It’s easy to observe the lives of others, especially those we love, and think, “If they’d just do it this way…” Whether it’s watching your adult kids raise their kids, seeing a friend repeat the same frustrating pattern, or witnessing coworkers having a disagreement, the instinct to swoop in and “fix it” can feel strong.
But the truth is, your perspective is just that - yours. It’s filtered through your experiences, beliefs, and even your fears. What you see as a mess, they might see as manageable. What feels chaotic to you might feel like growth to them.
Instead of trying to control or correct what you perceive as a problem, try this simply asking, “How can I be of help?” This question opens the door for connection and collaboration, rather than control. It invites trust. It honors their autonomy while still offering your presence and wisdom, if it’s welcomed.
Your role is not to lead someone else's life but to lovingly walk alongside them if they invite you in. Let go of the need to fix and embrace the power of simply being there. Sometimes, that’s the most healing thing of all.
May this conversation be beneficial to your life journey. Many blessings!
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