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Unscripted: Intelligent exploration of intimacy, power and eroticismEpisode 2: From Soulmate to Side Condiment: A True StoryWhat a jar of Vegenaise taught me about intimacy, disappearance, and remembering my worthIf you’ve followed my previous podcast (Sexplicit), you’ll notice a shift — in tone, in depth, in direction. This isn’t a new beginning, but a deepening.In this first season I’ll be reading some of my own writings — essays and reflections that, to my surprise, have resonated deeply with so many people. I first shared them as blog posts and was gobsmacked by the messages I received — stories, confessions, thank-yous — from people who felt seen in ways they hadn’t expected...
2026-02-1006 min
The Good GPExploring female sexual dysfunctionIn this episode of The Good GP, Dr Krystyna de Lange is joined by Anisa Varasteh, a clinical sexologist, psychotherapist, and former president of the Society of Australian Sexologists, to discuss the topic of female sexual dysfunction and its management in general practice.Anisa Varasteh provides a thorough overview of the multifaceted nature of female sexual dysfunction, emphasising the complex interplay between biological, psychological, relational, and social factors. Highlighting the impact of chronic stress, nervous system overload, and the relational context on sexual function. Psychological factors such as anxiety, depression, trauma, and body image concerns are explored...
2026-02-0919 minUnscripted: Intelligent exploration of intimacy, power and eroticismUnscripted-Episode 1: This Isn’t About Sex (But It Is)If you’ve followed my previous podcast (Sexplicit), you’ll notice a shift — in tone, in depth, in direction. This isn’t a new beginning, but a deepening.In this first season I’ll be reading some of my own writings — essays and reflections that, to my surprise, have resonated deeply with so many people. I first shared them as blog posts and was gobsmacked by the messages I received — stories, confessions, thank-yous — from people who felt seen in ways they hadn’t expected.So I wanted to bring those pieces to life in audio form as well— for...
2026-01-3109 minUnscripted: Intelligent exploration of intimacy, power and eroticismBonus Episode: The Untold Realities of Male Sex WorkWhat makes someone leave a corporate career to become a male escort? In this eye-opening conversation, Anisa sits down with George Goulburn, who shares his unexpected journey into the world of professional intimacy.George talks about: The emotional and psychological depth of his work The profound impact he has on his clients’ lives The biggest misconceptions about male sex work Why intimacy—paid or not—is a fundamental human needThis episode challenges everything you think you know about sex work. Whether you’re curious, skeptical, or just eager to hear a fr...
2025-02-1240 min
Unscripted: Intelligent exploration of intimacy, power and eroticismBonus Episode – Lynton’s StoryIn this special bonus episode, we step away from expert interviews to sit down with everyday people. Silence and stigma around sexuality can leave us feeling isolated, misunderstood, or even ashamed, but sharing stories reminds us that we’re not alone.Today, I’m joined by Lynton, who candidly shares his personal story. Together, we explore:Polyamory: What it means to embrace ethical non-monogamy.Difficult Conversations: Navigating open and honest communication with partners, even when it’s uncomfortable.The Role of Vulnerability in Connection: How being vulnerable can deepen intimacy and fo...
2025-01-1631 min
Unscripted: Intelligent exploration of intimacy, power and eroticismS2E6- Sexual Confidence & Gender DiversityIn this conversation, Anisa Varasteh and Stacey Micallef discuss the concept of sexual confidence in relation to gender identities and the challenges faced by gender diverse individuals. Stacey shares practical tips for enhancing sexual confidence and emphasises the freedom that comes with gender diversity. The discussion also touches on the connection between gender and sexuality, and how individuals can find inclusive therapists to support their journey.Chapters00:00 Introduction 04:16 Challenges Faced by Gender Diverse Individuals07:01 Impact of Body Acceptance on Confidence11:26 The Importance of Labels i...
2024-12-3039 min
Unscripted: Intelligent exploration of intimacy, power and eroticismS2E5- Sexual Confidence Post-Infidelity with Kate DempseyIn this episode of Sexplicit, Anisa sits down with Clinical Sexologist Kate Dempsey to explore the complex journey of rebuilding sexual confidence after infidelity. This episode delves into the intense emotional landscape that can emerge after betrayal, examining the ways it affects one’s sense of erotic confidence and other areas of life. With practical tips grounded in Internal Family Systems (IFS), Anisa and Kate discuss strategies to manage overwhelming feelings and begin the healing process.Kate is an Accredited Clinical Psychosexual Therapist, Certified IFS Clinical Consultant, and Clinical Sexuality Educator. She teaches in the Psychosexual Therapy Pos...
2024-11-0637 min
Reloscope: The Relationship Science Insights PodcastAnisa Varasteh: The Psychology of Seduction | Reloscope #63Dancing in the murky waters of seduction—where desire meets deception—often goes far beyond a couple of amusing lines. So, this week on Reloscope: The Relationship Science Insights Podcast, host Marie Stella is joined by sexologist Anisa Varasteh for psychological insights and expert advice on how to speak the language of seduction.
As a sexologist, Anisa Varasteh works with her clients to discover and re-discover what is fulfilling, meaningful and pleasurable for them. Offering services in both English and Persian, she supports her clients with their relationships, sense of identity, sex life, and everything in between.
2024-10-1045 min
Unscripted: Intelligent exploration of intimacy, power and eroticismS2E4-Sexual Confidence for Heterosexual Men with Cam FraserIn this episode of Sexplicit, join Anisa as she dives deep into the topic of sexual confidence for heterosexual men with Cam Fraser, a Certified Professional Sex Coach and Certified Sexologist. Together, they explore the barriers men face when it comes to sexual confidence and provide practical strategies to overcome them.Topics Covered:Insecurities and anxieties men commonly experience in the bedroomThe influence of social norms and masculine identity on sexual confidenceHow sexual education (or lack thereof) shapes men's sexual experiencesPractical tips and resources to build lasting sexual confidenceAbout Our Guest:
2024-09-2233 min
Unscripted: Intelligent exploration of intimacy, power and eroticismS2E3- Sexual Confidence After TraumaIn this episode Anisa has a conversation with Ella Shannon, the National Chair of the Society of Australian Sexologists, for a candid conversation about sexual confidence after trauma. They explore strategies to reclaiming sexual confidence following traumatic experiences, offering hope and guidance to those on the path to healing.Key Topics Discussed:What is Sexual Confidence? AIs it Possible to Feel Confident Again? Practical Tips for Reconnecting with Safety and Pleasure.The Role of TherapyHow to Find the Right Therapist.
2024-09-0820 min
Unscripted: Intelligent exploration of intimacy, power and eroticismS2E2-Sexual Confidence for SinglesIn this episode, we dive deep into the world of sexual confidence with Caitlin V.Caitlin V is a sex and relationship coach, YouTuber, and host of Good Sex on Max and Discovery+. Formerly a professional sexual health researcher, she dropped out of her PHD program to start a career coaching men to gain confidence, satisfaction, and transformation both inside and outside the bedroom. Caitlin’s mission is to create a sex and pleasure-positive world. Caitlin shares practical tips and strategies to enhance your sexual confidence, making this episode a must-listen for anyone looking to feel mor...
2024-08-2238 min
Unscripted: Intelligent exploration of intimacy, power and eroticismS2E1-Sexual Confidence in Long-Term RelationshipsIn this episode, Anisa is joined by Jacqueline Hellyer, one of Australia’s leading sexologists and the founder of the Lovelife Clinic. They dive deep into the nuances of sexual confidence within long-term relationships, exploring what it truly means to feel confident and connected with your partner over time.Key Topics Discussed:Understanding Sexual ConfidenceChallenges to Sexual Confidence in Long-Term RelationshipsImpact of Communication on ConfidenceChallenging Societal Norms and ExpectationsPractical Tips for ImprovementResources Mentioned:Lovelife Cli...
2024-08-0838 min
The Huddle Leadership Podcast with Kate RussellEp 13 - Sexual Harassment in the workplace with Anisa VarastehAnisa Varasteh, Director at Relate Training Institute, is helping workplaces become more psychologically safe. Listen as Kate and Anisa discuss the new law mandates and changes in legislation, and what you can do as a company or business to take a proactive approach to preventing sexual harassment in the workplace. You'll also hear:how to identify and mitigate psychological hazardsthe importance of setting boundaries and clear expectationswhat constitutes harassment and how to provide supporthow to respond to allegations in a nuanced manner... and so much more!Find Anisa Varasteh...
2024-08-0529 min
NICU Babies Parent SupportS6 E103: Sex after the NICU ft. Anisa VarastehSex after a NICU stay. Is it an oxymoron? Whether you're fearful or excited, sexologist Anisa Varasteh with Relate Sexology shares what the postpartum body feels like, how to talk to your partner, how to address fear, tips for developing better intimacy and when to reach out for professional help. 💚 Connect with the host, Kathryn Whitaker: Instagram | Facebook | Website 💚 Connect with the guest, Anisa Varasteh: Instagram | Facebook | Website 📺Socials 📺 Instagram | Facebook | Twitter | Pinterest Music: Thriving Together [Full version] by Musi...
2024-05-2240 minNICU Babies Parent SupportS6 E103: Sex after the NICU ft. Anisa VarastehSex after a NICU stay. Is it an oxymoron? Whether you're fearful or excited, sexologist Anisa Varasteh with Relate Sexology shares what the postpartum body feels like, how to talk to your partner, how to address fear, tips for developing better intimacy and when to reach out for professional help. 💚 Connect with the host, Kathryn Whitaker: Instagram | Facebook | Website 💚 Connect with the guest, Anisa Varasteh: Instagram | Facebook | Website 📺Socials 📺 Instagram | Facebook | Twitter | Pinterest Music: Thriving Together [Full version] by Musi...
2024-05-2240 minUnscripted: Intelligent exploration of intimacy, power and eroticismEpisode 18- My Birth Story and Tips on Postpartum IntimacyIn this engaging episode, join Anisa, as she candidly shares her birth story and imparts valuable tips on minimising the risk of birth trauma. Get ready for an insightful discussion covering postpartum intimacy with Anisa Varsteh and Candice Care-Unger, both experienced clinical sexologists. Highlights include:Anisa's personal birth journeyPractical advice on reducing the likelihood of birth traumaTips and perspectives on navigating post-party intimacyYou can contact Anisa on relatesexology.comYou can contact Candice on carerehab.com.au
2024-01-0540 min
So Much Uncensored#2 - Diving into Controversies: Sexuality, Kink, Gender, and Identity with AnisaToday's special guest is Anisa Varasteh who is a clinical sexologist*. Anisa is Samim's oldest sister, and was the first one in the family to leave their religion.This episode starts off with a very personal anecdote about a letter than Samim received from her when he was 15 years old and at the peak of his religiosity. Anisa then delves into some of the myths surrounding sexuality education, and ways that we can keep kids and teenagers safe in today's sex-crazed world.We eventually branch off into everyone's favourite topic: KINK & BDSM. Anisa explains to...
2023-09-281h 21
Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam Fraser#176 BDSM, Therapy, and Trauma (with Anisa Varasteh)On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Anisa Varasteh. Anisa is a Clinical Sexologist, the Director of Relate Sexology, and the President of the Society of Australian Sexologists (SA/NT branch). Anisa provides therapy to individuals and partners as well as consultancy and training on mental health and sexuality related topics to clinicians and organizations. She is passionate about her work as a sexologist as she has the privilege to be part of people's journey to discover and re-discover what is fulfilling, meaningful, and pleasurable for them. She has worked with couples, individuals and people in multi-partnered relationships...
2023-08-1154 minUnscripted: Intelligent exploration of intimacy, power and eroticismEpisode 17- Candid Conversations on Sexuality and My Path to Relate SexologyIn this episode, I'm opening up and sharing my story, giving you a glimpse into what led me to become a clinical sexologist.Amanda (Relate Sexology's Communications Manager) and I will be diving deep into the fascinating topic of why sex is taboo and shining a light on the historical policing of women's sexuality. It's a topic that hits close to home for many of us, and together, we'll explore why these issues persist and how they impact our lives today.This episode is all about connection and breaking down barriers. I hope you will f...
2023-05-2239 min
Inside the BoxHow to overcome low libido and build a strong intimate relationship after having a baby, with Sexologist Anisa VarastehAnisa Varasteh is a clinical sexologist based in Adelaide and owns Relate Sexology. She is a trained professional who specialises in human sexuality and helps navigate people through areas in which they may find themselves stuck, confused, needing more information, or desiring to improve their sexual and relational well being. She is a new mum herself and shares a passion for helping women in the space of relationships and intimacy as they navigate new parenthood. In this episode we cover:What are the most common blocks women describe after having a baby in regards to sex a...
2023-05-1640 minUnscripted: Intelligent exploration of intimacy, power and eroticismEpisode 16- Some surprising facts about kink & BDSMIn this episode you will hear Anisa Varasteh Clinical Sexologist discuss:-Why people are interested in such extreme practices- Is kink a sexual practice?-Why there is a high representation of asexual and neurodivergent people in kink community-Do masochists really enjoy pain?-Sub/Dom space: an altered state of consciousnessLinks:https://www.relatesexology.com/healing-through-kink
2023-01-3026 min
Evolution of IntimacyE6 Multi-Partnered Relationships with AnisaMy wonderful guest for this episode is Anisa Varasteh. She is a Clinical Sexologist, the Director of Relate Sexology and the President of the Society of Australian Sexologists (SA/NT branch). Anisa articulates beautifully the different types of multi-partnered relationships that are transparent and ethical, from 3somes, swinging, hierarchical poly to relationship anarchy. She also shares some wonderful insight into jealousy and insecurity that will be helpful to all listeners, regardless of the types of relationship they are in.
2022-10-0123 min
Evolution of IntimacyE6 Multi-Partnered Relationships with AnisaMy wonderful guest for this episode is Anisa Varasteh. She is a Clinical Sexologist, the Director of Relate Sexology and the President of the Society of Australian Sexologists (SA/NT branch). Anisa articulates beautifully the different types of multi-partnered relationships that are transparent and ethical, from 3somes, swinging, hierarchical poly to relationship anarchy. She also shares some wonderful insight into jealousy and insecurity that will be helpful to all listeners, regardless of the types of relationship they are in.
2022-10-0123 minUnscripted: Intelligent exploration of intimacy, power and eroticismEpisode 15- When sex hurtsIn this episode you will hear Anisa Varasteh Clinical Sexologist discuss:Underlying causes of sexual painstrategies to address painful sexTo book an appointment with Relate Sexology team go to : relatesexology.com/our-team
2022-04-2717 minUnscripted: Intelligent exploration of intimacy, power and eroticismEpisode 14- "Am I sexually normal?"In this episode Anisa Varasteh, Clinical Sexologist discusses:What normal means in a sexual contextWhat influences our ideas of normalityHow pre-occupation with 'normality' can impact our sexualityWhat to do if you think you are not normal
2022-03-1625 minUnscripted: Intelligent exploration of intimacy, power and eroticismEpisode 13- Developmentally typical sexual behaviours in children and young peopleIn this episode you will hear Anisa Varasteh Clinical Sexologist discuss:-Discerning developmentally typical sexual behaviours in children from concerning behaviours-Examples of developmentally typical behaviours and concerning behaviours in 4 age groupsSubmit your questions anonymously here: https://www.surveymonkey.co.uk/r/DNMZV75
2022-02-1720 minUnscripted: Intelligent exploration of intimacy, power and eroticismEpisode 12- How to feel erotically more confidentIn this episode you will hear Anisa Varasteh Clinical Sexologist discuss: 7 common blocks to erotic confidenceSpecific tips and suggestions for addressing each of these obstacleLink to Discover Your Erotic Self: https://www.relatesexology.com/sexuality-workshop-erotic-self
2022-01-1133 minUnscripted: Intelligent exploration of intimacy, power and eroticismEpisode 11- Intimacy and sex after sexual assaultIn this episode Anisa Varasteh, Clinical Sexologist discusses: · The impact of sexual assault on relationships · Why sex and intimacy can be very challenging after sexual assault · How to re-build intimacy if you find any sexual or physical activity triggering · What partners can do to support their loved one · Strategies to enjoy intimacy again · What type of therapist can help with intimacy related issues post trauma Submit your questions anonymously here: https://www.surveymonkey.co.uk/r/DNMZV75
2021-11-2722 minUnscripted: Intelligent exploration of intimacy, power and eroticismEpisode 11- Intimacy and sex after sexual assaultIn this episode Anisa Varasteh, Clinical Sexologist discusses:· The impact of sexual assault on relationships· Why sex and intimacy can be very challenging after sexual assault· How to re-build intimacy if you find any sexual or physical activity triggering · What partners can do to support their loved one · Strategies to enjoy intimacy again· What type of therapist can help with intimacy related issues post traumaSubmit your questions anonymously here: https://www.surveymonkey.co.uk/r/DNMZV75
2021-11-2722 minUnscripted: Intelligent exploration of intimacy, power and eroticismEpisode 10- Are you in a relationship with a narcissist?In this episode Anisa Varasteh, Clinical Sexologist discusses:What is narcissism? Identifying narcissism in relationships Early signs and red flags for narcissism in romantic and sexual relationshipsThe impact of long-term relationships with a narcissistLeaving a toxic relationship with a narcissist
2021-10-2721 minUnscripted: Intelligent exploration of intimacy, power and eroticismEpisode 9- Why the 5 Love Languages may be hurting your relationshipIn this episode, Anisa Varasteh, Clinical Sexologists will discuss: What the 5 Love Languages areWhy they may be hurting your relationshipTips for healthy relationshipsManaging conflicts in a relationship Submit your questions anonymously here: www.surveymonkey.co.uk/r/DNMZV75More about Relate Sexology: www.relatesexology.com
2021-09-2921 minUnscripted: Intelligent exploration of intimacy, power and eroticismEpisode 8- Can watching porn impact your mental health, sexual functioning or relationship?In this episode Anisa Varasteh, Clinical Sexologist answers your questions about pornography:-What is pornography?-Can watching porn impact your mental health, sexual functioning or relationship?-What is ethical pornography?-Can porn be helpful?-Does violent porn lead to violent behaviour?-I am a non-violent person but interested in BDSM, does it mean I have an underlying desire to hurt others?-Can you develop porn addiction by watching porn?-How can I identify if I am addicted to porn?
2021-08-2420 minUnscripted: Intelligent exploration of intimacy, power and eroticismEpisode 7- Things no one told you about open relationshipsIn this episode, you will hear: Why do people choose open relationships?How common is non-monogamy?What do I/we need to do if we want to explore an open relationship?Essential skills you need for a successful relationshipDifferent relationship structuresLinks to resources mentioned in this episode:Submit your questions here: https://www.surveymonkey.co.uk/r/DNMZV75Worksheet:https://www.relatesexology.com/resourcesBooks:Polyamory by M...
2021-07-2419 minUnscripted: Intelligent exploration of intimacy, power and eroticismEpisode 6- In the therapy roomIn this episode:• Healing attachment wounds in therapy• Listen to Anisa using Internal Family Systems to support someone who has anxiety around dating
2021-06-1933 minUnscripted: Intelligent exploration of intimacy, power and eroticismEpisode 5- What your sexual fantasies say about youWhat your sexual fantasies say about youIn this episode, you will hear: The origin of sexual fantasiesThe most common sexual fantasies and why people have themThe psychology of sexual fantasiesDifference between fantasy and desireHow to communicate with your partner about sexual fantasiesLinks to resources mentioned in this episode:Submit you questions here: https://www.surveymonkey.co.uk/r/DNMZV75Healing Through Kink online training: www.relatesexology.com/healing-through-kink
2021-05-2029 minUnscripted: Intelligent exploration of intimacy, power and eroticismEpisode 4- Why your choice of partner is not always a free choice.In this episode you will hear:Impact of childhood experiences on adulthood relationshipsAttachment styles How attachment styles impact intimate relationshipsStrategies to form new healthy relationshipsTo book a therapeutic session with Anisa visit:https://www.relatesexology.com/Books mentioned in the podcast:Healing Trauma by Peter LevineThe body keeps the score by Bassel van der Kolk
2021-04-2141 minUnscripted: Intelligent exploration of intimacy, power and eroticismEpisode 3- Demystifying Female OrgasmIn this episode, you will hear: Orgasm as a social constructThe common myths about female orgasmHow do porn and the media impact our sexuality?Redefining foreplay and sexAnorgasmiaThe impact of language on experiencing sexual pleasureWays to explore pleasureHow to discuss masturbation with your partnerChoosing body-safe sex toysFor more information about the therapeutic services I offer visit: www.relatesexology.com
2021-03-1131 minUnscripted: Intelligent exploration of intimacy, power and eroticismEpisode 2- The psychology of seductionThe psychology of seductionIn this episode:The difference between being friendly and flirtyHow not to get “friend-zoned”Common mistakes people make when they want to seduce someoneHow to avoid such mistakesHow not to come across as “predatory” or “too much”Step-by-step guide to seduce another personHow to ask for consent without “killing the mood”Free online course: Discover Your Erotic Style:https://www.relatesexology.com/sexuality-workshop-desire-styleDiscover Your Erotic Self Workshop:https://www.relatesexology.com/sexuality-workshop-erotic-selfBook 1:1 therapy with Anisa:https://www.relatesexology.com/contact
2021-02-0734 minUnscripted: Intelligent exploration of intimacy, power and eroticismEpisode 1-Kink & BDSMWelcome to Sexplicit, sexuality podcast which offers free quality sexuality education for adults. My name is Anisa Varasteh I am a clinical sexologist and registered mental health practitioner.In this episode, you will hear: Definition of kink & BDSMMyths and facts about kinkHow my story as a sexologist beganLinks to resources mentioned in this episode:Submit you questions here: www.relatesexology.com/contactHealing through kink online training: www.relatesexology.com/healing-through-kinkRelate Sexology website: https://www.relatesexology.com/Please note Sexplicit is a...
2021-01-1226 min