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The Vision-Driven MarriageHealing and Renewal in Marriage: Brad and Lisa Valencia's Journey of Faith, Redemption, and Personal GrowthCould your marriage withstand the weight of hidden challenges and small compromises? Join us on this powerful episode of the Vision-Driven Marriage Podcast as we welcome Brad and Lisa Valencia from Unrelenting Pursuit. They courageously share their transformative story from marital strife to triumph, driven by Brad's conviction to reveal the miracles in their relationship as a beacon of hope for others. Their journey is a testament to the power of Christ and unrelenting pursuit of what really matters.Our conversation delves into profound themes of faith, redemption, and the dangerous spiral of compromising one's beliefs. Brad...2024-05-3149 min
Pure Victory Podcast168. Hot Sex in Marriage with Brad and Lisa ValenciaWelcome to episode #168! This week, Matt and Braden talk with Brad and Lisa Valencia about how to have great sex in your marriage. Get your priorities right.Starting with building your relationship with Christ and being rooted and grounding in it and then working on your marriage outside the bedroom is how you begin to build a great sex life. Intimacy should be in every area and then sex is an overflow of something you’ve been working on all day long, throughout your life. Not just loving each other and flirting, but also includes de...2023-07-1944 min
Unrelenting Pursuit96. Our Renewal Ceremony - What does it look like to change your legacy?WELCOME BACK TO OUR NEW SEASON!
We get very personal on this episode and invite you into the details of our renewal ceremony at 15 years, and even read our vows that we spoke to each other. Find out why we believe legacy matters so much, and how we have seen how God has moved immeasurably more than we could ask or imagine in the past 11 years.
We also challenge each of you to look closely at what you are planting now and what that will produce in the future.
As always, we would lo...2023-01-1156 minUnrelenting Pursuit95. This is Destroying Marriages!In culture today, there is a mind-set of self-love, vs. what Christ calls us to, which is to be selfLESS.
We were shocked by several articles that stated the reason they chose to get a divorce is because of self-love. We see the continued trend of how culture is demeaning marriage, the value of it, and also giving it the appearance of it being simple to walk away from. In fact, the lie is that it will actually benefit your family to see you pursue happiness vs. staying in your marriage.
https://www.dougandrews.com/blog/2021/11/div...2022-11-2344 minUnrelenting Pursuit94. Are you ALL IN?It is so easy to come from a place of expecting God to meet us, instead of chasing after God. What is your posture towards God?
Are you all in?
Are you humble?
Are you seeking?
Is your heart hardened?
Are you stuck on the sidelines?
Your marriage is designed to be a team effort, filled with purpose, effective for the kingdom. You are meant to be better together, instead of being half of what could be. Don't settle, don't harden your heart, don't be lukewarm, don't hold back....chase after God. He can handle all your...2022-11-1649 minUnrelenting Pursuit93. Learning Each Other
Do you know yourself?
Do you know your spouse?
Do you help your spouse know how to love you?
Learning your spouse is an honor, a privilege you have for the rest of your life. You have the opportunity to grow individually, as a couple, and ultimately, in your walk with Christ. Don't take this privilege for granted, or expect it to remain if you choose to ignore it until you have "time" to invest.
We suggest you take the 5 love languages test https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language and make every effort to grow in loving your...2022-11-0946 minUnrelenting Pursuit92. Critical or Self-Critical?A criticizing spouse is one of the key factors in divorce, but self criticism is also detrimental to the health of your marriage. On this episode we take a look at criticism, it's effects, and some tangible steps you can take towards growth in this area. We encourage you to pray and to begin to...
See the Best
Speak the Best
Believe the Best
These actions apply to both sides of the coin, and will begin to change your mindset towards yourself and your spouse. Ultimately, we want you to remember to fight FOR each other, and...2022-11-0251 minUnrelenting Pursuit91. Parenting to EquipToday we live in a world where truth is ever changing, and our kids are bearing the brunt of the ever shifting dialogue.
As parents...
Are you preparing and equipping your teenagers?
Are you navigating the dance of both pushing them and pulling them?
Are you teaching them resiliency?
Do you have the right expectations for them?
Have you thought of the legacy you are leaving?
Do you live out what you talk about?
Are you building a foundation of faith?
Are you raising kids that are going to be high functioning adults, and that you...2022-10-2649 minUnrelenting Pursuit90. Do You Desire Consistency?The difference between where you want to be, and the life you dream of living, are consistent steps in the right direction. Over and over we see that developing consistent disciplines in marriage is a huge piece of the puzzle in building a better one, and towards healing. It is determining to do what it takes as long as it takes, and not depending on motivation, but on purpose.
Our biggest encouragement is for you to develop consistency in getting into the Word of God. This is an area that will impact every other area you desire...2022-10-1940 minUnrelenting Pursuit89. Reconnecting SexuallySexuality is one of the first places you can see the evidence of brokenness in a relationship. It holds great power to bring both connection and disconnection with your spouse. God's design for sex within marriage is meant to be a beautiful place of intimacy that draws a husband and a wife closer to one another, where they can experience pleasure with one another, but this is an area of brokenness for so many.
On this episode we talk about reclaiming ground the enemy has stolen, how to reconnect with each other after betrayed trust, and pursuing on...2022-10-1247 minUnrelenting Pursuit88. Peace Over ComfortWe often give people advice that they should follow peace but what does that look like? If you are feeling comfortable, does that mean peace? What does it look like to have a Godly peace that exceeds your emotions, understanding, and cirumstances? We dig into this topic on this episode and encourage you to never get ahead or behind where God wants you to be.
“Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can unde...2022-10-0537 minUnrelenting Pursuit87. On The SidelinesThis entire episode today is based off of a friend who left us a review. We wanted to address what it is like to be a part of the collateral damage when there is betrayed trust in a marriage.
Family and friends can either hinder or help in these situations. On this episode we give some practical advice on how you can help. Don't be a friend or family that helps numb the pain, but instead enable them to walk through it, and towards healing by being there, being careful with your advice, and above all praying! ...2022-09-2849 minUnrelenting Pursuit86. Mindset & Moving ForwardMindset and Moving Forward are key to any aspect of your life if you don't want to become stagnant. On this episode we talk about specific things that we learned that allowed us, through God, to get out of the same cycle over and over.
Isaiah 43:18-19
“Forget the former things;
do not dwell on the past.
See, I am doing a new thing!
Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?
I am making a way in the wilderness
and streams in the wasteland.
As always, we w...2022-09-2144 minUnrelenting Pursuit85. Guardrails & AccountabilityWe developed guardrails and accountability the hard way. We didn't think about them, or develop them until our marriage was in crisis. At first, they started as a series of rules instead of a systemic way to approach life, but we learned how valuable they were in helping us head the right direction, and protecting what we value.
The truth is that guardrails and accountability will serve you no matter where you are in your life, and they are a key aspect to changing yourself, your marriage, and ultimately your relationship with God.
On this episode we co...2022-09-1455 minUnrelenting Pursuit84. The Messy Part of Forgiveness...Our story involves a lot of forgiveness....on both sides. On this episode we touch briefly on Lisa and what forgiveness looked like for her, but the focus is on Brad and his journey of walking through forgiving himself. Listen as he discusses the process that God brought him through and how that transformed the way he thought, and even looked at himself. He reveals how God eventually had him look at his scars in an entirely different way. We pray this honesty brings hope to wherever you might find yourself.
We love that there is NOTHING...2022-09-0739 minUnrelenting Pursuit83. Transparency is Key!When you are looking to rebuild trust that has been broken, there is an innate longing for the truth. In fact, you will go to great lengths in order to unearth any deception. And truth is a beautiful thing...but do you need to know every detail to move forward? Does every thing you know truly lead you towards healing?
On this episode we go through some practical tips and questions to help you navigate this process. Transparency is key! The willingness to reveal any and all things is necessary in order to walk out reconciliation. However...2022-08-3142 minUnrelenting Pursuit82. And Now What?In the past few weeks, we have walked you through our individual stories, and what God had to do in both of our lives to bring us to the point of reconciliation. Now we want to take you through the actual reconciliation process and the steps that we learned along the way.
On this episode. we talk about the detox process. We found this to be one of the most painful stages to walk through, as we were in a consistent cycle of distrust and failure.
We are praying that some of the mistakes we mad...2022-08-2445 minUnrelenting Pursuit81. Part 2: Her Side
What does God teach you in the waiting places?
How does He show you what obedience looks like?
How does He give you opportunities to trust in what He is doing, even when you can't understand it, or see it?
How do you surrender?
How do you forgive?
Join as we dive into these topics in Part 2 of our story where we hear from Lisa and what God taught her along the way as life, as she knew it, fell apart.
As always, our prayer is always that you turn to Jesus and trust Him for healing no m...2022-08-171h 01Unrelenting Pursuit80. Part 1: His SideWe are so excited to be back for Season 5! We love that you are joining us for this journey, and pray you find this content helps you to grow as an individual and in your marriage.
We have had the amazing opportunity to share our story in many places, but we realized over the summer that we had failed to share it here. We hope, as we relay some of the darkest moments of our life, that you get a glimpse of the WHY behind our ministry...why we do this, why we are passionate about what...2022-08-1043 minUnrelenting Pursuit79. Summer Send Off!Hey Podcast family, we wanted to let you know that we will be taking a short summer hiatus from the Podcast, but we are already eager to be back with you in the fall! We pray you take this opportunity to listen to any episodes you may have missed, and to send us ideas of topics you want us to discuss in the future! We love you guys and are honored you come along with us on this journey! We can’t thank our listeners enough for your support and feedback!2022-05-2501 min
Unrelenting Pursuit78. Back up - Leave Room for a Gap!We are thrilled to have featured guest, Alison Simmons, on today's episode. There are so so many amazing truths that are revealed as Alison shares her story of betrayal, finding faith, divorce, and how she took her mess with her into her second marriage.
This is where she shares what God taught her about His design for marriage, leaving room for a gap, and getting uncomfortable living holy...
Be sure to follow Alison's Podcast, social media, and find out more about her available content and courses on her website down below.
https://www.a...2022-05-1844 minUnrelenting Pursuit77. Do You Pursue?We got a question from one of you that inspired this entire episode! We sure love to hear from you guys!
What does pursuit look like in your relationship? Do you know what pursuit feels like to you, to your spouse, and do you make time for it?
If there has been a breach of trust, are you going into hyper pursuit to really show your spouse that you value them, don't want to lose them, and to make new memories together?
The truth is, the longer you are together, the more intentional y...2022-05-1135 minUnrelenting Pursuit76. Pure Freedom Journey w/ Matt ClineDon't miss this frank interview where we get into the details about pornography, the damage it is doing, and the freedom that is possible. On this episode we interviewed Matt Cline who lives in Edmonton with his wife, Louise, and their two young sons.
He is the director of Restored Ministries, focused on leading men and women out of sexual bondage and into a life of freedom and impact. He is a speaker and coach with the John Maxwell Group and his teachings have had influence in over 65 countries. Formerly, Matt played hockey for Hockey Canada and i...2022-05-0435 minUnrelenting Pursuit75. Give Away Courage!Are you an encourager? Do you give support, confidence, or hope to someone? Have you considered encouragement as coming alongside someone to place courage into them? Today we talk about the impact this has had in our lives, and challenge you to live it out in your own. We also want you to keep in mind that Jesus endured hard things for the joy that lay before Him.....for you and for me!
Hebrews 12:1-3Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin t...2022-04-2738 minUnrelenting Pursuit74. Taking the Next Hard StepOne doesn't normally associate the word discipline with positive connotations. In fact, typically the first thing that comes to mind is punishment. We want to challenge you on today's episode to look at this through a different lens. In fact, God tells us that He disciplines those He loves. We loves these verses talking about discipline and the benefits it yields.
Hebrews 12:11-13 tells us that, "No discipline seems enjoyable at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it yields the fruit of peace and righteousness to those who have been trained by it. Therefore strengthen your...2022-04-2035 minUnrelenting Pursuit73. Married For a Purpose...Have you ever thought of you and your spouse having a God given purpose? Have you taken the time to think and plan out your vision as a couple? Have you considered living purpose focused instead of problem focused?
On this episode we talk about becoming Marriage Coaches through Married With a Purpose and what living out vision in our life means to us. We pray it inspires you to dream big and start living into what God has for each and every one of you!
As always, we would love to hear from you! DM...2022-04-1337 minUnrelenting Pursuit72. Enjoy the Journey with Chris & Jamie (Expedition Marriage)We are thrilled to bring you this interview on today's episode. This is a couple that is passionate about helping you enjoy the journey of marriage. They are podcasters, authors, and counselors. Don't miss it as they share some of their story, their ministry, and how God has shown up in both of their lives in incredible ways. Follow them on their Podcast and social media by clicking below.
https://expeditionmarriage.org/
As always, we would love to hear from you! DM us on social media, and follow us wherever you listen to Podcasts.
h...2022-04-0638 min
Restored Living PodcastEp. 20 : An Unrelenting Pursuit to Restored Pt. 2 (with Brad and Lisa Valencia)Welcome to the Restored Living Podcast, we are your hosts Josh and Jaelyn Harrel. We are a husband and wife who are passionate about partnering with people to rebuild, restore and renew their lives to the purpose God has for them. In 2018, God took our broken marriage and restored it to something beautiful, and we believe He wants to restore the parts of your life that seem broken too. Join with us as we talk openly and transparently about faith, health, marriage, sexuality, family, and everything in between. This, is Restored Living.
In this week's episode, Josh...2022-04-0544 minUnrelenting Pursuit71. This or ThatDid you know that you make on average 35,000 decisions a day?? Those add up to some monumental life altering daily choices. Just as many small steps in the wrong direction can destroy your marriage, we know that many small steps in the right direction can save it. And we want you to start thinking about those small steps, and the direction you are going. On this episode we discuss some little, some not so little, and some major crossroads every person is faced with. They ultimately determine the person you become and the marriage you will have.
W...2022-03-3033 minRestored Living PodcastEp. 19 : An Unrelenting Pursuit to Restored Pt. 1 (with Brad and Lisa Valencia)Welcome to the Restored Living Podcast, we are your hosts Josh and Jaelyn Harrel. We are a husband and wife who are passionate about partnering with people to rebuild, restore and renew their lives to the purpose God has for them. In 2018, God took our broken marriage and restored it to something beautiful, and we believe He wants to restore the parts of your life that seem broken too. Join with us as we talk openly and transparently about faith, health, marriage, sexuality, family, and everything in between. This, is Restored Living.
In this week's episode, Josh...2022-03-2947 minUnrelenting Pursuit70. When Does Sex Matter?We live in a culture today that minimizes the value of sex. Everyone is encouraged to follow their heart, do what makes them feel good, and get it all out before getting married. Ultimately, we live in a culture that is practicing for divorce. However, the value of sex can truly be seen in how culture shifts it's perspective on infidelity. In that case, you are told how valuable sex is. We are told that if this ever happens, someone can never change. The lie of "Once a cheater, always a cheater," is a rallying cry.
We e...2022-03-2340 minUnrelenting Pursuit69. It's Okay to NOT be Okay!Grief and stress can wreak havoc emotionally and physically. We recently lost our grandfather and on today's episode we discuss what that has looked like for us in the middle of the grieving process. In addition, we talk about what grieving looked like while we walked through infidelity and the divorce process.
There are several things we want you to remember from this episode.
Be your person's person. Be the safe space for your spouse to grieve, whatever that may look like.
It's okay to laugh and to enjoy life. In the midst of grief, it c...2022-03-1639 minUnrelenting Pursuit68. Your Dash Matters...We have rarely been this vulnerable on an episode before, but we want you to know we are committed to being real, honest, and open about our lives. We are walking through a difficult season of letting go of someone we dearly love, and it causes you to look at the brevity of life. It brings into clear focus the things that really matter, and the things that are distracting us from them. We encourage you on this episode to examine your life, your time, your relationship with Christ, and be sure that the dash on your gravestone is...2022-03-0931 minUnrelenting Pursuit67. Do you have a 24/7 Marriage?We were so thrilled to have special guests, Javier & Shannan Labrador from 24/7 marriage on this episode. They share their story and how they have left everything they have known to be on mission to help marriages. DON'T MISS THIS! They are passionate about restoring hope, redeeming stories, and building stronger marriages. Come and hear their mission and the story that has brought them to where they are today. Be sure to follow them on social media and their Podcast. They also have many resources to help your marriage grow!
FIND THEM HERE! https://www.247marriage.org/letsgo2022-03-0235 minUnrelenting Pursuit66. Running on Empty...Every person experiences seasons where they are running on empty. It's important (whether you are in that season, or before you get there) to ask yourself some important questions to help you navigate.
What brings you life?
What brings you Peace?
What restores balance?
What drains you?
Who drains you?
What do you need to say no to?
The process of what brings life can be different for each person, but we know that no matter what, Jesus will bring you life. He is ready to carry your burdens.
We also know that having someone t...2022-02-2339 minUnrelenting Pursuit65. What Does Love Require of ME?1st Corinthians 13:4-7 gives us a beautiful description of what love truly is... Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
It is easy to look at this verse and see where your spouse has "failed" you in love. However, we want to encourage you to look at this list c...2022-02-1633 minUnrelenting Pursuit64. Drifting...Have you ever been in a boat or in the ocean and you started drifting but didn’t realize it? Before you know it, you find yourself not going in the right direction or further from shore than you intended.
This same drifting happens in relationships….both with God and your spouse. We want you to have things in place to help you recognize and to correct when drift happens.
Ways to avoid/recognize drift...
Intentionality
Discipline
Guardrails
Self-awareness
Checkpoints, for yourself and with spouse. Ask specific questions that help you recognize areas you need...2022-02-0922 minUnrelenting Pursuit63. Money Matters - w/Marriage PuzzleThis is a HUGE area that needs to be addressed in YOUR marriage. According to Ameritrade 41% of divorced Gen Xers and 29% of Boomers say they got divorced over money issues!! This isn't something that should be ignored until it creates conflict, but should be worked on frequently, addressed in conversation, and planned out.
We are delighted on this episode to introduce to you special guests, Juli & Thomas, with Marriage Puzzle. They are marriage and financial coaches and they share with us a wealth of knowledge on both topics. They have a journey in their life that has s...2022-02-0246 minUnrelenting Pursuit62. Be Battle Ready!We are on our 4th part in our series on G.R.O.W. The W stands for War. Have you ever thought about the spiritual battle that is being waged around you? Have you ever considered the armor that God wants to equip you with? We do not want you to live your life cowering in fear, or stay on the sidelines living your life passively. We want you to train and we want you to be equipped. Be battle ready...knowing that the Lord will fight for you. We implore you to start recognizing the spiritual battle...2022-01-2639 minUnrelenting Pursuit61. But I don't want to OBEY...We are on the 3rd episode of our 4 part series titled G.R.O.W. If you haven't listened to the previous 2 episodes we encourage you to do so because we want each of you to grow as an individual, and in your marriage!
On this episode we discussed obedience. Obedience is hard for ALL of us! However, God calls us to obey Him, and when we obey Him, He entrusts us with even more.
1st John 5:3-5 says "For this is what love for God is: to keep His commands. Now His commands are n...2022-01-1937 minUnrelenting Pursuit60. RESTORE is necessary to G.R.O.WHave you ever considered that YOU are called to the ministry of reconciliation. That God is making His appeal THROUGH YOU! It is humbling to think that this is a ministry we are all called to, and that we need to seek restoration for ourselves as well.
We encourage you to walk through whatever is necessary to work on this in your life. We challenge you this week to take that one step, do that one thing, that begins the process to restore something with a person, in an area, or in yourself.
2 Corinthians 5:18-21...2022-01-1234 minUnrelenting Pursuit59. Want to G.R.O.W?This is the 1st in a 4 part series on how to grow as an individual, in your marriage, and in your relationship with God. We discussed the G. in Grow which stands for gratitude on this episode. If you want to change your life, change your perspective. Shift your attitude to find things to be grateful for DESPITE your circumstances. Look for opportunities to express gratitude for your spouse, and don't allow yourself to have a critical mindset.
Our challenge this week consists of scripture memorization. 1st Thessalonians 5:16-18 "Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in a...2022-01-0528 min
Unrelenting Pursuit58. "Do or do not. There is no try." -Yoda2022 is fast approaching, and we want to encourage you to approach this New Year differently. So many people set goals that quickly fade as they try to correct or improve something in themselves. We are asking you to shift your mindset from trying to training. Training embodies so much and we should always be in training. It involves setbacks, growth, daily decisions, and injuries. Instead of trying....commit to training.
Focus on the words of Paul to the Corinthian church in 1st Corinthians 9:24-27, "Do you not know that in a race that all the runners run, b...2021-12-2928 minUnrelenting Pursuit57. Shake or Steak?There is a plethora of advice out there, vast knowledge, and divine wisdom. It is all available, and many people receive that knowledge, but never choose to change because of it. The truth is that you will never change if you never change.
On this episode we talk about how we need to take what is given to us and apply it, not just hear it. We need to grow instead of being content to stay the same. We need to go to the author of all wisdom and allow Jesus to transform us. We discuss the v...2021-12-2232 minUnrelenting Pursuit56. Unwavering HopeWe live in a world today that is full of hopelessness, but we don't want you to live that way. Our desire for you is that you have a hope that surpasses all circumstances. Matthew 12:21 tell us this about Jesus, "And His name will be the hope of the world." We want you to have unwavering hope, not in what you can see, but in who He is, and what He can do.
As Abraham trusted in what God promised, even when he couldn't see how it was possible, we want you to be unwavering. Romans 4:20-21 s...2021-12-1536 minUnrelenting Pursuit55. Are You Generous?We discussed generosity in this episode, but not in the way you might assume. We often think of generosity in a monetary way but we want to discuss what generosity in marriage looks like. Have you ever considered whether you are generous in your marriage? What does that look like? What do you need to work on? We go over several ways you can express generosity as found in the article Generosity in Marriage by Greg Smalley from our words, small acts of kindness, expressions of affection, to forgiveness and grace. https://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/generosity-in-marriage-small-acts-that-make-a-big-difference/
As al...2021-12-0834 minUnrelenting Pursuit54. Bear and Bare!When we spoke our vows 20 years ago, we had no idea what they meant. We had no idea the immense meaning of "For better or worse, sickness or health, till death do us part." However, those words mean more now because we know what they truly encompass. We know what it means to bear one another up, and we believe this is a big part of marriage and life. We are meant to bear one another's burdens. We are not meant to try and keep everything fair, keep score, or not allow our spouse to help us. Ultimately, we...2021-12-0131 minUnrelenting Pursuit53. Build Your FaithToday is a short episode with a reminder to build your faith. We have been reading through the Bible chronologically and have been reminded repeatedly of all the times that Jesus mentioned faith in the gospels. We are asking God to increase our faith and in turn, we are sharing with you the steps we are doing, and have done, to do just that.
Set aside daily time with Jesus
Memorize Scripture (a great app is Scripture Typer)
Journaling Prayers (Write it out so you have a historical account of how God has answered your prayers)
We h...2021-11-1010 minUnrelenting Pursuit52. Discouraged?Discouragement is something each of us faces at some point. We got a review from a listener this week that really impacted us. It reminded us of the “why” behind everything we do, and it reminded us to run with endurance that race that lies before us.
Hebrews 12:1 Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a huge crowd of witnesses to the life of faith, let us strip off every weight that slows us down, especially the sin that so trips us up. And let us run with endurance the race God has set before us.
We ne...2021-11-0334 minUnrelenting Pursuit51. Weathering StormsStorms of life will come. We all know this inherently. Most of us have already gone through an abundance of storms that life has thrown at us. If you know they will come, are you preparing in advance? Have you taken the wise advice of Jesus in Matthew 7:24-27 where He tells us to …
Build Your House on the Rock
“Everyone then who hears these words of mine and does them will be like a wise man who built his house on the rock. And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and...2021-10-2735 minUnrelenting Pursuit50. Owning YouOne of the greatest elements we see in thriving marriages, and those that have successfully navigated healing after a crisis, is the ability to own their part. Over and over we see couples playing the blame game. If it isn't their spouse, they blame other aspects of their past as an excuse for their present behavior.
The blame game only breeds hurt, and shame, and leads to disrespect.
Before blaming ask yourself these questions...
Does it really matter?
What is your end goal?
What can YOU do?
Take ownership of your part. Take o...2021-10-2037 minUnrelenting Pursuit49. Are You a Winner?Is there a right way to fight? In this episode, we discuss four different ways that couples tend to handle conflict from the book Vertical Marriage by Dave & Ann Wilson.
"Win. A winner is usually good at conflict. Winners actually like conflict and are skilled at winning the argument. They bring eyewitness accounts and evidence, complete with full-color pictures, proving they are right."
"Yield. A yielder will "give in" to bring harmony to the relationship. Yielders believe that the marriage is more important than this one, isolated conflict, so they yield to bring peace back t...2021-10-1332 minUnrelenting Pursuit48. Don't Miss the OpportunityAre you in a season that requires patience? Have you ever practiced patience? It is not easy! On this episode, we discuss examples where we have had to practice patience, and what God has taught us in those moments. Sometimes, we have missed opportunities in the middle of the waiting because we have been fixated on what we think should happen, or are so distracted we don't see what is right in front of us. Join us for the discussion.
Verses on episode:
Exodus 14:14
Galatians 5:22-23
Be sure to follow our Podcast and we would...2021-10-0632 minUnrelenting Pursuit47. Couples Connect InterviewWe are delighted to share this interview with Couples Connect. We loved the questions they asked as it caused us to look at some things we hadn’t really thought about before.
Curious about our story?
This is a great place to hear about our journey and how God moves in impossible places. We encourage you to follow this couple on social media and listen to their amazing content!
https://www.tishatalks.org
https://www.instagram.com/_couplesconnect_/
We want to connect with you!
https://linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit -Social Media
unrelentingpursuitofmarriage@gmail.com...2021-09-291h 05Unrelenting Pursuit46. Friends of a Feather Podcast InterviewThis is an interview Lisa did with Wren Robbins on Friends of a Feather Podcast.
Please go follow her and subscribe to her podcast @https://linktr.ee/friendsofafeatherpodcast
For a full blog post on this interview, go to www.wrenrobbins.com/podcast/1882021-09-2242 minUnrelenting Pursuit45. Stressed??Did you know there is such a thing as good stress? Find out on this episode what the difference is between eustress and distress and ways to handle each of them in your life.
Things like...
Exercise
Keeping a sense of humor
Being able to say no to things
Not taking things personally
Forgiveness
Ultimately, we want you to lean into Jesus no matter what life throws your way. Over and over in scripture, we see examples of praise in the middle of, or before, the battle. God wants you to come to Him with a...2021-09-1537 minUnrelenting Pursuit44. My Way or the Highway...Do you struggle with control? Think about it again, do you find yourself fearful or angry? These things can be evidence of a desire to control things in your life. If you don't struggle with control, do you find yourself dealing with passivity? Do you remain disconnected from your faith, marriage, kids, and circumstances? God doesn't call us to live our lives in either of these places. He wants us to live purposed and surrendered lives. We want that for you as well. Come join us for this discussion and don't forget the challenge at the end.
...2021-09-0833 minUnrelenting Pursuit43. Can You Hear Me Now?Have you ever thought about the difference between hearing and listening? In this episode, we discuss the nuances of communication and some questions you can ask yourself to become a better listener. We were blessed to be panelists at the Intentional Marriage Conference where this topic was discussed by Kevin & Jessica Bullock. Please go follow them @https://linktr.ee/Jessicasbullock for more great advice and subscribe to her podcast.
Ask yourself the following questions to assess the areas you need to improve.
Am I a good listener?
Do I have a low tolerance for emotions?
Do...2021-09-0134 minUnrelenting Pursuit42. Season 3 -We are Back!We are thrilled to be back for Season 3 and thrilled that you are a part of our listening family. In this episode, we discuss some of the things we did over the summer and we tackle the question,
"Can you make your spouse cheat?"
Tune in as we discuss our experience with this issue and the many ways you can protect your marriage.
We are also guest speakers at the International Marriage Conference and want to invite you to take part.
Click here to purchase tickets to the International Marriage Conference o...2021-08-2528 minUnrelenting Pursuit41. 20 Years & 20 QuestionsToday we celebrate 20 years of marriage. There was a time in our marriage when we never thought this would be a day we would have a chance to celebrate, and we are beyond grateful to God, who has taken our broken story and done something beautiful.
We spend this episode answering 20 questions from our dear friend, Ariel Houston, about various stories & advice we have from our marriage. Don't worry, she also throws in plenty of questions for laughs too. Join us for the conversation!
This episode is the end of Season 2 but we are already p...2021-06-0950 minUnrelenting Pursuit40. Navigating life as a blended familyOn this episode, we have featured guests from Transformed Couples with us. They share some of their story as a blended family and give advice on how to navigate some of the intricacies of bringing two families together. We are so grateful for the hope they are bringing to so many and their transparency and openness on this topic. Join the conversation!
Find additional resources @https://www.transformedcouples.com/
Connect with us on social media @https://linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit
Email us @unrelentingpursuitofmarriage@gmail.com
2021-06-0239 minUnrelenting Pursuit39. What you want to know - Part 2We had so much fun on this episode and also answered some very deep questions from YOU guys, our listeners! We answered questions such as:
What does discipleship look like for y'all? Both with married and non-married people?
What are some practical ways to stop living in habitual sin?
What does it look like for you to pick someone to walk with you spiritually?
What are some ways to implement your spouse's love language weekly while raising small children?
Can one spouse make all the financial decisions?
We also answered a few other questions as well! We...2021-05-2637 minUnrelenting Pursuit38. What you want to know!On this episode we did our 1st part in a 2 part series of questions from you guys!
We answered questions like these:
Advice for engaged couples & newlyweds?
Will Brad be on a tiktok soon?
Do y'all fight?
Do you want more kids?
What is our most embarrassing moment in marriage?
How do you navigate In-law relationships?
What is your big dream for Unrelenting Pursuit?
We got very transparent and real in answering these questions and we are looking forward to answering the rest next week! Don't forget to subscribe to this Podcast and CONNECT with...2021-05-1936 minUnrelenting Pursuit37. The Key?...Consistency!Have you ever struggled with only being consistent in something if you see an immediate change? Do you give up easily when/if you don't see the end result?
What if you developed consistency:
Spiritually?
Physically?
Mentally?
As a spouse?
As a parent?
Verses referenced:
Galatians 6:9
1st Corinthians 15:58
Matthew 5:37
We have seen the results of consistency in our own lives, marriage, and as parents. Join us as we discuss ways to be consistent and develop discipline over time. Connect with us on social media and subscribe to our podcast below.
https://linktr.ee/Unr...2021-05-1245 minUnrelenting Pursuit36. What are you feeding yourself?On this episode we dive into what purity is and both the pitfalls and guardrails that we have experienced. It is is so easy to adopt a culture of acceptance and assume that we can never maintain purity with what we see, what we hear, and how we behave, but that is not the case!
We invite you to be radically different and experience your marriage the way God designed it to be. With great discipline comes great freedom!!
Scriptures referenced in this episode:
Matthew 6:22
1st Corinthians 10:13
Connect with us on social media...2021-05-0552 minUnrelenting Pursuit35. Adventure Together!Have you ever found yourself stuck in a rut? Do you feel like you are struggling with doing the same thing day in or day out? Did you know that adventure is healthy for your relationships? On this episode we cover five different ways that adventuring can benefit both your marriage and family.
It challenges you.
It bonds you together towards a common goal/experience.
It creates amazing memories.
It allows you to learn or teach something new
It rewards you.
So go out and adventure together!! Don't forget to connect with us on social media and...2021-04-2841 minUnrelenting Pursuit34. What's Your Number?We have had a lot of questions regarding the enneagram. So, we decided to consult a Christian Enneagram expert!
Join us as Kim Eddy answers a ton of questions for us on this episode. We wanted to know what the enneagram thing is about and have an overview of what each number means. We asked her if this was something Christians should even be looking in to and how it can help marriages. Don't miss this opportunity to better understand how God created you and your spouse! Remember, this is not an excuse for your behavior but...2021-04-2156 minUnrelenting Pursuit33. Parenthood ChallengesThis week has been a hard hit with the reality of our teenagers rapidly growing up and how the lessons we are learning can be applied to any season of life. We are finding the delicate balance required of giving both freedom and establishing guardrails and we would recommend these three things to help you navigate parenthood.
•Prayer - Pray over your children's future spouse and for your kids to develop wisdom and discernment.
•Protect - Protect your children physically, spiritually, and emotionally.
•Provide- Provide balance between freedom and guardrails, and provide a safe space for conversation.
Verses used in this e...2021-04-1444 minUnrelenting Pursuit32. Be the ManBeing a man in today's culture comes with a lot of stereotypes and misconceptions. We share from the heart on several strategies that have helped our marriage in this area. We also discuss how discipline, humility, and serving have had a huge impact in Brad becoming who God has called him to be.
We also want to recommend additional resources like "Soulcon" which is an online community, and "Playing the Man" by Mark Batterson.2021-04-0747 minUnrelenting Pursuit31. Trust While TravelingOur story involves rebuilding trust and a lot of traveling for work. Those two things don't work well together. We found several tips that have helped us and we share them with you on this episode. These can be applied to any season of your marriage and we hope they help you as they have helped us.
P - Priorities
R - Reactions
A - Accountability
Y - Yearning2021-03-3134 minUnrelenting Pursuit30. DON'T MISS Featured Guest - Ryan Frederick!!On this episode we interview Ryan Frederick. He is passionate about helping men treasure Christ most and love their families well. He and his wife, Selena, created Fierce Marriage with one simple mission: to point couples to Christ and commission marriages for the gospel. Together, their writing reaches millions of monthly readers around the world with the transformational message of the gospel.
Be sure to follow them on social media and subscribe to their podcast. They have authored several books, devotionals, curriculums that would be a great investment for your marriage and family!2021-03-2443 minUnrelenting Pursuit29. EVERYTHING in our brains!On this episode we continue to go over topics you submitted for us to discuss. We talk about things like insecurities in marriage, questions you should be asking your spouse, and what is something you should be doing weekly with one another.
We would love if you would take a few moments to write out a written review as it helps other people discover us.2021-03-1735 minUnrelenting Pursuit28. You asked for it!On this episode we go over some of the questions YOU asked us to discuss! Tune in as we go over the advice we would give newly married couples/parents and discover whether you should you be doing a weekly "check in."
2021-03-1036 minUnrelenting Pursuit27. Navigating DifferencesWe have many differences as a couple and on this episode we discuss a few of them and what has helped us navigate them in a healthy way. Things like finances, change, perspective can all influence how you handle your day to day life a a couple, and it's so important to recognize those differences and find ways to grow with one another, and love each other, despite of them. Join us in the conversation!2021-03-0337 minUnrelenting Pursuit26. Calling all the Ladies!On this episode we are thrilled to interview featured guest, Nancy Kaser, who gives amazing advice regarding marriage. Nancy is author of "Crown" which takes women through 30 Wife-Changing Lessons. Tune in and join us for the conversation.2021-02-2436 minUnrelenting Pursuit25. Always You Everywhere!Have you ever found yourself being one person at home, at work, and another around friends? We get very real on this episode about being the authentic you and how to model this throughout every area of your life. 2021-02-1734 minUnrelenting Pursuit24. Keeping ScoreDo you find yourself keeping an ongoing list of what is fair in your relationships? If your spouse gets to do something, do you think you should be able to? Are you keeping score? On this episode we give some advice on how to navigate these issues, and how we dealt with this in our own relationship. Join us as we get very real about where we were and where we want to be!2021-02-1032 minUnrelenting Pursuit23. Just a lil Encouragement!There are so many phases we all go through. There are phases of marriage, parenthood, and in ourselves. We wanted to take a moment on this episode to encourage you guys, thank you for your encouragement, and remind you to encourage those around you. Speak life! We all need it. 2021-02-0340 minUnrelenting Pursuit22. Don't Hurry the Wait!Seasons of waiting are rough! It makes us wonder if it will ever end, what the results will be, or if it will only get worse! We have found several things that have really helped us navigate through seasons of waiting. We hope that as we share them, they encourage you wherever you find yourself currently.
2021-01-2734 minUnrelenting Pursuit21. Dangerous MarriageMany people think of dangerous as a bad word, but we want to challenge you to think of this word differently. We ask that you strive towards having a dangerous marriage. The kind of marriage that defies what the world says about relationships and one another and we encourage you to
"Never insult God with small thinking or safe living."2021-01-2039 minUnrelenting Pursuit20. Get NakedHave you ever thought about the fact that getting naked in your marriage is about more than the physical? Getting naked involves true openness with your spouse the way that God designed it. Tune in as we discuss how getting naked in your marriage can lead to more naked in your marriage. 2021-01-1336 minUnrelenting Pursuit19. New Year - Same You!Have you ever made a resolution in the New Year and found yourself failing within days or weeks? On this episode we discuss some of our own successful and unsuccessful resolutions/goals. We invite you along to join the conversation.2021-01-0638 minUnrelenting Pursuit18. The List - Part 2We are excited to share with you the rest of, "The List." We are so thankful for each and every one of you that joins our conversation each week. We wish you a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!2020-12-1637 minUnrelenting Pursuit17. The ListWe all need advice on marriage to grow and thrive. On this episode we discuss everything from praying with your spouse, to what happens when you talk negatively about them to others. We invite you to join the conversation. 2020-12-0934 minUnrelenting Pursuit16. Best Advice - Part 2Learn our thoughts on favorite advice given in marriage such as, "Never keep secrets from each other, be quick to say, "I'm sorry, give your best to each other, and not your leftovers." Join us in the conversation. As always, we would love to hear from you! Feel free to DM us on social media. 2020-12-0239 minUnrelenting Pursuit15. Best Advice - Part 1There seems to be plenty of advice on marriage around, but not a lot of great stuff. We spend some time on this episode going through an amazing list from Dave & Ashley Willis on their favorite marriage advice they have received over the years. Come and join us for the conversation.2020-11-2538 minUnrelenting Pursuit14. Hustle & BustleWe all have traditions (both good and bad) around the holidays. On this episode we discuss some of our traditions and some of yours! We encourage you to remember what really matters this season. Slow down and appreciate the little moments, those around you, and have an attitude of gratitude.2020-11-1834 minUnrelenting Pursuit13. Holding on to HopeHow do you hold on to hope in hopeless situations? When should you let go of hope? Who should you place your hope in? We invite you to join our discussion around these and other questions. 2020-11-1131 minUnrelenting Pursuit12. Expectations & DisappointmentsUnmet or unhealthy expectations really affect your marriage. Join us as we discuss our own expectations in marriage and how we have learned to handle them. 2020-11-0437 minUnrelenting Pursuit11. Thriving -Not Just Surviving!Do you ever feel like you are just surviving and not thriving as a parent? There are few things that affect a marriage more than having kids. We invite you to join the conversation on this episode where we discuss unique ways to discipline, what really matters, and the art of saying, "I'm sorry."2020-10-2842 minUnrelenting Pursuit10. Drown Out the NoiseHave you ever wondered how to hear from God? Or have you wondered if you have heard from Him, and somehow missed it? Tune in as we describe our real life experiences on this topic and various ways to drown out the noise in your life.
Also, don't miss our challenge at the end of the episode! 2020-10-2148 minUnrelenting Pursuit9. Anxiety & FearCome join the conversation with our featured guest, Ariel Houston, as we discuss her experience with this topic. She shares her personal struggle with anxiety & fear and offers some practical advice on how she is navigating through this difficult season.2020-10-1451 minUnrelenting Pursuit8. Rebuilding TrustOn this episode we share part of our story and we go over what helped us to rebuild trust in our marriage. This is a very real and raw look at what brokenness looks like, and how God can take that and make something beautiful. We pray that you can apply these tips to your own life and begin to see transformation in both yourself and the relationships around you.2020-10-0747 minUnrelenting Pursuit7. Laugh till it Gets Better BabyDid you know that laughing can reduce stress and tension, stimulate your immune system, reduce your blood pressure, bring you closer as a couple, and help keep your relationship fresh? Neither did we! In this episode we discuss ways to incorporate humor into your daily life, and how to help use laughter to navigate through both painful and joyful times.2020-09-3045 minUnrelenting Pursuit6. No Matter - Words MatterWe all know that words can either build us up, or bring us down, but have you thought about how they affect your marriage? Do you bring life, or are you allowing toxic thoughts and words to breed destructive patterns in your relationship? We invite you to have a conversation with us about these questions and more.2020-09-2339 minUnrelenting Pursuit5. Dollar Dollar Bill Y’allShould one person have power over the money? Should you have a budget? Are you a Saver or a Spender? Should there be separate bank accounts or joined? Come along with us as we have a conversation revolving around these questions and more!!2020-09-1642 minUnrelenting Pursuit4. Legacy - Think Forward & Plan BackwardsWe discuss what legacy is and how you are leaving one, whether you think about it or not. Find out some ways to help you leave a lasting legacy for those you love.2020-09-0934 min