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Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialMy Queer Dreams (hotel, outside, & elevator)A fun dream about some time with friends, some from real life and some I don’t know.2022-08-2829 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialMy Queer Dreams (online dating made it to a dream & bonus dream)I added in a bonus dream.2022-08-2720 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialMy Queer Dreams (a hybrid hotel)I still remember pieces of this dream.2022-08-2611 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialMy Queer Dreams (an ex at a kickback)I hope someone can make more sense of this queer dream than I can.2022-08-2512 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialMy Queer Dreams (a kick back & joking)I’m reading through some dreams I’ve journaled about. Let me know if you like this short series and I’ll continue. That is, if I can dream up enough queer content:)2022-08-2511 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialFormal EventsI’ve been noticing some formal events popping up that seem like they might be ideal for lgbtq+ and gender non conforming people.2022-08-1719 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialJelie of Kickback Couture and Reason Studios Interview (Black, LGBTQ+, masc presenting, female rapper, producer, and more; music production, personal experience with music, Reason, Propellerhead)Here I talk about a recent Jelie interview (of Kickback Couture YouTube channel). I happened across this Reason Studios episode recently and it is about 1 year old by one of my favorite Black, LGBTQ+, female producers. I am so inspired by young aged millennial and Gen Z entrepreneurs, especially LGBTQ+ and gender representative talent. Check out some links: JELIE (main site): https://jelie303.com/home JELIE'S IG: @jelie303 JELIE'S YOUTUBE REASON STUDIOS AND OTHER PRODUCTION TUTORIALS: https://youtu.be/7ZtacsfPKCI JELIE'S YOUTUBE MUSIC VIDEOS: https://www.youtube.com/c/jelie303  2022-08-161h 16Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialRita Brent Comedian (Black, female, lesbian, comedian, singer, writer, songwriter)(See links below). I heard about Rita Brent on Ashley Gavin's podcast called "We're Having Gay Sex." RITA BRENT: https://www.ritabrent.com/ She is funny, talented at singing, has a partner, openly out Black lesbian female entrepreneur.  Check out her funny content! She also sings very good and is very talented at her craft.  ASHLEY GAVIN: https://youtu.be/btA4afqsDNc2022-08-1613 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialJust Me RamblingA ramble and brainstorm.2022-08-111h 41Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialTACO Tarantino and story about money, mooching and travelHere I give my take on TACO’s story.2022-08-1125 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialAshley Gavin (sex engineer episode)Positive thoughts on this episode.2022-08-0929 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialSpas and GenderSpas and gender.2022-08-0922 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialDating While Adjusting to Rona and Economic ChangeWe all are impacted by the changes in our societies. For myself I’ve noticed it even changed how I socialize, dating, eating, exercise routines, desires, motivation and everything in between. How have you been impacted lately? And what do you do to maintain a healthy balance while constantly needing to adjust since early 2020?2022-08-0516 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialMy Parents, Their Religion and LGBT(Sorry I thought I had published this on Wednesday). This topic has some overlap of other episodes but I was thinking this through from specific actual examples of my parents since in our household we don’t have much of a discussion.2022-08-0453 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialAshley Gavin (sexuality and gender identity content)Awesome sex positive content with good comedic delivery and a lot of diversity dynamics.2022-08-0218 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialAbsent due to The Rona (but doing fine)I finally got it! But today I tested negative and I feel fine. You may have noticed I’ve been less engaged lately. That’s why.2022-08-0212 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialBlack Pride and Race and Ethnicity Dynamics (after thoughts)Post Black Pride after thoughts and the complex dynamics of race, ethnicity and LGBTQ+ spaces. Good for thought and personal experiences as well as complexities of questions.2022-07-171h 25Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialWork Relationships and Ego Dynamics (complexities)The complexities of the ego and impacts on workplace comfort.2022-07-1656 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialSubstances Tidbits (how to tell if substances may be a problem and societal views about taboos)Substances Tidbits (how to tell if substances may be a problem and societal views about taboos). Here we talk about potential lifestyle stressors leading people to choose certain substances and societal views of what is acceptable and what is more taboo.2022-07-0232 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialWork Relationships and Ego (processing speeds, productivity, taking time off, work-life balance).Work Relationships and Ego (processing speeds, productivity, taking time off, work-life balance). Often times we are conflicted between what we need for ourselves and what our work needs from us.2022-07-0156 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialBlack Pride (race and ethnicity, privilege, racism, prejudice)Black Pride (race and ethnicity, privilege, racism, prejudice). We can see challenges already with trying to define race and ethnicity. How we look versus how we are treated can be impacting and can lead to privilege, racism, prejudice, and everything in between. The LGBTQ+ community in addition to sexual and gender minorities also is made of racial and ethnic minorities. Here we discuss some of the complexities (I talk about my personal experiences and opinions, this was recorded while driving hence background noise, this was recorded before the event and I intend to post more about my experiences and impressions...2022-06-301h 33Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialRelationships and Internal Dynamics [self-esteem, perception, self-talk, & dating]Relationships and Internal Dynamics [self-esteem, perception, self-talk, & dating]. (This is a working title). For once I jump into the topic, and on a weekday morning! I may break this down into separate topics and I’m likely going to be writing on related topics on the blog (www.tomboyofficial.blogspot.com). The goal here is to discuss themes I experience or themes others tell me about in relationships and applying them to dating as well. I hope it creates a sense of hope and sparks new positive ideas for people when they’re struggling with dating life.2022-06-241h 40Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialRelationships and Discussions (communication, where arguments can come from)Some methods leading to better communication.2022-06-0921 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialDani Max “Coming Out Happy” (self help book)This book contains a lot of good tips and methods for self development.2022-06-081h 02Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialHuman Sexuality (reading 2 of my grad school class reflection journals)So I found some of my weekly reflection papers from human sexuality course from grad school. I did not review before reading. I’m glad I found these and I’ll be searching for more.2022-06-0544 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialPride versus Shame (in sexuality, gender and a personal history)How to reflect on your past history of understanding your sexuality and gender identity.2022-06-051h 05Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialSleep, rest and relaxation (Pride Bootcamp 2022)Protecting sleep and energy.2022-05-2352 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialMusic, sound and art (pride bootcamp 2022)Do you ever notice how creativity and creating art work is very fulfilling to the soul? Even if you aren’t good or skilled or knowledgeable we now more than ever have access at the least to online live streams of music, tutorials, free production software. And for other types of art there are digital software packages for sculpting, drawing, and 3D modeling. Get creative and pour some emotions into an art form and regardless the end product you will likely notice something further about your emotional state.2022-05-221h 00Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialSocializing (Pride Bootcamp 2022)Time to unpack and study our social patterns. These change time to time. They can be altered by culture, lifestyle changes (graduating school, changing jobs), economic changes. And more! Try and identify the most recent day, week and if there are holes, barriers or unmet needs.2022-05-2035 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialSleep, wake, energy, mood (Pride Bootcamp 2022)Back to the basics. Everything impacts something else. At your own preferred pace you can start to feel more on track. Identify the areas of the most struggle, for me I have them listed as sleep, wake, energy and mood. These are my major focuses lately. And I try and ground with spiritual practices and nourishment of deep breathing, food, nature, music, art/craft.2022-05-1828 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialPride Bootcamp 2022 (Introduction)Welcome to the pride bootcamp series! So how does this work? Usually before summer (at least in Cali) we start hitting the gym in spring season to get that beach body tone, or at least slightly more confident in our bodies as we will be wearing less sweaters and more light weight clothing or tank tops and swim suits. Everybody wants to feel confident. A bootcamp usually whips a person into shape by focusing on an upcoming goal or event we are preparing for. So here we are going to talk about topics related to pride, looking at some very...2022-05-1851 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialSelf Help Tidbits from John Delony (technology and finance balance)These next tidbits we will discuss the new John Delony book. He asked many important helpful questions in his book and we will use this to help ourselves find balance. Here I review some initial questions and submit some of my own responses.2022-04-2835 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialGendered Clothing (stressors, styles and situations)Weddings, funerals, memorials. Some formal events are very gendered with social rules for style choices. But what happens if you don’t fit into a box?2022-04-271h 30Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialSocial Situations (where May anxiety come from)Here we discuss social anxiety and impacts of situations leading to anxiety.2022-04-2647 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialInsecurities Tidbits (Coping with situations when insecurities arise)Insecurities are generally apparent in relation to social settings. Check out this tidbits episode).2022-04-1712 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialLGBT and Non-Cis Insomnia and Relaxation (Coping & developing helpful methods)How to take a stress situation, especially one that is causing loss of sleep or inability to relax, and how to cope. Also here we delve into how to start feeling better and creating coping methods from scratch to tailor to a personal situation. Not one size fits all! Everyone can find out the method they are most comfortable to start using to feel better.2022-04-161h 02Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialCommunicating with Cis, Non-LGBT Friends (part 2/2, sharing about relationships, coping methods)In part 2 we start further discussing how we can cope with stressors, methods such as using privacy to feel more protected. There are multiple options such as direct and open communication about a social stressor, or talking openly about reasons why we feel we can’t easily answer such as past experiences. Other people may place insecurities onto us leaving us feeling uncomfortable and distressed.2022-04-1622 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialCommunicating with Cis, Non-LGBT Friends (part 1/2, sharing about relationships, social complexitiesCommunicating with Cis, Non-LGBT Friends (part 1/2, sharing about relationships, social complexities) here we talk in detail about scenarios underlying potential stressors that may arise when talking to people of different identities. Sometimes you want to be open and communicative and share about your life, especially with allies. But how do we address the complexities of our differences? They may think differently than we do, they don’t have to deal with some of the things we deal with. See how I try and inbox this topic. There is a second part and I will update as I come into more aw...2022-04-1548 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialBalancing Lifestyle Updates (tidbits about methods)As I’m driving out from checking out of the hotel near Mountain High Resort, I start to record briefly some methods I’ve been implementing on my recent time off. Being off work I’ve been snowboarding and absorbing a change of scenery in the mountains. The sound quality is rough with a lot of feedback from the sound of the car on the road. I enjoy recording on the road as it gives me a couple hours to be creative while driving. But I hope it’s not too much of a pain to hear the road in the back2022-04-0523 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialBaby Gays, Coming Out & LGBT Culture- personal experiences (part 2)Check out some personal experiences on the topic at hand. Maybe you can relate! Or maybe you have unique experiences of your own. Either way I hope this is helpful.2022-03-291h 17Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialBaby Gays, Coming Out, and LGBT Culture- what can be expected (part 1)Some people out there may be new, questioning, or curious. Here are some discussions about that part of a person’s personal timeline. Stay tuned for part 2 packed with personal experiences, and check out the blog later on once I finish the post related to these topics. In the meantime check out the blog HERE for other topics. This is updated when I have time to blog about the supplemental materials. Thanks for listening!2022-03-281h 27Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialAttachment Styles and Desires in a Relationship.Attachment Styles impact relationships and feeling fulfilled and secure can improve quality when we understand any hang ups or strengths. CHECK OUT THE BLOG HERE FOR MORE RELEVANT SUPPLEMENTAL MATERIAL. https://tomboyofficial.blogspot.com/2022/03/attachment-styles-and-desires-in.html2022-03-151h 05Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialAvoidant Attachment with PartnersLet’s delve into insecure attachment styles. We can start by discussing Avoidant Attachment style.2022-03-0926 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialEducation and Millennial MoneyEducation, Job market, millennial trends, barriers and benefits to success and opportunities. Mostly my own personal experiences. Blog post: Click HERE! https://tomboyofficial.blogspot.com/2022/03/education-and-millennial-money.html2022-02-251h 39Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialKnowing your sexuality and genderKnowing your sexuality and gender2022-02-171h 46Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialOutingDetails about outing, forcing somebody out of the closet, invading privacy and confidentiality and toxicity.2022-02-1650 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialValentine’s Day Check-inHappy Valentine’s Day!2022-02-151h 19Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialStressors and Goals RantA short rant about stressors and goals2022-02-0221 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialSobriety and SubstancesSubstances, drugs, impacts. It can help to identify patterns of use. Why, when and where substances are used and in what situations as well as potential impacts (especially negative impacts- financial instability, physical pains, hangovers, fatigue, brain fog, emotional instability, anger, depression, anxiety, side effects, munchies, sleepiness, vomiting, chills, etc). If there are negative impacts affecting your life, it may be worth it to look at your situation and reach out for support or find some help.2022-01-281h 19Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialQueer Dating and Breanne Williamson’s PodcastSexuality and gender queer identity and dating. Here we talk some about a topic mentioned by Breanne Williamson. Check out her awesome podcast! Her and her gay male friend talk on super interesting LGBTQ+ topics. https://youtu.be/Gx3VCPmVOuQ2022-01-2656 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialQuestions People are Afraid to ask Queer WomenLGBTQ+, afab people, identities, and common questions.2022-01-2556 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialIdentity Studs and ButchesStuds and Butches and their identity.2022-01-2339 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialIdentity and StemsIdentity and Stems. Talking about other identity and subculture aspects.2022-01-2251 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialRant about Life Stressors and Re-EvaluationsI began by talking about deep processing and needed to process some stuff for myself so overall instead I was ranting about some issues related to finances, work and roommates. I’ve been dealing with some situations with some people and their poor boundaries and finally had time to sit with it all. So you can see how I go from angry and irritable to making a decision on how I feel I can best deal with things.2022-01-211h 25Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialJealousyA shorty clip about some thoughts on jealousy. If people like this topic I’ll record one more in-depth at a later date.2022-01-2010 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialGender and HolidaysTrying to find balance, some methods on how to cope with the stress and some discussion around how come holidays can be overwhelming. Not just focusing on ignoring feelings and forcing ourselves to have fun but an introspective view on the dynamics surrounding holidays and the end of a year and the beginning to a new year. HAPPY HOLIDAYS!2021-12-2531 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialDating and Mixing Dates with Friends, Family, and other social groupsI talk here about my comfort with dating and mixing. Some background on my life with dating and experiences. And factors that I believe contribute to dating.2021-12-241h 09Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialSleepTalking about insomnia, my issues sleeping and sleep hygiene. These are basics for me that I need reminders about to structure my own routines.2021-12-241h 25Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialRogue EpisodeKinda just ranting. Went off topic. Woops!2021-12-021h 05Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialGender Across the LifespanCheck out Ashley Gavin’s yt episode. Probably best for ages 18+. https://youtu.be/n9wSeUo53UA2021-12-021h 27Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialInteracting with religious and cultural info: method even if you don’t subscribeInteracting with religious and cultural info: method even if you don’t subscribe2021-11-181h 42Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialSubstances and Drugs and LGBT Safe SpacesLGBT spaces are often popular clubs, bars, and party events.2021-11-081h 08Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialDating & Partying Dynamics in the LGBT+ RealmMy perspectives on my social life, how hanging with friends and different events impacts dating for me, and some of my personal perspectives and insights from the past, what’s going on in the present, and my future outlooks. (These are my own personal experiences, so not necessarily saying everybody needs to be the same but this is some stuff that does work for me and other stuff I’ve realized that hasn’t). PAST: since I was raised in a conservative and reserved culture which was also judgmental, I often was interested to party more. And to be around more o...2021-11-0638 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialNon-binary IntimacyMore topics about expectations from society, and how those not on the binary may experience relationships differently.2021-11-051h 09Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialHetero Normative StandardsThe Cis Straight crowd has often placed a lot of expectations as well as stereotypes on those of us who are other. Here we talk about gender expectations, norma we see or experience in friendships, family relations and with dating and partners or even casual hook ups.2021-11-051h 13Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialNon-binary and ModelsSee below for some of my favorite androgynous, masculine of center and non-binary Models: https://www.sutherlandmodels.com/women/247-shane-homan/ https://dauphine.ca/the-grail/yourside https://instagram.com/shanemhoman?utm_medium=copy_link https://instagram.com/thejordanalexander?utm_medium=copy_link AD from facethefactsshow: https://mobile.twitter.com/addiggsdeep/ JESS Jkiillem: https://instagram.com/jkiillem?utm_medium=copy_link Studadvice: https://m.youtube.com/channel/UC_E-6nclsTSyErmj5cFbSyg AFFILIATE LINK: I am an affiliate, making a small commission off purchases if you use my link, and this is at no additional charge to you. CHECK OUT THE SITE! https...2021-10-1246 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialDeepening Relationships: dealing with difficultiesAFFILIATE LINK: I am an affiliate, making a small commission off purchases if you use my link, and this is at no additional charge to you. CHECK OUT THE SITE! https://supergayunderwear.com/collections/pajamas?rfsn=6158504.414c12 Also use COUPON CODE: “TOMBOY10” for a discount on select items! Enjoy!! The biggest barriers can be our own selves. How is it that we can often want to see results but at the same time experience difficulties doing what needs to be done to get to the desired results of our goals, dreams and values?2021-09-201h 18Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialDeepening Relationships: Energy and AttunementDiving into our attunement to our own selves and how this translates , interferes or enhances our relationships with others.2021-09-201h 00Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialDeepening Relationships: training your emotionsEmotions often seem to control us. Here we break down the process of how emotions lead to patterns and those patterns can be unhelpful and keep us stuck. We take a look under the microscope and look into the hidden details of how to notice patterns and how to stop them for long enough to implement changes. Whether the relationship is with ourselves, a partner, a friend or family members we can learn to have more control and focus by taking what isn’t working and shifting it into new patterns that take bold and brave actions but are simple an...2021-09-201h 18Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialCrushesLet’s talk about approaching a crush and how to open up about those feelings and what to do with a crush on a friend. About 13 mins in is where the intro ends.2021-09-141h 00Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialBaby GaysTo the baby gays, newly queer, newly out, newly identified and younger OR even older LGBTQ+ and gender queers out there! Welcome!!! Here I take about 15 mins catching everybody up on my current situations and changes in life and then eventually jump into talking to those who are newly out or newly coming into the realization of the most authentic version of themselves ESPECIALLY if you don’t identify with being a straight cis person then this might appeal to you!2021-09-141h 44Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialDating Life and LGBTQ+ DynamicsDating during “El Ron” has become even mor complex. Adding more factors and fears and concerns than before. I talk here about my recent dating experiences and adjustments of getting back out there.2021-08-311h 00Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialFinances, poverty and ImprovingHere I talk about finance, and asexual and gender minority dynamics as well as how the system impacts. I hope the strategies and tips mentioned are helpful! Im not a financial professional and I cannot diagnose or recommend treatment without a supervisor, so the info listed is just for educational purposes and is not a professional recommendation.2021-08-021h 58Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialHappy San Diego Pride 2021!San Diego Pride 2021 was amazing!2021-07-1910 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialDating and Striking OutWhy do we fear rejection? It bruises the ego and touches on insecurities. Do you know what you look for when approaching the unknown? Do you like dating apps, socializing in the wild, letting people while with your buddies or blind dates? Are you even looking for dates? Or just casual flings? So long as the interactions are respectful to self and others, fun, healthy, legal and safe then I say GO FOR IT! Sometimes it can get confusing out there as to what we need or want or are looking for. Let’s talk more about it!2021-07-151h 16Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialDating Life EvolutionsThings change! Time progresses! And we often aren’t the same person we were last year. The progressions May be small and u detectable in an hour, day or week’s length. But a lot of times we look back and notice maybe our mindset has changed, or we have different values for our time and energy or are seeking different things to feel more fulfilled. Let’s talk about it!2021-07-1521 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialDating Life EvolutionsPre Rona compared to during and at the (hopefully) tail end. Dating has changed and as we have all changed in life and gained more perspective this has impacted dating for many of us such as views, what we are looking for, how we date and experiences.2021-07-071h 00Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialTomboys and SportsSports, art, music, creativity. These are the places where our kind is often represented. We all know stereotypes of femme and masc styles, but how cool is it to watch ballerinos fly, or to watch drag queens dance, or female basketball players dominate! We are out there guys and we are often represented in sports and creative outlets. How awesome were artists such as Bowie, Prince, Queen Latifah. Pushing the gender barriers. Definitely motivating to witness, see and enjoy.2021-06-2941 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialQueer Sex Ed- conversationsWhile dating and forming more close relationships more than friends, we often aren’t taught how to navigate conversations. We are often taught from a majority culture perspective. Here is some info that may be good food for thought related to how queer people can approach different topics in gender and sexuality when it comes to dating, sex life and sexuality.2021-06-221h 29Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialTomboys and Clothing for Hot Weather- Dysphoria, body imageCheck out Jkiillem, momomuscle, and shedoeshim on Instagram for more insights, pics and tips! Here we have a real talk about how hot weather and needs to change clothing seasonally can impact dysphoria, comfort and anxiety. I talk about some tips and experiences. Don’t get down or feel a need to retreat or avoid things! It’s already hard trying to get back into socializing in person again. But don’t let discomfort get you down! There may be some options mentioned here that may give you just that little boost for the comfort needed to live you life more f...2021-06-1659 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialDating and PrideAdjusting back into dating in society can be complicated these days. This is the first pride season in a while where we are out there more in society and it’s like coming out of the cocoon!!2021-06-1450 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialSocializing and PrideAdjusting back into socializing in society can be complicated these days. This is the first pride season in a while where we are out there more in society and it’s like coming out of the cocoon!!2021-06-1455 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialDealing with the Failures and MistakesLining up with the authentic self and the ego’s role in trying to defend us. This can happen publicly in social settings or in private internally while alone. We all know what a mistake looks like, and we know what it’s like to not reach a certain goal or expectation in a life milestone or a traditional expectation. When we miss the Mark how do we talk to ourselves? Or when we are insecure in a social setting how do we react? Ego defenses often show themselves when we are threatened by our own memories, upcoming events, and thre...2021-05-2255 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialTomboys and ThailandWelcome to all the listeners from Thailand! You are much appreciated. Please be in touch if there are any issues you would like to have anonymously discussed. Reach me at tomboyofficialemail@gmail.com or text Google number 424-241-3637. To every listener I thank you and love you lots! This community is here for you!2021-04-191h 11Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialGender and AnxietyHere the convo is about anxiety provoking situations... perhaps you can relate.2021-03-221h 15Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialAndrogyny- expanding the mindHow to expand the mind about androgyny.2021-03-2226 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialSexCheck out my Patreon for stories: (some are free) patreon.com/TomboyOfficial Check out my Literotica for writings: (completely free) https://www.literotica.com/authors/Tomboy_Official Sex notes: Stevie Boebi- how to finger a girl. https://youtu.be/jJwHIvhogUk https://youtu.be/LFsILic2c98 HERE they talk about anal sex related tips, topics, terminology, experiences. Amberscloset- strap etiquette. https://youtu.be/83kFRDwwLME Shan Boody- understanding how arousal works. https://youtu.be/Glkdqmg98R4 Amber and Shannon (together)- sex talk with Shan Boody. https://youtu.be...2021-02-181h 02Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialAmbivalence/ Confusion and CourageReal talk, I sometimes need support emotionally from a counselor. Life can be stressful and overwhelming. Even though I work in a therapy setting I am not ashamed to say that I need help sometimes too. Just someone who is a neutral party to help me find methods to cope and to confide in about stressors. If you’ve ever experienced distress and felt stuck, this will be a good episode for you! Ambivalence focuses on the tricky part of why sometimes we can’t “just do it.” Here I talk about situations like crushes, why is it so hard to just...2021-02-181h 16Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialGender Dysphoria and CopingHere are some methods of coping with gender Dysphoria. It is just a start. But taking time out to slowly figure out how any arising issues are impacting in life and then slowly learning to cope with every aspect of it, this can be done. You can build up a tolerance and understanding to the thoughts and feelings that arise and eventually accept your authentic self. Just because society has not yet caught up and does not reflect all aspects of gender does not mean that anybody is “less than.” It’s hard to be part of a transcendence when societ...2021-01-201h 10Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialGender DysphoriaMany people experience discomfort with some aspect of themselves, but what happens if there are stressors related to making changes. Here we unpack some of the definitions, societal expectations and cultural topics related to the distress surrounding gender identity.2021-01-0757 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialDysphoria and Self HelpCheck these out: text “courage” to 741-741. For the TREVOR LINE Text “start” to 678-678. Check out the 7 Cups app for free peer counseling or paid counseling and check out Better Help for pain licensed therapists. All resources are online or on your phone.2021-01-071h 04Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialGender and Non-binary: TranscendingIG: @tomboyofficialig Many of our views of gender have been shaped by Western civilization view points which are very rigid, requiring everyone to fit into neat boxes and categories. But gender, as with most identifying aspects of a human’s self, gender is a spectrum. Some may fit into the boxes neatly while others of us deal with more fluid aspects of gender with how we identify, present and express ourselves. Many cultures in past history and even current times have had a different view of gender in society without the same rules in their societies as in Western societies. Ca...2021-01-031h 00Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialThoughts on GenderGender tends to be often complex. Have you seen the movie “Her” on Netflix? One scene shows the main character and his coworker speaking during their shift. The coworker mentions to the main character that the main character’s letters come from a female aspect of himself. He continues, commenting that the main character is partially female. And he continues further to state that this comment was meant as a deep compliment to the main character’s letters that he composes as his job. People at times can feel attached to their gender and identify as well as how they present...2020-12-2220 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialDating Complexities of Learning about one anotherDating in the early stages can be very complex.2020-11-1724 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialCrushes, Subtleties of Communication and the EgoGetting defensive and super worried about a potentially new relationship is normal. But sometimes crushes can be exciting but other times quite anxiety provoking.2020-11-171h 01Tomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialFemmes who FlirtWe all have those friends who are straight but flirty. Here I mention “femmes,” but really this can be applied to anybody who it is hard to tell if they are interested or if they act interested for attention. Remember, everyone matters, LGBTQ+ folx also matter! You deserve valuable and genuine relationships that are not clouded. One frustrating part of presenting as a “non-typical” stereotypical gender on the binary is that others may experience some curiosities when encountering you. These aren’t all bad experiences. But sometimes the other person may not be aware of the frustrating or confusing situations they may c...2020-11-1631 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialTomboy clothing tips for work attireHave you ever declined a job or an interview due to the dress code? How about events, have you ever skipped or passed on an invite because of cultural clothing expectations? It really can be anxiety provoking.2020-11-1626 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialCommunication Styles and GhostingLet us start to slowly dive into some serious and very relevant topics. Lately a lot of us are on dating apps and finding new methods of socially interacting (while in quarantine). What is your experience with different communication styles with love interests? and have you ever been ghosted? Subscribe to hear more content about topics LGBTQ+ topics.2020-11-1646 minTomboy OfficialTomboy OfficialGenderThe entire concept really is complex. Internal acceptance and external appearance. 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