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More Than a Lumpy JumperBeing OK not knowingblahA true leader can say I don't know - St Simon SinekThe power of I don't know2025-07-0137 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing Ourselves Together“No More Pencil Skirts and Other Leadership Metaphors”From soufflés to swans, corn beef to cognitive diversity, this episode is a deliciously metaphor-filled conversation with neurodiversity advocate Hayley Brackley. Bobby and Hayley explore why real leadership means shedding the need to be perfect, embracing messiness, and daring to dance (or not) in your comfiest metaphorical harem pants.A must-listen for anyone tired of the one-size-fits-all model of work and ready to design for the edges.Links Hayley Brackley | LinkedIn2025-06-2448 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing Safe to SpeakWhat does it really take to feel safe enough to speak up at work?In this powerful episode of More Than a Lumpy Jumper, we dive into psychological safety - what it is, why it matters, and what happens when it’s missing. Joining Bobby are two brilliant guests: Ali Spooner and Naomi Withers, who bring honesty, humour, and real-life insight from lived experience, psychology, leadership, and loss.From people-pleasing to power dynamics, team trust to trauma triggers, this conversation doesn’t shy away from the messy stuff. If you've ever sat in a meeting biti...2025-06-1751 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing in the WeaveIn this episode, Bobby and Bridge are pulling at the threads of what leadership really looks like. Not the glossy, top-floor kind, but the kind that happens in the messy middle. Being in the Weave explores how leadership shows up without titles, how power flows in every direction, and why being quietly influential might just be your superpower. Expect laughs, truths, and a bit of mayhem (including a lost spreadsheet and a quilt metaphor you didn’t know you needed). If you’re a middle-sitter, an edge-walker, or someone who just gets stuff done...2025-06-1038 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing the QuestionWhat if the voice in your head wasn’t running the show? In this episode, award-winning coach and founder of Quiet the Hive, Jane Galloway, joins Bobby to explore the power of questions over should’s, statements, and stuckness. From NHS leadership to poetry and post-it notes, it’s a conversation full of honesty, humour, and permission tolive your one wild and precious life a little braver.LinksJane (Bellamy) Galloway | LinkedInElizabeth Gilbert | Big Magic | BooksTara Mohr | Playing Big | Books23 Powerful Michael Jordan Quotes on Failur...2025-06-0349 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing Below the Neck :-0What does it really mean to lead from below the neck?In this funny, thoughtful, and occasionally inappropriate episode (sorry, Richard Strozzi-Heckler), Bobby and Bridgetexplore what it actually takes to lead with the body, not just the brain. From control habits and emotional spirals to guinea pig impressions and the rhythm of excitement (yes, that kind), this episode is a gently clumsy invitation to pause, breathe, and reconnect.If you've ever felt like a walking head or a premature fixer, this one's for you.LinksThe Leadership Dojo | Richard...2025-05-2741 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing Between Skins!Maybe you’re not broken. Maybe you’re just shedding a little. In one of our most delightfully random (yet sneakily profound) episodes, we explore what it means to outgrow old roles, identities, and expectations - in leadership and life. From liminal interludes to caterpillar wisdom, we talk transformation, coaching, and why sometimes, performance reviews need a total reboot.Warning: contains butterflies, bureaucracy, and bread! LinksAct Like a Leader, Think Like a Leader | Herminia Ibarra | BooksTransitions: Making Sense of Life's Changes | William Bridges | BooksHagitude | Sharon Blackie | Books2025-05-2043 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing a Change MessWhat happens when everything’s shifting, and you’re still expected to lead? In this episode, Bobby and Bridge dive intothe beautiful chaos of change. From being called a chaos pixie to learning how to hold space without fixing, this is a raw, real, and occasionally sweary look at change from the inside out. Expect giggles, grounded wisdom, and the kind ofhonesty you won’t find in your average change handbook.Bridges Transition Model - William Bridges AssociatesBridges' Transition Model for Change: A Simple Summary - The World of Work ProjectThe Change...2025-05-1348 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperHanging out with Philipblah2025-05-1238 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperHanging out with BobbyWhat does it mean to be at your learning edge?This throwback to Season 2 is full of wobbles, wisdom, and wonderfully weird metaphors (yes, there’s a goose, a javelin, and a cheeky nod to S&M). In this solo re-run, Bobby explores how learning is more than just knowledge - it's a messy, brave experiment in how we show up, stretch ourselves, and sometimes fall flat.And yes, this is the second ball dropped. No guest. No noble excuse. Just Bobby, a mic, and a beautifully imperfect adventure in learning.References:Vi...2025-04-2250 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperHanging out with Bridge!So Bridge dropped the ball and didn't manage to record with a guest this week (and she didn't tell Bobby who is going to be mad!) so in an effort to mitigate the damage (you can tell she works in humanitarian security now ;-) ) she decided to share a past episode "Coping with Overwhelm" which she thought was apt. There are loads of gems in this episode from very early on in the MTALJ journey, most of which Bridge is putting to good use while bullets and bombs and peacocks are flying. Even if you're an avid fan there's...2025-04-1514 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperHanging out with MandyThis week, Bobby chats with the wonderful Mandy McDowall - Headteacher of not one, but two primary schools.What starts as playful banter about being “roped in” quickly unfolds into a rich, honest conversation about leadership in education, emotional regulation, the blur between managing and leading, and why schooling your face might just be the survival skill we all need.Hooked early on by the camaraderie and humour of MTALJ, Mandy brings warmth, insight, and a touch of her South African roots to this episode.Come for the headteacher chat, stay for the mic...2025-04-0828 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperHanging out with Wendy FauxIt's time for guests with gifts as Bobby and Bridge take a short break. This week we've invited back the inimitable Wendy Faux to the show. Wendy is a Military veteran and reservist, an artistic innovator, the curator of "Not just a Wife" photography exhibition and the creator of the show's logo. She loves the concept of bringing your true self to your leadership but hates the title "authentic" and she chats with Bridge about why differences are so important. She audaciously suggests that Matthew Syed could challenge Saint Simon Sinek to the top leadership spot with his book...2025-04-0131 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing PlayfulPlay isn’t just for children! It’s a secret weapon for creativity, problem-solving, and resilience. But somewhere along the way, many of us started treating it like a luxury rather than a necessity. In this episode, we’re flipping that narrative. We’ll explore why play matters in leadership and life, uncover the science behind it, and dive into Stuart Brown’s play personalities, because yes, you have one! And if you’ve ever Googled ‘adult play’… well, you might have found more than you bargained for!! So, let’s get into it, because what if play wasn’t...2025-03-2549 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing the StoryStories shape how we see the world and how the world sees us. But are we telling the right ones? This week on More Than a Lumpy Jumper, we dive into the power of storytelling. How the narratives we craft influence our confidence, decisions, and leadership. From bedtime stories to boardroom strategy, we explore what makes a story stick and how to frame experiences in a way that resonates, persuades, and lasts long after we've left the room.So, grab a cuppa and get comfy, because it’s time to Be the Story. Wh...2025-03-1837 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing Your Own RetreatSo many leaders wear exhaustion like a badge of honour. But what if sleep and self-care weren’t indulgences, what if they were leadership strategies?This week on More Than a Lumpy Jumper, Bridget and I dive into the power of rest in honour of World Sleep Day. We’re tackling the myths, the science, and the impact of sleep onleadership, resilience, and emotional intelligence. Plus, we make a strong case for the noble art of napping (with a special shoutout to the 26-minute NASA nap!).If you’ve ever pushed through fatigue thinking it was ju...2025-03-1144 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing a Catalyst for ChangeThis week, in celebration of International Women’s Day 2025, we’re diving into the stories of six extraordinary women; leaders, visionaries, and change-makers whose impact still ripples through history.From courtroom battles to political trailblazers, from radical educators to artistic revolutionaries, each woman’s story holds powerful lessons for leadership today. But which iconshave we chosen? And what unexpected insights do they reveal?Tune in as we unpack resilience, influence, and what it really means to be a catalyst for lasting change. Cornelia Connelly - WikipediaStacy Schiff: Cleopatra | AmazonCleo...2025-03-0440 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing the Difference - Leading vs ManagingLeadership or management - are they really that different? Or do we just love to put them in neat little boxes? In this episode, Bobby and Bridge attempt (with varying success) tobring some structure to the conversation, diving into mindset, skills, and the sometimes blurry lines between the two. Expect metaphors (hello, glaciers!), a few rogue interruptions, and the big question: Can you be a leader without also being a manager? Or are the best leaders actually just really good at knowing when to roll up their sleeves and when to step back?...2025-02-2542 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing Flexibly ResilientResilience and flexibility - are they two sides of the same coin, or do we just like overcomplicating things? In this episode, Bobby and Bridge dive into what it really means to bounce back and bend without breaking (hello, bamboo analogy!), why being too resilient can backfire, and the tiny habits that make a big difference.Expect real talk, a few questionable metaphors (boats, trees, and maybe some unexpected fairy lights), and a deep dive into how your body holds resilience just as much as your mind.Plus, what happens when all your frustration ends up… on a...2025-02-1840 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing reflective on Love in LeadershipFor this final week of reflections on our MTALJ library Bridge is thinking about love in the run up to Valentine's Day. Why do we often struggle to talk about leadership in terms of love when all of the actions of a good leadership are really the manifestation of love? - patience,care, kindness, humility, emotional balance, and honesty. While the general advice on speaking is to avoid politics and religion there's a little hint of both, but the focus is all on love with not a chocolate or a cupid in sight.LinksCorinthians 13...2025-02-1141 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing reflective on blameThis week Bridge is reflecting on blame and accountability. How blame can undermine teams, trust, innovation, problem-solving and avoiding making the same mistakes again. It's a ranty episode because lessons learned episodes that are simply blame exercises are a bug bear of both Bobby and Bridge. Both Bobby and Bridge admit they they are recovering blamers but they are in the good company of St Brene Brown. However with a little mindfulness and reflection it is possible to change your mindset from blame to reframe, focus on facts rather than fault and systemic causes rather then pointing the finger...2025-02-0449 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing Reflective on Self-CompassionThis week on More Than a Lumpy Jumper, Bridge revisits the “Being a stand for self-compassion ,” from June 2024. Self-compassion isn't selfish and it isn't a luxury. It's actually part of your job as a leader to ensure you have the resilience to be the leader your team need during a crisis. Check out the self-compassion guru Kristin Neff and Bobby's resilience practices and remember that you need to be reflective and proactive to be able to start being compassionate with your self. You ready to treat yourself with the same kindness, consideration and care that you would a dear frie...2025-01-2852 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing Reflective in PlayThis week on More Than a Lumpy Jumper, Bobby revisits the mini-episode, “Cultivating Play and Rest… but Mostly Play,” from Christmas 2023. Inspired by Brené Brown’s work and the National Institute of Play, she reflects on why play is essential for creativity, problem-solving, and leadership, how to rediscover play as adults (hint: it’s not lost, just forgotten!) and the fascinating “Play Personalities” and what they reveal about how we lead and connect. Play isn’t a luxury—it’s the key to joy, alignment, and even better leadership. Ready to bring more play into your life? Take a listen to this mini o...2025-01-2118 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing Reflective - in Dynamic Teams Bobby revisits one of the most popular topics: Being a
Dynamic Team Leader. Reflecting on hers and Bridge’s original conversation, she dives into; How leaders can recalibrate team dynamics and tackle those "elephants in the room," the importance of healthy conflict and why leaning into discomfort matters, insights from Patrick Lencioni’s Five Dysfunctions of a Team and how to build trust from the ground up. As well as some practical tips for more effective meetings and onboarding processes.
If you're looking for actionable insights and a fresh perspective on team leadership, this mini episode is for y...2025-01-1447 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing Reflective in ConversationSeason 5 of More Than a Lumpy Jumper kicks off with a trip down memory lane as Bobby revisits the very first episode, “Being in the Conversation.”
Here she reflects on how far she and Bridge had come since those raw, unpolished beginnings, key lessons on communication, connection, and vulnerability and the
ripple effect of starting something imperfectly and letting it grow. Whether you’ve been with them from the start or are just joining, this is a great place to start.
2025-01-071h 01More Than a Lumpy JumperHanging out with Plate Spinning PoppetsTime for another “Guest Gifts” with Bobby at the mic! Pull up a chair (and maybe a crash helmet) as Lizzie Beuzeval and Sara Scott join Bobby for an unfiltered chat about juggling life, work, family, and everything in between. These multitasking marvels share their wisdom on finding flow, saying no (or not yet), and redefining what it means to truly thrive—without dropping too many plates (or whole dinner services!) along the way.
We dive into the freedom of setting boundaries, and the challenge of finding those elusive 15 minutes of "me time." From navigating the fine line b...2024-12-1750 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperHanging out with podcast virginsAnd now it’s the Bobster’s turn to be in the driving seat for "Guest Gifts," hanging out with dedicated listeners.Welcome to a powerhouse of self-discovery and connection as Aime Rushton and Ali Spooner join Bobby for a raw, real, and riotously funny conversation. These two phenomenal women tackle big themes—belonging, community, finding your voice, and navigating the complex dance of introversion and extroversion—all with a hefty dose of humour and heart.From untethered moments of loss to the joy of finding their tribes, Amy and Ali reflect on what it means to truly know yo...2024-12-1055 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperHanging out across the seaThis is Bridge's last week in the driving seat of guests gifts and she is joined by Leina Ibnouf, a Sudanese Irish community activist and John 'Willy' Williams a military veteran, 7 Signal Regiment survivor and scrum master (which apparently has nothing to do with rugby). They discuss why they listen to the podcast, their favourite episodes with a focus on curiosity, the pain of not belonging, and how somehow Bobby and Bridge have become role models (yes seriously!) despite their tendency to be a bit sweary. It's a really honest, vulnerable and heartfelt episode so come and join for...2024-12-0334 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperHanging out with SailorsIt's the in between seasons bit! So we get to hang out with some of our lovely listeners. This week it's Lucie Barker and Murray Smith fellow soldiers who share a love of messing about in boats. We get to chat about their favourite episodes as well as motherhood, cat parenting and why self-reflection is important but only to a point.
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Learn to Sail from Princess to Pirate
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Inside the mind of a master procrastinator - Tim Urban
Ted Cutts - try something new for 30...2024-11-2633 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing compassionate with menJoin Bobby and Bridge as they mark International Men’s Day. They are joined by their special guest, Daniele Fiandaca from Token Man Consulting to dive into the often-overlooked challenges that men face today, from mental health to shifting roles in society. Together, they discuss the importance of creating spaces for men to be vulnerable, break stereotypes, and how inclusive leadership plays a crucial role in moving the conversation forward. Tune in for an engaging and insightful conversation on why it’s time to support men as allies and agents of change.
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Daniele Fiandaca | Link...2024-11-1952 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing a Sparking IntrovertThis week, Bobby and Bridget are back with a vibrant new episode, welcoming Michelle Hartley from People Sorted and the HR Geek Squad. Known for her rainbow wardrobe and lively energy, Michelle is here to talk about "Being a Sparkling Introvert." They dive into the paradox of introversion and extroversion, the power of self-awareness, and the courage it takes to lead authentically. Tune in to uncover why there's no one quite like you-er than you!
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An Introvert’s Guide to Visibility in the Workpla...2024-11-1245 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing a BrandIn today’s episode, Bobby and Bridge dive into the transformative power of personal branding with Kayleigh Lloyd, a creative powerhouse helping women in business
craft authentic, standout brands. Kayleigh shares her unique journey from working with corporate giants to becoming a "brand goddess," and offers insights into how personal branding is so much more than just a logo—it's
about telling your story. Learn how to align your brand with your true self, embrace creativity, and create a lasting connection with your audience. Tune in for inspiring stories and actionable tips on building a brand that's authentically you.
2024-11-0548 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing one year oldIt's our birthday! Welcome to the one-year anniversary episode of More Than a Lumpy Jumper! Bobby and
Bridge are celebrating 39 episodes, 14 mini-in-between Season episodes, 23 incredible guests, and countless laughs. In this special one, they reflect on the highs, the lessons learned, and a few hilarious behind-the-scenes moments (including a memorable baguette incident). Whether you're curious about their journey, or just here for the laughs, join them as they look back—and forward—at the wild ride so far!
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For one week only, we are back to diddly squat! Take a little look back over prev...2024-10-2943 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing a Leading FollowerIn this episode, Bobby and Bridge dive into the fascinating dynamics between leadership and followership, exploring how followers play a critical role in organisational success. Following the insights from thought leaders like Barbara Kellerman and Robert Kelley, they break down the five followership styles. And through real-world examples and personal stories, they discuss how good followers can challenge leaders, promote teamwork, and contribute to a thriving organisational culture.
Whether you're a leader or follower, this episode will leave you thinking about how both roles work together for success. Tune in for “Being a Leading Follower” and see where...2024-10-2249 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing an intentional networkerNetworking—it’s no longer just awkward handshakes and juggling canapés while swapping business
cards. Join Bobby and Bridge as they explore how networking has evolved into something much more meaningful. In this episode, they’ll dive into new,
informal, and digital ways to connect, showing how with a bit of intention and a fresh perspective, networking can transform from a dreaded task into a
powerful tool for building genuine relationships. Sound less ghastly? Tune in to hear more on "Being an Intentional Networker" with Bobby and Bridge!
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Takingthe Work Out of Networking : Karen Wi...2024-10-1550 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing ALOUD to be ProudIn this special episode timed to coincide with National Coming Out Day, Bobby and Bridge are joined by Colonel Ali Brown OBE and Alex Meyrick from Fighting With Pride – the LGBTQ+ Military Charity, to
discuss the challenges LGBT+ veterans face.
Ali shares her journey as part of the first female intake at Sandhurst, navigating military life while concealing her identity, and her mission to improve services for female veterans. Alex discusses her work supporting veterans and the lasting impact of the military's LGBT+ ban. And all together, we explore how leadership is evolving, the cost of hiding on...2024-10-0851 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing a procrastinator (or maybe later!)Are you a master at putting things off? So are Bobby and Bridge! In this episode, they dive into their own procrastination habits, sharing why they think they do it and Bobby shares old practices from her younger days that might help them out now that they're working for themselves. And for all those procrastinating leaders out there, there's also some fascinating research on breaking the procrastination cycle, the self-talk that can shift your mindset, and why dealing with discomfort is key to getting things done.
So if you're ready to face your procrastination demons (or just...2024-10-0147 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing an ABC in a positive cultureThis week we chat with Debra Corey, who transitioned from traditional HR roles to becoming a "Chief Pay It Forward Officer" (flipping love this title!!). Debra shares her journey, discusses the evolution of HR, and explores the true meaning of workplace culture. She also dives into the lasting impact of "bad bosses" and her latest book, "Bad Bosses Ruin Lives." Tune in for a fun, insightful conversation on trust, empathy, and building a positive workplace culture.
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Bringing Your Values Out to Play: A Playbook on Company
Values | D...2024-09-2452 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing a Full EQJoin Bobby and Bridge as they dive into the world of emotional intelligence (EQ) and uncover its complexities. From the origins of EQ to its impact on leadership
and corporate culture, they explore how EQ can be both a powerful tool and a potential weapon. Whether it's leaders who thrive despite low EQ or the rise of "dark empaths" who use their emotional savvy for manipulation, we
tackle the good, the bad, and the controversial sides of EQ. Tune in for a lively discussion that challenges the conventional wisdom on what it really means to be emotionally intelligent.
2024-09-1747 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing critical of criticismHmmmmm…that moment when you wonder if you should have had a Guest for this topic. A leader who is professional in their handling of criticism rather than Bobby and Bridge’s approach which entails going bright red, potentially yelling “f*ck off” or disappearing for a good old teenage sulk!! Seriously…should these two really be let loose on such a topic!
Well, the answer is YES. Come and have a listen to these two feisty leaders being incredibly honest about their relationship with unsolicited feedback (in other words, criticism) and how their approaches have morphed (or not on o...2024-09-1049 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing able to pivotIt's a new season! And boy have we got a heap of awesomeness coming your way! This week join Bobby and Bridge as they welcome the fabulous, Fiona Galbraith, to join them on MTALJ. Through her business, Ruralink, she partners with land-based businesses to develop career opportunities focusing mainly on career changers especially advocating for fellow ex-military colleagues. Fiona is also a University Lecturer in Intelligence Security, Risk and Resilience, as well as Chair of Governors at Cirencester College and a volunteer responder for REACT Disaster Response. Clearly a Master of Pivots amongst Pivoters (is there such a word). Com...2024-09-0352 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperHanging out in sportWelcome to the final episode of our "Guests with Gifts". This week, Bridge is joined by two remarkable women who've made significant impacts in their fields and communities. First, Nina Killick, a longtime friend of Bridge with a portfolio career including sports coach and project manager in the hospitality industry, and Lieutenant Colonel Ann O’Flynn, the Commanding Officer of the British Army’s 1st Military Working Dog Regiment. They discuss everything from sports like rugby and triathlons to values, change management, and authenticity. Get ready for a sporty, thoughtful, and engaging finale to our mini season!
Links2024-08-2733 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperHanging out with Yin and YangIn this episode of "Guest with Gifts," Bobby and Bridge connect with some more of their most dedicated listeners. Bobby is joined by Sarah and Nicole, two exceptional managers who kept her almost sane during the dark days of COVID, bringing camaraderie, chuckles, and a lot of hard work. Sarah and Nicole are the ultimate doers. They describe themselves as Planners, but their “get sh*t done” attitude sets them apart. Though different in style, approach, and learning, their camaraderie and now strong friendship shine through in this conversation. Tune in to hear how these massive supporters feel like every ep...2024-08-2032 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperHanging out with the JsThis week, Bridge is joined by James Fulford-Talbot, making a return to MTALJ, and Jogging Jodie Fulford-Talbot, a new and very welcome guest. The conversation is rich, with an overriding message that this podcast helps leaders not feel alone in their struggles. They can come here to listen in for conversation starters, something to share, and thought-provoking ideas. Tune in to hear more from these super advocates and discover who the famous Freddie and Mr. Percival are!
Jodie Fulford-Talbot | LinkedIn
James Fulford-Talbot | LinkedIn
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Univ...2024-08-1326 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperHanging Out with “Life Long Learners”Welcome to Guest Gifts, where Bobby and Bridge get to hang out with some of their most dedicated listeners.
This week, Bobby is joined by Gina and Ella, who must be the most patient humans she has ever met. They've endured Bobby's appalling technical skills with grace and are incredible people in general, especially given the work they do in the HR world.
Gina and Ella are deeply invested in their own development, exploring MTALJ with a commitment to trying new things both at work and in their personal lives. They have discovered some valuable...2024-08-0620 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperHanging out with "All the C's"!This week for Guests with Gifts, Bridge is joined by Danni and Jo, who truly embody all the beautiful C’s: Curious Conversationalists, Community Collaborators, Connectors, Creatives, and above all, Carers. They lead with kindness, passion, and ideas, making this episode full of thoughtfulness, raw honesty, and a real desire to support future generations.
Tune in and listen for all the delightful C’s!
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Being a Person with a Bigger Purpose
Being Lonely in Leadership
Good Day Cork: Be inspire...2024-07-3031 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperHanging out with Heart SpeakersWelcome to Guests with Gifts, where we get to hang out with some more of our dedicated listeners.
This week, Bobby is joined by Roger and Gail, exceptional leaders, lifelong learners, and heart speakers with military connections. So many joining of the dots as they discussed their favourite MTALJ episodes with Bobby.
Roger and Gail are deeply committed to developing others and seek learning through various mediums to achieve this. You’ll find them delving into the additional research links after listening to each episode, with their healthy appetite to learn more.
Come an...2024-07-2328 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing an Advocate for Yes....andIn the Season 3 finale, Bobby and Bridge explore the transformative power of the phrase "Yes...and." Despite initial doubts about the topic's depth, they dive in with curiosity, a bit of discomfort in trying to practice “Yes…and” in the moment with a bit of spurious chat about an imaginary hat and a committment to take an improv class together.
Yes…AND in the process they begin to uncover the surprising depth that a simple shift in language can bring for creativity, collaboration, and growth for us, in work, and even for life in general. Join us for this...2024-07-1635 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing in MeetingsJoin Bobby and Bridge as they dive into the wild world of meetings! From the taxonomy of different meeting types to those head-scratchers where you’re not sure why you're there, they are dissecting it all. They share experiences of various meeting styles, ponder why people often stick to unproductive routines, and discuss how we can all break free from habitual suffering. Whether you're a meeting lover or dread them, this episode is packed with insights and chuckles. Tune in and rethink your next invite!
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A taxonomy for meetings: distinguish or suffer | LinkedIn Maximizing Th...2024-07-0953 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing a person for a bigger purposeOoooooooooooooo A GUEST!
Bobby and Bridge are joined by the amazing Alison Riley (better known to us as Dunney!!) who they met at Sandhurst some 30-plus years ago. And she’s another one who has had an interesting “career path” since those tumultuous days of military training.
Alison served for 5 years before leaving and qualifying as a secondary Maths teacher. She taught for 10+ years before deciding on a further career change and being ordained as a Minister!!
So join us as we hear about the wh...2024-07-0255 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing with Lifelong FriendsAs it's Armed Forces Week we have an excuse to have a chat with a couple of female veterans who just happen to be our lovely friends - the amazing Lt Col Wendy Faux MBE and the equally wonderful Lt Col (retd) Sally Purnell. Despite having given you all an episode on Not Saying Sorry, Bobby and Bridge do think they need to offer an apology as there are probably a whole load of acronyms that are going to pop up during this episode which will make you think WTF (look there’s another one!). They really tried to pu...2024-06-2551 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing Lonely in LeadershipJoin Bobby and Bridge as they embark on a fascinating journey, analysing why loneliness seems to have reached epidemic proportions across the young, the old and whatever the in between looks like. What is at the root of loneliness? How does it affect leadership? And then most importantly, what can we start to do to bridge the gap of loneliness, seeking to rebuild our social muscles in a world that feels more disconnected than ever.
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Jonny Sun: You are not alone in your loneliness | TED Talk
Kio Stark: Why you should talk...2024-06-1843 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing a stand for self-compassionYou couldn’t make these things up. Join Bobby and Bridge as one of them spends more time on mute coughing themselves inside out and not practicing self-care when they are meant to be talking about self-compassion and resilience. I ask you…the hypocrisy!! And in spite of all that, here is another episode full of personal anecdotes, scientific research, and practical strategies for embedding self-compassion into everyday life. Enjoy…cough, splutter, gasp!
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10 Powerful TED Talks on Resilience, Empathy, & Compassion - mind remake project
Operationalizing Kindness at Work: This Is What Kindness Looks...2024-06-1142 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing Blame free with accountability“It wasn’t me; it was her!” Are we listening to the words of a 5-year-old or an adult work colleague throwing you under the bus??! Both.
Blame just comes all to easily in the workplace to help us escape from discomfort, pain, anger and the like. But what happens when a leader takes true accountability for the part they played? When they have their teams do a deep dive into lessons learned when things go wrong
Come and join Bobby and Bridge as they track through the science of blame, their experience of blame cultur...2024-06-0443 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing your age (dis)gracefullyOh they SO wanted to behave Disgracefully in this episode and then decided that perhaps they weren’t quite old enough yet?
So, instead Bobby and Bridge are here considering our aging workforce. What are the stages of life you witness at your dinner table when the family gets together? And then how does that extrapolate to a business? How do you cater for the spectrum of ages in a workforce and how they look at and interact with the world and each other?
Turns out this is a gr...2024-05-2841 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing a Wall BreakerSilos, Barriers, Walls … doesn’t matter what you call them, if they take hold in an organisation … EVERYTHING seems to get that little bit trickier – communication channels, processes, procedures and above all relationships.
So, join Bobby and Bridge as they do a little bit of ranting and a whole lot of chatting about how to deal with Silo Working. Do Silos ever work in an organisation? And what can you do rather than deconstructing a whole organisation in an attempt to get rid of them. That’s where the Bridge comes in. Over to you Bridge!!
Links 2024-05-2146 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing a fraud and doing it anyway“I wonder if today’s the day I get found out”. “Oh…I was just lucky to get this job”. “I feel such a Fraud”.
Do any of these little mutterings ever take up residence in your self-talk?
Join Bobby and Bridge as they try and fathom which comes first your self-talk or the environment that helps create it. Is there a cure? And if not what strategies do we have to work with this phenomenon?
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The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women : Valerie Young
Amy Cuddy...2024-05-1440 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing includedWowzers…when you decide to get going on the topic of Belonging and Inclusion, you just find out how much we still need to learn and how far we still need to go. THIS, however, is no reason not to make a start.
So, join Bobby and Bridge as they make THEIR start in contemplating what it feels like to Belong BE INCLUDED.
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How to overcome our biases. Walk boldly towards them : Verna Myers (TEDx)
Micro-messaging-final.pdf (utsouthwestern.edu)
The quiet discrimination of microinequities: A Q&A with Ad...2024-05-0739 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing a Dynamic Team BuilderWhat makes a great team? What makes a terrible one? And what do you do when you know the vibe is slightly off?
Join Bobby and Bridge as they attempt not to incriminate themselves talking about teams they have enjoyed being part of or leading and those they have not! Along with some pieces of research to help you in your quest for team dynamism.
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20 Questions to Ask When Your Team’s Vibe Is Off
Tuckman's Model of Team Development
The Avengers and Tuckman's Model
Johnson an...2024-04-3041 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperStop saying SorryCan you make “Sorry” sound like you don’t mean it at all? Or do you use it every other word out of habit, even when there is nothing to apologise for!
In the last episode of the “Easter minis” Bobby and Bridge offer some gifts to help break the habit.
#sorrynotsorry
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Stop Over-Apologizing at Work (hbr.org)
Shira Miller: Stop the Apology Speak | TED Talk
Hey Ladies, Stop Apologizing ... and Other Career Mistakes Women Make: New 2017-2018 Edition: Maja Jovanovic
How Apologies Kill Our Confid...2024-04-2315 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperSuperpowering CollaborationThis week is International Leadership Week (15th – 21st April) celebrating this year’s theme of the Power of Collaborative Leadership.
Bobby and Bridge offer some gifts around the topic including those inimitable words once again… Creativity and Communication
#CollaborateForSuccess
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Just because we love minions!
Betterup blog : Breaking Down Silos
Five Vital Conversations for Getting Things Done In Groups | Richard Watkins | TEDxRoma
Group Genius: The Creative Power of Collaboration: Keith Sawyer
How to manage for collective creativity, Linda...2024-04-1619 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperSo what do you do?How do you introduce yourself? OK, fine…you might start with your name but then what? Your title? What does that actually mean or even say about you as a person?
Bobby and Bridge explore some more Easter gifts in this mini to support Leaders in leading without a title.
Step forward and be YOU!
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Leaders Without Titles: Unlocking the Power of People
Who Am I?: Psychological exercises to develop self-understanding: The School of Life
More Than My Title
Leadership is a Choice, Not a...2024-04-0918 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperSchool your faceDoes your face often scream what you are trying not to say? Oh yeah! Bobby and Bridge have tried for years to curb both their Inner Voice AND their faces saying exactly what they are thinking! So in some sort of cathartic exercise, they are looking to share some Easter gifts with you on this topic. And then, of course, they will need to go and take heed of all these gifts themselves.
Life remains a work in progress!
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Who Am I? How Face Language Reveals Your True Identity: Eric Standop
2024-04-0220 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing a navigatorDo not fear…they are not off sailing or map reading (both of which Bridge is good at…Bobby not so much!), instead they are off into a conversation around navigating tricky conversations, dealing with discomfort. How can you hang out there and learn to listen to understand rather than listening to respond.
Join them for some ideas on how to cope and even thrive in such moments.
And however, hard she listened, Bobby never quite got to the bottom of the Pigeon Playing Chess scenario. See if you do better!
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No...2024-03-2646 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing Happy with HappinessHappiness, in psychology, a state of emotional well-being that a person experiences either in a narrow sense, when good things happen in a specific moment, or more broadly, as a positive evaluation of one’s life and accomplishments overall—that is, subjective well-being ~ Brittanica
On the cusp of International Day of Happiness (20th March), Bobby and Bridge explore their relationship with happiness and how it might have changed or stayed the same through stages of life. And in what they have learned, how can Happiness be applied in the workplace, by leaders?
Come and join them...2024-03-1941 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing at your edgeWhen was the last time you were an absolute beginner…learning something from scratch?
Can you even remember or like so many of us, the discomfort of not knowing how to do something is just TOO much?
Join Bobby and Bridge as they chat about learning styles, the benefits of having both a growth and a fixed mindset, how we expand our learning “blob” in different territories and not have it stay contracted because of previous experiences. There is also chat about Banksy style mind maps, geese, stationary collecting and javelin throwing. But yo...2024-03-1245 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing able to break from a sticky floorSticky floors, broken ladders, glass ceilings? What on earth are these two up to now? Talking about “investing in women, accelerating progress” in preparation and to honour of International Women’s Day, this coming Friday (8th March).
This, however, is NOT a podcast for women only. Bobby and Bridge talk collaboration for solutions to benefit ALL. How are we, TOGETHER, going to fix that ladder rung into middle management.
There’s no easy answer…but come and take a seat anyway, share in the meanderings and give yourself some time for l...2024-03-0541 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing your ground filling your spaceLeap Day is nearly upon us. The day where, tradition states, women can propose to men and men should be sure to carry cash and gloves with them to hand over to any woman’s proposal they wish to refuse!
Don’t worry…Bobby and Bridge are not looking to make an episode out of this baloney…only to use it as a segway into conversation about all of us learning to stand our ground for what we believe in and filling our space just the right amount rather than shrinking from the world.
2024-02-2745 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing with Neena SimsOoooooooooooooo A GUEST!
Bobby and Bridge are joined by Neena Sims, coach, facilitator, poet and mother as well as formerly an actor and director. Needless to say…awesome!
Together we explore how we can learn to love ourselves more.
Our beautiful conversation meanders through some theory, depth and simplicity, a “real life” working example (where Bobby sweats a bit), and some interruptions from our menopausal brains. What’s not to love. Come and join us.
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Meet Neena and Third Space Coaching
No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz...2024-02-2049 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing a Lovely LeaderSo, whilst romance isn’t entirely dead in either Bobby or Bridge’s house, it was much easier to focus this episode questioning whether there is a place for the word LOVE in leadership and the workplace.
They even go as far as to explore the word INTIMACY in the workplace…NOT the naughty, naked type (that’s a whole other podcast!)
Love and intimacy might not be the words many of you, as leaders, want to use but what about your leadership actions? Showing more care, attention…love.
Curious? Come and have a listen a...2024-02-1337 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing a Heart SpeakerWhat have Barry Manilow, Bernard Matthews and Bernard Manning got to do with speaking from the heart? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!
But other than this slight confusion about who’s who, Bobby and Bridge do manage to get into the topic as to why it really is SO hard to speak from your heart to another’s.
Fear of rejection, vulnerability? Putting on an act to mask true feelings? Or blasting when you haven’t spoken what’s truly in your heart and kept it bottled in?
Do any of these sound like you? Come and have...2024-02-0645 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing fine with not being fineTime to Talk Day is upon us which has prompted Bobby and Bridge’s conversation around the “I’m Fine” response to the question “How are you?”
No really. How are you?
Join them as they explore how to get underneath the “I’m fine” response and the impact it can have on psychological safety, mental health and wellbeing and feedback if you don’t.
And seemingly a WRAP can be so much more than a lunchtime option. Who knew?
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Time To Talk Day - 1st February 2024
Erasmus plus
...2024-01-3049 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing with Kelly SwinglerOoooooooooooooo A GUEST!
Bobby and Bridge are joined by Kelly Swingler, Coach for the HR World, Burnout Expert, Author…basically all-round Bonne Oeuf with a compelling story to tell about her recovery from Burnout and her crusade to ensure it doesn’t KEEP happening to HR Directors the length and breadth of the land.
And all three of them have got colds whilst recording this episode. Promise it isn’t too much of a snort fest other than the inevitable laughter…
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Kelly Swingler | The Coach for HR Leaders
Mind The...2024-01-2349 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing In and being A great support systemNational Mentoring Month gives Bobby and Bridge a way into a conversation on how to establish a support system for growth, development and learning. Their history has clearly been spattered with support and help which, in their youth, they have clearly been CRAP at requesting or didn’t realise they had. So join them as they explore the importance of a support system for SELF as well as the need for Leaders to step up and find the capacity to be support systems for others.
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AllBright
Network Ireland
...2024-01-1647 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing a Commitment in 2024Well…you may feel like Bobby and Bridge are splitting hairs here as they try to fathom the distinctions between a vague and probably unachievable New Year Resolution versus making a Commitment…and then where the heck does an Intention fit in? But join them anyway as they get to grips with making Commitments for the year. Find out what BSQ stands for. And another of Bobby’s pet hates is revealed!
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How long do resolutions last?
Creative Leadership Diploma
How to Play to Your Strengths (hbr.org) 2024-01-0947 min
More Than a Lumpy JumperCoping with OverwhelmWhilst overwhelm can come calling at all times of the year, December can bring some added pressures to daily life…attending and throwing parties, entertaining extended family, gift shopping. And then there’s the December lurgies, the lack of daylight, more feelings of exhaustion than normal. Is overwhelm any real surprise?
Join Bobby and Bridge as they search out a few more little gifts to help you with such feelings over the holiday period.
Links How to Take Care of Yourself When You’re Feeling Overwhelmed - Mental Health FirstAid
Nalanda Institute for Co...2024-01-0214 min
More Than a Lumpy JumperConstantly CuriousBobby and Bridge do love the curiosity topic. Or is it more their toddler predilections of asking Why? Either way, they are very aware that curiosity as part of our make up has such benefits. It can make you happier, strengthens relationships, expands empathy and boosts achievement to name but a few. So join these two inquisitive creatures as they hand out some gifts to improve your curiosity. It really didn’t kill a cat!
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Britannica’s Curiosity Compass | 10 Ways to Improve Your Curiosity
Britannica’s Curiosity Compass | The Quiz 2023-12-2615 min
More Than a Lumpy JumperCultivating Play and Rest...but mostly playWhat an awesome topic!! Eager to continue this conversation about the importance of play (and NOT just because they are an evil couple of mischief makers!!), but for now Bobby and Bridge offer you some gifts around play and rest…but mostly play, in the belief that when playing, you really are giving yourself a break. So don your fancy dress, grab a water pistol or a pillow, tell stories, jokes, laugh and if all that fails, take a listen to this mini episode for some more inspiration.
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The Gifts of Imperfection: 10th Anniversary Ed...2023-12-1911 min
More Than a Lumpy JumperCentering is not just for ChristmasCentring is not just for Christmas because…. it’s a practice to help all of us whether we are celebrating this holiday period or not…it’s equally a practice that could help all of us every day of the year. So what is Centring? Centring or Grounding (interchangeable) usually refers to our mental and physical state of mind. It’s the place we know we have to get back to when we’re not feeling like ourselves. Bobby and Bridge chat and offer gifts a plenty of things you can do to help you back to Centre. And there’s a lo...2023-12-1215 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing Guilt-free with a NoTo round off the series, Bobby and Bridge are joined by James Fulford-Talbot of nXsus People in Australia for a conversation about Boundaries. How do you keep a check on your own boundaries whilst working in an environment whose structures and habits may call for more…perhaps unreasonably so? What helps or hinders us setting healthy boundaries for ourselves, within our teams and indeed within our family set ups? And what are the consequences when we don’t?
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Our Amazing Guest!
James Fulford-Talbot
nXus
Home - nXu...2023-12-0545 min
More Than a Lumpy JumperBeing your authentic self - Keeping it realBobby and Bridge talk about showing up as their most Bobbyist and Bridgeyist selves and what it’s like when you don’t. The difference that others can feel when you are all in and when you are not. And then once again, they meander off topic and begin surmising who would play them in the movie version of themselves. There’s even a story about stockings. Honestly, who let these two loose with recording equipment.
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Authentic Leadership Authentic Leadership: What It Is & Why It's Important | HBS Online
Living your Values – Brene Brown Li...2023-11-2846 min
More Than a Lumpy JumperBeing in CommunityWhat’s the difference between a truly toxic workplace and being in an environment where there’s high pressure situations and people are stressed? Are they one and the same? Where do you find allies? How do you look after yourself?
Bobby and Bridge talk about their different experiences in such environments AND what they found by way of connection and solace when finding community and making time to look after themselves.
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Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B. Rosenberg PhD
Rosenberg video
Nonviolent communication cartoon
2023-11-2244 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing your own changeOoooooooooooooo A GUEST!
Bobby and Bridge are joined by Steve White - NED, Executive Coach, Board Advisor and Deputy Chair of BLESMA (the Armed Forces Charity for Limbless Veterans) as they chat about living and learning through their decades in Leadership Roles. What would they go back and tell their 20 something versions? What have they learnt along the way?
And whilst Steve wanted to be introduced as “once a tw*t always a tw*t”, he’s anything but. Full on human being who cares deeply for others whilst keeping things light and full of cheeky...2023-11-1448 min
More Than a Lumpy JumperBeing comfortable with curiosityCuriosity starts with building a safe space for questions. Questions DO NOT mean you are somehow lacking. That is Boll*cks! Think about children you know, FOREVER asking “Why?”. Yes exhausting but SO necessary for learning and progress. When did you last ask Why?
Join Bobby and Bridge as they explore the power of curiosity, harnessing playfulness for creativity (with or without alcohol) versus hiding your light under a bushel, accepting the status quo and missing a place where new possibilities can take root.
2023-11-0750 minMore Than a Lumpy JumperBeing in the ConversationThe art of great communication might be where Bobby and Bridge start with this episode but as with so many of their conversations, they meander all over the shop! One of the key requirements of great communication is storytelling and wowzers they do love a story! Listen in as they chat about the importance of understanding and being understood, crafting messages, and the power in conversations where everyone wins. 2023-10-3054 min