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Your Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealWas It Worth It?Ever made a choice you regretted? You're not alone! Sandy and Amy have been there too. In this episode, we're sharing our biggest blunders and the valuable lessons we've learned. Discover how aligning your choices with your values can help you avoid future regrets. It's a funny, honest, and insightful conversation about the risks, rewards, and consequences of our decisions. Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w T...
2024-09-2619 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealLooking ForwardWe are wrapping up season 5 by looking forward before we take our summer break. When we look forward to something, it builds anticipation and gives us hope. At this moment, Sandy and Amy are  looking forward to summer and all the things that come along with it. There’s a little planning and a bit of flexibility needed to enjoy the season. Bring it on!   Hashtags: #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #summer #planning  Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Y...
2024-05-2330 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealMedical AdvocacyWe do not have to accept discomforts and lower energy just because we’re aging.  Sandy and Amy share their experiences and why it’s important to be your own advocate when it comes to your health.  Why Women aren't Small Men #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #health #menopause #women Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREA...
2024-05-1631 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealPrivilege and PrivacyIs privacy a privilege?  Are we entitled to share things about other people?  Sandy and Amy discuss privacy, secrets, and what is driving our need for privacy. Plus respecting other people's desires to be private or not. Books mentioned: The Yellow House by Sarah M. Bloom Apples Never Fall by Liane Moriarty https://www.vogue.com/article/kates-heartfelt-plea-for-privacy-should-force-us-to-confront-an-uncomfortable-truth https://www.loveatfirstfight.com/relationship-advice/privacy-secrecy/#:~:text=Because%20where%20privacy%20is%20about,two%20feelings%20%E2%80%93%20shame%20and%20fear. #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #privacy...
2024-04-1830 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealOscars RecapMovies can be an escape from reality and sometimes they are reality.  Sandy and Amy have been watching the Oscar nominees. They’ve been entertained and even had some perspective shifts. It’s a fun conversation but be warned, there are some spoilers. #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal Email your sugges...
2024-03-2135 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealFirsts in Our FiftiesYou can try new things at any age. Sandy and Amy explore what they’ve tried since they turned 50 and why they hadn't done it before.  Interesting thing is that their lists are completely different. #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #50andfabulous #firsts  Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal Email your suggested conversation topic...
2024-03-1431 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealEnergy VampiresOh yes, you know who and what your energy vampires are. Sandy and Amy share some of the people and things that drain their energy.  Plus the strategies which range from candy to conversations that can help. https://www.verywellmind.com/energy-vampires-characteristics-types-and-coping-strategies-7373913 #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal Email yo...
2024-03-0732 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealMidlife Celebration If you’ve hit midlife, does it feel like a crisis or are you able to celebrate this phase of life?  Sandy and Amy discuss what we can be celebrating as we age. “Aging is an extraordinary process where you become the person you always should have been.”  David Bowie https://www.huffpost.com/entry/70th-birthday-experiences-celebrate-friends_n_65bae392e4b0102bd2d7bd79 https://fortune.com/well/2023/09/10/menopause-parties-gen-x/ https://www.whatshesaidtalk.com/living-agelessly-making-midlife-a-celebration-not-a-crisis/ #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL Follow...
2024-02-2231 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealSolomon’s Paradox Are you good at giving advice?  Do you also take your own advice? Many of us can give, but sometimes we don’t apply it to ourselves - that is Solomon’s Paradox.  Sandy and Amy talk about giving advice, our advice experiences, and when we don’t take our own advice.  https://www.forbes.com/sites/datafreaks/2015/04/07/why-we-give-great-advice-to-others-but-cant-take-it-ourselves/?sh=60ef3f141515 https://www.fastcompany.com/90451784/3-reasons-why-people-dont-take-your-advice Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53...
2024-02-1530 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealWork Life Imbalance “Work/life balance” is more about the action of balancing and having good boundaries.  This episode Sandy and Amy share their times of struggles with balance and how they made it through. https://www.zippia.com/advice/work-life-balance-statistics/#:~:text=77%25%20of%20employees%20have%20experienced,re%20considering%20a%20new%20job. Hashtags: #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #worklifebalance #worklifeintegration  Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitte...
2024-02-0829 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealThings That Keep Us Up at NightWe all want a good night’s sleep, but sometimes there are things…you know, all the things (projects, problems, etc.) that keep us awake. Sandy and Amy share the literal and the philosophical things that are keeping them awake.  Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com #podcas...
2024-02-0133 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealWhat are you afraid of?What are you afraid of? We all have the things that scare us.  Fear is one of the things that limits women in their professional and personal pursuits. Is fear holding you back? Sandy and Amy discuss common fears, when it’s affected them and how they overcame or avoided the discomfort.   https://womenignitingchange.com/13-fears-that-keep-women-from-being-remarkable/ https://www.forbes.com/sites/carolinecastrillon/2021/08/22/top-10-reasons-you-have-a-fear-of-success/?sh=77ad1dd81c15 https://www.usnews.com/news/politics/articles/2024-01-11/st-paul-makes-history-with-all-female-city-council-a-rarity-among-large-u-s-cities Hashtags: #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #fear  Follow...
2024-01-2531 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealPerspective ShiftWe are kicking off the new year with new views and new perspectives.  Sandy and Amy share how a perspective shift can make doing big things a little easier. Not sweating the small stuff and not creating drama is key for us.  Plus we talk a little about Blue Monday.  Read about it here: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Blue_Monday_(date) #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #newyear  Follow us: Newsletter: www.sandyalane.com Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourr...
2024-01-1833 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealHumble: To be or not to beWe often hear that we need to be humble.  Sandy and Amy talk through the pros and cons of humility plus the perceptions of people who are humble versus arrogant. There is definitely an art to being humble. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to ⁠⁠YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com⁠⁠ Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #humb...
2023-12-2129 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealAging GracefullyHow do you feel about aging?  Sandy and Amy discuss how the definition of aging gracefully has changed as we have aged.  We are measuring it differently than we did 20 years ago. We also share some strategies that will make aging easier. Added bonus: In the conversation, we find out how Sandy got banned from tiktok.  It’s a good story. https://ideas.ted.com/aging-is-inevitable-so-why-not-do-it-joyfully-heres-how/ Hashtags: #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #age #graceful Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebo...
2023-12-0731 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealA Traditional LifeTis the season for family traditions. You know the ones we love and the others that feel like a burden.  This episode Sandy and Amy share some of their family traditions, how they evolved, which ones stuck and which ones did not. It’s a perfect conversation for the season. https://www.webmd.com/balance/why-family-traditions-matter https://community.today.com/parentingteam/post/creating-family-traditions-is-a-bad-idea #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL#holidays #traditions SAL article link: https://medium.com/age-of-empathy/why-non-traditional-thanksgivings-can-be-the-best-thanksgivings-18ab7ad5367 Follow us: Ins...
2023-11-3031 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealUnbanned BooksThey’re talking about books, both banned and unbanned.  Sandy and Amy are big readers.  They share their latest reading, a podcast on books, and discuss the banned book lists.  It’s a good conversation. https://www.wgbh.org/news/local/2020-01-06/inside-the-e-book-war-waging-between-libraries-and-publishers #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #books Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Tw...
2023-11-0930 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealArmchair QuarterbackSometimes our confidence on a topic is greater than our competence.  This episode Sandy and Amy share when we’ve been armchair quarterbacks.This conversation takes us down the road of growth mindset, and the “Think Again” book by Adam Grant.  The more we know, the more we realize how much we don’t know.   #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w T...
2023-10-2630 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealChoosing ChangeWhen we put ourselves out there to do something new or different, it can be scary. This episode, Sandy and Amy talk about change, benefits of change and how we’ve embraced it…or not. https://www.amazon.com/Strength-Finding-Success-Happiness-Purpose/dp/059319148X https://www.lifehack.org/902478/try-new-things https://www.simplilearn.com/7-r-of-change-management-article https://businessproductivity.com/how-to-effectively-manage-personal-change/ https://bethechangeasph.com/the-human-side-of-change/why-do-we-resist-change/#:~:text=Resistance%20to%20change%20is%20actually,change%20might%20have%20on%20us. Hashtags: #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL Follow us: In...
2023-10-1934 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealAre you the Same Person you Used to be?We can all agree that people evolve and change. Yet, we also recognize that people are very much the same as they have always been. This episode, Sandy and Amy discuss how we change, how we might want to change and what will really never change.  https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2022/10/10/are-you-the-same-person-you-used-to-be-life-is-hard-the-origins-of-you?utm_source=threads&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=tny&utm_social-type=owned https://www.livescience.com/personality-age-change.html https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/07/old-age-personality-brain-changes-psychology/674668/ Hashtags: #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL Follow us:
2023-10-1230 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealWe’re back!We’re back!  In this episode, we’re doing our catch up from the summer and kicking off season 5.  Sandy and Amy both spent time with important people this summer while they did some stuff and learned some stuff.   #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #keynotespeakers #worklifebalance Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALidealEmail your suggested conversation topics an...
2023-09-2827 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealTransitioning to summerSandy and Amy are signing off for the summer.  In this episode they discuss the things that are just different for summer and how we all have to adjust.  Summer goes fast and with intentionality we can make the most of it. Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com...
2023-05-2530 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealWill They Remember Your Name?People remember the value you bring when you are your authentic self.  In this podcast, Sandy and Amy dig into values and how incorporating them into your day can help bring happiness. Hashtags: #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com ...
2023-05-1829 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealWhat’s the Process?Inspiration helps us move forward to a better place or mindset. But moving forward typically requires taking the first step and then the second.  It needs a  process.  In this podcast, Sandy and Amy share inspirations and how they discovered the need for the process. Hashtags: #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #inspiration #process  Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourR...
2023-05-1132 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealMultitasking Makes You StupidThis episode Sandy and Amy discuss multitasking, why it’s impossible and some of the other things that distract us. Amy also shares a quick test you can do to see if you’re an efficient multi-tasker. Hashtags: #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #productivity #multitasking Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal Email your suggested conversation topics and q...
2023-05-0432 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealMean GirlsWhat most people refer to as "mean girl behavior" is really relational aggression. Sandy and Amy discuss this type of bullying, recognize that it’s not just the girls and share strategies to protect yourself. https://www.verywellfamily.com/how-to-confront-adult-mean-girls-460676 #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #meangirls Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w...
2023-04-2729 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealPlaying DefenseWhen should we play defense? Is it ever necessary? We all have moments when we react defensively.  Sandy and Amy share some situations that triggered them and brainstorm better responses.  Always keeping it real.   #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #feedback #defensiveness https://www.healthyloveandmoney.com/blog/what-is-defensiveness-and-how-it-becomes-a-vicious-cycle#:~:text=Defensiveness%20is%20most%20often%20a,does%20not%20care%20for%20them. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.face...
2023-04-2133 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealOh, the People We Meet Meeting new people can be fun.  Sometimes we make a good connection, sometimes we think maybe not and then there’s the times we get ghosted.  In this podcast, Sandy and Amy share their networking stories, some good and some not so good.  https://www.scienceofpeople.com/networking/ Hashtags: #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w ...
2023-04-1333 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealCan You Teach Confidence?Can someone teach you confidence?  If we are lifting each other up and empowering others, are we teaching them to be confident?  Sandy and Amy discuss just that this week.  We start with one thought…you’ll have to listen in to see where we end up. ​​https://blog.ted.com/10-examples-of-how-power-posing-can-work-to-boost-your-confidence/ https://www.forbes.com/sites/francesbridges/2017/07/21/10-ways-to-build-confidence/?sh=1dfb926a3c59 https://www.inc.com/minda-zetlin/13-easy-ways-to-boost-your-confidence.html Hashtags: #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #confidence #coach Follow us: Instagram: ...
2023-04-0636 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealPeople Who Make Us UncomfortableWhen you look around, are most of the people around you like you?  There are many benefits to surrounding ourselves with people who have different faiths, different pronouns, different ethnicity...you know, diversity. This podcast Sandy and Amy discuss times when we’ve felt uncomfortable with diversity in our own surroundings.  We share how we handle it and how we learn.   https://www.npr.org/2020/06/06/870910728/your-bookshelf-may-be-part-of-the-problem https://news.bloomberglaw.com/us-law-week/change-the-conversation-about-wokeness-othering-and-belonging https://hopeandsafety.org/learn-more/violent-language/ Hashtags: #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #DEI #Divers...
2023-03-3033 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealGreat ExpectationsToo often we live in a tight box of expectations that we have created and rarely does life give you that exact path. The things that exceed our expectations are the things that make our highlight reel. Knowing that expectations are unavoidable, in this episode Sandy and Amy discuss how we keep our expectations, good and bad, in check.  A few hints…adaptability and flexibility are key. Lesson learned from our travels: It is better to be adaptable than expectant. https://www.vibrantmentalhealth.com/aricles/71978-how-to-balance-your-expectations https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/aspirations-vs-expectations-sangita-sarkar h...
2023-03-2332 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealWhere Have You Been?Sandy and Amy have been doing some traveling.  In this episode, we share why we like to travel, how keeping it simple gives us the same joy as the elaborate vacations plus some favorites. Many times, we realized, it’s the people we’re with not the location that makes the magic. https://www.cntraveler.com/story/travel-addiction-is-real#:~:text=The%20definition%20states%3A%20%E2%80%9Csufferers%20have,Brein%20says. https://www.nbcnews.com/better/lifestyle/why-it-s-so-hard-come-back-vacation-how-do-ncna1115341 https://drifttravel.com/7-benefits-of-traveling/ https://www.cnn.com/travel/article/tripadvisor-travelers-choice-awards-2022/index.html#:~:text=Top%2010%20most%20popul...
2023-03-1635 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealGossip GirlsYou want to hear a juicy story?  If you said yes, you might want to listen to this podcast.  If you said no, you might also want to listen. Sandy and Amy are talking about gossip. The good, the bad and the ugly. https://positivepsychology.com/positive-gossip/#:~:text=Positive%20gossip%20includes%20prosocial%20behaviors,the%20time%2C%20it%20is%20neutral. https://www.oprahdaily.com/entertainment/a41446635/beneifts-of-gossip-social-bonding/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=arb_ga_opr_md_pmx_us_urlx_18700515769&gclid=CjwKCAiA0cyfBhBREiwAAtStHNQvpJ0rXhYmAcOW38uXs0RHNOs809DxcehyCpayB0tMXihPI4lg5BoCzkkQAvD_BwE Hashtags:...
2023-03-0934 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealA Drama-Free Life: Myth or Reality?Is drama in your life because of your circumstances or because of your choices.  Sandy and Amy dig into this topic in this episode. What we determine is that drama gets a bad rap. Sometimes it’s bad, but there can also be a good side to it. https://www.donolund.com/good-drama https://kevineikenberry.com/communication-interpersonal-skills/10-tactics-to-manage-workplace-drama/ Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www...
2023-03-0234 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealIt’s Easy to Say I’m SorryWhen we know we’ve messed up our knee jerk reaction is to apologize with hopes of forgiveness. That’s the easy way out. Sandy and Amy discuss the steps that need to happen before the apology and understanding that forgiveness may never happen and that’s ok. Rabbi Danya Ruttenberg: On Repentance and Repair: Making Amends in an Unapologetic World. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/heart-and-soul-healing/201301/9-steps-forgiveness #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #powerofvalue #forgiveness Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https...
2023-02-2330 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealThe Messy MiddleWe all see the before and after.  What is in the middle is usually pretty messy.  Sandy and Amy share a few stories about overcoming adversity, perseverance and how to get through that messy middle. #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #time #yourrealyourideal #lifechanges #messymiddle https://www.complex.com/sports/2014/12/10-nfl-players-who-overcame-adversity-off-the-field-and-shined-on-it https://fourminutebooks.com/the-messy-middle-summary/ https://www.amazon.com/If-You-Tell-Unbreakable-Sisterhood-ebook/dp/B07Q5TL9SQ Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ ...
2023-02-1634 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealWhat’s Your Plan B?Do you have a plan B?  Some of us always have a back up plan which can be good. There is a flip side where a Plan B can sabotage your Plan A. This podcast Sandy and Amy share stories about when Plan B’s were good and when they held us back. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/lifetime-connections/201607/does-having-plan-b-sabotage-your-plan Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube http...
2023-02-0934 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealThe MeasureIn the book “The Measure”, this one morning  everyone over the age of 22 receives a box with a string that tells you the length of your life. Sandy and Amy discuss this idea.  Would you open the box?  If you did, what would you do with the information? #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #time #yourrealyourideal #lifechanges #themeasureoflife Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube...
2023-02-0232 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealI Wish You EnoughAll we need for true happiness is enough.  Enough sun to keep your attitude bright, enough rain to appreciate the sun more and so on as the poem goes.   Sandy and Amy explore this concept of enough and what makes us feel like we need more. "I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright. I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun more. I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive. I wish you enough pain so that the smallest joys in life appear much bigger. ...
2023-01-2626 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealWhat We Take for Granted We all take things for granted.  Sandy and Amy share how they’ve taken things for granted in the past.  They also discuss how to find the balance between optimism that all will be good and the reality that things might go away and be missed. Sometimes it’s hard to know we appreciate something til it’s gone. #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #time #yourrealyourideal #lifechanges #gratitude #appreciation Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channe...
2023-01-1932 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealYou Can't Do That! Career Changes in Your 50sAt any age,we have choices. Sometimes when we hit a certain age, we feel it’s easier to settle in and ride it out.  In this episode, Sandy and Amy share their career changes, some of the feedback and some of the support they got plus some insights on making a change. #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #time #yourrealyourideal Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Tw...
2022-12-1538 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealOur Favorites EpisodeThis is a fun episode.  It’s the holiday time, so Sandy and Amy are sharing some of their favorite things. We’re not Oprah but we still share gift items and self care favorites.  We both walked away with some good gift ideas. #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #time #yourrealyourideal #holidays #hometown Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal Email...
2022-12-0835 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealOn The MoveMoving can be stressful but also an adventure If we’re moving to something we’re excited about.  This week Sandy and Amy share the hard and the fun parts of moving. https://nypost.com/2020/09/30/some-people-claim-this-is-more-stressful-than-marriage-divorce-and-even-having-kids/ https://www.masmedicalstaffing.com/blog/best-ways-to-meet-new-friends-in-a-new-city/ Hashtags: #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #time #yourrealyourideal #move #kansascity #durango 
2022-12-0134 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealYou Can Never Go Home AgainThis week we’re talking about how you can never go home, or can you? Home changes, you change and when you go back “home” it feels different.  This week Sandy and Amy share how to keep your expectations in check.  You can go home to celebrate the memories and celebrate the present. Hashtags: #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #time #yourrealyourideal #holidays #hometown Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7...
2022-11-2434 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealExcuse Me While I DisappearAs we hit midlife, we have noticed as women, we aren’t as noticed as we were when we were younger.  This podcast Sandy and Amy discuss aging as females.  We want to celebrate what age gives us - confidence, authenticity, deep relationships plus so much more. Hashtags: #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #time #yourrealyourideal #midlife Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https...
2022-11-1732 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealThe Good of GratitudeIn gratitude, we recognize that the source of goodness is outside of ourselves. Sandy and Amy attended a Gratitude Summit recently.  In this episode they share insights and inspiration to incorporate gratitude into daily life. They’re keeping it real while striving for the ideal. Hashtags: #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #time #yourrealyourideal  #gratitude Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/Y...
2022-11-1034 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealI Screwed UpRaise your hand if you’ve ever screwed up.  Yes, us too. This episode, Sandy and Amy discuss how to apologize and what happens when we don’t take accountability for our mess ups, either through ignoring them, doubling down or apologizing with justification of why we did what we did. #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #time #yourrealyourideal #bereal #accountability #apologize Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w ...
2022-11-0332 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealBe Real, Not NiceIf being nice is being agreeable, then being your authentic self is sometimes not nice.  In this podcast, Sandy and Amy discuss how to be your authentic self and we distinguish the difference between being nice and being kind.  We always ask what’s the real, and what’s the ideal. #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #time #yourrealyourideal #bereal #bekind #beauthentic Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7...
2022-10-2734 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealLifestyle FatigueHave you ever felt stuck?  You may be experiencing lifestyle fatigue. In this episode, Sandy and Amy share times when they’ve felt stuck and some strategies to get you out of the funk. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/when-kids-call-the-shots/202208/do-you-have-depression-or-lifestyle-fatigue #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #time #yourrealyourideal #lifestylefatigue Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/Your...
2022-10-2030 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealHow to PivotPivots, big and small happen everyday.  How can you make your pivots go smoother?  With Amy in the middle of a big pivot, you know her, she’s done some research that she’ll share in this episode plus, since Sandy is a master in pivots, she shares her wisdom, insights and strategies. Hashtags: #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #time #yourrealyourideal #pivot Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7...
2022-10-1326 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealHow to DecideAmy is moving to a new city and making that decision was pretty huge. This episode Sandy and Amy talk through decision making advice and insights.  They share their experiences and a few lessons learned. Always keeping it real. A few things we shared: If you want something different, you have to do something different. Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should. Life is built on the dailies. Where we are today is an accumulation of our choices. It’s all good in the end.  If it’...
2022-10-0636 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealStats That Change PerspectiveStats can be perspective changing.  For example, did you know that you form a first impression of someone within 6 seconds of meeting them?  In this episode Sandy and Amy share some stats that they stumbled upon that were interesting, to say the least. #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #time Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal Email your suggested con...
2022-09-2934 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealThere is Grace in Mental ToughnessWe have all heard that mental toughness can help you achieve great things.  In this podcast Sandy and Amy discuss what Mental toughness is, the good of mental toughness and the bad, like how it can turn into shaming and judgment.  The key is trying to achieve while giving yourself some grace to not be perfect. https://warwickboar.shorthandstories.com/how-the-post-olympic-blues-affects-the-mental-health-of-top-athletes/index.html Hashtags: #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #time #mentaltoughness #shame Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/you...
2022-09-2234 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealReflections: How Did You Spend Your Summer Break?Thanks for joining us for Season 4. It’s been a great summer break and now It’s Back to Podcast time.  In this episode, Sandy and Amy discuss their summer break along with their hopes and dreams for Season 4 of the podcast.  There are some big discussions that will be happening this season along with a few personal decisions that will get shared. Lots of good stuff in store. Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0...
2022-09-1536 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealTime is a StinkerHow old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?  Hmm, things that we ponder.  Sandy and Amy discuss this and more about why Time is a Stinker.  Balancing that with the fact that it’s also a gift. Hashtags: #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #time https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/think-well/202011/why-time-goes-faster-we-age https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5b0Nn9jE5Hc https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wwvkdqDoqdM Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Fa...
2022-05-1929 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealUpon Further ReflectionThis episode, Sandy and Amy go back in time to their first podcast in June of 2020 titled “Our New Normal”. We discuss that moment in time, how things have changed and stayed the same over the last 2 years.  Reflection is always enlightening. Hashtags: #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal Email your sugges...
2022-05-1230 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealToxic PositivityToxic positivity involves dismissing negative emotions and responding to distress with false reassurances rather than empathy. Sandy and Amy discuss how positivity is often well-intentioned but can cause alienation and a feeling of disconnection. We share what toxic positivity looks like, why it is harmful and how we can avoid being toxic with our positivity. https://rightasrain.uwmedicine.org/mind/well-being/toxic-positivity#:~:text=Toxic%20positivity%20involves%20dismissing%20negative,and%20a%20feeling%20of%20disconnection. https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/toxic-positivity/ https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-toxic-positivity-5093958 Hashtags: #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity...
2022-05-0531 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealUsing Drivers of Change to Think about the FutureWhat will our world be like in 2050?  Sandy and Amy discuss the top 10 drivers of change (climate change, convergence, demographics, energy, food, oceans, poverty, urbanisation, waste, and water) and do a little looking back and some looking forward.  It’s an exercise that helps you strategize for the possible future. Foresight- https://thefuturesschool.com/2021/07/foresight-the-most-important-leadership-skill-of-the-21st-century/ https://thesystemsthinker.com/the-art-of-foresight-preparing-for-a-changing-world/ https://www.wsj.com/articles/think-like-a-futurist-to-be-prepared-for-the-totally-unexpected-1483272006 https://knowledgeworks.org/resources/futures-thinking-now-drivers-change-futures-triangle/ http://www.markpearsall.com/drivers-of-change-app Hashtags: #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL...
2022-04-2834 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealHow to Get InspiredInspiration is all about when you’re “mentally stimulated to manifest what you want to create”   There are many ways to get inspired.  Sandy and Amy discuss some of the recommendations and share what works for them. Links: https://psychcentral.com/health/how-to-find-inspiration-in-life#whats-inspiration https://hbr.org/2011/11/why-inspiration-matters #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #inspiration Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter...
2022-04-2131 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealPositive IntelligenceIf you can identify your saboteurs and harnessing the power of your sages, you will be able to dramatically simplify personal and professional well being.  Sandy and Amy explore this concept of positive intelligence in this podcast.  It’s a new concept, at least to us, and a good conversation. #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #positiveintelligence Ted talk: Know your inner saboteurs: Shirzad Chamine at TEDxStanford Long version: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ta5IkSsc8qk https://www.positiveintelligence.com/ Follow us: In...
2022-04-1433 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealDigital Body LanguageYou may know a little about body language but have you heard of Digital Body Language by Erica Duhwan?  It’s a whole other type of language we are all learning.  In this episode, Sandy and Amy start talking about digital body language where the key is really to be authentic while being mindful of your audience.  But if you know us, you know we included other digital communication challenges like boundaries, biases, tone and so much more. Hashtags: #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #digital #bodylanguage Book: https://www.amazon.com/Digit...
2022-04-0732 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealThe Confidence CodeConfidence is the stuff that turns our thoughts into an action, women 25% more prone to perfectionism and have a greater fear of failure.  We are also more likely to give created to our circumstances that our ability when we succeed.  This week Sandy and Amy will be discussing these stats and how we build our confidence and help others with their confidence. Links: https://lifeclub.org/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SPxQ6BdyL7g https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GlWob_dRSQI https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YJ...
2022-03-3137 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealLet’s All Be AgileWhen you have a plan and get new information, if you take that new information and adjust, you’re being agile.  With an agile mindset you’re always open to collaboration, new information and modifying your plan so you really get the results you want.   How can you use agile in your daily life? Sandy and Amy share some examples and benefits of having an agile mindset. https://kanbanize.com/agile https://www.forbes.com/sites/stevedenning/2019/08/13/understanding-the-agile-mindset/?sh=38e54b985c17 https://www.xenonstack.com/blog/agile-thinking Hashtags: #podcast...
2022-03-2433 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealServant LeadershipBecoming a great leader is a lifelong journey. It involves embracing and absorbing new skills and methodologies at every turn. One such methodology is the concept of servant leadership. This podcast, Sandy and Amy explore the servant leadership concept, discuss the pros and cons, and share their experiences. #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #servantleadership Articles: https://www.betterup.com/blog/servant-leadership-what-makes-it-different https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/340791 Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube h...
2022-03-1734 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealS.3 Ep.8 The Buffett FormulaHave you heard of the Buffett Formula?  Basically, it’s spend most your day learning so you go to bed smarter than you wake up.  Are you of a growth mindset and always trying to make yourself smarter? Sandy and Amy say yes, but wonder how they make sure they continue to harness that growth mindset. Article links: https://www.inc.com/marcel-schwantes/warren-buffett-says-anyone-can-achieve-success-if-they-follow-1-simple-rule-he-calls-the-buffett-formula.html https://fs.blog/the-buffett-formula/#:~:text=%E2%80%9CThe%20best%20thing%20a%20human,They%20are%20also%20learning%20machines. https://fourminutebooks.com/the-snowball-summary/ https://www.cfainstitute.org...
2022-03-1031 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealGrowth MindsetYour view of yourself can determine everything. If you believe that your qualities are unchangeable — the fixed mindset — you will want to prove yourself correct over and over rather than learning from your mistakes.  Failure can be a painful experience. But if you have  a growth mindset, you know that it doesn't define you. It’s a problem to be faced, dealt with, and learned from. In this episode Sandy and Amy share their experiences with the growth and fixed mindsets Articles referenced https://fs.blog/carol-dweck-mindset/ Hashtags: #podcast #habits #consultants #producti...
2022-03-0331 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealHabits: Make it SatisfyingIf a habit isn't satisfying, then ditch it or figure out how to make it satisfying.  One way to make habits satisfying is to align your habits with your personality.  If you like fun, start a habit of trying something new like Sandy.  Another way is to give yourself small rewards as you work towards a bigger goal like Amy. Good habits are hard in the present but have future payoffs, bad habits are more rewarding in the present and have future consequences. #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL Follow us: I...
2022-02-2435 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealHabits: Make Them EasyWe all gravitate toward things that are easy to do, so this week we’re talking about making good habits easy.  This episode Sandy and Amy talk about that and the obstacles to getting things done plus how we are trying to simplify our tasks.  Along the way, we’re reminding ourselves that “the best is the enemy of the good” so let’s at least try for good. Hashtags: #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealy...
2022-02-1732 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealHabits: Make Them AttractiveWhat makes you keep doing your habits?  Some of the time it’s because they are attractive.  In this episode Sandy and Amy talk about how to make desired habits attractive and discuss some mind games we play with ourselves.  Sometimes they work, and sometimes they don’t. #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal Email...
2022-02-1033 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealHabits: Make Them ObviousMost likely, whether you meant to or not, you’ve set up your time and spaces to support your daily habits.  If you’re wanting to make some changes, this conversation that Sandy and Amy have will help you with a process to identify habits and opportunities to make good habits obvious. They share what they’ve noticed in their own lives with a few laughs in the process.  Always keeping it real. #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL Blue Zones article: https://www.today.com/health/aging/blue-zones-challenge-4-week-challenge-longer-life-rcna7856 Follow u...
2022-02-0335 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealNew Year, New HabitsWelcome to Season 3!  This season Sandy and Amy are digging into habits.  In this first discussion, they take a look back with a review and reflection of 2021. You’ll hear what they discover, for example the need to look further back plus you’ll hear how they are making adjustments.  They also chat about how identity can keep us stuck and rigid.  Overall, keeping in mind that making small changes to our habits can give us the biggest long term gains.  Happy New Year! #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL Follow us:
2022-01-2032 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealResisting the Power of SwayWe are continually being swayed in what we do and what we believe.  This may come from your historical perspective or maybe those around you.  This week, Sandy and Amy wrap up season 2 with a discussion about the book Sway (see link in show notes). There were many studies that caught our attention in the book.  We also talk about how to overcome the power of sway. We hope you’ve enjoyed season 2.  We’re taking a short break over December and will be back in the New Year with Season 3.  Thank you for listening and thank you for y...
2021-12-0235 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealAssume Positive Intent: Good or Bad?We judge ourselves by our intentions and we judge others by their behavior.  What if we started assuming that positive intentions are behind their behavior.  Sandy and Amy share some experiences that will support this idea and some that are more like cautionary tales. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Links: 9 reasons why making assumptions is dangerous https://shareonpurpose.com/the-power-of-assuming-positive-intent/ https://postmodernsecurity.com/2021/01/05/assume-no-intent/ Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/you...
2021-11-2531 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealWords That Don’t MatterUgh, words can hurt.  Sometimes we are dishing them out and sometimes we are on the receiving end. In this podcast Sandy and Amy acknowledge that getting feedback on your words is hard but also helpful in the long run. We also talk about positive ways to react to words that are hurtful to receive.  It’s a good talk.  Thank you for listening in. Links: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/how-be-yourself/202011/6-ways-not-take-things-personally https://www.apa.org/topics/resilience https://www.oprah.com/omagazine/martha-beck-why-people-are-mean Email your sugge...
2021-11-1835 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealWords MatterThis episode Sandy and Amy are chatting about words that matter, specifically compliments.  What is the best compliment you’ve ever received.  If you easily know, it’s probably because it was authentic and aligned with your core values.  Next podcast we will be discussing words that don’t matter. Links: https://www.nbcnews.com/better/lifestyle/why-compliments-make-us-feel-so-good-how-get-better-ncna1062546 https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/200403/the-art-the-compliment https://www.happify.com/hd/learn-to-give-genuine-compliments/ https://thinkkindness.org/all-things-kindness/a-list-of-100-compliments/ Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com
2021-11-1130 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealThe Great ResignationWe’re all trying to handle this forced reset we’ve had and we are finding that we are way less interested in compromising our values.  This has set in motion The Great Resignation.  Sandy and Amy talk about why and what the future could possibly hold. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/You...
2021-10-1435 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealThe Fear of NoWhen you read “The Fear of No”, where does your mind go?  This is a two for one podcast because Amy and Sandy went different directions with their thoughts.  We talk a little about why it is hard to tell people no.  We also talk a little about the fear of someone telling us no.  Then, to throw a little twist to all of this, we talk about the fear of us saying yes to new opportunities and the snowball effect of those decisions which can be paralyzing. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.co...
2021-10-0730 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealFor the Love of MisfitsAt one time or another—we’ve all been misfits or outsiders.  It’s interesting how we recognize it’s great to be different and yet we yearn to fit in with others. Sandy and Amy will share times they haven’t fit in and discuss some of the benefits of being a misfit. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Links: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evolution-the-self/201910/have-you-ever-felt-misfit https://www.thoughtsonlifeandlove.com/the-benefits-of-being-a-misfit/ https://www.ted.com/talks/lidia_yuknavitch_the_beauty_of_being_a_misfit?lang...
2021-09-3031 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealPassion or Sweet Spot?Living your passion is a conquest everyone seems to want, but is seemingly unattainable or unrealistic. The common result is not taking any steps forward. We discuss the upsides and downsides to following your passion and also explore the Inverted U Concept. There is an attainable sweet spot somewhere in the middle. Taping Outline: Taping twice. Have video and pics! What’s your passion? What inspires you? Looking for the ideal state. 4:33 - Sandy talks about how she has better defined her passion. What she originally thought it was, it wasn’t. 6:13 - We love our Sher...
2021-09-0932 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealS2 Trailer - Winds of ChangeThey're back and working on season 2.  Hear what Sandy and Amy have been up to and what they're planning for this fall.  The winds of change are blowing.  If you're experiencing change, they want to hear your story.  You can send a note through the links below.  Thank you for joining the conversation. Email your story, suggested conversation topics or questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal --- Send in a voice...
2021-08-0806 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealEp. 42 Seniors 2021 Milestones ModifiedThe seniors of 2020 got all of their activities cancelled but the seniors of 2021 are getting it all back, albeit a bit modified.  Amy has 2 seniors - one in college and one in high school who are experiencing their senior year during the pandemic.  Sandy has lots of questions about how it’s going and how everything is getting modified.  We want to thank all of our devoted listeners, you all are great!!  We've enjoyed hearing from you!  We have decided to take a little break.  This is the last episode of Season 1.  We will be back after the summe...
2021-05-1332 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealEp. 41 Pack It InDo you overpack or travel lite?  Sandy likes to travel lite and Amy is an over packer.  One time Amy got challenged to write an article about how to pack lite for a trip.  She decided to do it as an actual experiment and documented her packing and traveling for a week with only a carry on.  She learned a little about herself and what is really needed to enjoy a vacation.  Sandy on the other hand has done a trip with just a string backpack.  What was she trying to prove?? Enjoy our conversation. Email your sugges...
2021-05-0636 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealEp. 40 Acts of KindnessRandom acts of kindness not only feel good for the receiver, but also the giver.  Sandy and Amy set out for a fun week of doing acts of kindness, asking about acts of kindness during this pandemic and getting some video.  It didn’t all turn out as planned, but as always, we had a lot to share. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe...
2021-04-2938 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealEp. 39 SurpriseMost episodes Sandy and Amy are in different states but last episode, Sandy surprised Amy with an in person visit.  It was so fun, it got us thinking, who likes surprises?  We polled friends and family and found out not many people like surprises.  But there is an interesting twist to this little tidbit.  Enjoy our conversation. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53...
2021-04-2236 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealEp.35 Get ‘er DoneGet ‘er done is a tongue-in-cheek quote (most often associated with Nebraskan, Larry the Cable Guy) but this action carries a lot of significance. Starting something is great, but finishing is the grand prize. Many of us (including Amy and Sandy) struggle with kicking the can over the line. Not only is it important to finish what we start, but to pick the right things to start and finish. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.fac...
2021-03-2533 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealEp.34 Untamed Book DiscussionWe all know our authentic self but have we adjusted to match societal expectations...are we caged?  Sandy and Amy recently read the book Untamed by Glennon Doyle.  She’s a great story teller that explores stepping out of our cages and honoring the knowing. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
2021-03-1833 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealEp. 33 Where are You From?As we celebrate St. Patty’s Day, enjoying our Irish heritage (or pretending we have Irish lineage), we are reminded that we are all from somewhere. From family who immigrated from another country generations ago to our childhood beloved hometown, we hold dearly our roots. Amy and Sandy discuss the human connection to our heritage and need to belong to something deeper than ourselves. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal You...
2021-03-1134 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealEp. 32 Take Me AwayWe are on the road again! After months of dreaming for our days of travel to be back. Amy and Sandy are finally enjoying some much wanted travel. But as with all things in life, especially a life riddled with COVID, our journeys have changed. Although we are giddy to pack our luggage again, we are also finding travel feels a lot different, some good and some bad. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.c...
2021-03-0432 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealEp. 28 Chasing the Bright SideOh, to be optimistic.  Amy joined Sandy’s book club in reading Chasing the Bright Side by Jess Ekstrom and on this podcast we have a mini book discussion. What resonated with us is the concept of hope for the future which was highlighted in her stories of resilience and perseverance. Email your book recommendations, suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w
2021-02-0431 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealEp. 27 When Life isn’t Beautiful “To heal we have to remember” - President Joe Biden regarding the loss of lives due to the pandemic.  It’s been a rough year for some of us.  How do we move forward when life isn’t always beautiful.  We’ve all had those events that have left their mark. Amy and Sandy share a few and how they moved forward. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com...
2021-01-2835 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealEp. 26 Judgy JudyWhat is the difference between an opinion and a judgement? Although being judged feels harsh, too often we ourselves rush to judgement before taking the time to form honest opinions. Sandy and Amy dig into this topic.  When do you share an opinion?  Just because you have it, doesn’t mean others want to hear it. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFy...
2021-01-2137 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealEp. 25 Perfecting the PivotI was reading an article about how successful businesses perfected their pivot to survive the COVID shutdown and changes forced from the pandemic. I got to thinking how this applied to individuals as well. How do you react when change happens? Do you successfully pivot or cower from the obstacle? Let’s discuss how to perfect the pivot.  PS- Amy mentions this is episode 24, but she was off.  It’s really 25!! Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https...
2021-01-1438 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealEp. 24 You Win Some. You Lose Some.Amy and Sandy will reflect on their wins and losses for the year. What worked and what didn’t? From parenting and work to relationships and goals, it is an episode on the reflection of the good, the bad, and even a little bit of ugly. Things may always look rosy from the outside view, but the failures are real and necessary for future wins. Related quotes: “Mistakes are portals of discovery” - James Joyce “Good judgement comes from experience, and experience comes from bad judgement” - Rita Mae Brown Email your sugge...
2021-01-0736 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealEp. 23 Goals and Habits into the New YearCome January 1st self improvement is on everyone’s mind, including Sandy and Amy’s.  What can we do different this year to be better?  Research shows that of the 50% of adults that make resolutions only 10% will keep them more than a few months. Yep, we’ve been there. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://t...
2020-12-3155 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealEp. 21 Thanks for the FeedbackUgh, feedback. It can be well received or ruin your day. If you fine tune the way you give and receive feedback, it can help you in life long self awareness and improvement.  Sandy and Amy are doing a book discussion about “Thanks for the Feedback” by Douglas Stone and Sheila Heen. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w ...
2020-12-171h 03Your Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealEp. 15 What About the Dreamers?We talk about the real in all of our discussions. But what about hopes and dreams? What about the dreamers? Should we always be realistic in our thoughts or do we need space in our brain to dream for what may seem unrealistic?  Amy and Sandy explore how to encourage and support the dreams of others plus when (and if) you need to step in with some reality. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.co...
2020-11-0556 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealEp. 7 She’s So VainIt is a common theory that to be your best person is to be humble, definitely not vain. And is a level of vanity bad? Looking and feeling our best brings out our best in our words, actions and outlook. How do we distinguish between self-care and vanity?  Amy and Sandy dig into this topic and share their "vain" moments. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com or by voice mail here: https://anchor.fm/yourrealyourideal/message Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yo...
2020-09-1052 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealEp. 2 I'll Have What She's HavingJust like the classic line from "Harry Met Sally", people too often chase happiness by wanting to mirror others. Sandy and Amy discuss the misnomer of trying to achieve this Sally zen by duplicating actions and lives in a quest to obtain the same. “I’ll have what she’s having” seems so simple an ask. Yet just like the humor of this movie moment, it is rarely a reality. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.faceb...
2020-09-0152 minYour Real, Your Ideal
Your Real, Your IdealEp.1 Welcome and Our New NormalAmy and Sandy discuss their lives post-shutdown (coronavirus). The new normal is happening and we’ve decided to start a conversation.  We are two women taking on life’s questions. Through our unique journeys in weathering life to date we will tackle the probing questions and issues by first recognizing the real in life’s situations to get to the desired ideal. Practical. Honest. Fun. Curious. Helping women create the ideal they want most in our shared journey of life. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagr...
2020-09-0152 minSpark Joy
Spark JoyEp 126 | Freshly Organized with 2020 NAPO President and Professional Organizer Amy TokosMeet the Amy Tokos, 2020 President of NAPO, the National Association of Productivity and Organizing Professionals. Did you know that there is a national professional organization for Professional Organizers? If you follow our podcast, you know that KonMari Media Incorporated trains and accredits consultants in the method but there is also NAPO, the National Association of Productivity and Organizing Professionals. Amy Tokos is a Certified Professional Organizer and Productivity Consultant. She is also the President-elect of NAPO for 2020. Amy’s background is in engineering and she previously worked making manufacturing processes simpler and more ef...
2020-03-3125 min