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Anger Secrets139 - Can People Really Change? The Truth About Anger ManagementFor more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs dives into the idea that real change in anger management is possible, even if it feels like nothing works. By the end of the episode, listeners will understand that anger management is a skill that can be learned, not just a trait they are stuck with.Alastair also emphasises that with the right tools and support, transformation is achievable, and that you are not alone on this anger management journey.Key Takeaways: Admitting...2025-06-2909 min
Anger Management33 - What Is Anger, Abuse and Violence?For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Anger is a natural human emotion, but how you react to it matters a lot. In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs dives into the differences between anger, abuse and violence. Alastair explains that feeling angry doesn't mean someone is abusive; it's about how actions can impact others. Alastair also discusses how harmful behaviors that can stem from anger can be changed with awareness and effort. Recognising patterns of abuse and violence is a brave first step toward healthier relationships and...2025-06-1513 minAnger Secrets138 - Four Behaviors That Will End Your MarriageFor more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs dives into four key behaviors that lead to the end of marriages, based on research by Dr. John Gottman. Alastair discusses how these behaviors often creep in unnoticed, slowly eroding trust and connection in relationships. He emphasises that criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling are crucial patterns to recognise. Each behavior has its antidote, which can help partners communicate better and rebuild their relationship. By addressing these issues, couples can create a more loving and...2025-06-1510 minAnger Management32 - Five Skills That Can Save A RelationshipFor more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.In this episode anger expert Alastair Duhs delves into the idea that the real danger in conflict isn't about winning the argument, but rather about losing connection with one's partner. Alastair emphasises that proving a point often comes at a high cost to trust and closeness.Learn five strategies that encourage understanding and respect during conflicts, including highlighting the importance of listening and maintaining respectful dialogue. By focusing on understanding your partner rather than winning, relationships can grow stronger even through tough conversations.2025-06-0815 minAnger Secrets136 - Mastering the Art of Apologising: 7 Key TipsFor more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs discusses the importance of a genuine apology and how it can truly heal relationships. He shares how many people struggle with apologising effectively, often just saying "I'm sorry" without understanding what it really means, and shares seven practical tips to help listeners make their apologies more meaningful. From acknowledging mistakes to committing to real change, Alastair emphasises that a heartfelt apology can rebuild trust and repair damage. By taking these steps, he believes people...2025-06-0810 minAnger Management31 - The Power of Walking Away — The Right WayFor more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.A Time-Out can be a powerful tool for managing anger. In today’s podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs discusses how to use a Time-Out effectively to cool down before anger escalates too far. Alastair emphasises that it's not about avoiding issues but about taking a moment to self-regulate. This episode highlights the importance of recognising physical and emotional cues that signal it's time for a Time-Out and how to re-connect after cooling down.By using Time-Outs wisely, listeners can foster calmer, he...2025-06-0116 minAnger Secrets130 - Fighting Fair: 3 Proven Rules to Save Your RelationshipFor more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Fighting with loved ones can be tough. In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs dives into why the fights happens and how to handle them better. Learn how small issues, like a forgotten anniversary or a simple comment, can escalate into big arguments, leaving both partners feeling hurt. To break this cycle of anger and arguments, Alastair introduces three essential rules for fighting fair. These rules help couples see arguments as chances to connect, keep communication respectful and work together to find solutions. 2025-04-2710 minAnger Secrets126 - The Hidden Prison of MasculinityFor more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Many men wear masks that hide their true feelings, making it hard for them to connect with themselves and others. In this episode, host Alastair Duhs talks about how these masks can suffocate men and keep them isolated. Alastair emphasises that being vulnerable and honest doesn’t make a man weak; it makes him human. By choosing a new way to express manhood, men can lead happier lives and set a better example for future generations.Key Takeaways: Men often we...2025-03-3009 minAnger Management19 - Building Self-Awareness: Three Tips for Anger ManagementFor more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Self-awareness is the key to controlling anger. Many people don’t realise they’re getting angry until it’s too late, leading to regret and damaged relationships. In this episode of the Anger Management podcast, host Alastair Duhs shares three powerful tips to help listeners recognise their anger early, stay in control, and respond thoughtfully instead of reacting impulsively. By identifying your personal anger triggers, using a pause before reacting, and paying attention to your early warning signs of ang...2025-03-0916 minAnger Secrets120 - 5 Tips To Resolve Relationship ConflictFor more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Navigating conflict in romantic relationships can be challenging, but it’s essential for building stronger connections. In this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast, host Alastair Duhs shares five proven tips to help couples manage disagreements constructively.By emphasising the importance of controlling anger, avoiding the urge to win arguments and focusing on understanding your partner’s perspective, you can transform heated discussions into opportunities for growth. Alastair also encourages listeners to choose their battles wisely, ensuring that not every issue beco...2025-02-1609 minAnger Secrets119 - Time-Out Made SimpleFor more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Taking a Time-Out is an effective tool for controlling your anger. In this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast you will learn how to use Time-Outs to step back and cool down before conflicts escalate. Host Alastair Duhs shares actionable tips for implementing Time-Out effectively in your relationship, ensuring both you and your partner feel respected and heard. Join Alastair as he provides insights from over 30 years of anger management experience, empowering you to create a calmer, happier and more loving relationships.2025-02-0911 minAnger Management14 - Three Steps To Create Better RelationshipsFor more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Do you find want to create a better relationship? Join Alastair Duhs as he introduces three essential strategies for managing anger and improving communication with your partner.Through insightful discussions with AI hosts Jake and Sarah, you'll learn practical techniques to recognise anger triggers, practice active listening and dedicate meaningful time to your relationship. By implementing these steps, you'll not only enhance your emotional awareness but also foster a more respectful and loving environment with your loved ones. Key...2025-02-0218 minAnger Management12 - Five Warning Signs Of Anger You Shouldn't IgnoreFor more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Are you struggling with controlling your anger and find that small triggers set you off? This episode dives into five warning signs of anger that you shouldn't ignore, along with practical strategies to help you manage anger effectively. Host Alastair Duhs shares his extensive experience in anger management, guiding listeners through the nuances of recognising when anger is impacting their relationships. AI assistants Jake and Sarah engage in a conversational exploration of these signs, discussing how easily frustration can build up and the...2025-01-1914 minAnger Management11 - The ABC Model Of Anger ManagementFor more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.The ABC model of anger management is a powerful tool that can help individuals take control of their emotions and transform their responses to anger. By focusing on three key components—awareness, beliefs, and communication—listeners can learn to identify their anger triggers and understand the thoughts fuelling their emotional reactions. This episode delves into recognising early warning signs of rising anger, challenging the beliefs that exacerbate frustration, and employing effective communication strategies to navigate conflicts constructively. With insi...2025-01-1216 minAnger Secrets113 - Do You Have Anger Issues?For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Does anger affects your relationships, your family or your well-being? How do you know if you have an anger issue? If so, you are not alone.Learn the signs that indicate your anger may be crossing a line into problematic territory. Host Alastair Duhs shares key insights on how to recognise unhealthy expressions of anger, such as quick escalations, prolonged resentment and harmful impacts on your loved ones. By understanding these signs, you can take actionable steps towards managing your anger...2024-12-2910 minAnger Secrets112 - Stop Judging And Transform Your Relationship TodayFor more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Judgmental thinking is a pervasive issue that sabotages personal relationships and impacts emotional well-being. This episode of the Anger Secrets podcast delves into the instinctive human tendency to judge others, examining its origins in our evolutionary past where quick assessments of people and situations were crucial for survival. Alastair Duhs, the podcast host, emphasises how this survival instinct has morphed into a detrimental habit that can create conflict and disconnect in modern relationships. By sharing a powerful ancient Buddhist story about...2024-12-2211 minAnger Secrets111 - Mastering Anger in The Workplace: 3 Key Strategies You NeedFor more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. Workplace anger is a pervasive issue, affecting approximately one in five American workers daily. With the pressures of tight deadlines, demanding schedules, and diverse personalities, it's no surprise that conflicts arise in professional settings. In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs offers listeners concrete strategies to manage anger effectively in the workplace. The episode emphasises three key strategies: taking a brief pause before reacting, reframing the situation and practicing clear communication. These techniques not only help individuals control their immediate reactions but also...2024-12-1511 minAnger Secrets110 - Why I Do This Work - Syrus's StoryFor more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. After spending over 30 years teaching over 15,000 men and women to control their anger, why does anger expert Alastair Duhs do this work?In this episode, Alastair answers this question by sharing an interview with Syrus, a man who has undergone a remarkable transformation from struggling with anger and abuse to a life embracing vulnerability and compassion. In this episode Syrus recounts his initial reluctance to seek help and the pivotal moment when he realised the extent of his anger's impact on his wife...2024-12-0816 minAnger Secrets109 - Breaking Free From Emotional AbuseFor more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. Emotional abuse is a serious issue that can leave deep, lasting scars on both victims and perpetrators. This episode of the Anger Secrets podcast delves into the nature of emotional abuse, exploring its various forms and the significant impact it can have on relationships. Show host Alastair Duhs outlines five essential steps to help individuals recognise and break free from emotionally abusive behaviors, emphasising the importance of self-awareness and taking responsibility for one's actions. By understanding the effects of emotional abuse...2024-12-0111 minAnger Management4 - Discover Your Anger Triggers!Recognising your anger triggers is key to maintaining control of your anger and fostering healthier relationships. In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs, alongside his AI assistants Jake and Sarah, delves into practical strategies to identify what sets off anger and how to navigate these reactions effectively. Learn about the importance of self-awareness, checking with your emotional states regularly and recognising your early warning signs of anger. This episode also highlights the role of thoughts in the anger process, suggesting ways to challenge negative thinking patterns that exacerbate feelings of frustration. By understanding your personal...2024-11-2416 minAnger Secrets108 - Anger Management for Parents: Simple Steps Towards A Calmer HomeFor more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Parents often face overwhelming situations that can easily lead to angry outbursts, affecting both themselves and their children. Learning to control this anger is essential for fostering a calmer, happier family life. In this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast, host Alastair Duhs shares practical techniques designed for parents to manage their anger effectively. Key strategies include using the STOP approach, using I statements for communication, and prioritizing self-care. By implementing these methods, parents can break the cycle of anger and...2024-11-2410 minAnger Secrets107 - Is Anger Really a Choice? Discover the Truth Behind Your AngerFor more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Is anger truly a choice? This episode of the Anger Secrets podcast delves into this profound question, exploring both the superficial and deeper aspects of whether anger is truly a choice. Anger expert Alastair Duhs explains that while feeling angry is a natural human emotion, how you respond to that anger is where your choice lies. By becoming aware of your emotional triggers and recognising your early warning signs of anger, you can regain control of your emotions and decide how...2024-11-1708 minAnger Management1 - Welcome to the Anger Management Podcast!Does anger seem to control you, instead of the other way around? This welcome episode of the Anger Management Podcast introduces you to powerful tools and strategies designed to help you control your anger effectively and create a more peaceful life. Join host Alastair Duhs, with over 30 years of experience, as he shares his knowledge and insights to guide listeners on their journey toward anger mastery. AI assistants Jake and Sarah join the discussion, outlining what you can expect from future episodes, including techniques for recognising anger triggers, effective communication skills and personal growth through...2024-11-1309 minAnger Secrets106 - Mindfulness And Anger ManagementFor more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. Mindfulness is an important practice for anyone struggling with anger issues, as emphasised by Alastair Duhs in this insightful podcast episode. In this episode Alastair elaborates on the essence of mindfulness—being fully present and aware without judgment—and its crucial role in defusing anger. By cultivating mindfulness, you can learn to recognise your emotional triggers and respond to them intentionally, rather than reacting instinctively, which often leads to regrettable outbursts. This episode breaks down three valuable mindfulness techniques: deep breathing, body...2024-11-1011 minAnger Secrets105 - The 5 Love Languages: A Path To Happier RelationshipsDo you feel you and your partner speak different languages when it comes to love and affection?Or perhaps you and your partner struggle to understand each other's needs and desires.Or maybe you've heard about the 5 Love Languages idea before but aren't quite sure how to apply it in your relationship.If any of these situations sound familiar, this episode is for you!In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs delves into the concept of the 5 love languages. The episode explores what the 5 love...2024-11-0309 minAnger Secrets104 - Breaking The Anger Cycle: A Story Of TransformationAre you fed up with losing your temper with the people you love most?Do you recognise that you need help managing your anger but need help figuring out where to start?Or perhaps you're painfully aware of the devastating consequences your anger has caused, yet you can't find the motivation to change.If any of this resonates with you, then this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast is what you need.In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs delves into the profound journey of Colin, a 38...2024-10-2714 minAnger Secrets103 - The Winner's Triangle: How To Escape the Drama TriangleDo you often feel trapped in the same patterns of conflict with your partner?Have you noticed that your relationship sometimes feels like a game in which someone always blames, rescues, or feels like the victim?Do you want to break free from toxic relationship dynamics and create a calmer, happier and more understanding relationship?If you have answered "Yes" to any of these questions, this episode is for you.In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs introduces the Winner’s Triangle, a powerful model created by Au...2024-10-2010 minAnger Secrets102 - Escape the Drama Triangle: Transforming Toxic RelationshipsAre you tired of being stuck in the same argument again and again?Do you feel like you're caught in a never-ending cycle of drama, conflict, and emotional chaos in your relationship?Are you ready to break free from toxic relationship dynamics and take your relationship to a new level of understanding and respect?If you have answered "Yes" to any of these questions, this episode is for you.In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs introduces listeners to the Drama Triangle, a model developed by Stephen...2024-10-1312 minAnger Secrets101 - How To Build Self-AwarenessIn Episode 101 of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs explores the critical role of self-awareness in anger management. Self-awareness is the foundation of controlling your anger and making thoughtful decisions, and today's discussion spotlights three transformative tips to enhance this skill. From recognising the subtle signals your body sends during early agitation to understanding personal anger triggers, these insights are designed to empower you to take charge of your reactions. Join us as we unravel practical strategies to transform anger into opportunities for growth and create more harmonious interactions in your daily...2024-10-0609 minAnger Secrets100 - Celebrating 100 Episodes: Real Stories of Anger TransformationWelcome to the milestone 100th episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast! In this special episode, host Alastair Duhs reflects on the journey of creating valuable anger management content over the past two years. Known for providing practical anger management strategies, this podcast is all about inspiring you with real-life success stories from individuals who have conquered their anger through Alastair's comprehensive course, the Complete Anger Management System. Tune in to learn how profound change is not only possible but within your reach.Key Takeaways:Transformational Journeys: Hear from past...2024-09-2911 minAnger Secrets95 - Is Anger Change Sustainable? Michael's StoryHave you thought about doing an anger management course, but worried that you won't make any changes? Or maybe you've thought: Even if I do learn how to control my anger in the short term, these changes won't last long term?If you can relate to these concerns, then you're not alone. In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs talk to Michael, a 78-year-old retiree who completed an online anger management program 18 months ago. The episode delves into Michael's significant changes in managing anger, particularly with his family, and...2024-08-2514 minAnger Secrets94 - The Ten Rules Of Anger ManagementAre you tired of letting anger control your life? Has someone told you that your temper is getting out of control? If so, you're not alone.In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs uncovers the Ten Rules of Anger Management that can transform your life.From understanding the key to managing anger to recognising when to seek professional help, Alastair provides a comprehensive guide to conquering anger and enhancing your relationships.Here are some of the key topics discussed in this episode:Taking Responsibility for Your Actions:2024-08-1811 minAnger Secrets93 - Transform Your Relationship With The Magic Six HoursCan just six hours a week transform your relationship? According to relationship expert Dr. John Gottman, the answer is "Yes". In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs reveals the transformative power of Dr. John Gottman's "Magic Six Hours." Learn how dedicating just six hours a week can significantly enhance your relationship, bringing more happiness, love, and fulfillment into your life. The seven essential steps to implement the Magic Six Hours are as follows:Partings: Begin your day with a meaningful goodbye.Reunions: Reconnect consciously after being apart.Appreciation / Admiration: Express gr...2024-08-1111 minAnger Secrets92 - 3 Ways To Let Go Of Your AngerAre you tired of feeling angry all the time? Do you find it hard to let go of your anger, even when it hurts you and those around you? If so, you're not alone. In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs reveals three powerful mindset shifts to help you let go of your anger and find more peace. Alastair dives deep into the psychological strategies that can transform your response to anger, leading to a calmer and happier life.These mindset shifts include:Practice Acceptance: Focus on what...2024-08-0408 minAnger Secrets91 - 4 Steps To Becoming A Better Listener In Your RelationshipAre you tired of constant arguments in your relationship? Do you feel like you and your partner are never on the same page? Do you wish you could communicate more effectively and improve your relationship?If so, you're not alone. In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs delves into practical strategies for becoming a better listener in your relationships. Alastair outlines four essential steps to enhance your listening skills and foster healthier, more meaningful communication with your partner. These steps include:Using Minimal Encouragers: Demonstrate active listening through...2024-07-2808 minAnger Secrets90 - How To Control Anger In 30 Days Or LessIn this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs discusses how to control your anger in 30 days or less.Alastairs shares three critical steps to manage anger, including short and long-term strategies for controlling anger and how to build a healthier relationship. Additionally, Alastair highlights success stories from individuals who have transformed their lives through his online anger management program.Key strategies mentioned in this episode to control anger include recognising and managing your Early Warning Signs of anger, using Cognitive Restructuring to change thought patterns and developing effective communication skills. ...2024-07-2111 minAnger Secrets89 - How to Improve Your Relationship In 3 Simple StepsDo you and your partner argue with each other frequently? Is your relationship lacking in communication and understanding? Are you and your partner drifting apart and you don't know how to stop it?If you answered "Yes" to any of these questions, in this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs dives into three powerful steps to enhance your relationship: addressing anger issues, improving communication skills, and implementing Dr. John Gottman's "Magic Six Hours." Tune in to learn practical tips, habits, and insights that can lead to a stronger, healthier, and happier relationship.2024-07-1408 minAnger Secrets88 - 3 Mindfulness Exercises For Anger ManagementDo you struggle to control your anger? Have you tried to control your anger but still feel overwhelmed and out of control? Do you want to learn practical exercises based on the principles of mindfulness to help you control your temper ?If you answered "Yes to any of these questions, in today's episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs describes into three powerful mindfulness exercises designed to help you manage anger more effectively. From deep breathing techniques to mindful observation, these exercises are practical tools you can use anytime, anywhere. But remember, professional gu...2024-07-0711 minAnger Secrets87 - Should I Do a Face-to-Face or Online Anger Management Program?Do you lose your temper at those closest to you? Are your angry outbursts leaving you feeling lonely, isolated and ashamed? Have you Googled "how to control my anger" too many times to admit and are still confused about your best anger management option?If you answered "Yes" to any of these questions, in this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast host Alastair Duhs dives into the debate: "Should I do a face-to-face or online anger management program?" Discover firsthand experiences from Alastair's clients and explore recent research that highlights the effectiveness of online programs...2024-06-3011 minAnger Secrets86 - 7 Common Anger Management Mistakes People MakeDo you struggle to control your anger? Have you gone to anger management counseling or therapy sessions but still lose your temper in stressful situations? Do you want to learn how to effectively control your anger and improve your relationships with others? If you answered "Yes" to any of these questions, this episode is for you. In this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast, host Alastair Duhs dives deep into the pitfalls that can hinder your progress in managing anger and provides actionable tips to navigate these challenges. From not recognising your Early...2024-06-2311 minAnger Secrets85 - How to Tell If You Have Anger IssueDo you find it difficult to stay calm in stressful situations? Do you lash out at others, even over minor inconveniences or disagreements? Has someone close to you, perhaps your partner or a family member, told you that your anger scares them?If you answered "Yes" to any of these questions, this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast is for you! In it, host Alastair Duhs delves into a crucial topic that can impact every aspect of your life: how to tell if you have an anger issue. Alastair explores seven key signs that indicate...2024-06-1611 minAnger Secrets79 - How To STOP AngerHave you ever found yourself regretting something you said in a moment of anger? Do you feel like your temper sometimes takes control of you, instead of you being in control of your temper?Are you been looking for ways to better control your anger and prevent it from negatively impacting your relationships and daily life?If you answered "Yes!" to any of these questions, then this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast is for you. In this episode, host Alastair Duhs dives deep into the powerful STOP model of anger...2024-05-0512 minAnger Secrets77 - What Are Your Anger Triggers?In this power-packed episode of the Anger Secrets podcast, host Alastair Duhs dives deep into how to identify and handle your anger triggers. If you've ever found yourself reacting impulsively in a heat of anger or struggling to keep your cool in stressful situations, this episode is for you!What You'll Learn:How to identify your personal anger triggersHow to use an anger diary in recognising patterns and initiating change.Techniques for spotting your Early Warning Signs of AngerThe power of Cognitive Reframing in altering your emotional reactions and promoting mental well-being.The importance...2024-04-2110 minAnger Secrets76 - What Is Healthy Anger?Can anger be expressed in a healthy way?In this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast, host Alastair Duhs explores this question and shares the distinction between healthy and unhealthy expressions of anger. Drawing from over 30 years of experience teaching more than 15,000 men and women how to control their anger, Alastair acknowledges argues that while anger often leads to negative outcomes, it can serve positive purposes when expressed constructively.In this episode you will learn what constitutes healthy anger and the differences between healthy and unhealthy anger.Alastair also provides practical...2024-04-1408 minAnger Secrets75 - The No. 1 Thing That Makes A Relationship SuccessfulDo you want to create a happy, healthy and passionate long-term relationship?In this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast, host Alastair Duhs explores the significance of primary loving relationships for happiness and success in life. Alastair introduces his upcoming relationship coaching program, "Reignite My Relationship", which aims to help couples foster happier, more loving, and passionate relationships through effective communication, developing intimacy, shared goals and much more. The core of the episode delves into a lesson from the program, highlighting friendship as the paramount factor in the success of romantic relationships. Citing...2024-04-0713 minAnger Secrets74 - How To Rebuild Your Relationship After SeparationHave you and your partner separated due to anger issues? If so, this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast is for you. In this episode, host Alastair Duhs explores the challenge of rebuilding a relationship after separation caused by anger issues. While this is difficult, it can be done!In this episode, Alastair outlines a five-step process for individuals looking to reconcile and rebuild their relationships. These steps include dealing with one's anger issues, accepting responsibility for the impact of one's anger, reestablishing contact when appropriate, showing evidence of change and working on...2024-03-3112 minAnger Secrets73 - Mastering Anger In RelationshipsDo you struggle to control your anger with your partner?If so, you are not alone. But it is vital that you learn to control your anger as soon as possible.In this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast, host Alastair Duhs revisits strategies to master your anger in relationships.Anger is a natural human emotion and it's normal to feel angry from time to time. However, if your anger becomes too intense in your relationship, it will cause significant damage. And even worse, it can very easily result in the end of...2024-03-2410 minAnger Secrets72 - The Art of Relationship RepairIn this episode, host Alastair Duhs provides advice on how to avoid escalating conflicts in relationships. Drawing on the work of relationship expert Dr. John Gottman, Alastair discusses the concept of relationship repair, or the ability to deescalate conflicts and resolve them harmlessly. You will learn how to recognise signs of escalating conflict, the importance of valuing the relationship over the conflict, and how to make repair attempts to deescalate conflict. Alastair offers practical examples of relationship repair attempts and emphasises the significance of accepting and acknowledging repair attempts from your partner.2024-03-1708 minAnger Secrets71 - Don't Sweat The Small Stuff!In this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast, host Alastair Duhs discusses the importance of not sweating the small stuff in life.Alastair describes how small issues often escalate into larger conflicts, and why this is. This episode will teach you to take a step back before responding to situations, question the long-term significance of any issue you are facing and practice gratitude. Alastair also shares his personal perspective on the value of focusing on the important aspects, and why he does not sweat the small stuff!Finally, Alastair shares how...2024-03-1011 minAnger Secrets70 - Beware! Hidden Killers Of Your Relationship Revealed!In this episode, host Alastair Duhs discusses four behaviors that quietly kill any relationship.You will learn what these behaviors are, real-life examples of these behaviors and the "antidotes" (or opposites) to these behaviors.If you want to create a calmer, happier and more loving relationship, this episode is for you.Alastair discusses the importance of managing anger in maintaining a happy, healthy and loving relationship. He also introduces his powerful online anger management coaching program called The Complete Anger Management System.For more information on this powerful program visit:2024-03-0312 minAnger Secrets69 - Transforming Relationships Through Active ListeningIn episode 69 of the Anger Secrets podcast, host Alastair Duhs discusses the power of active listening to transform relationships.This episode will teach you:what active listening iswhy it is so important, andwhat the four key skills of active listening are.You will also discover how active listening can help you create calmer, healthier and more loving relationships. For further resources (and a FREE training) on how to control your anger visit:https://angersecrets.com/Remember too that struggle with anger is a common issue, but one you...2024-02-2510 minAnger Secrets68 - Why Do You Want To Control Your Anger?In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs addresses an important question to ask while seeking to control your anger: 'Why do you want to control your anger?Alastair describes why knowing your motivation for change is crucial to successfully controlling your anger. Various responses to this question from clients, often complex and deeply personal, are shared, demonstrating the different reasons people seek to control their anger. Key motivations include everything from bettering relationships, setting positive examples, breaking the cycle of anger or abusive behaviors, to leading...2024-02-1810 min