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Triggered and TrueEp. (58) The Remote Control Exercise – Live Walkthrough with Mel and BrienThis episode is an exciting continuation of our previous one, where Laura and Brian introduced The Remote-Control Exercise. In this installment, two courageous podcast listeners have volunteered for a live demonstration. Tune in as Mel and Brien reveal their triggers and let Laura guide them through The Remote-Control Process. 2025-04-181h 36Triggered and TrueEp. (57) The Art and Science of The Remote Control ExerciseIn this episode, Brian and Laura delve into The Remote Control Exercise, exploring how it can be used to effectively apply the principles of The Compassion Method. This powerful tool will enhance your understanding of how to maximize the benefits of The Compassion Method and help you connect with your True Self. Additionally, they are looking for a volunteer to participate in this exercise on an upcoming podcast episode! 2025-03-2156 minTriggered and TrueEp. (56) I Feel Like I Am Failing at ThisWhether you are new to The Compassion Method (TCM) or have been implementing the process for a long time, there will be moments when you feel like you are an epic failure. These are often associated with big, triggered reactions that you are not proud of. These big reactions might make you feel like the TCM process is not working or that you are doing something wrong. In this episode, Brian discusses a big “failure” that he had recently. Listen in as Laura guides him through it and helps him discover beauty in his perceived failure. 2025-02-2147 minTriggered and TrueEp. (55) The Knowledge of Good and Evil: The Root of All PainIn this thought-provoking episode of The Triggered and True Podcast, we delve into the profound story and significance of the two trees in the Garden of Eden. While Christian faith is not a requirement to understand these concepts, Christianity has undeniably shaped the perspectives shared in this episode.We explore the human tendency to label things as good or bad and question whether we are truly capable of making such judgments.The episode examines why the knowledge of good and evil is considered the root of all emotional pain. We discuss how this knowledge robs...2025-01-2048 minTriggered and TrueEp. (54) We will treat others how we treat ourselvesMany of us know the Golden Rule: treat others as you would like to be treated. In this episode, we explore this concept from a fresh angle. The reality is, under pressure, you will treat others as you treat yourself. If you aren't kind to yourself, extending kindness to others becomes exhausting. Our treatment of others reflects the state of our inner world. Join us as we dive deeper and share insights that could transform your life. 2024-12-2041 minTriggered and True(Ep. 53) Healing the Parent/Child RelationshipJoin us for a compelling discussion on healing the parent/child relationship. We'll explore where to start and why this journey can be so challenging. This episode is impactful for everyone, whether your parent is no longer with you or you're currently estranged. The parents/child relationship forms the bedrock of our lives, and its significance cannot be overstated. 2024-11-1544 minTriggered and True(Ep. 52) If you have never had anyone be with you in the problem, you will medicate with the solution.In this episode we will expand your concept of “medication” and the importance of feeling our pain in the healing process. At the end we give a powerful example of how sexual addiction is a form of medication for the absence of one of the 10 Gifts. This episode truly has something for everyone. 2024-10-1850 minTriggered and True(Ep. 51) Addressing TCM misconceptionsIn this episode we address some common misconceptions: What am I a doormat? Doesn't what they did matter? I am not triggered i'm just passionate! All of this focus on me seems selfish and more.... 2024-09-2046 minTriggered and True(Ep. 50) The KeysIn this episode we discuss the "keys" to living your life to its fullest. Life is a precious gift and who you are is the extraordinary. These "keys" can help you be the person you were created to be and enjoy your life for the precious gift that it is! 2024-08-1744 minTriggered and True(Ep. 49) Learning To Feel Your EmotionsIn this episode, we dive into the crucial skill of learning to feel our emotions and understand what they are trying to tell us. The Compassion Method™ process stalls without learning this crucial skill. Brian and Laura share from their personal experience as well as Laura’s professional experiences, helping countless others learn how to feel and connect with what is happening in their inner world. 2024-07-1941 minTriggered and True(Ep. 48) Understanding the Connection Between Shame and BlameHave you ever felt misunderstood? How about disrespected? Please join us as Laura connects these common human feelings to shame and blame and highlights a pathway to empowerment and healing. 2024-06-2149 minTriggered and True(Ep. 47) Connecting the Compassion Method™ to Your Faith (Part 3)This is the third installment of Laura and Brian continuing the discussion of how the Compassion Method™ can help you live your faith more authentically and shame-free. 2024-05-3148 minTriggered and True(Ep. 46) Connecting the Compassion Method™ to Your Faith (Part 2)In this episode, Laura and Brian continue the discussion of how the Compassion Method™ can help you live your faith more authentically and shame-free. 2024-04-1257 minTriggered and True(Ep. 45) Connecting the Compassion Method™ to your FaithIn this episode, Laura and Brian discuss how the Compassion Method™ can help you live your faith more authentically and shame-free. They also discuss the strong impact Laura’s personal faith had on the development of The Compassion Method™ process. 2024-03-2252 minTriggered and True(Ep. 44) How you can go deeper with the Compassion Method™ todayIn this special episode, Laura and Brian talk about the resources Laura has created for you to go deeper with the Compassion Method™ beyond the podcast! 2024-01-1541 minTriggered and True(Ep. 43) What relationships look like on the other side of The Compassion MethodIn today’s episode, Laura and Brian discuss how the principles of The Compassion Method impact relationships with the people that are closest to you in your life. Also, they will share a different perspective on “toxic” relationships. 2023-12-1538 minTriggered and True(Ep. 42) Guiding Adult Children Using The Compassion Method ProcessIn this episode, Laura and Brian discuss what a parent's role is in their adult child's life and how the Compassion Method is a key part of the process. 2023-11-1046 minTriggered and True(Ep. 41) Discovering Your TRUE SELFIn this episode, Laura and Brian discuss discovering your TRUE SELF. Your True Self is who you were created to be. It is and has always been with you…..it has simply been covered up by pain and unmet need. In this episode, we discuss practical ways to discover who you are and how to live from this place of authenticity. You are an amazing gift to the world…..it’s time to discover just how amazing! Exercise Downloads:https://www.triggeredandtrue.com/exercises 2023-10-1349 minTriggered and True(Ep. 40) What You do is NOT who you ARE.Join us in this episode as Laura and Brian share stories and truths about how the things you’ve done are not you’re identity; they are not who you ARE. 2023-09-0844 minTriggered and True(Ep. 39) The Powerful Relationship between Joy and PainIn this episode, Laura and Brian discuss a topic that is often difficult to confront - the relationship between joy and pain. It's easy to assume that we can only experience happiness if we avoid pain at all costs, but the opposite is true. We can only experience true and lasting joy if we confront and learn to comfort our pain. Join us as we share an empowering perspective on the relationship between pain and joy! 2023-08-1142 minTriggered and True(Ep. 38) Who’s the Victim, and who’s the villain?"In this episode, Laura and Brian explore the idea that there are no victims or villains in our lives. This may sound harsh and even hard to believe at first, but this truth has the power to set you free and to heal. By examining our pain through the Compassion Method and understanding the pain of others, we can begin to see ourselves and the people around us in a new light. 2023-07-2146 minTriggered and True(Ep. 37) Discover These 4 Ways to Love and Care for Yourself Using the Compassion MethodLaura’s teaching on the four ways we love ourselves is groundbreaking. As she examines each one, you will learn how to be a caretaker of your soul, and you will also see where you have hidden pockets of pain that are blocking you from loving who you are. You will find this episode to be very revealing and an essential component of your personal Compassion Method journey. 2023-06-3051 minTriggered and True(Ep. 36) Applying The Compassion Method (TCM) to children and parentingA listener asks a question about how to engage her triggered child using the TCM approach. As usual, Laura’s response challenges us to think unconventionally and even go against what is our natural inclination. As a parent, or really anyone who is in a position of authority over others, it is easy to focus on the child’s behavior and ignore what is going on inside of ourselves. Laura discusses how the most important thing we can do for our children is to learn how to be OK (clear minded, tender hearted, and at peace) even when...2023-06-0947 minTriggered and True(Ep. 35) What happens when the pain is simply too BIG?!?Have you ever attempted The Compassion Method Process and felt “stuck” because your pain is just so overwhelming that you can’t move forward? Have you ever experienced emotional pain so intense that you felt like you were drowning? Is there a pain source from your past that you simply cannot return to in an effort to bring comfort? In this episode, we address these situations and how to utilize The Compassion Method process to meet your heart where it is at. 2023-05-1952 minTriggered and True(Ep. 34) Learning to Comfort Grief and Identify its Hidden FormsWhen grief is not properly comforted, it can rob us of life. When properly comforted we can experience hope, peace, and joy. In this episode, Laura and Brian walk through navigating grief, identifying its hidden forms, and learning how to bring comfort to our hearts.Join us for episode 34 of Triggered and True! 2023-04-2845 minTriggered and True(Ep. 33.) Emotions Are Not Your EnemyMany people believe and have been taught that feeling their emotions is wrong… That doing so can be harmful or is a sign of weakness. That they can’t be trusted and should simply be avoided and suppressed.In this episode, Brian and Laura tackle this lie head-on and talk through the power of feeling emotions, and letting them guide you to where you are hurting, knowing that there is always hope……always!You’ll want to listen through to the end as Brian shares a personal experience proving why emotions should not be suppressed but rather...2023-04-0755 minTriggered and True(Ep.32) Answering Your Frequently Asked QuestionsIt has been quite a bit since Brian and Laura answered our listeners questions on the show! This episode is all about you and your questions, throughout the episode we answer Laura's most frequently asked questions starting with, "How do I apply the Compassion Method when people are shaming me?" FREE RESOURCE INCLUDED: "How Am I Seen?” You can submit a question for a future podcast episode at https://www.triggeredandtrue.com/ask. 2023-03-1742 minTriggered and True(Ep. 31) The Psychology of MoneyBrian is a huge fan of the bestselling book by Morgan Housel, The Psychology of Money. However, he feels that chapter 3 of the book needs an addendum that discusses the connection between money and emotional health. In this episode, Brian & Laura create that addendum and you will not want to miss it!You can submit a question for a future podcast episode at https://www.triggeredandtrue.com/ask. 2023-02-2444 minTriggered and True(Ep. 30) CM in the Marketplace - Do Our Protectors Increase Our Performance?“Your true self is a powerful force. Your true self can accomplish more in a minute than your triggered self can in a lifetime, but that is not the real reason to connect with your true self. The real reason is that you’re worth it.” - Brian FreiseWhether you connect with Brian or Laura's business journeys, which reveal their challenges, protectors, and triggers, you'll find confidence in your own journey through this episode. You'll soon discover that your true self isn't just for you, but for the world around you.FREE RESOURCE INCLUD...2023-01-2746 minTriggered and True(Ep. 29) Navigating Manipulation, Narcissism, and GaslightingHelp, I’m being manipulated! During this episode, Brian and Laura discuss manipulation and our tendency to manipulate others, often subconsciously. Throughout this episode, we will learn how to use The Compassion Method as an offensive weapon against manipulation, narcissism, and gaslighting. You can submit a question for a future podcast episode at https://www.triggeredandtrue.com/ask. 2023-01-0643 minTriggered and True(Ep. 28) Divorce and the Compassion Method ProcessListen in to Laura and Brian's insightful discussion about compassion and divorce. They explore how compassion serves to hold back divorce's rising tide of regret and shame, allowing us to truly grieve and find life-long healing. 2022-12-1640 minTriggered and True(Ep. 27) Revisiting Child SelfDespite our pain, there is a glimmer of hope. This hope for comfort can be discovered by connecting with your child self, free from agendas. Based on a listener question, Brian & Laura explore our child self and how it compares with our true self. Also discussed are the challenges we may face connecting with our child self during certain seasons of life due to pain or trauma. As Brian and Laura guide you through this process, brain science points us in the right direction. Take the first step on your journey. 2022-11-2540 minTriggered and True(Ep. 26) With Special Guest Anthony BulauDuring this interview-style episode, Anthony Bulau shares his experience with The Compassion Method as well as interviews Laura and Brian about a variety of topics, including:-How can you use The Compassion Method principles to handle frustration with your children?-A guide for men examining their emotions and digging into the Compassion Method-Why is it that the people we love the most trigger us the "best?"-Plus more!You can submit a question for a future podcast episode at https://www.triggeredandtrue.com/ask. 2022-11-0457 minTriggered and True(Ep. 25) The 10 Gifts (Part 2)We all have needs that need to be met in our lives. In this episode Brian shares, “The solution is not to fix, but to fill. Be filled with the gifts and the pain is comforted and eliminated.” These needs correlate to The 10 Gifts that Laura communicates as a foundational aspect of The Compassion Method. This episode will develop a greater understanding of The 10 Gifts and demonstrate practical applications that help redesign the potential end of your story despite your current circumstance or childhood upbringing. 2022-10-1450 minTriggered and True(Ep. 24) CodependencyToday's episode is framed, in part, by a listener's question regarding codependency. As a result of this discussion, you will gain a true understanding of codependency. Laura discusses the freedom she has found from codependency as well as a single question you can ask yourself to assess the impact of codependency on your current relationships. 2022-09-2343 minTriggered and True(Ep. 23) Forgiveness and the Compassion MethodIn this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura explore how The Compassion Method helps us navigate the wilderness of forgiveness. A litmus test is discussed to identify our present phase of forgiveness. Laura and Brian also guide us through the process of feeling our pain, overcoming shame, and forgiving ourselves and others. You'll likely learn that this process of forgiveness is healthier and more effective than you’re used to. 2022-09-0237 minTriggered and True(Ep. 22) True Self and FaithIn this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura discuss:An answer to listeners asking, “How does The Compassion Method connect to my faith?”What does Laura mean when she says, “The Compassion Method does not require an adherence to any particular faith.”How do we keep the core of our identity from getting wrapped up in an expression of our identity, i.e., mother, father, son, daughter, etc.?Brian and Laura answer an enormous question, “Who is our true self, and what is our true identity?”When we find ourselves lost and not knowing who we are, what’s...2022-08-1253 minTriggered and True(Ep. 21) The Trigger of Faith and ReligionReligion is a major trigger for A LOT of people. It is a trigger in ways that you also might not expect. In this episode, we will discuss the triggering impact that religion has on both the religious and the non-religious. We will also review what a trigger is and how triggers can be a blessing in disguise.You can submit a question for a future podcast episode at https://www.triggeredandtrue.com/ask. 2022-07-2248 minTriggered and True(Ep. 20) The Compassion Method in the MarketplaceIn this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura discuss:A listener-question on the gift of enough and the role of protection in one’s journeyIn the face of the “results matter” mindset in the workplace, how do we live Laura’s truth that “What you do matters, who you are matters more?" How do we navigate this as an employer?Common triggers that come up in the workplace and how to identify themHow do we find health amid the lack of protection and security on our career journey?T...2022-07-0150 minTriggered and True(Ep. 19) The Compassion Method in the Context of Marriage & Relationships Plus Some Thoughts on Being SingleIn this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura discuss:Laura’s approach to working with couples and how it differs from traditional marriage counseling.Guidance for couples to see the heart or root issues.Why do activities that encourage or sometimes force couples to connect sometimes miss the mark?Laura breaks down her quote: “You can be the best person at learning how to communicate, but if you don’t know what to communicate, you will get nowhere.”What roles do shame and blame have in our intimate relationships?How do we recognize codependency and how is it af...2022-06-1042 minTriggered and True(Ep. 18) Brian’s Healing JourneyIn this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura discuss:How Brian ended up in Laura’s office for the first time and how he found himself on the path towards his great awakening.Why do the words awareness, comfort, & discovery not only describe The Compassion Method but also how these words were brought to life for Brian during this process.Brian shares four main protectors that he came face to face with, in his journey through The Compassion Method.What steps can we take to discover the wound be...2022-05-201h 33Triggered and True(Ep. 17) Social Media & Emotional HealthIn this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura discuss:The state of artificial intelligence as it affects our emotional health.The documentary The Social Dilemma and the unintended consequences that have come with the rise of social media.How the algorithms of today’s A.I. exploit our pain and unmet need, as well as the opportunity it presents to us.The way that social media is a megaphone for the knowledge of good and evil.How can social media become a medication for our emotional well-being?Laura guides Brian through The Remote Control ExerciseYo...2022-04-2941 minTriggered and True(Ep. 16) Answering Your QuestionsIn this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura answer questions submitted by our listeners. Tune in to hear the discussion!Questions include:How does The Compassion Method work itself out in the context of my faith?How do I journey through The Compassion Method in the context of marriage? How do I focus on myself, but also journey together as a couple?If you and your spouse have two different attachment styles, what does reconciling look like?How do I continue to live and thrive in community with others while growing in my emotional...2022-04-0847 minTriggered and True(Ep. 15) Deep Dive Into Famous Quotes from Laura Duncan (Part 2)In this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura take a deep dive into the following quotes from Laura:“Your adult self is like a website, and your child self is your coding: change your coding and you change the website.”“The bigger the trigger, the younger you are.”“Every capital letter emotion is a child emotion.”“The connection to who we are versus what we do heals shame.”“You can’t hurt people or help people.” 2022-03-0445 minTriggered and True(Ep. 14) Deep Dive Into Famous Quotes From Laura Duncan (Part 1)In this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura take a deep dive into the following quotes from Laura:"What you do matters, but you matter more."“Self-compassion starts with you, but ends in a party.”"Feel your pain, get comfort, go play.""In early childhood development, we need connection like we need food and water." 2022-02-0436 minTriggered and True(Ep. 13) The Compassion Method™ for Students: An Interview With Students Laura TaughtIn this special episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura interview a group of students that have journeyed through The Compassion Method™. The interview spotlights the power of The Compassion Method™ when the process is learned at a young age. 2022-01-0745 minTriggered and True(Ep. 12) There’s more to your story: experience a new life today as you navigate your protectors.In this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura discuss:The definition and examples of protectorsWhy doesn’t Laura encourage people to get rid of their protectors immediately?How do we discover our true protectors?Identifying our protectors: their connection with our triggered responses of flight, fight, freeze, & fawnEngaging empathy with this newfound toolWhat’s our goal in navigating our protectors? 2021-12-0336 minTriggered and True(Ep. 11) Our Privilege in Pain: What You Haven’t Heard About Our True SelfIn this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura discuss:If not to heal our pain, then what’s the goal of The Compassion Method™? The link between true repentance and our true selfHow Brian and Laura respond to triggers today, a before and after of implementing The Compassion Method™ PrinciplesDiscovering pain as a privilege on the journey to our true self 2021-11-0540 minTriggered and True(Ep. 10) 3 Practical Ways to Experience Joy and Heal PainIn this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura discuss:-Practical ways to connect to our true self, which allows us to experience both: the fullness of joy and the healing of pain-Brian and Laura share a preview of The Compassion Method™: Master Course currently available for pre-sale at compassionmethod.net-What is the connection between living from our true self and connecting with others in an authentic way?-An in-depth look at the childhood picture exercise provided for free at compassionmethod.net-How do we journey ba...2021-10-0843 minTriggered and True(Ep. 9) The Knowledge of Good and Evil: Why Managing Our Shame Isn’t the SolutionIn this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura discuss:-Which is more detrimental: the knowledge of good or the knowledge of evil?-A real-life example of shame intervening in childhood development-Warning signs that shame is becoming who we are, not just something we’ve done-Don’t ask for forgiveness…first. Why?-The addiction cycle of shame, and how do we get out of it?Join the conversation here: https://www.triggeredandtrue.com/ask 2021-09-2439 minTriggered and True(Ep. 8) What’s Your Body Telling You with Courtney Lancaster & Krystal FreiseIn this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura are joined by Courtney Lancaster (Life Coach, Redding, California) and Krystal Freise (Yoga Teacher, Dixon, Illinois) as they discuss:-An overview of trauma-sensitive yoga, and how Krystal uses it to bring mindfulness and awareness to her clients-Courtney shares how nervous system regulation can repair and bring peace to a chronically self-protected state-How does the Compassion Method navigate us towards physical peace?-Do we have to relive our trauma to find healing? What other options do we have?...2021-09-1046 minTriggered and True(Ep. 7) Laura’s Personal Journey Through GriefIn this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura discuss:Key takeaways from Laura’s journey navigating the loss of her husbandHow do you know when you’re ready to share your grief experience to encourage others?Can thankfulness be a form of medicating during loss?Understanding how compounded grief affects your grieving processHow do you process other people’s attempts at helping your grief process?Finding beauty in the middle of griefDisarming blame and activating a positive response to lossWhat do you do when today’s grief awakens childhood trauma?Join the conversation here: https://www.trig...2021-08-271h 20Triggered and True(Ep. 6) The Remote Control ExerciseIn this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura discuss:-The Remote Control Exercise, a step by step process for bringing healing and comfort-How do we experience the compassion method, versus simply using it as a process to complete?-Why does blame feel so good, yet sabotages the healing process?-How do we address bigger reaction emotions consisting of fight, flight, or freeze?-Recognizing what I really need in the moment-How to administer self-compassion, when for most it feels like a foreign language?-Why does co-dependency with our...2021-08-1341 minTriggered and True(Ep. 5) The 10 Gifts -Tangibly Meeting Unmet NeedsIn this episode of Triggered and True Laura and Brian discuss:The difference between actually getting your needs met VS. just making your pain “go away.”The “10 gifts” -the tangible way of meeting unmet needs. Join the conversation here: https://www.triggeredandtrue.com/ask 2021-07-3043 minTriggered and True(Ep. 4) What Compassion Is And What It Is Not...In this episode of Triggered and True, Laura and Brian discuss:- What compassion is- Common misconceptions about compassion- How to access compassion for yourself- What blocks our ability to have self compassionJoin the conversation here: https://www.triggeredandtrue.com/ask 2021-06-0443 minTriggered and True(Ep. 3) What You Don't Know About a "Trigger"?In this episode of Triggered And True, Brian and Laura define what a "trigger" is, why we have triggers, and why triggers can actually be good as they are a spotlight on our pain, and show us where we need help. Learn how compassion can help you heal from your pain, and how to be compassionate to yourself and others.Join the conversation here: https://www.triggeredandtrue.com/ask 2021-06-0444 minTriggered and True(Ep. 2) Shame Vs. IdentityIn this episode of Triggered And True, Brian and Laura discuss:- Shame- Where shame originated - Shame Vs. identity- Why "getting better" should not be the goal, and can actually keep you stuck living in shame...Join the conversation here: https://www.triggeredandtrue.com/ask 2021-06-0442 minTriggered and True(Ep. 1) Triggered and TrueThis podcast is designed to help you discover your true self and bring healing to your inner world.Join the conversation here: https://www.triggeredandtrue.com/ask 2021-02-1125 min