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Looking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingLFTM Revisited: Early Date ExpectationsDalton has been a bit under the weather and we haven’t been able to record this week. We’ll be back next week with our next new episode, but until then, here’s one of your favorites for you to listen to again!
Oh, those early, awkward, unsure dates.... they're the worst, right? Please tell me I'm not the only one?! One thing that has made all the difference for me is know what to expect going into them. What to expect of the guy AND the date. Today, Dalton and I are talking about what are rea...2023-04-121h 02Looking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingWhen to Just Shut Up
You like him... he likes you... seems like a dream scenario, right? Should you always go for it, if that's the case? Are there ever times when you still shouldn't say anything? In this week's episode, we're looking at those times when maybe the best thing to do is just shut up and not say anything. Maybe it's not forever, it's just for right now... we're looking at how to speak up after you've decided not to too.
Also... apologies for the sound issues w/Bethany's microphone! It decided to be annoying this week and we didn't k...2022-11-1648 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingBackstage Pass: Should the Person You’re Dating ”Make You Happy”?This Backstage Pass actually stems from a conversation we were having off the air that we thought would be helpful and encouraging to you guys too? Should the person you're dating be the source of your happiness? This was definitely a soapbox topic for one of us... hint: it wasn't Bethany ;)
2022-10-2817 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingDalton’s Perspective on Our Most Popular Questions
There are several questions that we have gotten way more than any others and we've talked about them in previous episodes or CouchCasts, but this week, we're throwing all of them at Dalton to get a guy's perspective on some of your most burning questions! What do guys really think of girls asking them out? How can we know if a guy is interested or if he's just being nice? Answers to those and so much more in this week's episode!
2022-10-2648 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingWomen Tell All! w/Mel New & IYKYK Christian Dating
This is our first ever Women Tell All episode and we couldn't be happier to have Mel on the show! She founded IYKYK Christian Dating almost two years ago and has created a vibrant community for Christian singles online and in-person through the mixers they have hosted all over the country. They're coming to ATL this month!! So, if you're local and want to sign up, the link is below for tickets. Dalton and I will be there and we're working on some ideas for recording live from the event too!
Today, we're talking about trends in Christian dating that...2022-10-051h 18Looking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingEarly Date ExpectationsOh, those early, awkward, unsure dates.... they're the worst, right? Please tell me I'm not the only one?! One thing that has made all the difference for me is know what to expect going into them. What to expect of the guy AND the date. Today, Dalton and I are talking about what are reasonable and unreasonable expectations to have going into those first few dates with someone new.
2022-09-211h 02Looking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast: How Can I Be More Approachable?1st CouchCast of the season! ....and Dalton's 1st CouchCast ever! We went back to the old days and I didn't tell him the question before we answered it. So, take a listen and find out how to be more approachable to guys... straight from a guy himself!
2022-09-1617 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingMen Tell All! An Interview with DaltonOur Men Tell All series returns with this interview with Dalton Teal. Dalton is 26 years old and works in full-time ministry. This was a great conversation that provided lots of insight into the male brain when it comes to dating, wisdom for pursuing Godly relationships, and plenty of laughs along the way. Normally, we trim these down and only release the full-length interview on Patreon, but we just couldn't decide what to cut out, so enjoy all of it!
2021-11-171h 27Looking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingDon‘t Date in a BubbleIt's the second half of "Mantra Week" today and we're rounding things out with Bethany's mantra, "Don't Date in a Bubble". We're going to talk about what it looks like when you are dating in a bubble, what it looks like when you're not dating in a bubble, and what to do if you find yourself in a dating bubble but want to get out.
2021-09-1043 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingAn Online Dating Deep Dive: Christian Mingle & Match.comWe're halfway through our deep dive into all things online dating! Up next in the line-up... Christian Mingle and Match.com. Bethany's 2nd favorite and least favorite... listen to find out which one is which!
2021-08-2048 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingAn Online Dating Deep Dive: eHarmonyWelcome to week 2 of our deep dive into online dating! Today kicks off several episodes taking a look at the specific sites and apps that are out there and giving an in-depth review of them. We're starting off with one of the longest running, most well known sites... eHarmony. This one is actually Bethany's favorite (at the moment) and the one Kristen hates the least, so that's saying something right there!
2021-08-1331 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern Dating12 Days of CouchCast: Day 9 -2021 Words of the YearYou guys know we each pick a word of the year each year. For 2019, Kristen's word was "Hope" and Bethany's was "Purposeful". We're taking a look back over the past year and what we've learned as well as talking about what our words for 2021 are and how we picked them.
2020-12-2119 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingBackstage Pass: Should I Ask Before Kissing Her or Does It Kill the Mood?Such a great question from one of our guy listeners! We had to bring in reinforcements for this one... Lindsay (Bethany's sister) and Lauren (Kristen's roommate) are joining us to add some more perspective to this question.
Guys, if you have any other dating questions you want answered from a female perspective, send them our way and we'll get them on the air for you!
2020-10-1616 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast: How Do I Not Take Rejection Personally?Sometimes we default to assuming that anytime a guy doesn't want to go out with us it's because he doesn't find us attractive... sure, this can be part of it, but it's not always the whole picture. We've got some helpful tips for not taking rejection so personally and some ways you can change your mindset to make it easier.
2020-08-2114 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast: Help! There's a Clingy/Obsessive Guy in My Friend Group.
Have you ever had to deal with a guy who just didn't seem to get the hint? Maybe he's asked you out several times and you always tell him no, but he still won't let it go? That's the situation we're dealing with today. Ideas for being direct, but not rude, when to involve other people, and when to just cut off contact entirely.
2020-08-1411 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast: Is "Playing Hard to Get" Ever a Good Idea?In Christian circles, we're told to "leave the ball in his court", "make him pursue you", and on and on... this can easily translate for us girls into playing hard to get. Is this really ever a good idea? That's what we're taking a look at today!
2020-08-0710 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast: Thoughts on Missionary Dating
This is a fantastic question! When (is it ever?) is it ok to date someone who isn't a Christian or someone who believes some very different things than you do as long as they're willing to learn/try your way? There is a lot of nuance and moving parts to this question, but we're so glad you asked it and think it's a really important topic!
2020-07-3117 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast: What Does a Godly Relationship Look Like?We're taking a quick look at what a Godly relationship looks like today. This is a really broad topic and could get really deep, but we're just pulling out a few major categories and talking about what it means to have a Godly relationship in those specific areas. Communication, Conflict, Community...
2020-07-2415 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast: Juggling Multiple Conversations on a Dating AppThis was such a great listener question! It's always so tricky figuring out how much to share, when to move to only talking to one person, what questions to ask, all of it. We're taking a deeper look at our own experiences with this and sharing some tips we've learned along the way.
2020-07-1711 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingSeason 4 Blooper Reel!I don't think this one needs much explanation! Enjoy laughing with us at us! :D
2020-07-1002 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast: Tips for Moving on When Your Ex is Dating Someone New
Whew! This is a loaded question guys! We're talking about ways to make it easier when your ex starts dating someone new... everything from handling social media, to getting your heart right, to maybe finding someone new yourself!
2020-07-0310 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingTo the Man I'll Date in the FutureIt's the season 4 finale! This episode is dedicated to the (currently hypothetical) men we'll date next. This is an episode looking at what we want guys to know about dating and relationships from the female perspective and also the things we are committing to do now to prepare ourselves and our lives for when we meet them.
2020-07-0147 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast: Things to Know Before Getting EngagedWhat topics should you discuss before you accept a proposal? That's what we're talking about today... there were 4 main topics that we thought were important. You'll have to listen to find out what they are!
2020-06-2612 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingWhy is Dating So Hard?We started this episode with a question and a blank slate. Then, we posed this question to our listeners on Instagram and boy did they have answers! This episode is inspired entirely by those answers! Be sure to listen to the whole episode... you may just hear your answer read on air!
2020-06-2452 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast: What is the Best Message Pace in an Online Dating App?Today we're talking about the best pace and frequency for messaging on an online dating app. This is a tough one to narrow down to a specific time, but more about matching the interest level you feel. Listen for the details!
2020-06-1915 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingShould I Wait for Him to Change?Oh the age old question.... today we're taking a stab at it! We're also looking at the problem of extended adolescence in our culture and the impact it may have on this. Do I wait for him to change? Grow up? Figure out what he wants?
2020-06-1755 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast: Online Dating Profiles... Don't Let This Happen to You!Today, we're going through several different things that you should really avoid putting on your dating profile online or on an app. Lie about your height/body type? All group pics? Try to gloss over the fact that you're not divorced yet? Nope. All bad ideas. Listen now for the rest.
2020-06-1216 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingMen Tell All! An Interview with DylanClarity, Patience, Balance... These are all words that came up over and over in our interview! And, I bet these are all things you're looking for more of in your relationships. Today, we sat down with Dylan in an extended conclusion to our Men Tell All series from back in December. He brings some perspective to our younger listeners who are in high school and college.
2020-06-1047 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast: Helpful Singleness ResourcesIn today's CouchCast, we're going through some of the resources that have benefited us greatly in our singleness. One book that was even one of the biggest inspirations in our starting this podcast!
Links to the resources we talked about today:
Love in Every Season
True Love Dates
She's Got the Wrong Guy: Why Smart Women Settle
Passion & Purity
2020-06-0510 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingDon't Lose Hope!Dating is tough these days guys, we get it! We've all been tempted to lose hope when it comes to trying to find someone. We've all had to navigate not giving into that temptation. Today, we're talking about the different times we've been frustrated or felt hopeless when it comes to dating. We're talking about things we've said or done that have been helpful with that and also a few that haven't too.
2020-06-0349 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast: How Can I Get Over My Ex if I Still Have to See Him All the Time?This is such a tough place to be! You just got your heart broken and now you have to see the cause of that heartbreak constantly! Today, we're talking about how to practically navigate something like that as well as looking to the Lord and realizing that no matter how alone you feel, you never really are.
2020-05-2915 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern Dating6 Guys You Should NOT Want tp Date (Part 2)
We are here with part 2 of the 6 guys you should not want to date. Today, we're talking about the guy who won't talk about the future, the guy who is controlling, and the guy who isn't teachable. All very important things to look out for in someone you want to or are dating. We'll tell you how to spot them and when it might be time to end it.
2020-05-2742 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast: Thoughts on Dating With a Big Age Gaphis week's CouchCast is about dating with an age gap... is age just a number? We talk about the age range we both try to stay within and why. Does it matter if one of you is significantly older than the other or is maturity really what matters?
2020-05-2212 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern Dating6 Guys You Should NOT Want to Date (Part 1)This week and next week we will be going through 6 different guys you should want to stay away from... 3 this week and 3 next week. Today, we're talking about the guy who's not serious about his faith, the shameless flirt, and the guy who won't do anything.
2020-05-2036 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast: How to Know You're Ready to Date After a BreakupWe got this question a lot over the past few weeks on our CouchCast Lives on Instagram. So, we're answering it for this first CouchCast back too! What to look out for to know you are or are not ready to date again after a breakup... some things to look out for both good and bad!
2020-05-1512 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingHow to Let Go When He Was Never Yours to Hold On ToThis week we are talking about that problem we've all had to deal with... how do you get that guy out of your head and really let go of him when he never even was yours to begin with? It's tough. It's not a clear solution. But, we are going to dive in and give you guys some practical tips for how to get past this as best as you can.
2020-05-1336 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern Dating7 Signs Your Relationship is in Trouble
We're back! This quarantine stuff is no joke... you'd think we'd have more time to record, but it's been the exact opposite. Whew!
Today, we're taking a look at several things that may signal relationship trouble ahead. We'll go over how to spot them, how to deal with them, and when it might be a good time to just end the relationship.
2020-05-0647 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern Dating6 Men You Should Want to Date (Part 2) - Re-release!We're throwing it wayyyy back to Season 1 again with this re-release! We'll be back again next with a new episode! Thanks for being so understanding guys! :)
We all have a 'type', those types are all different, and that's ok! But, there are some things that should be consistent in a man you look to date, regardless of what your 'type' is.... most important being that he is following Jesus. Today we're looking at what practical characteristics should be present in a man who is truly seeking Christ and how you can spot them!
2020-04-2926 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingDating App Basics: What to Know Before You SwipeHere we are again! Another episode from quarantine... we hope you guys are hanging in there! We're focusing again on ways to date during this time so we're talking about dating apps. What to know, what to look out for, which ones are better than others, and more!
2020-04-2239 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingThe Difference Between Being Alone and Being Lonely
We're back with another episode from quarantine! Hope you guys are all staying safe and well!
Today, it seemed fitting to talk about something that may be hitting a little close to home for a lot of us... Loneliness!
We may all battle loneliness, but it is not synonymous with being single or being alone. We've got some practical strategies for Biblically fighting feelings of loneliness.
2020-04-1537 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingDo's and Dont's of Texting Someone You're Interested In... AKA:Dating in Quarantine!Surprise!! We weren't planning to go back to new episodes for a couple of more weeks, but we just thought this was a very pertinent and timely subject! ;)
So, We figured out the technology to get this recorded, and here we are! Enjoy!
2020-04-0845 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingHow to Know if He's a Keeper - Re-Release!Hey Guys! Hope you're staying home and staying safe! We're praying for you. Until we can get back to recording regularly, enjoy this popular episode from season 2 :)
In today's episode, we've got a list for you going into 10 ways to tell if the guy you're dating, or thinking about dating, is a keeper. Everything from does he make you laugh to does he point you to Jesus...
2020-04-0125 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern Dating6 Men You Should Want to Date (Part 1) - Re-release!Hey Guys! Our recording schedule got all out whack due to the self-quarantining we're all under right now, so we will be re-releasing some popular episodes from the archive over the next couple of weeks! We will also be doing CouchCast LIVE on Instagram on Friday so head over there and follow us @lftm_podcast if you don't already and send us your question now! Ok, on to today's episode...
We all have a 'type', those types are all different, and that's ok! But, there are some things that should be consistent in a man you to...2020-04-0127 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast: 1st Date Red FlagsIn today's episode we're talking about things we both look out for on 1st dates as possible red flags... we talk about some pre and post date red flags too as well as a few 'yellow' flags too.
2020-03-2013 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingWhat's the Point: SelflessnessToday, we're wrapping up our "What's the Point of Dating?" series. We've talked about marriage, sanctification, fun, investigation, and now selflessness. A great relationship is set up for success when there are two people trying to out do each other in service. Listen today as we take a deeper look at what this really means.
2020-03-1827 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast: How to Navigate a Church that Undervalues Singleness and Overvalues MarriageThis was a doozy of a listener question! "What do you do when the church seems to view singles as second class Christians while married couples are given so much elevation and importance?" We get fired up about this one!
2020-03-1313 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingWhat's the Point: InvestigationWe're at the halfway point of our "What's the Point of Dating?" series and today we're talking about investigation. The dating stage is a unique time you have to investigate this person you're in a relationship with and get to know their habits and patterns and everything else you would want to know before taking the next step to marriage. We're here to guide some of that investigation with a couple of things we think are really important to find out during this process!
2020-03-1130 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast: How to Build Community When Church Options are LimitedThis was a great listener question! She asked "How do you navigate finding a community at a church when the small group options are either college students or married couples?". Good news is, you've got options here! Bad news, some might require you getting out of your comfort zone! That's where our discussion focuses today.
2020-03-0611 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingWhat's the Point: FunShort, sweet, and to the point today!! We're talking about fun! Fun gets lost a lot of times in Christian dating. You feel so much pressure to focus on spiritual things and making sure there is compatibility there that you forget to make sure you have fun together. We offer some ways to balance that early on in a relationship as well as some practical dating strategies for incorporating fun into your relationship for the long haul!
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Looking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast: Help! The Guy I'm Dating isn't Texting Me BackWe've all been there... you're either talking to someone or newly dating and you're not sure if the texting patterns are normal or not. Are you being too needy? Is he just a bad texter? So many questions and so few answers haha... we're tackling this fun issue today!
2020-02-2810 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingWhat's the Point: SanctificationThis is part 2 in our What's the Point of Dating series. Today we're talking about sanctification and how that is a big part of God's design for dating and eventually marriage. We're honing on one huge aspect of this too... community. God created us for community and that takes on many different forms in your life, both pre-dating and after you're in a relationship.
2020-02-2636 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast: I've Never Dated, What Do I Do Now?In this episode, we're talking about how to go about starting to date if you've never really dated before... high school, college, 20's, or 30's... we've got something for everyone!
2020-02-2113 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingWhat's the Point: MarriageIn today's episode, we're taking a deep dive look at the point of dating. Or, at least the 1st of 4 points we'll take a look at over the next few weeks. Today we're talking about marriage, what it looks like, what it doesn't look like, what God outlines marriage as, and how to get there. We're talking a lot about I Kissed Dating Goodbye and the courtship culture that has shaped so much of how Christians date still today.
2020-02-191h 01Looking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast: Favorite Girls' Day Ideas
It's Valentines Day!! We figured it would be too late to talk about good Valentine's Day date ideas, but it's always a good day to talk about Galentine's Day! So, we're going over some of our very favorite things to do with the girls!
2020-02-1411 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingWhat's the Point of Dating Anyway? ...but Really.
Welcome to season 4!! We're so excited to be here and can't wait for everything we have in store for you guys this season!
Today, we are talking about the true point of dating and setting the stage for a 5 part series to kick off the season looking at some different themes in Christian dating that should be your focus. Marriage, Sanctification, Fun, Investigation, and Selflessness.
Here is the link to our February picks of the month from Christian Book: http://www.lookingforthemiddle.com/picksofthemotnth.html
2020-02-1237 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast Countdown #4: Does it Matter if You Make More Money Than He Does?This can be a very sensitive subject! We try to look at it from several different angles and understand both sides of this. Grace and sensitivity are key!
2020-02-1110 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast Countdown #3: Is it Ok if One of You is More Invested in Your Relationship with God?Today, we're answering the question of what to do if one of you is more invested in your relationship with God than the other one? Is it ok? When is it not ok? How do you have the conversation about it?
2020-02-1010 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast Countdown #2: Making a Good First Impression on His Family & FriendsOh this is a great question and such a tricky thing to figure out sometimes! Every family and friend group is different, so there will always be some variations to this, but some things are just always a good idea! Those things are what we're talking about in this CouchCast.
2020-02-0710 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast Countdown #1: Compromise and Submission to Your HusbandCouchCast Countdown is here!! We're counting down to season 4 with a new CouchCast every weekday!
This question is a great one! It looks specifically, in this case, at denominational differences and which ones are ok to compromise on and which ones aren't. Also, how submission to your husband would factor into that as well.
2020-02-0613 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingWinter Q&A - Part 5The final installment of our Winter Q&A series is here!
We will be back next week with our Season 4 premiere! And in the meantime, we have a CouchCast countdown coming at you for the rest of this week and next week too!
Questions for today...
1. How can you tell if Christian guys are into you or if they’re just being nice?
2. Why is it so hard to find a godly guy in the local church?
3. How do you deal with players? The guy my friend likes flirts wi...2020-02-0525 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingWinter Q&A - Part 4Only 2 more Q&A episodes left! If you've got a question you'd like to have answered send us a quick email at lookingforthemiddle@gmail.com Today's questions include:
1. What if we both like each other but he doesn't want to date right now?
2. How do you navigate a fear of commitment? On the guy's part and on your part?
3. What exactly does it mean to be intentional in a relationship? What are some examples of it?
2020-01-2929 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingBonus: Get to Know Your Hosts!We get a lot of questions about our personal lives, hobbies, interests...random stuff! So, we wanted to take a few minutes and answer some of them and let you get to know us a little bet better! We did an 'All About Us' episode before we officially launched way back in 2018, but here's an updated 2020 version :)
2020-01-2746 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingWinter Q&A - Part 3Ok guys, today we've got a super fun guest co-host for ya! Melanie is back in the studio with Kristen and they're answering your questions.
1. When is the right time to say "I love you"?
2. How do you keep your imagination from running wild when you have a crush?
3. How do you navigate a relationship when the two people come from completely different backgrounds? (spiritual, family, socio-economic, etc) Do you think these differences will cause issues in a relationship?
2020-01-2230 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingWinter Q&A - Part 2We really got into this one! So much so that we only had time for two questions... They were a bit intense.
1. How do you still honor your parents when they don't completely approve of your significant other?
2. What is the best way/timing to bring up the conversation of physical boundaries?
2020-01-1535 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingWinter Q&A - Part 1Welcome back to another Q&A series! We're using this break between seasons to answer your questions. These are questions we have gotten that are a little more 'intensive' shall we say than a typical CouchCast so we're tackling them here.
Today's questions are:
1. How do you include your friends when one of you has a boyfriend and the other doesn't?
2. How do you know what is normal compromise in a relationship and what isn't?
3. Where is the line in a relationship between being overbearing or high maintenance and just wanting...2020-01-0828 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingBonus: Men Tell All ReflectionsWe have had so many great conversations since our Men Tell All series finished up and we thought we'd share some of our takeaways with you guys too! Happy New Year - Enjoy!
2020-01-0152 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingSeason 3 Blooper Reel!Merry Christmas!!! Laugh with us as we laugh at ourselves! :D
2019-12-2501 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast: Your Holiday Questions Answered!Today, we're answering the holiday questions we've been getting. We're talking about gift buying for someone you only recently started dating, meeting the family, should you even bother going on a 1st date over the holidays, and how to make New Year's plans.
2019-12-2013 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingMen Tell All! An Interview with Matt
This is our season finale and the final interview in our Men Tell All series! We have had such a great time with this series and learned so much too! Today, we talk a lot about guy/girl friendships and how those look based on whether or not there is any interest. We've also got a couple of questions in this episode that didn't make it into either of the others so be sure to listen all the way to the end.
2019-12-181h 04Looking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast: Are Love Languages Important?Today we're talking about love languages and does it really matter if you know yours, if you know your boyfriend's, and if you should talk about them or not.
2019-12-1313 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingMen Tell All! An Interview with GabePart 2 is here! We laughed a lot in the making of this episode and I think you guys will too! Gabe is hilarious, but quite insightful. We think you'll learn a lot about how guys think from him!
2019-12-1157 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast: Am I Ever Going to Date Someone Who Doesn't Annoy Me?Here's our latest CouchCast! The question is "Whenever I start dating a new guy, he always ends up annoying me. Will I ever meet someone who doesn't at all?"
Enjoy! :D
2019-12-0610 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingMen Tell All! Interview with BrettThe day you've been waiting for is finally here! This is part one of our three part series digging into the minds of some of the men in our lives. Up first is Brett... he's Kristen's brother and this was definitely a fun one to record!
2019-12-0453 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast: Black Friday Edition!
Our 2019 Holiday Gift Guide is here! Today, we're talking about what we may (or may not) be getting our friends for Christmas! Gotta keep them in suspense a little... haha.
Christianbook.com was so great to partner with us and bring this episode to you! Click here to go straight to the gift guide page on our website!
2019-11-2923 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingSo, You've Been Dating Awhile... Now What?We talk a lot about getting ready to date, going on 1st dates, and the early dating stages. So, today we're talking about what to do, think, and talk about after you've been dating someone for a while.
And, if you listen all the way to the end, we've got a special sneak peek at next week's interview with Brett!
2019-11-2727 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast: A Blast from the Past
Today we're answering the question, "Are there dating practices from the past that you wish were still around?"... writing letters, flowers on a first date, that sort of thing! :)
2019-11-2212 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingNavigating Heartbreak and DisappointmentAs you all know, we both went through break-ups this summer. Well, we've had time to process and reflect on that and now we're ready to talk about it. We're offering up some of the things we've learned and the perspective we've gained through all of this to hopefully be helpful to you if you have to walk this same road.
2019-11-2045 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast: Help! I'm Scared of Going on a Bad DateI think we can all relate to this on some level! Practical ideas (or more like, idea... haha one main idea for this one) comin' at you this week! :)
2019-11-1511 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingFoundations of FlirtingThis week's episode is not what we had originally planned... we've been getting so many questions about flirting lately though that we bumped our original episode into next season and we're talking about flirting right here and now. This is a combination of answering your questions CouchCast style and then a regular episode all in one. Enjoy! :)
2019-11-1330 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast: Good Questions to Ask on a First DateWhether you're getting to know a guy from scratch or you've been friends for a while... maintaining conversation on a 1st date can be a daunting thing. Today, we're talking about some of our go to questions we always ask early on in the dating process.
2019-11-0811 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingPutting Your Best Foot ForwardGetting ready for a 1st date starts way before you actually get asked out! In this episode, we're talking about what you can do to put yourself in a good position to make the best first impression possible. We're talking about being approachable, confident, dressing for your body type and more!
2019-11-0645 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast: How to Stay Friends After One Date that Didn't "Click"This was a great listener question of how do you stay friends with a guy in your friend group after one date where one or both of you decided it was better to not go out again. We break it down from each possible scenario of who liked who and who didn't. Check it out!
2019-11-0111 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingHalloween Special!!Surprise!! A tricky treat from your favorite podcast hosts at Looking for the Middle! :)
2019-10-3106 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingAn Honest Conversation About Dating and SinglenessThe two of us have been having a lot of conversations lately about dating, singleness, patience, giving grace, practicing what you preach, and resting in God's timing. We just wanted to share with you what's been on our hearts and hopefully encourage you too!
2019-10-3043 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast: Can You Date "Too Fast" as a Christian?Have you ever wondered if your new relationship was moving too quickly? It can be overwhelming and kind of scary... today, we're answering a great listener question about whether or not moving too fast is as much of an issue when it comes to dating as a Christian.
2019-10-2510 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern Dating8 Things A Single Person Never Wants to Hear (...and how to respond to them)The holidays are almost upon us and with that comes lots of parties and lots of well meaning family and friends who sometimes don't think before asking some of the most awkward questions. Today, we're taking a comical approach to how to respond to some of the outlandish things people say!
2019-10-2342 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast: Should You Ever Date Your Ex?
Well, this was a fun one! haha This is such a tricky question. There are so many variables at play. But, we're giving you several good general principles to follow and questions to answer to hopefully make it just a bit less tricky.
2019-10-1810 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingWhy You Need a Tribe... The Importance of Good Girlfriends in Your Life
We all need good girlfriends in our lives for so many reasons! Today we're having our tribe on the show to talk about some of those reasons... and it gets a little loud! haha We're talking about things like accountability, support, humor, distraction. All things that are needed whether you are dating or single.
2019-10-1638 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast: Perks of Being SingleWho says being single is all bad? It's definitely not! You may struggle to find the perks off the top of your head (we sure did!), but when you stop and think about it, it's definitely not all bad :)
2019-10-1112 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingAre You Ready to Meet Your Husband?Have you ever stopped to wonder what your life would like when you meet that guy who will become your husband? That is the exact question posed by Stephanie May Wilson in her new Future Husband Quiz. We've both taken the quiz and it was really insightful and helpful! So, we're talking about what we learned and really encouraging you to go take the quiz in today's episode!
2019-10-0933 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast: How to Let a Guy Know You're InterestedThis is by far the most asked question we get! It can be tough figuring out how to let a guy know you're interested without becoming the pursuer. In today's CouchCast, we went directly to the experts and asked one of our guy friends the best way to really communicate this to them. We also talk about some of our go to flirting techniques so there's that too! ;)
2019-10-0412 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingHow Far is Too Far?Ok here it is... the sex talk. You've asked and now we're answering! We are asked on a regular basis how far is too far to go with my boyfriend? What standards or boundaries should we have? What's ok and what isn't? We know there is a lot of confusion out there because there are soooo many different opinions and views on this. We try to take this question and add some clarity and encouragement to an issue that can be frustrating and confusing.
2019-10-0243 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast: How to Encourage Spiritual and Personal Growth in a RelationshipThis was a great listener question! Definitely really made us stop and think... We're discussing ways to encourage your boyfriend and to improve both of your spiritual and personal growth as you are progressing in a relationship.
2019-09-2713 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingNon-Negotiables vs. Preferences... Where to Draw the Line?You all know we like to make lists around here. We're just list people, I guess you could say. We've talked a lot about the lists we make about what we're looking for in a future spouse, but today we're putting a different spin on it. Are there things that may be preferences for some people, but are non-negotiables for you? How do you decide what those are? That's the question we're answering in today's episode.
2019-09-2531 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast: Is it Ok to Date Someone from a Different Denomination?This is a great listener question today! We are giving our thoughts on dating outside your denomination... does it matter? Are they all just labels anyway? What things are important and which ones aren't? We answer all of these in today's CouchCast.
2019-09-2011 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern Dating7 Signs You're On a Good First DateEver been on a first date and wondered if it was going well? Or, have you wondered how to make sure the guy you were with knew you were having a good time without having to outright say it? We've got you covered! We're going over 7 signs of a good first date today (and a few signs of a not so good first date thrown in for good measure)! Join us!
2019-09-1828 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCouchCast: What Do You Do With the Annoying Habits of Your Significant Other?Oh this is a fun question to kick off CouchCast for season 3 with! We're talking about how to kindly deal with or bring up to your significant other that their constant knuckle cracking and loud gum chewing are driving you crazy!
2019-09-1310 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingCan Wanting Marriage Be a Bad Thing?Welcome Back to Season 3!! We're so excited to kick off another season with you guys and we're diving right in with the doozy of a question... Can Wanting Marriage Be a Bad Thing? We walk through several questions you can ask yourself to figure out if maybe you've got your priorities all out of order and how to get them whipped back into shape!
2019-09-1136 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingSeason 3 Preview!Season 3 is almost here and we can hardly wait so we wanted to come on here and give you guys a sneak peek of what to expect this season on Looking for the Middle! :)
2019-09-0606 minLooking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern DatingHow to Relate Well to Friends in Different StagesWe've got a special guest host today! Melanie (Bethany's sister) is back! Kristen is on vacation so Mel stepped in and we talked all about the obstacles and challenges we face in trying to relate well to friends of all stages... single, married, kids. Everything.
2019-05-0135 min