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Dear ShandyQ&A! How To Tell Your Friends They're Filthy & Finding Your Own "Andy" - Ep 441It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Why aren't there more single "Andy"s out there, and is finding one just a matter of luck? What does it mean if your parents tell you your husband is controlling, yet this is news to you? What to do when your two besties becomes enemies with each other, and you're caught in the middle? Finally, if you love your friends but not their pigsty of a house, should you still visit and stay as a gesture of love? Come join us in our living room for good conversation...
2026-01-291h 00Dear ShandyThe Traitors S4: Episodes 1-3 Recap & Review - Ep 433Ask and you shall receive! By extremely popular demand, Dear Shandy's WORLD-FAMOUS RECAPS are back, this time covering season 4 of The Traitors! Today Shandy breaks down episodes 1-3! Thank you to our sponsors...- Go to https://cozyearth.com and use code SHANDY for up to 20% off!- Go to https://masterclass.com/SHANDY for up to 50% off!Time Stamps:0:00 - Housekeeping2:04 - Andy Guesses Who’s Most “Famous”5:53 - The Prize Money7...
2026-01-0948 minDear ShandyThe Sidebar: Severance S2, Pretty Privilege & Andy's Worst You're Welcome - Ep 378NEW EPISODE SERIES ALERT!!! Dear Shandy has been faithfully relationship-focused for 4.5 years, but we've decided it's about time there was a dedicated space for all the long lost topics and tangents. The Sidebar was created for our most random thoughts and discussions to live, and we can't wait to hear about yours in the comments!What did Shandy think of season 2 of Severance? Would you ever go skiing alone? Do Canadians get road rage? Is reaching at the dinner table really so bad? What was Andy's worst ever "you're welcome"? Come join us in...
2025-03-2748 minDear ShandyThe Sidebar: Severance S2, Pretty Privilege & Andy's Worst You're Welcome - Ep 378NEW EPISODE SERIES ALERT!!! Dear Shandy has been faithfully relationship-focused for 4.5 years, but we've decided it's about time there was a dedicated space for all the long lost topics and tangents. The Sidebar was created for our most random thoughts and discussions to live, and we can't wait to hear about yours in the comments!What did Shandy think of season 2 of Severance? Would you ever go skiing alone? Do Canadians get road rage? Is reaching at the dinner table really so bad? What was Andy's worst ever "you're welcome"? Come join us in...
2025-03-2751 min
Dear ShandyConfessions With 'The Ultimatum''s Nicholas Tramontin - Ep 360It's a BIG day, Shandies! We've been wanting to pick Nick Tramontin's brain since we recapped his season of The Ultimatum, and that day is officially here. Plus, it's been awhile since we've had a Confessions episode and we're thrilled everyone's favorite Tortured Artist agreed to join us!Today Nick shares the most common misconceptions about him, whether or not he thinks Netflix plied him with alcohol on purpose, his HONEST thoughts on Sandy, Mariah and Vanessa. We also find out whether or not it's possible to make great art without being a little...
2025-01-231h 05
Dear ShandyConfessions With 'The Ultimatum''s Nicholas Tramontin - Ep 360It's a BIG day, Shandies! We've been wanting to pick Nick Tramontin's brain since we recapped his season of The Ultimatum, and that day is officially here. Plus, it's been awhile since we've had a Confessions episode and we're thrilled everyone's favorite Tortured Artist agreed to join us!Today Nick shares the most common misconceptions about him, whether or not he thinks Netflix plied him with alcohol on purpose, his HONEST thoughts on Sandy, Mariah and Vanessa. We also find out whether or not it's possible to make great art without being a little...
2025-01-231h 02
Dear Shandy2024 In Review! 🎉 Bests, Worsts & Worth The Money - Ep 356It's our last non-recap episode of 2024 and today's all about reflecting on past year! In keeping with tradition, we're answering YOUR questions about our personal bests and worsts of 2024. THANK YOU, lovely Shandies, for yet another year of being the friends we've never met (but in some cases have!) Happy, happy holidays and see you in 2025!Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://fromourplace.com/SHANDY to save over 35% on your order now through January 12!- Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY to find and instantly book a...
2024-12-171h 05
Dear Shandy2024 In Review! 🎉 Bests, Worsts & Worth The Money - Ep 356It's our last non-recap episode of 2024 and today's all about reflecting on past year! In keeping with tradition, we're answering YOUR questions about our personal bests and worsts of 2024. THANK YOU, lovely Shandies, for yet another year of being the friends we've never met (but in some cases have!) Happy, happy holidays and see you in 2025!Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://fromourplace.com/SHANDY to save over 35% on your order now through January 12!- Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY to find and instantly book a...
2024-12-171h 00
Dear ShandyWe Got A Dog!!! Shandy's Dog Adoption Story - Ep 310Shandy is officially on the Dawg Side! As you may know, 3 months ago we adopted a small dog named Ruby! We hadn't planned on doing a fur baby episode, but it came so hotly requested (and we were so touched by the enthusiasm!), we couldn't help but oblige. Today we're answering YOUR questions all about our pup, her adoption story, and whether or not the famed Cat Person (Andy) has been converted. Warning: unfettered gushing ahead!Thanks to our sponsors!- Head to https://www.factormeals.com/SHANDY50 and...
2024-06-0654 min
Dear ShandyWe Got A Dog!!! Shandy's Dog Adoption Story - Ep 310Shandy is officially on the Dawg Side! As you may know, 3 months ago we adopted a small dog named Ruby! We hadn't planned on doing a fur baby episode, but it came so hotly requested (and we were so touched by the enthusiasm!), we couldn't help but oblige. Today we're answering YOUR questions all about our pup, her adoption story, and whether or not the famed Cat Person (Andy) has been converted. Warning: unfettered gushing ahead!Thanks to our sponsors!- Head to https://www.factormeals.com/SHANDY50 and...
2024-06-0649 min
Second Act StoriesBest of 2023: The Unlikely Launch of a 54-Year-Old, YouTube StarSecond Act Stories annual, "best of" episode gives us an opportunity to re-share a remarkable story, and welcome new listeners by giving them a good taste of what we do here: profile people who have made major life and career changes to pursue a more rewarding life in a second act career. We're selecting two "Best of 2023" episodes to share with you. Andy Levine gets to select his favorite interview conducted by co-host Scott Merritt in the past year. And Scott gets to reciprocate next week. Andy's selection for 2023 is "Everything Rick Beato: The Unlikely...
2024-01-1434 min
Dear ShandyQ&A! Andy's Advice To Guys On Approaching Women IRL, Phone Addiction & House Key Etiquette - Ep 274It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Is it acceptable for your best friend to give her boyfriend a key to your shared apartment? For guys wanting to approach women outside the apps, but don't know where to start, Andy gives his 101 tips. Are we all addicted to our phones, and what's an otherwise happily married couple to do when screen time routinely becomes fight time? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www...
2023-12-141h 02
Dear ShandyQ&A! Andy's Advice To Guys On Approaching Women IRL, Phone Addiction & House Key Etiquette - Ep 274It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Is it acceptable for your best friend to give her boyfriend a key to your shared apartment? For guys wanting to approach women outside the apps, but don't know where to start, Andy gives his 101 tips. Are we all addicted to our phones, and what's an otherwise happily married couple to do when screen time routinely becomes fight time? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www...
2023-12-141h 05
Happy to See Me with Erika CasupananSharleen Joynt and Andy Levine on imposter syndrome and dating adviceSharleen Joynt and Andy Levine are partners in marriage and co-hosts of the Dear Shandy podcast. The pair join Erika to talk about what Sharleen learned as a contestant on the Bachelor and the host of Bachelor in Paradise Canada. Sharleen reveals how she told Andy she previously went on on TV to find love. Plus, Sharleen and Andy talk about severe imposter syndrome, relationship advice and the fears that come with podcasting.
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2023-09-1857 min
Dear ShandyQ&A! When Is It *Really* Over, Romance MIA, & Pickleball FightsIt's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you have a history of staying in relationships longer than you should, what are Shandy's tips on knowing it's time to break up? (Don't miss Andy's tips on the post-breakup withdrawal!) Is it a red flag if your boyfriend of 6 months didn't get you a birthday gift? And when it comes to adult friendships, where's the line between blind loyalty and pursuing the relationships that might fulfill us? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!Thanks to our sponsor!
2023-04-201h 04
Dear ShandyQ&A! Rom-Com Scenarios, Cringey Pet Names And Sliding Into His (LinkedIn) DMsIt's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you like a guy but not his pet name for you, is it worth saying something? If reconnecting with a former flame via LinkedIn has reached a roadblock, when is it OK to up the ante? Plus a classic Andy-I-Need-Your-Male-Perspective-On-This-Guy's-Intentions question! Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! 0:00 - Q1: I Like The Guy But Hate His Pet Name For Me6:29 - Q2: What Are His Intentions?13:45 - Q3: I’m Finding Myself Attracted To Som...
2022-09-231h 03
Dear Shandy2 Year Anniversary Q&A | Answering Our Shandies' Questions! - Ep 156It's that time of year again... Dear Shandy is officially 2 years old! And what better way to celebrate than to answer YOUR questions! We polled you over on Instagram and you sure delivered with quite the variety of Qs about this podcast, our relationship, and in general, our thoughts on a ALL THE THINGS. Thank you, Shandies, for another year of making us feel so seen, understood, and appreciated. Come join us in our living room to chat!Time Stamps:0:00 - Introduction2:24 - Who Is On Each Of Your Celebrity...
2022-09-011h 19
Dear ShandyQ&A! Farting, Skeletons In The Apartment, & Sharleen's True Feelings On Andy's White V-NecksIt's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If a woman is open to dating older, what should that actual bracket be on the apps? If a guy won't let you see his place, is that a red flag? And how does Sharleen *really* feel about Andy's white V-neck uniform? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and sign up for free to book a top-rated doctor!0:00 - Q1: W...
2022-07-281h 04
Dear ShandyQ&A! To BJ Or Not To BJ, Changing Your Date's Style, & The Women's Equivalent To Andy's "Men Are Mature At 36" RuleIt's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you like the guy but not his style, is it superficial to want to change it? Andy has long said the "maturity threshold" for men is age 36—does he have an age equivalent for women? And is refusing to go down on your partner a potential dealbreaker in the world of dating? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY16 and use code SHANDY16 to get up...
2022-06-1658 min
Dear ShandyBachelorette Recap: Ep 7 | Hometowns, Emotional Breakthroughs, & Punctual Professions Of LoveShandy is back with Bachelorette Season 18 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 7.Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.cozyearth.com and use code SHANDY to get 35% off all bedding and loungewear!- Go to https://www.betterhelp.com/SHANDY for 10% off your first month of therapy!- Go to https://www.manscaped.com and use code SHANDY to get 20% off + free shipping!Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and...
2021-12-011h 17
Dear ShandyBachelorette Recap: Ep 6 | No Tears? No Problem! A Bachelor Edit To The RescueShandy is back with Bachelorette Season 18 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 6.Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.magicspoon.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for $5 off!- Go to https://www.postmates.com (or use the app!) and use code SHANDY to get 50% off your first 5 orders of $50 or more!- Go to https://franklyapparel.com/SHANDY for $20 off your first order!Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas...
2021-11-241h 10
Dear ShandyBachelorette Recap: Ep 5 | Minneapolis Is For Lovers But Especially Joe & NayteShandy is back with Bachelorette Season 18 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 5.Thanks to our sponsor!- Go to https://www.cozyearth.com and use code SHANDY to get 35% off all bedding and loungewear!Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, never saw a full season before becoming a recapper here on Dear Shandy. Hear Shandy break down Season 17 of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider...
2021-11-171h 13
Dear ShandyBachelorette Recap: Ep 4 | Feeling Unseen, Teddy Bros, and D-List VillainyShandy is back with Bachelorette Season 18 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 4.Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.postmates.com (or use the app!) and use code SHANDY to get 50% off your first 5 orders of $50 or more!- Go to https://www.betterhelp.com/SHANDY for 10% off your first month of therapy!Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, never...
2021-11-101h 15
Dear ShandyBachelorette Recap: Ep 3 | Petulance, Poetry, and JusticeShandy is back with Bachelorette Season 18 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 3. Please note this episode contains spoilers about the next Bachelor—refer to time stamps below.Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.cozyearth.com and use code SHANDY to get 35% off all bedding and loungewear!- Go to https://www.manscaped.com and use code SHANDY to get 20% off + free shipping!0:00 - Episode 3 Kick-Off1:44 - Group Date #127:35 - Bachelor Spoiler Warning - Skip To Next Section...
2021-11-031h 21
Dear ShandyBachelorette Recap: Ep 2 | Basketball Bonding, Bad Spelling, and Rumors SwirlingShandy is back with Bachelorette Season 18 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 2.Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.rothys.com/SHANDY for $20 off your first purchase!- Go to https://www.postmates.com and use code SHANDY for 50% off your first 5 orders of $50 or more!Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, never saw a full season before becoming a...
2021-10-271h 21
Dear ShandyBachelorette Recap: Ep 1 | If You Want To Make ABC Laugh, Tell Them About Your PlansShandy is back with Bachelorette Season 18 recaps! Today we're breaking down the premiere.Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.betterhelp.com/SHANDY for 10% off your first month of therapy!- Go to https://www.manscaped.com and use code SHANDY to get 20% off + free shipping!Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, never saw a full season before becoming a...
2021-10-201h 13
Dear ShandyBreakup Bootcamp: Rewiring Your Heart with Amy ChanFor anyone going through a breakup, or just anyone whose patterns around love and dating need rewiring, this episode is for you. Today's guest is the founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp, a retreat that takes a scientific and spiritual approach to healing the heart. She is also the author of the instant bestseller Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart. Needless to say, she knows a thing or two about breakups and how to recover from them!Amy shares the top 3 mistakes people make when going through a breakup, the chemical reason why r...
2021-10-071h 10
Dear ShandyBachelor In Paradise Recap: Finale | Breakups, Offscreen Makeups, and Proposals—Oh My!By popular request, Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise recaps! Today we're breaking down the finale of season 7.Thanks to our sponsors!Go to https://www.grove.com/SHANDY to choose a FREE starter set with your first order!Go to https://www.manscaped.com and use code SHANDY to get 20% off + free shipping!Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has...
2021-10-061h 00
Dear ShandyBachelor In Paradise Recap: Ep 10 | Ivan-Gate, Conspiracy Theories, and Memory LanesBy popular request, Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 10 of season 7.Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has never watched a full season (this is no joke—he even fast-forwarded through most of Sharleen's own season). But, being married to the "Recap Queen", even he has gleaned a thing or two. Hear Shandy break down Season 17 of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's un...
2021-09-291h 23
Dear ShandyBachelor In Paradise Recap: Ep 9 | Couples Get Serious As A *Literal* Storm BrewsBy popular request, Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 9 of season 7.Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.getquip.com/SHANDY and get $10 off your smart electric toothbrush!- Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for $15 off your dermatology visit!Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has never...
2021-09-221h 12
Dear ShandyMy Boyfriend Just Can't Get It Right With Gifts—Help!It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by caller Vivian, who is in a happy relationship but with one caveat: she doesn't feel understood when it comes to their exchange of gifts. Does this speak to a greater issue? Just how important is the effort behind gift giving, and what if that effort is barely there at all? Listen on for the Shandy take!Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.franklyapparel.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for $15 off your first purchase!- Go to https://www.hellotushy...
2021-09-1655 min
Dear ShandyQ&A! Fairytale Fantasies, Going Backwards, and How Many Friends With Exes Is Too Many?It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! How much should you hold out for your fairytale? How many friendships with exes is TOO many? And is it worth it to re-pursue a former high-paying career, even if it's at the cost of your partner's? This episode also features Andy's kissing tips (you do NOT want to miss these). Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSubscribe and watch the episodes...
2021-09-021h 11
Dear ShandyBachelor In Paradise Recap: Ep 5 | Becca Kufrin, Jewelry, and A "Strongest Couple" No MoreBy popular request, Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 5 of season 7.Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has never watched a full season (this is no joke—he even fast-forwarded through most of Sharleen's own season). But, being married to the "Recap Queen", even he has gleaned a thing or two. Hear Shandy break down Season 17 of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's un...
2021-09-0154 min
Dear ShandyBachelor In Paradise Recap: Ep 4 | Strawberry Kisses, Betrayal, and Paradise "Implodes"By popular request, Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 4 of season 7.Thanks to our sponsor!Visit http://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off and free shipping on your Hello Tushy bidet!Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has never watched a full season (this is no joke—he even fast-forwarded through most of Sharleen's own season). But, be...
2021-08-311h 03
Dear ShandyLOVE FEST! Chatty Broads' Jess and Evan Ambrose on Growing Together and Adapting To ParenthoodIt's Love Fest time! 🎉 We have YOU, dear Shandies, to thank for this Love Fest as you passionately requested this wonderful couple. Today we are joined by Jess Ambrose, stylist and co-host of the Chatty Broads podcast, and her husband Evan Ambrose, musician, producer, and co-host of Chatty Bros! This couple may not be directly from the Bachelor world, but they are more than qualified thanks to their famed podcast and commentary, so this marks our first foray into non-Bachelor coupledom!Jess and Evan share the fascinating story of how they met, how a break from their rel...
2021-08-261h 26
Dear ShandyBachelor In Paradise Recap: Ep 3 | Lance Bass, Thomas, and The Police DepartmentBy popular request, Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 3, season 7.Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has never watched a full season (this is no joke—he even fast-forwarded through most of Sharleen's own season). But, being married to the "Recap Queen", even he has gleaned a thing or two. Hear Shandy break down Season 17 of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's unfiltered ma...
2021-08-2546 min
Dear ShandyBachelor In Paradise Recap: Ep 2 | Cat 4 Demi, Pot Meet Kettle, and The Value Of A RoseBy popular request, Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 2, season 7.Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has never watched a full season (this is no joke—he even fast-forwarded through most of Sharleen's own season). But, being married to the "Recap Queen", even he has gleaned a thing or two. Hear Shandy break down Season 17 of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's unfiltered ma...
2021-08-2447 min
Dear ShandyBachelor In Paradise Recap: Ep 1 | David Spade, Kissing Galore, and "Grocery Store" Joe's Anti-GameBy popular request, Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise recaps! Today we're breaking down the premiere of season 7.Thanks to our sponsors!Visit http://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off and free shipping on your Hello Tushy bidet!Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has never watched a full season (this is no joke—he even fast-forwarded through most of Sharleen's own season). Bu...
2021-08-1748 min
Dear ShandyHow To Attract The Relationship You Want with Tracy McMillanHave you been seeking marriage or a longterm relationship but find it eludes you? Have you ever wished someone would just give you the honest truth about what's up? Today's guest is the famed straight-shooting relationship author, Tracy McMillan. Tracy shares what she believes the single biggest mistake people make when it comes to dating, why she thinks FWB arrangements aren't a good idea, and her thoughts on masculine/feminine energy in a dating climate which, unlike a mere decade ago, forces women to pursue. Whether you're in a happy relationship (in which case I promise this will have...
2021-08-121h 18
Dear ShandyBachelorette Recap: Finale | Terse Well Wishes, Aunt Lindsay, & A New Bachelor Nation CoupleShandy is back with your recap of the finale of Katie Thurston’s season of The Bachelorette!Thanks to our sponsor!Visit http://www.manscaped.com and use code SHANDY for 20% off and free shipping!Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has never watched a full season (this is no joke—he even fast-forwarded through most of Sharleen's own season). But, being married to the...
2021-08-101h 31
Dear ShandyQ&A! Relationship Nostalgia, Decoding FWB Situations, and Coulda Woulda ShouldaIt's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Should you tell your partner if you find yourself reminiscing about a past relationship? Does not wanting to date someone with kids mean you're just too picky? And when is it acceptable to tell a friend you think her boyfriend sucks? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://w...
2021-08-051h 17
Dear ShandyBachelorette Recap: Ep 9 | Greg, Greg, and More Greg (Plus Our Predictions!)Shandy is back with your recap of Episode 9 of Katie Thurston’s season of The Bachelorette!Thanks to our sponsors!Visit http://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off and free shipping on your Hello Tushy bidet!Visit http://www.grove.com/SHANDY for a free natural product starter set with your first order!Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has never watched a full season (this is no jo...
2021-08-031h 27
Dear ShandyLOVE FEST! Nick Viall & Natalie Joy on How They Met and Building TrustIt's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today's is a particularly momentous Love Fest and a Dear Shandy exclusive! Fittingly for our 1-year anniversary month and our 12th Love Fest, we are joined in person by our dear friend Nick Viall and his lovely girlfriend Natalie.For the first time ever, Nick and Natalie share the detailed story of how they met, as well as how Natalie was a "Jedi Master" in their coming together. They also talk early stage hesitations, the ways in which they complement each other, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, the Dear Shandy Newlyweds Gam...
2021-07-291h 31
Dear ShandyMy Boyfriend's Close Girl Friend Doesn't Like Me! Help!It's Caller Day! Have you ever dated someone whose platonic friend(s) didn't exactly welcome you with open arms? Today's caller, Dayna, has a predicament which inadvertently touches on social dynamics when it comes to dating: jealousy, social hierarchy, a partner's say in who we spend our time with, and how friendships can change when someone in the friend group finds their Happily Ever After. Not all questions have clear answers, and while this one falls squarely into that category, we guarantee you'll relate to some part of today's conversation.If you have a relationship question, write...
2021-07-2256 min
Dear ShandyRelationship Astrology: Birth Chart Compatibility & Tarot ReadingYou have asked for months for us to bring on an Astrologer and Tarot card reader, and the day has finally come! We're admittedly not big on Astrology, so to compensate for our lack of knowledge, we've brought the big guns: Expert Tarot Reader & Astrologer, Maisy Bristol!Maisy dishes her tips for couples when Mercury is in retrograde, she reads our birth charts and corresponding compatibility, and does a tarot reading on our relationship. And though we may not be in our element with this episode, you'll definitely learn a thing or two about Shandy!
2021-07-151h 03
Dear ShandyBachelorette Recap: Ep 6 | Hunter, "Operation WOWO", and Lose-Lose SituationsShandy is back with your recap of Episode 6 of Katie Thurston’s season of The Bachelorette! Come join us to chat about Hunter, "Operation WOWO", and Connor B! Thanks to our sponsors!Visit http://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off and free shipping on your Hello Tushy bidet!Visit http://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY14 and use code SHANDY14 for up to 14 free meals, plus free shipping!Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on...
2021-07-131h 16
Dear ShandyQ&A! First Love Lasting, Friends or More, & Money Insecurity in DatingIt's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions. In a straight yet platonic male-female friendship, how much stock should one put in flirtatiousness? How much flakiness is *too* much to put up with in a friend? How should one navigate dating a "fabulously wealthy" person when they are accustomed to holding their own financially? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!
2021-07-081h 32
Dear ShandyBachelorette Recap: Ep 5 | Party Crasher Blake, Andrew S. 1-on-1, & HunterShandy is back with your recap of Episode 5 of Katie Thurston’s season of The Bachelorette! Come join us to chat about newcomer Blake, Andrew S' long-awaited 1-on-1, Hunter versus everyone, and a whole lot of frankenbiting. Thanks to our sponsor - MANSCAPED! Visit http://www.Manscaped.com and use code SHANDY!Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has never watched a full season (this is no joke—he even fast-forwarded through most...
2021-07-061h 04
Dear ShandyLOVE FEST! Katie Morton & James Rowe On Making Long-Distance WorkIt's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by Katie Morton (who you may remember from Colton's season of The Bachelor, as well as the 6th season of Bachelor In Paradise) and her handsome boyfriend (and pro footballer!) James Rowe. These two are the poster children for long distance and pandemic dating, and the story of how they met just might renew your faith in the elusive Meet Cute. Katie and James share how apps and Facetime have played a role in their relationship, how they complement each other, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, a surprising Dear Shandy New...
2021-07-011h 06
Dear ShandyBachelorette Recap: Episode 4 | Blake Moynes & Bachelor ThomasShandy is back with your recap of Episode 4 of Katie Thurston’s season of The Bachelorette! Come join us to dissect Tre vs Andrew S, new arrival Blake Moynes, and of course, THOMAS.Thanks to our sponsors! Visit http://www.FranklyApparel.com/SHANDY for $15 off your first purchase! Visit http://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off and free shipping on your Hello Tushy bidet!Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has never wat...
2021-06-291h 21
Dear ShandyIn Spite Of Multiple "Wrongs", Can He Still Be Mr. Right?It's Caller Day! Just how many unchecked boxes are *too* many? Today's conversation is a doozy and covers just about everything: different religions and cultures, socioeconomic class, a parent's approval, the pandemic, self-esteem, and coming of age. Our lovely caller, Jamie, is in a happy relationship but it isn't what she'd envisioned for herself. If you've ever been in a relationship you valued but knew deep down things weren't quite right, we guarantee you will relate to the crossroads at which Jamie finds herself.If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com
2021-06-241h 10
Dear ShandyBachelorette Recap: Episode 3 | Right Reasons™ Drama, Nick Viall's Group Date, & Instagram ThomasShandy is back with your recap of Episode 3 of Katie Thurston’s season of The Bachelorette! Come join us to dissect Karl's behavior, the least fun Group Date of all time, Michael's 1-on-1, and of course, THOMAS. Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has never watched a full season (this is no joke—he even fast-forwarded through most of Sharleen's own season). But, being married to the "Recap Queen", even he has gleaned a thing...
2021-06-221h 12
Dear ShandyDemystifying Your Pelvic Health & Secret Tips For More Pleasure ft. Dr. Uchenna OssaiToday's Hot Topic episode is one of Sharleen's personal favorites. We're joined by the brilliant Dr. Uchenna Ossai, one of a handful of pelvic floor physical therapists in the world to also be certified in sexuality counseling. We polled you over on Instagram for your questions, and boy, you DELIVERED. Today's conversation covers everything from pain during sex, to post-natal issues, to incontinence, to orgasms (including Dr. UC's orgasm hacks!) There's something for everyone in this episode, even those with no pelvic concerns. Needless to say, the pelvic floor plays a serious role in all your down-there activity, and...
2021-06-171h 15
Dear ShandyBachelorette Recap: Episode 2 | Mike's Poem, Aaron vs. Cody, & "Right Reasons" KarlShandy is back with your recap of Episode 2 of Katie Thurston’s season of The Bachelorette! Come join us to dissect Mike’s poem, Aaron versus Cody, the many kisses (good and bad), and of course, KARL.Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has never watched a full season (this is no joke—he even fast-forwarded through most of Sharleen's own season). But, being married to the "Recap Queen", even he has gleaned a thing...
2021-06-151h 04
Dear ShandyQ&A! Texting Chemistry, He's Just Not That Into You, & The One That Got AwayIt's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions. 🔥 Does texting style affect our perception of a person, and how good an indicator is texting compatibility for real-life compatibility? If your current flame ended an engagement a mere 3 months before you met, and won't commit for that reason, is he just not into you or does he really just need more time? (And on that note, had Andy met Sharleen only 3 months after his ended engagement, does he think they still would have worked?) How dirty is TOO dirty for a date's home, and is an unkempt home a d...
2021-06-101h 12
Dear ShandyBachelorette Recap: Episode 1 | First Impressions, Kayshia, & Our PredictionsAsk and you shall receive! You've asked us for ages to recap The Bachelor and its spinoffs, and we're finally obliging. Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has never watched a full season (this is no joke—he even fast-forwarded through most of Sharleen's own season). But, being married to the "Recap Queen", even he has gleaned a thing or two. Hear Shandy break down the premiere of Katie Thurston's season of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's unfiltered ma...
2021-06-091h 03
Dear ShandyLOVE FEST! Ben Higgins & Jess Clarke Reveal Why Their Relationship Works & Ben's Secret Zookeeper PastIt's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today's happy couple is bonafide Bachelor royalty: Ben Higgins and his stunning fiancée, Jess Clarke! These two join us from their house in Denver, which they are currently renovating, to talk the ins and outs of their sweet relationship. We learn their first impressions of one another, the ways they complement each other, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, the Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better? Watch on to find out!Thanks to our sponsor - HELLO TUSHY! Visit http://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off and free shipping on y...
2021-06-031h 16
Dear ShandyMy Long-Term Boyfriend Is Unsure About Marriage—How Long Is Too Long To Wait?It's Caller Day! Our caller, Maya, may be in a happy, healthy relationship, but she's at a crossroads. If you've ever been in a longterm relationship and felt marriage should be a given, you just may relate to Maya's (all too common) situation. Just how long is *too* long to wait for a partner's certainty? This just might be our most heated caller conversation to date.Thanks to our sponsor - MANSCAPED! Visit http://www.Manscaped.com with code SHANDY to get 20% off plus free shipping!If you have a relationship question, write us at...
2021-05-271h 16
Dear ShandyNikki Glaser Confesses Crush on Nick Viall, Sliding Into Matt James's DMs & Secrets of Celebrity DatingHave you ever wondered what dating and relationships are like when you're a celebrity? How do famous folks meet these days, and when they do, what's different? Do they behave differently in dating than the rest of us, and do "civilians" stand a real chance with them? Our resident celeb is comedian, famed roaster, and podcast host Nikki Glaser! She is brutally honest in her assessment of dating at her (self-assessed) "B-list" level of fame, her own celebrity crushes (including some of Bachelor Nation's finest), and the do's and don'ts of sliding into the DMs of the rich and...
2021-05-201h 06
Dear ShandyQ&A! Making the First Move & Rekindling Romance From the FriendzoneIt's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions. 🔥 If you have a crush on someone in their workplace, is it OK to ask them out? And if so, what are Andy's tried-and-true tips for making a move? Should you put off dating until you have your ducks in a row professionally? Just how much do straight men really care about a woman's occupation and professional success? And if you've been friend-zoned, is there any hope for rekindling that romantic spark? There are some STRONG opinions shared in this Q&A sesh—come join us in our living room...
2021-05-131h 19
Dear ShandyLOVE FEST! Sydney Lotuaco Reveals How Nick Wehby Slid Into Her DMs & Won Her HeartIt's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by Sydney Lotuaco (who you may remember from Colton's season of The Bachelor) and her sweet boyfriend, Nick Wehby. These two have a particularly unique meeting story that just might renew your faith in pandemic dating. Sydney and Nick share how the pandemic played a role in getting to truly know one another, how they complement each other, and of course, how they FIGHT! Nick also graciously shares a powerful story that transformed his view on life. Finally, the Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Does being one of our "younger" couples work for or...
2021-05-061h 12
Dear ShandyDid I Miss My Proposal?!It's Caller Day! Our caller, Kate, has a unique predicament that veers into discussions about mismatched Love Languages and our cultural expectations surrounding proposals. How much does a formal "Will you marry me" *really* matter, and does a man's reticence to deliver on this gender role tradition speak to a deeper problem?Visit http://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off and free shipping on your Hello Tushy bidet!If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy...
2021-04-2958 min
Dear ShandyConfessions of a Reality TV Dating Show Host ft. Mark L. Walberg (Temptation Island)Have you ever watched a reality TV dating show and wondered what that poker-faced host is REALLY thinking? As Temptation Island fans and general admirers of its host Mark L Walberg's piercing commentary, we're thrilled he agreed to join us for a Confessions episode! Temptation Island brings on four straight real-life couples who are at crossroads in their relationships, separates them for a month, and has them live with (very forward) straight singles of the opposite sex. It originally debuted in 2001, at the start of the reality TV boom, and was rebooted in 2019.As...
2021-04-221h 09
Dear ShandyQ&A! Relationship DisillusionmentIt's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions. 🔥 How normal are growing pains when you and your partner first live together, and is it too harsh to deem your partner's living habits unattractive? If you think you're falling for your soon-to-be-roommate—who also happens to be 6 years younger than you—should you explore this or let it go? If you're "cloaked" by someone on a dating app, even after making plans, should you call out their rude behavior?If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSubscribe and watch the epi...
2021-04-151h 14
Dear ShandyLOVE FEST! Desiree & Chris Siegfried On How Kids Have Impacted Their RelationshipIt's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today's happy couple is downright iconic in Bachelor Nation: Desiree and Chris Siegfried! We recorded this after they were able to put their boys to bed on the West Coast, which resulted in a very late night and thus very delirious/loopy/giggly chat. Truthfully, this couple exceeded every (already high) expectation: they're refreshingly real and down-to-earth, and simply fun to hang out with. They share how they complement each other, how kids have transformed their relationship, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, a particularly amusing Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better?
2021-04-081h 11
Dear ShandyI'm Secretly In Love With My Best Friend And Roommate—Help!It's Caller Day! Our caller, Elise, has a predicament that might resonate if you've ever lusted after a close friend. If you found yourself in love with your close friend-turned-roommate, what would you do? What if said roommate had a longterm girlfriend, yet simultaneously seemed to reciprocate your affections? Today's call went in a different direction than originally expected, which really shows the difference between a written email and a true conversation. If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy
2021-04-0155 min
Dear ShandyConfessions of a Family and Marriage Therapist ft. LizListensToday we're joined by licensed family and marriage therapist, Elizabeth Earnshaw! There's something for everyone in this episode: If you're either single or in a happy relationship, but you're simply curious what a LFMT encounters in her office, the first half (our "Confessions" segment) is for you! If you have concerns about your own partnership (or your in-laws!) and want to hear a professional's take on our listeners' most frequently asked questions, the second half is for you. There are many helpful lessons in this episode, some of which might catch you by surprise...Thanks to our...
2021-03-251h 10
Dear ShandyQ&A! He's Everything I Want, But We Don't Share the Same Sense of Humor—Help!It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions. 🔥 Is it really a MUST that you and your partner live together before getting married? Just how important is a shared sense of humor in a forever relationship? Which famed statement is more true: "Absence makes the heart grow fonder", or "Out of sight, out of mind"? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!
2021-03-181h 04
Dear ShandyLOVE FEST! Kaitlyn Bristowe & Jason Tartick Discuss Starting in the FriendzoneIt's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today's happy couple requires no introduction: Kaitlyn Bristowe and Jason Tartick! We had high expectations for this "double date" and Jaitlyn did not disappoint. They share their first impressions of each other (and how those have changed), how they complement each other, what early hurdles they overcame, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, the Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better?Thanks to our sponsor - HELLO TUSHY! Visit http://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off and free shipping on your Hello Tushy bidet!More Kaitlyn & Jasonhtt...
2021-03-111h 17
Dear ShandyI Don't Yearn For My Partner When We're Apart—Is This A Bad Sign?!It's Caller Day! Our first caller, Mel, was dumped for not being vulnerable enough. Is there a "vulnerability" timeline? Our second caller, Kate, is in a happy relationship but is perturbed by how little she misses for her partner when they're apart. Could this be a clue to a deeper relationship concern? Thanks to our sponsor - POSTMATES! Download the Postmates App and use the code: DEARSHANDY for $5 off your first 5 orders!If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.l...
2021-03-041h 01
Dear ShandyConfessions of a Sex Therapist ft. Dr. Lauren Fogel MersyWe brought the big guns to tackle your sex and intimacy questions: Sex Therapist Dr. Lauren Fogel Mersy! There's something for everyone in this episode: If your sex life is great but you've always been curious about the things a sex therapist has heard and seen, the first half is for you. If your sex life is something of a work in progress, the second half is for you. This episode also includes one of Shandy's own most mind-blowing discoveries... can you guess what it is? Thanks to our sponsor - HELLO TUSHY! Visit http://www.hellotushy.c...
2021-02-251h 16
Dear ShandyQ&A! Staying Connected with Exes on Social Media & Second ChancesIt's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions. 🔥 Is it wise to stay connected with your ex via Instagram? Is it a dealbreaker if a guy flakes on your first date at the last minute? Is opening up a 10-year relationship too risky to consider? And if you and your ex broke up due to his lack of relationship experience, is it acceptable to circle back one day, to see if he's changed/matured? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!Thanks to our sponsor - POSTMATES! Download the Postmates App and...
2021-02-181h 19
Dear ShandyLOVE FEST! Ashley Iaconetti & Jared Haibon Reveal How Their Love Story Is the Exception to the RuleIt's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by one of Bachelor Nation's happiest (and most iconic!) couples, Ashley Iaconetti and Jared Haibon! These two got married in 2019 and have been very generous with sharing their relationship with the world, but we promise you'll still learn ins and outs about their marriage you didn't know before. Today they share how they think they defied the odds in ending up together, how they complement each other, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, the Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Thanks to our sponsor - HELLO TUSHY! Visit http...
2021-02-111h 15
Dear ShandyMy Boyfriend and I View COVID Differently—Is This A Deal Breaker?!It's Caller Day! If you've been in a relationship throughout this pandemic, our first caller's predicament just might resonate: How do you reason with a partner who just doesn't see eye to eye with you on COVID safety? Is this potential dealbreaker material? Our second caller's issue is on the other end of the spectrum: If you were dating someone exclusively (to your knowledge), what would you do if you found their dating profile actively being updated? Is it what it looks like? Watch on for the Shandy take!PS—Our first caller, Rebecca, attended an Ivy Le...
2021-02-041h 19
Dear ShandyNavigating Jealousy in Relationships & Exploring Non-Monogamy ft. Janet W. HardyJealousy is a beast of a topic, so we thought long and hard about who to help us tackle it. Shandy brought the big guns: who better to talk jealousy than the woman who quite literally WROTE THE BOOK on open relationships? We're thrilled to welcome Janet W. Hardy, the co-author of The Ethical Slut, the iconic guide to polyamory that was first published in 1997 and is now on its 3rd edition. As someone experienced in both monogamy and non-monogamy, Janet is no stranger to the jealousy trap. We ask Janet: Why do we feel jealous, what do those...
2021-01-281h 04
Dear ShandyQ&A! Keeping the Chemistry Alive & Navigating Unhappy MarriagesIt's Q&A time! We're back in the living room, ready to answer more of YOUR burning questions. 🔥 What are Shandy's tips to help to keep the spark alive in long term relationships? How soon should you know if the person you're with is "The One", and how much do age and experience play a role in "Knowing"? If you're unhappily married, and if divorce is Door #1 and a life of unhappiness is Door #2, is there such a thing as Door #3? Finally, if you have a massive secret that many would judge you for, should you bury it or tel...
2021-01-211h 12Dear ShandyQ&A! Keeping the Chemistry Alive & Navigating Unhappy MarriagesIt's Q&A time! We're back in the living room, ready to answer more of YOUR burning questions. 🔥 What are Shandy's tips to help to keep the spark alive in long term relationships? How soon should you know if the person you're with is "The One", and how much do age and experience play a role in "Knowing"? If you're unhappily married, and if divorce is Door #1 and a life of unhappiness is Door #2, is there such a thing as Door #3? Finally, if you have a massive secret that many would judge you for, should you bury it or tel...
2021-01-211h 12
Dear ShandyLOVE FEST! Derek Peth & Saffron Vadher Talk Love At First SightIt's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by newly engaged lovebirds Derek Peth and Saffron Vadher! These two are on the private side, so we're thrilled they agreed to come on and share their relationship with us in true double date fashion. Derek and Saff can usually be found in NYC, but today, they join us from their house in Iowa. They share the serendipitous story of how they met (spoiler alert: Shandy plays a key role!), how they complement each other, what early hurdles they overcame, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, the Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who...
2021-01-141h 16
Dear ShandyDid My Date Fake Sickness to Abruptly Leave Our Date?!It's Caller Day! If you were at dinner and your date left abruptly, claiming illness, would you read into it? At what point is showing concern too generous? And, is there such a thing as being too young to consider marriage? Does wanting a big wedding—one you'd need to save up for—mean your marital priorities are all wrong?If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com...
2021-01-071h 01
Dear ShandyOur Proposal StoryWe wanted to do something a little different to celebrate New Year's Eve (and the end of 2020!). So today, inspired by Episode 1 (How We Met), we're doing another throwback: we're going back in time to 2014, to what happened after Shandy met, and how (and when) Andy eventually proposed. Watch on to hear his thought process, how he chose the ring (and whether or not Sharleen liked it!), and Andy's "stroke of genius" idea in ensuring the proposal would be a true surprise! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSubscribe a...
2020-12-311h 04
Dear ShandyQ&A! Compromising for Relationships & Leaving Lost CausesIt's Q&A time! We're back in the living room, ready to answer more of YOUR burning questions. 🔥 How necessary is compromise in relationships, and where's the line between loving yourself and being too set in your ways? Is it a dealbreaker if your partner doesn't seem to take your biological clock seriously? And is it possible to salvage a new relationship if you had sex "too soon", and at what point is this concern unto itself concerning? Your questions continue to deliver, so come join us in our living room for our unbiased (and brutally honest) answers. If...
2020-12-241h 13
Dear ShandyLOVE FEST! Rachel Lindsay & Bryan Abasolo Address Marriage Rumors and Cat PlatesIt's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by married lovebirds Rachel Lindsay and Bryan Abasolo! These two met and got engaged on Rachel's season of The Bachelorette (Season 13) and married in 2019. They are currently bicoastal as Rachel has recently moved to LA for her job as an Extra correspondent, while Bryan remains in their home in Miami, where he maintains his chiropractic practice. They join us from their respective locations to take a walk down memory lane, sharing their first impressions of one another and how those have changed (if at all). We learn how they complement each other, how...
2020-12-171h 16
Dear ShandyWe're at an Emotional Stalemate—Should We Break Up?Thanks to our sponsor - HELLO TUSHY! Visit http://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off and free shipping on your Hello Tushy bidet!Today's call is a bit of an anomaly in that the question asked is not the question answered. What starts out as an innocent relationship gripe turns out to be a red herring or sorts, and as Shandy overturns each stone, a greater concern is exposed. When do you know it's over? And how long is too long to hold out for what could be, versus what is? We thought this would be a...
2020-12-101h 05
Dear ShandyThe Do's and Don'ts of Managing Finances As A CoupleThanks to our sponsor - HELLO TUSHY! Visit http://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off and free shipping on your Hello Tushy bidet!Ask and you shall receive! You've been requesting that we talk MONEY for awhile now, and we brought in the very best to help us do it: Bola Sokunbi of Clever Girl Finance! You guys asked great questions and we grilled Bola: Which is better, joint or separate bank accounts? What are the “must” financial conversations you should have before moving in together? Should expenses be split proportionately based on income? And of course... PREN...
2020-12-0354 min
Dear ShandyQ&A! Dating Leagues & Yellow FlagsIt's Q&A time! We're back in the living room, ready to answer a whole slew of YOUR burning questions. 🔥 Is it a bad sign if a guy isn't "obsessed" with you? How do you know your "league", and has online dating rigged the system against women? Is there such a thing as having sex too early, and if so, how soon is too soon? Your questions are wonderfully honest, so gear up for a healthy dose of honesty in return.If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSubscribe and wat...
2020-11-261h 06
Dear ShandyLOVE FEST! Lesley Anne Murphy & Alex Kavanagh Talk Moving, Pregnancy, and Their Drone Love StoryIt's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by the hotly requested Lesley Ann Murphy and her fiancé Alex Kavanagh! Lesley is a travel blogger and yoga instructor (who you may remember from Sean Lowe's season of The Bachelor, as well as 2018's Bachelor Winter Games), while Alex is a drone pilot and creative director. This dynamic duo works and travels together constantly, but today they join us (on their original wedding date, postponed due to COVID) from Lesley's parents' house in Little Rock, AR, where they have just moved to from LA. They are also pregnant! We learn the sere...
2020-11-191h 00
Dear ShandyShould I Tell My Ex Lover's Girlfriend About Our Secret Affair?Today's call touches on an interesting moral dilemma that many have likely considered, but far fewer have acted on. As "the other woman", which is more ethical: To tell your ex-lover's girlfriend about his cheating ways, or to stay out of their relationship and let her learn those tough lessons on her own? How far does "Do Unto Others" extend, or is it better to trust in karma? And in playing a role in the indiscretion, does one surrender the right to moral high ground? Shandy definitely wants your take on this one!If you have a...
2020-11-1259 min
Dear ShandyConfessions of a Divorced Man in His 40's ft. Comedian Dov DavidoffToday's episode is the first in our new "Confessions" series! If you could ask a recently divorced man ANYTHING, what would it be? We polled you over on Instagram and you delivered with fantastic questions. Our guest, Dov Davidoff, is a talented comedian, actor, and real estate developer. But most importantly, he's one of Andy's closest friends and was a groomsman in our wedding! He so graciously joins us today to talk the personal struggles of divorce, whether or not he saw it coming, and what he has learned. Open your mind and prepare yourself for brutally honest life...
2020-11-0559 min
Dear ShandyQ&A! My Boyfriend Is Following His Ex's OnlyFans—Is This Borderline Cheating?!It's Q&A time! We're back in the living room, answering YOUR burning questions. 🔥 Is it sketchy if your boyfriend follows his ex's erotic accounts, and how much does it matter whether or not he tells you about it? Do longterm friends-with-benefits relationships ever lead to actual relationships, and what should you do if you find yourself developing real feelings? And how important is sexual exploration before settling down? Your questions are getting REAL and we're here for it! 🙋🏻♀️🙋🏻♂️ Watch on for the Shandy take...If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSubscribe and watch th...
2020-10-291h 18
Dear ShandyLOVE FEST! Astrid Loch & Kevin Wendt Talk Meeting on Bachelor in Paradise & Dominos LoveIt's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by engaged lovebirds Astrid Loch and Kevin Wendt! These two met on Bachelor in Paradise (Season 5) and got engaged a year later, in 2019. They join us from their new house (which is currently undergoing renovations!) to share their first impressions of each other and whether or not TV played a role. We discuss their thoughts on The One, what their (hilarious) peeves are about each other, as well as housework, handbags, and Dominos. (Unrelated: We also learn what happens to Andy's retired V-neck tees.) Finally, the Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who...
2020-10-221h 08
Dear ShandyI've Never Been in a Meaningful Relationship—Help!Just how honest should you be in your dating profile? If you never drink, would it hurt your dating chances to share that? And if you're in your mid-20s and have never been in a romantic relationship of any kind, how can you take control of your love life? Today's episode is all about hard truths and tough love. Watch on for the Shandy Take! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow u...
2020-10-151h 13
Dear ShandyEnneagram Types in Relationships ft. Certified Enneagram Coach Steph Barron HallHow familiar are you with the Enneagram? Have you ever considered how your type plays into your relationships? Today we are joined by certified Enneagram coach Stephanie Barron Hall. The Enneagram of Personality, rooted in psychology, is a typology of nine interconnected personality types. With Stephanie's guidance, we learn more about our own types (Sharleen's a 4; Andy's a 5) and how they play a role in our compatibility, how we feel loved, how we communicate, and yes, how we fight. Reflections and confessions lie ahead! More Steph Buy Her Book - https://bit.ly/TheEnnegraminLove Instagram...
2020-10-081h 05
Dear ShandyQ&A! Dating Younger Men, Navigating Breakups, & Zombie Apocalypse SexWe're back to answering YOUR questions! You guys came at us with some tough topics this time around: Should you and your partner talk about your pasts? What should you do if you and your ex are in the same friend group? Do you only seem to want what you can't have? And after having been on The Bachelor, what was dating in the real world like for Sharleen? Our answers to your burning question lie ahead... Can you handle the truth? If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSubscribe a...
2020-10-0157 min
Dear ShandyLOVE FEST! Vanessa Grimaldi & Joshua Wolfe Chat Poop & PoutineIt's Love Fest time! Today we're joined by Vanessa Grimaldi and her then-boyfriend (but now-fiancé!) Josh Wolfe. (Josh proposed 3 days after we recorded this!!) We learn the unique way in which these two got to know each other, how they complement each other, and the hilarious hurdle Josh had to overcome. We also talk housework, Canadian snacks, and Squatty Pottys (#notsponsored.... we wish). Finally, the Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better?? Watch on to find out...If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comMore Vanessa & Joshh...
2020-09-2459 min
Dear ShandyMy Date Doesn't Ask Questions — Is it Him Or Me?You've definitely been there: On a date, and the onus feels like it's on you to ask questions and keep the conversation moving. Is your date self-absorbed, or is there more to this? Could you be accidentally contributing to this dynamic? This caller conversation went in a very different direction than expected, but we loved how it brought us (sooner than intended!) to Nervous Energy. We then segue into a couple of our big first date Dos and Don'ts. Do YOU commit any of these early dating crimes??If you have a relationship question, write us at...
2020-09-1758 min
Dear ShandyCan You Remain Friends With an Ex? ft. Andy's Ex-FiancéeCan you REALLY be friends with an ex? We're joined by Margie, Andy's ex-fiancée, who conveniently happens to have a PhD in clinical psychology. We go for a stroll down memory lane to learn about their history together. Then we discuss how they came to be friends today and what the key components are to true friendship post-romance. Finally, we get Margie's professional input: What are the biggest mistakes people make when it comes to dating and relationships? Warning: You WILL see yourself in these!If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.c...
2020-09-101h 16
Dear ShandyQ&A! Prenups, Defining the Relationship, & Playing It CoolToday is all about YOUR questions... the broader ones, that is. What are our thoughts on prenups, and do we have one? How should a woman deal with a man who doesn't satisfy her? After our meeting, did Andy go on dates with anyone else, or did he immediately close down the shop? And did Sharleen play it cool? Find out the answers to your burning questions in our first ever Q&A sesh!If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comJoin us every Thursday for a new episode of...
2020-09-0355 minDear ShandyLOVE FEST! Caila Quinn & Nick Burrello Talk Relationship Hurdles & Hobbit FeetFor our inaugural Love Fest episode, it's only fitting to be joined by dear friends (and engaged couple!) Caila Quinn and Nick Burrello. We dive deep on first impressions (and how those might have changed!), specific traits they value in each other, and relationship hurdles. Andy and Nick also bond over Instagram-husbandry. 😉 PLUS, we have our first ever Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better??If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comMore Caila & Nickhttps://www.instagram.com/cailaquinnhttps://www.instagram.com/nickburrello
2020-08-271h 03
Dear ShandyMy Real-Life "The Bachelor" Dating ScenarioCan you have a genuine connection but still get played? Is age a factor in the likelihood of a guy being a player? And how old was Andy at his most "player-y"? Our caller's story has a magical start but a confusing end that left her wondering what she could have done differently. Listen on to hear the Shandy take! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Join us every Thursday for a new episode of Dear Shandy! Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bi...
2020-08-201h 04
Dear ShandyWelcome to Dear Shandy & How We MetWe recorded this on a whim, not sure if it'd ever see the light of day. We weren't sure how best to introduce ourselves and kick off a podcast, but since it's our most frequently asked question, we ultimately decided to recap (and reminisce!) about how we met. Watch on to hear how two diehard skeptics who don't believe in fate, serendipity, or The One, somehow found themselves believing in something (almost). If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Join us every Thursday for a new ep...
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