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The Allender Center PodcastStory Work: What It Is and Why It Matters with Adam Young, Cathy Loerzel, and Dan AllenderHave you ever wondered what we mean when we say “your story” and why it matters? In this special episode, Adam Young, Cathy Loerzel, and Dan Allender sit down together to unpack the basics. Whether you’re new to this conversation or you’ve been on the journey for a while, this is a perfect place to start—or to revisit the foundation of story work. We’re thrilled to co-release this episode with The Place We Find Ourselves Podcast. Grab a cup of coffee, find a cozy spot, and join us as we explore the transformative power of eng...2025-01-2432 min
The Place We Find Ourselves167 StoryWork: What It Is and Why It Matters with Dan Allender and Cathy LoerzelYou have a story and that story matters. Your story in your family of origin significantly affects the way you think, feel, and act in the world today. This is why Dan Allender says, “It is time to listen to your story.” What if healing begins by listening to your story? By reflecting on the experiences in your growing up years, you can better understand why your brain has been shaped in the way that it has. If you want to experience more of the healing power of understanding your own story, join Dan, Cathy, and myself in Atlanta, GA, on S...2025-01-0631 min
The Place We Find Ourselves167 StoryWork: What It Is and Why It Matters with Dan Allender and Cathy LoerzelYou have a story and that story matters. Your story in your family of origin significantly affects the way you think, feel, and act in the world today. This is why Dan Allender says, “It is time to listen to your story.” What if healing begins by listening to your story? By reflecting on the experiences in your growing up years, you can better understand why your brain has been shaped in the way that it has. If you want to experience more of the healing power of understanding your own story, join Dan, Cathy, and myself in Atlanta, GA...2025-01-0631 min
Between Beauty & HeartacheHealing Through Story: Robyn's Story Work JourneyRobyn Kolk courageously shared part of her story with us, and here is a link to her photography. The story work approach originated from the Allender Center. If your curious about engaging your own story, visit their website to learn more and find a story work Coach.Robyn mentions Adam Young's podcast, The Place We Find Ourselves, a huge resource for both Robyn & Chassie. Chassie mentioned the "U Diagram" a helpful tool that Cathy Loerzel, co-founded The Allender Center, Author, and story work coach. Click the link to learn more about Cathy.
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Husband MaterialStory Work For Men Outgrowing Porn: What Is Story Work? (Part 1)What is story work? Where did it come from? What does it look like? In part 1 of this 4-part series, Drew shares his story: "The Day I Got Braces."If you love this series, you'd love Husband Material Groups.Apply to join a group at husbandmaterial.com/groupDrew Boa (MA, PSAP) is a Certified Unwanted Guide and Inner Child Recovery Specialist. Drew is the founder of Husband Material, where he helps men outgrow porn. Learn more at husbandmaterial.comWendell Moss (MA, LMHC) is a therapist, lead instructor, and facilitator...2024-04-0840 minThe Allender Center PodcastBonus Episode: The Healing Power of Understanding Your Story with Adam Young, Cathy Loerzel, and Dan AllenderYou have a story and that story matters. Your story in your family of origin significantly affects the way you think, feel, and act in the world today. This is why Dan Allender says, “It is time to listen to your story.” What if healing begins by listening to your story? By reflecting on—and engaging—the experiences in your growing-up years, you can better understand why your brain has been shaped in the way that it has. These are the topics that Dan Allender, Cathy Loerzel, and Adam Young explore in today’s bonus podcast ep...2023-12-1140 minThe Place We Find Ourselves148 The Healing Power of Understanding Your Story with Dan Allender and Cathy LoerzelYou have a story and that story matters. Your story in your family of origin significantly affects the way you think, feel, and act in the world today. This is why Dan Allender says, “It is time to listen to your story.” What if healing begins by listening to your story? By reflecting on—and engaging—the experiences in your growing up years, you can better understand why your brain has been shaped in the way that it has. These are the topics that Dan, Cathy, and I explore in today’s episode. If you want to experience more of the healin...2023-12-1139 min
The Place We Find Ourselves148 The Healing Power of Understanding Your Story with Dan Allender and Cathy LoerzelYou have a story and that story matters. Your story in your family of origin significantly affects the way you think, feel, and act in the world today. This is why Dan Allender says, “It is time to listen to your story.” What if healing begins by listening to your story? By reflecting on—and engaging—the experiences in your growing up years, you can better understand why your brain has been shaped in the way that it has. These are the topics that Dan, Cathy, and I explore in today’s episode. If you want to experience more of the hea...2023-12-1139 min
The Place We Find Ourselves136 Engaging Another Person’s Story: Why It’s Important and How To Do ItI am joined by Cathy Loerzel to talk about how to engage another person’s story. Effective story engagement is not a magical skill that some people have and some people don’t. It can be learned. Today we give a preview of some of the principles and tactics of effective story engagement. If you want to learn more, consider joining us on Saturday, May 13, for a zoom conference on How to Engage Another Person’s Story. You can sign up here.2023-04-0346 min
The Place We Find Ourselves136 Engaging Another Person’s Story: Why It’s Important and How To Do ItI am joined by Cathy Loerzel to talk about how to engage another person’s story. Effective story engagement is not a magical skill that some people have and some people don’t. It can be learned. Today we give a preview of some of the principles and tactics of effective story engagement. If you want to learn more, consider joining us on Saturday, May 13, for a zoom conference on How to Engage Another Person’s Story. You can sign up here. Support the podcast2023-04-0346 min
The Storied Living PodcastA Journey Through Story with Allender Center Co-founder and Author Cathy LoerzelCathy LoerzelUnderstanding Your Story Workshop with Cathy Loerzel and Adam YoungRedeeming Heartache BookThe Allender CenterThe Seattle School of Psychology and TheologyAbby Wong-Heffter, a co-founder of The Allender Center, therapist and teacher
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The Place We Find Ourselves121 Why It's So Important To Understand Your StoryCathy Loerzel joins me to talk about why it’s so important to do the work to understand your story, particularly your family of origin story. In short, the three reasons are: understanding your story will allow you to experience healing, stop reenacting your past in the present, and discover what you are meant to do in your part of the world (discover your kingdom). Near the beginning of the episode Cathy shares a personal example of how her family of origin story is presently affecting the way she shows up in her marriage. I do the same thing at...2022-10-0130 minThe Place We Find Ourselves121 Why It's So Important To Understand Your StoryCathy Loerzel joins me to talk about why it’s so important to do the work to understand your story, particularly your family of origin story. In short, the three reasons are: understanding your story will allow you to experience healing, stop reenacting your past in the present, and discover what you are meant to do in your part of the world (discover your kingdom). Near the beginning of the episode Cathy shares a personal example of how her family of origin story is presently affecting the way she shows up in her marriage. I do the same thing at th...2022-10-0130 min
The Place We Find Ourselves111 Redeeming Heartache: How Goodness Can Come Out Of TraumaBonus episode! Cathy Loerzel and I dive into why it’s crucial to take your wounds seriously, and how your wounds lead to the “orphan experience,” “stranger experience,” and/or “widow experience.” We also talk about what redemption looks like for each of these three types of wounding. Jesus takes our experiences of trauma and redeems them. That is, God creates glory, meaning and calling out of the very things that were designed to hurt us. If you want to better understand what redemption can look like for you, Cathy and I will be co-leading a live Redeeming Heartache event on May 2...2022-04-0840 minThe Place We Find Ourselves111 Redeeming Heartache: How Goodness Can Come Out Of TraumaBonus episode! Cathy Loerzel and I dive into why it’s crucial to take your wounds seriously, and how your wounds lead to the “orphan experience,” “stranger experience,” and/or “widow experience.” We also talk about what redemption looks like for each of these three types of wounding. Jesus takes our experiences of trauma and redeems them. That is, God creates glory, meaning and calling out of the very things that were designed to hurt us. If you want to better understand what redemption can look like for you, Cathy and I will be co-leading a live Redeeming Heartache event on May 21, 202...2022-04-0840 min
The Arise PodcastChecking in on 2 Years of a Global Pandemic, the war in UkraineCORRECTION: Ancestors from Melitopol, Ukraine not Mariupol, Ukraine.The Daily Show's Trevor Noah on Refugees: "...refugee is not a synonym for brown person. Anyone could become a refugee. It's a thing that happens to you, it's not who you are." -Trevor NoahNAACP's tweet comparing the treatment of Haitian Refugees in 2021 to the treatment of enslaved people in the 1800s. Photo of Strollers left at the Poland Train Station for incoming Ukrainian Refugees. Unpacking Workshops: Purity Culture Register HereINFO: Unpacking Purity Culture, Sex and Race, May 22, 2022 9AM-12:30PM PS...2022-03-1940 min
The Place We Find Ourselves103 How To Engage Another Person's StoryI am joined by Cathy Loerzel to talk about how to engage another person’s story. Effective story engagement is not a magical skill that some people have and some people don’t. It can be learned. Today we give a preview of some of the principles and tactics of effective story engagement. If you want to learn more, consider joining us on Saturday, February 19, for a one day zoom conference on How to Engage Another Person’s Story. You can sign up here. Support the podcast2022-01-0449 minThe Place We Find Ourselves103 How To Engage Another Person's StoryI am joined by Cathy Loerzel to talk about how to engage another person’s story. Effective story engagement is not a magical skill that some people have and some people don’t. It can be learned. Today we give a preview of some of the principles and tactics of effective story engagement. If you want to learn more, consider joining us on Saturday, February 19, for a one day zoom conference on How to Engage Another Person’s Story. You can sign up here.2022-01-0449 minThe Place We Find Ourselves99 Redeeming Heartache: How Past Suffering Reveals Our True Calling (Bonus Episode)Cathy Loerzel and Dan Allender join me today to talk about their newly published book Redeeming Heartache: How Past Suffering Reveals Our True Calling. Cathy and Dan reflect on what redemption actually means in the context of our stories, why they believe redemption is possible, and how our experiences of being an orphan, a stranger, and a widow can shape our sense of personal calling.2021-09-1345 min
The Place We Find Ourselves99 Redeeming Heartache: How Past Suffering Reveals Our True Calling (Bonus Episode)Cathy Loerzel and Dan Allender join me today to talk about their newly published book Redeeming Heartache: How Past Suffering Reveals Our True Calling. Cathy and Dan reflect on what redemption actually means in the context of our stories, why they believe redemption is possible, and how our experiences of being an orphan, a stranger, and a widow can shape our sense of personal calling. If you want to engage your story in more depth, consider signing up for The Story Workshop which will be held virtually from October 14-17. You can sign up by going to theallendercenter.org...2021-09-1345 min
Red Ink Revival Leadership PodcastAdam Young – Attachments: How Science Informs Our Relationships and LeadershipWelcome to Episode #79 of the Red Ink Revival Leadership Podcast. Today’s conversation is with Adam Young. Adam is a licensed Clinical Social Worker with Master’s Degrees in both Social Work and Divinity. He is a certified colleague of The Allender Center, co-founded by renowned psychologist Dr. Dan Allender and our previous Red Ink Revival guest therapist Cathy Loerzel. Dr. Allender and his trained clinicians–including Adam Young–are the foremost thinkers on Story Work. Adam is a certified EMDR clinician, which addresses trauma and brain function. He has also served as a pastor in a local...2021-07-221h 09
The Place We Find Ourselves92 Your Story, Your Suffering, and Kindness with Dan AllenderDan Allender is the reason this podcast exists. His teaching forms the foundation of nearly every episode. Dan joins me today to talk about how to engage your story and how to engage your suffering. In many ways, this is a conversation about how Dan has experienced God in the midst of his own story. Dan also talks about his forthcoming book (with Cathy Loerzel) titled Redeeming Heartache: How Past Suffering Reveals Our True Calling. Support the podcast2021-06-2150 min
The Place We Find Ourselves87 How To Engage Your Story In A Way That Brings Healing (Bonus Episode)Cathy Loerzel joins me to talk about how to engage your family of origin story in a way that brings healing to your brain. We examine three byproducts of trauma (fragmentation, dissociation, and isolation), the importance of naming the intentionality of those who harmed you, the role you played in your family, and the U Diagram of healing. Cathy and I will be co-teaching the Engaging Your Story Conference on Saturday, June 12. You can register here. Support the podcast2021-05-0541 min
The Place We Find Ourselves60 Warfare Part 9: Soul TiesSeason 3 concludes with the final episode on Warfare. I am joined again by Cathy Loerzel to talk about soul ties—what they are and how they are formed. We also address how to break curses, agreements, vows, and soul ties. 2020-03-1638 min
The Place We Find Ourselves59 Warfare Part 8: Curses, Agreements, and VowsI am joined by Cathy Loerzel to talk about curses, agreements, and vows—what they are, how they come to be, and where to find them in our stories. Cathy articulates the difference between a curse, an agreement, and a vow. She also explains how it is the design of evil for a curse to lead to an agreement, which then leads to a vow. Support the podcast2020-03-0352 min
The Place We Find Ourselves26 How Healing Happens Part 3Often the place we find ourselves is a place of desert, of wilderness, of valley. Indeed these are places of death. And they are real and they are part of the process of healing. But they are not the last word. Today we look at what happens when you linger in death. The thesis is that if we are faithful to enter death—to dip down to the bottom of Cathy Loerzel’s U-diagram—then resurrection and healing can begin to exist. Support the podcast2018-11-2032 min
The Place We Find Ourselves25 How Healing Happens Part 2Last week we talked about Cathy Loerzel’s U-diagram and about the importance of engaging particular scenes of heartache and harm in order for healing to begin to take place for you. Today we continue our discussion of what the process of healing requires and what it looks like. If you linger in death, if you dip down into the bottom of the U-diagram, you will enter sorrow and grief… and grief is met by the comfort of God which brings a newness to your heart, and a restoration of vitality and joy. This is the path of healing. 2018-11-2026 min