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Let's Keep Talking with Braxton GilbertThe Layers of Women’s Sexual Empowerment | Juliet AllenSo many women are quietly carrying a fear that runs their love life: “If I want too much, I’ll be judged or left.” We go straight into that tension, unpacking sexual shame, the pressure to stay palatable, and why self-censorship can feel safer than honesty. Along the way, we connect the “too much” story to abandonment wounds and early experiences that teach the nervous system to hold back, perform, and prioritize someone else’s comfort over real desire.From there, we zoom out into a holistic view of sexual wellbeing. We talk about sexual energy as life force e...
2026-03-2356 minLet's Keep Talking with Braxton GilbertHow People Pleasing Trains Your Nervous System (feat Mom)What if keeping everyone happy has been teaching your body a risky lesson: my safety depends on your approval? We dive into people pleasing not as a character flaw, but as an adaptive relationship strategy that once kept us connected and now keeps us stuck. With stories that range from being the “teacher’s pet” to a drained family dinner after a long day at Universal, we draw a clear line between clean compromise and compliance that breeds resentment.Together we unpack how approval-seeking gets wired into the nervous system, why disappointment often feels like danger, and how to...
2026-03-1044 minLet's Keep Talking with Braxton Gilbert5 Bedroom Skills Every Man Should MasterWhat if great sex isn’t about getting somewhere, but about feeling everything? We share five practices that turn a frantic sprint to climax into a steady, nourishing experience that fills the whole body and brings you closer to your partner. It starts with a simple shift: stop forcing arousal and start feeling. By settling into your senses—skin, breath, weight on the sheets—you invite the parasympathetic nervous system to take the lead. Performance anxiety eases, erections can ebb and flow without panic, and pleasure becomes a current you can ride instead of a peak you must reach.
2026-02-2333 minLet's Keep Talking with Braxton GilbertGuided nervous system exerciseWhat if calm began at your feet? We guide a simple, vivid meditation that starts by relaxing the shoulders, face, and pelvic floor, then shifts awareness into the soles to create a grounded base. From there, we play with a light Qigong-inspired image: breathe as if you’re drawing air up through your feet and legs into your body, then exhale back down through the legs. It’s not literal breathwork—it’s a sensory frame that helps the nervous system settle, quiets a busy mind, and replaces head-heavy tension with embodied ease.Once that foundation feels steady...
2026-02-1020 minLet's Keep Talking with Braxton Gilbert4 reasons to practice Qigong (sensitivity > intensity)What if the feeling you’re chasing is already available in your body, quietly waiting under the noise? I share how a simple, repeatable Qigong routine—deep belly breathing, a relaxed pelvic floor, and soft, grounded feet—reshaped my days from the inside out. The practice made me less desperate for external wins and more energized to pursue what matters, a paradox that turned out to be the point: calm is fuel when it lives in the body, not just the mind.We begin with a short guided segment you can follow along with to feel the core c...
2026-01-2631 minLet's Keep Talking with Braxton GilbertIntentional dating sucks (but I know it's worth it)We unpack how a “full-bodied yes” standard reshaped dating, why chemistry alone can’t carry a relationship, and the courage it takes to walk away from almost-right love. We share the tools that kept us honest, regulated, and ready for a partner who truly fits.• defining a full-bodied yes and personal checkboxes• creating time and app boundaries to protect focus• honoring great chemistry while naming missed needs• practicing radical honesty as shared reality• using a week of space to sober emotions• four post-date questions for clear evaluation• enlisting trusted friends as accountability mirro...
2026-01-1328 minLet's Keep Talking with Braxton GilbertHow I learned to have full body non-ejaculatory orgasmsHere's what AI said this episode is about: What if the best sex of your life starts with doing less? We dive into a counterintuitive practice that swaps clenching for softening, urgency for receptivity, and a finish-line mindset for waves of full-body pleasure. By anchoring to the simple release you feel while peeing, we retrain the pelvic floor to relax during arousal, letting sensation spread through the belly, hips, spine, and legs. The result isn’t just intensity—it’s nourishment that lingers long after the lights go out.I break down the mechanics that changed...
2025-12-0724 minLet's Keep Talking with Braxton GilbertHow to use your s*xual energy (5 ways)I have learned there are five different ways to engage with s*xual energy. I am sharing them with you here. 1. Escapism2. Trying to have an orgasm3. Pleasure and enjoyment throughout the entire experience 4. Giving and receiving love5. Ecstatic UnionJoin my next men's group: https://sites.google.com/view/8weekmensgroupcom/home⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel! 👀Instagram/ Braxtongilbert
2025-02-0336 minLet's Keep Talking with Braxton GilbertLearning SENSITIVITY in S*X (The greatest thing I'm learning rn)In this video I talk about the many ways a lesson from Alexey Welsh has impacted me in the recent weeks. In short, I am learning the skill of sensitivity in sexual practice and it has been so remarkable I wanted to record a video just quickly outlining the few key points I have experienced. I hope this is useful for you.⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel! 👀Instagram/ Braxtongilbert
2025-01-1322 minLet's Keep Talking with Braxton GilbertReimagining Sex as Sacred: A Journey Beyond Compulsive SexualityIs it time to reimagine sexuality as something sacred and awe-inspiring rather than just a biological function? Join me as I share my personal journey of overcoming compulsive sexual behaviors and addiction by embracing sex as a profound mystery. Influenced by Western civilization and purity culture, our perceptions of sex have often been marred by shame and guilt. Together, we’ll explore how honoring sexual attraction can lead to personal growth and a richer understanding of ourselves. Discover how redefining sex beyond societal constraints has been transformative in my life, and how it can be for you too.
2024-12-3026 minLet's Keep Talking with Braxton GilbertStop trying to c*m (mindful sex) | Alexey WelshI respect Alexey Welsh so much. This is the second episode we have recorded together about sex. He has a truly eye-opening perspective on sex, and a great course online that I have personally used.https://www.lovefloweducation.com/ (Alexey's course)https://www.youtube.com/@AlexeyWelsh (Alexey's YouTube)⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel! 👀Instagram/ Braxtongilbert
2024-12-091h 17Let's Keep Talking with Braxton Gilbert3 ways to COMMUNICATE instead of ARGUE | Lauren McLeodAfter a week or two of being engrossed in my work projects my partner asked me how I had been feeling about our relationship. This lead to a discussion about our different "appetites" for relationship and we both sought to understand one another more instead of argue over who was right / wrong / who needed to change, etc. We distilled the 3 things that we think worked well in our conversation, and recorded this episode to share them with you! ⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel! 👀Instagram/ Braxtongilbert
2024-11-2629 minLet's Keep Talking with Braxton GilbertUnderstanding Disembodied Sexual Consumption (and the way out)I have struggled to know how to best guide myself to sexual well-being. Indulgence, or self restraint in the name of being "good". That false dichotomy split when I realized there was no top-down rule that I could apply to know how I should behave, instead, drawing much inspiration from mindfulness practices, I have learened to simply check-in with my body to see if my desire is even legitamite or just the consumption tapeworm that lives inside my brain and can't stand to suffer a minute of boring, bland, challenging reality! (this is the case 99%) of the time.
2024-07-0120 minLet's Keep Talking with Braxton GilbertBringing consciousness to sexualityIn many episodes I have shared information on the mechanisms of addiction - so you're better equipped to face it. We have spent time looking closely at things like dopamine, habituation, and self-discipline. (Dr. Anna Lembke & Dr. Daniel Lieberman) I have for a long time pointed to these topics when sharing about my journey with sex/pornography addiction. But here recently I've started to realize the credit might need to be shared with a simple breathing exercise I started doing about a year and a half ago. (Looking back now I think it's actually made all...
2024-06-2420 minLet's Keep Talking with Braxton Gilbert5 reasons I don't watch porn (even when I want to)5 reasons I don't watch porn (even when I want to)1. It makes sex about dopamine chasing 2. Real sex is better and it kills that 3. Habituation is dog shit 4. It reinforces a style of sex that I am trying to unlearn5. It's mostly disembodied consumption for me, and I'm asking what purpose I want sex to serve in my life? -----------------Here is what AI says this episode is about: Ever wondered why giving up porn could transform your life in ways you never imagined? Join us as we un...
2024-06-1722 minLet's Keep Talking with Braxton GilbertSex addiction has nothing to do with the sexThis is one of the most important distinctions I have found on my way out of darkness of sex addiction. Even when I felt NOTHING during sex.. I constantly chased it down and organized my life around it. Why? Here's an AI summary of my episode: Ever wondered why some addictions feel impossible to break? Join me, Braxton Gilbert, as I uncover the surprising truth behind sex addiction: it’s not about the act itself, but the anticipation leading up to it. Sharing my personal journey, I reveal how the dopamine rush from anticipating sexu...
2024-06-1017 minLet's Keep Talking with Braxton GilbertI had LOVING sex (and it was crazy)I am practicing approaching sex from a totally different intention. In the past, sex has been all about entertainment, and chasing down an orgasm. However, a few episodes ago Alexey Walsh shared with me a different model for engaging with sex, one that aims at saturation instead of "completion". I am learning to saturate in the of emotional substances that make up the flow of sexual energy (mainly love and connection) instead of just quickly reaching for sex as a cure for boredom. In this episode I tell the story of the two most recent sexual experiences I have...
2024-05-2927 minLet's Keep Talking with Braxton Gilbert4 themes of porn & sex addictionIn this video, I share 4 themes of pornography and sex addiction that upon noticing them have really helped me in my personal growth. I hope that by sharing these discovers they may help you too! Four distinct themes of porn and sex addiction: 1. I can't catch anticipation (they feeling I was after) 2. After years of misuse, I became reliant on my behaviors for baseline dopamine (addiction) 3. I learned to objectify people and this really screwed up relationships4. I learned to see sex as a solo act of consumption instead of fundamentally an act...
2024-05-2022 minLet's Keep Talking with Braxton Gilbert2 months without P*RN (8 things I've learned)Have you ever stood at the crossroads of temptation and discipline, feeling the magnetic pull of instant gratification? This episode is about conquering that battle, as I share my intimate journey away from the grasp of pornography and towards a more profound understanding of sexual connection. The allure of fantasy had me chasing an unattainable high, but I've discovered that the heart of addiction lies not in the content consumed, but in the pursuit itself. TLDR: For me, porn was addiction to fantasy. Addiction to the feeling of more and better. It was all about an...
2024-05-1334 minLet's Keep Talking with Braxton GilbertAuthentic communication INVOLVES conflictIn my life, I am learning so much about how honest dialogue involves conflict. I am learning to not run from conflict, but rather use its presence in my life as an indicator that I am doing something right. ⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel! 👀Instagram/ Braxtongilbert
2024-04-0821 minLet's Keep Talking with Braxton GilbertEmbracing pain leads to pleasure | Dr. Anna LembkeDiscover the hidden threads connecting pleasure, pain, and our coping strategies as we dissect the pleasure-pain balance in an awesome conversation with Anna Lembke! Anna is Chief of the Stanford Addiction Medicine Dual Diagnosis Clinic at Stanford University and a New York Times best selling author! (And a super kind and lovely person)She teaches me why the very things we lean on for comfort, from the instant gratification of adult content to the numbing embrace of drugs, might be steering us deeper into the clutches of depression and anxiety. We take a hard look at the...
2024-04-0138 minLet's Keep Talking with Braxton GilbertUnveiling a New Paradigm of NOURISHING Sexual Relationships | Alexey WelshThis episode, alongside seasoned professional in conscious sexuality Alexey Welsh, brings to light the deeper dimensions of love and connection through the lens of sexual awakening. We navigate the waters of societal norms and personal barriers, uncovering how shifting our approach to sex from excitement and pleasure to nourishment and presence can revolutionize our intimate relationships.Throughout our discussion, we weave together the threads of sacred sexuality, conscious intimacy, and the pursuit of a shared journey in love, rather than a destination. The practice of withholding ejaculation, the balance between pleasure and purpose, and the cultural imbalances t...
2024-03-251h 24Let's Keep Talking with Braxton GilbertStop people pleasing | Matt PhiferDive deep into the heart of self-awareness and relationship dynamics with us, as we unravel the enigma that is narcissism and its influence on personal boundaries. Our conversation journeys through the tricky terrain of human behavior, as we dissect the spectrum of narcissistic traits—from those that can be healthy and self-preserving to the toxic patterns indicative of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. With the guidance of our insightful guest, we shine a light on the different faces of narcissism, the covert manipulators and the overt attention-seekers, while equipping you with the tools to recognize and protect yourself from the subtle ta...
2024-03-1848 minLet's Keep Talking with Braxton GilbertUnlocking the Chains of Addiction with The CourtnologistThis episode is a raw and intimate journey into the heart of addiction and the power of recovery. Courtney bravely shares her harrowing battle with opiate and meth addiction, we peel back the layers of this often misunderstood and stigmatized condition. We discuss the paradox of seeking comfort in the very thing that hurts us and the incredible transformation that unfolds through the recovery process.Weaving personal narratives with insights from Khalil Rafati's "I Forgot to Die" and the scientific perspectives of Dr. Anna Lemke and Dr. Daniel Lieberman, this episode is steeped in both hope and p...
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Faces of FITSTATEAllanda Campbell | Self-care and personal growth ❤️When Allanda Campbell stepped into the realm of fitness, little did she know the journey would redefine empowerment for her. As you listen to our latest episode, you'll witness the unraveling of her story, from the early hurdles to the ultimate realization of fitness as a lifestyle transformation. Our conversation promises to offer actionable insights and heartfelt advice for those on the brink of their own fitness journey, emphasizing the importance of a long-term health and wellness mindset over the allure of quick fixes.We even explore the relationship between self-care and personal growth, drawing w...
2024-03-0548 minLet's Keep Talking with Braxton GilbertWomen are valued based on SEX | Angel DeSantisImagine a world where gender roles are not just inverted but transcended, where the value of women is celebrated beyond sexualization, and where the dance of masculine and feminine energies is a harmony, not a hierarchy. Angel de Santas joins us to navigate through this nuanced terrain, dismantling the cultural constructs that have long oppressed women and limited men. We dissect the problematic narratives around sexuality and performance in relationships, advocating for connection over conquest, and emphasizing the vitality of self-awareness in cultivating deep, fulfilling intimacy. This conversation is a call to action, urging both men and w...
2024-03-041h 23Let's Keep Talking with Braxton GilbertKhalil Rafati on beating Crack & Heroin AddictionFrom a crack & heroin fueled madness to spiritual well-being and entrepreneurial success.. Khalil's story is insane and I was so excited to get to hand with him for this episode!AI summary: Imagine hitting rock bottom, lost in the grip of addiction, only to rise again with a story so compelling it could fill volumes. Our guest, Khalil Rafati, has lived this extraordinary arc. From the despair of Skid Row to the heights of entrepreneurial success and personal revival, Khalil's candid retelling of his journey in "I Forgot to Die" and "Remembering to Live" offers a r...
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