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The Connection ParadigmUnderstanding Self-Sabotage: Why We Push Love AwayIn this episode, Kathy & Bianca dive into the often unconscious patterns of self-sabotage that keep us from experiencing real intimacy. Drawing on insights from attachment theory, they explore how we accept the love we think we deserve, why vulnerability feels risky, and how self-sabotage becomes a protective, but ultimately limiting, behaviour. They invite us to ask: What are the internal walls we’ve built against deep love, and how do we begin to dismantle them?As Rumi beautifully said, "Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the ba...2025-05-0126 minThe Connection ParadigmThe Mindset Shifts That Can Transform Your Love LifeWith so much negativity surrounding modern dating—especially the transactional nature of dating apps—it’s easy to feel disheartened. But what if we saw these tools for what they really are—just tools? Instead of approaching dating with frustration or scepticism, what if we brought mindfulness, intention, and a belief in possibility?In this episode, we share our own personal experiences with shifting our dating mindsets, the energy we put out into the world, and how it directly influences the connections we attract. Whether you’re feeling stuck or simply want to date with more clarity and purpos...2025-03-2627 minThe Connection ParadigmFlirting, Explained: The Subtle Art of Sparking ConnectionIn this episode of The Connection Paradigm, Kathy and Bianca talk about flirting and the subtle art of sparking a connection that goes beyond words. The duospeak aboutwhat it means to flirt with someone, how to recognise the subtle (and not-so-subtle) cues, and how flirting has changed in the digital age. They explore the impact online dating has had on modern flirtation and share some of their own personal stories (the awkward, the funny, and the unexpectedly sweet). Whether you're a seasoned flirt or just testing the waters, this episode will help you navigate connection with more confidence and...2025-02-2127 minThe Connection ParadigmIs It Love or Codependency? Navigating Growth in RelationshipsIn this episode of The Connection Paradigm, Bianca and Kathy dive deep into the delicate balance of knowing when to lean into a relationship and when to lovingly let go. Inspired by Stephen Speaks’ conversation on the Know Thyself podcast, we explore the fine line between love and codependency, the role of self-love in making relationship decisions, and the only true reason to stay—when both partners commit to growth and meeting each other’s needs. If you’ve ever struggled with attachment, fear of letting go, or questioning whether a relationship is serving your highest self, this episode is for y...2025-02-0230 minThe Connection ParadigmFake Profiles, Fake People: Navigating the Dark Side of DatingDating in the digital age can be thrilling, but it also comes with its fair share of challenges. From fake profiles to scammers and inauthentic connections, navigating the world of modern romance can sometimes feel overwhelming.
In this episode, we unpack the darker side of dating, helping you spot the signs of fake people and recognise potential scammers. We also explore the complex relationship dynamics between narcissists and empaths, offering practical tips for staying grounded and authentic in your search for love.
Whether you're online dating or meeting people in real life, this episode equips...2024-11-2040 minThe Connection ParadigmMen’s Well-Being: Mental Health, Connection, and the Path Forward with Tim HewsonIn this episode of The Connection Paradigm Podcast, we’re joined by Tim Hewson, founder of Mongrels Men, a community-driven movement dedicated to supporting men’s mental health in Australia through connection, conversation, and activity.
In this episode, we talk about the state of men’s mental health today, the evolutionary impact on modern masculinity, and how communities like Mongrels Men are making a difference. Tim shares his insights on strengthening the connection between men and women, addressing what masculinity means in today's world, and how we can overcome barriers to connection between one another.
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We discuss the significance of setting and maintaining healthy boundaries, recognising our varying levels of emotional engagement, and developing the cognitive tools to create deeper, more meaningful connections. Angela offers practical strategies for strengthening both personal and professional relationships, empowering listeners to better mana...2024-09-1542 minThe Connection ParadigmCan Any Relationship Find True Balance & Harmony?In this episode, we delve into a thought-provoking discussion about whether any two individuals can create a harmonious relationship. We explore the interplay between masculine and feminine energies, how balance (or imbalance) within these energies influences our connections, and the impact of societal shifts on modern relationships. Can understanding and integrating these energies lead to the kind of deep connection we all seek? Tune in as we unpack these ideas and share insights on achieving harmony in our relationships.
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We highlight the importance of understanding these flags early in relationships to avoid potential pitfalls. As Kathy says, "If we ignore those red flags, we can get ourselves into a lot of troubl...2024-07-3128 minThe Connection ParadigmHow Our Relationship With Self Impacts Our Relationships With OthersIn this episode, we explore the impact that our relationship with ourselves has on our relationships with others. We discuss how self-awareness, accountability, and understanding our own emotional patterns can transform the way we interact with those around us. By delving into some personal stories and professional insights, we highlight the importance of introspection and self-love in fostering healthier and more meaningful connections.
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This episode discusses sensitive topics that may be triggering for some listeners, including personal trauma and emotional challenges. If you find yourself needing support, please consider reaching...2024-07-0331 minThe Connection ParadigmThese Communication Techniques Will Transform Your RelationshipsWelcome back to The Connection Paradigm Podcast with Kathy and Bianca.
In this episode, we dive deep into the crucial role of communication in all types of relationships. From romantic partnerships to friendships and family, effective communication significantly impacts the way we relate to one another and can be the make-or-break for healthy connections.
In this episode, we share our personal stories and insights on how to communicate openly and authentically. We explore the impact of cultural influences, the fear of judgment, and the importance of creating safe spaces...2024-06-1431 minThe Connection ParadigmCan You Imagine a World Without Online Dating?In this episode, we dive into a discussion about the evolution and impact of online dating.
Remember the days before swiping left or right was a thing? Kathy reminisces about being an early adopter of online dating and the scepticism she faced. You'll laugh along as we recount hilarious and awkward moments, like seeing friends or past flings on dating apps.
We explore the shift in online dating culture, from a time of unspoken codes of conduct to today's common issues like ghosting and superficial connections. We discuss the pros and cons of dating apps, p...2024-05-3128 minThe Connection ParadigmWhy Has Looking For Love Become So Difficult?In this episode, we explore the complexities of looking for love.
Whether it's our high expectations of finding "the one", our fear of rejection, or our personal journeys towards self-love and self-actualisation, we break down how these considerations, and more, influence our ability to form genuine relationships.
Whether you're single, in a relationship, or somewhere in between, this episode provides valuable takeaways for everyone on their journey to finding and maintaining love.2024-05-1928 minThe Connection ParadigmThe Pilot - Meet Kathy Wong & Bianca CaruanaWelcome to The Connection Paradigm Podcast - a space where we explore the intersection of love and self-actualisation, dating and healing, as well as the threads that bind us together as a human collective.
In this episode, meet your hosts Kathy Wong and Bianca Caruana. Learn about the intentions behind the podcast, what to expect and how to follow along.
Both Kathy and Bianca have a long-standing friendship, connecting over their shared passion for social impact and building community. After various individual endeavours including social entrepreneurship, personal development and community aggregation, the duo have paired...2024-05-1117 min