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This Is WhyAngela Got Married!It's one of our most anticipated episodes: Angela got married!!! We hear all about it: the rain! the tears! the trash bags! We answer your listener questions including one listener who hates her best friend’s fiancé and another listener who is worried about bridesmaid etiquette. In the news: low-rise jeans are actually back & Gwen Stefani might have had a secret wedding. Angela's dad wears jeans to her wedding and Laura learns about scar massage.This week's episode is brought to you by:Squarespace (offer code: SINGLE)BetterHelpAdvertise on This Is W...2021-07-0751 min
This Is WhyBaby Baby Baby StuffWe're reunited and it feels so good! Angela is married, Laura had a baby! Big things have happened! We’ll answer your listener questions including one about staying friends with exes and keeping things fresh with your partner. Then we’re talking about what’s in the news: aliens & repurposing wedding dresses. Angela goes to a restaurant that has a menu for dogs, Laura contemplates changing her baby's name.This week's episode is brought to you by:Osea (offer code: THISISWHY)StitchfixSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.2021-06-3054 min
This Is WhyHow to Know You’ve Found “The One” ft. Angela’s Fiancé, Ian (Laura’s maternity leave!)This week’s episode is called How to Know You’ve Found “The One.” It's Ian's final week as a guest host before Laura's triumphant return! We talk about how you have to go on lots of "meh" dates to know when it's a good one and how important it is to feel comfortable with someone. We also answer your listener questions, including a listener who has never met her long-distance boyfriend IRL and another listener who wants to know how to not go crazy while waiting on a proposal. Then we talk about what’s in the news: Gen Z thinks...2021-06-1649 min
This Is WhyMaking New Friends as an Adult ft. Ian (Angela’s Fiancé)This week's episode is called Making New Friends as an Adult. Ian is back as guest host while Laura continues her maternity leave. We talk about times we've seen people make friends by sliding into DMs and walking dogs. We answer your listener questions, including one listener who is struggling to make work friends and another who had to end a friendship over too much negativity. Then we talk about what's in the news: why sunlight is good for you & why we’re about to enter a “YOLO economy.” Angela gets a taste of her own medicine when Ian talks a...2021-06-0952 min
This Is WhyKeeping Arguments Respectful ft. Ian (Angela’s Fiancé)This week's episode is called Keeping Arguments Respectful. Laura is still on maternity leave, so Ian returns as guest co-host. We talk about recent arguments we've had and how we keep it kind (after yelling a bit, of course). We answer your listener questions, including one listener whose boyfriend has gained weight and another listener who is dealing with some resentment after moving in with her boyfriend. Then we’re talking about what’s in the news: the COVID vaccine is affecting people’s periods & some people are skipping their second dose. Angela gets her first dose of Moderna and has...2021-06-0251 min
This Is WhyLessons from Pandemic Wedding Planning ft. Ian (Angela's Fiancé)This week's episode is called Lessons from Pandemic Wedding Planning. Laura is on maternity leave, so Angela's fiancé, Ian, fills in. We talk about how we knew rescheduling the wedding (3x!) was the right move and how you need to do what you're most comfortable with. We answer your listener questions, including one listener who wants to know how we knew when we wanted to go from dating to relationship and another who wants to know how to make the best of quarantine time spent with her fiancé. Then we talk about what's in the news: TikTokers are smoking flo...2021-05-261h 02
This Is WhyGetting Along with In-LawsThis week's episode is all about getting along with in-laws and it's inspired by a listener question (luckily, Angela and Laura both adore their in-laws – for reals!). We answer your listener questions including one listener whose mom had an uncomfortable relationship with her ex and another who feels weird saying “I love you” to her in-laws. Then we talk about what’s in the news: a failed ad campaign to get Santa to promote a Covid vaccine & a famous writer gets fired after masturbating during a Zoom meeting. Angela opens up about her father's illness and Laura talks about why you...2020-11-111h 02
This Is WhyWhen Friends Start Believing Conspiracy TheoriesThis week we talk all about conspiracy theories: which ones are total BS and how to talk to a friend who believes in them. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener whose friend went down a dark rabbit hole of conspiracy ideas and another listener who has a question about periods. In the news we discuss Drew Barrymore’s new talk show & Barack Obama's new book! Angela's friend gets hit on by a guy not wearing a mask and Laura has to think of weaknesses about her perfect two year old for a questionnaire. This week we tal...2020-10-1452 min
This Is WhySocializing in a Covid WorldThis week we talk all about ways to safely socialize in a pandemic (outdoors, picnics, masks, etc!) Then we answer your listener questions including a listener who wants to know if she is being insensitive to her sister’s coronavirus fears and another listener who is figuring out if it’s safe for her to attend a large wedding celebration this month. In pop culture news we talk about Thandie Newton opening up about how controlling Tom Cruise is & John Legend’s cheating past (don't worry – not on Chrissy!). Angela talks about how stupid Zoom wedding are and Laura goes on...2020-08-1248 min
This Is WhyBaby Fever & FertilityThis week we talk about baby fever and fertility. Laura shares her baby journey and all the woo woo and non woo woo things she's done. We answer your listener questions including one listener struggling with fertility and another figuring out how to style as a new mom. Then we talk about what’s in the news including when grandparents can see newborns & two hairstylists with COVID-19 wore masks and their clients didn’t get sick. Angela tells the story about her friend giving birth during the pandemic and Laura's friend shares an opportunity to put her skills to good...2020-08-0556 min
This Is WhyEveryone Needs a HobbyThis week we talk about the importance of hobbies: how to find them, what makes a good hobby and the difference between a side hustle and a hobby. Then we answer your listener questions, including one listener who is getting into baking and another who is starting her own Youtube channel. In the news we discuss the good news for abortion rights out of the Supreme Court and what you can’t do on the set of a Christopher Nolan movie. Angela's notes app creeps out Ian and Laura publicly shames a guy she saw do something troubling on th...2020-07-2951 min
This Is WhyNew Dating EtiquetteThis week we talk all about how dating has changed since the pandemic and tips to go on safe dates and have safe sex. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener who is dating a guy who is not taking the pandemic seriously and another whose girlfriend didn’t say the L-word back. In the news we discuss a dating scam that stole millions & how to handle a mom friendship ending. Angela poses a thought experiment to Ian and Laura goes on her first date night with Nic since quarantine.This week's episode is brought to yo...2020-07-2258 min
This Is WhyLooking for a JobThis week we talk about looking for a job during this wild time including tips for video and phone interviews and how to give and get career advice. Then we answer our listener questions including whether it’s realistic to start job hunting now and another listener asking about freelancer logistics. In the news we discuss the Babysitters Club on Netflix, how dating may permanently change forever & why college students are struggling with mental health. Angela loses her job and Laura's baby can't sleep.This week's episode is brought to you by:Squarespace (offer code: SING...2020-07-151h 05
This Is WhyFinding the Right TherapistThis week’s episode is about finding the right therapist including the process of choosing one to saying bye bye to the ones that you don't vibe with. We’ll be answering your listener questions including one listener who says he was dumped after admitting he went to therapy and another who feels like she can’t talk to friends about her problems. Then we talk about what’s in the news including Carole Baskin winning control over Joe Exotic’s zoo, Facebook employees blasting Zuckerberg & men getting aggressive on dating apps. Laura and Angela talk about the ups and downs...2020-07-0851 min
This Is WhyBeing an Ally ft. Eric Abrego, co-chair of the Black Inclusion Group at LinkedInThis week we talk about how to be an ally. We welcome Eric Abrego, LinkedIn's co-chairman of the Black Inclusion Group, a program which utilizes data, resources, and employees to close the opportunity gap for Black people in the technology industry (and Angela’s college buddy!). We talk about the pitfalls of social media and virtue signaling, what not to message people, how to do the real work and continue the conversation. Then we answer your listener questions including a woman of color whose boyfriend’s family are Trump supporters and another listener who wants to know if it’s ok t...2020-07-011h 16
This Is WhyJuggling MotherhoodThis week we talk about the struggle of motherhood, parenthood and caretaking. We talk about how to not compare yourself to other parents, the best states for working moms and why Laura doesn't teach sharing. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener asking about dressing her child gender neutral and another asking for advice about activities for kids. In the news we discuss astronauts going into space, Google gives employees $1,000 for office equipment & what to take away from Sofia Vergara’s dating skepticism. Angela fights with Ian in the car and Laura talks about Rilo giving up his...2020-06-2453 min
This Is WhyHow to Say No to CommitmentsThis week we talk about how to say no to commitments and give yourself space. We a question from a listener who is unsure if it’s safe to return to her gym and another who is worried that a new living situation will destroy her social life. In the news we discuss Harry Styles being a “consent king", how Americans really feel about wearing masks & experts give advice on distanced hangouts. Angela calls herself the IKEA Hulk and Laura needs an emergency root canal. **The proceeds from this week's episodes will be donated to the ACLU, Black L...2020-06-1743 min
This Is WhyHow To Be or Not To Be ProductiveThis week we give you tips on how to be more productive or less productive (if you're pushing yourself too hard) during this crazy time. Then we answer your listener questions including a question about frenemies and another one about not feeling productive. In the news we discuss why Ryan Seacrest is tired, tech workers working from home long term & why vaccines are slow. Angela's fiancé doesn't wear a shirt on his Zoom calls and Laura talks about positive reinforcement and her love of naps.**All proceeds from this episode for This Is Why have been donated t...2020-06-1048 min
This Is WhyAnxiety & Coping SkillsThis week’s episode is all about anxiety and tips for how to cope. We answer mailbox questions including one listener who wants to know if coffee is making her anxious and another listener who is working on getting over her “imposter syndrome” at work. Then we talk about what’s in the news including early 2000s fashion making a comeback, Trump still refusing to admit he was wrong about coronavirus & the desperate measures we are taking to keep our Zoom hangs interesting. Angela attends a “webinar” for brides with postponed weddings and Laura talks about work anxiety.See omnystu...2020-06-0342 min
This Is WhyToxic PositivityThis week we talk all about toxic positivity and how it can actually be harmful to be overly positive when people are struggling. We give tips on how to meet people where they are at and suggestions of what to say when someone is sad. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener who wants to know where the line is between normal positivity and toxic positivity and another listener who is considering quitting social media over the way it makes her feel. In the news we talk about the role of astroturfing in recent protests, how to...2020-05-2756 min
This Is WhyFriendship During a Global PandemicIt's our first "This Is Why" podcast! Starting this week we'll be giving best friend advice on topics including pop culture, politics, friendship, dating, workplace dynamics, parenting, news headlines... and whatever else is on your mind! This week we are talking about all things friendship during this wild time. We answer your listener questions including one listener who is struggling to motivate herself and another who wants to know how you can be friends with people who have problematic views. Then we talk about what’s in the news including what workspaces will look like post-pandemic, the best pandemic mus...2020-05-2051 min
This Is WhyThe Final Episode (And What We've Learned Along the Way!)It's our last This Is Why You're Single podcast (Don't worry, we are just dropping the "you're single" and rebranding starting next week)! Angela and Laura talk about everything we've learned over the last 250 episodes, how our lives have changed and the best dating advice we are walking away with. In dating news we discuss how coronavirus is changing online dating & the rules for sex during the time of coronavirus. Then we dive into the mailbox to reflect on some of our favorite listener emails and answer a new listener question from one listener who is being shamed by...2020-05-131h 23
This Is WhyHow to Pursue a CrushThis week we talk about how (and if!) you should make a move on a crush. In dating news we discuss the how “whelming” is the new “negging” & how long first dates should last. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener who has a crush on a coworker and another whose crush is making her question her sexuality. Angela has beef with OKCupid and Laura has beef with her couples therapist.This week's episode is brought to you by:Squarespace (offer code: SINGLE)Care/Of (offer code: THISISWHY50)See omnystudio...2020-05-0642 min
This Is WhyAdjusting ExpectationsThis week we talk all about dating expectations: what is reasonable, how to tell someone what you expect and how to know if you're an expectations match. In dating news we discuss how to improve your sex life by talking about it & how to make your marriage gayer. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener getting mixed signals and another who keeps getting disappointed on dates she met online. Angela gets real about wedding vendors and someone flirts with Laura in Tulum. This week's episode is brought to you by:Causebox (offer code: S...2020-04-2953 min
This Is WhyDealing With Their ExThis week we are talking about how to deal with your partner's ex. In dating news we discuss how Tinder gets a panic button & the best way to avoid someone at a party. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener whose boyfriend wants to share a Costco card with his ex and another listener whose girlfriend’s ex is creeping on his Insta. Angela's co-worker claims all men pay for Tinder and Laura tries to get Nic to buy her lingerie.This week's episode is brought to you by:CareOf (offer code: THISISWHY50)...2020-04-2241 min
This Is WhyPostponing a Wedding During a PandemicAngela postponed her wedding. This week we talk all about the logistics of that decision and our quarantine mental, emotional and physical state. In dating news we discuss a bride who goes viral for her Facebook rant & the founder of Spanx offering up her wedding dress. Then we answer your listener questions including two listeners who also had to postpone their weddings and another who is waiting for her boyfriend to put a ring on it. Then Angela and Laura announce some big podcast news. Hope everyone is staying safe!This week's episode is sponsored by Coors...2020-04-081h 18
This Is WhyRelationship MaintenanceThis week we talk about how to maintain your relationship. When you have a good thing, you have to take care of it: check ins, couples therapy and date nights! In dating news we discuss podcasts you should listen to based on your zodiac sign & a guide to couples therapy. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener who is worried a message she sent scared off her crush and one crazy dating profile we had to share. Laura and Angela share their crazy recent health stories!This week's episode is brought to you by:2020-04-0141 min
This Is WhyHow To Relax With Someone NewOn this episode we talk about how to relax when you are dating someone new, which can be especially hard in today's climate! In dating news we discuss why wedding season 2020 is doomed & how to stay healthy. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener whose ex made her feel insecure about intimacy and another who is nervous about having no experience. Angela and Laura talk about being quarantined with their partners. This week's episode is brought to you by:FealsTalkspace (offer code: SINGLE)Coors LightSee om...2020-03-2545 min
This Is WhyDating During Coronavirus, Apocalypse & End of the WorldOn this episode we are talking about the only thing we can think about lately: the coronavirus. We discuss how the global pandemic is affecting our lives and our personal relationships. In dating news we discuss how the coronavirus is affecting dating & all of the latest Tinder news regarding coronavirus. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener curious about the etiquette of sharing good news in front of someone bummed out and another listener who doesn’t want to string a guy along. Angela talks about her wedding falling a part and Laura talks about her book ev...2020-03-1859 min
This Is WhyBringing Old Baggage to New RelationshipsThis week we talk about how to avoid bringing past baggage from your old relationships into new ones. In dating news we discuss how to feel comfortable dating after a breakup & the myth of happily ever after and Meghan Markle. Then we answer your listener questions, including one listener who wants to know if all guys are cheaters and another whose boyfriend is convinced she is going to cheat on him. Angela is paranoid about astrology before her wedding and Laura's guy friend dumps a girl he really liked because she was pressuring him about marriage after three months.2020-03-1143 min
This Is WhyWhen People You Like Do Weird ShitThis week we talk about what to do when we find out weird shit about people we are dating – where to draw the line and what we can handle! In dating news we discuss why you might feel sore after sex & 6 ways to improve your relationship. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener who is wondering if it’s fair for her girlfriend with debt to ask her to merge their finances and another wondering if it’s normal to kiss your sister on the lips. Angela talks about Ian's sleep problems and Laura can't handle that Bill H...2020-02-2652 min
This Is WhyWhen the Spark Is GoneThis week we talk about how to tell the difference if the spark is gone for good or you're just in a rough patch in your relationship. In dating news we discuss a study that finds that men are more likely to self-promote than women & tips for meeting your sig other’s parents. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener whose BF told her he no longer feels a spark and another listener who is wondering why she doesn’t feel butterflies for her new guy. Angela talks about how lube came up while she was in the...2020-02-1953 min
This Is WhyRunning From Your ProblemsThis week we talk about running from your problems, which can involve a lot of things: breaking up with someone, money problems, house problems and more. In dating news we discuss wedding therapists are a thing now & how to avoid beard burn. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener dating a flight attendant who is hard to lock down on land and another listener who works in HR but has a work crush. Angela talks about Ian's friend’s mom complaining about her son’s gf not being Jewish in front of her and Laura has a frien...2020-02-0542 min
This Is WhyWhen Family Complicates ThingsThis week we talk about how family can affect relationships. In dating news we discuss bad relationship habits you can learn from your parents & the importance of humility. Then we answer your listener questions including a listener who is dating her brother’s ex and another listener who wants her boyfriend to cut ties with his mom. Angela's friend is frustrated by her bf's hesitation to say "I love you" and Laura's friends burns a portrait of her and her ex in the name of divorce. This week's episode is brought to you by:ThirdLove2020-01-2252 min
This Is WhyDealing With InsecuritiesThis week we talk all about dealing with insecurities and how that affects relationships. Maybe it's an insecurity you have or your partner has – it can cause trouble! In dating news we discuss dreams that might be red flags in a relationship & how to get over heartbreak. Then we answer your listener questions including one guy insecure about his small package and another wondering if it’s normal to fight a lot early in a relationship. Angela talks about Ian's paranoia with bed bugs and Laura talks about a Reddit thread that had a personal shout out. This...2020-01-1545 min
This Is WhyAfraid of CommitmentThis week we talk about why you or someone you like might have a fear of commitment and how to get over it or embrace it. In dating news we discuss the real reason for your fear of commitment & how to break up with someone you love. Then we answer your listener questions, including a listener who is afraid of relationships and another listener who is attempting an LDR without a DTR. Angela talks about battling over the registry with her fiancé and Laura talks about wanting Nic to join her health obsession.This week's episode is brou...2020-01-0849 min
This Is WhyHow to Score a Second DateToday we're talking how to convert a first date into a second date: the right attitude, what to say and more! In dating news: Tinder bios for each zodiac sign & how to make plans without getting a drink. Then we answer your listener questions, including one listener who thinks she’s getting mixed signals and another worried her boyfriend is settling. Angela talks wedding color swatches and Laura talks about traveling without her baby.This week's episode is brought to you by:Sakara (offer code: XOLaura)ProseBioClarity (offer code: SINGLE)...2020-01-0153 min
This Is WhyNew Year, New You (2020 Edition)Happy new year everyone! It's our annual New Year, New You episode where we talk all about how to start the new year fresh when it comes to dating & life. We discuss our personal resolutions and goals and hopefully inspire yours! In dating news we discuss what the new phrase “self partnered” means & how to eat alone and like it. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener who is unsure if a guy is shy or uninterested and one hilarious bad date story. Angela has a co-worker who gives first dates a strange option of splitting an expe...2019-12-251h 01
This Is WhyHow Holiday Rom-Coms Are Lying to YouOn this week’s podcast we discuss how unrealistic those holiday movies on TV are and how they might affect your relationship prospects. In dating news we discuss holiday gift ideas based on your partner’s love language & the most popular day for online dating is approaching. Then we answer your listener questions including a listener who wants to break up with her boyfriend before the holidays and another listener whose real-life rom-com romance didn’t work out as she planned. Angela and Ian spend Thanksgiving a part and Laura tries on a sexy outfit that gets Nic's attention.T...2019-12-1849 min
This Is WhyEverything You Wish Men KnewOn this week's episode we discuss all the dating advice we wish we could tell the guys in our lives from how often to confirm dates (triple confirm!) to how to clean a bathroom (throw away old products stat!). In dating news we discuss a survey that reveals how men view modern masculinity & what men can do to turn their partners on. Then we answer your listener questions including a guy crushing on his new roommate and another guy who wants his lady to initiate some dates. Angela gets negged by a gay guy and Nic holds onto his...2019-12-1148 min
This Is WhyCuffing Season Is BackWe are deep into the middle of Cuffing Season where people pair off during the cold winter holidays! Are you cuffed, looking to be cuffed or avoiding cuffing entirely? We get into it all! In dating news we discuss the viscous cycle that might be affecting your sex life & the science behind cuffing season. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener who is no longer sexually attracted to her long distance bf and another who wonders whether she is leading on a pen pal. Angela worries her movie obsession is too much for Ian to handle and...2019-12-0449 min
This Is WhyThe Importance of Thank YouHappy thanksgiving! This week we talk about the importance of gratitude and saying thank you in your relationship and how to not take the little things for granted. In dating news we discuss the new relationship status more millennials are signing up for & who gets the dog after a divorce. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener who can’t get past the first date and another who is 50 and looking for love. Angela doesn't know what to do when her dad accepts a friend request from her ex boyfriend on Facebook and Laura overreacts when Nic is...2019-11-2746 min
This Is WhyReligion & DatingThis week we talk all about religion when it comes to dating, interfaith relationships and dealing with family. In dating news we discuss how online dating is desegregating America & how to actually follow the dating advice you get. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener who is dating a guy who wants to wait until marriage to have sex and another listener whose ex wanted to wait until marriage to say “I love you." Angela gifts her friend a vibrator to help her deal with stress and Laura meets twins who date the same guy. This...2019-11-201h 05
This Is WhyWorkplace RomancesThis week is all about the dos and don'ts of workplace romances (hint: watch out for problematic power dynamics). In dating news we discuss what to consider before dating a coworker & the difference between happiness and joy and how to find more of it in your life. Then we answer your listener questions including a listener who wants to know if she’s crazy to date a coworker and another listener whose crush won’t date her because they work together. Angela struggles with taking compliments about her relationship with Ian and Laura's hair stylist has a new boyfriend!2019-11-1349 min
This Is WhyMaking AssumptionsThis week we tackle a problem everyone struggles with: making assumptions. We discuss how to not do it (Look for evidence! Put yourself in someone else's shoes!). In dating news we discuss six assumptions that can kill your relationship with employees (and how that relates to dating) & what having a boyfriend has to do with sleep. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener frustrated her boyfriend just assumed she’d be down to do long distance and another listener wondering why she cares so much about getting engaged. Angela's boyfriend goes on a platonic date with one of...2019-11-061h 04
This Is WhyDating Doesn’t Have To Be So ScaryThis week we talk about how get over fears that are holding you back from dating. We all get scared over crazy things real & imagined! Angela talks about going through her grandma's love letters and Laura talks about feeling like a traitor hanging out with a friend's ex and her new boyfriend. In dating news we discuss Tinder's new choose your own adventure series & tips for proposing an open relationship. Then we answer your listener questions including a listener who is afraid of being a spinster and another who doesn’t know who to swipe right on. Thi...2019-10-3041 min
This Is WhyKeeping Your IndependenceThis week we talk about how to keep your independence and identity in a new relationship. In dating news Facebook is officially a dating platform now & how much money the average American spends on dating. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener who is worried she’s made her boyfriend her entire world and another who has been dating a guy for a year who won’t call her his girlfriend. Angela has too many vibrators and Laura learned Nic could step up to the plate when she needed him to in the hospital.This week...2019-10-1644 min
This Is WhyDon't. Date. Dirtbags.This week we talk about the difference between a bad boy and a dirt bag. In dating news we discuss how Venmo is causing relationship drama & the most important things to have in common with your S.O. according to one matchmaker. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener who found out she was the sidechick and another who found out the guy she is seeing is super homophobic. Angela struggles to find a way to show her appreciation to Ian and Laura has a snub in her triple double date plans.This week's episode i...2019-10-0947 min
This Is WhyThe Best Place DateOn this week's episode we discuss whether it's worth it to move for a better dating pool. In dating news we discuss the places with the most singles & the best and worst cities for dating. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener who is considering moving to find a better pool of people to date and another who wants to know if it’s smart to start a relationship off long distance. Angela asks Laura for her advice about a fight with Ian involving her spacing out during a conversation about the Amazon and Laura reveals she ha...2019-09-1846 min
This Is WhyNever SettleThis week we talk about never settling and how to know if you're settling (it can be different for different people!). In dating news a woman writes a viral essay about calling off her wedding & we discuss whether certain wedding traditions have a place in 2019. Then we answer your listener questions including a listener who is letting her insecurities dictate who she dates and another listener who is stuck in a relationship that is not making her happy. Angela is worried she'll be murdered when Ian isn't home and Laura talks about an old couple she became obsessed with...2019-09-0446 min
This Is WhySaying the L WordSaying "I love you" can be a huge deal in a relationship. We discuss when to say it and how to say it this week and what it means if your partner wants to wait. In dating news we talk about why one girl’s breakup ruined her love of Harry Potter & a why a 107-year-old woman thinks staying single is the key to longevity. Then we answer your listener questions including two listeners struggling over how to have that "I love you" conversation. Angela discusses why she's obsessed with Fleabag and Laura talks about how getting sick affected he...2019-08-2155 min
This Is WhyEngagement EtiquetteThis week we talk all about engagement etiquette - how soon can you get engaged after a bff? Do you have to ask a friend to be in your wedding if they asked you? Who can post first? In dating news a woman sells her engagement ring on Facebook & we try out a 7 day love challenge. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener whose engagement plans got overshadowed and another whose crappy ex fiance is crawling back. Angela can't believe no one cried happy tears when she bought her wedding dress and Laura is back from the...2019-08-141h 00
This Is WhyLoving Your Partner’s Quirks ft. guest host Ian Brecher (Angela's fiancé)This week Ian is back as a guest co-host and we talk all about learning to love your partner's quirks - how to laugh at the funny ones and address the annoying ones. In dating news, we learn about signs that you are a “pillow princess” & signs your partner is bad for you. Then we answer your listener questions, including a listener who wants to know whether or not Chuck E Cheese is a good first date spot and another listener wondering if it’s ok to be sad that her sig other didn’t make a big deal out of h...2019-08-0751 min
This Is WhyWaiting for Him to Propose ft. guest host Ian Brecher (Angela's fiancé)This week Laura is out sick so Angela’s fiancé, Ian, fills in to co-host! We talk about how to navigate that awkward pre-engagement phase of a relationship. Angela talks about getting invited to an engagement party but not a wedding and Ian talks about finding a wedding florist. In dating news we discuss the history of the engagement ring & what divorced men say they wish they had done differently in their marriages.Then we answer your listener questions including a male listener with some questionable advice for us on why people are single and another listener whose future sist...2019-07-3152 min
This Is WhyWhen They Won’t CommitThis week we talk about how to handle someone who won't commit to you: whether to give an ultimatum and what to say to a flip flopper. Angela talks about Ian getting hit on at a bachelor party and Laura talks about overhearing a teenager's commentary about her mom group. In dating news we discuss why smaller diamond rings are all the rage & how to bullyproof yourself. Then we answer your listener questions, including a listener whose crush won’t commit and a listener who tries to set up an old fling with a friend and fails.Th...2019-07-1043 min
This Is WhyDating in a New PlaceThis week we talk about tips for dating when you've moved to a new place. In dating news we discuss why you should dump your “toyfriend” & why Hinge got a bump with gay users. Then we answer your listener questions including a listener who got dumped after moving to a new state and another listener who found out her friend and her were being pursued by the same guy! Angela's friends do an engagement shoot with their dog and later found out the dog had a giant boner the entire time and Laura talks about being into "old people" stuff...2019-07-0334 min
This Is WhyReading SignalsThis week we talk about how to observe cues and signals from people to know if they're into you or not and we give both good and bad examples of real life pickups. In dating news we discuss eight things long term couples do & a new study shows that 70% of singles want a serious relationship. Then we answer your listener questions including a guy who wants to know how to strike up a convo with a stranger and another listener who wants to know if she needs to tell her new guy that she’s sexually active with someone els...2019-06-2640 min
This Is WhySaying SorryIt's hard to be the one to say sorry so we give you tips on how to do it! Be the bigger person! Angela talks about getting her but waxed and Laura talks about loving her child versus loving Nic. In dating news a woman does a divorce photo shoot & we give tips on how to make your dating profile stand out. Then we answer your listener questions including a listener trying to forgive a cheater and another listener worried about seeing her ex at graduation.This week's episode is brought to you by Squarespace, BioClarity, and...2019-06-1935 min
This Is WhyHow To Say No To a Second DateThis week we talk about how to turn down a date you weren't that into without feeling guilted on going on another date just to be nice. In dating news we discuss phrases that can cause trust issues & the drugs people like to mix with sex. Then we answer your listener questions including a listener who is afraid she is being too picky and another listener who got into a relationship even tho he knew there was no spark. Angela talks about how choosing a therapist is kind of like dating and Laura tells an inspiring dating story she...2019-06-1244 min
This Is WhyOverthinking EverythingThis week we dive into what happens when you overthink things and how it can affect relationships. Angela talks about her friends' partners doing their hair and then we get serious: we discuss what to do when you and a family member have very different views on abortion. In dating news Facebook has a new dating feature & we tell you how much people gossip a day on average. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener who’s got menu anxiety and another listener who got a booty call from a cross country match and doesn’t know it.2019-06-0552 min
This Is Why200th Episode Special ft. Our hubs and fiance Nic & IanIt's our 200th podcast episode!!! We invite our significant others back to the show to celebrate - producer and Laura's husband, Nic, and Angela's fiance, Ian. First we let them grill us on love, life and the podcast before we turn the tables on them and ask them all our burning questions (like, what do you love most about us). In dating news we discuss how short guys fair on dating apps & how to talk to people. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener who wants to know if its too early to move in with her...2019-05-291h 31
This Is WhyCan You Scare Someone Off?This week we talk about everyone's greatest fear: scaring someone off too soon. Can you actually scare them and how? In dating news we discuss 9 facts about your clitoris & why you might not be as good at kissing as you think. Then we answer your listener questions including two listeners worried about scaring people if they bring up the “what are we?” question. Angela gives an update to a story a out a cannibal date and Laura's friend brings sex toys to a date night.This week's episode is brought to you by Squarespace, Bio Clarity, and Broo...2019-05-2253 min
This Is WhyHelping Friends Through a BreakupThis week we talk about how to help a friend through a rough breakup. In dating news we discuss female condoms & how you should respond if your ex texts you. Then we answer your listener questions including a listener who isn’t sure she should be dating if she’s not over her ex. Angela talks about how her horoscope is freaking her out about her wedding and Laura talks about strangers judging her as a mother. This week's episode is brought to you by Care/Of and Away!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy infor...2019-05-1539 min
This Is WhyHow To Have The Awkward ConvosThis week we talk about how to approach awkward conversations and reveal some of our most awkward convos we've ever had. In dating news we discuss why Americans are having less sex & new data that shows more than half of young people in America don’t have a romantic partner. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener who doesn’t know how to tell a guy she had sex with that it wasn’t good and another who wants to tell her boyfriend to keep his dog off the bed. Angela reveals a secret trick that helps her st...2019-05-0851 min
This Is WhySliding Into DMsThis week we talk about how to reach out to people in their DMs! Maybe you know them already, maybe they're strangers, maybe you have a friend in common – either way, there is a way to do it and not be creepy! Angela's friend gets engagement boobs instead of a ring and Laura learns about scheduling time to swipe from a stranger. In dating news we discuss the new way teens are using Google Docs to message each other & why dating app addiction might hurt your chance of finding love. Then we answer your listener questions including a listener who...2019-05-0142 min
This Is WhyYou’re Not on the Same PageThis week we discuss what to do when you and your significant other are on different pages about major life decisions. In dating news we discuss how to talk to your roommate about their loud sex noises & a blunt text message goes viral. Then we answer your listener questions including a listener who is dating a guy that’s not over his ex and another listener dating a guy with baby mama drama. Angela gets #foodie engagement photos and Laura's cute baby gets her a discount on clothes. This week's episode is brought to you by Brooklinen, Bio...2019-04-2443 min
This Is WhySparking JoyThis week we discuss tips for getting rid of people and things in your life that don't bring you joy! In dating news a woman finds out a man was dating her as a dare & sex robots are a hot trend in porn. Then we answer your listener questions including a listener who wants to know how to turn down a new friendship and another who is trying to get over a toxic ex. Angela has an ex who friends her on Facebook eight years after their breakup and Laura makes date night with her husband a priority.2019-04-1041 min
This Is WhyBreaking The Bro CodeThis week we talk all about what happens when you want to date an ex's friend. Dating in the friend circle is tricky – and we break down when it's cool and when it's not cool. In dating news we discuss tips for rejecting an online suitor & why some couples are creating dating prenups. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener who wants to date an ex’s friend and another who wants to know if she’s on the bench. Angela books a wedding venue and Laura gets asked to be a bridesmaid!This week's episod...2019-04-0357 min
This Is WhyFinding The TimeThis week we talk all about making priorities and finding the time to date. Laura and Angela talk about trying out the new Calexotics sex toys and Angela becomes the queen of a bachelorette party. In dating news: a man proposes to his girlfriend after she stabbed him 13 times & online dating scams cost Americans $143 million. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener dealing with her anger issues and another wondering why it’s always the guys she isn’t into that much who are chasing her down.This week's episode is brought to you by Adam...2019-03-2048 min
This Is WhyRecovering from CheatingWe discuss how to recover from a cheater: not bringing that baggage into a new relationship, cutting the cheater off on social and emotionally recovering (it's not your fault!). Then Angela tells a horrifying true crime dating tale that terrifies Laura. In dating news we discuss a woman who went viral after a guy she met on the train tracked down her phone number & the best places to get married in 2019. Then we answer your listener questions including a listener who found a “disturbing” photo on her boyfriend’s phone and a listener who is trying to work it out wi...2019-03-1338 min
This Is WhyRocking the BoatWe are talking all about rocking the boat in relationships: shaking things up for the good or the bad and when and when not to do it! Angela tells a story about her friend who got in a fight with a guy on Tinder and Laura has her first post-pregnancy period. In dating news we discuss what happens when a guy sends his wife a spreadsheet of her excuses to not have sex & the best and worst states for singles in 2019. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener who isn’t sure whether to have a threesome wi...2019-03-0655 min
This Is WhyDating Your FriendsThis week we talk about what happens when you go from friends to lovers. Sometimes it goes great and other times it can be a major miss! Angela talks about fighting for control in the kitchen with Ian and Laura talks about using the podcast to send Nic hints about their relationship. In dating news, Serena Williams partners with Bumble & a comedy writer comes up with new dating terms inspired by Catfishing. Then we answer your listener questions including a listener who just started dating her best friend and another listener who is interested in dating her friend but w...2019-02-2735 min
This Is WhyTo Move In Or Not Move InThis week we're talking all about moving in with your partner - when to do it and tips to succeed at it! Angela talks about a bridezilla who was overheard complaining that her fiance won't wear lifts to their wedding and Laura talks about her friend's awkward situation with his housekeeper (she's crushing hard on him!). In dating news we discuss why roasting each other might make your relationship stronger and what to look for if your partner isn't ready to move in. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener who is worried about moving in with he...2019-02-2052 min
This Is WhyWill You Be Mine?Happy Valentine's Day! Asking people out is HARD which is why we teach you how by role playing asking people out in different scenarios. Laura and Angela talk about their V-Day plans - the first as an engaged couple and as parents. In dating news a dating concierge service to help couples relight the spark launches & a couple gets married on their first date. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener who is struggling with navigating the bar scene when she’s not single and another listener who needs help messaging an old acquaintance they’ve reunited with...2019-02-1354 min
This Is WhyMoving OnThis week we talk all about moving on from a breakup including why you shouldn't post braggy pics on social media and how long it's okay to cry it out. In dating news a girl uses Tinder to catch a LaCroix thief & we discuss tips about how to make a long-distance relationship work. Then we answer your listener questions including a listener whose best friend won’t let her move on from her ex and a listener who misses her ex’s dog. Angela discusses why she has trouble keeping secrets from Ian and Laura struggles over whether it's rude...2019-01-3046 min
This Is WhyDealing with Deal BreakersWe’re talking all about dealbreakers today - what’s worth calling it quits and what are things you can work through. Angela talks about an over eager guy her friend was dating and Laura talks about Nic learning the gift giving language of love. In dating news we discuss the weirdest dating stats of 2018 & why the idea of “the One” is stressful. Then we answer your listener questions including a listener whose BF is spending more time with his friends than with her and a listener who thinks she intimidates men. This episode is broug...2019-01-2345 min
This Is WhySurviving the HolidaysWe give tips for how to survive the holidays from the road trip to nosy relatives. Angela talks about outsourcing her shopping to her bf Ian and Laura talks about her love of grooming her hubs. In dating news we discuss if Cuffing Season occurs in year-round warm climates & whether you should you breakup before or after the holidays. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener who claims she’s the victim of a new phenomenon called “mosting” and another who wants to know all about having shower sex. This week's episode is brought to you by...2018-12-1945 min
This Is WhyAngela is EngagedThis is a HUGE week at the podcast. Co-host Angela Spera got engaged!!! We recap their love story before Angela finally tells Laura how her boyfriend Ian proposed (hint: it involved a love note). Then Laura grills Angela on all of the annoying questions people ask immediately after you get engaged. In dating news we discuss why Prince William doesn’t wear his wedding ring & what happened when a newly engaged couple’s engagement ring fell down a NYC grate. Next we answer your listener questions including one listener who wants to know if a certain guy she’ll see at...2018-12-121h 11
This Is WhyOn Again, Off AgainWe're talking all about how to get out of that relationship cycling that is on again off again relationships and why people end up in them in the first place. Angela talks about a friend who ended up on a date with a married guy and Laura talks about her hairstylist's ex drama. In dating news we discuss a dating app with an “anti-ghosting” feature & why millennials are ruining divorce. Then we dive into the mailbox to answer your listener questions including a listener who can’t get a text back and a listener who thinks her on again/off ag...2018-12-0535 min
This Is WhyFinding the ThankfulThis week we’re talking about finding the thankful and gratitude in the little things when it comes to dating. Angela talks about her hairstylist's crazy date where she got puked on and Laura talks about a gym pooper. In dating news we discuss why lot’s of relationships don’t make it past the November hump & the best and worst cities for single ladies. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener who wants advice how to flirt at a wedding and another who wants to know why she doesn’t feel bad after crushing heartsThis w...2018-11-2147 min
This Is WhyDealing with Liar LiarsThis week we talk all about how to deal with people who lie and the different types of lies – which ones are okay and which ones are deal breakers. Angela talks about the case of her missing vibrators and Laura talks about going on a new parents retreat. In dating news, we discuss how Bumble is prioritizing user self-care & how often people lie. Then we answer your listener questions, including a listener who has suddenly become “the side hoe” and another listener getting mixed signals from a fuck boi.This week's episode is brought to you by Lola, Br...2018-11-1448 min
This Is WhyWhen Opposites AttractThis week we talk about getting out of your comfort zone and dating someone who is your opposite! Angela talks about discussing circumcision with Brits at a bar and Laura talks about getting turned on by seeing Nic as a dad. In dating news, we discuss why monogamy might be more difficult for women than men & how a woman convinced a man on Tinder they had the same phone number. Then we answer your listener questions, including one listener who is dating a nice guy for once and isn’t sure if she’s into it and another who is w...2018-10-2448 min
This Is WhyClapping Back at CreepsThis week we talk all about how to deal with online creepers – whether to ghost or call them out! Angela discusses an awkward experience with a bikini waxer and Laura talks about the art of "mirroring" with new mommy friends. In dating news we discuss the percentage of people who fall in love on airplanes & why STDs are at an all time high. Then we’re diving into a special creep-themed edition of the mailbox to read how some of our listeners have clapped back at creeps in person and online.This week's episode is brought to you by...2018-10-0342 min
This Is WhyDealing with a Fuckboy/girlThis week we talk all about how to deal with those fuckboys and fuckgirls who drive you nuts! Angela and Laura discuss their birthdays (hint: all of Angela's friends thought she was getting engaged and Laura's involved spraying breastmilk at her friends and her baby getting kicked out of a bar). In dating news we discuss a 'sex zodiac' service from YouPorn & what words to include in your dating profile to get right swipes. Then we answer your listener questions including one girl who found her boyfriend flirting on Facebook and another girl who is wondering whether she’s wast...2018-09-2654 min
This Is WhyIt’s Never Too LateThis week we talk about why it's never too late to date, have sex or any other milestone you're worried about! We read emails from listeners of all ages who are worried they are TOO late and guess what? They're not! Angela talks about how her introversion is affecting her sex life and Laura talks about speed dating to look for new couple friends. In dating news we discuss how to feel sexier according to science & why it's really bad to have an on again-off again relationship. Then we answer your listener questions including a listener who is worried...2018-09-1253 min
This Is WhyDating Is HardThis week we talk about all the ways dating is hard and ways you can start to feel a bit better about it (and make it easier on yourself!). In dating news we talk about a man who could go to prison for “dining-and-dashing” on dates & why we sometimes feel sad after sex. Then we answer your listener questions including how to handle a 40-year-old lifeguard fuckboy and whether or not it’s okay to ask a girl to hang if she dumped you. Angela talks about her friend who traveled alone and why that should inspire daters to do the...2018-09-0549 min
This Is WhyLaura Had a BabyLaura had her baby! She gets into the nitty gritty of her birth story and answers all of Angela's deep dark post-birth questions. Angela shares how she spent their maternity leave -- working on her relationship with her boyfriend and agreeing to some things she never thought she would! Then we talk about what’s new in dating news: a study that concludes that for online daters, women peak at 18 while men peak at 50 & an IG model that epically scammed her Tinder matches. Then we answer your listener questions including a mortifying “oopsie text” and a twenty-something who has never...2018-08-2258 min
This Is WhyShould I Stay or Should I GoShould you stay in a relationship or should you go? That is the big topic this week! We go over a list of questions to ask if you're thinking about leaving a relationship that is just so-so (no one cheated, you're just not feeling it). We also test out the Satisfyer sex toy, Angela talks about why Ian is not proposing in Italy and Laura talks about feeling all the feels in the last few weeks with Nic before the baby. In dating news we chat about penis extenders and explain what rubber stalling is and why it's bad...2018-08-0858 min
This Is WhyAll Talk, No ActionWe talk all about what to do when someone "talks the talk: about hanging out and dating but won't "walk the walk" and make a move. Angela talks about sleeping on the couch and Laura talks about hypnosis to avoid a c-section. In dating news, we discuss the sex benefits of eating more seafood and what to do when you hate your engagement ring. Then we answer your listener questions, including some of the worst dating app messages our listeners have received and a listener who had a co-worker drunkenly admit their feelings. This episode is brought t...2018-08-0143 min
This Is Why3 Year Anniversary with Jake & AmirIt's our 3 Year Anniversary so we welcome back our HeadGum podcast network founders, comedians Jake & Amir! Together, we recap the best things we've learned over the year from our top episodes: Mastering First Dates, The Sex Date, Laura's Pregnant, Creating a Dating Checklist and Squirting and Sex Tips! In dating news, we discuss the low down on whether it’s safe to have sex in a hot tub & why gluten-free condoms are a thing. Then we answer one listener who’s deciding whether to give her Prius-driving dude who lives with his mom a chance and another listener who want...2018-07-251h 02
This Is WhyNot Everything Goes As PlannedLaura and Angela divulge their own personal circumstances that have not gone as planned (Laura found out she's missing organs! Angela finds out that temping sucks!) and how it's affected their relationships. We discuss a new study about a quick trick to get over breakups, read horrendous online messages and help a listener decide what she should do about her sig other who's been posting sleazy Snapchats.This episode is sponsored by Squarespace and AaptivSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.See omnystudio.com...2017-05-1749 min
This Is WhyLate Bloomers Still BloomLaura and Angela talk about their own early and late "blooming" milestones and Angela divulges a Big-O secret (spoiler alert: she didn't learn to masturbate until college!). They also talk about bidets, a new app for "smart people" and they help a listener with a big guilty secret: she didn't tell her friends about her boyfriend and now wants to lean on them for the breakup.This episode was sponsored by Blue Apron & Le Tote.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.See omnystudio.com...2017-05-1054 min
This Is WhyYou Don't Know Where to Meet PeopleLaura and Angela catch up! Laura learns her husband is going to see his ex at a wedding and Angela explains why her boyfriend calls her "Angie Boo Boo Hamilton." Then we brainstorm pickup lines for any occasion.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.2016-06-0137 min
This Is WhyYou're Bad at Small Talk ft Comedian Josh RubenThe girls are joined by fellow Headgum podcaster Josh Ruben (Josh's Mindhouse) who tells us what happened when he ran into his decade-old ex at SXSW. Then we read a study about when the right time to fart in front of a significant other is and try to step up our small talk game.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.2016-04-1344 min
This Is WhyYou're Too Worried About a Timeline ft. Keisha Zollar & Andrew KimlerLaura and Angela welcome HBO's upcoming Divorce guest star Keisha Zollar & her husband (and Laura and Angela's sketch show co-star!) Andrew Kimler. The couple star in the Emmy-winning docu series, The Skin Deep, and get personal about relationship bathroom boundaries. Then we answer one listener's conundrum about following bro codes when it comes to dating and discuss how concerned you should be about following a relationship timeline.This week's episode is brought to you by Southern Comfort and Red Flags.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy...2016-03-0247 min
This Is WhyYou Don't Know How to Compromise ft. Our Real Life BaesLaura and Angela invite their real life significant others on the show – Laura's hub, Nic, and Angela's bf, Ian – to get real about their own relationship. The guys answer questions including what they liked better about being single and more importantly, if their lady was a sound, what sound would she be? We also talk about love words from different languages, sex trends throughout history and we dive into a listener's Tinder mailbox.This week's episode is brought to you by Squarespace.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com...2015-11-1148 min
This Is WhyYou're Dating a Man Child ft. Jake Hurwitz and Amir BlumenfeldThis week the girls welcome the HeadGum founding fathers Jake and Amir to the podcast and get their highly coveted dating advice. We review the Burning Man missed connections, an app for bacon lovers, and what it means to be a Man Child. It turns out that both Jake and Amir are real grown ups. Oh and remember that time that Jake and Laura went to Burning Man together? Needless to say, this episode gets very real.This episode was brought to you by Ball Park Beef Jerky and Blue Apron.See Privacy Policy at https://art19...2015-10-1452 min
This Is WhyYou Keep Going on Bad DatesThis week we find out what makes a penis look good as well as why it's apparently a bad month to be a cheater. Did Angela's friend meet a dude on Grindr while at separate bachelor parties in a strip club? Yes! Yes he did! Also we dive into Angela's wildly popular OKCupid mailbox. Finally we cap it all off with a bad date Mad Libs. This week's episode is brought to you by Squarespace and Dollar Shave Club.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info....2015-10-0732 min
This Is WhyYou Leave No MysteryThis week Laura and Angela discover a dating service based on your browser history and some boxers that help men conceal their boners. Angela matches with an ex-crush on Tinder and then we dive into the treasure trove that is her OKCupid mailbox. Finally the girls test their ability to discern when it's a good time in the dating process to reveal deep dark secrets. How much mystery is too much mystery? How much is not enough? Will you know after this episode? It's truly a mystery!This week's episode is brought to you by Squarespace and MeUndies.2015-09-0938 min
This Is WhyYou're Calling Dibs on EveryoneLaura Lane and Angela Spera talk lingerie, loud sex, and why you can't call 'Dibs' on a human being. If you like what you hear check out their book available December 8th at thisiswhyyouresinglebook.com! This podcast is part of the HeadGum network, produced by Nic Rad at Tipjar studios.This week's episode is brought to you by Squarespace and NatureBox.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.2015-07-3032 min