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The Honest Therapist#35 The 3 guiding principles to support you living authentically.In this episode I teach you the 3 guiding principles, questions really, that I use to keep myself firmly in the drivers seat of my own one and precious life. I use these every single day in my conversations with, well, just about anyone, but in an official and solicited setting with my clients in mentoring and therapy.
They will help you reconnect with your inner world, your true self to hear who you truly are, what you really want and give you insight into how you might create it.
So if you are in a...2023-10-1824 minThe Honest Therapist#34 "Blood is Thicker than Water" - Family Dynamics and Choosing YourselfThis episode is a reading of my latest SubStack article called "Blood is thicker than water but it can also leave unwanted stains and sticks like shit." You can read that HERE and join my community over there for long form writing and my weekly 'Make Life Wonder-Filled" wrap ups as I notice the good, the wonderful and the amazing in the world.
Deciding to cut off a family member is not an easy decision and I wish more people would give grace and compassion to those who do. It's a layered and deep topic and such...2023-09-1624 minThe Honest Therapist#33 What happened to my kid?! 3 tips for parenting tweens & teensAs I currently traverse the experience of raising a tween I am calling on some powerful education and experience that I am so grateful to have received earlier on in my career as a social worker. My life seems to include a lot of deep breathing, biting my lip and choosing my battles, and let’s be honest…. Doubting and over-analysing all the decisions I have ever made as parent up until this point! Yep we are IN.IT.
The tween years begin around 9 yrs old and it is a time of great change internally for our youn...2023-09-0730 minThe Honest Therapist#32 Grit, perseverance and doing 'the thing'.How often do we talk about the things we want to do, be, have, achieve and experience without actually doing the things we need to do to make it happen?
So many people think talking, thinking and sharing about 'the thing' we want is actually working on it. It's not.
In this episode I introduce you to 'the thing' that has been omnipresent in your life, lurking, following you, whispering or screaming at you probably for many years, decades or for your entire life. It's the thing that you are obsessed with, fascinated by and...2023-08-2427 minThe Honest Therapist#31 Why I stopped buying the 'money-making' merchandise Part 2Last year I pulled myself out of the - dodgy, never-ever-enough, 'just manifest it', no real substance to coaching - waters I found myself in, dried off and reconnected with the legacy I want to leave.
This is a story I am hearing from so many people in my circles so I wanted to share mine.
Part 2 offers some solutions to this rampant industry issue so please listen in to that one.
If you have experienced the downside of the unregulated online coaching profession and need a chat I am always here. Send...2023-07-1027 minThe Honest Therapist#30 Why I stopped buying the 'money-making' merchandise Part 1Last year I pulled myself out of the - dodgy, never-ever-enough, 'just manifest it', no real substance to coaching - waters I found myself in, dried off and reconnected with the legacy I want to leave.
This is a story I am hearing from so many people in my circles so I wanted to share mine.
Part 2 offers some solutions to this rampant industry issue so please listen in to that one.
If you have experienced the downside of the unregulated online coaching profession and need a chat I am always here. Send...2023-07-1022 minThe Honest Therapist#29 We don't always need to outsource our kidsIn this episode I explore the current social discourse that tells parent's that they need to take their kids to see an 'expert' at the first signs of distress and challenge.
Parents have been disempowered over the last 3 decades or so and it's time to shift the pendulum back. We don't always have to look outside the home for growth and support. You are more capable than you know. Once you give up power over your child's life, direction and wellbeing it can be difficult to get it back.
Parents are experts on their own...2023-05-1022 minThe Honest Therapist#28 Are you experiencing low mood?This week we talk about how low mood, those flat, off kinda days, that show up in our lives from time to time and how you can support yourself through them.
This episode includes really practical tips for nourishing yourself on days that feel really hard.
I share my recent low mood day and what my 'non-negotiables' were for getting through it.
I hope you love it and it helps you in some way.
Please review or leave me a comment for how it impacted you.
2023-04-2128 minThe Honest Therapist#27 What we can learn from Matthew PerryI finished the audio version of Matthew Perry's book last week and it gave me such food for thought. I am such a huge Friends fan so it was mind-boggling to me to learn what our loveable Chandler Bing was experiencing behind the scenes.
I am in awe of his vulnerability in sharing his most painful and illuminating moments.
There are some powerful examples of trauma woundings in this book, in particular FEAR OF ABANDONMENT.
It is astounding how we can have experiences at such a young age that lead to lifelong un-resourceful...2023-03-1625 minThe Honest Therapist#26 What trauma is & isn't.Trauma is a becoming a very popular word and area of exploration which makes me so happy. However we have to be very clear on what trauma is and what it isn't so we don't misunderstand what causes it, what it actually is and how we can help people recover and heal. Insta-therapists are loving calling every stressful event TRAUMA but is that accurate? Is trauma only catastrophic events and does everyone respond the same way to said events?
All great questions that I answer in this episode.
MORE INFO ON THE ARTICULATION INCUBATOR: https...2023-03-0328 minThe Honest Therapist#25 Connection Before CommunicationIf you don't have connection you will never have productive communication.
I used to work with some pretty scary characters as a family services worker in my 20's Carlie.
One family in particular springs to mind whenever I think about the power of Connection before Communication.
I was assigned the case of a very well-known and traumatised family who had 'gone through' dozens of workers over the years. They were the toughest of the toughest families with multi-generational violence, trauma, drug and alcohol, abuse, imprisonment.....all the things.
The parents wanted...2023-02-2329 minThe Honest Therapist#24 Money stress and what you can control (a requested topic)After sharing a little on Instagram about my emotional and physical response to budgeting and being 'adult' about my spending so many of you asked me to share more of what we are doing right now to stay on top of rising living costs.
Your relationship with money can be a pervasive cause of stress and worry and in these uncertain economic times I believe we all need to revisit out we earn money and spend it.
Personally my family are working to reign in spending AND increase income at the same time to ensure th...2023-02-1621 minThe Honest Therapist#23 Dealing with 'difficult' peopleWe are back to podcasting for 2023!
I update you on reclaiming my therapist role and title and how it's helping me stay in integrity in the services that I offer.
My plan for the podcast this year is story-based real life examples to help you navigate daily life challenges in relationships and your own revolution. I will also be sharing therapeutic approaches to help you walk yourself through your own healing. Practical and powerful is my hope!
In this episode I share some really helpful ways you can 'deal with difficult people'. Taken...2023-02-1627 min
The Honest Therapist#22 My Story Part 2*Raw audio from a FB Live.
I recently shared some of the more intimate and lesser known parts of my story in my FB group - The Exchange . This is part 2 after I drew a line in the sand and chose my own healing journey at 26yrs.
Let me speak to nuance and context. There was so much love and safety and goodness in my childhood also. I felt loved. I was and still am loved. Maybe not in the ways I yearn/ed to be but I am. We always live with polarity. I a...2022-12-1857 minThe Honest Therapist#21 My story Part 1*Raw audio from a FB Live.
I recently shared some of the more intimate and lesser known parts of my story in my FB group - The Exchange . This is part 1, the first 26yrs.
Firstly, Let me speak to nuance and context. There was so much love and safety and goodness in my childhood also. I felt loved. I was and still am loved. Maybe not in the ways I yearn/ed to be but I am. We always live with polarity. I am grateful for all the good, how I was fed and housed and...2022-11-2455 minThe Honest Therapist#20 My 40th Birthday WeekendThis episode ignites the conversation around taking time out for fun, rest and play as an adult woman. Deciding what you desire and booking it in!
I spent my 40th with 9 epic women on a wonderful weekend away. It was a mix of laughter, deep conversation, pampering, eating, dancing, coffee, shopping and lazying around chatting. Connection with women, it was perfection.
However it did bring up some interesting woundings for many and there were barriers to attending that some needed to navigate and love themselves through.
- taking time for themselves
...2022-11-0726 minThe Honest Therapist#19 Pandemic hangover and social media repulsionAnyone else had a pandemic hangover this year?
This episode is really me sharing what the last 10 months have been about in my internal world. Identity crises, black dark spirally days, being repulsed by the direction that companies like Meta are headed with the social media game. Bringing myself back to the light through introspection and discernment about where my energy is going to be placed in the future. Ultimately I am choosing to step away from socials more and more and back into real life connections and alternative community spaces.
If you would like t...2022-10-2129 min
The Honest Therapist#18 How changing my relationship with money changed my joy factor.In this episode I share how a pivotal moment, that happened on a really ordinary day in an ordinary way, totally shifted the intention and energy I had around money. Which resulted in me being more present in my life and relationships, more joy, less anxiety, and ironically more money flowing into my bank account.
We explore the 3 intentions, or promises, I made to myself to shift my relationship with money.
enjoying what I was doing,
Serving and creating for impacts sake
Seeing rest and play as important as money.
Right now I am offering...2022-07-0129 minThe Honest Therapist#17 Be the client you want to attractIn this episode I want to elevate the conversation around what we 'get out' of courses, mentoring, masterminds that we invest in.
My desire with this conversation is to have us all take ownership of our expectations and choices, as well as our integrity, in what can sometimes feel like the wild west of the personal development space.
As service providers how can we set clear boundaries and expectations in our spaces.
As consumers, clients and customers how can we own our choices, use our energy in a positive way, cease the blame g...2022-05-0629 minThe Honest Therapist#16 The drama triangle and business - a must listen to episode!Hey legend,
In today's riff I talk about one of the most powerful relationship tools you can utilize in your business as you engage with people from different walks of life.
The Kapman Drama Triangle. READ MORE HERE https://leadershiptribe.com/blog/the-drama-triangle-explained
I have used this tool for over 15 years when mediating families as a social worker, in my own relationships and now as I mentor women every day and hold large group containers.
When you think about clients that you clash with, mentors who mother you or online bullies...2022-04-0346 minThe Honest Therapist#15 You don't need another piece of paperToo often I hear from women that they just need one for course or qualification to feel ready to launch their art out into the world.
It's usually absolute BS as the women I am surrounded with are more than embodied and experienced and educated. They are so ready to unleash..... and yet they don't.
In this episode I want to explore why not. I have some observations.
- Inadequacy and a conditioned belief that someone outside of us needs to ordain us as 'ready.'
- Gate 48 in the Human...2022-02-2434 minThe Honest Therapist#14 Being a Splenic Projector & the Power of Breathwork with Natalie GreeneIn this episode I interview the fabulous Natalie Greene from She Breathes Now. Nat is a 3/6 Splenic Projector with defined Ego, Head, Ajna and Spleen. With qualifications in teaching, social work, NLP and now breathwork AS WELL as extensive life experience and experimentation, Nat is one of the most embodied teachers and humans I know.
Breathwork has been one of the most powerful healing tools I have experienced in the past few years for releasing built up energy from the body.
It helped me process some deep and very traumatic childhood experiences that talking therapy...2022-02-191h 08
The Honest Therapist#13 Human Design & Mountain Biking - yep there's a link.Welcome back to the podcast!
I am so thrilled to be back in more flow in 2022 after the circus that was the last 12 months.
In this episode I was really just getting myself back in the groove of sharing more externally after a year of just having to focus on my kids, my home and my clients.
So I share a story of how I used my understanding of my family's Human Design during a recent family holiday adventure to really see how they live their design in different situations.
- H...2022-02-0335 minThe Honest TherapistFamily Interaction through a HD lens - A mountain bike story.SEASON 2 Episode #1
In this episode I share a day on the mountain bike trails with my family over the summer and how I use my Human Design knowledge to witness how we all navigated the adventure together. It was interesting to see our designs play out through our strengths and limitations and how we supported one another through the day.
I hope this helps you look deeper into your Human Design and those of your loved ones to build connection and understanding.
This episode covers
- How differently we all...2022-01-2032 min
The Honest Therapist#12 Your sabotaging behavior has a purposeIn this episode we learn what our sabotaging behaviors are and how they serve us.
Maybe you are a people pleaser. Possibly you know that the way you communicate in your marriage is not what you want it to be. Maybe you're feeling that your health is not being prioritised as it should be. Perhaps you bury your head in the sand with your finances.
I want to shed some light on why we sabotage ourselves and how we can become more aware so that we can make better choices.
This is a...2021-10-2020 minThe Honest Therapist#11 Your brain keeps you safe not successful.In this episode I explain how our brains work to keep us in safety and comfort and away from pain and discomfort.
Sounds great doesn't it? Safety, comfort, ease..........
Well if you want to grow, develop, shed some sabotaging behaviors and learn how to engage with the world in new ways it can be really limiting.
We chat about the theory of cognitive dissonance and the 3 ways our brains stop us from installing new beliefs and behaviors.
If you have ever found yourself using excuses to justify your poor behaviors or...2021-08-2725 minThe Honest Therapist#10 Why we struggle with boundaries so much.This episode we explore one of the concepts that we deep dive into in The Shift - Radical Self Responsibility program that is currently open for enrollment for you at www.carlieanna.com/shift
SETTING SOLID, RESPECTFUL AND LOVING BOUNDARIES
When we look at childhood development and milestones we see that children thrive in environments that feel safe and certain, that knowing what is coming is helpful to them. Too much chaos, changing rules and moving boundaries is confusing and overwhelming.
We need our carers to be solid, wise and kind in their...2021-07-2332 minThe Honest Therapist#9 Manifestors - Our powerful initiatorsIn this episode we explore all the incredible power of Manifestors/Initiators.
I hope this offers some insight into how you are here to impact the world and just how incredible you are.
- You don't have sustainable energy to work.
- Understand how your creative flow works.
- Your inner guidance system to help you make the right decisions on what and when to initiate.
- Your Soul Purpose
- How to care for yourself in a Generator world.
- Journal prompts and affirmations to...2021-06-2634 minThe Honest Therapist#8 What is Quantum Human Design and how can it help you release resistance?In this episode I introduce you to the potent and powerful framework of Quantum Human Design
Why I love it.
How if has impacted my personally in business, love, relationships and parenting.
What it is and how to use it in your world.
What it isn't.
Some examples of how I use it in my mentoring and the impact it has had on 2 of my clients.
If this resonates or has you intrigued and you want to start exploring your own unique blueprint you can get your...2021-06-1732 minThe Honest Therapist#7 The Five R's of transformation - from exhaustion and overwhelm to alignment and radiance.In this episode I share with you the journey I take women through when they come to me for mentoring. Most women come exhausted and way out of personal alignment, lost and stuck and overwhelmed. I take a different approach than most mentors out there with the first priority being rest and repair, allowing time to breathe and get still so that clarity can come.
Only then can we reconnect with ourselves and understand how we uniquely work.
Bringing in Quantum Human Design we can then start to rebel against the mainstream approaches and create o...2021-05-2138 minThe Honest Therapist#6 The power of awareness - a sneak peek into my coaching sessionsIn this episode I share with you a snippet of what it's like to be in my powerful coaching space. We don't stuff around in the work, we go deep, fast and we shift you quickly so you can get on with being your incredible fully embodied self. Have a listen and walk yourself through the steps of becoming aware of your desires and all the 'sludge' that is holding you back from having them and choosing into a new story any moment of the day.
March 1st we begin the Rebel Women Mastermind. A 6 week experience...2021-02-2520 minThe Honest Therapist#5 Part 2 You are your own guru!This episode is part 2 of a two part series taken from my guest speaker session in the Taboo - by April Mack online summit.
In this episode I remind you that you have all your answers and guidance inside you.
I share how we forget how we are through social conditioning, imprinting, genetic coding and also how the personal development space can prey on women who don't trust their own wisdom..
I now move from a place of inner guidance and true alignment with what FEELS good but I know many of you...2021-02-0438 minThe Honest Therapist#4 Part 1 You are Your Own GuruThis episode is part 1 of a two part series taken from my guest speaker session in the Taboo - by April Mack online summit.
In this episode I remind you that you have all your answers and guidance inside you.
I share my journey of seeking out gurus, teachers and coaches that would teach me 'THE WAY' to success. I spent tens of thousands searching for the silver bullet. I don't want you to do the same. There is a new way to do business and life.
I now move from a place...2021-01-2034 minThe Honest Therapist#3 It's time for the Truth Seekers & Truth SpeakersIn this episode I share my morning download
"I daydream of a world where...."
Now is the time for people to step into their own power and truth.
Now is the time to start creating the world you dream about.
Invitation to my 2020 Soul Reflection for Truth Seekers and Truth Speakers1 hour workshop
What you'll get:
1hr live workshop with Carlie to walk through her end of year Soul Reflection process
Empowerment and motivation to sink more into your own beliefs and speak them more often
You'll be...2020-12-1632 minThe Honest Therapist#2 Losing yourself and coming backIn this episode I share the underpinnings of my life's mission which is helping people come back to who they are at their core.
You are a perfect creation, as perfect as the rest of natures gifts.
Dismantling beliefs systems that are not our own is the process of coming back to centre.
A brief explanation of how we get to the point that we lose ourselves
Imprinting, coding and conditioning from the human beings in our worlds.
Some prompts to reflect or journal on to figure out your b...2020-12-0523 minThe Honest Therapist#1 Lessons from birthing a podcast.In this episode I share the 3 blocks I faced as I birthed this podcast.
1. Caring about what people will think of my message and my voice.
2. Looking for the perfect plan when just starting was the answer
3. Following other peoples processes of launching and thinking they would work for me.
You can take these blocks and apply them to any area of your life where you are not listening to your own voice and desires. The work is in moving through these blocks and doing the damn work anyway.
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