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Conversations with Annalisa BarbieriWomb Life. Life before we are born with psychotherapist Graham MusicThis podcast was inspired by Graham Music's book of the same name, Womb Life which is the best book on pregnancy I've ever read.Graham and I talk about the secret life of twins in the womb and how their observed behaviour (via ultra sound) can translate to life outside the womb, too. Why did one little boy shake all his toys? What was he looking for? Do babies really cry in the womb? We find out in this episode.What can affect a foetus? How much does stress and nutrition matter? Does...2025-05-1556 minConversations with Annalisa BarbieriThe Parentified Child with psychotherapist Lisa BrutonIn this, the penultimate episode of Series 9, I talk to UKCP accredited psychotherapist Lisa Bruton who is also a guest tutor at the University of Oxford. We talk about the Parentified Child. Which is? A child who has been given too much responsibility - either physical or emotional - too young. The impact of this is interesting. Do you often find yourself being the most responsible person in the room? Do people look to you for advice (ahem) and guidance? It may be because you are used to performing this role, from way too young. Parentified children can grow...2025-05-0836 minConversations with Annalisa BarbieriHope and Loss with psychologist and psychoanalyst Dr Stephen BlumenthalIn this episode, an idea suggested by my conversationalist, clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst Dr Stephen Blumenthal, we explore the big, painful emotion of loss.We tend to body swerve feeling or thinking about loss, and who can blame us? It hurts, it’s horrible. But loss is essential to growth - think of a snake shedding its skin. In order to go onto the next stage we need to leave the one we’re at.But there’s normal loss such as leaving school or a job, and traumatic loss where everything comes at onc...2025-05-0150 minConversations with Annalisa BarbieriRetirement: should you, could you? From a psychological POV with psychotherapist Chris MillsIncreasingly I get asked this question a lot in my Guardian column. Not from a financial POV but the 'should I retire and what will life be like afterwards?' question. Welcome to episode 3 in this series. It's all about a word that has rather negative associations- retirement - but after listening to this hopefully you'll look at it differently.Once upon a time when we retired was dictated by our work place and/or pensions. Or people were so exhausted by their physically demanding jobs they were totally spent by the time...2025-02-1844 minConversations with Annalisa BarbieriShould We Move? With psychotherapist Mark VahrmeyerWelcome to episode 2 of Series 9 (Series 9 will be released sporadically). Should We Move?This has always been a question I've been asked a lot via my Guardian column (and in real life) but after the pandemic it was a question that reached, dare I say it, epidemic proportions. It's a simple enough question but the reasoning behind it can really tell us a lot about ourselves. Many people move to get away from problems, not realising that the problems go with them. This is why a few well aimed questions are worth asking of yourself before...2024-11-1445 minConversations with Annalisa BarbieriBody Image, with Professor Alessandra Lemma, chartered clinical and counselling psychologist and psychoanalyst.I'd been wanting to do this podcast for a while. Professor Alessandra Lemma is one of the most experienced, and insightful, specialists I work with. Every word she shares is a gem. But Pr Lemma's diary is packed and so this took a while to organise. I hope you think it was worth it.The idea for this episode - the first in Series 9 - came to me last year but in reality, it had probably been bubbling away for some years. Alessandra and I were working on a problem for my Guardian column. The problem...2024-10-3150 min
Un Libro e Un TrekkingUn Trekking: Giardino botanico alpino Esperia in Appenino ModeneseOggi porto i tuoi scarponi in Appennino Modenese in mezzo ai fiori e alla biodiversità andiamo al Giardino botanico alpino Esperia. Una vero scrigno di biodiversità tenuto in vita dai volontari del CAI di Modena e dalla responsabile scientifica Dr.ssa Barbieri che ci ha illustrato le potenzialità e la richezza di questo giardino botanico.
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buone letture e buoni passi.
2024-08-1419 minConversations with Annalisa BarbieriA Problem In the Family (and navigating CAMHS) with psychotherapist John CavanaghThis is the last episode, episode six, in Series 8 and in it I talk to UKCP registered family and systemic psychotherapist and John Cavanagh who is also a registered mental health nurse. John specialises in child and adolescent mental health.Often children will manifest with a mental health problem that is indicative of what's going on in the family. We talk about this, what those problems might look like, why it's important to treat children as part of the family unit. John also talks us through the CAMHS system which I know some people find very...2024-08-011h 10Conversations with Annalisa BarbieriFamily Estrangement with Psychotherapist Chris MillsVery early on in my career as The Guardian's Agony Aunt the letters started coming in about family estrangements - the "should I cut X out of my life" style questions. Back then, cutting a family member out was anathema to me but over the years, i came to understand why some people sought it out. The thing is, cutting someone out is rarely the end of the problem. Sometimes it's only the beginning.In this episode I talk to long-time conversationalist psychotherapist Chris Mills about why some situations become so bad that estrangement seems like...2024-07-2550 minConversations with Annalisa BarbieriAttachment with psychotherapist Dr Graham MusicWhat is attachment and how does attachment theory different from the primary real-life attachment we learnt as babies? The two often get confused. In this episode I talk to child, adolescent and adult psychotherapist Dr Graham Music who has been described as "one of the most deep thinking child psychotherapists in the world."We talk about these differences, plus the concept of attachment which is how secure we feel with our primary care given and how our needs were met, and the impact that can have on our later life. Attachment is at the core of...2024-07-1855 minConversations with Annalisa BarbieriForensic Psychotherapy with clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst Dr Stephen BlumenthalForensic psychotherapy is psychotherapy with people who have committed criminal offences. In this episode I talk with clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst Dr Stephen Blumenthal who is registered with the British Psychoanalytic Council and has over thirty years experience in treating people. Stephen started his professional life as a clinical psychologist in a secure unit with offenders. Stephen has also written a couple of books on forensic psychotherapy, the latest of which is called Assessing Risk, a Relationship Approach.I was in conversation with Stephen in Series 7, talking about shame, which would make a good companion listen...2024-07-1155 minConversations with Annalisa BarbieriSelf-sabotage with psychotherapist Ryan Bennett-ClarkeDid you know that procrastination, risky behaviour, blaming others and even infidelity may be a sign of self-sabotage? There are a host of other symptoms, too. In this, episode 2 or Series 8, I discuss with psychotherapist Ryan Bennett-Clarke why we might self sabotage, what it tells us about ourselves and of course, what we can do about it. If you'd like to support us you can leave a one off donation here: https://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieriIf you'd like to listen to this episode, past or future ones, ad free then consider becoming a...2024-07-0453 minConversations with Annalisa BarbieriBaby Loss with Professor Lucy EasthopeWelcome to series 8 of Conversations with Annalisa Barbieri. This episode was Professor Lucy Easthope's idea as it’s something she really wanted to talk about and I’m honoured she has trusted me with this delicate subject. In this episode Lucy talks openly about her very personal five baby losses by miscarriage. Lucy is Professor of Practice of Risk and Hazard at the University of Durham and a Professor in Mass Fatalities at the University of Bath. She studied law at university and has a masters in disaster management and a pHD in me...2024-06-271h 06Conversations with Annalisa BarbieriBirth Trauma with Kim Thomas, journalist and CEO of The Birth Trauma AssociationThis is the final episode in Series 7. It's about birth trauma and I speak with journalist, author and CEO of The BTA, Kim Thomas.We talk about what birth trauma is, what can cause it (we do not go into graphic detail), how it can manifest and how to get help. We discuss the difference between Post Natal Depression and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder brought on by birth trauma. We also discuss the impact of birth trauma on birthing partners.May 2024 update: Parliamentary report.Some organisations we talk about in...2024-03-2151 minConversations with Annalisa BarbieriEnvy with psychotherapist Ryan Bennett-ClarkeInterviewing Ryan Bennett-Clarke for my Guardian column - about something else entirely - we got talking about envy. And what he had to say fair blew my mind.What is envy? How does it differ from jealously? Where does it come from and how does it manifest? If you've ever left a person feeling like little bits of you have been taken away, well envy may be the answer. We talk about how envy feels, why people get jealous or envious, how it's on the rise with social media; and we also talk about some nifty...2024-03-1456 minConversations with Annalisa BarbieriUnresolved Grief (adults bereaved in childhood) with psychotherapist Mandy GoslingAlthough unresolved grief can hit us at any stage in our lives, this episode specifically talks about childhood bereavement and the impact it can have on adulthood. My guest is UKCP and BACP registered psychotherapist and researcher Mandy Gosling who, as we shall hear, has personal experience of early bereavement.An early bereavement can lodge - if not processed - and be carried into adult hood, manifesting as inability to hold down jobs or relationships, feelings of loneliness or depression (of course you can feel all these things without having been bereaved). Mandy talks about her...2024-03-0748 minConversations with Annalisa BarbieriShame with clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst Dr Stephen BlumenthalDr Stephen Blumenthal returns (catch him in Series 2 talking about Intimacy and Trust in Series 5) and this time we're talking about shame. What it is, how it differs to humiliation and embarrassment or even guilt. Shame can make people act differently - either because they are avoiding shame or trying to cover up the shame they already feel. Where does shame come from? And why is some shame useful to society?If you’d like to learn more about Dr Blumenthal and his work you can do so at https://stephenblumenthal.com....2024-02-2944 minConversations with Annalisa BarbieriWhy You Can Never Plan Too Much with Professor Lucy EasthopeProfessor Lucy Easthope is a UK expert and advisor on emergency planning and disaster recover. A world authority on recovery and disaster planning and its aftermath. She’s Professor of Practice of Risk and Hazard at the university of Durham and a professor in Mass Fatalities at the university of Bath.Lucy studied law at university and has a masters in disaster management and a pHD in medicine.In 2022 Lucy published a best selling book that talks a lot about her work and a little about her life called When the Dust Settles, Se...2024-02-2259 min
This Trusted Place with John-Paul Davies: Mental Health, Therapy & Becoming a TherapistS5 | E3 In-Depth Conversation with Annalisa Barbieri, the Renowned Guardian 'Agony Aunt', journalist and podcasterSend us a textReally pleased to have had this fascinating conversation with Annalisa. She writes the dilemma column ‘Ask Annalisa’ in the Guardian, one of the UK’s national newspapers and also now hosts a very successful podcast ‘Conversations with Annalisa Barbieri’, in which she speaks with therapists and psychiatrists about a whole range of psychological issues.Amongst many interesting subjects we cover: - how Annalisa began working on her column - how she chooses the letters - writing her new book with all the things she’s learned from th...2024-02-1651 minConversations with Annalisa BarbieriWhere to Die (Home, Hospice, Care Home or Hospital) with Dr Kathryn MannixWhere to die? Not everyone gets that choice but you or a loved one might and that choice may be to go home from a hospice or hospital or care home, or go into one. In this sensitively handled but hugely informative episode, I talk again to Dr Kathryn Mannix, palliative care doctor and author of two excellent books: With the End in Mind and Listen. We talk about what to think about: care, equipment, environment, all things that need to be carefully considered and weighed up. When my own mother was dying and she wanted to go home...2024-02-151h 13Conversations with Annalisa BarbieriWhat makes a 'real' relationship with psychotherapist Joanna HarrisonNot what makes a relationship real vs fantasy or made up, but the nubbins of relationships, the reality. Many people seem unprepared for what a real relationship looks and feels like, and this might be because of how they are portrayed on TV and on social media where many times it's only the polar opposites which are show: either people talking about how fantastic their relationship is or how terrible. Real relationships are quite ordinary. But what should they be like? Is it okay to argue? When do you know if your relationship has tipped from 'real' to dysfunctional...2023-10-2743 minConversations with Annalisa BarbieriManaging the In-Laws with psychotherapist Hannah SherberskyThe in-laws, long the butt of jokes but in reality rich fodder for my Guardian mail bag. Of course, none of us think of ourselves as troublesome in-laws, but maybe we are? In this episode I talk to psychotherapist and CEO of the association for family therapy and systemic practise. Hannah has been a family and couples psychotherapist who has worked in the mental health service for thirty years. She’s also an associate professor at the university of exeter and deputy director of a clinical training department called CEDAR - clinical education development and research - that sits wi...2023-10-2056 minConversations with Annalisa BarbieriDifficult Conversations Around Suicide with consultant psychiatrist in psychotherapy Dr Jo StubleyTalking about suicide is never easy, yet it's essential. In this difficult episode both Dr Stubley and I bring personal experiences to the conversation in the hope that it might facilitate your own conversations.Dr Jo Stubley is a consultant psychiatrist in psychotherapy and leads the adult section of the trauma service at the NHS Tavistock Centre. Jo is a member of the British Psychoanalytic Society. Regular listeners will recognise that Jo is a returning conversationalist - this is our third episode together. The first one, on trauma in series one, would make a good listening...2023-10-131h 05Conversations with Annalisa BarbieriThe Psychology of Money with psychotherapist Chris MillsWhy do some people find it so hard to talk about money? And whilst it's not a romantic thing to bring up it's absolutely essential if you're thinking of buying a property with someone or moving in with someone. As Chris says if it's difficult to bring up at the beginning of the relationship it's a whole lot harder to bring up at the end when things may have gone wrong.A lot of the letters I get at the Guardian are about Wills and Will disputes and whilst it's about the money, Chris and I...2023-10-0640 minConversations with Annalisa BarbieriHow to Help Siblings of Brothers and Sisters with Additional Needs with Linda Owen, Information Officer for the charity SibsSibs is a charity which supports children and adults who grow up with a brother or sister with additional needs or a long term health condition. And Linda Owen is the rather brilliant, compassionate and informed (aptly) Information Officer for Sibs.A lot of the advice Linda gives can also be applied in a family which doesn’t have a child with these additional needs, and there’s a lot to learn here about sibling dynamics. But of course when a child does have additional needs the sibling can often get overlooked and their needs can feel...2023-09-2945 minConversations with Annalisa BarbieriEveryone's a Narcissist (apparently) with psychotherapist Mark VahrmeyerWelcome to episode 1 of Series 6A good few years ago, I started becoming aware of a term I'd hitherto not really heard much before, outside of my classics lessons: narcissism. Aside from all the s's making it hard to pronounce, I started to notice that it became a catch-all for anyone who was selfish, self centred or vain. Everyone, it seemed, was being called a narcissist. I'm not a fan of overly labelling behaviours (for one it's so lazy) and I have a natural tendency to avoid terms that everyone else is using, but eventually even...2023-09-221h 02
Indipendenza Economica FemminileDa dipendente a imprenditore: il giusto MINDSETStai pensando di metterti in proprio e non sai da che parte cominciare? Ti sei messa in proprio da un po' e non capisci perché non ottieni i risultati sperati e visti sui social nonostante i tanti investimenti fatti? Hai mai pensato che il problema è il tuo mindset?In questa live fatta con la mindset coach @annalisa .landino abbiamo parlato dell'importanza di sviluppare il giusto atteggiamento mentale per riuscire ad avere un business sostenibile e proficuo. Trovi Annalisa su IG.
Ti piacciono i miei contenuti? Vorresti conoscermi meglio o ricevere contenuti esclusivi o appr...2023-08-261h 00Conversations with Annalisa BarbieriUnderstanding Toddlers with child psychotherapist Rachel Melville-ThomasA lot of people struggle with the toddler stage. Where have their lovely, compliant babies gone? I think it's got worse the later we leave parenthood and the more used we are to living in a world where we're (maybe) used to people doing as we ask.Toddlers don't give a damn about all that, and thank goodness. But it's not because they are difficult, they're growing, learning who they are, what the boundaries are and their brains are going through enormous growth. In this episode I talk to child and adolescent psychotherapist...2023-04-241h 06Conversations with Annalisa BarbieriPlanning a Good Funeral with progressive funeral director Louise WinterThis is not a subject many of us discuss is it? Birth plans, maybe, weddings, definitely, but we will all die and we all need a send off, however small and modest. This episode isn't really about planning your own funeral, although it can be of course (but as we'll see, don't be too prescriptive) but it's more that this potentially distressing subject - a funeral is the ultimate distress purchase - is important. Why? A good funeral is the start of grieving, it can help people come together to remember the person who has died. 2023-04-171h 00Conversations with Annalisa BarbieriThe Mechanics of Birth with Lead Research Midwife Amy Sutton ColeThe way labour and birth is depicted on film and TV has bugged me for some years and, I think, does little to make women feel empowered. This episode isn't about how or where to give birth - that's your choice - but we do talk about what happens in an uncomplicated vaginal birth.Amy is the Lead Research Midwife in the Department of Obstetrics and Gynaecology at the university of Cambridge, and study coordinator for the Pregnancy Outcome Prediction Study 2 (POPS2). She's previously worked as a senior research midwife in the NHS, and as the...2023-04-1054 minConversations with Annalisa BarbieriA Question of Trust with psychoanalyst Dr Stephen BlumenthalThis is our first listener requested episode. "Joanne" (not her real name) asked us if we could do an episode on trust, after her husband had an affair. Although Joanne asked some specific questions ("how do I get the trust back/is it good to talk about it"), Dr Blumenthal and I discuss this but also what trust is at its core, beyond romantic relationships, what it means to trust, how do we trust, is it necessary to trust someone to love them, and how to get trust back when it's been lost.Dr Blumenthal spoke...2023-04-0341 minConversations with Annalisa BarbieriTalking about Rape and Sexual Assault with SARSVL CEO Katie RussellThis is a difficult subject, but an important one. I still get letters from people unsure whether they've been the survivor of sexual violence.My guest is Katie Russell, former media officer for Rape Crisis and now CEO of Support After Rape and Sexual Violence Leeds (SARSVL). Katie is a specialist in sexual violence and abuse against women and girls with over 18 years' diverse experience within the Rape Crisis movement and wider voluntary and community sector.In this episode we talk about what rape and sexual assault is, and also address other aspects...2023-03-2752 minConversations with Annalisa BarbieriWhat It Means To Belong with psychotherapist Mark VahrmeyerWhat does it mean to belong? What does it feel like? And does it even matter? I started asking myself this a few years ago, possibly because, as a child of immigrants, I wasn't sure I ever felt like I truly, 100%, ever belonged in any one place. But, does anyone?My specialist, for this episode, Mark Vahrmeyer is a UKCP registered integrative psychotherapist who is very psychoanalytically informed. Mark was born in England to a Dutch father and an English mother but moved extensively, as you’ll hear, as a child. He is a...2023-03-2043 min
WeekendMarina Hyde on Meghan and Harry, navigating festive feuds, embracing pantomime damesMarina Hyde on the people obsessing over Meghan and Harry’s obsessing; columnist Annalisa Barbieri offers guidance on how to navigate tricky Christmas conversations; and journalist Kate Wyver explores the history (and future) of a beloved British seasonal character: the pantomime dame.2022-12-1732 minConversations with Annalisa BarbieriAn Introduction to Sex with specialist in sexology Silva NevesDespite the plethora of information that's now available about sex, across so many mediums, it's still astonishing the misinformation that's spread on sex and the sexual organs. This is likely due to two factors: the adults in children's lives being too embarrassed or falsehoods spread around playgrounds and classrooms by children and young teens who get their 'sex ed' from porn (which doesn't show realistic sex).This is an introduction to sex with sexual and relationship psychotherapist and specialist in sexology, Silva Neves is accredited with COSRT and UKCP. Based on the sort of questions that I...2022-11-2341 minConversations with Annalisa BarbieriBaby-Led Weaning with Gill RapleyIf you've even been near a baby, let alone had one, you've probably heard of baby-led weaning, the idea that babies don't need to have puree laden spoons shovelled into their mouths, but are perfectly capable of feeding themselves. Even choosing their own foods from a pre-prepared selection. Gasp.In this episode I talk to Gill Rapley, whom I first met in 2006 but had heard about a bit before then. She didn't invent BLW but she definitely put it on the map and kicked off a lot of research into this subject. She also co-wrote the...2022-11-1646 minConversations with Annalisa BarbieriHave You Made a Will? How To, Why To with lawyer Gary RycroftYou'd be surprised at the number of people who haven't made a Will. Some of them are the lawyers I speak to. I think this is in large part because no-one wants to think about dying even though - spoiler alert - we're all going to. But the sticking point for many parents is thinking of who to appoint as legal guardian.I've chosen the best, most accessible and friendliest lawyer I work with, aka Gary Rycroft, to talk us through this terrifying subject so you know what to think about, how to make a will...2022-11-0948 minConversations with Annalisa BarbieriUnderstanding the Impact of Child Sexual Abuse with consultant psychiatrist in psychotherapy Dr Jo StubleyThis is not an easy subject, but a necessary one, especially when you hear the statistics on child sexual abuse. Many children don't understand what's happening to them and often can't talk about it until they are way into adult hood and what they perceive to be a 'safe place'. The impact, as we see in this episode, can be life long and pernicious. I talk to consultant psychiatrist in psychotherapy Dr Jo Stubley who leads the adult section of the trauma service at the NHS Tavistock Centre. Jo is a member of the British Psychoanalytic...2022-11-021h 13Conversations with Annalisa BarbieriHow to Motivate Your Child with psychotherapist Graham MusicAt some time or other we've probably all wanted, or needed, to motivate our children. But how? It's both harder and easier than you think and nagging doesn't really work in the long term. Tell you what else doesn't work, reward charts. In this episode I talk to child and adolescent psychotherapist and author, Graham Music who explains the difference between intrinsic and extrinsic motivation, what children really need and why daydreaming is really good for the soul.You can read more about Graham and his work and books on his website: Nurturing Natures.2022-10-2644 minConversations with Annalisa BarbieriDealing with your inner critic with psychotherapist Julia BuenoEver have a nagging voice in your head telling you you're not good enough or could have done something better? You may have an inner critic. In this episode I talk to psychotherapist Julia Bueno, author of Everyone's a Critic, How We Can Learn to Be Kind To Ourselves, published by Virago.We discuss where your inner/self critic may have come from, what you can do to neutralise them, and we learn what cheerleaders and see-saws have to do with it.Learn more about Julia, her work and her books at https...2022-10-1940 min
Little, Brown AudioEveryone's a Critic by Julia Bueno, read by Penelope Rawlins and Julia Bueno (Audiobook extract)Do you beat yourself up after making a mistake? Do you treat yourself worse than you would a good friend?
If these questions strike a chord, it's likely that you contend with unhealthy self-criticism. This mental habit is the cause of so much emotional suffering, and lies at the root of most of the problems that psychotherapists and counsellors encounter.
In Everyone's a Critic, psychotherapist Julia Bueno shares seven case studies, inspired by her practice. They explore some of the reasons why we learn to turn against ourselves, encourage readers to be more curious about their self-critic, and inspire a...2022-08-2504 min
Unlock a Library in Your Pocket With Full AudiobookRespark: Igniting hope and Joy after trauma and depression Audiobook by Dr. Graham MusicListen to this audiobook in full for free onhttps://hotaudiobook.com/freeID: 621562
Title: Respark: Igniting hope and Joy after trauma and depression
Author: Dr. Graham Music
Narrator: Graham Music
Format: Unabridged
Length: 04:02:02
Language: English
Release date: 08-24-22
Publisher: Findaway Voices
Genres: Non-Fiction, Health & Wellness, Marriage & Family, Psychology, Mental Health
Summary:
How can we respark joy and hope after trauma or depression? Acclaimed psychotherapist and trauma expert, Graham Music, delivers a roadmap for reigniting zest and passion in adults and children.
Many are unmotivated, have lost their mojo, listless, retreating inwards or addicted to screens or meaningless activities.
Music outlines...2022-08-244h 02WeekendWeekend podcast: Marina on Trump’s raid, Tom Daley, and HypochondriaThis weekend, columnist Marina Hyde on why the FBI’s search of Donald Trump’s Mar-a-Lago home will lead to him running again in 2024, Simon Hattenstone sits down with diver Tom Daley to discuss how making a documentary about gay rights led to an awakening, and Annalisa Barbieri reveals what triggered – and eventually settled – her late-onset hypochondria.2022-08-1344 minConversations with Annalisa BarbieriWhat Relationships Tell Us About Ourselves with psychoanalytic psychotherapist Susannah AbseHow we are in relationships can tell us not only an extraordinary amount about ourselves, but also how we were brought up. Family patterns can be repeated in every relationship we go onto have. Here I talk about to psychoanalytic psychotherapist Susannah Abse who has over thirty years experience in helping couples. Susannah was CEO of the charity, Tavistock Relationships, for ten years. She has also been Chair of the British Psychoanalytic Council, of which she is a member. Her book Tell me the Truth About Love, 13 Tales From the Therapists Couch, came...2022-07-0448 minConversations with Annalisa BarbieriProcessing Grief with psychotherapist and co-founder of The Good Grief Project, Jane HarrisGrief and death are terrifying words for many of us. Of all the emotions, I’ve found, we really try to body swerve grief. But the thing is, grief doesn't go away if you ignore it. You can't cheat grief, so in this episode we try to look it in the face and talk about why it's important to start processing it and how you might go about this.I speak with psychotherapist and bereaved mother Jane Harris. I first met Jane, and her photographer and film-maker husband Jimmy Edmunds, almost ten years ago. Their son, Jo...2022-06-2745 minConversations with Annalisa BarbieriThe Importance of Knowing and Keeping boundaries with psychotherapist Armele PhilpottsThis was a listener requested topic. Boundaries form the basis of all our relationships, be they with family, work colleagues or romantic partners. Boundaries even matter if you're travelling on public transport! In this episode Armele Philpotts explains how anger is a really useful tool to alert us to a boundary being crossed. How to make boundaries, what they tell us about ourselves, and how to keep them. Armele is a psychotherapist in private practice who specialises in healthy relationships and the effects of trauma. Her website is at: https://apcounselling.wordpress.com/...2022-06-2043 minConversations with Annalisa BarbieriAdoption with psychotherapist and adoption specialist Alison RoyI get a lot of problems about adoption, usually, but not always, from the adopters who are struggling but are mired in shame that they cannot cope. Once someone has been through the process of adoption it can be very hard for them to admit they are finding it tough. But in this podcast we also hear from an adoptee, because that's the other side that I hear from (and often a voice which is missing when adoption is discussed). When adoptees write to me, they often talk of constantly looking for something, as if something is missing, or...2022-06-131h 02Conversations with Annalisa BarbieriA Gentle Introduction to Dementia with dementia specialist nurse Julie GreenDementia is a word which we've become increasingly familiar with over the years, but still, understandably, strikes fear in our hearts. In this episode I talk to Julie Green, Dementia UK's Deputy Clinical Lead and an Admiral nurse with thirty years experience caring for the elderly, twelve of them in a dementia specialist role.We talk about the types of dementia, how best to 'be' with someone who has dementia eg: should you enter their world or correct their mistakes?Caring for someone with dementia is isolating and can be soul destroying. Dementia...2022-06-0646 minConversations with Annalisa BarbieriSex Education: What We Wish We'd Learnt with sexual and relationship psychotherapist Silva NevesHow many of us had really good sex education, or anything that goes beyond the mere biological? In this episode I talk to COSRT and UKCP registered Silva Neves about what we wish we’d learnt, how to have ‘The Conversation’ with your children and why it should start probably earlier than you think and around the dinner table. We cover consent, why porn isn’t sex education. We also talk about the fun aspects of sex. Silva's book: Compulsive Sexual Behaviours.Book recommendations:What’s Happening to my Body for Girls o...2022-05-3051 minConversations with Annalisa BarbieriThe Truth About Baby Sleep with biological anthropologist Professor James McKennaAnyone who’s had a baby knows that probably the number one question you're asked is: are they sleeping through?Some years ago, whilst researching a piece, I found out that babies aren’t meant to sleep through and there are biological reasons why this is and it blew my mind, given everything I was told at the time was that if my baby didn’t sleep through, I was somehow a failure. Professor James McKenna is biological anthropologist, and a world specialist on baby sleep and we take a deep dive in this episod...2022-03-2255 minConversations with Annalisa BarbieriHow to Identify Addiction and Get Help if You Need with psychotherapist Rebecca HarrisAddiction is a word that’s overused and often misunderstood. In this episode I talk to systemic psychotherapist Rebecca Harris, who is also manager at the National Problem Gambling Clinic, Club Drug Clinic and the National Centre for Gaming Disorders. She works at the Central and North West NHS Foundation Trust in London. We look at what addiction is, what it isn’t, and how to get help if you think you or someone you love has an addiction to drugs, gaming, gambling or alcohol. Some useful links/further reading to look at after you’ve listene...2022-03-1547 minWeekendWeekend: John Crace, Zoë Kravitz and the art of saying ‘sorry’In this week’s episode, John Crace on Boris Johnson’s six-point plan for Ukraine turning out to be six vague principles, Sirin Kale interviews Zoë Kravitz, Annalisa Barbieri on why ‘sorry’ is the hardest word, and Emine Saner on female standups from the 1960s.2022-03-1248 minConversations with Annalisa BarbieriThe Delicate Art of Managing Differences with psychotherapist Gabrielle RifkindI wanted to call this “how to win an argument” but I realised it’s not all about winning or losing but finding common ground, or ground you can both tolerate to be on. In this episode I talk to psychotherapist Gabrielle Rifkind who is a mediator and conflict resolution expert, having worked in war zones in the Middle East, Asia and Europe. Gabrielle and I talk about how to manage differences between friends and family, how to start the conversation (she shares a brilliant technique), we look at what it’s not always about being right an...2022-03-0845 minConversations with Annalisa BarbieriHow to Cope With a Difficult Older Relative with psychotherapist Chris MillsI get so many problems about this, not just through my column, but in real life. Some people have difficult family members who get more difficult as they get older. Note: this isn’t about dementia this is about trying to navigate the difficulties you may face with an intransigent relative as they get older. Maybe they need some care but won’t acknowledge it, or maybe they’ve become dangerous behind the wheel of a car and should give up driving, but don’t want to. Psychotherapist Chris Mills helps us look at what...2022-03-0154 minConversations with Annalisa BarbieriWhat is Intimacy? with psychologist and psychoanalyst Stephen BlumenthalIt’s only in the last few years that I’ve really looked into intimacy and what it actually, practically, means. A lot of people use it as a by-word for sex but here’s where it gets interesting because intimacy and sex aren’t the same thing. In fact a lot of people use sex to avoid intimacy. Stephen Blumenthal and I discuss what is and isn’t intimacy, how to know if you’ve got it and maybe, how to find it if it’s so far eluded you. Stephen is a clinical psychologist and psychoanal...2022-02-2229 minConversations with Annalisa BarbieriBlended Families and How to Navigate them with psychotherapist Katherine WalkerBlended families, bonus families, step families whatever you call them, joining together two or more families can be tricky. What do you call your “new” mum/dad/sibling, how do you cope with issues that may come up, what’s the delicate line between being accepting and having boundaries? I discuss all this and more - including the positives - with psychotherapist Katherine Walker who is accredited by the UKCP and BACP and whose area of interest is blended families and helping them develop healthy bonds and attachments; so much so that she did an MA on the...2022-02-1545 min
Seven Figure Consultant with Jessica FearnleyAre You An Overthinker Surrounded By Underthinkers?What do you think when people talk about ‘overthinking’? If you’re like me, you’ll be puzzled about why considering all the angles and focusing on the details is considered a bad thing. When you run your own consulting business, even if it isn’t your name on the invoices, it’s your reputation, framework and processes people are getting. That matters and you want to be sure every client is getting the best experience. Whether you are delegating service delivery, or relying on team members to support you in other areas of the business, you will have th...2021-11-2214 min
Podcast Radio HourWhat's New for September + Ladies Who LondonChris Pearson and Scott Bryan suggest new listening for September.We'll speak to the hosts of Ladies Who London, a podcast hosted by two London tour guides which aims to highlight hidden parts of London's history.Plus we'll hear clips from:Stories of our Times- The Legacy of Penrhyn Castle
Short History Of
Tipsy Tourism
On The Outside
BBC Countryfile Magazine Plodcast - Histories and Mysteries of the Countryside
The Wild with Chris Morgan
Bees in a Pod with Rob Beckett
Atlantic… A Scottish Story
The Grand Scheme - Snatching Sinatra
Finding Q: My...2021-09-0359 min
Monday MindsetWhen Overthinking Can Be a Good ThingEpisode #64
Are you an over thinker? Do you ever find yourself solving other people’s problems as well as your own?
This week Daisy shares an article from The Guardian that caught her eye when it popped up in her Facebook newsfeed because she identifies as an over thinker herself!
Why I’m glad that I’m an ‘overthinker’ by Annalisa Barbieri
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2021/jul/04/annalisa-barbieri-it-can-be-exhausing-but-i-am-glad-that-i-am-an-overthinker
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Conversations with Annalisa BarbieriThe Secrets of the Sibling Relationship with psychotherapist Nicole AddisWe are so focused on the parent/child relationship we often overlook the sibling one, even though it is often the longest lasting relationship of our lives and can divulge various insights - if you know what to look for. A good sibling relationship can support and encourage you, a bad one can have profound and long-lasting effects.In this episode I talk to psychotherapist Nicole Addis and we discover how looking at the relationship between you and your siblings - whatever age you are.We also learn how, by looking at your...2021-06-2437 min
Conversations with Annalisa BarbieriHow Trauma Can Affect Everyday Life with consultant psychiatrist in psychotherapy Jo StubleyI used to think of trauma in terms of war and soldiers but actually trauma can affect anyone and impact every day life. Its effects can be felt in the brain and the body.In this episode I talk to Dr Jo Stubley, who leads the adult section of the Trauma Service at the NHS's Tavistock Centre. Find out what trauma and PTSD is and what might make some people more susceptible to it. We also talk about how trauma memories are stored in different way to normal memories and perhaps most important of all, how...2021-06-1754 min
Conversations with Annalisa BarbieriIs Your Relationship Worth Saving with psychotherapist John-Paul DaviesWe're always told relationships need work, but how do you know when yours is over or does, indeed, need working at? In this episode we look at how a good relationship should make you feel, the signs that it may be beyond repair and how to better communicate your needs. I speak to psychotherapist John Paul Davies, who specialises in relationships.Make a one off donation: https://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieriWant this podcast ad free? Head over to my Patreon page: www.patreon.com/annalisabarbieriFollow us:...2021-06-1039 min
Conversations with Annalisa BarbieriWhat to Expect When Someone Dies with Dr Kathryn MannixThis episode was a highly personal project, borne out of sitting with my dad as he was dying and realising I didn't know what to expect. I learnt that night that dying is a bit like birth, but in reverse. It's a process. Finding out about death and dying really helped me not only understand what was happening but make some sense of it. Here I speak to palliative care doctor Kathryn Mannix who has witnessed many people dying. If you think this might be scary, trust me it's actually reassuring and strangely calming.Make a...2021-06-0344 min
Conversations with Annalisa BarbieriThe Wonder of the Teenage Brain with adolescent psychotherapist Rachel Melville-ThomasThe teenage brain goes through incredible changes during adolescence. This not only explains their behaviour but, knowing what these changes are means you can help support them or - if you are the teenager - might help you understand yourself better. Rachel and I chat about what those neurological changes are and how they manifest. I also spoke to some teenagers who give invaluable insights into how to get the best out of them, what they find challenging about adult behaviour and why they always like to start up difficult conversations when you're already busy doing something else.2021-05-2744 min
The Wingwoman2.10 Happy hug week, tutti fruity nail polish and the dangerous rise of post-pandemic diet pressureThis week Charlie gets back on the IRL dating scene and Frankie has a panicky yoga class while wondering whether her sudden passion for tie dye and pastel nail polish is signalling an early midlife crisis.
We examine the rise of toxic post-pandemic diet culture and discuss whether the government's plan to put calorie counts on restaurant menus will do more harm than good. Plus we share the articles, TV shows and virtual festivals that have caught our attention.
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Conversations with Annalisa BarbieriThe Art of Listening with psychotherapist Chris MillsListening is a skill not everyone has and yet it's so important to every day relationships - and is at the core of 99% of the problems I hear about. In this episode I talk to Chris Mills, a psychotherapist about how to be a better listener, how to be heard (and learn how I got myself heard as a child in a noisy Italian family) with exercises you can try straight after listening. Make a one off donation: https://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieriWant this podcast ad free? Head over to my Patreon p...2021-05-2029 min
Conversations with Annalisa BarbieriTrailerHave you ever wanted X-ray specs into human behaviour? Then this is the podcast for you. Listen to ‘brilliant, insightful and wise’ agony aunt and journalist Annalisa Barbieri, as she releases specially recorded conversations between her and the experts she’s consulted over the years, who put a life time’s learning into each conversation. Every week you can learn more about yourself and the people around you. Topics covered in series one include, ‘the art of good listening’, ‘is my relationship over or is this just a blip?’ and, you can learn just why it is that teenagers think you’re alw...2021-05-1201 min
The Big MiddleRachel Melville-ThomasWhat happens when your kids, all grown up, don’t call, don’t visit, don’t care.Had things gone to plan, you’d be hearing an answer from a friend I’ll call Beth, 52, mother of three and desperately sad. Her eldest, now 32 and flying high as an oncologist, never calls, never visits and openly tells her father, sister and brother she has no interest in having a relationship with her mother. Was there a cataclysmic rupture in their relationship - an event Beth can identify? She says no. Has she tried every which way to get...2020-10-0244 min
Han and Matt Know It All#62: Han and Matt Fire Their AssistantHan and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of March 4th, 2018, and beyond, including: Ask APW: "My Best Friend Just Un-Invited My Husband to Her Destination Wedding" Dear Prudence: "I'm Tired of Being My Boyfriend's Mother. Help!" Ask Amy: "Cat at Root of Couple's Issues" Ask A Manager: "Was I Wrong to Call Out My Coworker for Using the Word 'Fight' In Her Cancer Struggle?" 1st Comment, from 'suspension retention' Ask Annalisa Barbieri: "My Boyfriend Kissed Another Man: Does That Mean He's Gay?" Sexual Healing: "My Girlfriend Masturbates After We Have Se...2018-03-1253 min
Complete Liberty PodcastEpisode 158 - Roots of compliance, effecting societal changeSince when did obedience become the epitome of good parenting? by Annalisa Barbierihttp://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2012/jan/19/are-obedient-children-a-good-thingIs the common aim of parenting to raise compliant children? "The need for autonomy doesn't vanish because kids have been cowed into doing what they're told." A.Kohnhttp://www.cnvc.org/Training/needs-inventoryResponse to: Parenting on Facebook by Oliver Heulerhttp://youtu.be/KLJNavN45koAchieving a Permanent Change in Society by Debbie Harbesonhttp://debbieandcarl.blogspot.com/2012/01/achieving-permanent-change-in-society.htmlRe-education via...2012-02-2434 min