SHOW NOTES: On this show…we’re talking about the idea of choosing your hard. Have you ever felt like life just keeps piling on the challenges, like no matter what direction you take, it’s tough? Marriage is hard, but so is divorce. Being in debt is hard, but so is being financially disciplined. Communication is hard, but so is staying silent. The truth is, there’s no easy route. But what if instead of feeling like life is happening to us, we recognized that we get to choose which hard we live with? It’s tempting to believe that we’ve been dealt a bad hand or that everyone else has it easier. When things get hard, we can get stuck; stuck in self-pity, stuck in resentment, stuck in the belief that we don’t have options. But here’s the reality: every hard comes with its own kind of growth. Being fit is hard, but so is carrying the weight of poor health. Working through conflict is hard, but so is living with unresolved tension. When we stop waiting for life to be easy and start owning the hard we choose, we take back our power. I once had someone in a support group tell me, “You can’t just choose to be happy. It doesn’t work that way.” And I get what she meant, it isn’t instant. But I believe happiness is a choice, because when you decide to lean toward joy, you’re also deciding to turn away from sadness. It doesn’t mean your circumstances change overnight, but your posture does. And over time, those choices add up. That’s what we’ll explore today: how to shift your perspective, own your decisions, and recognize that while life will never be without struggle, you do have the power to choose which struggle you embrace. When we say, “life is hard,” what do we really mean? Hard can look like stress, sacrifice, discipline, heartbreak, or persistence. Hard is waking up early to work out when you’d rather sleep in. Hard is having the difficult conversation instead of ignoring the problem. Hard is sitting with grief, or pushing through self-doubt, or choosing to budget when spending feels easier. Hard doesn’t mean impossible; it means uncomfortable, unfamiliar, or requiring effort. The truth is, we don’t get to opt out of difficulty. Every path comes with its own version of hard. If you avoid exercise, you might face the hard of poor health. If you avoid saving, you might face the hard of financial instability. If you avoid conflict, you might face the hard of broken relationships. The meme that inspired this episode puts it plainly: marriage is hard, divorce is hard. Choose your hard. In other words, difficulty is part of the human experience; you just get to decide which type of difficulty leads you closer to the life you want. What makes this powerful is recognizing that choice is always involved. Even when it doesn’t feel like it, you are making a choice, whether it’s by acting or by avoiding. Choosing your hard isn’t about pretending the struggle doesn’t exist. It’s about asking yourself: which hard moves me toward growth, peace, or joy, and which hard keeps me stuck? Once you see that you have agency, the focus shifts from “why is this happening to me?” to “which challenge am I willing to embrace for the sake of something better?” Choose your HARD - (a short film for motivation) CHALLENGE: Take a clear look at the “hard” you’re living with right now and ask yourself—did I choose this, or did I drift into it? Make one intentional choice this week to embrace the hard that moves you toward growth, even if it’s uncomfortable in the moment. I Know YOU Can Do It!
