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Marriage UnmaskedHow Shame Keeps You Silent and Stuck in Your MarriageShame is often the shadow behind a hurting marriage.It keeps you quiet when you should speak, passive when you should lead, and stuck when God is calling you to grow.In this episode of Marriage Unmasked, we’re peeling back the layers of shame and how it secretly sabotages connection, leadership, and healing in marriage. You’ll learn why shame doesn’t just affect how you see yourself, it affects how you show up in your marriage. Grab free marriage resources: thewayforlove.comJoin REFINED Adam's online men's communityCara...2025-07-2225 minMarriage UnmaskedHow to Rebuild Attraction in a Marriage that HurtsWhat do you do when you're not attracted to your spouse anymore? If the attraction isn't there, does it mean it's over? In this episode, we’re unmasking what’s really underneath the loss of attraction in marriage and why it’s not just about physical appearance or effort. We explore how rebuilding attraction is less about trying harder and more about healing what's underneath and we give some practical ways to start getting that attraction back again. Grab free marriage resources: thewayforlove.comGet Cara's Free Masterclass for wives: Why You're No...2025-07-1521 minMarriage UnmaskedThe Abandonment Wound in MarriageIn this episode of Marriage Unmasked, we’re exposing the abandonment wound, where it starts, how it silently drives your reactions, and why it shows up so often in hurting marriages.Whether you cling tighter, get controlling, or emotionally check out, this wound can sabotage connection even when you're desperate to repair your connection.Listen in to understand this better and learn practical ways to start the healing journey. Grab free marriage resources: thewayforlove.comJoin REFINED Adam's online men's communityJoin Cara's Restored membership for wives2025-07-0824 minMarriage UnmaskedWhen You Feel Like You're "Not Enough" in Your MarriageHave you ever looked at your marriage and thought, “If I were prettier… stronger… sexier… more patient… maybe my spouse would love me better”?You’re not alone.In this episode we break down the lie so many spouses silently carry: the belief that you’re not enough. Whether it’s unspoken disappointment, emotional disconnection, or years of feeling unseen, this episode exposes the root of that ache and what to do with it.Grab free marriage resources: thewayforlove.comJoin REFINED Adam's online men's communityJoin Cara's Restored membership...2025-07-0124 minMarriage UnmaskedUnhealthy Ways to Apologize Not all apologies are created equal. In this episode we’re unmasking the kinds of apologies that do more harm than good. From defensive “sorrys” to guilt-tripping or emotionally manipulative ones, we explore why these surface-level apologies don’t bring true healing and what to do instead. If you've ever left a conflict feeling more confused or hurt after an apology, this episode is for you. Grab free marriage resources: thewayforlove.comJoin REFINED Adam's online men's communityJoin Cara's Restored membership for wivesReady for more connection a...2025-06-2422 minMarriage UnmaskedMen Supporting Men: Why It’s Crucial to Your MarriageIn this powerful episode, we explore a topic that doesn’t get enough airtime: the importance of men supporting men, especially in the context of marriage.Marriage thrives when a man is surrounded by other men who speak truth, offer encouragement, and hold him accountable to his highest self. These are the men who don’t just pat you on the back, they challenge you to grow, stand firm in your commitments, and lead with love and strength at home.Grab free marriage resources: thewayforlove.comJoin REFINED Adam's online men's communityJo...2025-06-1724 minMarriage UnmaskedWhen You Are the One Holding Your Marriage TogetherYou're the One Holding the Marriage Together If you’re the one initiating the conversations, doing the emotional work, and trying to keep the marriage from unraveling, this episode is for you.In today’s honest and compassionate conversation, we’re pulling back the curtain on what it really means to be the one holding the marriage together and the silent toll it takes on your heart, your body, and your relationship.We’re diving deep into:- Why so many wives shift into masculine energy just to survive- How rese...2025-06-1029 minMarriage UnmaskedGrieving the Marriage You WantedMarriage can be so disappointing! Especially when the marriage you hoped for is not the marriage you're in. You had beautiful dreams. You envisioned a future with laughter, connection, health and safety but now it's missing in your marriage. Today we explore grieving the marriage you wanted. It's not wrong to mourn what you hoped for. You are not alone in this. There's a difference between giving up and giving your heart room to feel and process. God sees you and He wants to meet you in your pain. He has healing for you and h...2025-06-0324 minMarriage UnmaskedThe Conflict Method That Saved Our MarriageAre you stuck in the same fight over and over in your marriage?Do your arguments leave you feeling exhausted, confused and isolated?We’ve been there and it’s so hard! In today’s episode we talk through the difference between healthy and unhealthy conflict and give you the method that has helped us break the cycle and get back to connection again.Grab free marriage resources:thewayforlove.comJoin Cara's Restored membership for wivesWhat to do when your husband won't change? A free...2025-05-2730 minMarriage UnmaskedUnmasking Codependency: The Hidden Struggle in MarriagesIs it love or is it codependency? In this eye-opening episode of Marriage Unmasked, we’re uncovering a struggle most couples face but few recognize: codependency.We’ll peel back the layers to explore:What codependency really looks like in marriage How trying to keep the peace can actually create more disconnectionRed flags that you may be stuck in a cycle of people-pleasing, fixing, or over-functioningHow to start breaking free, getting your needs met and building a marriage rooted in love, not fearIf you’ve ever felt like your worth depends on your spouse’s mood, o...2025-05-2023 minMarriage UnmaskedDo You Love Your Kids More Than Your Spouse?This episode tackles a sensitive but important question many couples avoid: Do you love your kids more than your spouse?We’re pulling back the curtain on what happens when the marriage takes a backseat to parenting. While the love for your children and your spouse are different, when one consistently overshadows the other, the foundation of your family can quietly start to crack.In this conversation, we explore:The subtle signs you may be prioritizing your kids over your marriageWhy this dynamic is so common—especially for momsHow this imbalance can affect your kids...2025-05-1325 minMarriage UnmaskedToo Tired For SexLet’s be honest—when you're juggling work, kids, and the emotional weight of a strained marriage, sex can feel like the last thing on your mind. In today’s episode, we’re unpacking the deeper reasons behind feeling “too tired for sex”—and spoiler: it’s not just physical exhaustion. We’ll talk about the emotional disconnect that often gets overlooked, the hidden expectations that create pressure, and how to gently rebuild intimacy without guilt or resentment.Whether you're the one saying "not tonight" or the one hearing it, this conversation will help you better understand e...2025-05-0627 minMarriage UnmaskedWhere's Your Marriage Headed?In this episode of Marriage Unmasked, we’re asking a vital question: Where is your marriage headed? Without a clear vision, it's easy for marriage to drift — pulled by busy schedules, distractions, and unspoken disappointments. But a thriving marriage doesn't happen by accident. It happens on purpose.Today, we’ll walk you through:Why having a vision for your marriage matters more than you think.Simple questions to help you start dreaming together again, even if things feel tense or distant right now.If you’ve ever wondered if there’s more for your m...2025-04-2923 minMarriage UnmaskedQuietly Quitting Your MarriageHave you ever felt like you're still in your marriage—but your heart has quietly left the room? In this episode, we’re peeling back the layers of what it means to quietly quit in marriage. From emotional detachment to silent resentment, we unpack the slow fade that can happen when hurt goes unspoken, needs go unmet, and hope begins to dim.Whether you're the one quietly quitting—or wondering if your spouse is—we’re here to hold space, speak truth, and point you back toward connection, healing, and hope.In this episode, we cover:2025-04-2221 minMarriage UnmaskedHow to Create Safety in Your MarriageIn today’s episode, we’re talking about one of the most foundational needs in marriage: safety. If you're feeling closed off from each other, afraid to share your heart, or unsure how your spouse will respond to your vulnerability—this conversation is for you. We’re unmasking the real issues that make marriages feel unsafe and sharing how to build a relationship where both of you can open up and feel seen and secure.In This Episode, We Cover:What safety actually means in a marriageHow past wounds, defensiveness, and criti...2025-04-1525 minMarriage UnmaskedTwisted Submission in MarriageSubmission. It’s one of the most misunderstood—and misused—words in Christian marriage.Submission in marriage was never meant to silence, control, or strip a wife of her worth. But somewhere along the way, the beauty of biblical submission got twisted. If “submission” in your marriage feels more like fear than trust, more like control than love, you’re not alone. Too many wives have been told to endure manipulation in the name of obedience—but that’s NOT God’s design.In this episode of Marriage Unmasked, we’re unraveling the...2025-04-0824 minMarriage UnmaskedFaith, Shame, and Sex: What the Church Taught UsIn this episode of Marriage Unmasked, we’re diving into the complex relationship between religious teaching, shame and sex. God intended sex to be a beautiful gift for a husband and wife to enjoy in marriage. However, many of us grew up with unhelpful religious messages about purity, modesty, and what it means to be a "good" Christian in the area of sex. Too often those messages brought deep shame and left us disconnected from our bodies and our desires, often creating unnecessary pain and confusion in the marriage relationship. Today, we’re untangling several of the...2025-04-0129 min
Faith and Family Trailblazer PodcastHealing Your Marriage by Embracing God-Given Femininity With Cara NitzWelcome to the Faith & Family Trailblazers Podcast! In today’s episode, we’ll talk about helping women step into their God-given femininity and experience true healing in their marriage.Cara has been married for 18 years to her husband Adam. They have five children, and live on a homestead in Missouri. Their marriage journey has included significant challenges and remarkable joys. After many years of healing her own marriage, God placed it on her heart to help other couples. She empowers women to transform stressed marriages into loving conne...2025-03-2718 minMarriage UnmaskedThe Dark Side of Being Married to a "Nice Guy"Being married to a “nice guy” sounds like a dream—until it’s not. In this episode, we’re pulling back the mask on what it’s really like to be married to a man who avoids conflict, prioritizes peace over connection, and leaves you feeling emotionally alone in the relationship.If you’ve ever felt unheard, unseen, or like you’re carrying the weight of your marriage alone—this one’s for you.If you struggle with “nice guy” tendencies listen in for practical ways to change the dynamic.Grab free marriage resources:2025-03-2529 minMarriage UnmaskedGetting Out of a Critical MarriageCriticism can slowly erode a marriage, turning a once-loving relationship into a battleground of hurt and defensiveness. In this episode, we’re unpacking how criticism affects a marriage, why it happens, and how to shift the dynamic to bring back love, respect, and understanding. If you've felt stuck in a cycle of negativity, this episode will give you hope and practical steps to change the tone of your marriage. Grab free marriage resources:thewayforlove.comWhat to do when your husband won't change? A free 6-day challenge for wivesRea...2025-03-1826 minMarriage UnmaskedDid I Marry the Right Person? Facing Doubts in Marriage.Have you ever found yourself wondering, "Did I marry the right person?" You're not alone. Doubts in marriage can feel unsettling, but they don’t have to define your relationship. In this episode, we’ll unpack why these thoughts may surface and how to lean into God’s wisdom and grace for clarity and peace.If you've been carrying these questions silently in your heart, this episode is a safe space to process, pray, and find renewed hope.Grab free marriage resourcesthewayforlove.comReady for more connection and healing in your marria...2025-03-1123 minMarriage UnmaskedVictim Energy vs. Empowered Love. Change the Atmosphere in Your MarriageIn this episode, we're diving into a crucial topic: victim energy in marriage. If you've ever felt stuck, unheard, or helpless in your relationship, this conversation is for you. We're breaking down what victim energy looks like, how it silently erodes connection, and—most importantly—how you can shift from feeling (and thinking) powerless to stepping into grace-filled strength. We'll explore practical ways to embrace personal responsibility, foster empathy, and encourage each other to step out of that victim energy in your marriage.Grab free marriage resourcesthewayforlove.comReady for more connec...2025-03-0428 minMarriage UnmaskedWhy Masculine and Feminine Energy is Vital in MarriageIn marriage the dynamic between masculine gifts and feminine gifts becomes incredibly important. They play on each other and build on each other. If the dynamic is off, the relationship suffers.Understanding the masculine and feminine dynamic in marriage is huge for decreasing marriage stress, increasing attraction and fostering safety. For us, this has been one of the biggest sources of pain and growth in our own marriage. What are these gifts? What does it look like to step into your masculine or feminine gifts? Why is this so important for growth?We d...2025-02-2624 minMarriage UnmaskedSex Stereotypes In MarriageSexual intimacy is a wonderful gift from God that we get to enjoy in marriage. He has so much good for us in this gift! Unfortunately, couples often struggle to communicate about their sexual relationship and that can cause hurt and disconnection instead of the beautiful connection God intends. Stereotypes about sex often influence how we think about and experience sex in marriage. What beliefs and expectations about sex have you brought into your marriage? In this episode we talk through several common sex stereotypes and how they affect your sex life. Gr...2025-02-1824 minMarriage UnmaskedWhen My Spouse Won't ChangeIt's so frustrating when you come to your marriage hoping for your spouse to change to meet your needs or expectations. You work on helping them change or even demanding those changes and nothing seems to happen. What do you do with that? Does your spouse need to change or not? Why do you want them to change? Why don't they? How do you get your needs met when you're waiting for changes?Today we talk through that situation and how to navigate it wisely.Grab free marriage resourcesthewayforlove.com2025-02-1133 minMarriage UnmaskedIs Love Enough to Make a Marriage Work?You find your spouse, decide they're “the one” and then happily ever after…right? Is love what makes a marriage work? In this episode, we’re unmasking the truth about what really holds a marriage together. We’ll dive into the core elements of respect, communication, commitment and forgiveness, why love isn’t always the problem (or the solution), and how understanding these differences can transform your relationship. If you’ve ever wondered why your efforts aren’t landing or why the spark feels dim, this conversation is for you.Grab free marriage resourcesthewayforlov...2025-02-0924 min
Marriage Mania MinistryEP 119 | Recognizing those conflict triggers in marriage with guests Adam & Cara NitzOur marriages suffer when we do not have good conflict resolution skills. How we communication to our spouse can either bless our marriage or it could hinder can cause hurt to the marriage. The best thing we can do individually is learn our spouse, learn how to communicate, and learn how to love in all situations by reflecting the love of Christ. Sometimes we may think the issue is our spouse but what if it is you? This is why we need Jesus in our marriages to help us see our contribution to the marriage and how we can...2025-01-2848 minMarriage UnmaskedHow To Have More Intimacy When You Feel Emotionally UnsafeEmotional safety is vital to the marriage relationship. If you can't feel safe to open your heart to each other, your relationship either stays surface level or you both end up defensive and disconnected. Either way that's painful.When you don’t feel safe, can you still practice being vulnerable?How can you cultivate that atmosphere of safety and vulnerability in your marriage?We dig into all this and more on today’s episode.Grab free marriage resourcesthewayforlove.comReady for more connection and healing in your marr...2025-01-2829 min
Marriage UnmaskedWhen a Husband is Clueless in His Marriage.Ever experience this? The husband thinks everything's fine. Nothing seems broken, no need to fix it. Meanwhile the wife is feeling disconnected, alone and unheard and it's getting serious. That's a painful and all-to-common dynamic in marriage.We've been there and the pain is real. Why does this happen? How can you prevent this kind of dynamic in your own marriage? Join us for our FREE Masterclass "The Marriage Spark" on January 23 6pm CT. A replay will be available. We'll help you get to the root of what's got you stuck in your ma...2025-01-2124 minMarriage UnmaskedStuck in a Rut in Your Marriage?Ever feel like your marriage is in a rut? You're going through the motions, but there's no real spark or fire anymore. Every marriage goes through seasons like this, so you're not alone. Today we talk about navigating this dynamic and what you can do to spice things up and get that spark back!Join us for our FREE Masterclass "The Marriage Spark" on January 23 6pm CT. A replay will be available. We'll help you get to the root of what's got you stuck in your marriage, give action steps to take to ha...2025-01-1423 minMarriage UnmaskedMismatched Sex DrivesIn this episode we are talking about mismatched sex drives. Sex is such an important part of marriage. God designed it to connect you in a unique and beautiful way. But if one spouse wants it and the other doesn't that can create distance, pain and challenges in the marriage. It doesn't have to be that way! What do you do if you have a higher drive than your spouse? What about if you just aren't interested? Why might this be happening? How do you communicate about this sensitive issue? We dive into all this...2025-01-0721 minMarriage UnmaskedThe Silent Weapon In MarriageIn this episode we look at a destructive, but often inconspicuous weapon that husbands and wives can use in the marriage relationship: The Silent Treatment. What does it look like? Why do we do it? How does it cause damage? How do you communicate in a healthier way? Tune in for some practical advice on how to recognize and heal from the damage the silent weapon has done in your marriage.Grab free marriage resources here:thewayforlove.comReady for more connection and healing in your marriage? Start our Healing...2025-01-0722 minMarriage UnmaskedAt A Breaking Point In Your MarriageIn this episode we break down what it's like to be at a "breaking point" in your marriage and how you can move forward, even in pain. We've been through this ourselves, and we believe God is able to transform what is so painful in your marriage too. How can you move forward when your relationship is suffering, and you feel separated and hopeless? Where do you find hope again and a path through that pain? What can you do to get connected again and heal the things that are wounding you? Listen in to f...2025-01-0738 min
Marriage UnmaskedMarriage Unmasked TrailerMarriage can be really tough, especially when it feels like you are alone in your struggles.Welcome to the Marriage Unmasked Podcast where Adam and Cara Nitz share real, raw, honest conversation about topics you are dealing with in your marriage. We want you to know that you are NOT alone in your struggles, we've been there too. We've worked through plenty of highs and lows in our 18 years of marriage and often we felt just as alone and isolated as you often feel, wondering "Is anyone else going through this?" We offer...2025-01-0101 min