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Perfection Unfolding with Cara G.#27: Let Your Love Be Your LegacyIn this solo episode, I dive into a message that’s been echoing in my heart lately: Let your effort be your offering. Let your love be your legacy. Inspired by a beautiful quote from @ayandastood, I reflect on the power of showing up—not perfectly, but devotedly.I talk about the love and support of the women in my life, the seeds I planted last fall that are now blooming, and the quiet pride I feel as I step into my 30s. I share what it means to me to live a life of intention, and how...2025-05-2844 min
Unwinedingrecent gems life has given me (on dating, body image, & the fear of judgment)234: Just you and I talking sh*t today. We get into: the dating takeaways Love On The Spectrum gave me, body image realness, and a few gentle reminders I wanted to share with you. Take whatever you need, leave the rest. LOVE YOU. xTikTok I referenced: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTj1pprny/Creator: @ayandastood Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices2025-04-0826 min
You Are The Ocean13 - Just Do The Thing!! Do It Scared And UnpreparedHey lovely collective,Big news! I'm on Youtube now EEK!You can find the video version of this podcast episode here: https://www.youtube.com/@thestarandtheseaThank you in advance for your patience while I figure out my bearings of making both video content and audio. There may be some clunks and shuffling noises here and there because I’m recording at a table (instead of in my bed) and I tend to emote a lot when I talk! If i haven't said it before feel free to...2025-03-3027 min
Diary of an Artist with Aline Xavierminhas intenções para 2025qual seu sonho?
hoje vamos conversar sobre goals e intençoes, vou ler minha lista para vocês e comentar alguns elementos, símbolos e polêmicas sobre os desejos e as mudanças!
para quem está ansioso, animado e para aqueles que como eu, estão com medo de algumas resoluções também.
App que comentei: moon calender
podcasts citados: float vibes e soul salon with ayandastood (the collective is dreaming through you)
EU AXO is a multilingual podcast ab...2025-01-0934 min
Soul Salon with Ayandastood56: fear is a portal from ego to soul ✨hello soul sibling! in today's Soul Session, i start off by sharing how nervous i felt recording it. we discuss how fear can be a portal from the ego to the soul, and why unconditional love can be a cozy home to return to when we feel stuck in perfectionism, fear, embarrassment, or self-doubt.
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Chats with a Socially-Conditioned Introvert3. Judgement, Being Seen "Too Much"Welcome back birdies✨This week we discuss judgment, I share my opinion on how to navigate it and the fear of it. I also look into the feeling of being seen too much that happens as a result of my introverted personality I hope you enjoy this week’s ride and the rest of your week. I am still finding a sign-off that feels natural 🤭 Sending love 00:27 - “Asake”08:51 - “Ayandastood”2024-09-3013 min
Soul Salon with Ayandastood55: you haven't missed the train, the train misses you.precious being, if you feel it's TOO LATE this soul session was handmade for you.
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a reminder to never minimize what you are bringing and embodying and how we cannot wait to experience your magic on the train you feel too late to catch. shame and ageist timelines and a culture obsessed with doing things "first, early, youngest" can prevent us from feeling worthy of even TRYING to pursue our dreams, at any age. a loving reminde...2024-09-2528 min
Soul Salon with Ayandastood54: manifest with the law of polarity.My love, your dreams have sent you this message to remind you to surrender to the full experience of their pursuit. And since the collective is dreaming through you, we all ask this of you: to hold the polarity of your dreams.
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We do not get to experience the beauty of a dream without the challenges. Every gift has a challenge and every challenge has a gift — this is wat the universal law of polarity teaches us.
In this Soul Se...2024-09-1619 min
Soul Salon with Ayandastood53: love yourself enough to fail 🌻💛babes, the IRONY of this soul session is my inner critic is telling me it is not good enough to share. that i should record it again (and the illusion is that I wouldn't find fault with that version, as well).
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so in SHARING this transmission i am also embodying it, which, I think, is rather delicious and beautiful. from the deepest part of my soul, i want to remind you that your worth does not come from your ability to meet a perfect...2024-09-0909 min
Soul Salon with Ayandastood52: fear of being seen | 3 powerful shifts to support you.in today's soul session, i share three powerful shifts to overcome the fear of being seen & the fear of judgement. we get into radically accepting the truth, integrating our own judgement, seeing beyond the Critic, and creating the world we wish to see. I introduce my method, Soulful Visibility, and share a personal story of a challenge I had making this episode...
I hope you enjoy today's soul session, made with love! 💛🌻🥰
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(00:54): Shift #1: Ra...2024-08-1925 min
Soul Salon with Ayandastood51: multi-passionates: be confusing.MULTI-PASSIONATES, ASSEMBLE! if you want to do a LOT of different things, but you fear confusing other people, this is your sign: BE CONFUSING! This is a continuation of a TikTok I posted. We are RECLAIMING the state of confusion from this colonially imagined, logic-obsessed world. are you coming?!
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Soul Salon with Ayandastood50: fear of success, awe, & reclaiming our power.Sending love beams, soul siblings! I am hosting a FREE MasterClass on Creative Kinship on Zoom this Sunday, June 30 @ 10am-11:30am EST / 2-3:30pm UTC. Register here.
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Sources mentioned:
Awe: The New Science of Everyday Won...2024-06-2412 min
Soul Salon with Ayandastood49: comparison is (not) the thief of joy“comparison is the thief of joy” they say, a quote originally from Former US President Theodore Roosevelt (random!). but what does the idea that we just "shouldn't" compare ourselves to each other ignore, and in turn, normalize? find out in this soul session and learn:
How this idea can reproduce individualism
How we are made to glorify our own alienation
What another way of seeing comparison could be
How thinkers like Bayo Akomolafe, Gabor Maté, and Byung-Chul Han can help us make sense of all this...
Time stamps:
(02:46): Shame & comparison(03:49): Individualism
(06...2024-06-1736 min
Soul Salon with Ayandastood48: Palestine & the words I'm reaching for — Part 2Hi my loves, this is the second and final part of my mini-series uplifting the work of abolitionist scientist Dr Ayesha Khan who writes the most beautiful, informative, revolutionary Cosmic Anarchy Substack. If you haven't already, be sure to catch Part 1 on Spotify here and on Apple here. Again, I am reaching imperfectly — for Palestine, for you, for this work.
ESSAYS mentioned:
Subscribe to Cosmic Anarchy Substack. Learn more about Dr Ayesha Khan website & Follow on IG @thewokescientist
Our boys & men deserve to live, not just our women & children (focus of today’s episode)
Effec...2024-06-1338 min
Soul Salon with Ayandastood47: Palestine & the words I’m reaching for — Part 1hello soul siblings 🥰, I have MISSED YOU! 🫶🏾 as we bear witness to genocide and support and uplift the student and other protests in response, today I want to share and amplify the work of the WONDER-MAGIC-FUL Dr Ayesha Khan who writes the beautiful, informative, revolutionary Cosmic Anarchy Substack, which I am entirely obsessed with. I am sharing their work imperfectly, reaching for these words, and reaching for you. I send you my love, today and always. Thank you for being here. 🥺💛
ESSAYS mentioned:
Subscribe to Cosmic Anarchy Substack
Learn more about Dr Ayesha K...2024-06-1243 min
Soul Salon with Ayandastood46: you have these gifts for a reason 💛If you are feeling unmotivated or uninspired, if you are stuck minimizing and hiding from your natural gifts, this episode is for YOU. You have these gifts for a REASON.
This episode will get you fired up, calling you back into your power and ACTIVATING you to be brave in the face of the fear we all experience as we face our goals and dreams. You are someone’s cheat code.
You are here to UNLOCK something powerful in the collective. NOT keep your gifts to yourself, hiding and play...2024-05-0622 min
Soul Salon with Ayandastood45: there'll always be more to say 🌻💛 | perfectionism & creativityhi precious beings! if you're battling with perfectionism, this episode is for you. earth angel, consider this your permission slip to declare your unfinished work FINISHED because completion is a myth maybe?! find out... i love you all, thank you thank you for being here!
I hope you enjoy today’s soul session. stay tuned for more, and share it with a friend 💛
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Soul Salon with Ayandastood44: the collective is dreaming through you.if you dream of writing, there are people dreaming of reading you.
if you dream of singing, there are people dreaming of hearing you.
if you dream of being seen, there are people dreaming of seeing you.
if you dream of teaching, there are students dreaming of being taught by you.
your dreams are dreaming you back. even more: the collective is dreaming THROUGH YOU. Question for you: Who might be dreaming you back?
book a one-on-one coaching session to step into your fullest expression and...2024-03-2510 min
Soul Salon with Ayandastood43: become the energy you crave (or envy)today i bring you a bite size dose of ENERGY I recorded in December but felt wasn't "good enough" at the time. in honor of breaking up with perfectionism, i bring you this offering. let's call it a SOUL SNACK if you will.
topics include: envying someone's success, listening to yourself, embodying what you seek, and the energetic messages of the universe. i love you, sunshines & soul siblings!
i hope you enjoy this experience. stay tuned for more, and share it with a friend if you resonate 💛
TIME STAMPS:
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Soul Salon with Ayandastood42: what if the opposite is true?if you are a worst case scenario thinker/feeler/(anti-)dreamer, this soul session✨ is for you. let's unpack why it's time to let go of assuming the worst — not only in terms of what's possible, but also in our relationships and friendships.
in this soul session, i share examples of times when i assumed the worst and the exact opposite happened. i invite us to ask ourselves this question the NEXT time we find ourselves stuck in a worst case scenario mindset. you will (re)learn how holding onto the worst case scenario to protect ourselves beco...2024-03-1225 min
Soul Salon with Ayandastood41: pro-mote your workif you find it cringe or challenging to promote your own work, this soul session will SPEAK to you. today we completely REFRAME AND RECLAIM promotion, breaking it down to its roots and paradigm shifting our understanding. connected to nature and service. In this episode you will learn:
Why self-promotion feels so uncomfy
How we can reframe “pro-motion” by breaking it down
Why pro-motion is key to nature
How refusing to promote our work can block other people's expansion
My current experience with fearing promoting my coaching services
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Soul Salon with Ayandastood40: the fear of successtoday's soul session is a spiritual perspective on why you fear your own success.
if you're like me, you are both drawn to and repelled by your dreams. they are at once enticing and terrifying. in today’s soul session we explore a paradoxical fear that many of us face whenever we confront our dreams and desires. but in the typical style of this podcast, we are going to unfold a deep and spiralling web of ideas such as:
What do God/source/the universe have to do with the fe...2024-02-2844 min
Soul Salon with Ayandastood39: the wisdom of feeling lostin today’s episode we talk about the deep state of consciousness that being LOST entails, rather than the inferior state it represents in the western imagination. I frame this in terms of colonial consciousness which privileges "clarity, direction, Knowing, confidence" vs. the deeper truth of the universe, nature, and indigenous consciousness, which embrace chaos, magic, cyclical time, and humility in the face of the unknown and unknowability of all truths of the universe. At the same time, I am sending love as I know being lost feels deeply uncomfortable and isolating. An update episode on the name change is...2024-02-1937 min
Malcriada ThoughtsFemme Escapism: Our Fascination with Fictional CharactersAnime characters, dissociation, and hope?
Notes & shout outs:
Angie Marie
https://www.tiktok.com/@angie__mariie?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc
Shanspeare
Shanspeare - YouTube
Khadija Mbowe
Khadija Mbowe - YouTube
Locatora Radio
Locatora Radio
Ayandastood
Creations — ayandastood
Articles on Escapism with a Hyperindividualist lens
Why Escapism can be Harmful (welldoing.org)
Escapism and Contemporary Life | Psychology Today
Book on Escapism with a more holistic lens
https...2024-02-1445 min
Soul Salon with Ayandastood38: how to overcome the fear of being CRINGE on social mediawe are becoming FEAR ALCHEMISTS in 2024. hi darlings! in this episode I am giving a MasterClass on moving through and BEYOND the fear of being cringe/embarrassing/shameful online. this is a deep wound that many of us carry: fear of being cancelled, ridiculed, dragged, rejected, or criticized. it stops us from sharing ourselves, promoting our work, art, and services, and opening ourselves up to the LOVING POSSIBILITIES that exist for us through the global portal that is the internet.
i have faced this pain (both the fear and the experience) and sat with...2024-02-021h 00
Soul Salon with Ayandastood37: inviting ease and pleasure into the creative processin this episode we are calling in ease, flow, pleasure, and love in the experience of creating, rather than as a reward. i talk about releasing the tension i've been carrying, the love i am feeling from all of YOU, the magical masterclass experience I had this Sunday with some of you, and end off with reflective questions that can assist us as we create with more pleasure and ease in 2024. 2024-01-251h 04
Soul Salon with Ayandastood36: celebrate your soul’s garden, just as it isin this episode we honor the garden of your soul AS IT IS rather than focusing on the seeds you will plant this year. we remember you’re whole as you are. you’re complete as you are. you're divine as you are.
i expand on this metaphor, inviting you to reflect on the different seeds, plants, flowers, trees, and beings within your soul’s garden and the role you play in that of other people. I also discuss my struggles with cultivating soil of self-compassion within my soul's garden — including in the creation of this episode. i hope y...2024-01-1538 min
Soul Salon with Ayandastood35: awakening to possibility 🌻today’s episode is all about embracing POSSIBILITY as an abundant energy that can unlock itself even further. possibility, and moving through the world with the openness, expansiveness and abundance mindset it invites us into, is a beautiful self-fulfilling prophecy. unfortunately, impossibility works the same way.
i discuss some of the ways the energy of possibility has affected my friendships, and unpack four related areas full of possibilities: conflict, romantic relationships, creativity, and social change. we also get into other things (like we always do) such as soulnliness vs. resonating with the people around yo...2023-12-1743 min
Soul Salon with Ayandastood34: beauty as alienation from the self 👽if toxic, eurocentric beauty standards won’t let you rest: this episode is for you. i made a tiktok (620K views) about this idea in June that people resonated with, and so I decided to make an episode about it. let’s unpack how Beauty is a form of alienation from ourselves — and from each other. i hope you enjoy this episode, made with love. 🤎
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2023-12-0634 min
Creative CapitalArt as a tool for activism and decolonisation with Van MeiThis month we’re taking with Van Mei who is an artist and writer currently based in Te Ika-a-Māui. They are the current Kaitohu (Director) of The Pantograph Punch, an online arts and culture platform that’s been nourishing writers and audiences for 13 years.
Prior to this they were the Director of Enjoy Contemporary Art Space for a stint and have worked, published and exhibited across performing arts, visual arts and publishing for a number of years. They believe in a future where we can see arts in Aotearoa thrive for the benefit of many, not just survive...2023-11-3044 min
Soul Salon with Ayandastood33: 7 reasons why you're irreducible (Ask ChatGPT✨)many of us feel plagued by a deep-seated unworthiness ingrained in us by society and culture. at a fundamental level, we are convinced there is a lot wrong with us. part of this suffering comes from a society that reduces us to the level of its own distorted and violent view of reality, rooted in colonial and capitalist imaginations.
in today's part 2 of our conversation on our infinite worth and power, I asked ChatGPT: why are we irreducible to any one given aspect of our lives? Here are my 7 favorite reasons it came up with, and my...2023-11-2744 min
Жертвы Капитализма035 Уродливая сущность красоты
В новом выпуске мы делаем в дип-дайв в мир капиталистической красоты. Обсудим такие интригующие вопросы, как: есть ли связь между красотой и классом и как классовая динамика проигрывается в бьюти сфере? Что прячется за “уродством”? Почему «быть красивым» — это не просто хотелка, но и потребность, а также что такое эстетический труд и почему мы должны взглянуть на модельную сферу по-другому?
“Обсудим, обосрем и уничтожим” бьюти-индустрию, политику желанности и инклюзивную красоту. Также разберёмся, как отличаются стандарты красоты в зависимости от класса и может ли красота вообще быть протестом.
🐥🦄🦋🌈🌸🌺 ДИСКЛЕЙМЕР 🐥🦄🦋🌈🌸🌺 : тема красоты, внешности и телесности глубоко интимна для многих из нас, поэтому может задеть на тех уровнях, которые не предполагалось затрагивать. Слушайте at your discretion и не делайте поспешных выводов
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Soul Salon with Ayandastood32: you are irreducible: why you are an infinite, interconnected, cosmic being and cannot be reduced to ANYTHINGwe all face a deep unworthiness and are convinced there is something (or a lot) fundamentally wrong with us. this episode unpacks why you can’t be reduced to any one given aspect of your being or experience, or what society projects onto you and you in turn internalize as your own (eg, Beauty according to the colonial paradigm). you are infinite, complex, and multi-dimensional. you are love. you are divine. you are a multidimensional being forced to over identify with a one-dimensional identity that will reproduce the social order.
you are not your productivity, your job, yo...2023-11-2051 min
Soul Salon with Ayandastood31: the paradox of being sensitive — part 1: creativity 📝🎥🎨🥹if you’ve ever felt that the same sensitivity that makes you drawn to creative work also makes you TERRIFIED of starting, finishing or sharing yours — this episode is for you.
the irony of this episode is more than i can express to you — throughout this process i faced so much shame, fear and avoidance (particularly in the editing phase). i feel there’s so much more to say and so much i wish i had said differently. but i'm telling myself that my inner critic is a LIAR, and & i'm choosing to let it be.2023-11-1453 min
Soul Salon with Ayandastood30: free Congo 🇨🇩🤎 — overview, book (Cobalt Red 📚) & how we can helpCongo is currently undergoing a silent genocide. We are lifting our voices for the people of DRC. This episode is my imperfect attempt to amplify the ongoing situation in Congo, and share the 5 greatest lessons I learned from a book I read in light of the moment we are in called Cobalt Red: How the Blood of the Congo Powers Our Lives by Siddharth Kara.
In this episode, I also read an overview of what’s happening in the Northern Kivu regions where militia groups are massacring, exploiting, and sexually assaulting Congolese people. Free Congo, Free Sudan, Fre...2023-11-071h 17
Soul Salon with Ayandastood29: do what's sustainable 🐌🐝🦋🌺hi my loves. i recorded this episode a few weeks ago. it’s all about prioritizing sustainability in your creative and life pursuits, rather than burning out on impossible demands of yourself. what’s the easiest and smallest version of this goal or dream or desire i have, and how can i make promises that feel sustainable to keep?
i hope you enjoy this episode, made with love 2023-10-2347 min
Soul Salon with Ayandastood28: palestinian liberation, decolonization, resistance poems, & resourcesas a Black South African, my existence and freedom today are only possible because of the liberation efforts of anti-apartheid revolutionaries like Steve Biko, Winnie Mandela, Chris Hani, and Nelson Mandela. all of these people were labeled terrorists by the apartheid government and international community. like Israel, the USA and UK financially supported the South African apartheid government (until it was no longer popular to).
after many attempts at non-violent protest, the ANC had to turn to armed struggle. they found that there was no other call for justice and freedom for Black South Africans that would...2023-10-1756 min
Soul Salon with Ayandastood27: romantic longing 🤎 part 2 | love poems, self-defined romance, removing barriers to lovewelcome to ACT 2 of our convo on longing for a romantic relationship and what wisdom we can learn from this longing. In this episode, I read you a love poems, invite you to define romance for yourself, and share my pov on what romance means to me, and how it can be accessed through friendship. I am sending you love, today and always. 🤎
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2023-10-1238 min
Soul Salon with Ayandastood26: romantic longing 🤎 — part 1today we are talking about longing for romantic relationship and what wisdom we can derive from this longing. how can we integrate rather than suppress our romantic longing? what else can it be channeled into? what does our longing have to say to us, and are we listening? we'll be leaning on works like bell hooks' Communion and Audre Lorde's Uses of the Erotic.
This is part 1 of a 2 part series. stay tuned for next episode where we will be discussing things like: romantic friendship, the media we consume, and reimagining where we can...2023-10-0339 min
Soul Salon with Ayandastood25: you have nothing to prove | the myth of proving yourselfif you’ve ever desperately tried to prove yourself to others or to yourself, this episode is for you. today we are discussing the underlying paradoxes and unmet needs at play when we are in the zone of trying to prove and justify ourselves.
tldr: you deserve to pursue things irrespective of the outcome; the people meant for you will love you irrespective of your "success" (which itself is a cultural myth); sometimes proving ourselves is a cry for love; when we cling to the need to prove ourselves, we allow our sense of sel...2023-09-2540 min
Soul Salon with Ayandastood24: let it become | on creativity, relationships, & life 🐛🐝🦋🐣If you obsess over planning things instead of letting them unfold naturally, this episode is for you! Join me as we explore the notion and paradox of Becoming. Let’s release the illusion of control, and let the seed of your ideas and your relationships grow into what they wish to become. Nourishing the seed is meaningful and necessary — trying to control and define its possibilities may not be. Sending all my love to you today, sunshine.
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Soul Salon with Ayandastood23: disposability culture & my fear of being cancelledtoday we are digging deeper into my own creative fear — why and how I fear cancellation, my experience with it thus far, and what I tell myself in the face of this fear.
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Key quote from episode:
"I fear the social death that comes with disposability cultur...2023-09-1156 min
Soul Salon with Ayandastood22: you are not an imposter. write your spiritual resume 📝💛if you ask yourself, who am I to do this thing I want to do? to write a book, start a podcast, become a songwriter.... this episode is for you. as insecure and fearful creatives, we ask ourselves, who am I to do the thing? but we don’t think imaginatively about how to answer that question.
we look to other people and institutions to qualify us as what we already know ourselves to be, or what others have told us they see in us.
if you worry that yo...2023-09-0434 min
Let's Therapize That Shit!!!Ep 38 - exposure & nonjudgementDuring this episode, I’m pretty annoyed at the experience of doing therapy and I’m not shy about showing it. So I observe and describe what it feels like to do exposure therapy. In listening back to the main recording, I have an epiphany: part of what makes exposure so painful is that I’m judging my own thoughts as I’m having them. And like a bull in a China shop, I wreak a lot of havoc on myself without meaning to. Join me as I peel back the layers of my judgements.Helpful resources from thi...2023-08-291h 00
Soul Salon with Ayandastood21: the power of recommitment & returnpov: the shame you feel for avoiding a creative project is keeping you from returning to it. let’s discuss why we need to embrace recommitment as a key part of the creative process. the constant decision to return and recommit to our projects and to our relationships, without shaming or blaming ourselves, is fundamental to the human experience. contrary to what we are taught to believe, our rest and our breaks are generative. we are cyclical, seasonal beings forced into linear, mechanic imaginations.
let’s reclaim our ability to wander off the path we ha...2023-08-2834 min
Right Where You Are2. both are true (reconciling paradoxes)Everything I said in episode 1 is true. And the opposite is also... true. Let's play a bit of devil's advocate and find ways to hold polar opposites as true in our hearts. Putting self-responsibility and self-compassion in one basket, creating a magical and revolutionary paradox.[spontaneous, unscripted & straight from the heart]People mentioned:@ayandastood@simplysayo@peathefeary(all on Instagram)Enjoy💚🌍......2023-08-2234 min
Soul Salon with Ayandastood20: you are not a machine: why inconsistency is natural 🦋🍄🌻This is for anyone who is struggling to stay consistent with their creative project or goals in life. I am with you! And so are the sunsets, the fruit trees, the weather, the harvest, the ocean waves. You are made to believe you are separate from and “above” nature. But we are all nature. A peach tree does not produce a peach every Monday on demand. So if you’re struggling to do the same, this is for you 2023-08-2146 min
Soul Salon with Ayandastood19: the myth of inclusive beautyToday we unpack the prevalent myth of inclusive beauty. This episode is part of my Beauty Bites *insert chews* series, where we think against the Beauty hierarchy. I give 7 reasons why Inclusive Beauty is a myth, including: the way it functions is selectively inclusive which is not genuine inclusion, it leaves the underlying power structure of Eurocentricism untouched, and ultimately it's a profit strategy for corporations run by white western men to make more money!
Sending all my love to you today, sunshine.
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Soul Salon with Ayandastood18: overcoming creative resistanceToday I expand on a recent TikTok I created about overcoming creative resistance. The idea of resistance is based on Steven Pressfield's book The War of Art. If you are an insecure creative like me — terrified of bringing your ideas to life because of self-doubt, perfectionism, avoidance, anxiety, how can you overcome your creative resistance? By leaning on forces much greater than you, such as spirituality, serving the collective, and becoming a student of nature.
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Soul Salon with Ayandastood17: reclaiming the eroticToday we are redefining and reimagining the Erotic. What is it, why is it so powerful, and how can we bring more of it into our lives? We will hear clips from Audre Lorde’s seminal essay, The Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic as Power, as well as words of wisdom from adrienne maree brown, and Esther Perel. I hope this makes you feel enlivened, and invites more Erotic experiences into your life. I dream of a society rooted in aliveness instead of death, especially of the most marginalized. Let's dream together.
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Soul Salon with Ayandastood16: industrialized vs. spiritual beauty (💡: Jessica DeFino)Welcome to a new series within my podcast called Beauty Bites *insert chews*. This is an ode to and a home for the very many thoughts I have on Beauty politics and breaking the colonial Beauty paradigm. In today’s episode we discuss an idea I learned from Jessica DeFino’s Substack, The Unpublishable. It is the idea that the beauty we are sold (industrialized beauty) is not the beauty we actually yearn for or need as human beings on earth (spiritual beauty). I wanted to discuss Jessica’s powerful idea further on the pod, so here it goes.
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Soul Salon with Ayandastood15: showing up together & what I'm avoiding rnIf you're like me you have a bunch of scary projects or tasks or responsibilities or texts you are currently AVOIDING. you keep telling yourself to "just face them". but hard things are not meant to be faced alone!
in this episode I discuss a community event called Showing up together on Sunday Jul 23 at 11am-2pm EST. if you can't make it or are listening to this after this date, no worries, this is hopefully just the beginning!
This event is:
A working session to face anything you’ve been avoiding (personal, creative, career...2023-07-2115 min
Soul Salon with Ayandastood14: insecure creatives, gather! Part 2This one is for my fellow creatives facing self-doubt, insecurity, resistance, fear, anxiety. If you know you want to start, complete, or share your creative project — this episode (and the last one) is for you! I recommend listening to Part 1 first but also you can dive in right here. Sending love!
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Soul Salon with Ayandastood13: insecure creatives, gather! Part 1If you are experiencing creative fear, resistance, or anxiety, this is for you. We are on the same journey, because I face this daily as an insecure creative myself. In this episode I read an essay I wrote for my Substack on the wisdom I rely on to overcome or move through creative fear and resistance: to create content on TikTok, to write on Substack, and to create episodes for you right here. Plus I have other projects I dream of. I know my worth is not in completing any of these things. But I also know that I...2023-07-0327 min
Soul Salon with Ayandastood12: why I love Paradigm ShiftsWhy did I change the name of the podcast from "Reimagining" to "Paradigm Shifts"? Let's talk about it! An episode where I basically profess my love to paradigm shifts, why I'm ok with the fact that the podcast name is not unique to me, and how paradigm shifts are connected to pleasure.
Key quote: "Paradigm shifts are embodied experiences of learning. They make us GASP, pause, stop walking, scream, open our eyes a wide... they feel magical and profound, both personal and communal."
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Soul Salon with Ayandastood11: essay reading: "on the transformation of silence into language and action" by Audre Lordein this episode, I read an essay I refer to often in this podcast, Audre Lorde’s “On the Transformation of Silence into Language and Action”. This episode was initially meant to be my original “return” to the podcast. I ended up cutting some of my reflection down to let the essay stand on its own, but my reflections on it will continue to be peppered throughout the podcast.
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Soul Salon with Ayandastood10: on finding your voicein this episode, I speak from the heart on my own struggles with finding and accepting my voice. I discuss the dual need to both be visible/seen and invisible/hidden. I am following the echo and calling of Audre Lorde's essay "On the transformation of silence into language and action" in which she asks, "what are the words you do not yet have? what do you need to say?". I weave in some of the voices that appeared in my consciousness as I speak these words, in recognition of our collective and shared consciousness. If you are struggling...2023-05-2656 min
Soul Salon with Ayandastood9: connected conflict Ft. Zanele MjiJoin me for a fun and energetic convo with journalist, storyteller, and podcast host Zanele Mji as we discuss connected conflict, friendship, relationships, and growth. Zanale is a South African award-winning investigative journalist based in Joburg whose work marries narrative non-fiction, hard news, and analysis. She is the host of the Golden City Podcast which you can find on Spotify and on Apple Podcasts. In this episode, we talk, learn, reflect, and vibe together. I hope you enjoy it! 2022-12-231h 19
Soul Salon with Ayandastood8: white feminism Ft. Rafia ZakariaToday I am delighted to be in conversation with Rafia Zakaria, an American Muslim author, attorney, and political philosopher, to discuss her powerful book, Against White Feminism: Notes on Disruption. In this book, Rafia challenges white feminism’s global, long-standing affinity with colonial, patriarchal, and white supremacist ideals.
Covering such ground as the legacy of the British feminist imperialist savior complex and "the colonial thesis that all reform comes from the West" to the condescension of the white feminist-led "aid industrial complex" and the conflation of sexual liberation as the "sum total of empowerment," Zakaria follows in the...2022-12-2059 min
Soul Salon with Ayandastood7: viral justice Ft. Ruha BenjaminI am so thrilled and honored to be in conversation with Ruha Benjamin, a Professor of African American studies at Princeton University, founding director of the Ida B. Wells JUST Data Lab and author of three books, Viral Justice (2022), Race After Technology (2019), and People’s Science (2013), and editor of Captivating Technology (2019). Today, we discuss her incredible latest book, Viral Justice: How We Grow the World We Want. I am completely obsessed with this book. I feel it is an urgent read for all of us who want to integrate the structural and the individual, the academic and the po...2022-12-1555 min
Soul Salon with Ayandastood6: beautiful lies Ft. Kalpana MohantyIn this episode, I am joined by Kalpana Mohanty, writer, Ph.D. Candidate and Trudeau Scholar at Harvard University. She works on disability, colonialism, and gender in South Asia. Kalpana grew up in Portugal, Canada and India. Her proposed PhD topic focuses on the history of disability in India, particularly during high colonialism.
Inspired by her own lived experience as someone with chronic illness who lives with a disability, Kalpana is passionate about accessibility in all forms, whether that be making academic spaces accessible for all students or making scholarly work engaging and interesting for a non-academic a...2022-12-051h 01
Soul Salon with Ayandastood5: beauty & desirability Ft. Asherah aka @therealasherahWelcome to another episode of Reimagining with Ayandastood. I am so thrilled to introduce our guest for today: an incredible human being, creator, singer, songwriter and activist– Black, Trans, Queer, Nigerian, UK-based creator Asherah, aka @therealasherah.
Asherah is passionate about liberation for all the oppressed and uses her content to educate her audience on feminism, LGBTQ+ rights, desirability politics, Black liberation, and so much more! She regularly amplifies marginalized voices on her TikTok and interacts with other creators in her distinct greenscreen video stitching style, creating the feeling of direct engagement with tons of perspectives and voices. Sh...2022-11-101h 06
Soul Salon with Ayandastood4: the ugliness of beauty — part 2We continue our grand tour of the Ugliness of Beauty. This will be an ongoing series. Don't forget to listen to Part 1 first! In this episode we dive deeper into the paradoxes and ironies underlying Beauty and the role Beauty plays in upholding and normalizing systems of oppression. Once again, I invite you to interrogate Beauty as a normalized social heirarchy, and move towards reimagining what Beauty (or something much better!) could be. I hope you enjoy this episode and if you do, leave a review and share it with someone special! I love you.
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Soul Salon with Ayandastood2: the ugliness of beauty — part 1The response to eurocentric Beauty standards has been to diversify and include more people of marginalized identities. But this vital response alone is not enough. Our society regards Beauty as something inherently aspirational, noble, and good. Is it? Full transcripts to all episodes are available here.Even as more people are included, the terms and conditions of inclusion are exclusive and rooted in the same toxic beauty standards. At the same time, Beauty still functions in harmful ways to exclude and ostracize the most marginalized. What, exactly, are we fighting to be included within? What are the ug...2022-10-2446 min
Soul Salon with Ayandastood3: moving toward ugliness Ft. Mia MingusHello Sunshine! Welcome to another episode of Reimagining with Ayandastood. Today, we are joined by the one and only Mia Mingus. In this episode, we explore Beauty, Desirability, Ugliness and Magnificence. Full transcripts to all episodes are available here.
Mia Mingus is a writer, educator and trainer for transformative justice and disability justice. She is a queer, physically disabled, Korean-American transnational adoptee raised in the Caribbean. She works for community, interdependence and home for all of us, not just some of us, and longs for a world where disabled children can live free of violence, with dignity a...2022-10-241h 16
Besos, JulesCommunity Love + Being Single + Learning About YourselfThis TikTok was a huge inspiration behind this episode so thank you for that, @Ayandastood & @JasminesGarden23 for the audio that inspired this reel. This episode I talk about the importance of community, how I learned young not to trust women and some less than ideal dating habits of mine 🙃 It's been a while, so I thought we could hit the ground running.... What do you want to hear about next? Shoot me a DM! HereSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.2022-10-2033 min
Marketing MuckrakingCan We Fix Capitalism? CoMuckraking with Jeff HarryJeff Harry is back! Earlier this year, Jeff and I asked the question: "Is America a scam?" Today, the question is, "Can we fix capitalism?" Yvon Chouinard, self-styled "reluctant billionaire" and Patagonia founder recently made headlines for giving up ownership of the company and dedicating future profits to fight climate change. “Earth is now our only shareholder,” Chouinard wrote in an open letter. The Internet went wild for the news with many celebrating the move as proof that there is hope for capitalism yet. In an exclusive New York Times interview Chouinard himself positioned the decision...2022-10-111h 17
perspective with matthewthe illusion of beauty and inclusivitythis is a follow-up to my "representation in the modeling & advertising industries" episode! i explain why industries can't afford for people loving themselves, why true beauty inclusivity is a MYTH, and break down eurocentric beauty standards. this is one of my favorite episodes in terms of content quality- i hope you enjoy! it's 2am. i need to go to bed. ♡ https://linkr.bio/matthewsperspective
ORIGIAL CREATOR: https://www.tiktok.com/@ayandastood (this is a topic i’ve wanted to talk about for a while, but could never put my words in a neat little package. they’ve done it...2022-10-0919 min
Soul Salon with Ayandastood1: welcome to my podcast!Hello sunshines! Welcome to the first episode of Reimagining with @ayandastood– a podcast where we reframe, rethink, and reimagine everything standing in the way of love and liberation. I am so excited to be on this journey with you! Don’t forget to tune in, share it with a friend if you like it, and don’t miss out on my next episode– The Ugliness of Beauty. Full transcripts to all episodes are available here.
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Cocoanut GroveBeauty Inclusivity Is A Myth in Late Stage CapitalismWhat is beauty and is it truly in the eye of the beholder? In this solo episode Ashleigh investigates the consumerism of beauty in late stage capitalism and why “inclusive beauty” is a myth. Inspired by content creator and academic @ayandastood. Ashleigh explores whether we can truly attain beauty and debates whether this is the inherent flaw to the whole concept.If you enjoyed this episode (or any of our episodes!), please leave us a written review! We would love to hear your thoughts and see how these episodes are resonating with you:https://podc...2022-09-2943 min