In this episode of Becoming with Angelina Watkins, Angelina interviews Elitia Mattox.
Relationships require work. You have to chose to put in the effort to make it work. And it is easy to get into a routine and lose the fun and happiness over time. Hurt, regret, and resentment form and you shutdown. That is when it is time to get help and get the tools you need to navigate conflict and learn a healthy way of communicating.
Elita and her husband formed When Love Works teaching singles and couples how to make love work. Many times we bring dysfunction into the relationship, not even realizing our ways are dysfunctional because the unhealthy behaviors have been normalized. You have to reach a point where you get sick and tired of being in unhealthy relationships and make a decision to change.
Love is a choice. Everyone deserves love, but it is a choice. You have to make a choice to love and put in the work to build the healthy marriage. And it starts before you get married. To the singles looking to get married, know that the same time and effort you put into your career, you have to put in that same time and effort into your relationship. Relationships are not instantaneously perfected. You will go to school for six years, but only willing to put in 3 months into the relationship. You can’t expect to build a long-lasting relationship in just a few months.
Love takes time.
About Elitia Mattox
Elitia Mattox is the cofounder and owner of WhenLoveWorks Dynamically. WhenLoveWorks Dynamically (WLWD) is a relationship coaching and development company giving established professionals the tools they need to create and maintain the healthy relationships they deserve, in just 4 weeks, minus the struggle and without wasting a ton of time and money.
Elitia is a New Orleans native and NYC-based coach specializing in building healthy and successful relationships. Elitia and The WhenLoveWorks Dynamically Team work with both national and international clients to improve their relationship skills. Elitia is a certified coach, education leader with a psychology background and over 30 years in development of others. Fueled by her own challenges and following the call on her life, Elitia created this organization to be of service to others who were struggling to attract and maintain healthy love relationships, especially within the black community.
Episode Outline
[00:00] A sneak peak into the episode
[00:55] Music intro
[01:08] Introduction of Guest Elitia Mattox
[01:56] When Love Works program
[02:55] Mediocre marriages
[05:44] When Love Works podcast
[06:28] Creating what we wish we had
[09:38] Lessons learned from previous marriage
[12:56] Love is a choice
[15:42] Putting in the work
[21:39] Love takes time
[26:11] Undo the bad behaviors
[30:37] Turning pain into purpose
[36:28] Golden Nugget
Where you are is not where you have to be. Your past does not define you, YOU define you.
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PODCAST MUSIC
Intro/Outro Music Title: So Magnificent
Artist: IG @ https://www.instagram.com/cgreenblues/
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PODCAST GUEST
Guest: Elitia Mattox
Website: https://wlwdynamically.com
IG: https://www.instagram.com/whenloveworksdynamically/
