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The Language Alchemy Podcast177. Stop Sounding Like Customer Service in Your Own Relationships: Breaking Free From Communication FormulasMany of us still rely on communication habits that took root when we were children. Maybe you avoid speaking up because you’re afraid of ruffling feathers. Maybe you say yes when you really mean no. Or maybe you fall back on language that sounds dramatic when what you actually want is to feel understood. These patterns once served a purpose, but they don’t support the authentic, connected relationships we want as adults.
In this episode, Alejandra Siroka invites you to consider a different approach. Instead of memorizing lines or following a formula, she share...
2025-08-2722 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast176. Your Unexamined Childhood Language Patterns Are Sabotaging Your Adult RelationshipsTransform the way you speak to yourself, life, and others to open the door to deeper connection, stronger confidence, and real personal growth.
Alejandra Siroka invites you to see communication as more than words exchanged between people. It is the thread that shapes your relationships, your self-image, and your sense of possibility. The language you use with yourself can lift you up or hold you back. The beliefs you carry about life can expand your world or keep it small. The way you speak to others can build trust or create distance.
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2025-08-1319 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast175. Breaking Free from the Mental Spin Cycle - Why ‘Being the Better Person’ Backfires (And What Actually Works)Trying to be the better person in a conflict might be the very thing keeping you stuck and silently seething.
Alejandra Siroka takes a closer look at what really happens when we avoid hard conversations in the name of maturity or keeping the peace. This episode explores the spin cycle, that mental loop we fall into when unresolved conflict plays on repeat, and offers a more meaningful way forward using values-based communication. Avoiding the conversation might feel like the safer choice, but at what cost to your sense of self?
Through he...
2025-07-3021 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast174. 3 Costly Mistakes We Make with Long-standing ConflictsLong-standing conflicts have a way of taking root, not just in relationships, but in our own internal dialogue. In this episode, Alejandra Siroka unpacks three common patterns that tend to keep conflict alive for months or even years: overinflating the other person’s flaws through harsh judgment, resigning ourselves to the belief that they won’t change, and getting stuck in an exhausting mental spin cycle that loops through frustration, resentment, and self-criticism.
Through the story of Priya and her mother-in-law, Penny, Alejandra illustrates how seemingly subtle comments can spiral into full-blown internal battles when left...
2025-07-1617 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast173. Stop Relationship Arguments Before They Start: Discover Your Time Communication TypeYour arguments about being late or craving more structure might have less to do with behavior and more to do with how your brain relates to time. Could the tension you feel with a partner, friend, or colleague be tied to a mismatch in how you each experience it?
Alejandra Siroka joins life coach Sara L. Allen to talk about the concept of time types, how some people live in a more fluid, expansive relationship with time, while others move through it with structure and intention. Alejandra explains the difference between these time-type brain patterns, a...
2025-07-0225 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast172. Q&A - Staying Grounded When Your Partner’s Emotions Trigger Your OwnWhat do you do when someone you love is overwhelmed and their emotions start to overwhelm you? Alejandra Siroka takes on a familiar dynamic: one partner is in distress, and the other feels pulled into that emotional current, unsure how to stay present without getting swept away. It starts with a question from a listener named Sekani, who describes getting anxious when his girlfriend feels anxious about politics. He wants to show up with care and compassion, but instead, he ends up in reactive mode.
Alejandra offers a clear explanation for what’s happening here. It’...
2025-06-1827 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast170. Developing Assertive Communication: 4 Tools to Express Yourself Without AggressionAssertive and aggressive communication can feel surprisingly similar, so how do you know which one you’re using, and how it’s affecting the people around you?
In this episode, Alejandra Siroka explains the real difference between the two, especially for those who’ve been told they’re “too much” when they were simply being clear. She talks about how gender, culture, and power shape the way assertiveness is perceived, and how easy it is to second-guess yourself when those old labels echo in your head.
You’ll hear a relatable example from home...
2025-05-2120 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast169. How Non-aggressive Is Your Communication? Part 3Some of the most hurtful communication habits are the ones we’ve been taught to see as normal.
In this episode, Alejandra Siroka offers a reflection on four aggressive patterns that often show up in everyday conversations: stonewalling, gaslighting, passive aggression, and name-calling. These aren’t always loud or obvious. Sometimes they sound like silence. Sometimes they come wrapped in sarcasm, or disguised as concern.
How do we create safety in our relationships when we’re feeling overwhelmed or misunderstood? What does it take to speak honestly without causing harm?
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2025-05-0724 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast168. How Non-aggressive Is Your Communication? Part 2Most of us don’t mean to hurt the people we care about. So why do certain conversations leave others feeling unseen, dismissed, or blamed?
In this episode, Alejandra Siroka continues her series on aggressive communication by shining a light on four patterns that often go unnoticed: dismissing, derogatory criticism, blame shifting, and bringing up the past. These habits show up in everyday moments, during a disagreement with a partner, a comment at work, or a response to a child’s frustration, and they quietly chip away at connection.
Alejandra shares exampl...
2025-04-2320 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast167. How Non-aggressive Is Your Communication? Part 1Most of us say we want peace in our relationships. So why do we still use words that create tension, distance, or even hurt?
In this episode, Alejandra Siroka invites us to take a closer look at the everyday language we use and how some of it may be doing more harm than we realize. Without meaning to, we may be speaking in ways that shut others down, leads them to feel small, or quietly chip away at trust. Where do those habits come from? And how can we shift toward language that helps people f...
2025-04-0928 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast166. From Silence to Bravery: Rowena Chiu’s Harvey Weinstein Sexual Assault StoryRowena Chiu spent 20 years unable to speak about her sexual assault after signing an NDA. Now, she’s using her voice to challenge power and change how we talk about trauma, truth, and legacy.
Joining Alejandra Siroka in this episode, Rowena reflects on the cultural silence she grew up with as the daughter of Chinese immigrants, and how emotional scarcity and obedience shaped her response to assault. As a former assistant to Harvey Weinstein, she was coerced into signing a non-disclosure agreement that kept her silent for two decades. That silence was compounded by a cul...
2025-03-2641 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast164. Rekindling Self-Love in Uncertain Times: 6 Communication Practices for Emotional ResilienceHeartbreak with life is real, but the way back is through truth, presence, and radical love.
When the world feels heavy, how do we hold onto love for life, for ourselves, and for each other? Alejandra Siroka breaks it down with three simple but powerful ways to lean into love. Grounding in the present helps quiet fear. Practicing radical tenderness is an act of strength. Serving others restores a sense of purpose.
But what about the moments when love for life starts slipping away? Alejandra shares three practices to keep that co...
2025-02-2620 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast163. Stop Rehashing Conversations in Your Head. Do this 6-step Practice InsteadThe way we communicate isn’t just about what we say. It’s about the courage to ask how our words land and the impact they leave behind.
Alejandra Siroka explores the power of checking in on the impact of our words, not to seek validation, but to show care and build trust. She shares a personal story about a conversation with a friend, whose intentional follow-up turned a potentially difficult discussion into a moment of deeper understanding. Through this, Alejandra reveals how a willingness to ask, ‘How did my words land with you?’ can transform...
2025-02-1217 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast161. Safety and Connection: The Heart of Every Relationship“Connection is present in a relationship when we feel accepted as we are.”
What makes relationships thrive? In this episode, Alejandra Siroka shares the two values she believes are at the heart of every meaningful relationship: safety and connection. Drawing from her personal experiences and years of coaching, Alejandra shows us how these values shape the way we interact and build trust with others.
Alejandra shares a childhood story that points out how connection can repair even the most tender moments of conflict. What does it mean to feel safe in a relat...
2025-01-1519 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast160. 4 Essential Ingredients in Healthy RelationshipHealthy relationships start with honest conversations, mutual respect, and the courage to share what matters most. In this episode, Alejandra Siroka shares four insights for healthier relationships, and offers tools to help us deepen our connections in the year ahead.
What does it mean to truly reveal your inner experience—your feelings, values, and needs—to those you care about? Alejandra shares a relatable story of a couple stuck in surface-level conversations, using it to point out how vulnerability and open communication can bring people closer. She talks about the core values of safety and conne...
2025-01-0118 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast158. 7 Tips to Talk About Politics with Family During the Holidays“If we keep avoiding difficult topics, how are we going to learn to address them?” Alejandra Siroka poses this question with urgency and clarity. She reminds us that “having different political views is not a problem. In fact, it is healthy to have people who see the world, the problems of the world, and the potential solutions in multiple ways.”
In this episode, Alejandra shares practical advice on fostering healthy conversations about politics with family members. What happens when a holiday gathering feels overshadowed by divisive topics? Can we bridge the gap without compromising connection? She belie...
2024-12-0417 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast157. Transform Communication Anxiety in 5 Simple Steps“Anxiety is a common human experience,” says Alejandra Siroka, as she shines a light on communication anxiety—something many of us face, especially during the holidays or in tense social situations. How can we speak with clarity and confidence when nerves take over? In this episode, Alejandra offers five simple steps to help shift the dynamic.
From grounding yourself through mindful breathing to visualizing more positive interactions, Alejandra shares tools that calm the nervous system and build confidence. She reminds us of the power of preparation—having thoughtful topics or questions ready can turn an anxious c...
2024-11-2017 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast156. The War in Gaza: How 2 Friends, an Arab American and an Israeli American Found Common Ground Despite Their Different Views Part 2“The Jews aren’t going anywhere. The Palestinians aren’t going anywhere. They’re either going to live there side-by-side fighting forever, or they’re going to live side-by-side in peace somehow.”
In this episode, Alejandra Siroka continues her conversation with Kawthar Duncan and Noam Szoke—two friends whose backgrounds might suggest they’d be on opposite sides of the debate. How do you sustain a friendship when the world around you seems divided? Through open dialogue and genuine care, Kawthar and Noam share how they’ve navigated the emotional complexities of the ongoing conflict in Gaza while maint...
2024-11-0626 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast153. How to Respond to Compliments“How can you respond to compliments skillfully? To respond skillfully, you need to be rooted in your own being,” Alejandra Siroka shares as she discusses the nature of receiving compliments. Many of us avoid or downplay praise because we feel uncomfortable. Why is that? While compliments are intended to express appreciation, they can sometimes feel like judgments, causing discomfort.
Alejandra points out that our uneasiness may stem from past experiences, societal expectations, or even the dynamic between the person giving and receiving the compliment. Have you ever found yourself quickly returning a compliment, brushing it off...
2024-09-2517 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast152. How Listeners Use the Podcast to Have Conscious Relationships“I do these podcasts for you, and it is really you—along with my commitment to providing transformative communication tools for free—that keeps me going,” says Alejandra Siroka. As the Language Alchemy podcast celebrates its third anniversary, Alejandra invites listeners to reflect on the impact the podcast has had on their lives and relationships. How has conscious communication helped you grow? This episode dives into those personal stories, showcasing how listeners have connected deeply with the content, using it as a tool for personal transformation.
From clarifying the distinction between envy and jealousy to encouragi...
2024-09-1127 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast151. 10 Communication Tools to Use With Anxious People“The first thing we’re going to do is to be more aware of what anxiety is and how it manifests in communication so that you can be better equipped with communication tools to connect with the wonderful people in your life who are going through anxiety,” says Alejandra Siroka. In this episode, Alejandra delves into how anxiety influences communication and relationships, especially in the aftermath of the global pandemic.
Have you ever noticed how anxiety often appears as excessive fear or worry, leading to strained interactions with loved ones? Alejandra offers ten communication tools to help...
2024-08-2823 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast150. How to Answer Uncomfortable Questions“Remember, you are safe. And when you remember that, that’s when you connect your choice to answer or not answer the question,” says Alejandra Siroka, as she guides us through addressing uncomfortable questions, a common challenge in communication—in this milestone episode of the Language Alchemy Podcast. Alejandra defines uncomfortable questions as those that cause discomfort due to their personal, intrusive, or judgmental nature. She categorizes these questions into four groups: those that feel too personal, those from close relations that carry judgment, socially biased questions, and everyday questions that may trigger discomfort based on the recipient’s current st...
2024-08-1420 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast149. The Language of Healing: Interview with Scott Blossom (Part 2)Understanding and practicing conscious communication can transform personal relationships and foster holistic healing across physical, emotional, and social dimensions. In this episode, Alejandra Siroka continues her conversation with Scott Blossom, building on the insights shared in episode 148 to delve deeper into the language of healing.
This episode explores the power of a shared language within families, revealing how open and honest communication can be a cornerstone of healing. Scott shares a 5-step communication process he uses with his family. This process involves identifying and expressing feelings, taking responsibility for beliefs, and making actionable requests. It f...
2024-07-3125 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast147. Irresistible Asks: How to Get a Yes When You Make Requests“What if there was a way to ask for what you wanted that also considered others? What if you could make requests that others would say yes to out of joy and not out of obligation or manipulation? What if you could express how meaningful it would be for you to get a yes to a wonderful ask?” wonders Alejandra Siroka. In this episode, Alejandra discusses the transformative power of making irresistible asks through conscious and respectful requests.
Alejandra addresses the fear of offending others, often leading to avoided confrontations. She suggests framing requests with choic...
2024-07-0321 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast146. Supporting Love and Identity in LGBTQ Relationships Through Conscious Communication“I’m very proud to work with LGBTQ folks and help them find their authentic expression,” says host Alejandra Siroka. In this special episode, Alejandra welcomes returning guests Shannon and Britt, both members of the LGBTQ community, to share their journey of personal growth and evolving communication as a couple.
Shannon and Britt recount their unique love story, highlighting the evolution of their identities and relationship dynamics. Britt, who transitioned from identifying as a lesbian to a trans man, and Shannon, a non-binary, pansexual person, discuss how they navigated these changes, including Britt’s gender transitio...
2024-06-1945 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast145. Benefits of Relational Versus Transactional CommunicationAre your interactions building genuine connections or just checking off boxes? In this episode, Alejandra Siroka delves into the difference between transactional and relational communication, questioning the common belief that communication is solely about achieving personal goals.
Alejandra highlights that transactional communication is often mistaken for clear communication. When we only focus on the goal of getting what one wants, this leads to transactional exchanges driven by safety and control. She contrasts this type of communication with relational communication, which prioritizes empathy, trust, and collaboration, fostering deeper connections and authentic self-expression. Alejandra shares key insights to...
2024-06-0524 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast144. How Communication Shapes Our Mental HealthMental well-being is a state that enables us to handle stress, recognize our abilities, and contribute to our communities. In this episode, Alejandra Siroka explores the important relationship between language and our well being.
Unhealthy communication habits such as gaslighting, abusive and dehumanizing language in our interactions can lead to mental health struggles like low-self esteem, depression and anxiety. For a deeper dive into these topics, check out episodes #34 on gaslighting and #120 on dehumanizing language in relationships.
Conversely, empathetic, kind, and supportive communication can promote mental well-being, maintaining healthy relationships and sel...
2024-05-2216 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast143. How Greetings Impact your Personal and Professional RelationshipsWhen you're providing a service, leading a group, or meeting someone in a professional setting, your words, tone of voice, and body language during your initial greeting can establish a foundation for a professional relationship built on confidence, collaboration, and trust. Similarly, the way you greet your loved ones can create positive and memorable experiences, strengthening the bonds with those closest to you. In this episode, Alejandra Siroka explores the importance of greetings and their impact on both personal and professional relationships.
Alejandra shares the story of her first meeting with her beloved Matthew's family to...
2024-05-0818 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast142. How to Empower Others to Communicate Their NeedsHow do we support others when they struggle to communicate their needs? In this final episode of her five-part series “Communicating Needs Skillfully,” Alejandra Siroka focuses on empowering individuals to help others, including children and adults, express their needs clearly, directly, and confidently.
Alejandra emphasizes the importance of teaching children to connect with and communicate their needs. She points out that these skills are fundamental to building a child's sense of self-worth and value. For parents and caregivers, she suggests practical communication tools addressing children’s emotions to their needs and using story characters to normali...
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The Language Alchemy Podcast141. Direct Your Attention on These 4 Elements When Communicating Needs SkillfullyAre you finding it challenging to communicate your needs clearly without coming across as inconsiderate? Alejandra Siroka continues her series on "Communicating Needs Skillfully" and uncovers how to express needs in a way that they can be heard and honored by others.
Alejandra asserts that when communication stems from a sense of self-worth and a sincere desire for mutual understanding, it naturally takes on a warm and inviting tone—a tone that significantly impacts the listener's perception of the message and their openness to addressing the expressed needs. She shares four essential elements that need to...
2024-04-1019 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast140. The Secret Benefits of Expressing Needs & The Cost of Keeping QuietNavigating through life's challenges is one thing, but thriving and finding deep fulfillment is an entirely different journey—one that hinges significantly on our ability to communicate our needs clearly. Alejandra Siroka returns in this episode with Part 3 of the “Communicating Your Needs Skillfully” series, where she discusses the critical role of articulating needs in personal development and the cultivation of meaningful relationships. Alejandra highlights the positive effects of recognizing and meeting each other's needs, emphasizing how mutual support fosters joy, interconnectedness, and a sense of belonging. She argues that expressing needs not only affirms our own life and self-w...
2024-03-2716 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast139. Communicating Your Needs Will Enliven Your Life and RelationshipsDo you truly understand your needs and are you communicating them clearly? In this episode of the Language Alchemy Podcast, and as the second part of the Communicating Needs Skillfully series, host Alejandra Siroka delves into the importance of recognizing and expressing emotional, intellectual, energetic, and spiritual needs.
Alejandra leads with a series of probing questions designed to help listeners explore their own perceptions and beliefs about their needs.
Sharing insights from her personal life, Alejandra introduces a practice she relies on to clarify her needs when they seem uncertain. Drawing fro...
2024-03-1319 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast138. Why Women Struggle to Communicate Their Needs Clearly and DirectlyWhy do so many women find it challenging to clearly articulate their needs? This episode of the Language Alchemy Podcast, hosted by Alejandra Siroka, tackles this question head-on, right in time for International Women's Day.
Alejandra discusses the dual purpose of International Women's Day: to celebrate women's achievements and advance gender equality. She stresses the need for women to express their needs as a critical aspect of achieving equality and recognition in society.
The episode examines common reasons why women struggle with communication, drawing on Alejandra's experiences and insights from working wi...
2024-03-0620 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast137. Saying Sorry Is Not Enough: How To Have A Repair ConversationIt is human to make mistakes, to hurt, offend, disappoint, or negatively impact another precious human being. And so it is a valuable skill to learn how to apologize in an authentic, mature, and responsible way.
In this episode of the Language Alchemy Podcast, host Alejandra Siroka delves into the transformative power of repair conversations, offering a more effective approach to healing and strengthening connections compared to typical apologies.
Alejandra begins by emphasizing the critical distinction between intention and impact when addressing hurtful actions or words towards another person. Repair conversations f...
2024-02-2820 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast136. Apologize Like an AdultDo your apologies sound like a monologue? If you find yourself stuck in the cycle of the "typical apology," chances are your apologies aren’t creating a dialogue, repairing damaged connections or getting the results you desire. In this eye-opening episode, Alejandra Siroka unveils the hidden influence of childhood apologies on our adult communication styles. Drawing from personal anecdotes and insightful analysis, she shines a light on how these early lessons shape our approach to reconciliation.
By exploring typical apologies in real-life scenarios, Alejandra exposes the limitations of traditional approaches in fostering genuine connection. From def...
2024-02-2117 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast135. 6 Love-Boosting Communication HacksAre you ready to deepen your connections and infuse your most important relationships with love and meaning?
In this episode, host Alejandra Siroka unveils six things that you can include in your communication if you want to bring love to the forefront of a close relationship, such as a relationship with a dear friend, a child, a family member. These tips, applicable not just on Valentine's Day but in everyday life, offer a holistic approach to nurturing relationships with partners, children, and friends.
Express Positive Acknowledgment: Take a few moments to highlight the wonderful as...
2024-02-1418 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast134. Navigate Sensitive Conversations With These 5 QuestionsAre you gearing up for a crucial conversation and hoping to avoid the usual pitfalls of frustration and misunderstanding? In this episode, Alejandra introduces a powerful framework rooted in Buddhist wisdom called "wise speech." It's designed to assist you in navigating sensitive conversations with greater ease, fostering understanding and deeper connections. By asking yourself five profound questions, you can transform your approach to challenging discussions and unlock the potential for positive outcomes.
The five questions to ask yourself before having a sensitive conversation are:
Is what I want to talk about useful? Consider whether e...
2024-02-0716 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast133. Self-Sabotaging Communication HabitsCreating distance when we yearn for closeness can be heartbreaking, especially when our own communication habits may be the root cause of this outcome. In this episode of the Language Alchemy Podcast, host Alejandra Siroka delves into the painful irony of how our unintentional communication patterns can widen the gap with those we wish to feel closer to. The episode focuses on the adverse effects of unconscious, unskillful, and hurtful communication, which impacts not only the receiver but also the communicator and the overall health of the relationship.
Alejandra uses vivid examples to highlight how n...
2024-01-3114 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast132. You Probably Aren’t The Communicator You Think You AreHow well do you believe you communicate? In this episode of the Language Alchemy Podcast, host Alejandra Siroka brings to light a compelling aspect of human nature: the tendency to overestimate our communication abilities. This insight prompts a deeper exploration of the discrepancies between what we intend to convey and the actual impact of our words on others.
When we think about communication habits that have a negative impact, Alejandra divides these into three levels of awareness: very obvious, less obvious, and subtle. She explores a range of behaviors, including bullying, passive aggression, and interrupting, to...
2024-01-2420 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast131. Notice How Others Respond To Your Communication: Valuable FeedbackYour communication has a profound influence on the quality of your relationships. In this insightful episode of the Language Alchemy Podcast, host Alejandra Siroka brings to light the crucial need for awareness in how we communicate, underscoring its power to either strengthen bonds or cause harm.
Alejandra explores the multifaceted nature of communication, highlighting that it's not just about the words we use. Aspects such as tone of voice, body language, demeanor, energy, and actions play a significant role. She provides examples to illustrate how different styles of communication can have a range of impacts, f...
2024-01-1721 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast130. Why We Resist Change and What to Do About ItWhy does embracing change often feel so daunting? As we set new goals and strive to break old habits in the new year, Alejandra Siroka sheds light on the intricate nature of change and the subtle resistance that frequently accompanies it.
Alejandra identifies fear as a primary obstacle to change. Fears like rejection, conflict, or feeling unsupported can loom large, acting as barriers that prevent us from pursuing the life changes we truly desire. She offers insightful commentary on how these fears can keep us stuck, impeding our progress towards our goals.
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2024-01-1015 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast129. Behind the Scenes: Cathy’s TransformationHow can changing the way we communicate transform our lives? In this episode of the Language Alchemy Podcast, host Alejandra Siroka explores this question with Cathy Simon, a renowned architect and author. Cathy generously shares her experience of conscious communication coaching with Alejandra.
Cathy's adventure into Language Alchemy began through a friend's recommendation, leading her to Alejandra during a pivotal time in her personal and professional life. This decision marked the start of an impactful nine-month journey. Through one-on-one coaching with Alejandra, Cathy explored her communication patterns, learning to express her desires and needs in mo...
2024-01-0330 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast128. Mindful Endings And Intentional Beginnings: Starting The New Year With ClarityAs one year ends and another begins, it's a significant time for reflection and planning. In this final episode of 2023, Alejandra introduces a three-part approach to transition – acknowledgement, desire, and commitment – guiding listeners through an intentional process of self-reflection and goal setting.
The Acknowledgement phase focuses on introspection about the past year. Alejandra encourages listeners to reflect on their experiences, learn from them, and identify areas for growth. This phase is not just about looking back, but understanding how past experiences can shape future actions. In the Desire phase, Alejandra prompts listeners to think about what they...
2023-12-2716 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast127. Fan Favorites - The Most Engaging Episodes of 2023What can happen when you create new intentions for your communication? You can bring forth peace, harmony, compassion, equality, and equity in your life and relationships!
Get out a pencil or open up your notes app now because host Alejandra Siroka shares the best episodes of 2023, providing a wealth of communication resources to help you become a mature, capable, and loving adult. This episode gives you the road map of our listener’s most loved content that can support your individual communication goals in 2024.
Why should you listen? Because these episodes have...
2023-12-2020 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast126. Is Communication Coaching For Me?Satisfaction in life often hinges on the quality of our relationships, which in turn, is deeply rooted in how we communicate. In this episode of the Language Alchemy Podcast, host Alejandra Siroka introduces her unique approach to communication coaching, designed to enhance your interactions and deepen your connections with others.
Alejandra categorizes the need for personalized communication coaching into four distinct areas. The first is for those who are dissatisfied with their relationships despite efforts like reading self-help books or attending workshops. They yearn for deeper connections but find themselves in a loop of unsatisfactory i...
2023-12-1321 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast125. Talking about Food Choices During the Holidays Without JudgmentStruggling with dietary choices and communication during the holiday season? In this insightful episode of the Language Alchemy Podcast, host Alejandra Siroka is joined by Thais Harris, a board-certified holistic nutritionist, for a deep dive into managing food choices and conversations about diet in festive gatherings. Thais emphasizes self-love and understanding personal dietary needs, advocating for starting the day with a protein-rich meal and staying well-hydrated. She also shares a valuable breath technique before social events to remain grounded and focused on personal health goals.
As the discussion unfolds, Thais offers advice on setting boundaries a...
2023-12-0644 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast124. Two Words That Escalate ConflictHave you ever found yourself in a conflict that quickly escalated, leaving you wondering what went wrong? In this episode of the Language Alchemy Podcast, host Alejandra Siroka delves into how our language choices can unintentionally fuel conflicts, and how staying present in the moment can shift these dynamics.
Alejandra starts by exploring the crucial role language plays in either igniting or diffusing tense situations. She stresses the importance of cultivating a mindful approach to communication, steering clear of rigid rules or formulas. According to Alejandra, conflict is a natural part of human interaction, but i...
2023-11-2916 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast123. 3 Communication “Watch Outs” for Happier Holiday GatheringsIf you feel stress about upcoming family gatherings due to past communication breakdowns, you are not alone. In her role as a transformative communication teacher and coach, Alejandra Siroka knows this story all too well, having supported countless clients who share these apprehensions. In this episode, Alejandra provides 3 strategies to stop escalating conflict so you can approach the holidays with love, understanding, and effective communication.
Central to her approach is the concept of prioritizing understanding others over being understood ourselves. It is a generous approach and it takes intention, but adopting this mindset creates empathy, all...
2023-11-2215 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast122. Why Don’t You Understand Me?Feeling understood, heard, and respected is a universal human desire, and it's easy to be frustrated and upset with others when you aren't getting what you need. But what if the solution lies in how we express ourselves and not just in how others respond? In this episode, Alejandra reveals that much of our communication breakdown comes not from what we say, but what we leave unsaid: those emotions we tuck away, boundaries we assume rather than state, and needs we hope others will intuitively understand.
Alejandra equips listeners with practical tools for effective communication. Sh...
2023-11-1517 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast121. Stuck in the Middle? How To Respond When Friends FightHave you ever found yourself caught in the crossfire of someone else's conflict, unsure whether to jump in or step back? In this episode, we dive into the art of remaining neutral and promoting peace when conflicts arise around us in our homes, workplaces, and broader communities. Part of this responsibility is recognizing which conflicts to conscientiously engage with and which ones to skillfully avoid, especially those riddled with negativity, gossip, or counterproductive criticism.
Guiding listeners through this complex terrain, Alejandra shares essential guidelines. It's crucial, first and foremost, to listen with presence when someone c...
2023-11-0816 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast120. Why We Fight: The Role of Our Internal Dialogue in ConflictAre you tired of getting caught up in conflicts and struggling to communicate without reactivity? In this episode, Alejandra Siroka delves into the relationship between our internal dialogue and its effects during conflicts. She introduces listeners to the concept of non-duality and the dangers of dehumanizing language.
What is non-duality? In simple terms, it means that we are interconnected and not separate from each other. You feel a confluence of emotions, a sense of harmony, and a deep understanding of our shared humanity. The beautiful state of non-duality is easily disrupted when conflicts arise.
2023-11-0121 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast119. What to Say When You Don’t Know What to Say: Real ExamplesAre you struggling with knowing what to say or do when you know someone is in pain? With recent events in the Middle East as a backdrop, Alejandra Siroka shares her 5-step approach to navigating these conversations, as well as real life examples of the things you can say or do to show up with good intentions, respect, and compassion.
At the start, it is so important to acknowledge the pain and suffering of others. Alejandra emphasizes the power of empathic acknowledgement, using both words and tone of voice to convey understanding and compassion. She off...
2023-10-2528 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast117. Mastering Your Mindset: How Language Shapes Your Capacity"Mindset is a habitual story expressed by the language you use in your internal dialogue." says Alejandra Siroka. This episode explores the concept of mindset and its relationship to language and internal dialogue. Our host, Alejandra, shares how she came to understand that mindset is actually a story expressed through the language we use in our internal dialogue. Mindset is a story about our capacity or lack thereof. We can consciously work with our mindsets by using specific language in our internal dialogue to recognize and expand our capacity when faced with challenges. This is a powerful tool that...
2023-10-1122 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast116. How Our Internal Dialogue Shapes Our Communication with Others"Is your internal dialogue shaping your reality and relationships?
In this thought-provoking episode of the Language Alchemy Podcast, Alejandra Siroka delves into the power of our internal dialogue and how it impacts our communication with others. She challenges us to focus on the judgments that we hold in our internal dialogue about other people and the impact those judgments have in ourselves and in our communication.
Through an eye-opening experiment, Alejandra guides us to examine our internal dialogue about people we like and those we don't. She reveals how our judgments and perceptions shape our in...
2023-10-0419 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast115. How To Discover The Core Theme of Your Mind Story"Knowing the core theme of your mind stories is helpful because it can serve as a motivation to grow out of it." says Alejandra Siroka.
Have you ever wondered about the patterns that shape your internal dialogue? There are habitual narratives that impact many of us and they are centered around three prevailing themes – safety, connection, and self-worth. Through relatable scenarios, Alejandra helps listeners identify and understand their dominant themes. She stresses that while these recurring themes might feel familiar, they do not always reflect our true reality.
Alejandra offers suggestions for...
2023-09-2716 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast113. A Simple Practice to Stay Connected to Your Internal Communication System"If you'd like to communicate skillfully and authentically, if you want to have healthy relationships and thrive no matter what's going on in your life, then you need to do the work to have access to your internal communication system. And I can assure you that it's work worth doing." says Alejandra Siroka
This episode focuses on the importance of connecting to your internal communication system and accessing your felt sense. Alejandra provides a simple yet powerful exercise to connect with your felt sense by asking yourself the question, "What am I sensing right now?" B...
2023-09-1315 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast112. Understanding Your Internal Communication System"When you connect to your felt sense, you are going to discover a very rich world." says Alejandra Siroka.
In this episode of Language Alchemy, host and transformative communication coach Alejandra delves into the importance of reconnecting with your internal communication system, which often gets lost as we grow and are socialized. She emphasizes the vital role this system plays in both authentic communication and self-awareness.
Picture yourself as a baby – you didn't have language, but you had an internal communication system that let you know when you were hungry, tired, or n...
2023-09-0616 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast111. Navigating Transitions: Insights from Parenting Coach Caroline Griswold on Guiding Kids Back to SchoolTransitions, although a natural part of growth, can unsettle a child's sense of safety and connection. In this episode, host and transformative communication coach Alejandra Siroka sits down with Caroline Griswold, a leader in the realm of respectful parenting education and coaching. Together, they address the challenges children face during transitions and share tangible strategies for parents to confidently and skillfully support their children.
Transitions, such as returning to school, can challenge a child’s sense of security and belonging. Caroline advocates for early preparation and dialogue, setting the stage with your child for what lie...
2023-08-3042 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast109. Empathy vs. Sympathy: Exploring the Contrast and Its Meaningful ImplicationsIn this episode, host and transformative communication coach, Alejandra Siroka explains that empathy involves truly understanding and sharing in someone else's feelings, while sympathy is more about expressing concern for another person's suffering. Throughout the episode, Alejandra draws upon her experience with Nonviolent Communication and her background in empathy studies. She provides listeners with relatable scenarios to illustrate the differences between empathy and sympathy, offering phrases that illustrate each approach.
It’s important to use these sympathetic and empathic expressions mindfully, as they can significantly impact how the other person perceives your response. Alejandra recommends cons...
2023-08-1619 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast108. Navigating Disagreements: The Path to Meaningful ConnectionsIn our human interactions, disagreements are natural and don’t need to be feared. They offer us opportunities to learn from others, better understand ourselves, and enrich our perspectives. To navigate disagreements skillfully, adopting a mindset grounded in humility, respect, and equality is essential. This allows us to embrace differing viewpoints without diminishing the value of open dialogue.
In this episode, host and transformative communication coach, Alejandra, shares three communication strategies to foster respectful disagreements. Firstly, she advises approaching differing opinions with genuine curiosity and openness, asking questions to understand the other person's perspective without bei...
2023-08-0916 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast72. The Golden Rule“Engage in the Golden Rule by giving others the grace you want to receive,” urges host Alejandra. With the holidays almost here, Alejandra understands that we will see loved ones, which may lead to contentious communication. To ensure kinder interactions, Alejandra explores the golden rule and treating others with the empathy we all deserve.
It is much easier to give ourselves grace than it is for other people. We know when we have good intentions, but when it comes to our friends and family, we often assume the worst. As a result, Alejandra shares how to look with...
2022-11-3019 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast71. 3 Easy Steps to Express Gratitude and Mean It“While gratitude is a beautiful feeling, it can be a challenge when it comes to communicating it,” explains host Alejandra. With Thanksgiving coming up, gratitude will be emphasized across the United States. Understanding that this feeling can be hard to express, Alejandra provides easy steps for communicating appreciation for your everyday life.
Often we use basic phrases to express gratitude, such as, “I’m grateful for all you do.” Although this is kind, its vagueness demonstrates our difficulty in saying how we really feel. We may find that communicating gratitude feels silly or that we struggle with vulnerabil...
2022-11-2318 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast70. 3 Communication Self-Reflection Practices“When we reflect on ourselves, we see some aspects of ourselves with greater clarity,” explains host Alejandra Siroka. We all have communication behaviors that prevent us from having the relationships we want. With this in mind, Alejandra shares self-reflection practices that will allow us to break these patterns and communicate more effectively overall.
With the holidays on the horizon, many of us may dread getting together with family and friends, which leaves room for challenging interactions. Before our upcoming get-togethers, Alejandra suggests looking within beforehand to evaluate our typical communication patterns with others. By reflecting upon what does...
2022-11-1616 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast69. Your Self Talk“Once you know what you say to yourself, you get to decide whether you want to keep saying this to yourself,” explains host Alejandra. Our inner critic and self-talk affect how we view ourselves and how we interact with others. Today, Alejandra gives tips on becoming more mindful about our internal dialogue to live a more fulfilling life.
Whether we realize it or not, our self-talk influences our daily decisions, interactions, and physical body. Negative thoughts about ourselves can lead to self-fulfilling prophecies that reflect our worst fears. If we become more self-aware of how we speak to o...
2022-11-0915 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast68. Having a Voice That Counts“I knew that if I became a US citizen, my voice would count more. And I could use my voice to help other voices count,” explains host Alejandra. Over the years, Alejandra has helped many people with their communication skills, but she didn’t become a transformative communication expert overnight. Today, she shares her personal journey that shaped her and the lessons she learned along the way.
When Alejandra first moved to the United States from Argentina, she somehow felt she was turning her back on her home country and family. When she became a U.S. citize...
2022-11-0212 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast67. Conflict Can Be Scary“Something scary for a lot of people when it comes to communication is conflict,” explains host Alejandra. Although challenging others may frighten us more than our favorite horror movie, conflict can help us find common ground with others. In honor of Halloween, Alejandra shares how to deal with the fear of confrontation.
Whenever we feel angry or hurt, we tell ourselves scary stories about the other person. We may feel confronting them is an act of war, leading to a never-ending fight, but conflict can be a positive. If we approach conflict like an opportunity to share our...
2022-10-2614 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast66. When Things Are Hard“When things are hard, I learned to use observational language in my internal dialogue,” explains host Alejandra. As a transformative communication teacher, Alejandra understands that it’s human to feel triggered by challenging interactions. Instead of disconnecting from uncomfortable situations, Alejandra gives tips for when conversations become hard.
Through exploring her personal experiences, Alejandra demonstrates how common it is to have awkward or upsetting interactions. We may act angry, embarrassed, or simply want to run away. To stray away from unhelpful reactive habits, Alejandra recommends connecting to our bodies and determining what actions we want to take that a...
2022-10-1918 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast65. 4 Indicators You Have a True Sense of Connection in Your Relationships“When there's a true sense of connection in your relationships, you can offer feedback with transparency,” explains host Alejandra. Over the past few weeks, Alejandra has discussed building healthy relationship dynamics and given tools on how to do so. Today, she gives pointers for you to detect if your relationships have a genuine connection through her background as a transformative communication coach.
Through real-life examples, Alejandra demonstrates what to look for when determining if you have authentic connections with others. A relationship requires trust that you can share your feelings and thoughts without fear of an adverse reac...
2022-10-1214 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast64. 5 Signs It’s Time to Shift your Relationship Dynamics“When we are in a relationship, the combination of patterns that each member of their relationship brings forms a dynamic,” explains host Alejandra. When we experience difficulties in our relationships, we may be tempted to end them. Before doing something drastic, Alejandra lays out tangible tactics for improving challenging relationships.
Through various examples of her real-life students, Alejandra breaks down the five signs that your relationship dynamics need to change. It’s common to believe that you give more to a relationship than others or struggle to engage. Instead of blaming the people around you, evaluate how you ar...
2022-10-0517 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast63. Want More Satisfying Relationships?“When life and relationships are frustrating, usually, it’s because there's some kind of communication breakdown,” explains host Alejandra, a transformative communication coach. Although it’s easier said than done, Alejandra understands that we all want satisfying relationships. In today’s episode, Alejandra provides simple and effective advice for building healthier, more joyous connections with others.
Often when we refer to issues in our relationships, we frame them with external factors and an expectation for the other person to change, a thought pattern from our childhoods. Instead, we need to observe our behavior and assess whether we are the on...
2022-09-2817 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast62. The Gifts of Anger“When you communicate any feeling skillfully, it is because you have been able to connect to its gifts,” explains host Alejandra. Although anger is a complex emotion to experience, there are many rewards for successfully communicating it. Today, Alejandra lays out how to adequately express this feeling and better understand our needs as a result.
Often when we feel anger, we do not reflect on the messages this emotion is trying to tell us. However, if we take a beat to understand this feeling, we can determine our desires that are currently being unfulfilled. Whether we long for...
2022-09-2113 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast61. Communicating Anger Skillfully“It's possible to learn to communicate anger more skillfully,” explains host Alejandra. Anger, in particular, can be an intense feeling to experience and a challenging one to communicate. On today’s episode of the Language Alchemy Podcast, Alejandra will provide helpful tools for communicating anger with greater awareness and skill.
There are many misconceptions about anger, including believing that this anger equates to violence, aggression, or hostility. As a result, we tend to communicate our reactions, rather than the feeling of anger. If we can learn to put aside our reactionary tendencies and convey our true feeling, we can...
2022-09-1417 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast60. Emotional Autonomy and Healthy Relationships. Communicating Feelings Part 6“One of the fundamental Language Alchemy principles is that our words create our worlds,” explains host Alejandra. It’s part six of the “Communicating Feelings” series and the last episode about this topic. For the final lesson, Alejandra details how to have emotional autonomy and healthy relationships.
In our relationships, we often believe that the other person is causing us to feel a certain way, whether good or bad. This attitude creates an unequal balance and gives our loved ones too much authority over our lives. By owning our emotions and labeling the situation rather than the person, we...
2022-09-0718 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast59. Communicate Feelings Mindfully. Communicating Feelings Part 5“Notice how you use the word “feel” when communicating because your words create your world. So what kind of world do you want to create?” explains host Alejandra. Often, we use the word “feel” to express a thought rather than an emotion. In part five of the “Communicating Feelings” series, Alejandra provides tips for using emotional language to improve self-expression and communication.
We tend to use the word “feel” when we want to express a thought, such as seeking an opinion or agreement, or disagreement from others. Instead, Alejandra suggests following the word feel with a feeling word to help ourselv...
2022-08-3112 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast58. How Are Your Relationships Impacted When You Don’t Communicate Your Feelings? Communicating Feelings Part 4“I find that the people who feel the most disconnected are the people who have the least access to their feelings,” explains host Alejandra. When you don’t communicate your feelings, it can negatively impact your relationships. Alejandra provides valuable tools to promote healthier dynamics in part four of her “Communicating Feelings” series.
When we feel isolated and disconnected from others, it may be challenging to open up about our true feelings. When we cannot share, it becomes difficult for our friends and family to know how to give us what we need. By letting our loved ones hear...
2022-08-2414 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast57. 4 Common Reactions to Uncomfortable Feelings. Communicating Feelings Part 3“From the Language Alchemy perspective, all feelings have their usefulness,” explains host Alejandra. Alejandra understands why we have specific reactions to uncomfortable feelings. In part three of her “Communicating Feelings” series, Alejandra teaches how to deal with these reactions and communicate effectively.
Everyone has certain feelings they are more comfortable expressing than others. Some have no difficulty communicating sadness but may struggle to share joy and vice versa. Often, we can feel triggered by others who experience the feeling we push down and intolerant with those around us who express that emotion. With Alejandra’s tools and tips, we c...
2022-08-1716 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast56. Why Is It Hard to Communicate Feelings? Communicating Feelings Part 2“It's easy to communicate what we have learned to communicate,” explains host Alejandra. Alejandra has seen how difficult it is to communicate feelings throughout her career as a transformative communication teacher and coach. In part two of her “Communicating Feelings” series, Alejandra provides helpful tools that positively allow self-expression.
Our teachers and parents were our primary communication influences when we were children. And we often learned evaluative communication skills but not much about communicating our emotional state. Ultimately, whatever we were taught when we were kids shapes our adult lives, but with practice, we can connect to our inte...
2022-08-1017 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast55. Your Internal Communication System. Communicating Feelings Part 1“If you find it hard to talk about your feelings and communicate, you're not alone,” says host Alejandra. As a transformative communication teacher and coach, Alejandra knows that discussing your feelings is challenging. In part one of her internal communication series, Alejandra provides helpful tips for effectively sharing with others.
Through tangible examples and inquiry exercises, Alejandra defines what feelings genuinely are and how we experience them in our bodies. By connecting to our internal communication system, we can understand what we’re really experiencing to prevent miscommunication. Ultimately, we must listen to the messages our feelings tell u...
2022-08-0312 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast54. Building Your Communication Toolbox in 7 Steps“You don’t have to be a therapist, a coach, or a leader, you can just be a caring human,” Alejandra says of anyone using the many tools in her communication toolbox. True, a few of the seven listeners featured, who recently called in to comment on the way they approach Alejandra’s content and how it’s helped them, are actual therapists. Ellen, Alejandra’s “mother-in-love,” remarks upon the divine timing of Alejandra’s chosen topics, and she used many of the tools in a recent session with her own client. Shannon acts as a conduit for Alejandra’s message, turning o...
2022-07-2718 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast53. What You Need to Pay Attention to if You Want to Have Meaningful Celebrations“Language sets you up for something meaningful,” explains host Alejandra. As many of you know, the Language Alchemy Podcast recently celebrated its first anniversary with a virtual party. Reflecting on the success of this fantastic milestone, Alejandra shares the three components of throwing a thoughtful and joyful event.
As a transformative communication teacher and coach, Alejandra understands how language sets the tone for meaningful celebrations. By demonstrating how grateful you are for the people who show up for you, you can create a connection with your community and curate a positive experience for your guests. Whether you want...
2022-07-2020 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast52. Building a More Caring Work Experience - Part 2“In this country, because English is my first language, that could be seen as a privilege,” explains Nancy Kahn, Consultant, Coach, Trainer, Mediator, and host Alejandra’s first Communication Teacher. In today’s episode of The Language Alchemy Podcast, Nancy Kahn returns to discuss how to build a more caring work experience. Through Nancy's insights, the listeners gain valuable tools to disrupt harmful power dynamics.
Nancy understands that attending to our most marginalized groups helps us all. If we treat others who are different then us with dignity and respect, we will inevitably ensure respect for all, includin...
2022-07-1319 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast51. Building a More Caring Work Experience. An Interview with Nancy Kahn - Part 1“I want to have my identity embraced. I also want to be authentic with people,” explains Nancy Kahn, Consultant, Coach, Trainer, Mediator, and host Alejandra’s first Communication Teacher. Nancy helps individuals and teams learn and integrate communication practices and develops leadership and organizational systems aligned with anti-racist frameworks. A highly-skilled communication professional, Nancy shares her experiences in the field and the tools she uses to educate others.
As a Black and Jewish woman, Nancy is well aware of how systems of power use language to maintain themselves, often by inciting fear. Through her work, she can use he...
2022-07-0623 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast50. 3 Mistakes to Avoid When Starting a Difficult Conversation“When you know that feelings might be present in a conversation, then that conversation may be difficult for you,” explains host Alejandra. Although any topic of conversation can be hard to discuss, it can be even more challenging for those who struggle with vulnerability. In time for the Language’s Alchemy Podcast’s first anniversary, Alejandra provides the listeners with helpful tips on starting a tough conversation.
The critical thing to remember when beginning a laborious conversation is not to call attention to the difficulty of the topic. By starting a conversation by saying, “We need to talk” or “...
2022-06-2916 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast49. He, She, They? The Importance of Personal Pronouns“It's important to make a commitment to avoiding assumptions about people because of the way they look,” says host Alejandra. In honor of Pride Month, Alejandra explains the importance of personal pronouns. By demonstrating why they are used in speech, Alejandra gives insight into how to adjust your communication skills to be more inclusive.
As a language teacher and communication coach, Alejandra understands that language is always evolving. When words are no longer an accurate reflection of our current world, it is natural for us to adjust. By using people’s correct personal pronouns, whether he, she, they...
2022-06-2221 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast48. How Dads Can Communicate with Emotional Awareness an Interview with Brian Wood“Emotions, tantrums, or even lashing out at parents are okay and shouldn't be curtailed,” explains guest Brian Wood. Alejandra describes her friend Brian’s communication style with his son as empathically mindful. Today, Brian and Alejandra discuss how other fathers can engage with increased emotional awareness right in time for Father’s Day.
Brian acknowledges that his father came from a generation that had difficulty expressing themselves, especially to their children. When he became a father, Brian and his wife worked to get tools and resources to ensure this dynamic wouldn’t repeat itself. By looking at his son’s...
2022-06-1534 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast46. How to Respond to Microaggressions“You and I both can bring about equality and equity by using an inclusive language that decreases the impact of microaggressions for all the members of our human family,” explains host Alejandra.
People who are members of marginalized groups experience microaggressions frequently due to other people’s implicit biases based on things like their looks, skin color, disability status, religion, gender identity, and sexual orientation.
Having experienced instances of microaggressions herself, Alejandra shares the most effective ways to respond when either experiencing or witnessing a microaggression.
Most microaggressions aren’t done intentionally and rather a...
2022-06-0125 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast45. 3 Tools to Uncover Hidden Biases in Your Internal Dialogue“Unless we work on the messages we inherited, we just perpetuate them,” explains host Alejandra. After the murder of George Floyd, many people have reflected on what their hidden biases are and how these behaviors impact society. With years of this type of self-exploration, Alejandra breaks down the tools needed to reframe your internal dialogue and evaluate your views on racism and intolerance.
Like most people, Alejandra was not always aware of how she internalized racist messaging. But for the past few decades, she has made a habit of listening to her internal dialogue and stopping herself when...
2022-05-2517 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast44. How to Talk About Race and RacismAfter the tragic murder of George Floyd, many people worldwide woke up to the importance of discussing race and equity. With a desire to respectfully navigate these critical conversations, many clients sought host Alejandra’s communication advice. As a result, Alejandra promotes literature to further the dialogue, such as Ijeoma Oluo's So You Want to Talk About Race.
Ijeoma Oluo's So You Want to Talk About Race is a powerful book from start to finish. By reading an excerpt from the introduction, Alejandra highlights how well Ijeoma Oluo articulates her complex experience as a Black woman in th...
2022-05-1819 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast43. Intentional Language in Meaningful Music: An Interview with Gary Lapow“I wanted to be part of that stream of music that could change people’s minds and hearts,” explains Gary Lapow, the composer for the Language Alchemy Podcast music. Gary writes music to reflect different times in his life with a desire to provide hope. Today, host Alejandra and Gary discuss the power of music and how it can be a communication tool to make the world a more inclusive place.
Gary has had a fascinating musical journey centered around social justice and bringing people’s stories to light. He has used music to spread positivity and love, fr...
2022-05-1125 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast42. Your Communication Gift on Mother’s Day“When you redirect your reactivity, you choose to communicate in a peaceful way,” explains host Alejandra. With Mother’s Day on the horizon, Alejandra understands that communicating with your mother can be challenging. Today, Alejandra breaks down helpful language tools that you can use with your mother to ensure reconciliation and peace on this day.
The best gift you can give your mother on Mother’s day is the gift of peace. Although it can be easy to give into past wounds or react to specific triggers, you can take a step towards connection and make a more pos...
2022-05-0415 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast41. We’re All Going Through StressFrom the pandemic to world war, human beings deal with a good amount of stress. As a result, we behave in damaging ways, such as acting defensive to those around us. Today, host Alejandra breaks down the different reactions to stress and how we can communicate more mindfully in our daily lives.
Due to the pandemic, our human family is more disconnected than ever. Since we are social creatures, this has caused an abundance of stress that has negatively affected our communication with one another. However, Alejandra explains that if we acknowledge our anxiety and become connected...
2022-04-2717 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast40. 3 Myths About Healthy Relationships“I don't know any truly healthy relationship that has not had its good share of difficulties,” explains host Alejandra. Alejandra realizes that it’s natural for people to seek healthy relationships and debunks the everyday myths that prevent real connection. After all, we may not realize that our communication style prevents us from the relationships we want, something highlighted in Alejandra’s upcoming Choosing True Connection course.
One of the most common myths about healthy relationships is that they are supposed to be easy and fun. However, this is an impossible standard as even the closest confidants can have...
2022-04-2018 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast39. A Communication Skill You Don’t Often Hear About“Skillful listening is as important, or perhaps even more important, than skillful speaking,” says host Alejandra. Through her work as a communication coach, Alejandra discovered that skillful listeners were the best communicators. Now, she teaches her clients how to use their listening skills to strengthen their relationships and interactions with others.
Alejandra understands that communicating with people with different political or world views may be challenging. However, she also understands that the best communicators can avoid potential triggers by making space and listening to what the other person is saying before reacting. After all, effective communication is a tw...
2022-04-1312 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast38. What Prevents Effective Communication?Today, host Alejandra answers one of her listener's questions on how to communicate effectively. Although we may believe that we are transparent with our wants and needs, there may be room for improvement to avoid misunderstandings. With her background in communication coaching, Alejandra shares easy ways to become a more effective communicator.
If you find yourself having confusing or heated conversations with others, there may be an issue with your listening skills that prevent productive communication. By becoming a communication detective, you can develop a clearer sense of how to articulate your point of view. As a...
2022-04-0614 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast37. Love That Lasts“The way we communicate is just a tool to access our deeper being. And I think for us, learning how to communicate was just learning how to be in love and speak with love with each other,” says Matthew Siroka, husband of host Alejandra. Often in her work coaching couples, clients ask how Alejandra and Matthew communicate. Today, Matthew shares what works for them and how to build a loving and lasting relationship.
Matthew and Alejandra come from vastly different backgrounds. Alejandra was raised Catholic in Argentina, and Matthew was raised Jewish in New York City. Differences asid...
2022-03-3017 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast36. Want to Give Peace a Chance? Resist Your ReactivityWith the war in Ukraine still raging on, everyone in our human family feels troubled and tense. As a result, overall communication is suffering amongst loved ones and communities. Today, host Alejandra gives tips on becoming less reactive to have more productive and peaceful communication.
Whether you react with anger or shut down in difficult conversations, giving into reactivity can harm your relationships. In a heated discussion, we may assume that the person is trying to hurt us or has bad intentions. Instead of reacting in a manner that can damage a relationship, Alejandra encourages her listeners...
2022-03-2317 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast35: Choosing Peace in Your CommunicationNot all wars result in physical combat, such as the current war between Russia and Ukraine. Many battles exist in familial conflicts that may lead to estrangement or harmful effects on the body. In today’s episode, host Alejandra breaks down different ways to communicate peacefully to avoid destructive communication patterns.
There are many benefits to peaceful living. From better sleep to healthier relationships to improved overall health, we gain a higher quality of life when choosing harmony over fighting. Although it may seem difficult to resist the temptation of an argument, Alejandra encourages her listeners to ex...
2022-03-1617 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast34. Conscious Defending from GaslightingWith the devastating war occurring in Ukraine, host Alejandra Siroka reflects on the power of language. Although language has the power to heal, it can also lead us to our destruction. With this in mind, Alejandra explores the darker side of speech: gaslighting.
Often in unequal relationships, the person with more power uses gaslighting to manipulate others. By causing the other person to doubt their experience or dismiss their feelings, the manipulator can make them feel more vulnerable or dependent. To combat this toxic dynamic, Alejandra lays out the key signs of gaslighting and reminds her audience...
2022-03-0916 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast33. How to talk to women so they connect to their worthWith International Women’s Day on the horizon, host Alejandra Siroka recognizes the value of celebrating women. By supporting women, we remind them of their worth, improving society as a whole. With her experience coaching women and as a woman herself, Alejandra breaks down concrete language suggestions that can raise up the women in your lives.
Historically, and even now, many women are minimized by their well-intentioned loved ones. By ignoring young girls’ accomplishments and having separate rules for daughters and sons, we send a message that women are less than in society and culture. By changing the...
2022-03-0220 minThe Language Alchemy Podcast17. Q&A: Anxious about being politically correct? Worried your language could offend others unintentionally?Do you wonder what is“politically correct” or “right” language to refer to people or groups of people? Do you often worry you’ll use offensive words unintentionally? That’s exactly the question sent in by “M” which I am answering today.
“Alejandra,” writes M., “I'm feeling anxious about what to say to people when I meet people for the first time. With all that I have been learning about systemic racism and unconscious biases, I don't know what's okay to say anymore? How do I make sure my language is not offensive?”
Thank you for asking this! I have...
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