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The Conscious Couples Podcast#169 - How Heard Do You Feel in Your Relationship?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this heartfelt episode, they share a powerful communication tool called Clear The Air, a three-step process to help you express emotions, feel understood, and strengthen connection without jumping into fix-it mode. Discover how a simple three-minute practice can reduce resentment, build trust, and transform how you and your partner show up for each other. Perfect for couples, conscious singles, or anyone craving a deeper emotional connection.Show notes:(4:33) The “Clear The Air” method(6:10) Share emotions without fixing(8:29) Why emotional timing matters...2025-05-0526 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#166 - How Your Relationship With Yourself Impacts Your RelationshipWelcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they explore how self-respect, self-awareness, and inner dialogue shape every aspect of your intimate relationship. Through honest stories, surprising insights, and practical tools, they’ll help you stop outsourcing your happiness and start building a solid foundation within. Whether you're single, dating, or in a long-term relationship, this episode will shift the way you think about love—from the inside out.Show notes:(2:09) Blind spots and inner work(4:38) Self-worth and admiration(6:00) The long list of inner requirements(9:53) Crossi...2025-04-1426 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#163 - Are You Being Mistreated?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they reveal a powerful tool that helps people worldwide determine whether they’re being mistreated or experiencing something more profound. They walk through the 10 most common signs of mistreatment and how even well-meaning partners can cause harm without realizing it. You’ll also learn how your past may affect what you tolerate now—and what to do if your heart, mind, and gut don’t agree. Whether you’re in a relationship or single, this episode will help you recognize red flags early and give you t...2025-03-2423 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#157 - Are You In An Emotionally Mature Relationship?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they explore emotional maturity—why it matters and how it strengthens relationships. Learn key skills like self-awareness, emotional regulation, and healthy communication. Plus, assess your relationship with a simple rating system. Tune in to grow together, not apart!Show notes:(3:44) What emotional maturity looks like in relationships(6:40) Defining emotional maturity Vs. Immaturity(12:40) The 10 key skills that define emotional maturity(14:49) Relationship rating exercise: Green, yellow, red system(21:42) Lucas and Antonie discuss Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching.(2...2025-02-1039 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#151 - Why You Might Be Feeling DisconnectedWelcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they share personal stories, practical tips, and thoughtful insights on setting boundaries to enhance emotional intimacy. Discover how small, intentional changes—like moving your devices to another room—can transform how you connect with your partner. From putting your phone aside to establishing healthier screen-time habits, this episode offers actionable tools to help you and your loved one prioritize meaningful moments together. Tune in now to reconnect and strengthen your bond!Show notes:(3:36) Personal strategies to limit distractions(5:50) Understanding “Brain Ro...2024-12-3023 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#148 - How "Protecting Your Partner" Can BackfireWelcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they explore how protective relationship behaviors can unintentionally create tension and hinder growth. They discuss the dangers of shielding your partner from constructive feedback out of fear of their reaction—a behavior that often leads to resentment and emotional disconnection. Through real-life examples, Emilia and Alan highlight the importance of courage and vulnerability in addressing challenges, prioritizing emotional safety, and fostering meaningful communication. Tune in to discover practical ways to strengthen your bond and grow together, not apart.Show notes:(2:14) The “rese...2024-12-0927 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#142 - What We’ve Learned From Our 5 Year AnniversaryWelcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this special anniversary episode, Alan and Emilia celebrate five transformative years together, sharing heartfelt insights into their love, growth, and partnership journey. They discuss the importance of growth-oriented relationships, highlighting three foundational lessons. They share heartfelt insights and practical steps for couples looking to strengthen their relationships and grow together, not apart. Whether in a relationship or single, tune in to discover the keys to building a lasting, growth-driven connection.Show notes:(4:48) Going through memories together(7:53) Lessons learned on relationships, others, and...2024-10-2827 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#139 - What It’s Like to Be an Empowered, Growth-Minded Woman in a RelationshipAre you navigating a relationship where growth isn’t aligned? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, hosts Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros share personal stories and helpful advice for women who want to stay strong in their self-worth while building a healthy relationship. You’ll hear tips on setting boundaries, knowing when to take charge, and how to grow together with your partner. Whether in a relationship or focusing on self-love, this episode offers practical insights to help you build stronger, more fulfilling connections....2024-10-0735 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#136 - A Secret to Living Together BetterDo minor disagreements at home sometimes turn into more significant issues? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Together, they dive into the little habits that can make or break harmony in relationships. From bedtimes to dishes, they explore why understanding each other’s lifestyle preferences is vital to living together better. Tune in to discover how you and your partner can align your needs for a deeper connection. Whether in a relationship or embracing self-love, this episode offers valuable insights to help nurture fulfilling connections with others or yourself.Show notes:2024-09-1621 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#133 - How Are Your Partner’s Decisions Impacting You?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they explore how the decisions you and your partner make every day shape your relationship. Whether a simple or extensive choice, these decisions can lead to a stronger, healthier connection or create challenges. Through personal stories and real-life examples, they share how partners can unknowingly impact each other’s actions and emphasize the power of honest, caring conversations. This episode is perfect for anyone looking to strengthen their relationship by making more thoughtful choices together.Show notes:(1:47) Emilia shares a personal st...2024-08-2626 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#132 - Does Your Partner REALLY Believe in Themself?Do you ever wonder if your partner truly believes in themselves or if they’re secretly struggling with self-doubt? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros.This eye-opening episode explores how deep-rooted beliefs can shape our relationships, mainly focusing on two core wounds: feeling “defective” and “unlovable.” Discover how these underlying fears can trigger conflicts and how to build genuine self-belief to foster healthier, more supportive partnerships.Show notes:(2:12) Two main buckets of the core wound(5:58) The formula for building self-belief: State, Prove, Self-assign(8:45) Sherysse, another satisfied client, shares her beauti...2024-08-1920 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#131 - When Are You Your Partner's Primary Focus?Do you feel like your partner truly sees you, or are you sometimes left in the background? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. This episode unpacks what it means to be your partner’s primary focus and why it’s crucial for maintaining a healthy, loving relationship. Listen in as they share real-life examples and tips to help you and your partner stay connected, even when life gets busy. Perfect for couples and individuals who want to strengthen their relationships and feel more valued in their connections. Whether in a relationship or single, this...2024-08-1227 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#129 - What "Doing THE WORK" Actually MeansHave you ever wondered why some people grow emotionally while others stay stuck? Tune into The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they explain what “doing the work” means regarding personal growth, especially for men. Using relatable stories and insights, they explore how men and women differ in self-improvement, the value of therapy, and the power of humility. Join them as they discuss the challenges and rewards of personal growth and how it can improve your relationships and self-awareness.Show notes:(1:57) Origin story of “doing the work.”(3:36) The value of thera...2024-07-2930 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#128 - Is Your Partner Addicted to Their Devices?Are you struggling with device addiction in your relationship? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they discuss the importance of setting boundaries with technology, the impact of excessive screen time on relationships, and strategies to reclaim quality time together. From creating device-free zones to establishing notification hygiene, learn how to foster a more connected and present partnership in a tech-driven world. Tune in for a comprehensive guide to healthier, more present relationships in the age of constant connectivity.Show notes:(2:34) Event feedback: The relevance of discussing de...2024-07-2225 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#127 - How Much Is Your Past Hurting Your Relationship?Can unresolved childhood experiences sabotage your relationship? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, we’ll explore the profound impact of viewing the past as a slingshot for future growth, the significance of creating core memories together, and the role of understanding and supportive partners. The discussion highlights the importance of exploring underlying fears and core limiting beliefs with courage and vulnerability, which can pave the way for personal growth and stronger connections. Join us to learn how to transform past pain into opportunities for connection and joy.Show no...2024-07-1519 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#126 - Why Do I Still Feel Lonely in a Relationship?Feeling lonely even when you’re with your partner? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. This episode reveals why many people think this way in relationships and how to change it. Learn the real reasons behind this common issue and how understanding it can lead to healthier, more fulfilling connections. Alan and Emilia share their insights from coaching, highlighting the importance of emotional availability and creating safe spaces. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, this episode offers practical advice on addressing loneliness and fostering deeper intimacy.Show notes:...2024-07-0830 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#123 - The Top 3 Tools to Help Your Relationship FlourishWelcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they discuss how couples can stay close and happy even when life gets busy. They share three powerful tools designed to streamline collaboration, enhance communication, and structure your daily interactions, helping you and your partner achieve a well-organized, goal-oriented, and harmonious partnership. Tune in to hear their stories, learn tips, and how these tools can help your relationship flourish.Show notes:(2:52) Past relationship experiences(3:41) Overview of the top three tools(6:53) First tool(10:14) Guidelines(13:03) Second to...2024-06-1728 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#122 - How to Prevent Destructive Patterns in Your RelationshipWelcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts, real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this insightful episode, they dive into the crucial role of self-regulation in maintaining healthy relationships. They break down the three types of regulation—external, co-regulation, and self-regulation—emphasizing the importance of each in developing emotional stability and resilience. Understanding and applying self-regulation can prevent destructive patterns and enhance emotional intelligence, leading to healthier, more harmonious, stable, and constructive interactions with partners.Show notes:(4:20) Analogy to illustrate the concept of regulation(5:53) The importance of self-regulation in emotional inte...2024-06-1031 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#121 - How Often is Your Partner Taking the High Road?Conflict is inevitable, but how we handle it can significantly impact our personal development and the quality of our relationships. Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts, real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they explore the complexities of managing confrontations that can catalyze growth and more profound connections when approached with composure, understanding, maturity, and respect.Show notes:(2:13) Spill the tea(8:04) Poor gym etiquette(12:10) Stand up for yourself, Take ownership and accountability(15:58) Listen to Jason’s and Lisa’s testimonial on Alan and Emilia’s Relati...2024-06-0331 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#119 - Do You Feel Held Back By Your Partner?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts, real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. They explore the impact of feeling held back by a partner on relationships and how limiting beliefs can hinder personal and relationship growth. Together, they highlight the importance of intuition as a signal for being held back and the significance of addressing such dynamics in relationships, emphasizing the need for open communication, support, and empowering beliefs to nurture personal and collective development.Show notes:(2:20) The impact of limiting beliefs(4:08) Recognizing intuitive pings and self-challenge(8:42) Leadership: Awareness...2024-05-2020 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#118 - Do You Know Your Partner's Keystone Habit?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts, real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they delve into the concept of keystone habits, a topic that is as fascinating as it is critical to personal and relational development. These habits are the central stone in the arch of our daily lives, holding together the myriad of routines and practices we engage in. Identifying and nurturing your keystone habits can significantly enhance your sanity, productivity, and connection with your partner.Show notes:(2:15) What’s the 1 thing...?(3:27) Keystone habits in relationships2024-05-1320 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#117 - How Honest is Your Partner With You?Regarding relationships, the truth can be both a shield and a sword. It can protect us from harm and cut through the confusion, clarifying our bonds. But how often do we dare to wield this sword, to turn the ‘truth dial’ up in our relationships? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts, real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they venture into this delicate territory, discussing the significance of honesty in nurturing a solid relationship and personal growth.Show notes:(1:57) Infinity symbol of connection (4:06) Truth dial(6:05) Navigating trut...2024-05-0619 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#116 - Are You Overswinging Between Clingy & Avoidant?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts, real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros.In this episode, the couple delves into the struggle to find the right balance between togetherness and personal space. They emphasize the issue of losing one’s identity in pursuing a solid bond, introducing terms like ‘hyper-individualism’ and ‘enmeshment,’ which are crucial for understanding this dynamic. They also discuss the common tendency to swing between clinginess and distance and how recognizing these patterns can lead to healthier relationships, all while validating the importance of maintaining individual identity.Show notes:(3:46) U...2024-04-2925 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#113 - How to Spot Pretend Growth in Your PartnerWelcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts, real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today’s episode serves as a valuable guide for individuals seeking to enhance their relationships. It underscores the benefits of self-reflection, open dialogue, and personal growth. By fostering an environment conducive to genuine progress, couples can fortify their bond and progress together. The guide also aids in discerning between genuine personal growth and superficial changes, a crucial aspect of maintaining a profound and enduring relationship.Show notes:(1:59) Love story(5:07) Be yourself(6:19) Key demarcation line(9:25) No in...2024-04-0832 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#112 - Which "Relationship Killer" Do You Struggle With Most?Nurturing a healthy relationship can be challenging, especially when emotions come into play. Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts, real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they explore the core dynamics of relationships. Drawing from John Gottman’s groundbreaking research, they shed light on four critical behaviors that can spell trouble for any partnership. Recognizing these patterns empowers couples to safeguard their love and build stronger foundations.Show notes:(2:20) Anticipate in relationships(4:07) Don’t be on this stat’s(5:01) Criticism -> Gentle Vulnerability(9:24) Stonewalling -> Self-s...2024-04-0124 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#111 - Accepting Your Partner For Who They AreWelcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts, real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they’ll walk us through the simple yet powerful ways to connect with your partner truly. Discover how embracing and celebrating each other’s unique qualities can lead to a stronger, more loving relationship. Learn about the 25 conscious love languages to help you and your loved one grow together. It’s all about understanding, appreciating, and loving your partner for who they are.Show notes:(2:41) Importance of accepting your partner and exploring mismatches in 25 consciou...2024-03-2526 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#109 - Which Partner Is Shouldering More Weight?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they dive deep into the silent struggle plagues many romantic partnerships: the unequal distribution of responsibilities. They explore how this imbalance can build resentment and what can be done to communicate needs effectively and foster mutual support and respect. The discussion concerns identifying the issue and offering solutions and strategies for couples to evolve.Show notes:(2:10) Fairness and support(5:28) Courageous transformative conversations(7:22) Gender roles and shifting responsibilities(9:50) Entropy principle(12:58) Th...2024-03-1131 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#108 - My Partner Keeps Signing Us Up for StuffWelcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In the realm of relationships, the journey of two individuals coming together to navigate the intricacies of life is a delicate dance of alignment and adaptation. The balance between maintaining individual identities while creating a unified partnership requires constant attention and fine-tuning. Alan and Emilia delve into the complexities of this process, sharing personal anecdotes and actionable strategies that resonate with anyone seeking harmony in their relationship.Show notes:(2:06) Navigating Alignment: Effective decision-making(5:46) Balancing relationship considerations 2024-03-0424 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#107 - Have You Become Just Like Your ParentsHave you ever heard your mother’s catchphrase or mirrored your father’s habits? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. They navigate the complexities of our inherited traits and the invisible legacies passed down through generations. They shine a light on the halo effect and its deceptive rose-colored lens as they reveal how confronting these influences is vital to personal growth and emotional regulation in our own lives. The path to redefining our relationships and breaking free from the shadows of our ancestors is not a solitary endeavor. It i...2024-02-2625 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#106 - How Is Stress Affecting Your RelationshipDiscover the unseen forces that stress exerts on your most precious connections as today’s topic unravels the mystery behind emotional disconnection in relationships. Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, the discussion provides an invaluable guide for couples to manage stress together and maintain emotional intimacy. The strategies and insights offered are practical and deeply resonant, making it a must-listen for anyone looking to strengthen their relationship in today’s fast-paced world. By recognizing the silent battle against stress and taking proactive steps to reconnect, coup...2024-02-1920 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#103 - Are You Afraid of Being "Not Enough" or "Too Much"?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. They explored a familiar relationship dilemma many face: the pervasive feeling of being either ‘too much’ or ‘not enough’ for one’s partner. This intricate emotional terrain often leads individuals into a maze of insecurities, questioning their worthiness and the balance of affection within their romantic connections.Show notes:(2:05) How to overcome insecurities in relationships(7:04) Openness leads to progress(8:43) The concept of turtle puff(10:11) Grace, space, and acceptance(13:07) Bonnie has this to say about Alan...2024-01-2925 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#102 - Why Men Struggle in RelationshipsWelcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today’s episode highlights the delicate subject of men’s emotional struggles within relationships. A topic often shrouded in silence due to societal expectations. The conversation courageously addresses men’s barriers when attempting to express vulnerability and authenticity in their relationships.Show notes:(2:32) Pattern(4:34) Two problems(6:16) The unseen struggles (9:17) Understanding trauma and its impact(14:57) Sherysse, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia.(16:43) Alan’s truth(17:52) How to address(27:21) Outro2024-01-2228 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#101 - You Have the Right to Be Happy Even When Your Partner Isn’tHave you ever dimmed your light to match the mood of your significant other? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today’s episode delves deep into the delicate equilibrium between self-care and partnership. This conversation is crucial when the world increasingly recognizes the importance of maintaining individuality within a romantic relationship. The shift from codependency to interdependence is a transformative process that allows both partners to thrive without losing sight of their journeys.Show notes:(2:30) Walk on eggshells(5:40) Unconscious belief(7:16) Emotional ma...2024-01-1525 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#99 - Why You NEVER Feel Heard in Your RelationshipHave you ever poured your heart out, only to feel like your words evaporated into thin air? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. They share their very own moments of disconnect and breakthroughs in communication. Through candid conversations, they unravel the delicate threads of feeling unheard in relationships and present you with tools to express yourself and ensure you're being heard. Together, they probe into the nuances of active listening, setting boundaries, and embracing a growth mindset. The art of being listened to is not about talking louder...2024-01-0126 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#98 - What We Never Realized About BoundariesWelcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. As the festive season twinkles on the horizon, join us in a heart-to-heart on aligning our lives with our deepest values amidst the chaos of celebration. This dialogue isn't just a conversation; it's a toolset designed to shed light on the fears that throttle our ability to protect our space and needs—whether it's the fear of judgment or the unsettling worry of losing love. We've devised a straightforward three-step process beyond theory, equipping you with actionable tactics to uphold your boundaries. It...2023-12-2525 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#97 - How To Navigate Boundary ViolationsThe holiday season can bring a lot of joy, but it can also get a fair share of challenges, especially regarding relationships. It is not uncommon for the stress and pressure of the festive season to inadvertently lead to boundary violations in relationships. Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Navigating boundary violations in relationships during the holiday season may be challenging, but it is also an opportunity for growth. We can turn these challenges into stepping stones toward more vital, healthier relationships with open communication, respect for each...2023-12-1827 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#96 - Designing Your "Perfect" Date NightAre you looking to take your date nights to a new level and spice up your relationship with meaningful experiences? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today's episode discusses the art of designing the perfect date night or day. They share anecdotes and insights into understanding and leveraging each other's love languages. They tap into their own experiences, from hitting the gym to movie nights and outdoor adventures, showcasing how including food and adventure can turn ordinary into extraordinary. All aimed to inspire you to craft your perfect...2023-12-1120 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#95 - How To Share Uncertainties With Your PartnerUncertainty and fear of vulnerability can sneak in slowly, placing invisible barriers between you and the one you hold dear. Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today's episode, honesty about uncertainties creates certainty in relationships. Sharing uncertainties with your partner is critical to maintaining a solid and connected relationship. However, this requires the courage to be vulnerable to expose your insecurities and fears. Not doing so can lead to disconnection and increased insecurity.Show notes:(1:44) Alan's vulnerability(5:19) Unconscious fear(7:19) Taking accountability for...2023-12-0421 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#93 - How Your Self-Talk is Affecting Your RelationshipThe power of nonviolent communication and its transformative potential in how we communicate, especially with ourselves, and its impacts on our relationships. Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. We talked about how self-talk significantly affects our relationships. We discussed the negative impact of violent self-talk and the importance of adopting a nonviolent communication approach in our self-talk. Nonviolent communication provides a valuable framework for transforming our self-talk and, by extension, our relationships. It's about recognizing and harnessing our words' power to foster healthier, more fulfilling relationships with ourselves...2023-11-2020 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#92 - How To Regulate As the “Anxious One”In today's interconnected world, it's easy to overlook the importance of self-regulation and understanding our attachment styles in relationships. Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. We talked about how self-regulation and understanding our attachment styles are crucial to building and maintaining strong, healthy relationships. By managing our emotions and responding empathetically to our partners, we can foster deeper connections and navigate the complexities of love with greater ease.Show notes:[1:53] Lean more into the components of self-regulation[2:36] Understanding attachment styles[7:10] Trust that you'll...2023-11-1320 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#91 - Treat Every Day Like It's Your AnniversaryCan you recall the sparkly magic that surrounded the beginning days of your relationship? Every moment felt like a celebration, right? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. We discussed that the spark that ignites at the beginning of a relationship doesn't have to fade away but can be nurtured and sustained to make every day a celebration of love. This commitment involves prioritizing each other, acknowledging each other, and creating daily micro-moments of love and appreciation. The goal is to build a meaningful love life that doesn't rely...2023-11-0625 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#88 - Is Status Stopping You From Having an Authentic Relationship?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. We start by exploring how the quest for status can hinder the authenticity of our relationships. It's a harsh truth many face - a picture-perfect relationship that's hollow on the inside. Identifying these signs and confronting the discomfort will pave the way for a more fulfilling relationship. From there, we will delve into the essence of authenticity in a relationship. In a society obsessed with appearances, finding a partner who values growth over grandeur is crucial. We discuss scenarios you might encounter...2023-10-1624 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#87 - How is Digital Distraction Impacting Your Relationship?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In our increasingly tech-saturated world, balancing the digital and physical aspects of our lives is becoming more challenging. This issue has become even more prevalent as our emotional immaturity and lack of emotional intelligence, coupled with the lure of the digital world, tend to affect our real-life relationships negatively. Digital distractions have a significant impact on relationships. For instance, if you or your partner are constantly distracted by their devices, video games, and the digital world, your relationship is likely suffering in...2023-10-0926 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#86 - Are You in a Surface Level Relationship?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. They discussed that surface-level relationships often manifest as interactions that skim the surface without delving into emotional depths. This can leave individuals feeling unsatisfied, unfulfilled, and craving for more. Transforming your relationships from superficial to significant requires courage, vulnerability, and humility. It involves acknowledging your emotions, addressing conflicts, and leading by example. The journey might be challenging, but the destination - a life enriched by deep, meaningful connections - is worth every step.Show notes:[0:00] Intro[1:38] Understand and...2023-10-0224 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#85 - Which Partner Is Better At Money?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Money, often considered a taboo subject, is an essential part of our lives that we cannot overlook. Especially when it comes to relationships, harmonizing financial goals with personal aspirations becomes a crucial factor. They emphasize the connection between money goals and tangible experiences, making financial conversations less intimidating and more relatable. If you've ever felt overwhelmed by your partner's superior financial prowess, fret not. They stress the importance of humility, courage, and vulnerability in these discussions and the transformative power of financial...2023-09-2520 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#84 - How Fulfilling Has Your Relationship Been Lately?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. They delve into how understanding your partner's resourcefulness level and incorporating 'cup fillers' into your relationship can make a significant difference. These seemingly small tweaks can introduce refreshing variety and enhance relationship satisfaction. They provide insights into the formula that helped them avoid an 'old and miserable' existence and promote a ten out of ten relationship fulfillment. They offer resources to help you embark on your journey of finding lasting fulfillment in your relationships.Show notes:[0:00] Intro[2:53...2023-09-1826 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#83 - Are You Giving Your Partner Room To Grow?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Many of us believe we know our partners well. However, we often fail to recognize our inherent cognitive biases that reaffirm our existing beliefs, hindering our relationship growth. They discuss that recognizing the problem is only half the battle. They talk about practical tips for overcoming these beliefs and issues. Disagreements often exacerbate cognitive biases, causing unnecessary tension in relationships. So, tune in and discover the keys to identifying and overcoming those limiting beliefs that could be stalling your relationship growth.2023-09-1122 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#82 - Stop Breaking Promises To Your PartnerWelcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talked about the impact of optimism and pessimism in every relationship. They discuss how these tendencies can sway us to either overcommit or undercommit and the lessons we've gleaned from our experiences. Discover the value of self-awareness in mitigating the downsides of optimism and pessimism and how a better understanding of our tendencies can bolster our communication and trust-building efforts. They explore the power of vulnerability and taking responsibility for our feelings in resolving conflicts. This is a...2023-09-0422 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#81 - What Do You REALLY Think of Your Partner's FamilyWelcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about the profound impact family dynamics have on relationships. The discussion centers around seeing our family through our partner's eyes, a perspective that often uncovers the 'comforting lies' we've been telling ourselves and reveals some 'uncomfortable truths.' They also discuss recognizing the signs of our partner reverting to their childhood behavior in the familial setting. They also discuss the potential consequences of not addressing these behaviors and share an example demonstrating how our perception of family...2023-08-2825 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#80 - Are You Delivering Truth Bullets or Cannons?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they discuss the delicate balance between expressing your truth and your partner's capacity to receive. They share insights and tips from personal experiences and their clients' journeys, who grappled with the fear of outgrowing their partner. They also share how avoiding the uncomfortable truth can lead to suppressed emotions and potentially harm relationships. To help you visualize these concepts, they use the metaphor of 'truth pebbles,' 'truth bullets,' and 'truth cannons.' Each represents different amounts of truth and...2023-08-2123 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#79 - Is Your Partner Insecure?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about the hidden world of insecurity in relationships. Insecurity can lead us to hurt those we love unintentionally. They discuss navigating this complex terrain, sharing the importance of understanding your and your partner's insecurities. They also dive into how apologies and insecurities intertwine in relationships. They share some of their experiences, highlighting the need for humility, courage, and vulnerability to rebuild relationships and reduce insecurity. It's about facing insecurities head-on by understanding ourselves better, removing the power...2023-08-1426 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#78 - Is Your Partner Being Too Selfish?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today, they discuss finding the balance between selfishness and selflessness in relationships. They discuss how understanding your partner's perspective can influence your interactions and how recognizing the need for more selfishness or selflessness can significantly alter the relationship dynamic. "Is your partner being too selfish?" might be a question that plagues your mind. Overbalancing on either end of the selfishness-selflessness spectrum can wreak havoc on relationships. They shed light on the significance of prioritizing yourself, not out of selfish motives, but to...2023-08-0722 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#77 - Do You and Your Partner Have Different Beliefs About Love?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they delve into the intricacies of our core beliefs about love. and how these can impact the love journey. They show how these core beliefs shape our interactions and the relationships we attract. They also talk about how conflicting love beliefs can lead to unmet expectations, and share valuable insights on maneuvering through these tricky waters with your partner. Show notes:[0:00] Intro[2:36] The glasses analogy about love[8:23] Differing beliefs on love, and growing apart2023-07-3126 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#76 - "It Takes Two to Tango"Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Have you ever felt unseen, unheard, or unappreciated in your relationships? Have you ever wondered how to express your truth without causing pain? In this episode, they embark on a soulful journey into the power of vulnerability and courage in our relationships. Drawing parallels to the Tango dance, they unravel the intricate steps of building a lasting bond based on the 'Triad of Belonging' - being seen, being understood, and being valued. They share personal stories and insights into the courage it...2023-07-2426 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#75 - What Are Your Guilt-Free Pleasures?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today, they talk about a powerful concept, something they fondly call guilt-free pleasures. They believe in giving ourselves the liberty to occasionally enjoy that video game, that movie marathon, or that wine we love. Of course, the key lies in not going overboard. They explored how these guilt-free pleasures can supercharge our lives and relationships. They talk about their own guilt-free pleasures and how they've been incorporating them to strike a balance between pleasing themselves and nurturing their relationship. The idea is...2023-07-1725 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#74 - How to Share Your Fears with Your PartnerWelcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today's episode, they talk about navigating fear and vulnerability in your relationships. They discuss how understanding different attachment styles can equip you to express fears more constructively. What happens when you see your partner’s energy shift, but their words don’t match what you notice? Too often, we personalize this mismatch, leading to downward relationship spirals. They share insights on how to acknowledge underlying fears and ask the important question – what support does your partner need now? They also delve into t...2023-07-1024 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#73 - Practicing Non-Violent CommunicationWelcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today's episode, they unmask the varied levels of violent communication that have become our 'normals.' Drawing parallels with the Richter scale, they illustrate how these 'normals' echo in our relationships and interactions. Their anecdotes shed light on these communication patterns' profound influence - shaping our attitudes, reactions, and existence. They share practical tools to create a more harmonious atmosphere in our relationships. They also underline the lasting impact of violent communication on our young ones and pets, and hope to...2023-07-0325 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#72 - When is Your Relationship At It's Weakest?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today's episode, they talk about being in an unresourceful emotional state and unknowingly allowing it to affect your relationship. They explore how staying aware of our mental and emotional states can make a world of difference in our connections with the people we love most. They discuss how recognizing and navigating our unresourceful states can open doors to celebrating successes and creating magical moments with our significant others. Discover the importance of fostering a strong bond between you and your partner...2023-06-2624 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#71 - Avoiding Toxic MasculinityWelcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today's episode, they talk about the critical issue of toxic masculinity, which was the topic of Relationship Talks #24. Discover the answers to the three questions that the couple answered in the event. They also talk about the traits such as arrogance, self-absorption, and entitlement that can lead to disconnection and how we can replace these with humility, empathy, and vulnerability. Show notes:[3:09] Do most people have the desire to be right than to connect?[7:02] Alan shares a...2023-06-1925 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#70 - What is Your Partner Avoiding?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today's episode, they uncover the impact of fear and avoidance on relationships and how couples can grow stronger by facing their fears together. They discuss the tendency for some men to struggle with reaching out for help and for some women to feel hesitant in asking for assistance with math and finance. They dive into three scenarios that could arise when one or both partners do not take steps to grow and lean into their discomfort. So, gear up for an...2023-06-1222 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#69 - Whose Lack of Growth is Holding Back the Relationship?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they explore the powerful connection between personal growth and healthy relationships. They talk about how our own ego can hinder our progress and hinder the growth of our relationships. At the core of this discussion is the importance of understanding oneself better through therapy. They highlight how therapy can provide insights and tools to overcome personal obstacles and foster personal growth. They touch upon the concept of readiness and the significance of being prepared for growth and change. They...2023-06-0529 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#68 - Is Your Partner Still Grateful for You?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they share the secret to cultivating stronger relationships. They begin by emphasizing the importance of investing more in one's relationship, acknowledging that meaningful connections require dedicated time and effort. They talk about sharing things that you are grateful for about each other, highlighting how this exercise can foster a deeper appreciation for each other's presence and contributions. Related episode:#64 - Be Careful of the Honeymoon Phase: https://apple.co/3B2XDEv 2023-05-2921 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#67 - Don't Let This Sink Your RelationSHIP!Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they explore the dynamics of relationships using a powerful ship analogy. They emphasize that relationships are like two ships, and each person represents a different kind of ship. They stress the importance of taking ownership in a relationship and understanding each person's role. They highlight the significance of acknowledging and expressing emotions. Individuals can better understand themselves and their partners by taking time to feel and process emotions. They encourage listeners to embrace vulnerability and open communication to strengthen...2023-05-2222 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#66 - Early Warning Signs a Break Up Is ComingWelcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today, they will discuss three warning signs indicating a relationship is in trouble: arrogance, dishonesty, and immaturity. These behaviors can erode trust and create a sense of distance between partners, leading to frustration, disappointment, and, ultimately, the decision to end the relationship. But it's not all doom and gloom! They also discuss three key attributes that can help couples navigate these warning signs and build stronger, healthier relationships. Humility, trust, and ownership are essential qualities that foster a deeper connection, encourage open...2023-05-1525 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#65 - Who's Showing Up for the Relationship More?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they delve into who is showing up more in the relationship - and what that means. They discuss the importance of bringing your best self to the table and the crucial role that belief and gratitude play in sustaining relationships over time. They also touch on the actions that can support your words and help you build trust and connection with your partner. And finally, they talk about what it means to be present and committed in your relationship a...2023-05-0820 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#64 - Be Careful of the Honeymoon PhaseWelcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they discuss the importance of being cautious during the honeymoon phase. It's easy to get caught up in the initial rush of emotions and make long-term decisions based on short-term feelings. However, we must be mindful of the potential consequences of acting impulsively in a heightened state. They explore the common pitfalls of going off the rails and falling into a scarce mindset. They also emphasize the importance of remembering and staying true to the behaviors and mindset that...2023-05-0120 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#63 - Are You Measuring What Matters in Your Relationship?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they discuss the essence of what truly matters in a relationship and discuss practical ways to focus on the things that truly count. In a world where we are constantly bombarded with distractions and expectations, it's easy to lose sight of what truly matters in our relationships. Are you prioritizing the right things? Are you measuring the right metrics to assess the health and quality of your relationship? It is more simple than you may think.Related E...2023-04-2419 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#62 - The Quickest Way to Eliminate DramaWelcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they discuss what causes drama in relationships. Whether with friends, family, or partners, drama can be a considerable burden. We’re talking about the significant differences between being surrounded by emotionally immature people and those who are more mature. They discuss that the amount of drama in your life is proportional to the people around you and their level of emotional maturity. The hosts also share powerful information on understanding The Emotional Maturity Triad.Digital Asset - Th...2023-04-1734 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#61 - Are The Little Things Creating a BIG Problem?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about how conflicts in lifestyle preferences can be a major issue for couples. Do you let the little things build up in your relationship? Regarding lifestyle conflicts, it's important to talk openly and honestly with your partner. Instead of allowing resentment to grow, take the time to voice what you want and need in the relationship. Make sure to stay respectful and open-minded while having these conversations. It takes two people working together, and being honest and...2023-04-1021 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#60 - How Does Your Attachment Style Control You?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about how your attachment style controls you and affects your life. They share their attachment styles and examples of the different attachment styles, that they talked about in Episode #49 - What Is Your Attachment Style. They talk about understanding yourself so you can improve your attachment style. Attachment styles are not rigid, but you first need to identify yours in order to address the cause behind it and make a change. Understanding each other's attachment styles...2023-04-0327 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#59 - What's Causing All the Fighting?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about what causes fighting in a relationship. They zero in on where the disconnect happens. They discuss that it is critical to consider both your preferred type of listener and your partner's preferred type of listening style in your relationship. You might want to use various listening styles depending on whether you are in a growth paradigm or a relationship paradigm.Show notes:[1:50] Episode intentions[2:40] Relationship paradigm vs growth paradigm[6:45] Not feeling heard, seen...2023-03-2725 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#58 - Creating Financial Goals with Your PartnerWelcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about financial literacy and setting financial goals. The main analogy they use is team sports, specifically soccer, wherein the players work together, collaborate, and plan for the game in order to score goals. They also discuss why so many are not financially literate and the steps to know more about handling money and possibly earning more. Show notes: [2:28] Collaborating on your financial goals like players do in team sports[9:40] Only one in three adults is...2023-03-2023 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#57 - Don't Take Your Past Out on Your PartnerWelcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about how we can sometimes bring our past into our current relationships. Unintentionally, we may take our past out on our partner because we have been conditioned to anticipate things to play out a certain way, and we react accordingly. They share how important it is to heal from our past hurts and to regulate our emotions, so we do not unfairly treat our current partners. Show notes:[1:16] Episode intentions[4:10] Alan shares a good example...2023-03-1320 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#56 - Are You & Your Partner Just Different?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about being vulnerable and open with your partner so you can identify the paradigm that each of you follows. They also share examples of the paradigms and their differences and the effects on the couple and their relationship.Show notes:[0:00] Intro[1:26] Relationship paradigm vs growth paradigm[7:47] Listen to Jason and Lisa Blackstock’s testimonial on Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching[11:00] Fixed mindset[14:09] Growth paradigm and goals[15:52] Ask yourself and your part...2023-03-0623 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#55 - Are You in a Conditional Love Cycle?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about identifying when you are in a conditional love cycle. They discuss how sometimes you can’t see that the relationship you're in is holding you back from flourishing. Maybe you're afraid to do some things because your action will cause your partner to get angry, hurt you, or leave you. This fear should not exist in a healthy relationship with someone who genuinely wants the best for you. Show notes:[2:32] What is a conditional love cy...2023-02-2723 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#54 - When Disaster Strikes, We ______Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about what’s the go-to action or reaction when a crisis happens in a relationship, how you treat each other during that time, and how you treat each other after. They also share such a time in their relationship and how they resolved and got through it together.Show notes:[1:58] Alan and Emilia’s challenge[5:07] How they took action[10:24] Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Rela...2023-02-2021 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#53: Does Your Partner Need Therapy?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they discuss how to determine if your partner needs therapy and how to give them a loving nudge in the right direction. They cover the touchy subject of men being more hesitant about going into therapy and what holds them back. They share the reasons for therapy and the benefits you gain when you finally decide to get a therapist.Show notes:[3:22] Men and therapy[7:37] There is an increasing number of people going to therapy2023-02-1328 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#52 - Top 3 Relationship KillersWelcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they discuss the importance of being aware of the top three relationship killers and navigating around these to protect your relationship and grow with your partner. It is essential that you deal with these bugs in the garden early on or as soon as they crop up in your relationship. The hosts share examples from their past and current relationships to show you the effects of not dealing with these properly and the benefits of handling them with your...2023-02-0629 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#51 - Identifying Toxicity In Your RelationshipWelcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In a healthy relationship, everything just kind of works. Sure, you might disagree from time to time or come upon other bumps in the road. Still, you generally make decisions together, openly discuss any problems that arise, and genuinely enjoy each other’s company. In this episode, they talk about toxicity in a relationship and how you can identify if you have it in yours.Relationship Talks #20: Dialing In Your Love Languages on Feb 9, 2023, 07:00 PM EST: https://bit.ly/3kOavJZ2023-01-3030 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#50 - Creating Your Own RulebookWelcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they discuss the importance of having your relationship’s rulebook instead of following what other people say are the “shoulds and shouldn’t.” especially when you’re in a new relationship; people often share the rules that made their relationships last. Unfortunately, their rules don’t apply to every relationship because everybody is different, and everybody’s relationships run on different core values. So communicate with your partner, identify your core values and what's important for each of you, and never let anyone dic...2023-01-2320 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#49 - What Is Your Attachment StyleWelcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about the different attachment styles. They describe how you develop attachment styles and share a study about them. You can have more than one attachment style and tendencies, depending on your relationship with your caregiver or caregivers when you were a child. Vulnerability plays a huge role in changing your attachment style from an insecure one to a secure attachment style. They also share the adjustments they made in their relationship by tuning in to each other's...2023-01-1625 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#48 - Which Partner is More Focused on the Future?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about being growth-oriented in a relationship and who is more future-focused between you and your partner. A lot of people believe that relationships are synonymous with discomfort. This is because a relationship represents a permanent sacrifice, an uncomfortable place to be in for them. But being in a growth-focused relationship allows you to grow as a person and expand your comfort zone. Getting to that point in your relationship may not be easy, but it’s not im...2023-01-0921 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#47 - Setting Real #RelationshipGoalsWelcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about a higher level of goal-setting for couples. They share examples of couples who set goals together and achieved them. They also discuss how sharing your goals and dreams with your partner or friend can help make them a reality. They also add that it is okay to change your mind about your goals later on, depending on how you’ve grown since you set your goals.Relationship Talks #19: "Understanding You & Your Partner's Attachment Styles"...2023-01-0222 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#46 - When Are You Unintentionally Tuning Your Partner Out?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about a not uncommon scenario in a relationship: when you or your partner tune each other out. Successful relationships are all about healthy communication and listening to each other. However, it's not uncommon for couples to experience periods when talking to each other becomes a challenge and listening is absent. As you think about the possible causes of this ignoring behavior, be sure to consider how well you are listening and holding space for your partner as well – it's ea...2022-12-2623 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#45 - Are You Really Happy In Your Relationship?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they discuss the vital signs of relationships and share their top five cup fillers. Alan describes how he put his finger on the pulse of their relationship one day. Then, they walk us through how they resolve a problem by talking and making the needed adjustment so that they meet their cup-filler requirements and get back on track.Relationship Talks #19: "Understanding You & Your Partner's Attachment Styles" - https://bit.ly/3PjC2y02022-12-1919 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#44 - How Not to Fight in Your RelationshipWelcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. What is your experience with fighting in a relationship? Did you grow up where fighting is constant and regular in your home, or was there no fighting at all? Fighting in a relationship may result from exposure to fights growing up. It appears like a normal part of a relationship because we have seen people in relationships fight. In this episode, they talk about how Alan grew up in a home with lots of fighting while Emilia grew up with none. They...2022-12-1224 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#43 - Overcoming Helplessness in Your RelationshipWelcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Have you ever felt helpless in your relationship? This usually happens when your partner needs help but they are not helping themselves or when a line is crossed. In this episode, they talk about what to do when you feel helpless in your relationship. They go into setting standards for yourself in the relationship, so you know your limits and can make the right decision for yourself in the relationship. Relationship Talks #18: "How To Not Fight in Your Relationship"...2022-12-0523 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#42 - Are You Getting Enough Alone Time In Your Relationship?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Your partner is your favorite person in the whole world – so why do you feel like you need time away from them? Today they talk about getting alone time in your relationship and whether or not you’re getting enough of yours. Being partners doesn’t mean you have to do everything together. Needing space does not necessarily mean your relationship is doomed. Getting enough alone time can help you create a stronger, healthier relationship with your partner.Relationship Talks...2022-11-2824 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#41 - Who Wears the Pants in Your Relationship?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Essentially, wearing the pants in a relationship refers to dominance. The person who wears the pants in a relationship is the one who has more control. But that doesn’t mean that their feelings are stronger or weaker. You can still have a relationship where someone “wears the pants,” and it’s still perfectly healthy. In this episode, they talk about who wears the pants in their relationship and how it’s supposed to be in your relationship. It’s more than just dominan...2022-11-2120 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#40 - Relationship Challenges Working From HomeWelcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. More and more companies are trending to allow some, if not all, of their employees the flexibility to work from home, at least some of the time. The trend for one or both partners to work from home is definitely on the rise. And it comes with one or more challenges. Today they talk about these challenges that partners often go through now that most, if not all, are working from home.Show notes:[1:55] Episode intentions[3:02] Losing your...2022-11-1425 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#39 - Stress-Free Holidays with Your PartnerWelcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. It’s that time of year again. Christmas songs are playing on the radio. decorations are up. and the pressure is on to begin (or finish) your gift shopping. How can our memories of Christmas be so joyful and warm while our holiday reality seems so frantic and packed with things to do and obligations to keep? In today’s episode, they talk about how you can keep your holidays stress-free with your partner while going on the hustling and bustling preparations for...2022-11-0719 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#38 - How to NOT Lose Yourself in Your RelationshipWelcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Relationships are wonderful. And we know how exciting it is when you’re first starting to combine your life with another person. But that can sometimes become our whole world! You don’t connect with your friends as much, you stop doing activities you love, all because you’re totally infatuated with this one person. In this episode, they talk about losing yourself in a new relationship and what to watch out for to avoid it.Show notes:[1:43] Episode intent...2022-10-3122 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#37 - Do You and Your Partner Have Common Goals?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Whether you have common goals with your partner may seem easy to answer, but in reality, it is not. Today they talk about setting goals when you’re in a relationship, figuring out whether you and your partner have the same ones, and what you can do when you feel like you don’t.Show notes:[1:23] Episode intentions[2:01] Getting misaligned with your partner[4:54] You don’t always realize that self-belief is the determining factor between your and your p...2022-10-2420 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#36 - Is Your Partner "Too Emotional"?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Some people are naturally more emotional than others. That’s not a bad thing when those emotions lead to empathy and caring. But let's talk about those "over-the-top" emotional responses to what life dishes out. In today’s episode, they talk about emotions and whether or not you or your partner has emotional mastery.Show notes:[1:26] Episode intentions[2:09] To have a healthy relationship needs emotional mastery for when things go wrong[4:31] The constructed theory of emotion[8:48] It i...2022-10-1722 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#35 - Is Your Partner Triggering You?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. A trigger is something that sets off a memory, a sensation, or an emotion that belongs to another time and place in our lives and leads to an overreaction to what’s happening at the moment. In this episode, they talk about the importance of knowing your attachment style and your relationship's triggers.Relationship Talks #16: "Building Lasting Trust In Your Relationship" on Oct 13, 2022, 07:00 PM, EST - https://bit.ly/3DizkVCShow notes:[1:20] Episode intentions[1:56] What is be...2022-10-1021 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#34 - Have You Had "The Money Conversation"?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Talking about money in relationships is inherently awkward, especially when you’ve never done it before. Or if you have and it didn’t go well. Today they talk about the importance of having that conversation in your relationship. It can be an uncomfortable topic, but everyone has to start somewhere. Show notes:[1:52] Episode intentions[3:41] What is your relationship with money?[7:51] Your relationship with money scrapes every facet of your life[9:50] Lynn Nguyen on her Relationship Talk...2022-10-0320 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#33 - Thriving in the Messy MiddleWelcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Our comfort zone is the safest place we can ever be in. But that’s also where we find the least amount of growth if there’s any. In this episode, they talk about how you can grow by finding the balance or the messy middle in your relationship. They also share what you can do to find that balance between extremes.Show notes:[1:49] Episode intentions[2:56] The all-or-nothing thinking[8:20] You will become stagnant when you have zero room...2022-09-2621 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#32 - Is Compromise a Lie?Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they discuss whether or not compromise is a lie in a relationship. We’ve all heard that “marriage or a relationship is about compromise” talk. It’s like a rite of passage that marriage veterans pass on to singles or couples who are considering tying the knot. But the truth is, blending your life with another person will have its struggles no matter how similar your interests are. The key is to understand who you both are outside of that relationship and appr...2022-09-1927 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#31 - I'm Not A Mind ReaderWelcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they discuss the expectation that one partner knows what the other needs or wants and how this can jeopardize a relationship. In a relationship, there is often a perception that nobody knows you better than your partner. The longer your relationship, the more that perception creates an expectation that a partner should instinctively know what you need. It may appear that what you think, feel, and need at that moment is obvious. However, if you are not bringing those...2022-09-1219 minThe Conscious Couples Podcast#30 - How to 'Win' at LoveWelcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they share how you can win at love whether you’re single or in a relationship. Winning at love is a complex concept. But if you’re willing to do the work, you will be able to reap positive results for your relationship.Relationship Talks #15: Overcoming the Fixed Mindset in Your Relationship: https://bit.ly/3woz4QGShow notes:[2:52] Intentions for the episode[4:04] Keep the positive ratios high[11:25] Alicia Romanowiz shar...2022-09-0523 min