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Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast259. Using Conflict to Build Trust ft. Anna LecatThis week, Ali hosts Anna Lecat for a conversation that reframes conflict as a powerful tool for connection rather than something to avoid. Together, the two unpack why so many of us fear uncomfortable conversations (especially in dating) and how that fear can quietly sabotage intimacy.Throughout the episode, they’re exploring how to recognize meaningful early dating conflicts, communicate needs without blowing things up, and tell the difference between discomfort that leads to growth and misalignment that won’t work long-term. If you’ve ever worried that bringing something up might “ruin” a connection...
2026-02-021h 15Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast258. Relatability Creates Chemistry: Feel a Real Connection on Dates ft. April BeyerThis week, Ali sits down with veteran matchmaker April Beyer (who has 25+ years in the industry!) to unpack why dating feels harder than ever and how to make it more human again. They talk about letting go of attachment to outcomes, loosening rigid “criteria,” and why going on more dates can actually lead to love faster than waiting for the perfect match.April breaks down her idea of “relatability” as the real driver of chemistry, and shares practical ways to create connection on a first date without overperforming. Plus, tips for avoiding burnout and showing...
2026-01-261h 07Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast257. Listener Storytime: Designing a Relationship That Breaks All the RulesAli sits down with FMH listener Allison for a storytime episode all about building a relationship that works for you, even if it breaks societal norms. Allison shares what it was like feeling like a late bloomer as she navigated finding her now-partner in her late 30’s. From dating a divorced dad with two kids to navigating mismatched timelines around moving in, engagement, and merging lives, Allison walks through how they used curiosity, therapy, and a lot of real conversations to get on the same page without defaulting to what relationships are “supposed” to look like.I...
2026-01-191h 11Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast255. New Year Reset: Foundation, Routines, and Intentional LivingIn this New Year episode, Ali shares her word for the year, foundation, and the theme guiding how she’s setting up the year ahead: less chaos, more intention.She explains her process for reflecting on the past year and talks through the unglamorous but powerful changes she’s focusing on in her daily life, including routines, work structure, habits, and health.Ali also answers listener questions about building routines without burning out, staying consistent when motivation fades, and how to pursue stability without slipping into stagnation.
2026-01-0546 minFinding Mr. Height: The Podcast253. The 2025 Year In Review OneIn this solo Year in Review episode, Ali shares an honest recap of 2025, including the wins, the messy parts, and why this year felt more like a quiet level-setting season than a highlight reel. She reflects on how Finding Mr. Height has evolved, what surprised her about self-employment, and what it looked like to grow “offline” while seeing online growth around her.Ali also gets real about the hardest parts of 2025, from building confidence around consulting to navigating self-doubt and struggles. She closes with the biggest personal lessons from the year, how her perspective on p...
2025-12-221h 23Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast245. The Third Profile Review One ft. Katy & TonyKaty & Tony are back on the pod for a deep dive into their dating app profiles (plus a sneak peek at some upcoming updates). In this Dating Diaries episode, Ali reviews each of their profiles - Hinge for Katy, Tinder & Grindr for Tony - and the three come away with some great updates to make. From dimly lit photos to making bios sound like your unique voice…there’s a lot to cover! And the vibe between these two friends as they review each other’s profiles is amazing, too.But first, Ali recaps her ho...
2025-10-2759 minFinding Mr. Height: The Podcast242.5 Comparing Notes Pt 3: The Truth About Relationships at 1 Year w/ Talia KorenIt’s the final part of our three-part series on new relationships! Ali is joined by Talia Koren, host of the Dating Intentionally podcast, to dive into navigating each phase of your budding partnership with confidence. Check out part one (ep # 234.5) and part two (ep # 238.5) for tips on navigating the first three months and first six months.In part three, Ali and Talia explore what reaching the one-year mark in a relationship looks like. Topics include: moving in together, starting engagement conversations, navigating career shifts and family introductions, and keeping the spark alive after a...
2025-10-101h 05Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast239. The Ex Appeal One ft. Miriam KatzWhat happens when you interview every single person you’ve ever dated (or even kissed?!)? Miriam Katz joins Ali to talk about her bold new podcast The Ex Appeal, where she sits down with everyone from her fifth-grade crush to a rabbi, a stripper, and even a semi-famous ex. We get into the nerves, surprises, and emotional moments along the way while exploring the entire concept of closure. What is closure even and is it really all it’s cracked up to be?In Updates, Ali is on vacation with Skyline’s family! She’ll be ba...
2025-09-1558 minFinding Mr. Height: The Podcast238.5 Comparing Notes Pt 2: Milestones at 6 Months in a New Relationship w/ Talia KorenIt’s part two of our three-part series on new relationships! Ali is joined by Talia Koren, host of the Dating Intentionally podcast, to dive into navigating each phase of your budding partnership with confidence. Check out part one (ep # 234.5) for tips on navigating the first three months.In part two, Ali and Talia discuss the significant milestones and experiences that occur around the six-month mark in a relationship. Topics include: milestones like traveling together and experiencing first conflicts, understanding if someone is marriage material, the importance of relationship check-ins, discussing future plans/timelines, an...
2025-09-121h 19Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast238. Listener Storytime: When Parenthood Isn’t What You ExpectedIn this raw and deeply honest episode, Ali speaks to listener Sarah as she shares her story of loving her children while still questioning whether she would make the same choice if she could go back in time. She opens up about the invisible labor of motherhood, not feeling fulfilled by it when all her friends seem to be, and what she wishes she’d thought about it before becoming a mom (while striving to be the best mom she can be). If you’re feeling how Sarah does - you’re not alone!This w...
2025-09-081h 03Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast236. The Gen Z Dating One ft. The Cerca Dating App TeamAre you burned out on dating apps? Or not even interested in swiping left and right on a bunch of strangers in the first place? The founders of the new Cerca dating app have been there, and this week Ali is taking you behind the scenes of building their app. Three members of the Cerca team - Myles Slayton, Carter Munk, and Campbell Arnone - sit down in Ali’s living room to talk about why Gen Z is shunning the apps, how apps can evolve to meet them where they’re at, and how they’re positioning Cerca to add...
2025-08-251h 06Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast234.5 Comparing Notes Pt 1: The First 3 Months Of A New Relationship w/ Talia KorenNew relationships come with so much to navigate! In this three-part series, Ali is joined by Talia Koren, host of the Dating Intentionally podcast, to dive into navigating each phase of your budding partnership with confidence.In part one, Talia and Ali discuss the complexities of the first three months of a relationship, and give advice while sharing insights from their own personal experiences. The two cover: common challenges with shifts in affection and communication, the need for calibration in how partners interact with each other, the transition from a single mindset to a...
2025-08-151h 06Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast232. The Navigating Feedback OneLast week on our Patreon live, Ali shared about navigating feedback - both constructive and otherwise - in such a public sphere. This week, she’s bringing that conversation to the main pod in the spirit of transparency, accountability, and vulnerability. She’s working on focusing on the constructive and appreciates those of you who have shared your thoughts so openly. If you’d like to contribute to the podcast feedback survey, you can do so here: https://tinyurl.com/fmhsurvey25. And if you’d like to join a focus group, please shoot Ali a note on IG!
2025-07-281h 02Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast230. The Fifth Dating Diaries One ft. Caeli & ElyseCaeli & Elyse are back on the pod this week with updates for us and a whole lot of relatable discussion on dating burnout.First, we hear from Elyse about a recent first date and how a string of those has left her feeling really dejected about dating apps. IRL dating, though? That’s feeling much better and she has an update (and a goal for herself) with Coco Jones!Caeli has some huge personal news that’s leaving her with a couple months of down time before life really ramp...
2025-07-141h 08Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast229. The Love Isn’t Blind One ft. Alli Goldberg & Sascha MombartzAli went to one of the best shows she’s seen in a LONG time - Love Isn’t Blind, a comedy dating show where the men can’t speak - and she’s on the pod with the creator and host this week! Alli Goldberg created Love Isn’t Blind as an antidote to her own cynicism in dating and it’s truly taken off. Not only do we have Alli in the house - one of the suitors from the recent NYC show, Sascha Mombartz, is here too! The three chat dating IRL, the state of dating apps, cultur...
2025-07-071h 17Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast226. The Swipe With Me One ft. Caeli & ElyseOur two Diary Daters are officially meeting for the first time! In this week’s Dating Diaries episode, Ali brings Caeli & Elyse together to share updates plus swipe together on each of their dating apps. The three discuss how each dater approaches swiping and some best practices to address patterns they’re discovering. Plus, we chat dealbreakers, initial messages, first impressions, and more. And we end up with one potential match for each dater!In Updates, Ali is meeting Skyline’s family for the first time at his aunt and uncle’s in the South. S...
2025-06-161h 10Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast224. The Fourth Dating Diaries One ft. CaeliOur Diary Dater Caeli re-joins us on the pod after a whirlwind couple of weeks in her life, from a big interview to a new job. Ali & Caeli revisit a first date that never materialized into a second and debate Caeli’s potential next steps. Then, the two dive into Caeli’s Bumble and chat opening lines, messaging approach, and how to avoid getting overwhelmed by too many matches. Through it all, we may have identified a pattern that Caeli would like to work on as she moves forward!In Updates, Ali is back from...
2025-06-021h 06Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast223. The Third Dating Diaries One ft. ElyseElyse, one of our Diary Daters, is back on the pod and full of updates to share! First, she goes on a first date that hits a snag when the dude won’t stop looking at his phone. Then, we go back in time to hear some history about a guy who may be entering the picture. But she wonders: should she move forward with getting to know him given some new information she learns?On Ali’s end, she’s taking Skyline’s advice to heart and approaching her mental health journey with baby ste...
2025-05-261h 09Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast222. The Relationship “Rules” one ft. SkylineSkyline joins Ali on the pod this week to chat about relationship “rules” (aka agreements) coming out of the Vacation Rules ep a few weeks ago. The two talk about rules they’ve come up with in their relationship, both communicated and otherwise - for example, Ali realizes in real time that they have a rule when they order take out. Then, it’s time to hear from the experts as three friends of the pod chime in on agreements they have in their own relationships. Thanks to Talia Koren, Sabrina Zohar, and Charisse Cooke for their input! They close ou...
2025-05-191h 02Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast220. The Second Profile Review One ft. ElyseWe’re hearing from both of our Dating Diaries ladies this week!! First, Caeli joins to update Ali & the listeners on Executive Chef, plus a new (gentle)man enters the picture. Then, Elyse has been busy with two first dates in one night last week. Plus the main reason we’re here: reviewing her Hinge profile! Ali goes through her photos and prompts, providing insight along the way on brevity, calls to action, and incorporating more of Elyse’s hobbies. Check out the Patreon for full video if you’d like to see Elyse’s profile for yourself!...
2025-05-051h 14Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast219. The Vacation Rules OneAli is fresh off her one-year anniversary trip with Skyline and dishing about her favorite parts (and not so favorite parts) of the trip. She shares the “vacation rules” that she and Skyline have come up with to help them best enjoy their trips and how some of those “rules” have expanded into every day life. Plus, a stressful moment provides an opportunity to reflect on managing low-level conflict and responding vs reacting in relationships. Ali also answers two listeners questions: one about a friend who consistently brings down the vibe at events and one from a listener who’s debating...
2025-04-2850 minFinding Mr. Height: The Podcast218. The Introducing Skyline OneAli and Skyline are on their first anniversary vacation and he’s just been introduced on social media…no better time to introduce him to the podcast! This week, you’ll hear an interview that Ali & Erica did on the Patreon back in February.Skyline joined us to answer your questions and introduce himself to the community he’s heard so much about. Our discussion includes: his version of how he met Ali (and what her nickname would have been if he’d given her one), how he was listening along to the pod during ear...
2025-04-211h 12Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast217. The First Profile Review One ft. CaeliCaeli from our Dating Diaries segment is back on the podcast this week and we’re diving into her Bumble profile! We walk through her bio, prompts, and photos and discuss where she can make improvements to set herself up for more success. Through Ali’s notes on photo guidelines, best ways to elicit a reply with your prompts, and ways that different people swipe you’ll get some great tips for crafting your own profile! Plus, Caeli fills us in on a first date she went on and the two debate whether she should go on a second. Note...
2025-04-141h 11Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast215. The Bored of Dating Apps One ft. Jessica HopeFeeling burned out by dating apps? Jessica Hope, founder of Bored of Dating Apps, has BEEN THERE - and she created an entire company to deal with it! Coming to you from Ali’s living room couch, Jess chronicles the dating frustrations that led her to focus more on dating in person and start her own IRL dating events…a journey that ultimately led to her now partner. Ali and Jess chat flirting strategies, how to approach dating events, and much more in this super fun conversation.But first, Ali is still glowing from her...
2025-03-311h 05Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast212. The First Re-Introducing Ali OneTW: Grief and SA (see below for more). It’s my (Ali’s) first official solo episode and we’re starting things off with a re-introduction to my background - both for newer listeners and even our OG crowd as I share deeper insights into my childhood/early adulthood & the things that led me to who I am today. We chat friendship wounds, anxious attachment origins, grief, and much more in part one of this two-part series to kick off my solo podcasting journey. Plus, we get into some early days nicknames from before FMH as you know it existe...
2025-03-101h 11Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast211. The Farewell to Erica OneWe’re saying goodbye to Erica as a Finding Mr. Height co-host on this week’s episode of the podcast, and it’s definitely an emotional one! After getting the latest Roommate update, Ali interviews Erica using questions from both you the listeners and ones Ali has herself. Topics include: Erica’s highlights and learnings from her journey on the podcast, her favorite (and least favorite) piece of dating advice, what she hopes for her career moving forward, advice she has for Ali on the pod moving forward, and more. Erica, we will miss you SO much. We love you!...
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Dr. Diane's Adventures in LearningEmpowering Science Literacy with Kesler Science COO Ali StoneSend us a textHow do we make science engaging and relevant for students? And why is science literacy more important than ever for how we all live and work? Join Dr. Diane for a thoughtful and fascinating discussion with Ali Stone, the dynamic Chief Operating Officer of Kesler Science. Join us as we explore Ali's inspiring journey from teaching to innovation and learn how creativity and hands-on learning can spark a lifelong passion for science.Chapters with Timestamps:1:02: Why are Science AND Science Literacy So Important?
2025-02-2640 minFinding Mr. Height: The Podcast207. The How To Be Dateable One ft. Julie Krafchick and Yue XuThis week we are joined by Julie & Yue, cohosts of the amazing Dateable podcast and authors of the new book, ‘How To Be Dateable!’ Julie & Yue have drawn on their deep dating histories to develop the advice in their book (and their podcast). And it turns out our two duos have something in common: we’re both Dreamer/Maverick cohost teams! Ali, Erica, Julie, & Yue dive into how these archetypes have shaped their dating journeys and give advice on how listeners can make their type work for them (plus what pitfalls to look out for).But...
2025-02-031h 20Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast203. The Men’s Dating Coach One ft. Blaine AndersonIf you’ve ever wondered what men are thinking as they’re out there dating, Ali & Erica have got your back: this week, we chat with Blaine Anderson, who exclusively coaches men on their dating journey! Blaine gives insight into what her clients struggle with most, what makes them seek out her coaching, how to make it more likely that a man will approach you IRL, and more. Plus, she gives a plug for giving “nice guys” more of a shot - attraction can grow, y’all!In Updates, the gals are fresh off of New Yea...
2025-01-061h 12Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast193. The Nobody Wants This OneDid you binge Nobody Wants This on Netflix as quickly as we did? Ali & Erica are diving into the show that took over our social media feeds (and for good reason) and how it relates to real-life dating. For Ali, the early days of the characters’ relationship hits very close to home and both gals contemplate how they’d react to some of the scenarios if they happened IRL.In Updates, Erica spends time with her Italian family & learns more about dating/relationships in their culture. Ali is fresh off her 6-month anniversary trip with...
2024-10-281h 24Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast192. The International Long Distance One ft. Kacie RoseHave you ever dreamed of travelling abroad and meeting the love of your life? Kacie Rose (@kacierose_ on IG) just did that and she’s here to tell us all about dating long distance and cross-culturally. We discuss her best tips for long distance, what worked in managing conflicts between her and her now-fiancé, and how dating an Italian man is different. Note: Ali’s mic wasn’t hooked up properly for Kacie’s interview, we apologize for the less-than-stellar audio.In Updates, Erica & Ali recount their last night in Lisbon and Erica has some surp...
2024-10-211h 07Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast173. The Date Brazen One ft. Lily WombleErica & Ali welcome feminist dating coach and debut author Lily Womble to the pod this week! We chat about bringing more joy into your dating life, how to narrow down your search to what Lily calls essences-based preferences, and how to reframe your mindset when you feel like you’re “too much.” Order Lily’s book, Thank You More Please, out June 11th!In Updates, we have a special Patreon teaser that Ali recorded with Talia Koren (@ Dating.intentionally) while Erica was on vacation. You’ll hear some tea that never aired on the main pod a...
2024-06-101h 17Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast166. The Female Friendships One ft. Danielle Bayard JacksonAli & Erica are back for another episode about friendship, featuring incredible friendship coach, Danielle Bayard Jackson! Danielle’s upcoming book, Fighting for Our Friendships, is all about the science behind women’s relationships and she brings us SO much knowledge: from deepening your bond with an acquaintance, to the influence our friends have on our romantic relationships, to how we should romance our friends, too.In Updates, Ali sees Montana Boy at an event while Erica attends a speed dating event and expresses her continued frustrating at the state of dating on the apps.Where to f...
2024-04-221h 20Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast155. The First Race & Dating OneAli & Erica are starting a long-awaited series, race and dating, and we kick things off as Erica interviews Ali about her experiences as a multiracial woman. Ali relates what it was like growing up in mostly-white spaces, how that impacted her world (and self) view, and ultimately her dating life. We look forward to more episodes in the future digging into various aspects of this vast topic!In Updates, Erica is disappointed (understatement of the year) by a new acquaintance and Ali has quite the energy shift from last week.
2024-02-051h 28Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast154. The F The Fairytale One ft. Damona HoffmanAli & Erica welcome an OG of dating advice to the pod this week - Damona Hoffman, author of the new book “F The Fairytale” and host of the Dates & Mates podcast. We get into topics such as Damona’s best tips for dating mindset, how the online dating landscape has changed in her 15 years of coaching, and how race has played a role in her own dating life (and Ali weighs in too!).In Updates, Erica has a date that was set up by a listener - but will the long distance be too much...
2024-01-291h 32Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast153. The Fifth Ask A 30-Something Man OneAli & Erica are joined by Zach, a 30-something man whose friends are managing his Hinge profile. We talk about how (and why) this arrangement came to be plus what he’s learned from having someone else set up his dates. And, has it been a success? Listen and find out!But first, Erica and Ali continue to update on outcomes from Dating App Sunday. In particular, Ali has a wild Saturday with 2 first dates plus a singles mixer.Want to be set up with Zach? Email fmhsetups@gmail.com wi...
2024-01-221h 25Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast150. The Have Him At Hello OneAli & Erica are reviewing the first dating book Ali ever read (15 years ago!!) this week - Have Him At Hello by Rachel Greenwald. The author interviewed 1,000 men about why they didn’t want second dates and we’re debating how her findings apply to modern dating. Ali & Erica both identify (mostly) with The Boss Lady…how about you?In Updates, Ali & Erica both receive “Merry Christmas” texts from men past and Ali gets the ick on Hinge.Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 36.If you'd l...
2024-01-011h 30Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast132. The Hypothetical OneIf you knew you’d meet the person you’re going to marry in 5 years, would you still date? Would you rather win the lottery or find your soulmate? Ali & Erica debate some fun dating hypotheticals this week. Tune in for what Erica would say to a room full of people she’s slept with and why Ali would just break into song.In updates, Erica shoots her shot at the frame store and Ali is back from a whirlwind wedding in Poland.Text analyzer mentioned in the episode: www.te...
2023-08-281h 30Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast126. The Wedding Toast OneFor those of you who don’t know us…we’re sharing do’s and don’ts on wedding speeches, from both our own experiences and yours! How long should they be? Are certain topics off limits? And can anything be worse than a 45-minute lecture on the Boy Scout motto??But first, Ali & Erica both have first dates coming up! Ali’s is her first HingeX match and Erica’s is a blast…from Ali’s past.Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 38.If you'd like to...
2023-07-171h 11Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast122. The Marrying For Money OneHave you ever thought about marrying for money? Ali & Erica can’t help you with that, but we’re breaking down some financial stats that may surprise you when it comes to getting married vs not. And spoiler alert, there’s way more on the topic where this came from. Let us know what else you want to hear!In Updates, Ali & Erica are back from Greece! The two talk through Ali’s post-vacation communication with The Publicist and what this might mean for the future.Timestamps: Topic talk begins a...
2023-06-191h 00Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast89. The Farewell OneAnd…that’s a wrap for Roark! Ali & Roark sit down for the last time to record her final episode. Emotions were high during this interview-style episode where Ali peppered Roark with questions from the listeners. They dig deep into questions like, “If you could go back to Roark at the start of the podcast, what would you say to her”, “What’s your favorite nickname given to a guy,” and “What’s one topic you never got to discuss on the pod?” During updates, Ali gets out of her swiping funk and Roark finally has the Ranger update everyone has been wa...
2022-10-311h 01Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast85. The Sixth Hot Topics OneAli & Roark are doling out advice again on another Hot Topics episode. During Updates, Roark sees a friend on Bumble and shares bad news about The Writer; and Ali is scheduling dates now that she is illness free. Then, they answer listener questions about noticing a new dating prospect pulling away, feeling uncomfortable with a date’s alcohol consumption, and deciding whether to continue seeing someone when there is a complicated past. And finally, Roark introduces Ali to a new segment – adjudicating an “Am I The A**hole” post about a woman who fails to wake up her oversleeping boyfrien...
2022-10-0353 minFinding Mr. Height: The Podcast82. The Fifth Hot Topics OneAli & Roark record another Hot Topics episode this week – which is perfect because Roark’s entire personality is complaining about the LA heat wave. Don’t worry, she also updates on the Writer. Ali also has some big home-related life updates and has a few Bumble irons in the fire. Instead of Weird or Nah this week, Ali tries to find how many people are weird like her and use the “grimace emoji” like she does. Then, Ali & Roark tackle three Hot Topics: asking your partner to plan more dates, handling a partner’s job opportunity in another country, and whether...
2022-09-1258 minFinding Mr. Height: The Podcast80. The Manifestation OneDid you manifest this episode? Or are you more of a skeptic? Either way, Ali & Roark welcome Haley Hoffman Smith to the podcast to talk all about manifesting. Haley is an author, podcaster, and manifestation coach and breaks down the concepts for Ali, Roark, and the listeners. They learn what exactly manifestation means, discuss all kinds of manifestation basics like how to get started, and Roark shocks Ali by pulling out a vision board! In the Updates section, Roark is really living out some highs and lows, and Ali had two first dates last week.
2022-08-291h 19Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast73. The First Bad Date OneTime to talk about bad dates! We have all had them, and this week, Ali & Roark share their absolute worst date stories (Ali’s is a real doozie). They use their stories to discuss listeners' biggest questions: how do you handle a catfish-lite (someone who hasn’t totally lied, but is using very old pictures); how do you end a date early; and how do you get out of a potentially bad or scary situation? During their Updates, Roark is trying to figure out Greg’s bizarre texting behavior, and Ali eagerly awaits Disco Ball’s move to NY.
2022-07-111h 10Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast71. The Dating After Cancer One ft. Melissa BerryAli & Roark are joined by the Cancer Fashionista Melissa Berry to start the conversation about two big topics – dating after cancer and dating after 40. They talk about handling life’s major curveballs and busting expectations and societal pressures. Before Melissa joins the show, Roark and Ali give their yin and yang updates – Roark has several first dates and Ali narrows the field. Timestamps: Topic Talk begins at around 32:00Where to find Melissa: her website www.cancerfashionista.com, her Instagram @cancerfashionista, and listen to her podcast Dear Cancer, I'm Beautiful
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Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast59. The First Long Distance OneIt’s just Ali & Roark this week as they start a conversation about how to long-distance date. With Ali back from Colombia, the two have a lot to catch up on and they spend more time on updates than usual. Both Ali & Roark had great first dates that they eagerly report. Then, they transition to Topic Talk with a Weird or Nah about starting a relationship while long distance, and Ali tells her story of accidentally ending up in an LDR. They take a few listener questions about how to *date* long distance (how to be in a relationship lo...
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Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast58. The Dating After Divorce One ft. Desiree SimoneAli & Roark are joined by Desiree Simone this week to talk about dating after divorce and dating a partner who has kids. As is par for the course, they bite off more than they can chew, and the three mainly discuss dating after divorce. First, Desiree shares her own story. Then, she offers perspective on sharing your divorce story with a new partner, and, if you’re dating someone who is divorced, how to discuss it with them without being invasive. For the first time in a while Ali and Roark both have first dates lined up this week. Ro...
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Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast55. The Chronic Illness One ft. Gigi RobinsonThis week, Ali & Roark welcome Gigi Robinson to the pod. Gigi uses social media to talk about mental health, body image, chronic illness – and the intersection of them. The three discuss how to tell others about a chronic illness, how to hype yourself up when your body image isn’t at its best, and how to know you’re “enough.” During Ali & Roark’s updates, Ali tells Roark something that literally makes Roark’s jaw drop. And Roark recaps the end of her Dallas stay. Timestamps: Gigi joins the show for Weird of Nah and Topic Talk at around 24:20 Where to find...
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Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast54. The Gaslighting OneThe Topic Talk is a little more serious this week as Ali & Roark discuss gaslighting. They analyze how the term has become vastly overused in a way that can sometimes undermine how genuinely serious real gaslighting is. Given this, they largely focus on unintentional gaslighting or gaslighting “moments” – how to spot them and how to call them out. Before Topic Talk, Roark discusses how Dallas dating has reminded her of her standards, and Ali has a new matchmaker date on the horizon.They also want to say that if you or a friend you are ex...
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Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast53. The Timeline One ft. Laura BehnkeIt’s official – Ali & Roark celebrate one year of podcasting! And funnily enough, their guest this week joins the podcast to talk all about time. Well, timelines, really. Laura Behnke didn’t have a relationship until she was 35, and she comes on the pod to say “who cares” to following anyone’s timeline but your own. The three discuss embracing your life without a partner, being fully yourself on dates, and much more! Before that, Ali shares a recent first date and a couple phone-throwing moments, and Roark is having fun with a new dating mindset.Timesta...
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Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast52. The First Love Language OneAli & Roark dive into the five love languages this week! Although this isn’t a series, this is a big topic and they will definitely revisit it, so please send in your questions if you have any. They walk through the five different love languages, then discuss the utility of the framework, its shortcomings, and their own experiences sharing their love languages and receiving their partners’. During their updates, Ali gives the full story of the end of the Rower, and Roark talks about dating in Dallas.Timestamp: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk bein...
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Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast51. The Widowed Mom One ft. Krista St. GermainThe subject matter of this weeks episode is a bit heavier than usual, but it’s a truly moving conversation between Ali and guest Krista St. Germain, host of The Widowed Mom podcast and founder of Coaching with Krista. They talk about losing a partner, moving forward and dating again, and how to integrate grief. Unfortunately, Roark couldn’t join Ali and Krista, but both Ali & Roark share their updates at the beginning of the episode. Roark gets Ali’s help strategizing her double-date profile for Dallas, and Ali gives some Rower updates as well as tells Roark about a bliz...
2022-02-071h 24
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast50. The Therapy Jeff One ft. Jeff GuentherThis week, Ali & Roark have WAY too much fun with Jeff Guenther (aka Therapy Jeff). So much fun that a fair amount was deemed NSFP (not safe for pod), but Jeff *may* be coming to a Patreon near you sometime soon. You may recognize Jeff from your TikTok FYP. He is incredible at doling out bite-sized relationship advice you absolutely need to hear, and Ali & Roark think you’ll love this episode. They debate what questions to ask new partners and what might be a little too hard-hitting. Before Jeff joins them, Roark talks about shooting her shot with a...
2022-01-311h 39
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast49. The Second Hot Topics OneThis week, Ali & Roark cover listener questions in a Hot Topics episode. They start with a question about dating burn out from solid first dates that don't turn into seconds dates. Then, they read a dating-app screenshot where the listener is curious about how she should react to a match’s sexual opening message. And they conclude with a discussion of a listener’s situationship. But before all that, Roark reveals how the first date she was excited for went, and Ali checks in emotionally about where she’s at with The Rower.Timestamps: Weird...
2022-01-241h 02
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast48. The Third Breakup One ft. Amy ChanIt’s the final episode of the breakup trilogy and Ali & Roark have the perfect guest – Amy Chan, founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp. Amy used her own breakup as a catalyst to change her life and she shares with Finding Mr. Height listeners how to come out of a breakup stronger than before, and how to avoid getting stuck in negative loops so that we can move onward and upward. Before Amy joins the pod, Roark talks about her series of first dates and Ali had a tarot reading which provided some food for thought on The Rower. Timestamps: Amy...
2022-01-171h 14
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast47. The Second Breakup OneIt’s part two of Ali & Roark’s breakup series. This time they’re discussing what it’s like to be the one initiating the breakup. They start by discussing the difficulty of knowing whether your relationship problems are “normal” or “breakup worthy.” And then analyze how to end things with someone as kindly as possible – is there an ideal time, location, or mode of communication? But first, Ali gets vulnerable and shares her story of New Year’s Eve with The Rower, and Roark has her first first date back on the scene.Timestamps: Weird or...
2022-01-101h 14
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast46. The First Breakup One ft. Dara PollakAli & Roark’s three-part breakup series begins with special guest Dara Pollak – author of a viral post about a blindside breakup. Dara is a wonderful and vulnerable storyteller, and she shares her emotional journey from relationship to breakup to moving forward afterwards. It is a very relatable story and they know the listeners will hear themselves in parts of Dara’s experiences. Before Dara joins the show, Ali discusses New Years Eve plans with the Rower, and Roark is back on the apps! Timestamps: Dara joins the show for Weird or Nah and Topic Talk at around 26:45 Where to find D...
2022-01-031h 58
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast45. The Second Anxious OneAli & Roark start off this week’s episode with some huge personal updates – buckle up! Then, they continue their discussion of anxiety in dating from early dates to during a relationship. They cover a huge range of topics including how to share your needs, how to self-soothe, when to bring your partner into your anxiety and ask them for help, and how to manage anxious feelings about being on the same page. Ali and Roark share personal anecdotes of experiences that have made them anxious – accidentally giving each other new things to worry about – and how they reframe their thoughts...
2021-12-271h 16
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast44. The First Anxious OneAli & Roark start to tackle a big topic this week: feeling anxious. Dating can (and does) frequently cause anxious thoughts and feelings, so Ali & Roark start the multi-episode series by discussing some tried-and-true anxiety management strategies they use. Then, they discuss the situations leading up to a first date that make listeners anxious ranging from wondering if their date will find them attractive to stressing about finding a parking spot. First, Ali is on vacation again (can you believe it!), and Roark seeks her advice on making birthday plans with the Classmate. As a note, Roark’s audio is no...
2021-12-201h 07
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast43. The Stylish One ft. Alyssa DineenAli & Roark welcome Alyssa Dineen, stylist and author of the book The Art of Online Dating, onto the podcast this week to discuss discovering your personal style, being confident in your clothes, and what to never wear on a first date. It’s a super fun conversation and don’t blame us if it results in either a closet clean out or a trip to your favorite store! But first, Ali reveals that phone-throwing moments are back in earnest including a Bumble match who is familiar with Ali’s alter ego… Timestamps: Alyssa joins the podcast for Weird or Nah and...
2021-12-131h 27
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast42. The First Hot Topics OneAli & Roark introduce a new episode format this week – Hot Topics. Rather than focusing on only one topic or covering a whole bunch like a Grab Bag, Hot Topics episodes will thoroughly answer your questions from the Finding Mr. Height Google form. For their first Hot Topics episode, Ali & Roark read a listener’s screenshot and discuss whether she should go out with the guy she’s texting, they answer a question about a guy whose friends secretly spied on their date, and finally they address whether one listener is in a situationship with a guy who is “really busy wit...
2021-12-061h 02
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast41. The Couples Therapy One ft. Charisse CookeThis episode is filled with lightbulb moments as Ali & Roark are joined by relationship therapist Charisse Cooke. And they promise they don’t *totally* derail the Q&A with Charisse by making it a personal therapy sesh. Charisse covers a ton of ground and answers listener questions such as how to handle having doubts about your partner, how to get what you need from a relationship, and how to set boundaries in a gentle way. In the updates section, Roark shares her feelings about not being able to see the Classmate for a bit, and Ali is in much be...
2021-11-291h 10
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast40. The Family OneWith Thanksgiving right around the corner, Ali & Roark are here this week to discuss a very timely topic: meeting the family. When’s the “right time” to meet someone’s family? Should you bring a gift? What if your relationship to your family isn’t exactly stellar? They answer these questions along with many more and share horror and success stories of their own. In the updates section, Ali gets vulnerable and lets the listeners in on some of her anxious feelings, and Roark recaps her New York visit. Also, this episode has a particularly fun feel as most of it was...
2021-11-221h 21
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast39. The Multiple OneHow can you navigate dating multiple people before becoming exclusive with someone? Ali & Roark talk through the logistics and emotions of that early-dating phase. Topics include, how to tell someone you’re still open to dating others (and whether you have to), running into someone you’re dating while on another date, and how to manage your attachment. Before that, Ali reveals she is invested in a new guy, and Roark has been sick.Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 22:20If you'd like to hear our...
2021-11-151h 11
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast38. The Fifth Grab Bag One ft. Shaun GalanosIt’s another Grab Bag episode as Ali & Roark are joined by Shaun Galanos aka @thelovedrive to answer all sorts of questions about direct communication and vulnerability. This is the longest episode yet because the three have way too much fun laughing, commiserating, and agreeing with each other. Questions answered include: how to say “I love you” first, how to slowly bring down your walls, and how to set your standard and live with the person’s reaction even if it’s not what you wanted, and lots more! In this week's updates, Ali has a big reveal about the Threep...
2021-11-081h 26
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast37. The Second Attachment One ft. Kirstie TaylorAli & Roark are joined by special guest Kirstie Taylor this week to dive more deeply into attachment theory and answer listener questions. Kirstie, a dating and relationship writer who authored the book What I Wish I Knew About Love, drops about 83 insightful bombs this episode as the three women discuss their own attachment journey, and answer questions about anxious-avoidant couples, how to move towards being more secure, and many more! In the updates portion, Roark is dealing with the Classmate’s social double-booking, and in a weird or nah and update crossover, Ali reveals a conundrum she’s had with...
2021-11-011h 22
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast36. The First Attachment OneAfter being asked many times to discuss this topic, Ali & Roark are finally talking about attachment styles. This is the first of two dedicated episodes on the topic. This week, they define each attachment style, discuss where their styles came from, and share a few anecdotes about navigating dating through an attachment-style lens. Also, they take an attachment quiz and analyze their results – you can take it too at: https://dianepooleheller.com/attachment-test/. In the updates portion of the podcast, Ali talks about how she’s feeling after another fun date with Threepeat, and Roark drops the L-Bomb!
2021-10-251h 08
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast35. The Aligned OneHow much in common do you have to have with the person you’re dating? Do opposites attract, or do birds of a feather flock together? Ali & Roark discuss a HuffPost article “8 Things You *Don’t* Need To Have In Common With Your Future Spouse” and answer a few listener questions as they parse through what important commonalities are, and which ones matter less. As always, they share their personal updates first. Ali had a very promising fist date, which included a controversial gift (at least Roark thinks so), and Roark’s mom meets the Classmate! Timestamps: Weird or Nah and To...
2021-10-181h 06
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast34. The Defining OneWe hope you’re ready to go steady with this podcast, but whether you are or aren’t, Ali & Roark are here to talk all about defining the relationship (the DTR talk). After being asked this question a whole bunch, they finally break down the concept of what it means to be “exclusive.” Also, they discuss how to initiate a DTR and how to handle it if it doesn’t go your way. In the personal updates arena, Ali talks about her France trip and introduces a man from her past who recently made a reappearance, and Roark and the Classm...
2021-10-111h 07
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast33. The Second Social OneIt’s the social media sequel! This time around, Ali & Roark talk about how to navigate social media pitfalls while in a relationship and after a break-up. For example, how to handle a partner who refuses to post photos of you. When (if ever) to delete photos of your now ex. And whether you should block your ex. Before addressing these questions, and many more, Ali talks about BEING IN FRANCE (yes, we all are very jealous) and Roark talks about balancing her new job with her relationship.Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Ta...
2021-10-041h 03
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast32. The Social OneThis week, Ali & Roark tackle how social media affects early dating. Is it weird if someone doesn’t have social media? How do you handle someone asking for your social media handle before you’ve gone on even one date? And once you’re ready, do you need to discuss posting your new partner on the grid? First, Ali gives an update on the Aussie and shares about the latest potential matchmaker date while Roark complains about how tired she is.Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begin at around 23:00I...
2021-09-271h 07
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast31. The Fourth Grab Bag OneIt’s another Grab Bag week where Ali & Roark take your questions submitted to @findingmrheight on Instagram. This round, topics include: how to move forward after a break up, dating in a new city, and setting boundaries in a new relationship. Before they answer questions, Roark discusses communicating her needs within her relationship and Ali fends off TikTok trolls regarding a text interaction with The Aussie.Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begin at around 27:30If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as...
2021-09-201h 04
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast30. The Swiping OneIt is another jam-packed episode this week where Ali & Roark dissect how to build the most right-swipeable (yes, that is a word now) dating app profile. They go over Ali's philosophy for which photos to use and debate the merits of various prompts on Hinge and Bumble. Listen to this episode with your profile open and see if you can upgrade yours! But first, Ali reveals a big decision regarding a current dating prospect and Roark discusses how she did in fact have to deal with Trivia. Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begin at around 22:45. Want to l...
2021-09-131h 01
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast29. The Dating & New York One ft. Jonah FeingoldThis week, Ali & Roark are thrilled to welcome Jonah Feingold (@jonahfeingold) back on the pod! They had the pleasure of watching Dating & New York – Jonah’s debut movie as writer and director – and then getting to chat with him about it. Jonah shares about his creative process, tells an incredible casting story, and discusses rom-com tropes. Before bringing Jonah on, Roark has a big personal update to share with the listeners and Ali continues on her matchmaker dates. Additionally, they weigh in on a couple listener questions: how to find dates who won’t react poorly to personal success; and when...
2021-09-061h 14
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast28. The Opening OneHey Listener, big question for you… Did you know this is Ali & Roark’s tried-and-true Bumble conversation opener? Filled with practical advice, this episode is all about how to get messages going and grab someone’s interest on the apps. As usual, Ali & Roark both share their personal updates – including Ali’s first matchmaker date. Also, they both open the archives to share some OG phone-throwing moments. Topic Talk begins at approximately 22:25 Don’t forget to join The Search Party at our Patreon for exclusive, additional podcast content: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And if you want to send in a "weird or...
2021-08-3054 min
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast27. The Searching One ft. Jenna LangbaumAli & Roark have a big one for you this week! First and foremost, they have launched a Patreon (cue the confetti)! If you want to become a Patron and have access to exclusive, additional podcast content as well as a private Discord channel head to this link: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. Thank you in advance for your support!! In this week's episode, not only do Ali & Roark have some exciting personal updates (which even required an emergency recording session to update the updates!), but they also welcome on the amazing Jenna Langbaum, author of Me in Search of You...
2021-08-231h 16
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast26. The Negging OneAli & Roark think you’ll enjoy this podcast only if you’re smart, cool, and can hold a conversation. Did that statement make alarm bells go off? It should, because it’s an example of negging! (And to be clear, we would never say that for real, we love you all!) This week’s topic is negging: the back-handed compliment aka an insult that unfortunately permeates dating. But first, Ali & Roark start the episode with their updates – including an epic phone-throwing moment on Roark’s part. Next, they recap the insanity of FBoy Island episodes 4 through 6. Finally, they talk about all th...
2021-08-161h 08
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast25. The Confusing OneHave you ever asked yourself: do they like me? If so, it may because you’re receiving mixed signals. Ali & Roark are here to discuss what it feels like when someone you’re dating is running hot and cold. They answer listener questions about the confusion of having a strong in-person connection but lukewarm texting; and what it’s like to date someone who behaves like you’re in a relationship but tells you they don’t want one. But first, Ali & Roark give their own personal updates as well as start a new segment where they discuss the HBO Max sh...
2021-08-091h 16
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast24. The Group Chat One ft. Ilana DunnThis week, Ali welcomes on Ilana Dunn of Seeing Other People (@seeingotherpeople) to co-host while Roark takes the bar. Ali has about a million personal updates this week ranging from ghosts to phone throwing moments. Then, Ali & Ilana get into how friendships impact dating relationships. For example: how to handle friends who don’t like your new person, and how to handle it when you don’t like your friend’s new person.Topic Talk begins at approximately 25:00If you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share...
2021-08-021h 07
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast23. The Third Grab Bag OneAli & Roark are back to answer as many of your questions as possible in another Grab Bag Episode! But first, both share personal updates and discover Roark has a lot in common with Ali's exes. They read a *chef's kiss* listener submitted Phone Throwing Moment, and this week's Weird or Nah triggers what will inevitably be a podcast mainstay: Ali's Anger. Then, in this lightning round they tackle: using a childhood photo on your dating profile, meeting the parents, when lack of exclusivity may signal they aren't interested, and if we ever feel too comfortable being single. Grab Bag Q...
2021-07-2658 min
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast22. The Exploding OneHave you ever been lovebombed? Would you like us to describe it to you? Well, Ali & Roark are here to do just that. Before Topic Talk, both Ali & Roark have dating updates to share this week! Then, they define lovebombing and talk about how tricky it can be to separate it from genuine affection and interest. Both share their own experiences being lovebombed and address how to set effective boundaries when you notice lovebombing behaviors.Topic Talk begins at approximately 23:30If you want to send in a "weird or...
2021-07-1952 min
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast21. The Undefined OneI think we got a situation, here! Well, a situationship that is. Ali & Roark delve into the messy topic of relationships that aren’t quite relationships, but they’re also totally relationships. We said it was messy! As usual, Ali & Roark share their personal updates including Ali’s fun first date and Roark’s CRIME story. Then, they tell stories of their own experiences with situationships and answer listener questions about them like how you can avoid getting into one, and how to voice your needs when you want more.Topic Talk begins at approxim...
2021-07-121h 05
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast19. The Queer One ft. Queer Dating Coach Ariella SerurAli & Roark have wanted to do an episode focused on LGBTQIA+ dating for a while now, and Pride Month felt like the perfect time! As always, they start with their updates. Ali is *accidentally* perpetrating CRIME and has an all-time phone throwing moment and Roark ran into an ex at a coffee shop. Then, they have two amazing guest segments. First, Ariella Serur, @queerdatingcoach on Instagram, comes on the pod to have both an insightful and fun conversation. Ariella tells Ali & Roark all about her work as (you guessed it) a queer dating coach. They discuss how queer daters...
2021-06-281h 32
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast18. The Grieving OneAli & Roark have an emotional discussion this week as they tackle grief in dating. As always, they start the episode with their own dating updates and delve into a canine-related “weird or nah.” The conversation about grief begins at around 25:30, and given that this can be a difficult topic, they both understand if this is an episode you’d prefer to skip. During “Topic Talk,” Ali opens up about her own personal journey since her dad’s death in 2018. She shares what it is like to talk to a new partner about it and how she’s come to understand new...
2021-06-211h 10
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast16. The Not Dying Alone One ft. Logan UryAli & Roark could not be more excited to have Logan Ury on the podcast this week. Logan is a behavioral scientist, dating coach, and author of How to Not Die Alone. Basically, Logan gives Ali & Roark a coaching session as they talk through the three common dating tendencies that may be holding people back, how to keep your standards high while optimizing your search for the traits that really matter, and how to say "f*ck the spark" and find a life partner rather than a prom date. Before they talk to Logan, Ali & Roark catch up to discuss...
2021-06-071h 18
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast15. The Second Grab Bag OneAli & Roark are together this week for a second grab bag episode. You read that right - Ali & Roark are literally together! They had a blast recording this one in-person in New York. Both girls went on first dates this week (some more promising than others), and Ali received an apology text from an ex from five years ago. After sharing their updates, they take a bunch of listener questions.On this episode Ali mentions her friend Brandon - the professional photographer who took our pictures. Follow him on Instagram @blhstudioIf you want to...
2021-05-311h 07
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast14. The Before The First OneAli & Roark are back this week for part one of two episodes on a very important topic: the first date. In this episode, they discuss everything leading up to the date (part two will be about the date itself). They start off with updates - Ali had her first first date in a hot minute, and Roark had a non-dating related phone throwing moment. Then, they walk the listeners through how to get from in-app messaging onto a date, planning the date, and answer the question - is it ever too late to cancel? Ali & Roark also chat about...
2021-05-2444 min
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast12. The Motherly One ft. Our MomsIt is a Mother's Day extravaganza as Ali & Roark welcome their moms to the podcast! As always, Ali & Roark start the episode with their own updates. Roark has been chatting with "Hinge Standout Guy" and Ali has been having egg-freezing related phone throwing moments. Next, they bring on Trude & Christine! Ali's mom Trude and Roark's mom Christine share their dating stories, offer advice to their younger selves, and muse about the men they hope Ali & Roark will end up with. The four share many laughs and even get a little teary. Knowing that Mother's Day can be hard for...
2021-05-1051 min
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast11. The Alarming OneThis week, Ali & Roark are seeing red! Flags, that is. They start by defining a red flag: how is it different from a dealbreaker, and is a yellow flag even a thing? Then they go through how to spot common red flags in dating app profiles, in early messaging or texting, and once you've started dating. In the process, Roark reads Ali two listener emails. One wants to know how to recognize a red flag for what it is rather than thinking the issue will work itself out, whereas the other describes herself as hyper vigilant about red flags...
2021-05-0356 min
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast10. The Friendly One ft. Matt and DarcyAli & Roark welcome their first guests to the podcast: their best guy friends Matt & Darcy! But first, Ali & Roark update listeners on their latest dating prospects and Roark discusses a potential hack to get around Hinge's "Roses" paywall. Then, they bring on Matt & Darcy! Ever wondered what it is like to have a close friend of your preferred dating gender? The four cover everything from how to tell a new partner about the friendship, how to navigate awkwardness, to whether or not to give feedback when you think a friend's new partner may not be for them....
2021-04-2654 min
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast8. The Inviting OneAs great philosophers once said, "If you wanna be my lover, you gotta get with my friends." The Spice Girls were right! Which is why Ali & Roark are talking all things surrounding meeting the friends. Whether you've decided to make the introduction or you've been asked to meet your new person's friends, Ali & Roark are here for you through the entire process. What does it mean to you to meet someone's friends? How do you make the invitation? And what happens after - like if no one gets along? They read some listener questions and share their own experiences...
2021-04-1245 min
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast7. The Boomerang OneShould you get back together with your ex? The bad news: Ali & Roark don’t know. The good news: what they DO know are some questions you can ask yourself when deciding if this is right for you. Using stories of their own and those of friends they discuss how there is no hard-and-fast rule, but there are healthy and unhealthy ways to make the decision. Have a question for Ali & Roark? Want to send in a screenshot for them to decode? General feedback? Find it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcastOur Sponsors:* Check out...
2021-04-0546 min
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast6. The Corresponding OneEver feel like you're having a great back and forth with a match over text, but it just never seems to end with a date? Sounds like you're in a pen pal situation, and both Ali and Roark have been there, too! They read listener questions and discuss how to nudge a match into making a date without being "pushy." Also, they open up their own text archives and read through their experiences with pen pals. Want to find and use the pen pal text scripts in this episode? Have a question for Ali & Roark? Want to send in a...
2021-03-2942 min
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast5. The Needy One"If he wanted to, he would" - sound familiar? Spoiler alert: Ali & Roark do not approve this message. They debunk this dating myth and rewrite the common phrase to put the focus on communication and understanding your own needs. But first, Ali confesses she had yet another phone-throwing moment (reset the incident clock!) this week. And the girls analyze a perfect example of "if he wanted to, he would" in the Bravo show Summer House. Want to see the Summer House PowerPoint slides mentioned in this episode? Have a question for Ali & Roark? Want to send in a...
2021-03-2245 min
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast4. The Disappearing OneBoo! Don't worry, this podcast isn't disappearing, but Ali and Roark are talking about men who did! Ghosting. One of the most common problems facing modern dating. First, Ali and Roark define what is and what isn't a ghost. Then, they share stories of times they were ghosted, and Ali reveals her tried-and-true "text script" for how to maturely confront a ghost. Finally, they admit that they, too, have been the ghosters. But Finding Mr. Height is a firmly anti-ghosting podcast, so Ali shares another text script: how to tell someone you're not interested rather than disappear. Spooky stuff!
2021-03-1546 min
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast3. The Skeptical OneThis week, Ali and Roark discuss how to talk to people who are skeptical about online dating: parents, friends, and even people ON the apps (we are talking to you lets-lie-about-how-me-met people). But first, Ali confesses to making the same mistake twice in one week and they both muse on the power of sending audio messages to matches. Have a question for Ali & Roark? Want to send in a screenshot for them to decode? General feedback? Find our submission form at www.findingmrheight.com/podcastOur Sponsors:* Check out Armoire: https://armoire.style/F...
2021-03-0846 min
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast2. The Unsolicited OneIt's only episode two and Ali & Roark are already tackling *that* topic...that's right, dick pics, requests for nudes, and when a match gets too sexual too soon for your comfort level. Before responding to listeners' questions and sharing their own experiences with this behavior, Ali reveals an embarrassing moment with a Bumble match and Roark nervously talks about a promising first date. Have a question for Ali & Roark? Want to send in a screenshot for them to decode? General feedback? Find our submission form at www.findingmrheight.com/podcastOur Sponsors:* Check o...
2021-03-0150 min
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast1. The Actual First OneIt's here! The *real* premiere episode of FMH: The Podcast. Get to know your co-hosts as Ali & Roark share both their friendship origin story and walk down memory lane of relationships past. Then, they discuss their vision for the podcast. And finally, Roark tells Ali about a potentially awkward encounter at a recent date's place of business, which reminds Ali of her own story from a few years back. Have a question for Ali & Roark? Want to send in a screenshot for them to decode? General feedback? Find our submission form at www.findingmrheight.com/podcastO...
2021-02-2249 min
Finding Mr. Height: The PodcastThe First OneFinding Mr. Height: The Podcast - a teaser!
Meet dating coach Ali from her @findingmrheight TikTok and Instagram and her good friend Roark as they embark on a podcast. Full episode airs on Monday. In the meantime, reach out to Ali & Roark at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast/
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2021-02-1802 min