This wikiHow article provides guidance on how to start a text conversation with a girl. It suggests moving beyond a simple "hey" and instead using interesting questions to get her attention. The article offers several approaches for initiating a text conversation, including:
- Asking open-ended questions that encourage more than a yes or no answer. Examples include "How’re you feeling about the homework for English?" or "What’s something you’ve always wanted to do?".
- Asking for recommendations to make her feel valued and to discover her interests. You could ask "What book should I read next?" or "What do you suggest for new music?".
- Talking about her interests by referencing her favorite bands, TV shows, or movies. For example, "You like The Bleachers, right? What’s your favourite song?" or "I saw your Insta post on coral reefs. How’d you get involved with that oceans club?".
- Sending a GIF, photo, or meme to add visual interest to the conversation. You could send a picture of something cool you saw, or a funny meme you think she would enjoy.
- Saying something timely and relevant such as mentioning an upcoming event or a shared experience to avoid sounding random. For instance, "Are you going to that game/play/dance tonight?" or "It was so crazy running into you at Starbucks today!".
- Starting a texting game like "Would You Rather" to get to know her better and spark a fun debate. Examples of questions include "Would you rather go backwards or forwards in time?” or "Would you rather live in a place where it snowed all the time or a place that was super hot?".
- Giving a sincere compliment, focusing on her personality rather than her appearance. Examples include "Talking to you always makes my day" or “I thought I was the funniest person around here until I met you.”.
- Using emojis to add personality and clarify tone. You could send a string of emojis and ask her to guess what they mean.
- Asking her to hang out in person to take the relationship to the next level. For instance, "Hey, do you want to study together after physics on Tues?” or "Are you free to hang out this weekend? Wanna grab coffee?”.
- Sending only one text at a time to avoid overwhelming her. Match her response pace.
- Moving on if she’s not interested which might be indicated by dry texting or one-word responses. If she doesn’t respond, wait a couple of hours and follow up once but respect her boundaries and stop texting immediately if she asks you to.
The article also provides additional advice such as being mindful of flirting, not over-texting and being smart about what you text, since texting creates a written record. The article was co-authored by Imad Jbara, a dating coach. It has been viewed over 7 million times. Some readers have found this advice helpful, with some saying they were able to keep conversations going longer and one even saying that the advice led to a marriage.
