In this conversation, host Patria Rector and guest Ro Elliott explore the Enneagram as a map for understanding the defenses, longings, and relational patterns that shape our lives—especially during the holidays, when stress and family dynamics tend to amplify our core reactions. Together they trace the nine personality types through their instinctive defense structures, naming how each type learned to protect itself, how these strategies can become limiting, and how awareness offers a path toward compassion and growth.
From the perfectionistic vigilance of Type Ones to the deep emotional sensitivity of Fours, the cerebral retreat of Fives, the fear-scanning reflex of Sixes, and the exuberant escape strategies of Sevens—this episode offers a grounded, insightful look at how we show up in the world and why. Patria and Ro name the power of “compassionate witnessing”—being seen in our growth—and remind us that healing often begins with simple presence: trusting that we are enough, that our bodies carry wisdom, and that connection is still possible even in the most complicated relationships.
This episode is a rich companion for the holiday season, inviting listeners to navigate stress, family systems, and their own inner landscape with clarity, humor, and grace.
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Practice the Pause: A Mantra for Each Enneagram Type During the Holiday Season
Type 1 – The Reformer“ I can rest. Goodness grows in grace, not perfection.”
Type 2 – The Helper“ I can give from love, not at the cost of myself.”
Type 3 – The Achiever“ I am enough. I can be before I do.”
Type 4 – The Individualist“ I can soften into what’s here, not what’s missing.”
Type 5 – The Investigator“ I can step in and still stay whole.”
Type 6 – The Loyalist“ I can breathe. Not every feeling is a warning.”
Type 7 – The Enthusiast“ I can savor this moment without escaping the hard parts.”
Type 8 – The Challenger“ I don’t have to guard myself—I can choose connection.”
Type 9 – The Peacemaker“ My presence matters. I can wake up and take my place.”
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Echoes and Edges is Produced and Edited by: Stephen R. Sanders
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