Change is difficult, and it can be costly. It takes a commitment of time and energy.
If you’re not ready to make that commitment, seeking help is a waste of time and money. If you’re too busy to give it the time it will take, that’s also a waste. You also have to be in an emotional space where you can open up and possibly hear difficult things.
Not being ready for help is a real thing, and it’s not always because the person is unwilling to change. Seeking help when you’re not ready is a bad idea. It’s making a promise you can’t keep. It will lead to disappointment and could make things worse.
If your wife is pushing you to go with her for help, and you know you’re not ready, be honest. Tell her you want to do what it will take to have a better marriage, but at the moment you can’t. If you can tell her why you can’t, that will help.
It’s not uncommon for an individual to come for a session or two, and then stop, only to come back months or even years later when they are ready. And that’s just fine.
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