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The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawRelevant Irrelevant Issues in DivorceDivorce unfolds in two parallel universes: the cold, mechanical world of legal proceedings and the raw, messy landscape of human emotions. When these worlds collide, many discover that what matters most to them personally holds little to no relevance in court. This disconnect can leave people feeling unheard and unable to move forward.We dive deep into the concept of "legally irrelevant" issues that carry enormous emotional weight—betrayal from affairs, resentment over financial power imbalances, religious conflicts about raising children, and the unspoken promises broken through divorce. These emotionally charged issues may not sway a judge, bu...2025-04-0835 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawNavigating High-Conflict Divorce with Charmaine PankoCurious about navigating the complexities of high-conflict divorce with more grace and empathy? Discover the transformative power of mediation and Collaborative Practice with our esteemed guest, Charmaine Panko, a seasoned lawyer, mediator and Collaborative practitioner from Saskatoon, Saskatchewan. Together, we unpack the challenges of navigating divorce with a high-conflict personality.Journey with us as we explore the "divorce escalator" metaphor and how traditional adversarial court systems can heighten tensions instead of resolving them. Personal anecdotes and professional insights reveal the limitations of current legal frameworks in addressing the psychological and financial needs of families in turmoil. We...2025-02-0648 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawDivorce and Politics: Navigating Divorce in a Divided WorldIn this Presidential Election season, polarization is tearing us apart, but could it also hold the key to understanding and strengthening personal relationships? As the Three Wisemen of Divorce guide us through the charged political landscape of 2024, we uncover how deeply entrenched views can unravel marriages and complicate co-parenting. Through real-life cases, we examine how disagreements over finances and medical care can ignite conflicts, emphasizing that respect for differing opinions often proves more crucial than fiscal harmony.Our exploration takes a discerning look at divorce and co-parenting, particularly when it comes to differences of opinion over morality...2024-10-3152 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawBridging the Gaps of Divorce MiscommunicationsUnlock the secrets to effective communication in divorce mediation and transform misunderstandings into mutual understanding. Have you ever wondered why a simple desire, like being a "50-50 dad," can spiral into conflict? We promise to equip you with the tools to navigate these emotional landmines, spotlighting the imperative role of clear intentions and assumptions that can escalate tensions. Our episode sheds light on how professionals diligently maintain neutrality, ensuring both parties in a divorce feel heard and understood, despite the emotional reactivity that often pervades the process.Through real-life scenarios and expert insights, we dissect the art...2024-10-1834 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawTransforming Anger in Divorce: Insights and Strategies with Dr. James WaltonWhat if you could transform anger into a tool for growth and understanding? We bring you a thought-provoking conversation with Dr. James Walton, Ph.D., a licensed family therapist and Eureka Award recipient. Together, we explore the intricate dynamics of anger during divorce and offer practical strategies for managing these intense emotions. Learn how to separate feeling angry from outward expressions of anger and why making conscious choices about our reactions is vital for healthy communication.Sit down with us as we unpack techniques to handle difficult conversations with grace, especially when emotions run high. Ever wondered...2024-09-2557 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawWhy does divorce cost so much and take so long?Ever wondered why untangling the knot of marriage can feel like braving a labyrinth? In a truth-telling session with financial divorce consultant Mark Hill, therapist Pete Roussos, and attorney Shawn Weber, we uncover the multifaceted journey through divorce. Starting with a chuckle, we quickly delve into the sobering realities couples face as they divide their lives, emphasizing the pivotal role of understanding both the tangible assets and the intangible emotional investments involved.Navigating a divorce can feel like steering through a storm, with the potential to either reach safe harbor swiftly or get mired in tempestuous disputes...2024-04-3046 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawSteering Through Divorce with Mental Health SupportDiscover the transformative power of mental health support in the realm of divorce with the Three Wisemen of Divorce. This episode delves into the emotional complexities of separation and the pivotal role therapists play in steering individuals towards a collaborative divorce. We unpack the stark contrasts between marital therapy, coaching and mediation support, shining a light on how emotional intelligence and self-management can dramatically alter the course of a divorce for the better. This journey isn't just about the end of a partnership; it's an invitation to understand the importance of professional guidance in fostering healthy communication and mutual...2024-02-2744 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawUsing a Financial Specialist to Unpack Your Divorce MediationDiscover how to navigate the complexities of divorce with financial savvy and emotional intelligence as we chat with financial divorce consultant Mark Hill, CFP, CDFA, therapist Pete Roussos, MFT, and attorney Shawn Weber. This revealing conversation is packed with expert advice on the crucial role of financial specialists during divorce mediation. You'll gain an understanding of the emotional weight of assets, how to balance power dynamics, and the subtleties of informed decision-making. Our guests strip back the layers of financial negotiations, providing a clear path to a fair settlement that respects both the past and future financial health of...2024-02-0738 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawThe Critical Role of Attorneys in Divorce MediationDiscover the surprising truth behind the role of attorneys in divorce mediation and why you should never underestimate their value in steering you toward fair outcomes. As we navigate the complexities of legal separation, we shatter the myth that mediators can, or should, replace the need for expert legal advice. Their seasoned insights reveal the nuances of choosing a lawyer who doesn't just understand the mediation process but champions it, ensuring your decisions are both informed and align with your objectives.Embark on a practical exploration of how to select an attorney who prioritizes efficiency and cooperation—tr...2024-01-1242 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawThe Weather Outside is Frightful: Holiday Co-parentingSometimes things are hard with the holidays- especially after a divorce. In fact, the weather outside can be frightful. In this episode, Mark, Shawn and Pete discuss the challenges families face when navigating co-parenting during the holidays.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney. 2023-12-2249 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawTypes of MediationThere are more than one type of mediation. Every mediator has his own mediation style. In this episode, The Three Wisemen of Divorce discuss four different mediation styles: transformative, facilitative, informational and evaluative. Each mediation style has its own pros and cons and it is important to consider what style will work best for your divorce case. The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney. 2023-10-3048 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawDivorce During a Financial CrisisOn this episode of The Three Wisemen of Divorce, our experts tackle a difficult but important topic: divorce during a financial crisis. Drawing on their extensive experience working with clients during periods of economic upheaval, the Wisemen share valuable insights and practical tips for navigating divorce decisions when finances are at their most precarious. From the lessons learned from the failure of Silicon Bank to strategies for protecting your assets during inflation, this episode is a must-listen for anyone going through a divorce during a financial crisis. Join us and learn from the divorce experts: Mark C. Hill, CFP®, C...2023-04-1148 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawNavigating the Forensic Custody EvaluationThis week The Three Wisemen of Divorce sit down with forensic psychologist and family consultant in complex family law cases, Robert A. Simon, Ph.D. If you are involved in a divorce with kids, especially litigation, you may have to endure a forensic custody evaluation. Dr. Simon provides his thoughts and insights about how to prepare for and navigate the forensic custody evaluation and how adversarial family law litigation often causes unintentional and unnecessary damage to kids.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST...2023-02-0850 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & Law"Should Old Acquaintance be forgot": Divorce and the New YearWith the New Year come new resolutions and plans for the upcoming year. But what if your New Year's resolution is to get a divorce? Believe it or not, January is known as "divorce season" in the family law business because so many people decide to call it quits after the holidays.Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, talk about divorce in the New Year and things to think about before you take the plunge.*Cert...2022-12-2740 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawSurviving the First Holidays After DivorceThe first holidays after a divorce can be tough. We call it the "Year of Firsts." It's the first Christmas, Passover, Birthday, Fourth of July, and even Super Bowl Sunday while separated. Questions abound such as:How are the holidays split in a divorce?What will Christmas after divorce be like?Should divorced parents spend holidays together?Surviving the holidays after divorce can be challenging. Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss legal, financial, and emotional aspects of the...2022-11-0834 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawSettlement ReadinessSometimes a divorce case gets stuck because the professionals or the clients have not taken the time to prepare the case to be ready to settle. Impasse is sometimes nothing more than not having the facts or the emotions ready to find a solution. Learn what it takes to achieve "settlement readiness".The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney. 2022-10-0529 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawThe Most Dangerous Time of the Divorce In this episode, Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, M.A., MFT, CST, Psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss why the first two weeks of any divorce is the most dangerous time. Learn what kinds of situations can make this the most dangerous time and learn strategies for setting boundaries and minimizing conflict.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney. 2022-09-2047 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawHow to Tell the Kids About the Divorce (and How NOT to Tell the Kids!)What should we tell the kids? How much information should we share? How do we have this conversation? In this episode, Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss what should and should not be shared with your children about the divorce.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney. 2022-08-1633 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & Law"Why can't you be happy for me?": When straying spouses can't understand the pain they causeWe've seen it time and again in divorce cases. When adultery happens, sometimes the adulterer has no clue what kind of pain they are causing. It's almost like folks have blinders. While most states have "no-fault" divorce, the pain of an affair can adversely affect agreement readiness during divorce negations whether courts recognizes fault or not. In this episode, Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss the psychology and emotional ramifications of adultery on divorce negotiations.The Three...2021-10-2042 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawI can't believe you asked for that! Reacting to insulting proposals in divorce negotiationsSometimes during a divorce mediation someone makes a proposal that is so off-base it is insulting. The temptation is to get angry, yell or even storm out of the room. But maybe there is a better approach. In this episode, Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss what happens when someone makes a crazy or even insulting proposal during a divorce negotiation.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consult...2021-10-1442 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawDivorce and Real EstateThe Three Wisemen of Divorce discuss the strange COVID influenced real estate market and how it impacts the decisions people in their divorce. Wisemen, financial divorce advisor Mark Hill, CFP, CDFA, psychologist Scott Weiner, J.D., Ph.D. and attorney Shawn Weber, CLS-F chat with realtor and Weber Dispute Resolution mediator Robert Flynn, J.D., SRES. For more information about Robert Flynn's real estate business, visit https://fairwayresidential.com/agents/robert-flynn/. To inquire about his mediation practice work with Weber Dispute Resolution, visit https://weberdisputeresolution.com/our-mediators/.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hil...2021-09-0829 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawGood Remarriage: How not to make the same mistakes you made in your last marriage.So, you survived the process of divorcing your ex. Now you want to remarry. How do you avoid repeating same mistakes you made the first time around? In this episode, Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss how to start the next relationship on the right foot. The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce...2021-05-1236 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawFinancial DisclosuresFinancial Disclosures are necessary in every divorce. While the process can be tedious, divorcing parties need to do the financial disclosures truthfully and thoroughly. We know that money can mean a lot of different things to different people. In this episode, Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, chat about the importance of the financial disclosures and the emotional and legal challenges they raise.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce...2021-05-0434 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawDivorce Negotiation and Thinking Outside the BoxIt's very easy to get stuck in a certain way of approaching things, especially during the challenges of a divorce negotiation. In this episode, Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss how creative thinking by "thinking outside the box" can lead to better and happier outcomes.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attor...2021-04-3033 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawThe Multi-dimensional Aspects of the Marital HomeOriginally recorded on March 8, 2023, the Three Wisemen sit down with Massachusetts Attorney and Mediator Beth Aarons, JD, MSW to discuss the multi-dimensional aspects of the marital home and how it hits the emotional, legal and financial aspects of a divorce. The Three Wisemen of Divorce are Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F...2021-04-2732 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawPrenups, Postnups and Pillow TalkNeed to get a prenup? What about a postnuptial agreement after your already married? Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss why formal marital agreements can be good and why pillow talk agreements don't count. The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney. 2021-04-1443 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawFinding Fault in the "No-Fault" DivorceMost jurisdictions in the United States embrace the concept of so-called "no-fault divorce". It makes sense for the Court. No Judge wants to involve themselves in deciding who is a fault when a marriage fails. It's a recipe for a soap opera reality TV proceeding. So the divorce for "irreconcilable differences" often makes the most sense. But some folks can't walk away from the idea of blaming someone for the demise of the marriage. This week, the Three Wisemen of Divorce discuss what to do when a party to a divorce insists on assigning blame even in the no-fault divorce...2021-03-0340 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawThe Flowers are Dead: When Valentine's Day Leads to DivorceSometimes Valentine's Day, a day supposedly to express love, can be the very catalyst that leads to the final decision to divorce. Sometimes these annual celebrations become triggering to people. The Three Wisemen of Divorce discuss the post-Valentine's Day divorce surge and the relationship psychology that seem to attend such important days. Is it the proverbial straw that broke the camel's back? The final break in the dike? Divorce Wisemen Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, talk it out.The Thre...2021-02-1530 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawThe Flowers are Dead: When Valentine's Day Leads to DivorceValentine's Day may bring love into sharp focus, but for some, it magnifies the fractures in their marriage, leading them to a crossroads: to divorce or not to divorce? The Three Wisemen of Divorce—expert financial analyst Mark Hill, seasoned psychologist Scott Weiner, and esteemed attorney Shawn Weber—join us in an enlightening discussion on the emotional triggers stemming from hallmark holidays that can tip the scales towards separation. We share our collective insight into how these special dates often serve as more than just a milestone; they become the pivotal moment that brings long-simmering marital issues to a boil...2021-02-1530 min