In Episode 127 of the Mindset Architect Podcast, Master Coach Tony Caliendo challenges one of the most overlooked questions in personal and professional growth: Is the success you’re chasing actually yours?
Tony breaks down how most people unknowingly inherit definitions of success from parents, industries, social media, and peer groups—and the hidden cost of living out someone else’s story.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- Why most people never consciously define success
- How borrowed definitions create burnout, resentment, and restlessness
- Why achieving success often doesn’t feel the way you expected
- How comparison quietly rewrites your goals
- Why success must be season-specific to stay aligned
- How clarity begins with subtraction, not addition
- What “enough” actually looks like when success is yours
- Why aligned success creates energy instead of tension
If you’ve achieved goals but still feel disconnected, unfulfilled, or pressured to keep moving the goalpost, this episode will help you redefine success in a way that feels honest, sustainable, and meaningful.
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00:00 – Episode 127 kickoff & the success question
01:00 – Whose definition of success are you living?
02:30 – How success definitions are inherited
04:00 – The hidden cost of borrowed success
05:30 – Burnout, resentment, and restlessness as signals
07:00 – Why achieving success doesn’t feel how you expected
08:30 – Destination addiction and moving goalposts
10:00 – Comparison as the engine of borrowed success
11:30 – Social media and distorted success cues
13:00 – Wanting the feeling, not the outcome
14:30 – Why success must be season-specific
16:00 – Core values vs changing seasons
17:30 – Clarity begins with subtraction
18:45 – Questions to uncover your true success story
20:00 – Alignment vs tension in success
21:30 – Less over more: success you can sustain
22:45 – Peace with progress instead of pressure
24:00 – Defining success that actually feels right
25:00 – Final reflections & group coaching invitation
