible parties about what happened at work.
* You just want to forget about what happened and move on.
* You feel inner conflict about the situation.
* You feel guilty or wonder if you should feel guilty about what happened.
* You would love to resolve this inner conflict
The telltale signs that you have already undergone The Identity Shift Effect
Welcome to the Real World
* You tell yourself you have or had no choice.
* You tell yourself that anyone would do what you did, if they found themselves in your situation
* You tell yourself: It’s just how the world is or It’s just how it is.
* At work,
