In our last episode, we met Gary, a CFO navigating organizational change and uncertainty. Alongside guest Rachel Burr, we explored how to chart a new course during transformation and how to release the habit of comparing one’s journey to others. This solo episode builds on that theme with a powerful mindset shift inspired by a lyric from hip-hop artist J. Cole: “No such thing as a life that’s better than yours.” Jay shares how this line helped him process grief after his father’s passing and offers a compelling analogy that challenges the impulse to compare your progress with someone else’s. Jay breaks down how comparison robs us of presence and peace, and instead introduces a fresh way to look at your career and life path. Using the metaphor of a road trip, he explains why trying to measure your journey against others is not only unhelpful—it’s impossible. You are in your car, on your route, and the best thing you can do is love where you are and keep driving forward. If you’ve ever found yourself thinking, “I should be further along by now,” this episode offers the reminder you didn’t know you needed. Notable Quotes “There is no such thing as being in a different car on this trip. There's no such thing as being in a different place than you are right now.” — Jay Abbasi “Your life is your life, and it's amazing that you have it. It's a miracle that you get to live your life.” — Jay Abbasi “You're never gonna be happy until you love yours.” — J. Cole (quoted in the episode) Resources and Links Jay Abbasi Website: https://jayabbasi.me/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jayabbasi/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jayabbasi_/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thejayabbasi/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@jayabbasipodcast Join Us Next Time On Monday, you’ll meet Andy, a seasoned software project manager who feels like he’s just barely holding it all together. Jay is joined by Hannah Pryor, global keynote speaker and author of Good Awkward, to explore how to help leaders like Andy move from disorganized and overwhelmed to confident and effective. Backed by science, Hannah shares how discomfort can be a powerful catalyst for growth and peak performance. Don’t miss this eye-opening episode. Stay inspired, stay resilient, and stay connected to what truly matters.
