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In Bed With Alexa: Have Better SexDouching, Pulling Out & Other Myths That Need to Go (ft. Birna Gustafsson)Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Birna Gustafsson, sex educator with a master's in public health and host of Explicit Studies, to talk about the sea of sexual misinformation we’re constantly swimming in—and how to get better at spotting it.Together, they bust myths that still circulate widely online (even in sex-positive spaces) and explore how shame, purity culture, and bad science shape our sexual health beliefs.Expect to learn:The actual failure rate of pulling out and why it’s riskier than you thinkWhy douching is unnece...
2025-07-1056 min
Beyond the Bedroom#60 Can You Guide Me? Stop Dropping Hints and Get What You DesireYou can now watch this episode on YouTube! Host Birna Gustafsson invites Sexologist Natassia Miller on for a conversation about monogamy, desire, and how to measure when your sex life is really getting better. She reveals how to set SMART goals for sex (yes, really) and what to do when you feel more like roommates than lovers. Plus, how straight couples can benefit from ditching heteronormative scripts.
This is your permission slip to rethink what satisfying sex can actually look like and how to start having it (or, having it again!).
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2025-05-2250 minBeyond the Bedroom#59 Come Again? Mindfulness and Multi-Os with Catherine DrysdaleNow also on YouTube! Sex and relationship coach Catherine Drysdale joins Birna to talk about how mindfulness and somatic tools can shift how we experience intimacy. We dig into how to build a personal pleasure vocabulary, move through shame, and what it feels like to be multi-orgasmic. Plus, a listener question on mindset blocks in her first queer relationship.
Want more? A bonus full-length conversation is available at beyondwithbirna.com
Find Catherine at catherinedrysdale.com
Instagram & TikTok: @iamcatherinedrysdale
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2025-05-0851 minBeyond the Bedroom#58 College Sex Ed You Didn’t Get (But Definitely Need)I break down real questions students ask me as a university-level sex educator, including: STI scares, awkard roommate encounters, drunk hookups, and how to survive being slut shamed.
This episode reveals what’s really happening on campus and why it matters for everyone, not just students. Most people never get comprehensive sex ed, so I’ve also compiled my top tips for healthy, safer intimacy for young adults.
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2025-05-0138 minBeyond the Bedroom#57 Better Sex in Three Steps- Start Today!NEW: Watch on YouTube! You’ve heard it a HUNDRED TIMES- just communicate, go explore! What does that mean? Where do you even start?
In this episode of Beyond the Bedroom with Birna, I break down how to actually improve your sex life long-term in three solid steps. I guide you through where to begin exploring and how to tell your partner(s) what you really, really want.
This episode will help you get out of that rut and kickstart your journey from good to great in bed (and beyond!).
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2025-04-2550 minBeyond the Bedroom#56 How to Play with Power: Domming with Mistress LaurenNEW: WATCH ON YOUTUBE @ BEYONDBEDROOMPODCAST!
Did you just say "Mommy?" Mistress Lauren joins Beyond the Bedroom for a candid chat about what domming actually is (and isn’t). We answer listener questions about how to enjoy telling people what to do and receiving the care you deserve. Plus, domming from the bottom, why so many people insist they’re not REALLY into it (but they are). Plus, of course, some tales from the dungeon.
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2025-04-1756 minBeyond the Bedroom#55 Pillow Talk, Playing Games, and Valentine's SurprisesA Valentine's Day special! Birna plays the couple's question game "Pillow Talk," now available for free on beyondthebedroom.com/games
Check out all show notes, discount codes, and transcripts at beyondthebedroom.org
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2025-02-0542 minBeyond the Bedroom#54 Sex at Conception? The Dangerous Myth Behind Anti-Trans and Anti-Choice LawsSome politicians want you to believe that sex is determined at conception—but that’s not how biology works. In this mini episode, I break down the science of gestational development, debunk the dangerous myth of "sex at conception," and explain how this misinformation fuels anti-trans and anti-choice policies.
I also unpack Trump’s 2025 executive orders targeting reproductive rights, gender-affirming care, and public health. What do these laws mean for trans and nonbinary people? How do they impact abortion access? And how can we fight back?
Amidst the frustration, I'm also bringing a message of hope a...
2025-01-2932 minBeyond the Bedroom#53 Reacting to Reddit Sex QuestionsTo cheer us all up, Birna reacts to some fun and quirky questions from r/sex on Reddit. Topics include cockwarming, post-orgy guilt, and a drunk best friend begging to see a couple's sex tape.
For show notes, articles, and transcripts check out beyondthebedroom.org
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2025-01-2243 minBeyond the Bedroom#52 Get Your Glasses of Milk Ready! 'Babygirl' Hot TakesBirna reviews the film "Babygirl" and discusses the kinky themes and layered characters. Plus, listeners's questions about communication and whether our childhoods can shape what we're into.
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2025-01-1547 minBeyond the Bedroom#51 New Year, Nude YouBirna reviews intimate resolutions submitted by listeners. Topics include better solo play, sober sex, honest communication, and much more. Plus, she shares her own resolutions for the year, including how to slow down her sex life.
Check out beyondthebedroom.org for show notes, discount codes, and how to submit anonymous questions or voicemails for the podcast.
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2025-01-0849 minBeyond the Bedroom#50 Making the Yuletide Gay AgainThis special bonus episode is full of holiday-themed listener questions, plus Birna's sex predictions for the new year!
Longer show notes and transcriptions can be found on beyondthebedroom.org
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2024-12-3040 minBeyond the Bedroom#49 HPV, Sexy Gifts, and Mediocre OralWhat should you do if you got the HPV vaccine but then had an abnormal pap? How do you gift lingerie without sending the wrong message?
In this episode, Birna breaks down new HPV data, lists the do’s and don’ts of gifting sexy items, & helps a listener talk to his girlfriend about her less-than-stimulating oral skills.
Longer show notes and transcriptions can be found on beyondthebedroom.org
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2024-12-1841 minBeyond the Bedroom#48 Is Scissoring Real? Queer Cliteracy & Lesbian Sex MythsWhat counts as unprotected if we both have vaginas? How do I handle a harness? Is scissoring real??
This week is all about vulva-to-vulva action, but you don't need to be a participant to enjoy this episode! Whether you're a seasoned pro, a curious newbie, or a total outsider with questions, I'll answer your questions all about V2V, lesbian, sapphic sex.
Longer show notes and transcriptions can be found on beyondthebedroom.org
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2024-11-1247 minBeyond the Bedroom#47 Halloween Mini EpisodeMasks, tentacles, and roleplay, oh my!
This mini-episode also answers listener questions re: sex magic, monster toys, and fantasizing about something against your values (spooky!!)
To get a discount on my favorite sex toys, use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com on Flick, Ollie, or any other purchase
Check out other links and submit a question or Halloween confession: https://linktr.ee/bbirna
2024-10-3129 minBeyond the Bedroom#46 Are ED med commercials killing your boners?Is it just me, or are there ads for erectile dysfunction meds everywhere lately? I investigate what this cultural shift means for male sexuality in the US. Plus, I answer listener questions about female Viagra, performance anxiety, and gimmicky ED supplements.
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2024-10-211h 00
LostiAllskonar & Q&AViðmælandi þáttarins er elsku Birna Gustafsson, she´s back!Bland í poka þáttur, almennt spjall og svo skemmtilegar spurningar úr Insta spurningaboxi sem við Birna svörum. Takk fyrir að hlusta.Njótið!Followið okkur á IG:@losti.is@bbirna LOSTI er staðsett í Borgartúni 3 og er netverslunin losti.is alltaf opin! Sendu okkur línu!
2024-06-121h 07Beyond the Bedroom#45 Sporty Sex & Sexy SportsChallengers hit theaters and suddenly everyone wants two boyfriends and tennis lessons, and I don't blame them. I give my two cents on the film (minimal spoilers—don't worry!), discuss whether Gen Z really hates sex scenes, and answer questions about DP, sexting, and "overperforming" in bed.
Recorded at Studio Friends in Tribeca, NYC
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2024-06-0437 minBeyond the Bedroom#44 Far from the Finish Line: Anorgasmia and Unsatisfying O'sSo, you've tried everything, but you're still not "getting there." In this episode, you'll learn about the possible causes of female anorgasmia and how to make adjustments to facilitate pleasure.
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2024-04-1859 minBeyond the Bedroom#43 Sexpionage, Curved Dicks, and Open Toed ShoesI discuss the history of the prosthetic scrotum I saw at the spy museum, which sent me down a rabbit hole of sexual relations in intel operations.
Plus: evolutionary theories on curved penises, why caffeine makes some people super horny, and my biggest dating "icks"
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2024-04-1152 minBeyond the Bedroom#42 Size Queens, Flicks of the Wrist, and Swallowing SpitAnother cozy Q&A episode answering anonymous questions about penetration, flogging, negotiating something sexy, and the relationship between vaping and ED. A mixed bag of topics with plenty of personal details and hot takes dotted throughout.
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2024-04-0551 minBeyond the Bedroom#41 Antiquated Flirting, Prostate Play, and Cheating KinksYou asked, I answered. Except this time, I surveyed my friends (of the real-life and internet variety) to help me with some topics. Here's what my circle is chatting about this week:
What are some modern-day don'ts when it comes to flirting? How can I tell if I want an open relationship or just enjoy the thrill of cheating? Why does prostate pleasure still weird us out? & more on condoms, lesbian sex, and daily life.
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2024-03-2847 minBeyond the Bedroom#40 Tales from the Sex Shop with Saga from LostiWhat's it like running a sex shop? I sat down with my former boss, Saga Lluvia, owner of the sex toy store Losti in Iceland, to chat about peddling pleasure. We answered listener questions about the types of customers we encountered, the toys we recommend, and so much more.
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2024-03-211h 11Beyond the Bedroom#39 Love is Blind's Lessons in Sex Ed with Saga from LostiLove is Blind may be reality TV, but the conversations about birth control, sexual values, and red flags are sparking real-life debates. We recap the show up until the last two episodes and ask ourselves: Is love really blind, and is love always enough?
Saga Lluvia, the owner of sex shop Losti, joins in as an avid watcher and gives her perspective as someone in the sex ed space.
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2024-03-061h 18Beyond the Bedroom#38: Lessons in ChemistryThis week is a mix of serious and fun topics (isn't it always?) as I work through how reproductive rights restrictions are limiting our desire. Plus, I swap stories with listeners while answering the question, "Have you ever had crazy sexual chemistry with someone, and it surprised you?"
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2024-02-2854 minBeyond the Bedroom#37: Cowgirls, Coaches, and Sex Tapes (Valentine's Episode)The spiciest episode of the relaunch (so far)!! Enjoy this special edition of Beyond the Bedroom, answering all the spicy, steamy, fun questions I get from listeners. Bonus: lightning round of my favorite confessions of the week. Happy Valentine's Day!
Plus, how-to's on keeping sex tapes safe, buying a powerful toy, and initiating that threesome with an eager friend.
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2024-02-1454 minBeyond the Bedroom#36 Strong SwimmersThis episode is all about ejaculation; I discuss both how it happens and how people feel about it. Does pineapple really improve the taste? Why do people shoot it at different speeds? Are breeding kinks real? What's the deal with blue balls? All of these listener questions are answered & more.
Leave a message for the podcast through the link in my IG bio (@bbirna) or DM me there with any questions you want answered in a future episode.
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2024-02-071h 01Beyond the Bedroom#35: Has squirting divided the nation?Welcome back! I discuss the public perceptions of squirting by diving into my comment section and finding the nuance of "hate sex."
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2024-01-3149 min
Kynlífið#8 Kynjahlutverk, kynfæraskömm og áhrif þess á kynlíf og sambönd - Birna Gustafsson kyn- og lýðheilsufræðingurIndíana Rós á instagram @indianaros6 Þátturinn er í boði:ELKO Unaðsvörur - elko.is/unadsvorur - Kynntu þér 30 daga unaðstryggingu! Durex smokkar - Artasan.is - Fæst í öllum helstu verslunum, apótekum og bensínstöðvumBirna Gustafsson kyn-og lýðheilsufræðingur kom og ræddi við mig um kynfæraskömm, kynjahlutverk og hvernig þetta allt hefur áhrif á kynlífið og samböndin okkar. Hægt er að kynna sér betur Birnu hér á instagram!
2023-12-251h 26Losti"Kynlíf bjargar ÖLLU!"Birna Gustafsson, kynfræðingur með meiru kemur sem viðmælandi í þáttinn. Við ræðum tæki, unað, örvun og fleira og fáum að heyra hvað Birna hefur verið að bralla frá því hún flutti frá Íslandi fyrir rúmu ári síðan.Til að skoða vöruúrval Losta bendum við á losti.is vefverslun og verslun okkar í Borgartúni 3.Takk fyrir að hlusta.Sendu okkur línu!
2023-10-181h 10Beyond the Bedroom#34: Did you wear Thinx? Don’t Panic!Why did period underwear company Thinx get sued? Are my menstrual products toxic? And what the F are PFAS? In this episode, I answer these questions and more as it relates to the ongoing class action lawsuit against Thinx. I also give my advice as someone working in reproductive public health and who owned a few pairs myself.
This podcast episode is sponsor/ad free. If you’d like to support the pod, check out linktr.ee/bbirna for my links, or pay a visit of beyondthebedroom.org
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2023-02-2336 minBeyond the Bedroom#33 First Time Hook Ups?What pulled you in, and what pushed you away? Is an orgasm a requirement for a second go-around? I review my audience's poll answers and share some fun stories about first-time hookups gone wrong.
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2022-07-0852 minBeyond the Bedroom#32 Corporate Pride (feat. Mal Aldrich)Mal joins me as we share some fun yet insightful commentary on how corporations take up space during Pride Month. Use code BIRNA10 for 10% off your Maude purchase at getmaude.com
Learn more about your sexual wellbeing at beyondthebedroom.org
Check out mal at @malcolmaldrich and me at @bbirna, follow the pod @beyondbedroompodcast for updates on new episodes.
2022-06-301h 01Beyond the Bedroom#31 Glenise Kinnard-Moore, Creator of the VDOMHold on- an app that can give your strap on an erection?? When I heard about the VDOM I knew I had to have Glenise on the show and pick her brain. We chat about sex AI, how to engineer a sex toy, and how Atlanta shaped the development of her groundbreaking device.
Pre-order or learn more about Glenise at: thevdom.com
They are on Instagram @the.vdom
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2022-06-0759 minBeyond the Bedroom#30 Myths about Men’s SexualityDo men want sex more than women? Do they actually bond with their partners less? Let's dive into some myths about men, as dismantling them makes sex way better (for all of us). Support this podcast and get a discount at getmaude.com with code BIRNA10
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2022-04-2355 minBeyond the Bedroom#29 Scottie Jeanette Madden- “We Made Each Other’s Dreams Come True”Scottie Jeanette joins me on Trans Day of Visibility to shed light on coming out as trans after years of a gut-wrenching journey.
Check out her TedX Talk, books, and more on https://www.zuzubean.com/
Join me in celebrating Transgender Day of Visibility by checking out glaad.org/transgender/resources or matching my donation to Sylvia Rivera Law Project.
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2022-03-311h 26Beyond the Bedroom#28 Susie Stellar and Equal Opportunity EjaculationI chat with artist and breakout OF star Susie Stellar about pussy eating, polyamory, the politics of squirting, and more - you don’t want to miss this juicy episode!
Her Links: Twitter, onlyfans, and TikTok (google Susie Stellar for more)
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2022-02-1259 minBeyond the Bedroom#27 Fingered for Medical Reasons?What happens at pelvic floor physical therapy? BTW- you can now watch this episode on youtube! I'll also chat about if penis size really matters, what my male clients are dealing with, and the latest sex ed drama here in Iceland (we need a "real housewives" show here stat). Use my code BIRNA10 at getmaude.com for a discount on something juicy.
2022-02-0129 minBeyond the Bedroom#26: Red Flags: Bedroom EditionWe can't always predict the future, but sometimes it's good to take off those rose-tinted glasses and see those warning signs. I open up about red flags I regret not noticing, along with some things to look out for in your own behavior!
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2022-01-1641 min
Beyond the BedroomDay 10: PlayTen Days of Pleasure is coming to an end, so I’m sending you off with a little introspective game to use all the tools you’ve learned! I put so much love into this project, and I hope you’ve enjoyed this time with yourself. Congrats, you did it! Find the videos and journal prompts for this program on: beyondthebedroom.org
2022-01-1008 min
Beyond the BedroomDay 9: ShiftIs it hot in here? We’re shifting our routine- our shortest session is the juiciest of the whole program. We’re talking about discipline, edging, and solo pleasure. Take notes, you’ll have some very exciting homework tonight! Find the videos and journal prompts for this program on: beyondthebedroom.org
2022-01-0906 min
Beyond the BedroomDay 8: GiveToday is a bit different from the rest of the program- we’re getting philosophical about sex! All giving requires some receiving, so tap into that today with a breathing exercise and some mindful introspection. Find the videos and journal prompts for this program on: beyondthebedroom.org
2022-01-0813 min
Beyond the BedroomDay 7: ConnectDeepen your self-connection for growth in your ability to connect with others. Today is a longer meditation and visualization practice that might reveal something new for you.
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2022-01-0714 min
Beyond the BedroomDay 6: Get LoudLet’s get loud, let’s get louuuud. We’re going find our sex voice and let people know what we want, in the terms that suit us best. You'll be speaking out loud today or using your journal, so find a spot with some privacy.
Find the videos and journal prompts for this program on: beyondthebedroom.org
2022-01-0611 min
Beyond the BedroomDay 5: ReceiveLearning to be a confident and self-compassionate recipient of pleasure is a skill. Today, you’ll need an inanimate object you can hold comfortably in your hands, like a shampoo bottle or cup.
Find the videos and journal prompts for this program on: beyondthebedroom.org
2022-01-0513 min
Beyond the BedroomDay 4: EmbodyWe’re moving and grooving today, baby. Let’s take what we’ve learned and put it into our bodies. Shake it out, move around, with intention and pleasure. You might want a pillow and a blanket or mat on the floor for today!
Find the videos and journal prompts for this program on: beyondthebedroom.org
2022-01-0415 min
Beyond the BedroomDay 3: DesireDo you ever just get randomly horny? Maybe you need the perfect conditions to get in the mood. Or- maybe you’re somewhere in between. Today, we’ll be diving deeper into accepting our desire types.
You’ll be taking a little quiz with me- find the videos and journal prompts for this program on: beyondthebedroom.org
2022-01-0314 min
Beyond the BedroomDay 2: ExploreWe’re getting handsy today! Let’s build on yesterday’s exercise by adding touch. You’ll need a hard object like a hairbrush, something soft such as a tie or fuzzy blanket, and something cold (can be ice, but anything from your fridge or freezer works fine). We’ll also be exploring what elements are required for “good” sex.
Want the video version instead? Head to beyondthebedroom.org
2022-01-0214 min
Beyond the BedroomDay 1- PermissionAre you ready to give yourself permission? What we allow ourselves and what we allow others affects our sex lives. Let’s ground ourselves, check in with our boundaries, and set an intention for this program.
Watch the video version of this program on beyondthebedroom.org
2022-01-0114 min
Beyond the BedroomWelcome to Juicy JanuaryJuicy January: 10 Days of Mindful Pleasure is a free program provided by Beyond the Bedroom to kickstart your new year with some self-care.
Prioritize intimacy by setting aside less than 15 minutes per day in a crash course in pleasure by a certified sex educator! Day 1 premieres on January 1st.
We'll be meditation, touching, and moving together through these next ten days. If you'd like to follow along via video, check out Beyondthebedroom.org
2021-12-3003 minBeyond the Bedroom#25: Merry CrisisWorst first date stories, hooking up with exes, and sex toy advent calendars? Plus, a HUGE announcement at the end of the episode with my husband!
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2021-12-1958 minBeyond the Bedroom#24: Nip TipsEverything you want to know about boobie pleasure- with a special guest, Mal! Does breastfeeding change your nipple pleasure desires? How much sensation should I feel in my nipples? Why do men get left out of the nipple pleasure convo? When should I get a breast exam? Listen to this week's episode for some insight on all things chest pleasure.
Cultural commentator Mal can be found on ig @malcolmaldrich
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2021-12-051h 01Beyond the Bedroom#23: Talk Dirty To MeThe sexiest episode ever?
I'm talking all things dirty talk this week! What matters more: what we say or how we say it? How do I find my sex voice? Plus, I share the phrases that give me butterflies...
This week's homework is juicy, I promise.
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2021-11-0744 minBeyond the Bedroom#22: Paranormal SextivityCan you have sex with a ghost? What is a succubus?
I share some spooky sex fetishes, find a book about demon sex on amazon, share my listeners' Halloween sex stories... along with my own personal experience with a set of vampire fangs.
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2021-10-3136 minBeyond the Bedroom#21: Fantasize, Play, and Get KinkySeason 3 of Beyond the Bedroom is more personal, edgy, and way more... me.
Does the clitoris really have 8000 nerve endings? Is my fantasy normal? What even happens at a kink class?
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2021-10-2332 min
Átján Plús#9 - Birna GústafssonBirna Gústafsson er kynfræðingur og líffræðingur frá New York. Hún starfar meðal annars hjá Losta ásamt því að halda námskeið í kynfræðum og býður einnig upp á einkakennslu. Hún hefur tekið þátt í aktivisma fyrir kynlífsverkafólk bæði hérlendis og vestanhafs og hefur svo sannarlega margt til málana að leggja í öllu tengdu kynlífi.Átján Plús er í boði Skýjaborga og Losti.isSkýjaborgir er vape búð sem leggur áherslu á góð verð og yfirburða þjónustu. Afsláttarkóðinn "LOVE" gefur þér 50% afslátt af öllum Drip Hacks vökvum til 15...
2021-10-081h 16Beyond the Bedroom#20: Masturbation MayBonus content! I play 10 minutes of a bonus. I talk about my journey through Masturbation May so far, discuss the results from the Instagram polls, and give some advice on how to talk about self-touch. Check out more of my work on my site or my Instagram @beyondbedroompodcast
2021-05-0442 minBeyond the Bedroom#19: What’s Missing From Your Sex Ed?What did this week’s poll questions have in common? They’re common topics often left out of traditional sex ed models but are so vital for young adults (and everyone) to learn. Voting in the poll isn’t a prerequisite for listening, I’ll go over the results and share how I voted along with my input. Shop Maude with my code BIRNA10 for a discount and to support the podcast. Resources are all listed in this week’s show notes, available on my site here. Check out my work at Birna.net and @beyondbedroompodcast to get in touch.
2021-04-2832 minBeyond the Bedroom#18: Blowjobs and PharmacologyDo you have go-to moves for oral? Have you been on medications that affected your arousal? Have you thought about someone else during sex? I review the results of these questions I posed to my audience and more, while I reveal how I voted with some sex-educator advice. Use my code BIRNA10 at Maude to support. For show notes and links head to birna.net/podcast or click here.
2021-04-2039 minBeyond the Bedroom#17: Sex Worker’s Rights Are Human RightsBonus episode this week! I have written and organized so much for sex workers' rights, it's about time I record an episode about it- and I couldn't think of a better time than now, as I respond to Iceland's national discourse and debate about onlyfans. Main takeaway: if you are against sex work, provide compassion and resources and listen to sex workers' demands. Resources listed: Thriving in Sex Work by Lola Davina, my reading list on birna.net, and you can use my code BIRNA10 for Maude here
2021-04-1635 minBeyond the Bedroom#16: The Polls Are InIt's time for hot topics again! This week, I asked my audience to vote on a series of questions tackling intimacy. Do you find giving and receiving equally as pleasurable? Do you zone out during intimacy? Doing it on the counter: hot or not? I add my own two cents along with some personal experiences as I discuss the results. Use code BIRNA10 for 10% off of your purchase at Maude, click here to shop! Check me out on Instagram, @beyondbedroompodcast
2021-04-1422 minBeyond the Bedroom#15: Instagram Deleted @bbirnaInstagram killed the podcast star. RIP bbirna, but you can keep up with my antics @ beyondbedroom podcast on Instagram. I’m hoping to get my account back, but in this unfiltered and unedited episode, I chat about censorship, FOSTA/SESTA, and why the F my IG was taken down.
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2021-04-0431 minLostiAllt um AnalKynfræðingurinn Birna Gustafsson spjallar við Sögu, meðeigandi Losta, um umræðuefni sem kemur daglega upp í Losta: Anal! Þær tala um hreinlæti, anal örvun, buttplug, pegging og ræða hvað samskipti, mörk og traust skipta miklu máli þegar kemur að endaþarmsmökum. Til að skoða vöruúrvalið bendum við á heimasíðuna okkar losti.is Sendu okkur línu!
2021-03-1240 minBeyond the Bedroom#14: Sex Scene Choreography with Chelsey MorganWhat is your favorite sex scene? In this episode, I chat with Chelsey, an intimacy coordinator and sex educator in training, about what really goes down behind the scenes. We discuss what intimacy coordination or coaching is (and isn’t!), what they feel is missing from the industry, and even dissect our favorite steamy scenes. To find out more about Chelsey, head to mxcmorgan.com and for more on me, head to birna.net
2021-02-1748 minBeyond the Bedroom#13: My Love Language is a New VibratorReleased in time for Valentine's Day, but applicable all year round... I'm chatting about love languages. I'll go into the history of the term, the science behind it, and how each love language applies to your sex life. Yes, this episode of Beyond the Bedroom goes backward (but isn't that always more fun?) as I give some tips on how each way to express love can show up under the sheets. Check out some bonus personal content on Patreon.com/bbirna and get in touch with me @bbirna on IG.
2021-02-1337 minBeyond the Bedroom#12: Cannabis and SexFor this episode, I put my lab coat back on as I go into the science behind the effects of cannabis and the ways in which it can impact our sex lives. I'll review what your cannabinoid system does, what the deal is with CBD lube, and why there isn't a one-size-fits-all approach. Check out patreon.com/bbirna to hear bonus content (scandalous story!! lol, my personal experiences with weed). As always, you can get in touch on my website birna.net or on my Instagram @bbirna
2021-02-1026 minBeyond the Bedroom#11: We Met on InstagramThis week, I have my friend Mal (they/them) on the show to discuss the connections between modern relationships and social media. Have you ever looked up a potential date's social media? What were you looking for? We delve into these questions plus topics like jealousy, catfishing, and more. This is my first episode after launching my Patreon, so go show some love. If you want to check it out, head to patreon.com/bbirna or my website, birna.net to show your support and gain access to exclusive content.
2021-02-0550 minBeyond the Bedroom#10: I Hate Foreplay?Beyond the Bedroom is back for Season 2! I'll be chatting about some of the realizations I've made while stepping back from my work for a few weeks. My husband joins the chat as we give our (unofficial) review for clone-a-willy (yes! I did.... clone his dick). This season digs into some deeper issues, includes some great guests, and I share even more about my own sexual liberation. If you'd like to check out more of my work head to birna.net or my Instagram @bbirna
2021-01-2928 minBeyond the Bedroom#9 Flying Purple People PleaserSo many of us have an urge to assess the needs of others and tend to them before we consider our own. This can show up in so many ways in a relationship and really impact your satisfaction. So how do we combat this? I’ll dive into my own journey with codependency and people-pleasing, along with some practical advice to combat it both in the bedroom (and beyond). To submit questions or suggestions head to birna.net or my Instagram @bbirna
2020-11-2830 minBeyond the Bedroom#8 Lies about the Vagina pt. 1In this new series, I explore the lies we’ve been told about the vagina, whether from old wives' tales or internet trends. Lie number one: "all and any vaginal odor is bad". I break down what vaginal odor really is, how to get out of hypervigilance mode, and the culprits behind this myth that perpetuate purity. This episode is for everyone, not just those with vaginas (busting myths can help the stigma!). To check out more of my work head to Birna.net, or on my Instagram @bbirna.
2020-11-1836 minBeyond the Bedroom#7 Shame on MeShame is the basis of stigma, which can lead to violence or oppression. It sounds like a heavy topic, but I promise I’ll keep it as light as I can, as I share some of my favorite ways to deal with sex-negative haters online. We might repress healthy conversations about sex because we’re embarrassed, ashamed, or clueless when it comes to what is the right info to give. I’ll go into the social aspects of how shame shows up in people’s sex lives, along with some recommendations on how to combat it in your own life or...
2020-11-1132 minBeyond the Bedroom#6 Ghost StoriesHappy Halloween! Ghosts tend to be the center of attention this time around, so it's the perfect time to talk about relationship ghosting. When is it okay to do, and is there a way to avoid it? Also, I’m a firm believer you’re never too old to dress up, so I’ll be chatting about costumes and the psychology behind sexual roleplay. I asked my wonderful audience for some fun stories about these topics that I’ll share at the end. If you want keep up with more of my work head to birna.net or reach out to m...
2020-10-2832 minBeyond the Bedroom#4: Q&A Part 1Hands down, my favorite thing to do as a sex educator is to answer some interesting and personal questions. In part one I tackle some “am I normal” questions, and I give some advice on bringing up anal, help a lesbian who isn’t into oral, and what to do if your partner is embarrassed by your kinks. If you want to ask a question or learn more head to my site birna.net or follow me on Instagram @bbirna
2020-10-2130 minBeyond the Bedroom#5: Q&A Part 2 (Bonus!)Part 2 of the Q&A dives a little deeper into relationship issues, what do to if your libido doesn’t match up, what toys are best for someone after bottom surgery, and more. If you want to ask a question or learn more head to my site birna.net or follow me on Instagram @bbirna and share your thoughts. Don’t forget to subscribe and rate this podcast to help others find it!
2020-10-2131 minBeyond the Bedroom#3 On QueernessContent Warning: I do mention sexual assault in this episode (I remind you right before I go into it). This episode sheds light on my own experience growing up realizing I wasn't straight, and how this has shaped my life. I discuss topics like compulsory heterosexuality, coming into your queerness, and how bi-erasure is prevalent in both spaces. If you want to support my work, head to birna.net or follow me on Instagram @bbirna.
2020-10-1329 minBeyond the Bedroom#2: What’s Your Body Count?What counts as sex? What's the deal with the body count? How are these things related? In episode two, I investigate what goes into people's individual definitions of sex as I encourage my audience to rewrite the rules when it comes to intimacy. This episode is more geared toward men than my usual work (not exclusive to cis men though!) and includes some talking points for the guys in your life you care about. Head to my website birna.net/podcast to find the free journal for episode two. Follow me on IG @bbirna to keep the convo going!
2020-10-0725 minBeyond the Bedroom# 1: Did You Learn to Hate Your Body?If you’re worried about your belly while on top, you’re not alone. Every decade, a new unattainable body ideal is being sold to us, and these cultural messages can get in our heads and start to chip away at our self-worth. Birna sheds light on her role as a sexuality educator along with providing some insight on her own journey from disordered eating to self-compassion. A few weeks back, she posted an open-ended question about when people feel the most and least self-conscious and she goes over some of her favorite replies. At the end of the epis...
2020-09-2727 min