Many are probably aware of the triad inner child-inner parent-inner adult. Each of the three has its own role: the adult is to make decisions, the child is to play and enjoy life, and the parent is to instruct and care. But it just so happened that for many, the inner parent is busy with criticizing, scolding, and devaluing, that is, not at all what it should.
And as a consequence - a lack of strength, apathy, difficulties with choices and desires, problems with upholding boundaries ... Well, really how much can you gnaw yourself from the inside with your own inner parent?
What can you do? A lot of things) For example, find your baby photos and look at them with a fresh look, as if they are not you, but just a little boy or little girl. She smiles shyly or, on the contrary, mischievously. Or maybe he is very serious or is holding back tears because he was scared of the unfamiliar uncle of the photographer. Have you looked? Now start to find fault with this kid as you find fault with yourself, criticize, devalue, scold.
You do not want to? Well, of course, how can you scold this baby!
But when you criticize, shame, and pull yourself back, you turn to this child, who has hidden inside you and is waiting for your support and care.
Think about what words this kid would like to hear? And say these words to yourself. And every time you start scolding and shaming yourself, remember your childhood photo and realize whether you want to tell your inner child and whether he needs it.
Be gentle and caring for yourself.
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