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Hello Hayes"My Friend Wants to Be the Most Important!" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2026-02-1744 minHello Hayes"Should I Go To My Sister's Wedding?"In this episode, a letter writer is torn between attending her sister’s wedding and staying true to the life she’s chosen. Hayes explores the fear of disappointing family, the grief that follows big personal change, and how to make decisions when every option carries a loss.
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2026-02-1045 minHello Hayes"My Boyfriend Left Me for His Best Friend" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2026-02-031h 05Hello Hayes“I Thought I’d Be Thriving By 30”In today’s episode, a 30‑year‑old listener feels lost in her dream job. Hayes talks about the identity crisis of turning 30, the grief of outgrowing old dreams, and what it really means when your unhealthy patterns come back. Send letters to hellohayesadvice@gmail.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2026-01-271h 00Hello Hayes"My Husband Won’t Talk About Having Kids" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2026-01-2052 minHello Hayes"I Don't Know How to End This Friendship"Today’s letter asks: How do you break up with a friend when they’re going through something hard? This episode explores the guilt, the timing, and the emotional confusion of stepping back from a friendship that no longer feels healthy.
We talk about:
⭐why leaving can feel morally wrong
⭐the difference between compassion and self‑abandonment
⭐when a slow fade helps… and when it doesn’t
⭐how to be honest without being cruel
⭐what it means to let go of a friendship that once mattered Learn m...
2026-01-1341 minHello Hayes“My Boyfriend Said Something I Can’t Unhear”In the first episode of 2026, a listener writes in after her boyfriend (while blacked out at the bar) called her a name she can’t unhear. Now she’s stuck between the relationship she knows and the truth she’s afraid to look at. We talk about the role alcohol plays in conflict, what it means when someone insists they “didn’t mean it,” and the difference between not lying and not having the language yet. We explore the shame of telling friends the worst thing someone did, the fear of what their reactions might force you to confront, and how to d...
2026-01-0657 minHello Hayes"Can My Husband Be My Best Friend?" (Six Besties FAQ)A holiday rerun answering your most-asked Six Besties Theory questions. Can your partner be your best friend? Can you have more than one North Star? How do you know what kind of bestie you are to other people? This episode explores how friendship shifts over time, how to grieve those changes, and how to build a friendship ecosystem that actually supports you. I'll be back with new episodes on Tuesday, Jan 6! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2025-12-3045 minHello Hayes"Why Am I Never the Priority?"A holiday rerun from a listener who feels like none of her friendships are truly reciprocal — and wonders what that pattern might be trying to tell her. I'll be back with new episodes on Tuesday, Jan 6! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2025-12-231h 05Hello Hayes"My Best Friend Doesn't Have My Back"
Revisiting a listener favorite while we take a break for the holidays
2025-12-1638 minHello Hayes“Has Our Friendship Drifted Beyond Repair?The letter writer wasn't invited on her best friend's birthday trip. Then she got the last-minute invite. Will going on the trip save the friendship? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2025-12-0941 minHello Hayes"I’ve Never Had a Friend Group!""Am I missing something special?" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2025-12-0237 minHello Hayes“My In-Laws Ignore My Holiday Sadness” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2025-11-2552 minHello Hayes“My Friends Expect More Than I Can Give!” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2025-11-1845 minHello Hayes"Why Am I So Afraid to Move Back Home?"Where a letter writer questions her resistance to moving back to the city she's from. + updates on my personal moving journey. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2025-11-1147 minHello Hayes“My Friends Always Complain About Their Weight!”"...and I never seem to say the right thing in response." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2025-11-0446 minHello Hayes"My Anxiety is Sabotaging My Dating Life" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2025-10-2852 minHello Hayes“I Cheated on the Perfect Man. How Do I Move On?”"I am stuck with my own mistake and I'm afraid my relationship is tainted forever by my own flaws. How do I forgive myself?"
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2025-10-2142 minHello Hayes"I Need My Parents to Comfort Me But They Won't"In this week's Hello Hayes, a letter writer is scared to tell her parents about her recent break-up with a partner of seven years. They were "attached" to him and were proud of her for being in such a "happy" and "successful" relationship. Let's advice! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2025-10-1440 minHello HayesHe Sends Me Angry Texts When I Disagree! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2025-10-0741 min
Hello HayesMy Friends Say "Timelines Don't Matter." Easy For Them!On friendship after college, getting engaged, and what to do when you receive dismissive advice from well-intentioned people. Hello Hayes!
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2025-09-3029 min
Hello Hayes“My Friends Are Pissing Me Off With Their Baby Questions!"This week we're talking about how to deal with triggering questions, understanding our feelings about having kids, whether some topics are "too personal" to discuss with friends, and more.
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2025-09-231h 19Hello Hayes"Will Quitting My Job Bring Back My Spark?"(plus the final part of our creative process q&a) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2025-09-1646 min
Hello Hayes“My Friend Skipped My Dad’s Funeral For a Girls Trip” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2025-09-091h 10Hello Hayes"Will I Regret Choosing My Girlfriend Over My Career?"This week's Hello Hayes asks: "Is it ever okay to pick love over career?" Let's discuss.
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2025-09-0241 min
Hello Hayes“My Boyfriend Isn’t Close With His Family. Is That a Red Flag?”This week's Hello Hayes advice column: Our letter writer, a chronic overthinker, is "freaked out" about getting engaged because her boyfriend isn't as family oriented as she is. (Or is he?) We discuss: family dynamics and being "family oriented," getting engaged, relationship standards, and whether there's validity to the "80/20" rule.
In the back half, we're getting a pulse check on generative AI. What are your feelings? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2025-08-2642 minHello Hayes"Should I Leave My Friend Group?"What to do when your friends feel like emotional strangers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2025-08-191h 10Hello Hayes"I Don’t Want My Dad’s Wife at My Wedding. Am I Wrong?"What’s the right thing to do when you’ve kept the peace with someone your whole life… but now you don’t want them at your wedding? That’s the dilemma in this week’s Hello Hayes advice column. Let’s hear it.
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2025-08-1243 minHello Hayes"My Friendships Feel One-Sided. How Do I Become a Priority?"Let’s talk about reciprocity in friendship. In this episode, I answer a letter from someone who’s tired of always being the one to initiate. Then, in the second half, I dive into your rapid-fire questions — everything from how to support a friend who keeps making “disastrous” decisions to what to do when your friends just don’t seem to understand you.
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2025-08-051h 07Hello Hayes"My Friends Don't Think I Should Get Married"Want advice? Send letters to hellohayesadvice@gmail.com
Her friends say she’s too young to get married — but she’s never felt more ready. This week on Hello Hayes, we unpack what to do when the people closest to you don’t support your biggest life decision yet.
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2025-07-291h 16
Hello Hayes"My Friends Don't Understand My Money Stress"Let's say you want to build a new life for yourself: make money, have great friends, get to travel…and you're on your way! But what happens when you suddenly look around and realize that no one can relate to what you've been through or where you come from? Are those relationships doomed? Was it crazy to ever think you could be different from where you come from?
In today's Hello Hayes, we're hearing from a 20-year-old college student who feels like the poor friend in every room — and is wondering if she'll ever feel fully seen and...
2025-07-2257 min
Hello Hayes"My Boyfriend Lacks Empathy For Strangers" (advice column + creativity q&a, part 2) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2025-07-161h 00
Hello Hayes"My Boyfriend Won't Rank Me First" (Advice Column)How much should you sacrifice for someone who won’t do the same for you?That’s the question behind this week's Hello Hayes letter , written by someone who has given everything to her relationship and is starting to wonder if it’s being returned.
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2025-07-0852 min
Hello Hayes"My Best Friend Won't Pick a Side" (Advice Column)Is it betrayal when your best friend stays friends with someone who hurt you? Let's discuss... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2025-07-0139 minHello Hayes"My Husband's Drunk Text Ruined My Friendships (2 Years Later)" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2025-06-2422 minHello HayesWhy Creative Projects Feel Impossible to Start (Q+A, part 1 of 4)Thank you all for submitting such great questions on the creative process and writing. This is part 1 of my 4 part Q+A series! In today's episode, we're tackling HOW TO GET STARTED. We’re gonna talk about finding a spark, idea generation, we’re gonna talk about recognizing yourself as an artist or writer and giving yourself permission to be that person, and then we’re gonna talk about being seen by others. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2025-06-1742 minHello HayesI Broke My Elbow (Storytime) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2025-06-1035 min
Hello HayesHow to Be Disciplined (Without Hating Yourself)Today we're talking about discipline: how to get it and how to stop hating ourselves for not having it. This episode is for you if:
You feel like your lack of discipline is the reason you haven’t reached your potential.
You have something you desperately want to do, but can’t seem to stick with it.
You wonder why discipline seems so easy for other people — and so hard for you.
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2025-06-0328 minHello Hayes9 Books to Help You Heal This SummerToday we’re talking about the healing power of books — specifically 9 books (fiction and non-fiction) that have helped me heal over the past year. The first half of this episode is a rapid-fire review of eight of my favorites, and in the second half, I do a deep dive on the book I’m currently reading: THE MYTH OF NORMAL by Dr. Gabor Maté.
If you’re feeling stuck, burned out, or ready to grow emotionally, these books can support your healing journey and offer clarity, comfort, and new perspectives.
For more book reco...
2025-05-2735 min
Hello Hayes3 Ways You Might Be Sabotaging True Friendship (and How to Build an Inner Circle)Everyone wants (and) deserves an inner circle full of people they trust, but sometimes we get in our way own while searching for them. In this episode, we're talking about the three main ways we sabotage building our inner circle, how we can begin to properly build our inner circle brick by brick, and at the end, I'm answering an advice submission from someone who feels like everyone else has tight knit friends except for them. Enjoy! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2025-05-2043 minHello HayesWhy Friends Flake (and When to Forgive Them)Flaky friendships are tricky. Sometimes it’s about priorities, sometimes it’s burnout, and sometimes… it’s just poor communication. In this rapid-fire Q+A, I’m answering your questions about what it really means when friends flake — and how to tell the difference between a friendship worth saving and one that’s run its course. Thank you to everyone who submitted on Instagram! (https://www.instagram.com/afhayes)
This episode was actually recorded six months ago as a bonus I never released (I'm sorry), but it’s still relevant today. Whether you’re hurt by a friend who keeps c...
2025-05-1322 minHello HayesDoing Things You’re Bad At (For Love)Soooo, my husband bribed me to run a 10K for diamond earrings. That's SIX POINT FOUR MILES! But this episode isn’t really about running. It’s about love, discomfort, and doing things you’re not good at…on purpose. In this episode of Hello Hayes, we talk about why I said yes to something I hate, what it means to show interest in your partner’s world, and why it's worth stepping outside your comfort zone. Whether you're a runner or not, this one’s for anyone who’s ever avoided something just because they might fail. L...
2025-05-0633 min
Hello HayesSimple Questions I Hate: "Have You Made A Lot of Friends?"In this episode of Hello Hayes, I'm unpacking one of the most common — and surprisingly complicated — questions I get when I tell people I moved across the country: "Have you made a lot of friends?" I share why that question trips me up, how my answer has evolved after moving to a new city, and why focusing on the amount of friendships might not be the most helpful way to think about building your life. Whether you're trying to make new friends, feeling stuck socially, or rethinking what friendship even means, this episode is for you. Le...
2025-04-2929 minHello HayesI Adopted a Puppy. Will I Lose Myself?In this episode, I tell you all about why Brian and I decided to adopt a dog and give you an honest recap of what the first week has been like. We dive into the wonderful parts...and the parts that are truly scaring the shit out of me. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2025-04-2233 min
Hello HayesThe Hidden Ego of “Natural Aging” (Why I Haven’t Done Botox)This week on the Hello Hayes pod, I'm reflecting on my beliefs about Botox. Why haven’t I done it yet? Is it moral superiority or genuine disinterest? No final answers here, just honest questions and an eyebrow or two (literally) raised. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2025-04-1530 min
Hello Hayes"Should I Say Something or Move On?"What do you do when something doesn’t sit right, but addressing it feels risky? In this episode of Hello Hayes, I’m answering three advice letters that circle around one big question: Should I speak up, or move on? We’re talking about backhanded compliments, financial secrets, flaky friendships, and the moment you start to wonder if you’re asking too much — or just finally seeing things clearly. If you’ve ever questioned whether to confront someone or let it go… this one’s for you.0:00 Introduction2:35 Letter 1: "He Says the Wrong Thing Abou...
2025-04-0854 min
Hello HayesIs Therapy Making Everyone Selfish?Is therapy making everyone selfish? A friend asked me this question the other day...and I have thoughts. So in this episode of the Hello Hayes podcast, I’m sharing my personal journey with therapy and tackling your biggest therapy questions — from knowing when therapy is working to dealing with therapists who overshare, and the fear of facing what you might find out about yourself. Let's dive in :) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2025-04-011h 01
Hello Hayes12 Life Lessons That Made Me Happier at 32in this episode, I’m sharing 12 lessons I learned at 31 that helped me get to a happier place — from rethinking success and letting my friends show up for me, to embracing fear and finding joy in the little moments. Whether you’re in your 20s, 30s, or just navigating life, I hope these lessons help you find happiness, too. 💛 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2025-03-2549 min
Hello HayesThe Art of Giving Good AdviceIt's the Hello Hayes Guide to Giving Good Advice! If you’ve ever struggled with knowing what to say when a friend asks for guidance (or felt frustrated when someone gave you bad advice), this episode is for you. As an advice columnist (Hello Hayes), I’ve spent years answering your letters and helping people navigate life’s toughest situations. In this episode, I’m breaking down how to actually help YOUR people — without being overbearing, judgmental, or just plain unhelpful.We’ll talk about:✔️ Why advice isn’t a prescription—it’...
2025-03-1844 minHello HayesBONUS: A Friendship Theory to Change Your Life (Six Besties Theory)[Originally published on YouTube.] Introducing, the Hello Hayes Six Besties Theory. This friendship theory has changed my life and I’m so excited to share it with you. In this explainer video, we’re diving deep into the six essential bestie archetypes: The North Star, The Seasonal, The Good Time, The OG, The Dead Body, and The Work Bestie. But this isn’t just a list! By the end of the video, you'll learn the real life scenarios that inspired this theory, how my friendships have evolved over time, why some besties stick around while others fade away, and a prob...
2025-03-1421 min
Hello HayesThe Feelings We Pretend We Don’t Have (But Definitely Do)We all have feelings we wish we didn’t. Jealousy, resentment, comparison...the kind of emotions that make us feel a little gross, even though they’re totally human. In this advice column episode, I’m answering three Hello Hayes advice letters about:💔 A former friend struggling to let go of resentment toward their ex-best friend’s success🤰 A woman grieving a miscarriage while navigating her cousin’s pregnancy (TW: See timestamps below to skip this section!)💍 And a bride-to-be who suddenly isn’t sure if size matters when it comes to engagement r...
2025-03-1140 min
Hello HayesSix Besties Theory FAQCan my significant other or sibling be my best friend? Do North Star besties have to be reciprocal? Is there any type of friend who I can expect to text every day? In this episode, I’m answering your most frequently asked questions about my Six Besties Theory! If you're not familiar with the theory, you can watch my Six Besties, Explained video here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CY5v2LreUrU&t=1s Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2025-03-0447 minHello HayesHow Do I Get Closer With My Siblings?this week we're talking about sibling relationships, age gaps, and growing up with divorce. I recently posted about the 8.5 year age gap between me and my younger brother, and how, as a kid, I often felt like a third parent to both of my siblings (can't forget my sister, the sweet middle child!). i wrote that this dynamic has definitely impacted our sibling relationship today, as well as my own feelings about becoming a mom. i was BLOWN AWAY by how many of you responded with similar feelings, or just generally asked me to talk more about this topic...
2025-02-1838 minHello HayesIs This Podcast a Failure?my loves, welcome back! after taking a much-needed podcasting break, I’m back with a reimagined vision for the Hello Hayes pod. in this episode, I share why I almost walked away for good and the lessons I learned about failure, growth, and change. plus, I answer an advice submission about finding direction in life when you feel like you’re starting from square one. whether you’re navigating your own reset or just need a little inspiration, this episode is for you.You can find me on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/afhaye...
2025-01-2853 minHello HayesA Voicemail from HayesSee you next year, Hayeselnuts!Hello Hayes survey: https://forms.gle/Jtv2BKr2Wafy75gh6In the meantime, connect with me on Substack, YouTube, and Instagram. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2024-11-2604 minHello HayesThe Reality of Long Distance FriendshipIn this episode of Hello Hayes, we're talking about long distance friendship: how to make friends when you move somewhere new, but also, how to maintain the friendships that are now separated by miles and miles and miles. Hayes invites one of her North Star besties Matt onto the show to discuss.References:Dear Noah: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dfAzhnguXBc00:00 Cold open00:42 Topic intro: Long-distance Friendships2:23 Meet Matt4:43 Our first impressions of each other10:03 Be each other’s...
2024-11-1258 min
Hello HayesThe Flaky Friend Problem[Watch on YouTube.] This week on Hello Hayes, we're talking about flaky friends. Hayes answers three advice submissions about a distant childhood friend, feeling disconnected from your single besties, and how to deal with someone who always cancels. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2024-11-0553 min
Hello HayesHayes Gives Herself Advice (on Grief, Ambition, and Other Stuff)(Watch on YouTube.) This week on Hello Hayes, I'm answering an advice letter....from myself. After experiencing what I call a "grief explosion" last week, I needed to give myself some advice. Thanks for being here while I talk it out with you. Crying is OK. Grieving is OK. Trying new things is OK. Planning to protect yourself...is OK!!! Please let me know what you thought of this episode. If it goes well for all of us, I might incorporate more of these "solo" episodes in the future. Learn more about your ad choices...
2024-10-2930 min
Hello HayesTalking About SexContent warning: Letter 2 includes a brief reference to SA, no details. It’s not the focus of the letter, but I do bring up the context of being a survivor. If this makes you uncomfortable, see the timestamps below to skip.This week on Hello Hayes, Hayes answers three advice submissions about how to balance two people's physical needs in a romantic relationship, advocating for our needs and fantasies in bed, and whether it's okay to talk to your friends about your sex life. (PS: If you have any personal experiences to share about asexuality, polyamory, ethical no...
2024-10-2256 min
Hello HayesThe Cost of Being the "Chill" Girlfriend[Watch on YouTube.]In this episode, Hayes answers three letters from women who feel like they (and their feelings, boundaries, and bodies) are too much. We explore the question: is it selfish...or is it self-worth? Letter one features a man who insists on being besties with his exes. Letter two, from someone whose boyfriend told her he's losing attraction towards her because of her weight gain. (If you're uncomfortable with the topic of weight, feel free to skip to letter 2. Timestamp in the description!) And letter three is from a soon-to-be 21-year old whose boyfriend...doesn't "g...
2024-10-151h 01
Hello HayesAn Honest Advice Session with Justine SnacksIn this episode, Hayes is joined by recipe developer, food creator, and soon to be debut cookbook author Justine Doiron, aka Justine Snacks. For the first time on the show, Justine brings her own Hello Hayes letter to discuss with Hayes, focused on some of the pressures she feels around the success and promotion for her cookbook Justine Cooks. We also talk about dealing with imposter syndrome in our careers, what happens when self-worth is too tied up in accomplishment, and whether "authenticity" on the internet is desired or even real anymore. At the end, Justine gives Hayes some...
2024-10-081h 14
Hello HayesRead Aloud with Hayes: Right Person, Wrong TimeHello! In today's episode, which is an audio exclusive, I'm reading three columns from the Hello Hayes archive...a read aloud, if you will!These pieces can all be read in their original form on my Substack, hellohayes.substack.com. This is where my writing lives and where you can support Hello Hayes financially, if you're able. Paid subscribers get a priority pass on submissions! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2024-10-0148 min
Hello HayesNavigating Uncomfortable Living SituationsIn today’s episode we’re talking about something that has one of the biggest impacts on our mental well-being, whether we’re happy or distressed….and that’s our living situations. Thinking back on my own life, some of the most tumultuous times for me were exacerbated by the fact that I was living in places I didn’t feel comfortable in. Whether it was living in my sorority, or trying to figure out how to live alone for the first time, wanting to move in with Brian. Stressful. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit...
2024-09-2443 min
Hello HayesHayes and Brob: 10 Lessons From 10 YearsIn honor of our anniversary, Brob joins the pod to talk about 10 lessons we've learned over 10 years together. He's a little camera shy but I think he did great :) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2024-09-1757 min
Hello Hayes"I Feel Like a Liar. Am I Marrying the Wrong Person?"(Watch this episode on YouTube.)Today’s episode is all about the thrilling yet sometimes messy and confusing world of crushes. We’ve got three letters:
"I have a pattern of falling for people who are unavailable. Should I tell my new friend that I have a crush on her, even though she's in a longterm relationship?"
"I told my coworker I had feelings for him. I think he has feelings for me too but...he has a girlfriend."
"I'm engaged to my boyfriend of 7 years, but I have a relentless crush on someone new. Should I st...
2024-09-1034 min
Hello Hayes"Should I Go To The Event By Myself?"What do you do when you're invited to an event with a plus one...but you have no one to bring? Is it better to go alone or to bring a friend? On this week’s episode of the Hello Hayes podcast we’re chatting going to events solo, finding confidence in yourself, and doing the hard thing because you can. I also share the story of how I embarrassed myself in front of my work hero a couple of weeks ago...and how I'm reframing it so I don't obsess about this any further! Lear...
2024-09-0334 min
Hello Hayes"I Don't Like My Best Friend's Boyfriend"Watch on YouTube. (9am EST)0:00 - Introduction1:04 - Overview of the 3 letters1:46 - Letter 1: Estranged from family3:50 - Response to letter 1 begins 5:02 - Why certain phrases trigger us7:12 - What I’ve noticed making an internet advice column9:37 - Ideas for the future12:03 - Why it doesn’t feel sustainable to bite your tongue16:05 - Being honest about your reaction17:33 - Letter 2: Don’t like best friend’s boyfriend19:02 - Response to letter 2 begins20:3...
2024-08-2742 min
Hello Hayes"Will I Always Be Slut Shamed?"Watch on YouTube.1:11 - Letter 1: “My friends are slut shaming me”4:42 - Don’t call it a “hoe phase”8:47 - Apologizing when you didn’t do anything wrong10:37 - Should a man be ready to marry you after 1 year?15:16- The 4 questions to ask before confronting someone17:00 - Letter 2: “My sister makes me feel bad about my body”19:00 - Sibling dynamics20:32 - Pick your battles22:24 - The pros/cons of sarcasm23:30 - An earnest conversation (add HALEY CONVO HERE...
2024-08-2042 min
Hello HayesWhen Instagram Creates Jealousy in Your FriendshipsWatch this episode on YouTube.What do you do when your best friend's live in a different city than you and are always posting about how close they are? What about if most of your bridesmaids don't post pictures from your wedding, even though you posted pictures from theirs? How do you talk to a friend (who is also an influencer) who's always posting stuff on social media when you're together? In this week's episode of Hello Hayes, we're talking about social media, jealousy, and friendship.Send your letters to hellohayesadvice@gmail...
2024-08-1343 min
Hello HayesFriendship Breakups and Coworker Crushes with Haley JakobsonOn today's episode I'm joined by writer and fellow internet advice giver, Haley Jakobson. When I teased this episode on insta stories a couple of weeks ago, saying “the guest wrote a book on friendship breakups,” dozens of you guessed it would be Haley, and alas, you were right!!! Haley is the author of OLD ENOUGH, a novel that explores, yes, friendship breakups, but also queerness and bisexuality and being a survivor and growing up and away from who we in the Hello Hayes universe call an OG bestie. As I shared with Haley in our 1hr+ conversation, her depi...
2024-08-061h 12
Hello HayesNavigating the Complexities of Travel and FriendshipTravel and friendship can be complicated, especially when it comes to group dynamics and exclusion. In this week's Hello Hayes, we're talking about how to navigate the complexities of travel and friendship.0:00 - Introduction4:28 - Overview of the 3 letters5:48 - Letter 1: “My OG besties went on a trip without me”8:21 - My personal experience getting “excluded”10:30 - Why it hurts to fall out of touch with12:10 - How to handle the situation15:00 - Should you ask: Why wasn’t I invited?15:58...
2024-07-3050 min
Hello HayesDo I Have to Invite My Fiance's Sister Wedding Dress Shopping?[Watch on YouTube]I'm back to reading three letters today! Yay! This week's episode is wedding-themed, but I promise the details in each letter are relevant even if you're not engaged yourself.👋 SAY HI 👋You can find me on Instagram here (behind the scenes, personal storytelling).On YouTube here (longform and mini video advice columns).On Substack here (my writing and exclusive announcements).👋 SUBMIT AN ADVICE LETTER 👋Send your letters to Hayes at hellohayesadvice at gmail dot com Le...
2024-07-2341 min
Hello HayesShould I Move Across the Country for Him?I'm not a fan of reading my published writing months/years after it's been published, but I'm making an exception today. In this week's episode, I'm reading the first ever Hello Hayes column I ever wrote. Thanks for being here with me. Subscribe to my Substack here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2024-07-1622 min
Hello HayesPlane AnxietyLive from the east coast! This week I'm telling you about a lesson I learned on my recent flight from LAX to Boston (thx for teaching it, Brob). While this experience didn't cure my turbulence-related anxiety completely, it's getting me a little closer...and is also helping me reframe some other challenges in life. xx Hayes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2024-07-0216 min
Hello HayesShould I Confront My Work Bestie?Today's episode covers work friendships, the pitfalls of perfectionism, the merits of over-communication, what I wish I knew when I started working, how to have awkward conversations with work besties, and probably more. Who knows where this brain will go! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2024-06-2536 minHello Hayes"Can My Relationship Survive Social Media?"[Watch video on YouTube.]"My girlfriend and I have different relationships with our appearances, and social media is a part of that. We’re both girls in our early 20s and this is my first serious relationship. She loves to get dressed up and take photos and videos of herself to post, whereas I don’t really post selfies at all. What a silly thing to worry about, right? And yet, I find that I continue to struggle with it."Welcome to Hello Hayes, an advice podcast where we don't claim to have...
2024-06-1842 min
Hello HayesFinding Motivation in Hard TimesWatch this episode on YouTube.In this episode, Hayes celebrates getting her motivation back and shares the top 10 tips that have helped her this year. 👋 SUBMIT AN ADVICE LETTER 👋Send your letters to Hayes at hellohayesadvice at gmail dot com. Pro tip: Use "YouTube subscriber" in the subject line, plus a few words that describe your story. Like this: "YouTube subscriber + Why do I feel so sad around the holidays?"✍️ LIKE TO READ? ✍️Join the 10,000+ Hayeselnuts and curious thinkers who read my weekly(ish) newslette...
2024-06-1141 min
Hello Hayes"No More Small Talk" (aka, How to Connect With New Friends)[Watch this episode on YouTube.]In this week's episode of the HELLO HAYES podcast, I answer an advice letter about how to deepen connections with new friends in a new city.Send me your letters at hellohayesadvice at gmail dot com.Listen to Carlye's podcast here: https://open.spotify.com/show/6aarIjhCYglA4gn8e1H2nl Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2024-06-0419 min
Hello HayesThe Friend Who Feels Excluded[Watch this episode on YouTube]Today I'm answering two letters from our community about feeling excluded: one takes place in a wedding (bridesmaid stuff), another in a group chat. I also give the full backstory on the Reese Witherspoon story I shared on my Instagram (@afhayes) last week, and why that moment feels so important for me.Listen to my conversation on The Bright Side here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6tlanMiHjaYTFMk6bktrRjTimestamps::00 - Introducing episode theme1:12 - Why this episode is a little different
2024-05-2854 min
The Bright Side: A Hello Sunshine PodcastThe Six Besties Theory with Hello HayesFor Alexandra Hayes Robinson — AKA Hello Hayes — the journey to becoming an advice columnist started when she realized that she was a person with very big feelings. Now, with hundreds of thousands of followers across social media platforms, she uses that introspection to answer questions all about friendships, confidence, and so much more. Plus, Danielle and Simone discuss active listening and couples who sleep in separate bedrooms.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
2024-05-2333 minHello HayesWhy We Cry On Our Birthdays (Plus a Rapid Fire Q+A)[video available on YouTube] Today on the pod I talk about turning 31 and unpack all the complicated and contradictory things I feel about my birthday. Then, around 15 minutes in, I do a rapid fire Q+A of some of YOUR questions about birthdays, including (but not limited to): Is it fair to expect my partner to throw me a birthday party? Why am I always disappointed even though I expect NOTHING on my birthday? How do you (me, Hayes) feel about physically aging? AND MORE! There's no longform Hello Hayes advice column this week, just the two of us...
2024-03-2829 min
Hello HayesA Conversation with ShameIn this episode, Hayes writes a letter to IMPENDING 50-YEAR-OLD-VIRGIN, who is in her mid-20s and feels embarrassed...about everything. We talk about shame and how to wrangle it, and model what a truly loving conversation with yourself feels like. Thanks for listening! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2024-02-1318 min
Hello HayesHayes Gets Advice From Happiness Expert (and Bestie) Stephanie HarrisonThis week on the show, for the very first time, Hayes sits down to get advice from her dear friend and author of NEW HAPPY, Stephanie Harrison. We talk about everything from how to support friends during a tough season of their life to Hayes's very personal (and hopefully relatable!) struggle with work.Pre-order Stephanie's book here.Follow The New Happy here.Follow Stephanie here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2024-01-301h 08
Hello HayesHow to Handle Jealousy (and Envy) in Your RelationshipsIn this week's episode, Hayes dives into a subset of emotions we're usually too ashamed to talk about: jealousy. And envy. Because apparently they're two different things?? Up until last week, Hayes was using the words synonymously...but not anymore. Hayes gets personal in this episode, sharing her contradicting feelings about her 2020 wedding to how her relationship with "beauty" has evolved over time. We have letter writers, too, all in tough situations: First we have Third Wheel, who has concerns about her husband’s flirtatious friendship with a college friend. Then there's Aching Auntie, who isn't ready to have a...
2024-01-2341 min
Hello HayesTough Conversations About MoneyHello Hayeselnuts! In this week's (shorter) episode, we're talking about money. Specifically...how to handle sensitive, awkward, and sometimes painful conversations about it.Send your advice letters to hellohayesadvice@gmail.comFollow Hayes on Instagram and TikTok. Watch the episode on YouTube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2024-01-1627 min
CBS Mornings on the GoFinal Push Ahead Iowa Caucuses & GOP Candidate Vivek Ramaswamy | NFL's WIld Card Game Weekend | Fans Explain Green Bay Packers Tailgate
In three days, the Iowa caucuses will commence amid record cold and snowy conditions. CBS News' Ed O'Keefe reports from Des Moines.Ahead of Monday's Iowa caucuses, polling shows former President Donald Trump with a roughly 36-point lead over his Republican rivals. CBS News' Tony Dokoupil caught up with one of them — businessman Vivek Ramaswamy — to talk about the likelihood of a come-from-behind victory, and some of Ramaswamy's key policy proposals.Viral content creator Alexandra Hayes Robinson joins "CBS Mornings" to discuss her advice column, "Hello Hayes," and how she decides what advice to give to h...
2024-01-1233 min
CBS Mornings on the GoFinal Push Ahead Iowa Caucuses & GOP Candidate Vivek Ramaswamy | NFL's WIld Card Game Weekend | Fans Explain Green Bay Packers TailgateIn three days, the Iowa caucuses will commence amid record cold and snowy conditions. CBS News' Ed O'Keefe reports from Des Moines.Ahead of Monday's Iowa caucuses, polling shows former President Donald Trump with a roughly 36-point lead over his Republican rivals. CBS News' Tony Dokoupil caught up with one of them — businessman Vivek Ramaswamy — to talk about the likelihood of a come-from-behind victory, and some of Ramaswamy's key policy proposals.Viral content creator Alexandra Hayes Robinson joins "CBS Mornings" to discuss her advice column, "Hello Hayes," and how she decides what advice to give to h...
2024-01-1229 min
Hello HayesYour Friendship Break-Up Survival Guide[Video only on YouTube.] In this week's episode of Hello Hayes, we're talking about friendship break-ups: what leads to them, how we process them, and if we can prevent them from happening. Hayes explains the differences between friendship break-ups and friendship shifts, and why it's so important we understand the nuances of our feelings (and the situations that cause them!). Plus we set the record straight once and for all: friendship break-ups are just as painful and real as romantic ones.Send your advice letters to hellohayesadvice@gmail.com...
2024-01-091h 07
Hello HayesHow to Feel Confident in Your Relationships (And Yourself)In the first episode of 2024, Hayes answers three advice column submissions about feeling inadequate. In the first letter, we hear from someone who has yet to find a lasting love…all the relationships ended amicably, but they can't help but wonder if there’s something wrong with them? In the second letter, a high school student notices a change in their friendships, and asks me: how do I stop comparing myself to other people and start putting effort into things that give effort back to me? And in the third letter, we hear from someone who is worried that jealo...
2024-01-0253 min
Hello HayesWhat Do We Owe Our Single Friends?In today’s episode of Hello Hayes we’re talking about how romantic relationships can impact our friendships, for better….or for worse. We get a refresher on the often overlooked but essential archetype in the six bestie theory: the seasonal bestie. We learn from a single person and a partnered person, and even though we all come to this conversation from a different view point, I hope we leave it feeling like we understand each other a little bit better. Send your advice letters to hellohayesadvice@gmail.comFollow Ha...
2023-12-2640 min
Hello HayesHome for the Holidays(VIDEO ONLY ON YOUTUBE) it's HOLIDAY SZN and with it comes a whole lotta feelings. who better to talk about them with than Hayes? (your therapist. your therapist is probably a good person to talk about them with, too.) in this episode of hello hayes, we hear from three letter writers who have specific concerns about the week ahead: there's a sister who's navigating a major conflict within her family, a girlfriend who wonders why her boyfriend doesn't want to celebrate the holidays together, and a daughter who wants to put her mom's food shaming to bed once and...
2023-12-1946 min
Hello HayesManaging Friendship Expectations(VIDEO ONLY ON YOUTUBE) in our season one premiere of Hello Hayes, we hear from three letter writers who are all struggling in some way with expectations of their friendships. whether it's a close friend who doesn't talk about their *personal life* (ahem, i'm talking PERSONAL) or an old friend who doesn't seem as invested in the friendship, Hayes shows us how the six besties framework can help us process and reframe our relationships. plus, she corrects a misconception about north star besties, shares how to stop comparing yourself to other people's friends, and explores why some people get...
2023-12-1246 minHello Hayesintroducing Hello Hayes (the podcast)starting tuesday, december 12, TikTok's favorite advice column Hello Hayes is finally available as a weekly podcast. each week, Hayes responds to three letters from the community of Hayeselnuts...these are the stories that are too complex for a 3-minute TikTok — they’re surpising, heart wrenching, and deeply human. video available on YouTube! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2023-12-0404 min
Never Wiseryou’re my north star: making friends as adults and managing our friendship expectationsThis week we chat about the 6 types of besties. Alexandra Hayes Robinson on TikTok (@hellohayes) talks about the types of besties and why it’s important to manage your expectations. We talk about how to make adult friends, how to nurture those types of friendships and what friendship and community is all about! We also give a challenge that we hope will bring everyone joy this week - so listen to the end! xoxo a+l
2023-11-291h 05
Wabi Sabi WellnessEpisode 20 | A Conversation with Alexandra Hayes RobinsonHello, hello beautiful souls! Today we are chatting with Alexandra about... well, life! Alexandra is a writer and creator who you may know as Hayes. We will be chatting about her journey to where she is today. Along the way, we will talk about her Saturn return, our thoughts on communication, and her bestie theory!________________________________________________________Find Alexandra on TikTok Find Alexandra on InstagramSubscribe to Alexandra's SubstackFind me on InstagramBook a tarot/astrology reading with me
2023-07-031h 08
Resources RadioSomething’s Fishy: A Deep Dive into Seafood Mislabeling, with Kailin KroetzIn this week’s episode, host Kristin Hayes talks with Kailin Kroetz, an assistant professor at Arizona State University and university fellow at Resources for the Future. Kroetz discusses some of her research, which takes an empirical look at the scale of seafood mislabeling in the United States. Seafood is the most globally traded food commodity, with supply chains that can be particularly hard to trace, and with systematic evidence of environmental impacts from high rates of mislabeling. Kroetz discusses commonly mislabeled seafood products, identifies where more data is needed, shares ideas for mitigating some of the challenges, and explores ef...
2022-03-2833 min