Host: Sheryl Glick R.M.T.
Special Guest: Thomas Gagliano (http://www.thomasgagliano.com/)
In today’s episode of Healing From Within, your host Sheryl Glick author of The Living Spirit: Answers for Healing and Infinite Love shares a look at Universal Energy Healing, Spiritual communication offering insights into how to awaken to your true human and divine potential. Sheryl welcomes Thomas Gagliano author of Don’t Put Your Crap In Your Kid’s Diaper as of course is nearly impossible because most people are not aware of their own limitations and fears which developed in childhood and became habits and patterns making us perpetuate the stories beliefs and illusions parents teachers and society taught them…it is a cycle of fear that can only be overcome by improving ourselves and hopefully, becoming better examples for our children.
Tom, who is a parenting and relationship expert and a leader in the field of addiction and self-help therapy, discusses bullying, anger issues and how to develop greater self respect and intimacy by allowing yourself to forgive and build on your strengths and at the same time to find ways to give more attention to your weaknesses.
Tom shares that bullying is an action of meanness taken against someone who the bully thinks he or she can take advantage of. The action can be accomplished physically verbally or in a neglectful manner. If bullies succeed in their actions without consequences, chances are they’ll repeat the same behavior again and again. Often if our parents and caretakers messages are negative in any way or inconsistent, we can develop an inner critic, become riddled with self-doubt and sabotage our lives. Bullies have powerful inner critics-inner bullies. This inner bully destroys the child’s self-worth and then he or she tries to disrespect the worth of others. Three of the main contributors to both the victim and bully mentalities in children are the home environment, the media’s direct or indirect messages, and finally how society functions. Bullying is often anger or lost of temper directed inappropriately at someone else. There is always unresolved feeling inside the acts of a bully. Many of us feel remorse when we act badly, but a bully has an internal deficiency of remorse and lacks empathy for themselves and others.
Tom mentions intimacy and what many might think a man or woman really wants in a relationship. Tom says, “Gifts are great, chocolates and jewelry.... but the real thing every human male and female is to be loved and known intimately. Unfortunately many people are afraid of intimacy as they fear rejection humiliation and ridicule and the loss of their inner self if it doesn’t work out so they subconsciously push their partner away. Tom suggests If you help your partner in those areas of their life where they don’t expect help they will be touched and moved by it. THE KEY IS TO DO IT WITHOUT EXPECTING ANYTHING IN RETURN. He offers tips to begin moving towards intimacy.
7 TIPS TO ENHANCE THE INTIMACY IN YOUR LIFE:
1 Create an Environment for Safe Communications In a healthy relationship both parties need to discuss the ways they can communicate with each other in a safe way. If not they will become victims to each other and communication will shut down. The rules could be that neither party will rage at the other or withdraw emotionally. This is the foundation by which the relationship is built.
2 Relationships are not always 50/50 In a healthy relationship there are times when one partner needs to contribute more to the relationship than the other. What may come easy to one may not come easy to the other and that is OK
3 Become Aware of the Version of Intimacy Each Partner Received in Childhood. Were your parents warm and close with each other or was intimacy something to avoid?
4 Be Aware of the Time Traveling Process...... This is where we confuse the voices from our childhood with those in our lives today. For instance,
