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Zen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 100: Perfectly Imperfect: Permission To Take Your Mask Off Granted!Send us a textToo busy to keep running with your to-do list in one hand and your family, work, home, in the other?Are you even sure you're still running in the "good" direction?And how would you know what a good direction look like?Could it be more than just keeping everyone fed, clean and getting to places on time?Let's dive into this together in this special 100th episode of the podcast that's dedicated to you, Supermom!Watch this episode on Youtube as well!Support...2024-06-2851 min
Zen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 99: I'm Triggered by My Kid Because He/She Got the "Genes" of My Spouse! (aka How Trauma Often Shows in Two Extreme Opposites)Send us a textNo, your child did not get the "narcissistic genetics" of your spouse.And you are not yelling because you got the "yelling genes" of your mother/father.What if it was not about genetics?And what if you did have a power to change it, so that:- you can stop being triggered by your kids = don't have to yell- help them grow up into kind, respectful, happy, loving human beings feeling worthy of loveIs that something you would like for you...2024-06-2129 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 98: Doing Everything for Others Before They Even Ask? Why Your Empathy and Nurturing Turns Into Your Weakness and How to Heal ItSend us a textWere you raised to always take care of others, never say no, and allow yourself to feel good and worthy only when others need you?Yes, your empathy and selfless nurturing character are great character strengths.But you're also paying a high price for them, don't you?So how to do it differently?How do you still keep being a nice, caring mom, without becoming resentful and burned out?Who would you be and where would your sense of self-worth come from, if not from...2024-06-1433 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 97: How Resilience Looks Like: Story of a Woman Who Went Through Hell and Became a Zen Supermom AnywaysSend us a textWell, whenever I start feeling sorry for myself about how heavy and difficult my life is, I think of Sarah.Yes, she too wanted to be a calm mom and stop yelling at her toddler daughter. But also...This brave mom went already through more than what would be enough of pain and struggle for 2-3 lifetimes.From growing up with alcoholic parents, into becoming an addict and diagnosed with mental disorder, all the way to her husband passing away practically in her arms less than a year...2024-06-1135 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 96: How To Have The Best Summer Ever, No Matter WhatSend us a textSummer holidays are after Christmas and Year End holidays usually the most stressful, dreaded times of the year for busy moms... Is it your case too?You spend so much time and energy planning it, so much money to make it fun and do something special, and there are so many things that can go wrong and ruin it all.What's the best way to prevent any summer drama and guilt?What is the only thing that's fully in your control?And how can you start working on...2024-06-0724 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 95: How Mom of a 2.5 Month Old Baby Decided to Heal Before She Starts YellingSend us a textI wish I was so aware and courageous as Bili is when I became a mom...Because even though Bili loves her parents and doesn't blame them for anything, she wanted to do better for her son. BEFORE she'd start yelling at him and losing her patience...That's why Bili joined the Zen Supermom program when her son was 2.5 months old.And now, 3 months later, she's sharing her journey and results in this podcast episode.What did she need to "clean up" in her past?Why...2024-06-0431 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 94: Why 1-1 Trauma Sessions Are Not Enough to Heal Your Uncontrollable Anger (Mental Fitness Intro)Send us a textWhy parenting techniques or anger therapy could never help you stop yelling at your kids?I usually share this in our "Mommy/Daddy Tantrum" trainings. But after I explain the first key piece about healing your own childhood (generational developmental) trauma, there's only a little time left to explain the second, equally important piece - Mental Fitness.Because imagine this: your uncontrollable anger is gone. You no longer lose control over your emotions, your not screaming. But then what? What do you do when your kids are still not...2024-05-3141 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 93: Burnout, Emotional Eating, Smoking, Drinking... How a Full-time Working Expat Mom of 3 Became Happy & In ControlSend us a textIf she could do it, you can too.Zuzana, our Zen Supermom client is the proof that even if nothing else changes in your stressful busy life as it is today, YOU have the power to turn it all around and bring more calm, harmony and love into your home.How did she fight the odds? How come she's so happy and shining, even though she's a divorced, full-time working expatriate mom of 3 kids - and it would be completely understandable if she was still burning out, b...2024-05-2824 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 92: "Wouldn't it be fun if...?" - How to Stop Being a Self-sacrificing Victim of Your Life and Bring in More FunSend us a textUuuuu, this episode is going to bring up a lot of STUFF... :)It's juicy, I share there my own victim stories and patterns I got from my mom. And I also share a secret. So if you ever struggled with finding YOU back, after you got lost in all the responsibilities, struggle and daily stress, then THIS episode of the Zen Supermom Podcast is for you.Sending you a big hug! Catch this episode on Youtube as well!Support the show2024-05-2430 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 91: Did She Hire a Psychologist For Her Jealous Firstborn, or ... How Did She Become a Calm, Happy, Expat Mom of 2 Working Full-time?Send us a textTHIS is why the developmental generational childhood trauma is so dangerous. Because many of us have so many happy memories and love our parents so much... Never in our wildest dreams would we think that the reason why we can't stay calm with our kids and help them through their big emotions, that the reason is rooted in our own childhood... And this is what happened to Elisa too.An expatriate mom of 2, full time working, hyper-achieving, always doing her best. Skeptical with everything related to social media...W...2024-05-2130 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 90: Yelling vs. Emotional Numbness: How to Manage Big Emotions & Connect with Your KidsSend us a textWhat if instead of yelling at your kids, you're becoming emotionally numb when it all gets too much?Is it better than yelling? What are the risks of that?Is it also a result of childhood trauma? But what if my childhood was great and I don't have any bad memories?Let's do an exercise together and let me unpack this emotional 'check-out'. So that you can start choosing a healthier way of dealing with dramatic situations and big emotions.Catch this episode on Youtube...2024-05-1728 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 89: Grew Up With Violent, Alcoholic Father, and Then Raged at Her Toddler Daughter for Hitting Her - How Is She Feeling Now?Send us a textThis courageous mom decided to never be a victim like her mom was. Growing up with a violent, alcoholic father, she witnessed shouting, screaming, and hitting... and promised herself to be different.And then her daughter became a toddler and started hitting her...How do you heal your anger if even years of therapy and tons of gentle parenting courses did not help you?And what becomes possible once you learn how to manage your emotions, instead of avoiding them, or being scared of them?Listen to...2024-05-1428 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 88: About Self-harm, Boundaries, and Finding YOU After Kids With a Mom of 2 BoysSend us a textHere's another courageous mom who only after 2 months inside the Zen Supermom program wanted to share about her journey from burnout, depression, and yelling every day, into becoming a role model of healthy emotional management. And she shares it all, without holding back.So if you ever struggled with feeling judged by others, with having to "walk on eggshells" - worried about when your parents are going to blow up in anger... If after countless psychologist sessions and different therapies you were still struggling with feeling angry and takig it...2024-05-1047 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 87: How a Single Expat Mom of 2 Healed Herself & Her Teenage Daughter of Feeling Like a Victim of Her Life (Inspirational Interview Series)Send us a textInspirational interview episode coming up!How do you stay calm as a single expatriate mom of 2 kids with no support around?How do you heal the angry victim voices in your head that want to blame your drinking father, "good girl" mother, ungrateful kids, ... ... And turn into a woman who's genuinely so happy that she even forgot what used to make her explode in anger?Meet Martina. Our former Zen Supermom client who feels so well after doing this work that she doesn't even need her video...2024-05-0732 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 86: If You Feel Like Ripping People's Head Off When Your Hormones Hit, and Therefore You Can't Be a Calm, Patient Mom... This is What You've Been MissingSend us a text"I recognise my hormones also play a massive part as certain times in my cycle that my mood hits rock bottom and I am so irritable it’s unbelievable. I could rip peoples heads off. "Are you impacted by your hormones this way too?Do they prevent you from being the calm, patient mom (and wife/partner) you want to be?And why focusing on special diet, self-care, drugs, ... is not going to help you fully?Let's dive in.Catch this episode on Youtube as...2024-05-0329 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 85: How a Mom of 2 Stopped Raging and Yelling After 4 Months, When Even 15 Years of Therapy Did Not Help Before (Inspirational Interview Series)Send us a textThis is the first out of many more podcast episodes to come where I'm going to introduce you to the brave, courageous mom who care so much about helping YOU, that it made them overcome their fear of being judged and speaking in public about how they used to struggle.Let me introduce you to this mom of 2 who used to yell and rage daily. So much so that it almost broke her marriage.And not even 10+ years of therapy, and her own training in councelling, ... none of that was...2024-05-0228 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 84: What To (Not) Do When Your Anxious Child Doesn't Want To Go Back To School After HolidaysSend us a textStruggling with finding the balance between encouraging and pushing your anxious, low self-confidence, introverted child to go back to school after holidays? Should you validate their feelings and agree that school can be lonely and scary, or should you push them to go so that they become resilient?And is this really about your child, or are you feeling their insecurity and anxiety way too intense because that's EXACTLY the way you remember feeling when you were little?If you know what I'm talking about, then we need to...2024-04-2632 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 83: Why I Know You're a Great Mom Already: The Comforting Reassurance You Need When You Feel Guilty About "Damaging" Your KidsSend us a textThis is the episode you will want to listen to when you want to get hope and feel better, that all is not lost just because you can't keep your anger under control and yell at your children.I'm going to give you a list of reasons why I know that:- You're an amazing parent already- Your kids are lucky to have you- You're not alone- And you can turn it around and make something great out of it, so that all the...2024-04-1927 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 82: Yelling is BAD, But Bottling Up Anger is WORSE?! Here's Why..Send us a textNot shouting at your kids but still feeling that anger, stress, and frustration? That's great.And also, while it's a bit better for your kids, it's more dangerous for you and your physical help. Because it's been proven that suppressed emotions (especially those resulting from early childhood trauma), increase your chances of becoming physically sick. (Google psycho-neuro-immunology, Dr. Joe Dispenza and Dr. Gabor Mate.)So what the heck are you suppossed to do if shouting is not ok, and keeping that anger inside of you is not healthy either?2024-04-1221 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 81: I Used To Be My Daughter's First BullySend us a textI used to be my daughter's first bully. I used to yell at her, stress her out, and made her feel not good enough, and on top, made it her fault, blamed her for all of that.And I'm able to talk about it openly, in public now, only because I managed to stop and heal it, and because after having helped hundreds of moms do the same, I realized I was not alone.So if you'd like to know how to become a safe parent so that your c...2024-04-0525 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 80: "Just Five More Minutes!" How to Stop the Screen Time FightsSend us a textAre you fighting with your kids about their screentime? Is it always "few more minutes, few more minutes"... and then a big drama and fight when you finally take that screen away?While I'm not a parenting expert, not a gaming/screen addiction specialist, there are few reframes that helped moms we work with inside the Zen Supermom program. Perfectly in line with the spirit of this podcast: talking about being a calm parent - without blaming it all on the kids...Catch this episode on Youtube as well.2024-03-2928 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 79: Zen Supermom Team is Growing: Meet our first Zen SuperDAD Coach, Victor!Send us a textDad of 4, fluent in 4 languages, trauma-informed coach and so much more. Meet Victor, first man on the Zen Supermom team who will be working 1-1 with all men joining us in the coming weeks inside the Zen Supermom program.It was a pleasure to invite him for this special podcast episode and talk about his own healing journey. Because while his story is unique, it's similar to so many men I've already worked with... All that male generational trauma of supressing emotions as weak, avoiding any vulnerability and staying strong & rational...2024-03-2829 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 78: Why Zen Supermom Works Not Just For MomsSend us a textMom, dad, married or divorced, straight or gay, parent or not... Everyone is invited because underneath all of these labels we are all humans who need to feel seen, heard, understood, and loved unconditionally, no matter what. So while this podcast and the program I created is called "Zen Supermom", it is an inclusive place and it will help you, if healing, and healthy & fulfilled life is your goal.Catch this episode on Youtube as well!Support the showPrefer watching this...2024-03-2224 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 77: Zen Supermom Team is Growing: Meet our Community Manager Ellen!Send us a textThere are no coincidences in life. And I do believe that there's a reason why you attract a certain type of people into your life. So this special episode is a celebration of what happens when you consistently focus on your healing... because that's when instead of toxic relationships, you start meeting people who are ready for you, who are headed in the similar direction, who have the same values.I met Ellen a few years ago and she became one of the first clients in a new program...2024-03-2122 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 76: Beyond Your Drama & Stress Addiction: How to Stop Reacting Like Your ParentsSend us a textOur parents deserve respect for bringing us into this world. And they also deserve compassion for having been perfectly imperfect, doing their best to raise us.And, that doesn't mean that we are bound to repeat their emotional patterns, relive their lives, and believe in the same things they did.So whenever you find yourself unable to take a break because your parents taught you that you can feel proud only if you keep pushing hard 24/7, or you keep criticizing yourself for not being perfect - just like they...2024-03-1524 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 75: Busy Badge of Honor: Did being BUSY Become Part of Your Identity?Send us a textGetting a lot done, being a powerhouse of energy and blasting through your to-do list without having to take breaks... Great!Now... can you also balance it with being able to pause and rest, without feeling guilty?If not, then this podcast episode is for you.And you will want to listen to it not just because you don't want to burnout out, and you don't want to shout your stress out at your kids... But also because you have the chance to break this generational chain of...2024-03-0821 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 74: Zen Supermom Team is Growing: Meet our Client Success Manager, Sassy!Send us a textSassy has already been behind the scenes of this podcast production and all of the Zen Supermom social media content. Bringing her on board the Zen Supermom program was a golden opportunity. Because Sassy is a mom on her own healing journey too. She gets it. Combined with her warm personality, high work ethics and orientation to detail, I tailored our new role in the team for her.Listen to this podcast episode to learn more about Sassy's story and her new role.Catch the full length of this e...2024-03-0715 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 73: Police Woman and People-Pleaser vs Empowering Kids with Healthy BoundariesSend us a textAre you the one who needs to take care of the whole family, otherwise there would be chaos? If you feel like you always need to be the police woman - checking, reminding, watching time, nagging for things to get done... OR, you're the people-pleasing mom who never says no for the fear of not being loved, always doing way too much for way too little recognition or gratitude...Then I'd invite you to stop.And listen to this episode because I made it for you.There is...2024-03-0133 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 72: The Zen Supermom Team is Growing - Meet Christine!Send us a textChristine is a third trauma-informed coach coming on board because we have more and more women who can do sessions only at night, after they finish working and kids are in bed.And because Christine is in Canada, she won't burnout having trauma healing sessions in European late evening/night hours.Want to know more about Christine, feel her wonderful energy and hear a bit about her own personal story of turning loads of pain and struggle into an amazing positive impact and healing?Then this podcast...2024-02-2928 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 71: How to Stop the Mealtime Power Struggles and Make Your Picky Child Eat More and Different FoodsSend us a textDoes your child have 3-4 favorite meals and refuses to eat anything else? Do they gag or even vomit when you push them eat more, or have different/new foods?And if so, how to turn this meal time drama where everyone yells and cries for hours into a warm, happy, relaxed experience for everyone?Listen in...Catch this episode on Youtube too!Join my Free Live Training here every ThursdaySupport the showPrefer watching this podcast on video...2024-02-2329 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 70: Does It Work For Dads Too?Send us a text"My husband is yelling at our kids even more than I do. Can you help him too?"I'm getting this question more and more often. Because there are moms who are getting amazing results - being able to communicate with their kids in a calm way, and yet, the kids listen better, there's less drama at home, ... and so even the dads become curious: how come it works better than "tough love" and traditional parenting?So, if you and your husband are curious if it could work for him...2024-02-1634 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 69: ADHD Symptoms That Come From Childhood TraumaSend us a textWas your child diagnosed with ADHD - and then you read the symptomps and realized you might have it too? Is that why it's so difficult for you to be a calm, happy mom who doesn't yell?Then listen in because this episode is for you.Because what is diagnosed as ADHD (hyperactivity, scattered attention, lack of impulse control) is a result of childhood trauma ("Adversed Childhood Experiences"). So rather than labelling and medicating yourself and your child, you might try a much more effective approach. Because that will...2024-02-0921 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 68: Unconditional Love... Does It Even Exist? And Am I Worth It?Send us a textHow does it feel to be loved unconditionally - the good and the "bad" in you, no matter if you make a mistake, no matter if you look perfect... Is it even possible to be loved or love someone else unconditionally? Or is it just one of those unicorn theories? That's a completely normal and natural question to ask, especially if you didn't always feel loved/appreciated by your parents. If you felt like you had to prove yourself, behave and act in the ways they approved, in order to get...2024-02-0210 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 67: Gentle Parenting - How to Make It Work Without YellingSend us a textAre you also in love with gentle parenting? Makes perfect sense on paper, right? And those moment when you can apply it and it works like magic, oooo... Such a bliss!But how about those situations when you want to stay calm, want to be the gentle parent but it just becomes too much. The kids are not responding the way should, and you eventually lose it again and yell. And then feel like such a failure...Especially when your husband then criticizes your way as "too soft", because he...2024-01-2642 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastThe Best of Zen Supermom Podcast 2023Send us a textWant to save time and jump straight to the most valuable episodes of 2023?Here they are:Episode 35: Can’t Figure It Out Why You Keep Yelling at Your Kids, Though You Want To Stay Calm? (Generational Developmental Trauma Awareness)Episode 18: Want to control your emotions before they burst out? Start HERE! (Mental Fitness Intro Part 1)Episode 57: How to Stay Calm When Kids Are Not ListeningEpisode 46: 3 Steps To Stop Your Child From Hitting You - Without YellingEpisode 56: Resentful and Angry With You...2024-01-1928 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 65: 4 Real Stories of Strength, Resilience, and Healing of the Zen SupermomsSend us a text4 Case studies, life stories of moms who went through hell:- high-risk pregnancy- near-death experience/traumatic birth- mom burnout- abusive ex (abusive father)- toxic relationship with your own mom- having no support/help and having to do it all alone... And came out of it stronger, healthier, and happier than they've ever been.Want to get inspired about what becomes possible when you get on this journey?Then listen in...Catch this episode on...2024-01-1259 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 64: How To Recover If Your Holidays Didn't Go As ExpectedSend us a textThe more expectations you/your kids have about an event, the more likely something goes wrong and you end up with some drama. Did you notice that already?So how do you recover quickly from being angry, resentful, sad or feeling guilty when things don't go your way? And how do you help your kids do the same?Listen in if you're brave enough. Because this is truly the first parenting podcast that's not about the kids. :)And you will want to learn this before your next big...2024-01-0547 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 63: 2024 Prep: How to Become the Mom You Wish You HadSend us a textThe time flies so fast, right?At least it feels like that, especially since I became a mom. Do you feel that way too?Well, if you don't want to let another year slip by, and really become that mom you wish you had growing up...And heck, you're not even "just a mom"! What is it that you want FOR YOU in 2024?Let's look into this together?Join me in this special, last podcast episode of 2023.Here's the link to the...2023-12-2931 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 62: How to Survive Time With Your Family (without too much drama)Send us a textDo you end up getting into fights with your parents/siblings in your family reunions? Or just feel stressed and nervous before you see them?What if it could be different this time?What if you could use this opportunity to show your kids how to navigate difficult relationships with grace, calm, and compassion?To be the example on how to set boundaries without getting hurt or hurting others?Why should you even consider doing so much effort when it's "their fault" anyways?Because unless and...2023-12-2219 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 61: When You or Your Kids Get SickSend us a textBeing sick sucks. Because unlike all the other human beings, if you’re a mom, you can’t just take a day off. You still need to take care of everyone and everything!So of course, it’s also going to be much more difficult to stay calm and patient with your kids. Especially if they are sick too…How to go through the times when you or/and your kids are sick, without losing your mind?Listen in…Support the show2023-12-1524 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 60: Your Stress-Free Christmas PlanSend us a textI’m curious, what memories do you have about Christmas when you were a child? And what were your best memories about?And what is your most important focus now that you have become a mom?Is it the cleaning, cooking, perfect gifts, planning perfect parties and visits, … so that you can feel you did the best you could and won’t be judged?And what if you didn’t have to feel stressed and under pressure this year?I know, asking a lot of question...2023-12-0830 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 59: How to Calm Yourself Down Without Running Away From Your Clingy ChildSend us a textIf you can’t calm yourself down when you’re overwhelmed and tired, you can’t expect your kids to be able to do the same.And I’m saying that with all of my compassion. Because I know how hard and impossible it feels to be able to stay calm and loving when you’re already running empty of energy and they keep asking for more…What does it take to be able to be there for your kids, without sacrificing your own mental health?Why you can stop looking for...2023-12-0346 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 58: 3 Steps To Stop Feeling The Need To Prove Yourself ConstantlySend us a textHow often do you catch yourself feeling the pressure of not being good enough, comparing yourself to others, needing to prove yourself?It used to be such a core part of my autopilot, seeded so deep that I didn’t even notice it. My entire day, my to-do list, how I looked at myself in the mirror, … everything used to be tinted by that need. And no matter how hard I tried, I could never get to the point when I felt happy with myself and allowed myself to take...2023-11-2436 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 57: How to Stay Calm When Kids Are Not ListeningSend us a textYes, I hear you.Kids not listening is the N.1 reason why moms start yelling.You know shouting at your kids is bad, and you don’t enjoy all this drama either but what else can you do after you asked them nicely and patiently already like 10 times?Of course, you blow up eventually because this is just not fair! Why are YOU the only one who’s supposed to do everything for everyone? They should all be helping too, or at least not make it so diff...2023-11-1733 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 56: Resentful and Angry With Your Partner, But a Part of You Still Loves Him? Do This…Send us a textIf you treat your husband as your eldest child because he doesn’t help enough and just nags for your physical attention…If you’re angry with him because he yells at the kids even more than you do…If you’re resentful of him because his life didn’t have to change much since you became parents, because you’re the one who sacrificed everything and continues to burn out like an exhausted zombie, …… no wonder your relationship doesn’t feel the way it used to.Why breaking it off without learning all...2023-11-1028 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 55: How To Manage Time Pressure With Your KidsSend us a textIt’s easy to be a calm mom when there’s no time pressure, nowhere to go… But that happens like once a month, right? Otherwise you keep running at the speed of light 24/7.So how do you do that, without losing your patience, and without yelling at your kids?Because I know you’ve already noticed - when you’re running late, the more things you have to squeeze in, the less your kids usually want to cooperate, and you end up shouting in a way you regret and keep t...2023-11-0346 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 54: How It Feels When Your Childhood Trauma is Healed And You No Longer Explode in AngerSend us a text“I’ll be happy and calm when… (a list of conditions follows).”That was the autopilot on which I ran. And because I couldn’t imagine my life NOT being stressful and super busy anytime soon, that also meant that I felt I could not be a zen mom any time soon.At least not until my daughter leaves home and I have fewer things to worry about. But then - duh! - that would be kind of late to start being a calm & happy mom, right?! 2023-10-2744 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 53: How To Set Healthy Boundaries With Your KidsSend us a textWhat are boundaries really? Because kids naturally don’t like rules, they will always try to break them, negotiate, not do it, … But I also didn’t want to force, push, or yell at my daughter if she said no or didn’t listen. Because I didn’t want her to grow up into being me: the one who always listened and never said no out of fear, and ended up becoming a resentful people-pleaser, walking on eggshells not to make mommy mad = afraid of not being loved.2023-10-2033 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 52: The Zen Supermom Team is Growing: Meet Tina!Send us a textThe Zen Supermom squad is expanding, and we are thrilled to introduce our newest team member: Coach Tina! I invited her for a chat in this podcast episode so that you can get to know her a bit. Because apart from being a first-class master coach and trauma specialist, she’s also a mom of 2, expatriate, … and so much more.So come meet Tina with me!You can catch this episode on YouTube as well at https://youtu.be/WWeNUeQiDdQSupport the showPrefer watc...2023-10-1927 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 51: How To Heal Your Own Childhood Without Blaming Your ParentsSend us a textMaybe you were not lucky enough to have a happy childhood. And maybe you did!Either way, if you can’t help it and end up yelling at your kids frequently, the chances are high that something happened very early on in your life and you never healed the pain. And that’s what keeps jumping out at your kids when they cross your boundaries now.How to start healing your pain without blaming your parents for it?And if you are already mad with them because it w...2023-10-1325 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 50: How To Set Healthy Boundaries When Your Child Is Yelling At YouSend us a textNo child is born mean or has the intention to hurt you. But what if they start yelling at you, and calling you the worst names because something you did or said made them mad? How do you feel about them then? Hurt, not respected, angry?Of course, it makes perfect sense. But once you calm down, you might regret some things you said in that heat of the moment. And even though you apologized, you feel ashamed it happened and you lost your calm.If you k...2023-10-0634 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 49: When Bad Things Turn Worse: How To Get Back In ControlSend us a textLife can get very cruel at times. And no matter how hard you try to protect yourself and the kids from the pain, sometimes you just can’t. And it’s devastating.How to deal with situations that feel heavier than what you can take?How to still get up in the morning and be there for your kids?Let me share a few powerful tweaks that worked for my supermom clients in their heavy situations.May this bring you some much-needed peace and ease for...2023-09-2928 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 48: The Missing Step in Dealing With Your Child’s TantrumsSend us a textThere are tons of books and parenting techniques about kids' tantrums. But why none of that works, especially when you’re in public or with your own parents, and everyone is looking at you, judging you and your child…?How to not lose your calm in that stressful situation?And what can you do so that your child calms down faster, and you both can continue your day without losing much energy over it?Listen in! Catch this episode on Youtube at https://youtu.be/0rhdBO...2023-09-2229 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 47: Afraid of healing your past because it's painful? Do this...Send us a textCongratulations, supermom!You already know that to stop yelling at your kids, parenting techniques won't help.Because no matter how easy it would be to blame them for making you upset, exhausted, and out of patience, you know it has actually a lot to do with you.So first of all, you're a great mom and I know you're doing your best.And I know that for a fact because you're here, looking for help.But there are just some things that do not...2023-09-1524 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 46: 3 Steps To Stop Your Child From Hitting You - Without YellingSend us a textIs your child hitting you when they feel angry? Do they suddenly get into a fit of rage at the end of the day when you pick them up at the daycare center? Or what is the situation when they lose it the most often?I know that it can be super frustrating when your once cute little bundle of joy who only knows coos and ahhs, one day, suddenly starts hitting you out of nowhere.Want to get the 3 key steps to help them stop - w...2023-09-0833 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 45: The Zen Supermom Team is growing! Meet Silvia...Send us a textI am so excited about this episode, but let me start by saying thank you to all the moms who took the leap of faith and embarked on the journey of becoming an anger-free, unconditionally loving mom with the help of The Zen Supermom Program. It wouldn’t exist and grow so fast without you.And yes, we are growing! Please join me as we welcome our newest addition to The Zen Supermom team, an expatriate supermom of two, and experienced Therapeutic Trauma-Informed Coach Silvia Causo. Let’s hear her story, her...2023-09-0129 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 44: If you lost hope…Send us a textIf you lost hope at ever feeling better because you already tried and learned so much (parenting, mindfulness, therapy, …) and none of that helped you fully heal, stop yelling at your kids, stop burning out, stop feeling depressed, and just feeling like a really bad mom…Then this short episode is for you.Support the showPrefer watching this podcast on video? Find us on YouTube!Zen Supermom YouTube Channel About the Author:Alen...2023-08-2515 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 43: 3 Quick& Effective Ways For Busy Supermoms To Get The Stress Out Of Your BodySend us a textHow often do you notice your body is contracted, your muscles tight (or even trembling), as your mind keeps racing on and you keep pushing through your day?If you even find yourself paralyzed by stress since the morning, it’s high time you start dealing with it effectively, otherwise, you’re in much more trouble than “just” turning into a Momzilla and yelling it out at your kids…Why is stress so dangerous in the short & long term?And how to get rid of it effectively and quickl...2023-08-1835 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 42: Is Anger Forbidden Emotion That I Should Avoid In Front of Kids?Send us a textWhat’s the difference between yelling at your kids, and toxic positivity - faking & avoiding any negative emotions)And how to express your anger in a healthy way, without blaming anyone or damaging your relationships?Listen in…Support the showPrefer watching this podcast on video? Find us on YouTube!Zen Supermom YouTube Channel About the Author:Alena Gomes Rodrigues is a mommy tantrum specialist and the founder of the Zen Supe...2023-08-1127 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 41: Yes, but... (For those who'd love to join Zen Supermom but...)Send us a textThis podcast episode is for you if you’ve already been around Zen Supermom a bit, you’ve listened to some of this podcast or attended the Mommy Tantrum Training (if not, register here for the next one: https://www.zensupermom.com/workshop)… And you resonate with this work. You realize you could use some help in cleaning up your anger and raising your mental fitness level, BUT…There are tons of questions, fears, and doubts that pop up.So in this episode, I’m going to answer tho...2023-08-0435 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 40: Your Marriage - How to overcome disagreements about parentingSend us a textWhat to do when you don’t have the same parenting style as your spouse? How to agree on what’s important for your kids, and how you want to raise them? And how do you keep your own boundaries about what’s still acceptable for you, and what’s not? Dive into this episode full of clients’ examples and my personal stories, where I give you the step-by-step sequence that I also shared inside my Zen Supermom program… LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Mother-In-Law...2023-07-2830 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 39: Sibling Jealousy: How to stop yelling at your firstborn when he/she asks for attention by not listeningSend us a textSibling Jealousy: The missing puzzle piece for a busy supermom to stop yelling at her firstborn when he/she asks for attention by not listening How often does your firstborn do something that they KNOW will make you mad?And you are aware of that. You know it's their way of asking for attention because they are jealous. You just can't help it and yell because it makes you so angry in that moment that you can't control it.Sounds familiar?And how frustrating is it, even a...2023-07-2128 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 38: Why You Over-React When Your Child Gets Hurt (Or Hurts You) And How To Stop ItSend us a textWhy do you overreact and get hijacked by an uncontrollable rage when your child is at risk of being hurt (or when they hurt you)?Where is that rage coming from, when the key thing you want to do is to keep them (and yourself) safe, free from pain?And what does it take to stop having these scary rage episodes?Listen in...Support the showPrefer watching this podcast on video? Find us on YouTube!Zen Supermom YouTube Channel2023-07-1427 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 37: 2 Steps To Turn Bedtime Into Your Favorite Moment Of The DaySend us a textIf your kids' bedtime turns into a struggle each night and you’ve tried all those parenting hacks and bedtime routines but it doesn’t work for you and your kids, here’s what you might be missing…I narrowed it down to 2 steps.Two steps and you will start looking forward to the bedtime as one of your favorite moments of the day that fills you up with love and connection.Worth giving it a try, isn’t it?Support the show2023-07-0738 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 36: Your Child Is Your Teacher (How to shift from being controlled by your anger into learning more about yourself)Send us a textNot being able to control your anger when you get triggered by your kids (or your spouse) is an opportunity to get curious.Especially if similar situations keep repeating and you feel stuck in becoming the shouty mom (or a "momzilla" as I used to call myself).What if those moments were pointing to the exact baggage from your past that still needed cleaning up?What if those were also opportunities for you to learn how to set healthy boundaries and become more stress resistant?Wouldn't...2023-06-3030 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 35: Can’t Figure It Out Why You Keep Yelling at Your Kids, Though You Want To Stay Calm? (Generational Developmental Trauma Awareness)Send us a textIf you’re feeling like the worst mom in the world because you keep yelling at your kids and can’t stop it, even though you have the best intentions to stay calm… And, if you have no idea WHY, then this episode is for you. Yes, there is the “T” word… But even if you had a happy, trauma-free childhood, or if you already did therapy to process your pain from the past, I would still invite you to listen in.Because if you can’t keep your anger...2023-06-2324 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 34: To Be Or Not To Be A Supermom?Send us a textTo be or not to be a supermom?Is it a recipe for burnout, impatience, and yelling at your kids?Or do you give up, and become a dedicated mom ‘only’? But what if you keep shouting and burning out even then?How to get out of this (self) judgment trap of how much or how little you should be doing for your kids and for yourself?That’s what I struggled with for the first two years of my dau...2023-06-1617 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 33: Are You Too Busy To Get Help And Stop Yelling At Your Kids?Send us a textToo busy to get help and stop yelling at your kids?Then this mini-episode is for you.Super efficient, straight to the point, with a bit of tough love included. (Something I wish I got before I started on this Zen Supermom Mental Fitness journey…)May this give you the aha moments you need the most right now.Prefer watching this episode as a video? Find it on the Zen Supermom Youtube channel: https://youtu.be/uDAS_QOpg1ESu...2023-06-0908 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 32: Is Your Mother-In-Law Stealing Your Calm? (How To Stop Toxic Relationship Dynamic)Send us a textIs your mother-in-law (or some other family member you can’t avoid seeing) stealing your calm?Are they making hurtful comments and making you feel angry and defensive?Then listen to this episode and the 3 steps (and 1 ninja move) how to:1. turn it around, and 2. come from this relationship as a winner, 3. and become a great role example for your kids on how to effectively protect yourself from toxic people.Support the showPrefer watching this podcast on v...2023-06-0232 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp#31: Do You Take Better Care of Your Kids Than Yourself? (Why & How to Stop That)Send us a textI used to wear the martyr-supermom sacrifice attitude as my badge of honor, thinking what I great mom I was that I did everything for her and hardly ever anything for myself.I thought that’s what great mothers did. And I definitely wanted to be the best mom for my daughter.Only when I started feeling resentful towards her, blaming her for being needy, for me being exhausted and yelling at her… I realized this expectation and pressure I was putting on myself was seriously screwed up.So...2023-05-2625 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp #30: Guided Visualization for Calm & Peace (Instant Stress Relief)Send us a textAfter a last couple of heavy podcast episodes, here’s a shorter, practical episode that you can listen to at any time you wish you could just take holidays and leave all the stress behind… I don’t have a magic wand to do that for you but this guided visualization will have a very similar effect, instantly. Want to give it a try?Let’s go!Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/BJBvVM3tTwQ Support th...2023-05-1917 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp #29: When Your Parents Get Sick (How to not drown in pain if you can't help them)Send us a textWhat to do when your parents get sick and you can’t help them as much as you wish you could?How to navigate through this situation with calm & peace, in a way that helps you and your parent feel loved and connected?... Without feeling like a victim, helplessly drowning in your pain? Listen in or watch this episode on video: https://youtu.be/4Z9oQrcXbZISupport the showPrefer watching this podcast on video? Find us on...2023-05-1231 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp #28: Do This After You Yelled At Your Kids & Feel Guilty About ItSend us a textListen to this episode after you yelled at your kids and now you feel guilty about it. Rather than beating yourself up for the rest of the day – and then repeating the yelling and guilt loop all over again tomorrow, let me guide you through a process that will help you break that pattern.Ready?Let’s go!LINK:The Podcast episode about the Saboteurs, including the Saboteur Test/Assessment is HERE.The video version of this episode is HERE.2023-05-0523 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 27: Did Your Birth Go As Planned? (Trauma Healing)Send us a textDid your birth go as planned?That’s a question I asked my Zen Supermom audience this week and I got back so many stories that I decided to turn it into a podcast episode and start helping… What’s waiting for you inside this episode:The traumatic birthing experience of my client – and what exactly I’m doing to help herThe explanation of how it’s all connected: you yelling at your kids & regretting it – with the tough experiences you went through maybe even before you became a mo...2023-04-2831 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 26: From Stress To Calm: You Can't Improve What You Don't MeasureSend us a textHow often and for how long do you usually get stuck in your stressed-out corner and dark victim stories about how everything, everyone, and you suck?... And then follow up by beating yourself up for being such a ‘not-good-enough’ mom and woman and not knowing how to change it…You might try something new, give it all your energy and hope, push hard, and then crash and burn when it doesn’t work as fast or as well as you were expecting it to. Sounds familiar...2023-04-2128 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 25: Behind the scenes - Insights from my day of healing trauma & rewiring brains of my clients :)Send us a text I’m curious, how often do you follow your intuition, rather than your super-smart brain & logic?And who even says that it has to be one or the other? Why could you follow your guts, without turning off your brain?Well, that’s what I decided to do for this episode.I could also title it “Behind the Scenes” or “One Day With a Therapeutic Coach”…Because it’s full of aha moments and insights I collected for you throughout one day of working with my c...2023-04-1440 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp 24: The ONE MISSING Step That No One Told You About (... and that's why you can't stop yelling at your kids)Send us a textI used to yell at my daughter every evening when we were both tired and she didn’t listen to what I told her to do… And I could feel the anger rising in my body but I couldn’t stop it. I just had to yell it out.And I felt sooo guilty afterward.It took me months to figure out that there’s ONE STEP missing in all the parenting advice and scripts out there.Because have you noticed that when you yell at your kids, it...2023-04-0759 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp #23: Get 10% Calmer & Happier Without Spending Any Extra Time, Money, or EnergySend us a textThat’s a very salesy and suspicious title, I know… But what if you really could find more peace, calm, and happiness right now, no matter how hard your situation is? Without having to do more? That’s my invitation for this podcast episode full of mental ‘ninja’ shifts. Are you ready?Let’s dive in together!Support the showPrefer watching this podcast on video? Find us on YouTube!Zen Supermom YouTube Channel 2023-03-3132 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp #22: 3 Signs You Have Unresolved Childhood Trauma (Spoiler Alert: That's why you can't stop yelling at your kids...)Send us a textThis episode is the longest I’ve done so far because it covers it all.I truly believe that your healing and feeling better starts with understanding first what’s going on with you. And unfortunately, it goes deeper than just you not being able to control your anger when your kids don’t listen and you’re already stressed out/exhausted…So that’s why this episode covers the explanation about what trauma is (because you might have one or more without knowing it), what the latest t...2023-03-2441 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp #21: Affirmations for Calm & Happy Mom (aka Reprogram your Sh#@! Self-Talk NOW)Send us a textDear supermom,You're amazing, lovable, and worthy of all the appreciation in the world, exactly the way you are right now.YOU ARE ENOUGH.Don't believe me?Are those voices in your head telling a different story?Well, it might be time to start reprogramming that nasty self-talk NOW.Because what would you say to your daughter/son if they told you they have similar stories in their head about who they are?... You see?And I don't have...2023-03-1715 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp #20: Shift These 3 Beliefs to Stop Yelling At Your Kids (Mental Fitness Intro Part 3)Send us a textIt's not about your emotions, not enough time, or about other people pushing your buttons... There is a way you can stay calm, laser-focused, and effectively manage any stressful situation with your anger eating you up inside, or bursting out. Even if nothing/no one else changes. How? I unpacked it step by step in the Zen Supermom, Mental Fitness Podcast in the last two episodes about the Mental Fitness Intro. And in this final episode, we’ll wrap it all together. For the most val...2023-03-1029 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp #19: HOW?! How to stay CALM no matter what (Mental Fitness Intro: Part 2)Send us a textThis episode builds up on the previous one - episode 18.Episode 18 unpacked:- the beginning of the stressed mom journey-what's really going on, and -why the classic parenting/mom advice does NOT help in being a calm, loving, peaceful mom (without raising your voice too much).In this episode #19, I'm continuing on that journey by answering the question I get the most from newcomers: -OK, so now what…HOW do you stay calm no matter what?-How does Mental Fitness help, SPECIFICALLY? -W...2023-03-0330 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp #18: Want to control your emotions before they burst out? Start HERE! (Mental Fitness Intro Part 1)Send us a textHow to control your emotions in the heat of the moment and not raise your voice at your kids? What to do when that black cloud of anger, and frustration is all you can hear and see in the moment and the only way to get release is to scream it out?That’s what you’re going to learn in this episode full of my own examples and my clients' stories – as always. LINKS MENTIONED:- The Positive Intelligence science & research (if you’re curiou...2023-02-2432 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp #17: Exhausted and tired of people not respecting your boundaries?Send us a textHow to set, communicate, and keep your boundaries when you’re exhausted and angry because they ignore your asking for help and you're already carrying so much of responsibilities and an overloaded schedule?That's what you'll find out in this episode full of personal examples illustrating the step-by-step method I use to protect my time and sanity...Leave a comment on your podcast platform (or in our Zen Supermom Cafe FB group) about the most useful insight for you in this episode!Take care, supermom!2023-02-1734 minZen Supermom: The Mental Fitness PodcastEp #16: How to EFFECTIVELY deal with judgment, criticism, and comparisonsSend us a textI could not even count how many times I felt judged, criticized, or compared to others as a mom. And worse, how often I did that to myself, or to others...Struggling with something similar?Would you like to break free from judgment, criticism, and comparison?I'm going to break it down in this episode with you.So that you not only understand what's REALLY happening and why, but also how to stop it, and protect yourself and your relationships.Support the show2023-02-1033 min