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The Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse150. Summer Song Series; You didn’t really know me, and I’m finally starting to know myself.Today’s episode is for the woman who stayed far too long in a relationship where she was never truly seen. Where she loved deeply, showed up fully, and kept hoping that maybe one day… he’d really know her.But that day never came.This episode is about the ache of being emotionally invisible—and the beauty of finally turning inward and saying, “I see me now.”We’re exploring two soul-stirring songs by Kelly Clarkson—“Did You Know” and “Me”—and how they validate that gut-wrenching realization:He never really knew me. And honestly? I d...2025-07-1722 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse148. Freedom; Reflection of Internal ChoiceHappy 4th of July, my amazing listeners! I’m re-airing one of my favorite episodes today—The Freedom to Choose—because this message hits deep, especially if you’ve experienced betrayal, abuse, or a life-saving divorce.While we celebrate external freedoms in our country, I want to invite you to reflect on your internal freedom—the kind that no one can take away. The power to choose how you think, feel, and respond. The ability to go inward, access your emotions, and reclaim agency even when life has stripped so much away.In this episode, I share:2025-07-0325 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse147. Post Traumatic Growth; Remembering YOUHave you been caught in the loop of everything you've lost since the betrayal or your life-saving divorce? It’s so easy for our brains—especially when we’re still in survival mode—to focus on what’s gone and what may never be again.In this episode, I want to gently shift that lens with you. I’ll help you see that healing and growth don’t come from ignoring your pain—they come from reclaiming what’s still yours. Your strength. Your voice. Your wisdom. Even if those parts feel buried right now.I’ll talk about ho...2025-06-2638 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse146. When Peace Feels Wrong: Healing After Chaos and BetrayalIf you’ve ever wondered why calm feels uncomfortable—or even wrong—after living in chaos for so long, you’re not alone. In this episode, I’m talking about what happens when your nervous system gets wired to expect betrayal, emotional abuse, and survival mode… and how real peace can actually feel threatening at first. I’ll share a personal story from my own healing and walk you through why this happens and what to do about it.Whether you're post-divorce or still in the thick of it, this is for you if you're ready to stop mistaking...2025-06-1943 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse145. Why A Healing Routine MattersFeeling overwhelmed or stuck in survival mode? In this episode, I share why creating a simple, intentional healing routine can help calm your nervous system, ease ruminating thoughts, and rebuild a sense of safety after betrayal and divorce.We’ll explore:Why your brain and body crave predictability after traumaHow small routines (like brushing your teeth with intention) can become powerful healing toolsThe difference between a habit and a healing ritualEasy, grounding practices you can start today—even if you’re feeling paralyzedThis isn’t...2025-06-1223 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse143. Why Does It Have To Be So Hard?Why does healing after betrayal feel so exhausting? Why does it take so long? In this episode, I unpack what’s really underneath the question, “Why is this so hard?”—and why trying to rush your healing is actually working against you.If you’ve ever thought, “I should be over this by now” or “Maybe this is just how life is now,” I speak directly to that part of you. I’ll help you reframe hard not as a sign that you're broken—but as a normal part of the healing journey after betrayal, abuse, and divorce. We’ll talk ab...2025-06-0526 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse144. Rejecting Self RejectionI diving deep into one of the most painful emotional experiences—rejection—and how it uniquely impacts women healing from betrayal trauma, emotional abuse, and divorce. This isn’t just about getting ghosted or overlooked. For betrayed women, rejection is a body-level experience, echoing decades-old wounds and signaling danger to the nervous system—even when there’s no immediate threat.If the thought of dating again terrifies you… if you shrink yourself to avoid conflict… if you find yourself over-giving, over-performing, or preemptively rejecting yourself—this episode is for you.I’ll walk you through the neuroscience, the trauma patterns, and the...2025-05-2925 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse142. Lonely GriefIn this deeply personal episode, I’m opening up about the kind of grief no one really talks about—lonely grief after divorce. Whether it’s parenting alone, sitting through holidays that don’t feel the same, grieving anniversaries in silence, or watching your kids grow up without a partner to share the emotional weight, this kind of grief is real and valid. If you’ve ever felt unseen in your grief—especially as a divorced mom navigating co-parenting, blended families, or doing it all on your own—this episode is for you. I’ll share my own stories of what it looks...2025-05-2214 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse141. Grief Overlooked; Q&A ConversationIn this episode, I’m sharing a powerful teaching from one of my live Q&A sessions where we unpacked the real reasons grief still shows up—even when you're the one who initiated the divorce or knew it was the right thing. If you’ve ever found yourself asking, Why am I still grieving? Shouldn’t I be over this by now?—this is the conversation you need.I walk you through five core truths about grief after betrayal and divorce, including:Why grief doesn’t mean regretHow you can grieve someone who...2025-05-1541 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse140. Vulnerability After BetrayalIf you've ever thought, “I’ll never be that vulnerable again” after betrayal—this episode is for you. In this deeply personal solo episode, I explore the complex layers of vulnerability after betrayal, abuse, and a life-saving divorce. Building on my last episode and conversation with my husband, I take you further into the impact of betrayal trauma—what I call vulnerability shock, hesitation, and hangover—and how these experiences rewire our relationship with openness, connection, and trust. You'll learn what healthy vulnerability really looks like, how to recognize over- and under-vulnerability as trauma responses, and why boundaries are not barriers...2025-05-0830 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse139. When Should You Share Your Trauma While Dating ; A Conversation With Scott WoolseyDating after a life-saving divorce isn't just dating—it's navigating a minefield of triggers, fears, and deep vulnerability. In this powerful and honest episode, Today I am joined by my husband Scott to explore one of the most asked questions in my Dating from Within workshop: When should I share my past trauma, betrayal, or abuse when I start dating again? Together, we unpack what emotional safety actually looks like, the difference between oversharing and intentional vulnerability, and how to recognize healthy responses in a partner. You’ll also hear examples from our own relationship—including the messy, imperfect, and de...2025-05-0137 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse138. Why It's Not A "Normal" Divorce; It's A Life Saving DivorceIn this empowering episode, I dive deep into the profound differences between a typical divorce and a life-saving divorce. If you’ve ever felt guilt, confusion, or shame because your divorce doesn’t look like the amicable, co-parenting stories on social media, this episode is for you. I explore why leaving an abusive, toxic, or harmful relationship is not a failure but an act of courage and self-preservation. Discover why the grief, healing process, and rebuilding after a life-saving divorce are so unique—and why it's okay if your journey doesn’t look like anyone else’s. Learn...2025-04-2427 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse137. 6 Powerful Life Hacks From Defensive Driving; Healing From Divorce- Part 2In this follow-up episode, I dive into the remaining 3 defensive driving principles and how they mirror the emotional terrain of divorce and healing. From life’s constant distractions (yes, even those triggered texts or your ex’s latest antics) to adjusting your internal GPS and setting the right “music” or emotional tone—you’ll learn what it means to stay grounded and aligned, even when life feels out of control.We’ll also talk about how to make proper emotional adjustments—like clearing your mental windshield, checking your posture in healing, and making sure you’re not carrying weight that was never you...2025-04-1734 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse136. 6 Powerful Life Hacks From Defensive Driving; Healing After Divorce and Betrayal-Part 1Life after betrayal or a life-saving divorce can feel like driving through a storm without a map—and often without much light. In this episode, I’m breaking down the first 3 principles of defensive driving and showing you how they hold deep wisdom for your healing journey. We’ll talk about how rushing through pain can actually delay healing, what it means to keep both hands on the wheel of your life, and how emotional boundaries (aka following distance) are essential for peace and clarity.If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, reactive, or like you’re still letting yo...2025-04-1030 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse135. You Are the Creator of Your Life—Here’s How to Begin AgainAfter betrayal, abuse, or a life-saving divorce, the idea of “creating the life you want” can feel overwhelming—or even impossible. In this episode, I’m answering the quiet question so many women carry: How do I even begin again? I’ll guide you through the first steps to rebuilding your life using the power of awareness, acceptance, and agency. You’ll learn how creativity is part of your true self (according to Internal Family Systems), why trauma keeps you stuck, and how to take one small step forward—even if you don’t have the full picture yet. Whether you're f...2025-04-0337 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse134. Stop Getting Pulled In: Understanding the Drama Triangle with Your ExIn this episode, I dive deep into understanding and escaping the Karpman Drama Triangle—victim, persecutor, and rescuer roles that harm relationships. Learn how to identify these destructive patterns, especially with your ex, and discover empowered ways to respond for healthier interactions. This episode is dedicated to becoming aware of these roles, gaining self-empowerment, and stepping out of the constant drama to create a more fulfilling and peaceful life.___________________________________________Brainspotting Intensive is FULL! If you are interested for the next one email info@chooserecoveryservices.comBelieving In You- becoming more aware of your human brain and how its keeping you from being the choos...2025-03-2737 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse133. Rebuilding Trust After A Life Saving Divorce: How to Trust Yourself AgainTrust after betrayal can feel impossible, especially after a life-saving divorce. In this episode, I explore the real question behind, “Will I ever trust again?”—which isn’t just about trusting others, but about learning to trust yourself again.If you've ever blamed yourself for trusting the wrong person, doubted your intuition, or felt stuck in fear, this episode will help you:Understand why trust feels so unsafe after betrayal trauma.Recognize how your nervous system mistakes vigilance for wisdom.Learn the step-by-step process to rebuild self-trust from the ground up.Differentiate between protecting yourself and keeping...2025-03-2031 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse132. Using Healing Tools Against Yourself; Believing Your BodyIn this episode, we dive deep into a common but rarely talked-about issue—how we sometimes use healing tools against ourselves. If you've ever found yourself meditating, journaling, or practicing deep breathing not to listen to your body, but to silence it—this episode is for you.When we override our body’s signals in an effort to feel “better” or “regulated,” we risk gaslighting our own intuition and staying stuck in cycles of self-doubt. Healing from betrayal, trauma, and divorce isn’t about forcing yourself to move on—it’s about learning to trust your body first.Your bo...2025-03-1329 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse131. Was Any Of It Real? Understanding The Confusion After A Life Saving DivorceIn this episode, I tackle one of the most painful and confusing questions that often follows a life-saving divorce: Was any of it real?Was there any good? Was it all bad?I dive into the cognitive dissonance that makes it hard to reconcile the good moments with the harmful ones, why your brain held on to the good, and how trauma clarity can bring painful but necessary revelations.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:📍 Reality Fragmentation: Why your brain struggles to reconcile the good with the painful truth📍 Trauma Clarity: How gaining...2025-03-0625 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse130. Becoming Securely AttachedBecoming Securely Attached is a practice that we all can do no matter where we are at in our healing from betrayal, abuse and divorce. Secure attachment isn’t about never feeling anxious or hurt—it’s about knowing you can handle those feelings and still trust yourself. When betrayal, abuse, or divorce shatters that sense of security, it’s easy to feel like you’ll never trust again. But attachment isn’t set in stone—it can be rebuilt. In this episode, we’re diving into what secure attachment really looks like, how betrayal disrupts it, and, most importantly, the...2025-02-2733 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse129. Knowing Your Attachment StyleIn this episode, I dive deep into attachment styles—what they are, how they influence your relationships, and why understanding them is crucial for your healing journey. Whether you’re navigating life after betrayal, considering dating again, or simply wanting a healthier relationship with yourself, this conversation will give you powerful insights. But here’s the deal: attachment styles are not life sentences. They are simply information—tools to help you self-reflect, not labels to judge yourself by. My goal is to help you recognize your patterns, meet yourself with compassion, and move toward secure attachment.Attachment is not a la...2025-02-2036 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse128. Love Is Still The AnswerThis episode is all about love—the love you thought hurt you, the love that felt like it betrayed you, and the love that is still very much yours to reclaim. February can be an ambush for those healing from betrayal, making love feel like a battlefield instead of something safe and beautiful. But love itself didn’t hurt you—betrayal, deception, and broken trust did. Love was never the weapon. In fact, it remains your greatest strength.I dive into how our brains try to protect us from love after betrayal, scanning for threats and reinforcing fear-b...2025-02-1320 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse127. Navigating High Conflict Divorce w/ Family Law Attorney and Judge Michele LockeThis episode would be helpful for anyone who is navigating high conflict divorce, especially if you are preparing for court or in the middle of court. High conflict means high emotions so this episode may very well bring up some of those emotions for you.
My invitation to you with that is to look curiously at whats coming up and work with a professional around how to process through these ver real and very hard things.
Life saving divorces are not fair, easy or just. Learning how to take your power back is how we...2025-02-0648 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse126. How Brainspotting Heals Betrayal TraumaIn this episode, I delves into the therapeutic modality of brainspotting, discussing its effectiveness in treating betrqyal trauma.
Do you find yourself thinking you've healed a trigger and then BAM it feels as if it just happened all over again?!
The episode explains the brainspotting process, how it accesses deep parts of the brain to release stored trauma, and its differences from traditional talk therapy.
If you want to schedule a consultation to see how this modality can support your healing fo to amiewoolsey.com and book a visit.
If you...2025-01-3025 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse125. Listeners Question: How do I answer my kids when they ask if I'm ok, and i'm not.In today's episode, I will be answering a listeners heartfelt question about how to answer your kids when they ask if you are ok, and you are NOT OK! But you don't want to tell them all the things, or should you? What about the questions they may have about the other parent, how do you answer those?
Let's talk about how to navigate difficult conversations with your children during a divorce. I'll share my journey and the importance of being honest yet age-appropriate when answering your children’s questions about the situation. This episode will support yo...2025-01-2331 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse124. The 3 Principles That ShiftIn this follow up episode, I delve into the psychological and emotional dimensions of three financial principles discussed with Jenny in a previous episode: the 'more is better' rule, the 'now is better than later' rule, and the concept that resources are limited, thus requiring trade-offs. I will explain how these principles can be applied to understanding trauma, abuse, and divorce, and how they relate to the healing journey. The episode also highlights the importance of awareness and acceptance in managing triggers and cultivating a healthy relationship with oneself and others.
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2025-01-1616 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and AbuseBONUS EPISODE: How Will I Know When I'm Ready To Date?AHHHH! Dating after a life saving divorce is scary right?! All the worries and fears are so valid- AND- I believe that you can prepare for healthy dating experience where you are taking a healthy risk.
My Dating From Within Workshop will help give you hope and ease the fears that may bee keeping you in unhealthy relationship patterns or keeping you from relationship all together!
Today I share a few things to consider that may indicate you are ready or not ready to date.
Join me in the next Workshop to learn...2025-01-1026 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse122. Healing Pyramid; New Year, New HealingIn this episode, I welcome you into 2025 with a heartfelt discussion on the importance of healing and setting goals for the new year. While reflecting on the holiday season with family and the challenge of re-adjusting post-festivities, I emphasize the significance of addressing trauma through brain spotting, a therapeutic somatic healing modality. I also highlight the upcoming Brain Spotting Intensive in April and the 'Dating Within' workshop later this month, which focuses on cultivating self-love before seeking external relationships. By breaking down the foundational healing pyramid—truth, safety, trust, vulnerability, and intimacy—I encourage listeners to start their healing jour...2025-01-0234 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse97. The Difference Between Uncomfortable & IntolerableIn this episode, we delve into the crucial distinction between what is uncomfortable and what is intolerable in the context of healing from trauma and navigating an empowered divorce. Understanding this difference is essential for your healing journey and can significantly impact your ability to manage and process emotions effectively.
I discuss how in my brainspotting sessions, communication and partnership are key. We use the SUD scale (Subjective Units of Distress) to measure the severity of discomfort and ensure that processing remains within a manageable window of tolerance. This helps prevent the overwhelming flood of emotions that...2024-07-1132 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse73. "What If I Scare Men Off"; Fears Around Future Relationships I remember thinking after divorce, that my life is such a mess and I have so much emotional baggage, trauma and problems that no guy will ever want to date me let alone marry me. This energy limited my beliefs about myself and about what I can create in my future.
I felt sorry for myself, and even though it makes sense why, it wasnt helping the energy I was putting out. into the world.
Today I talk about why this kind of thinking isnt just limiting but keeps you stuck! I'll...2024-01-2521 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse72. 5 Signs A Guy Is Healthy From Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFTAs we are approaching the next Dating From Within Workshop I thought I'd ask my colleague Geoff Steurer, who's work with couples through betrayal is amazing, I asked if he'd come up with his 5 top signs a guy is healthy.
Because I know many of you are wondering what the hell does healthy even look like!
Now of course these are on 5 of the signs to look for, but you can come join me January 25th to learn more!!
Here are Geoff's Top 5 Signs A Guy Is In A Healthy Space:
...2024-01-1841 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse70. Today Is The Day To Be The CHOOSER In Your Life ; One day at a timeWhile you may want 2024 to be better than the year before, we want to set new goals and create from a practiced place of self love, compassion, curiosity, creativity, calm, courage, connectedness, clarity and confidence. Trying to change or set goals from a place of self judgement, shame or blame may by you a few months, but it's not sustainable change.
It's understandable how much you might want to move on, let go and just stop feeling sad all the time. GOODBY GRIEF!! right? There is nothing wrong with this goal, however when you love yourselves into...2024-01-0419 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and AbuseBONUS EPISODE: Stop Dancing With WALTER; How to stop unhealthy communication during & post divorceAre you SO tired of the arguing, the explaining, the reminding that you have to do with your ex partner? What if you stopped? Then what?
Today I share a powerful acronym that can help remind you to stop the unhealthy patterns that are keeping you exhausted in your interaction with your ex partner.
W- Warnings (Threatening)
A- Arguing
L-Lecturing
E-Explaining
R- Reminding
Practicing to eliminate these communication patters will free you up, turn your focus back towards you...2023-12-1817 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse66. Why Won't They Believe Me, I'm NOT Crazy!In this empowering episode of 'The Empowered Divorce Podcast,' I delve into the painful yet common experience of not being believed after betrayal and divorce. I give voice to the struggles of being labeled as the 'crazy one' and the challenges of seeking validation and acknowledgment in the face of judgment and misunderstanding.
Key Points:
The Struggle for Belief: Exploring why friends, family, and clergy often fail to believe the betrayed partner's side of the story.
Feeling Labeled as 'Crazy': Addressing the common misconception that the betrayed spouse is responsible for the relational collapse.
Dealing...2023-12-1412 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse64. My 5 Favorite Thoughts To PracticeToday's episode focuses on 5 thoughts that have now become beliefs for me. I continue to practice as my human brain will still offer me the untrue thoughts sometimes. So there is no arrival to these thoughts! The shift that these thoughts have given me is life changing and I hope that you will be able to feel the shift in your own life as you continue to be the CHOOSER in your life!
The 5 thoughts I will discuss today:
"I am empowered enough, so what can I do here?"
This thought emphasizes personal empowerment...2023-12-0428 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse63. How To Feel Joy & Gratitude After Betrayal and DivorceIn this episode, I explore the powerful journey of finding joy and gratitude after betrayal and divorce. I share my personal experiences and insights, shedding light on the challenges faced during the holiday season and how I learned to embrace the end of the year as a time of renewal.
Delving into the concept of foreboding joy, I discuss how trauma and betrayal can make us hesitant to fully savor moments of happiness, fearing that they will be snatched away. Drawing from the wisdom of researcher Brené Brown, I emphasize the importance of practicing gratitude as a way to reclaim j...2023-12-0431 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse62. Radical Self Care Have you ever hear of the term Radical Self Care? Join Amie today as she uses this concept to encourage you to prepare for the up and coming holiday months so that you can be the CHOOSER of your experiences.
Here is what she will cover:
What is radical self-care?
The importance of deep, intentional self-care.
The first pillar: Awareness, including identifying beliefs, values, desires, fears, and unresolved emotions.
Living in alignment with core values during the holiday season.
Setting realistic expectations.
Transformational acceptance and embracing the reality of change and grief.
Healing emotional wounds and...2023-11-0920 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse61. Believing Something New; How To Make Cognitive Dissonance Work For YouIn todays episode I address the transformative power of believing something new while navigating the inevitable discomfort of cognitive dissonance. I talk about challenging limiting beliefs that hinder personal growth and outlines how thoughts directly influence feelings, actions, and results in our lives.
Tune in to learn how to make space for cognitive dissonance, rewire your thought patterns, and ultimately start believing in yourself and your ability to create positive change.
Challenging limiting beliefs, such as the idea that you can't put yourself first.
Understanding the impact of limiting beliefs on your life and results.
Exploring...2023-11-0219 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and AbuseBONUS EPISODE: Your Love Was Enough; Act and not be acted uponDating From Within Workshop October 12th-14th
SummaryAmie's Desire to Connect With DivorceesAmie shared her feelings of wanting to connect with her listeners, particularly those going through divorce. She acknowledged the struggle of loving someone who was unable to reciprocate that love and accepted that their ability to love was not a deficiency. Amie emphasized that the love offered was enough, despite the partner's inability to change destructive behaviors. She also expressed her desire to help these women heal from their past wounds.
Fear of Relationship After BetrayalsAmie discussed his fear and hesitation about getting...2023-10-1021 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse50. Women Supporting Women; Sarah's Story On Divorcing From AbuseCome join me in creating a safe space for Sarah to share her story around how she got herself out of an abusive relationship and chose to practice empowerment, one small step at a time.
Divorcing when these dynamics are a part of your story requires a lot of support and planning. One huge part of Sarah's success was getting more awareness to the dynamics that she was experiencing and accepting the reality of those behaviors. It's scary to acknowledge this, but without it the possibility of being in future destructive relationships increase.
Knowledge is...2023-08-1739 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse43. Women Supporting Women ; Julie's Story ( Bonus content: Tips from a general contractor)You are going to get a double dip episode here today with my amazing new friend Julie. Not only will she share her journey to having an empowered divorce, but as a general contractor ( bad ass right?) she will give tips and tricks to navigate basic household wears and tears, tackling those fixer upper projects and how to find the right contractor help when you need it.
You are not going to want to miss this, Let's support Julie in her journey and get inspired to hang up those new pictures of you and your kids! (listen...2023-06-2947 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse42. Becoming Your Own WitnessToday I share an "AH HA" experience ( all you Oprah fans know what I'm talking about) while at the gym, of all places. I have been loving this new thoughts shift and I can't wait to share this concept with you.
Many times, our of survival, we have become so dependent on what others think, how others view us and even get motivation to reach goals from others, but not ourselves. In those cases, you will find that you won't stay motivated very long!
After divorce, we can find ourselves so busy witnessing what our...2023-06-2220 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse41. Your First Family Vacation After Divorce; When it all changesListener Giveaway!! Leave a review on APPLE podcast for the chance to win $100 Visa gift card to use towards your first family outing/vacation as a single woman!
Are you feeling like you are NEVER going to be able to go on a vacation ever again now that you're divorced? What thoughts are your brain offering you around this? What about feeling angry or envy that your ex is taking the kids on vacations that you used to go on? As you now think about taking a family trip, whatever that looks like for you in your...2023-06-1517 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse40. Meeting The New Girlfriend Or Wife; Betrayal all over again?I don't think it matters how much time has gone by or how long a person has been divorced, when you find out your ex is getting married, not only does it hurt, but it is a shock response. There are many feelings that flow through you after this awareness, including the feeling of injustice, like unfairness. There can also be anger, bitterness, and jealousy–why does he get the happy ending and I don’t?
Were all the happy times really happy?What if I am wrong and he really is “better...2023-06-0831 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and AbuseBONUS EPISODE: Your First Summer Without Kids; Surviving summer after divorcePerhaps you used to look forward to summer time. Maybe you planned vacations and activities with the kids, family vacations with the kids’ grandparents at an amazing beach house. It was time you looked forward to, slow things down a little, enjoy time together.
Divorce changes all of it. Now you might be working, sharing time, missing out on the kids' adventures and not being able to even vacation with them. What about the pain that comes when your ex takes the family vacation....with his new girlfriend? Ouch.
It's hard to navigate new and no...2023-06-0522 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse39. Complicated Grief; Healing from betrayal, abuse and divorceNormal grief for any human is hard and unwanted. When you have had previous trauma, chronic pain or metal illness such as PTSD, anxiety or other chronic issues and then you experience betrayal In your primary relationship, abuse and divorce, you most likely are suffering from complicated grief.
Today I share some thoughts around what this can look like, and offer a few things you can practice today to help you move through this type of grief.
Grieving is a process, yet you find the light at some point, things become less heavy and you...2023-06-0123 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and AbuseBONUS EPISODE: Two Empowering WordsWhen you feel the emotion of fear, do you then try to just have more faith? What about when you feel grief, do you try to just feel more grateful? Today I offer a little trick I use that will help you to make a much needed shift. It's a shift into more authenticity, acceptance and empowerment.
I have 2 of my favorite words I am sharing with you today, and as I have implemented these in my life I have been able to accept more emotions without judgement and make choices that I know are right for...2023-05-2816 min
The Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse38. Women Supporting Women; Emily's StoryJoin Emily today as she bravely shares her story through betrayal and divorce. Dealing with serious illness and chronic pain on top of navigating betrayal is salt int he wound. Emily is recently divorced and is continuing to learn more about her experience and heal, but doing it from a place of empowerment as she continues to practice everyday.
This isn't about getting it perfect or perfectly healing. It's about choosing everyday to choose you and being the creator in your life. The more you intentionally step into your power and see the light within, you will...2023-05-2549 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse37. Believing You Made the Wrong Choice To Marry Him; What if you're wrong about that?Have you thought to yourself, "How did I get this so wrong?", or "How did I miss the red flags and get into this marriage ?", "I chose wrong, I got it wrong". Perhaps you have thought ,"Where did things go wrong, I thought everything was right?". Any of those thoughts resonate with you? They did for me.
Changing the way I thought about my choice to marry someone who hurt me so deeply was challenging, but ultimately I chose to believe that I got it right.
Today I want to offer you an analogy that...2023-05-1819 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and AbuseBONUS EPISODE: Phases Of Man Hating After Divorce; How to own where you are at and have hope to move forwardWhether or not you're thinking about dating again, there are a few phases of healing after betrayal that can be helpful to be more aware of and today I want to help you identify perhaps what phase we're in, and own it. When we aren't aware of where we are at, we can get stuck in the journey. Stuck in bitterness, anger and the fear of loneliness can become overwhelming. Surviving a marriage where you've experienced betrayal, trauma, addiction, and abuse, there's phases that I've noticed we go through afterwards. Yes. Myself included.
Many of you are...2023-05-1518 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse36. "He Didn't Fight For Me or Our Family" ; How to heal after betrayal and divorceHave you ever had this thought? Have you ever wondered why he didn't choose to fight for you, and what things would be like if he had? There are a lot of real emotions attached to this thought, and I want to walk you through how to make peace with this idea.
What if his not choosing you really isn't about you?
What if this thought really isn't serving you or giving you the results you want in your life?
What if you DO want to choose to think this?
Join...2023-05-1318 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse35. The 8 C's To Self Awareness & EmpowermentInternal family systems work is one of my favorite modalities to healing from betrayal trauma and divorce. It really helps to separate all the trauma parts that have been created through your experience, old childhood wounded parts, and protector parts that keep you from connecting with the Self.
There are 8 characteristics that when practiced, can help you to be more in tune with your higher, true self. The self that gets lost through trauma, the self that has takes a back seat and handed the keys over to someone else and something else.
Having an...2023-05-0428 min
The Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse34. Women Supporting Women; Healing from divorce, Jori's StoryCome join me today s we hold space for Jori to share her story, her experiences and her truth. Owning your story is an important and powerful part of the healing journey. I hope that as you support other women as they share their story, it helps you to own yours.
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Choose Recovery Divorce Support Group- This support group is for those who are new to...2023-04-2731 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse33. Managing Overwhelm After Divorce; Healing from betrayal, abuse and divorceThere are two different types of overwhelm I will talk about today, one is the literally nervous system shut down overwhelm that happens when a traumatic situation caused your brain to tap into it's energy reserve and there just isn't more to give. The other type of overwhelm we often find ourselves in, is the lifestyle overwhelm. Many of us have been so used to this kind of over-functioning that it will often feel wrong to stop and actually rest.
I offer lots of real life examples, tools that you can start practicing right now that will...2023-04-2037 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse32. " Things Will Get Better".....But In The Meantime, What The Bleep Do I DO!?Have you had people tell you right after divorce, don't worry things will get better, or, why aren't you happy now that you aren't with the man who hurt you?
Here you are just trying to still wrap your head around what the hell just happened, and perhaps you really are trying to be happy and move on but just can't.
I want you to know that there is a good reason why and it's a part of the journey that we don't want to skip. It's the "In The Meantime" part of the healing. 2023-04-1327 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and AbuseBONUS EPISODE: Ugh; Finding motivation to move forward after divorceAre you having a hard time getting up in the mornings? Showering, eating, working out, meditating, working.... all the things? Are you wondering how in the world can you get motivated after betrayal and divorce?
I got you. Today I share a quick simple tools that will help. In fact, this was the first tool I used that began my journey to thought work and becoming in charge of my life and moving out of victim mode to thriving mode.
Quick episode, powerful tool. Try it and then email me at amie@lifecoachingwithamie.com and s...2023-04-1009 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse31. When There is A New Menu; 5 steps to moving forward after betrayal and divorceHave you ever gone to a favorite restaurant and the one meal. you always get isn't available anymore because they have a new menu? Do you grieve like I do?! Ok maybe not over food, but when the menu of life changes and what you thought was available to you isn't, what you were told was going to be prepared is no longer an option, we can get stuck making a decision off the new menu.
Today I share 5 steps you can practice to help you see the options that are now available to you. It can...2023-04-0620 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and AbuseBONUS EPISODE: The Dr. Visit After Betrayal"Is this hell?" I asked myself while sitting in the Dr. office after divorce, because I found out that my ex had in fact had an affair. It's another loss to process as you realize even more, just how much you were in the dark and will possibly never know all that transpired and all that you were unknowingly exposed to during your marriage as your partner betrayed.Today I want to validate those of you who now have to navigate this piece of your journey and offer support to those of you who are scared to lean into...2023-04-0312 min
The Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse29. Women Supporting Women; Healing from divorce, Shawn's StoryJoin me in supporting Shawn on today's Women Supporting Women series, as she shares her story of empowerment.
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Choose Recovery Divorce Support Group- This support group is for those who are new to divorce and needing support from other women and help with basic processing and grounding. This is NOT a coaching group but will give you opportunities to learn tools to help you ease those triggers and trauma r...2023-03-3038 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse28. Being By Yourself vs. Being WITH YourselfFeeling alone and lonely? Join me today as I share some thoughts around how to make a shift from no power to empowerment by learning how to be WITH yourself.
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Divorce Support Group- This support group is for those who are new to divorce and needing support from other women and help with basic processing and grounding. This is NOT a coaching group but will give you opportunities to learn tools to help you ease those triggers and t...2023-03-2320 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and AbuseBONUS EPISODE: 4 Steps To Manage Racing Thoughts; Healing PTSD after betrayal and divorceToday I answer a listeners question around how to get rid of those racing thoughts that are all too consuming. I will offer you 4 steps to take that will help calm those down and allow you to step into a more empowered approach to healing.
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Divorce Weekly Support Group - This support group is for those wh...2023-03-1920 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse27. Grieving After Divorce; Healing from betrayal trauma, abuse and divorceWhat does it look like, how do you navigate it and how long will this last? Join me today as I share thoughts about grief, and how to process it in a healthy way that allows it to actually move through you. We can grieve empoweringly ( I created a new word) yes, you can allow grief to be an empowering experience IN the grief when you stop making yourself wrong for grieving, and when you stop thinking that you shouldn't be still grieving.
Grief can get stuck in our bodies and create more chronic pain when we s...2023-03-1623 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse26. Facing The Fire; Generational Healing with Dr. Kenneth M. Adams PhDHere it it, the much anticipated interview (for me at least) with Dr. Kenneth M. Adams PhD. He is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), a CSAT supervisor, and CSAT training facilitator as well as an EMDR practitioner. Along with his associates, he is continually developing new program services to meet the needs of addicts and their families as well as adult victims of childhood abuse. He does regular speaking engagements and media appearances. He has appeared on national and local television and radio. He's the author of Silently Seduced, When He's Married To Mom, and his latest groundbreaking...2023-03-0955 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse25. Making Space To Help Your Children Heal; Owning Your StoryToday I want to share a few things to prepare you for next weeks amazing episode with Dr. Kenneth M Adams PHD. I will introduce Dr. Adams more in next weeks episode but today, I want to offer a few suggestions to prepare you for another opportunity to growth and healing in your journey.With his latest book, A light in the dark, The hidden legacy of adult children of sex addicts co authored with Mary E. Meyer, Ph.D., LMFT, and Culle L. Vande Garde, LCSW where they detail the unique issues experienced by adult children who grew up...2023-03-0215 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and AbuseBONUS EPISODE: Thought Dumps; Healing tools to move forward after divorce, betrayal and or abuseLast bonus episode I walked you through a bo dy scan to help you regulate your emotions and have greater awareness to your physical body. Sometimes this can be challenging and so today I am offering another way to process. Thought Dumps.
I have been using this tools since my own coach introduced them to me and these along with body scans are so incredibly helpful to become more aware of whats really happening within me and to become more in charge of my experience to have an empowered divorce.
Join me for a brief i...2023-02-2817 min
The Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse24. Women Supporting Women; Healing from divorce, Jeanine's StoryWomen supporting women is key to this Empowered Divorce podcast. These are your stories, your experiences and it's important to know you are not alone.
Join me today as I interview another amazing women who stepped into her power and is having an empowered divorce.
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Should I Stay or Go- The first Thursday of every month for those who are feeling stuck making the decision to stay o...2023-02-2339 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse23. Those Damn Triggers; Learning how to manage triggers after divorce from betrayal and abuse (PART 2)The trauma you experienced in your marriage die to betrayal and or abuse is real and never to be minimized. Understanding how to recognize these trauma parts and when they are triggers will help you to step into a more empowered approach to managing them.
Today I share some more insight around triggers and focus on the response your physical body has to these triggers and how to move through them.
I will give you tools to practice today and 3 things to implement that will greatly help move you into an empowered divorce!
....2023-02-1630 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and AbuseBonus Episode: Your Super Power Part Called LoveDue to the high trigger factor of this day we are NOT going to mention the "V" word! I do however want to mention the "L" word. Love. Just in a totally different way. So join me briefly today as I share some thoughts that have helped me take my own healing to the next level.
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The Empowered Divorce Monthly Q&A - Divorce is not easy, but divorcing as a result of betrayal and or abuse makes he...2023-02-1414 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse21. Those Damn Triggers; Learning to managing triggers after divorce from betrayal and abuse (PART1)Did you think that once you got divorced you'd be free from triggers and trauma response? I did too. It can feel so frustrating when your body is still having trauma responses and you don't understand why.
Join me today as I share the reasons why this is happening to the brain and body as well as offer examples of how this can happen, what to do when it does and of course you will get practice work for the week!
This is one of two episodes because its a big topic and there are s...2023-02-0930 min
The Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse20. Dealing With Disneyland Dad; How to handle parenting differences after divorceIt's a thing. You feel like you have to be the bad guy, the responsible one and no fun mom because the other parent is all about fun. No rules, no boundaries and you feel you have to do the heavy lifting and they get to do the fun. How do you handle this? What can you actually do in these situations and how do you protect your kids? Join me today as I share my thoughts around dealing with Disneyland dad and helping you make a shift from feeling helpless, and always the "bad gu...2023-02-0246 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse19. Answering Your Questions; What if I still miss him?Today's questions from you amazing listeners are being answered!Is it wrong that I still miss him?Is it normal to have trouble sleeping after divorce, even if i'm the one who chose it?What do I do when my ex goes out on his weekends with the kids?I'm more sad about losing his family than the divorce, is that weird?I keep finding out more and more things he did during our marriage, things he has done and I didn't know about. I feel stupid, embarrassed and...2023-01-2628 min
The Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse18. Women Supporting Women; Healing from divorce, Shay's StoryJoin me in supporting and celebrating another woman who has practiced leaning into the hard and having an empowered divorce.
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Should I Stay or Go- The first Thursday of every month for those who are feeling stuck making the decision to stay or leave the marriage. This is a group coaching session to help you see what might be keeping you stuck. Register Here
The Empowered Divorce Monthly Q&A- Ea...2023-01-1950 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse17. Sick and Tired Of Healing Work; How to navigate healing after divorce and betrayalHave you ever wanted to scream out, "I HATE HEALING!!" I did. Which led to this episode on healing. It can feel overwhelming and some days more than others, you just want to scream. I get it. Healing is a journey not a destination. Have you heard that before? Today I explain why and offer you thoughts to consider so you can be more aware of where you are currently at in the healing journey and give you an idea of what the next step looks like.I will share stages and phases of healing s...2023-01-1238 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and AbuseBonus Episode: I'm Never Getting Married Again!!I'm answering a listeners question today about being in a place where she doesn't ever want to get married again and actually, men suck! She has a question about being in this state of mind and I answer her in todays BONUS episode. My answer might surprise you!Want to hear more from Amie? Follow on instagram @amiewoolseyDating After Divorce Workshop- This is a 3 day workshop held in the evening and recorded! You will get amazing information on how to date healthy, recognize red flags, recognize healthy in yourself and the...2023-01-0913 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse16. Empowered Doesn't Mean Pain Free; Choosing empowerment after divorceObviously I love the word empowered. To empower is to make yourself stronger and more confident, especially in controlling your life and claiming their rights.
You are entitled to certain rights, it's giving yourself permission, it's allowing and knowing that things you want in your life are warranted. Empower is to set yourself free from captivity and release yourself from things you can not control
What ‘empowered’ is NOT, if free from pain, hurt and grief. It's NOT this idea of let's get empowered so that we don't have to feel bad. This life is never...2023-01-0516 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse15. You've Had It All Along; Tapping into your powerI love the movie Wizard of Oz, and every time I watch it I learn something more about life and empowerment. Today I share some thoughts that come to me as I watched it again and want you each to know that you have always had your power of agency. The power to CHOOSE. We just didn't always know it, for many reasons, but you can access that power now. You can have an empowered divorce!
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The Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse14. Women Supporting Women; Healing from divorce, Jori's StoryWant to hear more from Amie? Follow on instagram @amiewoolsey
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Should I Stay or Go- The first Thursday of every month for those who are feeling stuck making the decision to stay or leave the marriage. This is a group coaching session to help you see what might be keeping you stuck. Register Here
The Empowered Divorce Monthly Q&A- Each month Amie hold a Q&A for those who are divorced. Join HERE and come be apart of women supporting women...2022-12-2237 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and AbuseBonus Episode: Joy In Any CircumstanceIt's that time of year! Joy in the season........ or maybe not. If this is your first holiday single, I want to give you a big hug and say I promise it gets better. But right now, I totally validate how hard it may be.
I am talking about joy today and how I define it as well as offer thoughts around how to access it despite the circumstances in our lies not going as planned. Just like one of my favorite movie characters George Baily in the classic Christmas movie It's A Wonderful Life.
Jo...2022-12-1919 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse13. Who Am I?; Finding yourself again after divorceNow that you are single, are you wondering who the heck am I ? Now that you are no longer married, many of you have most likely lost yourself in your marriage, in your partner, children, and in the life that you thought was real only to find out it wasn't.
So its totally understandable why you'd feel lost, and wondering who am I ? Today I want to share some thoughts that can help you approach this question from a place of empowerment. I offer a few tools to practice this week that will help you navigate this...2022-12-1528 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse12. Healing The Body With Breath; Interview with Shay TaylorWhen you have experienced betrayal and or abuse in your marriage, then navigate possibly a traumatic divorce, just being divorced doesn't mean you are suddenly healed. There is still work to do. With so many different aspects of healing, breath work is one of the most important.
Today on the podcast I interview Shay Taylor who is sharing her own experience with finding healing through breath work and learning how to slow down. Healing the body is an important piece of your journey and this is a fantastic place to start.
You will also have an...2022-12-0848 min
The Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse11. When He Moves On; Healing from betrayal and divorceJust like his affair and sexual addiction had nothing to do with you, neither does his moving on have to do with you. Whats often happening here, underneath it all, is we are making this mean something about ourselves intrinsically.
Meaning, we are connecting our worth and value and enoughness to this- so it hurts. Our thoughts might be- I wasn't good enough for him to choose- whats wrong with me that he wouldn't do the work to be healthy for me but he will for her (which i will highly argue that he' healthy) your brain...2022-12-0122 min
The Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse10. 4 Empowering Healing Tools; Divorcing After BetrayalToday I want to share a few thoughts about what you can do in the raw, tender moments of trauma and pain. Now I am not offering these suggestions as a one and done or a linear checklist of things that will make it all go away……
These things have worked to help me stay in the present moment to pass through the pain and sorrow so that I don't get stuck and became a tornado of so many emotions that i destroy everything in sight.
My hope if that you will find something I say...2022-11-2428 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and AbuseBonus Episode: A Not So Thankful Thanksgiving? Accessing gratitude after divorce You don't have to force gratitude or a positive attitude right now. It will come, I promise. But you wont have space for the gratitude when you are hiding the real emotions of hurt sad or mad. It is natural of course to want to be positive. None of us wants to feel fear, pain, or anything else that is uncomfortable. But pain and sadness are an unavoidable part of life. They are here to stay. The idea is not to try to change that reality but to expand our capacity to endure it. And make space for the g...2022-11-2124 min
The Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse9. Women Supporting Women; Healing from divorce, Halle's StoryDivorce does not discriminate. It doesn't matter what age you are and women need to know that even if you are still in your 10's, and divorced, you too are not alone. Today I have the honor of interviewing Halle who navigated a divorce with a young child not too long after marriage. This was certainly not in the plans, yet she was able to move forward as she took small steps into empowerment.
You too can have an empowered divorce, come hear how Halle practiced and get inspired by her story. Most importantly, women supporting women a...2022-11-1733 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and AbuseBONUS EPISODE: What My Son Wants You Moms To Know; Navigating divorce after betrayal traumaMy youngest son Jackson wanted to be on my podcast. He doesn't listen to it but knows that I help women who are going through divorces similar to mine. He said that he things he can help other moms know what a kids experience is going through divorce and wanted to share some thoughts he has with you today.
I honestly didn't think he would follow up with me after I told him i'd interview him. But he kept bugging me to let him speak so I'm letting the kid speak! Jackson is the youngest of my f...2022-11-1427 min
The Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse8. Empowering Your Children Through DivorceToday I want to share some ideas with you that have to do with our children and our thoughts about them during divorce and post divorce that many of you might be feeling and experiencing. I remember early on In my journey I had realized that I've been trying really hard to keep my kids from feeling sadness about everything that was happening. I'd been hoping that they just didn't have any emotions about it. I realize that this was not healthy in that by actually allowing them to feel, feel the sadness and even anger and fear that...2022-11-1029 min
The Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and AbuseBonus Episode: Creating Boundaries After Divorce; Healing from betrayalDivorcing after betrayal adds a different twist if you will to the dynamics of a divorce. Most likely you are still navigating trust and learning to trust yourself again so boundaries after divorce are still going to start with you doing the work to trust YOU again, trusting your body.
It’s not uncommon either to have not had full disclosure of what your partner did during the marriage and so there will be some big emotions to still process even after divorce
Learning to trust yourself, love yourself and then set boundaries with yourself is...2022-11-0729 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse7. Financial Empowerment Through Divorce; Healing from divorceFear around personal finances are one of the top reasons women stay in an unhealthy destructive marriage. LOTS of fears right? Like, debilitating for some of you. So whether you are trying to figure out how you are going to do this on your own, or you are on your own now and feeling the pressure financially I got your back!
I have invited my long time friend and financial nerd ( she knows I love her) Melissa Frye to help you navigate your finances from a place of empowerment. She too is experiencing divorce so she gets...2022-11-0358 min
The Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and AbuseBonus Episode: Firm Foundation; Divorce does not mean you're worthlessYour worth and value are not tied to your experience of divorce. Do you believe that? I didn't. I thought that when the marriage crumbled, when divorce was eminent, that I was now broken, less worthy of love and who would ever love me again now that im divorced?
Today I share some thoughts to consider, and help you shift from a place of feeling worthless, not enough and powerless to a place of empowerment and believing that you are whole and complete. This will make moving forward possible.
You will need some sticky notes...2022-10-3113 min
The Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse6. Women Supporting Women; Healing from divorce Amy's StoryYou are not alone. Women are experiencing extremely difficult divorces and often feel like they are the only ones going through hell. This series of Women Supporting Women is to help you see that you are not the only one, that you are not crazy and that you too can heal and move forward from a place of empowerment.
Join me today as I interview Amy as she shares her journey from feeling trapped in an abusive relationship, and thinking that marriage was supposed to be this hard, to stepping into a place of...2022-10-2743 minThe Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse5. When Survival Mode Gets A Little Too Comfortable; Healing from betrayal trauma and divorce"Even when it would seem to the outsiders looking in that we were ok, I was waiting for the ball to drop again. I was constantly in panic that I would find something out again around his addiction or affair, this constant state of instability was my life. And because I was not aware of or had skills of emotional regulation, and I wasn't aware that I need to self care and focus on me and heal me and have boundaries, so I was participating in the cycle of abuse and unhealthy by not self regulating by not having h...2022-10-2729 min
The Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse4. Divorce is not bad, and you are not bad for divorcingDid you grow up believing that if you got divorced it was bad, wrong, sinful and so it's just not an option? I did. Today I talk about how important it is that we not make our experiences mean anything about our worth and value as a soul. That your experience with divorce, does not make you less, and certainly does not make you less in the eyes of God. What if YOU get to decide how you want to think and feel about your divorce? What if YOUR thoughts and feelings are all that ma...2022-10-2116 min
The Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and AbuseBONUS EPISODE: Miracles Through Turbulent TimesThis bonus episode is the first webinar I hosted in my coaching career. It was so scary to share parts of my story In public for the first time! As a believer in Christ, I know that miracles are still possible in this day and the more I look for them not only in my past but have hope for them in my future, I will see them and so will you.
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The Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and AbuseShould I Stay or Go?: Making A DecisionThis is a decision that only YOU can make, but I want to help you make that decision from a place of empowerment rather than fear. Helping you become more aware of the thoughts that your brain is offering you to keep you stuck. Today I offer a few thoughts to consider and journal to help YOU make this decision. Want to hear more from Amie? Follow on instagram @amiewoolseyHere are some FREE resources from Amie you can check outThe Empowered Divorce Q&A- The first Thursday of e...2022-10-1715 min
The Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and AbuseShould I Stay or Go?: Overcoming fearsI don't think I could even begin to count the number of fears that come with you are facing the decision of divorce. It's numberless. And so many of those are debilitating. You will never be able to make a decision when fear is driving the ship. YET, I do believe that fear won't always go away either and that doesn't mean you can't still move forward. Your brain is doing it's job by creating a lot of fears that in reality probably won't happen. Today I share a tool how to help you challenge these fears a...2022-10-1715 min
The Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and AbuseShould I Stay or Go?: Will God tell me to divorce?So many women are waiting for God to give them the green light to divorce. You might be doing all the things to fix yourself, to fix him, to save the marriage and still finding the marriage unhealthy and destructive. You perhaps believe that marriage is just hard and God expects you to just do "hard".What I see most often is that this "hard" is actually abuse and you are dealing with someone who is unwilling to change and you don't have control over that. But yet, fear about what God thinks keeps you stuck. ...2022-10-1715 min
The Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and AbuseShould I Stay Or Go?: Sticking it out a little longerYou may be leaning towards divorce, you quite possibly have already called a lawyer, but then he starts to show a little change and now you are questioning yourself. But is this a pattern? Has there been real change consistently over a long enough period of time that you trust the change? Join me today as I share some thoughts about what real change looks like and how to trust that change. To get really curious about why you are second guessing yourself and feeling like you need to stick it out. This is the hardest decision y...2022-10-1717 min
The Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse3. Women Supporting Women; Healing from divorce, Jill's StoryYou are not alone. Women are experiencing extremely difficult divorces and often feel like they are the only ones going through hell. This series of Women Supporting Women is to help you see that you are not the only one, that you are not crazy and that you too can heal and move forward from a place of empowerment. Hear how Jill navigated an abusive marriage and went from feeling powerless and fearful to empowered and thriving. You can too! Want to hear more from Amie? Follow on instagram @am...2022-10-1734 min
The Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse2. Getting An Emotional Divorce; Healing After BetrayalYour divorce decree is only step one in moving into a new life after divorce. The real divorce is the cutting of the emotional, mental and physical ties that still bind you to your ex-husband. This is the real work of divorce recovery: becoming an empowered woman possessed of confidence, self-esteem, and an enthusiasm for life and most important, a complete break from the emotional trauma and turmoil that led to your divorce in the first place.Join me today as I share 2 tools to work on to help you get an emotional divorce and start having a...2022-10-1721 min
The Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse1. Welcome To The Empowered Divorce; Divorce After Betrayal TraumaDivorce is hard enough to navigate, but add all the fears, worries and unknowns to the m ix and you are suffering m ore than necessary.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast is about helping women navigate divorce and post divorce life from a place of empowerment rather than feeling powerless. To help you heal and move forward. Divorcing because of betrayal trauma and or abuse is trickier that other divorces. Usually there isn't closer and never will be, so moving on can be harder and it's easy to get stuck.
This podcast will also offer the su...2022-10-1726 min