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The Survivors PlaybookEp. 27: Life after Divorce, through the lens of Christianity, with Sarah DelamarterSend us a textIn today's episode, I talk to he amazing Sarah Delamarter, who combines her vast knowledge of scripture with divorce. We talk about all things divorce, leaving toxic/abusive marriages, what Christ has to say about this, and how you can thrive post divorce, despite what your ex does or doesn't do. It's a fun, deep dive into the reality of divorce for those who have been raised to believe that marriage was sacrosanct, and divorce was not an option. You can find Sarah on IG at @sara.delamarter. Visit: https://chantalcontorinescoaching.c...
2026-01-3035 minThe Survivors PlaybookEp.26: The Power of Your LoveSend us a textIn this episode, I talk about the power of your brand of unconditional love. How vital this is for your child, even if they are currently aligned with their abuser. It's a short but powerfully impactful episode. Want to learn more about to empower your children? My next masterclass, How to Empower Your Children, is February 12th, from 12:00-1:30 pm PST. It's live and recorded. You'll leave with 15 actionable tools and strategies you can actually start using that very day, to help educate and empower your children. To h...
2026-01-2312 minThe Survivors PlaybookEp.25: Navigating grief while finding joySend us a textThis is the episode for all protective parents navigating grief. We name it, we validate it and we learn to live with grief, while ensuring we also live lives with joy and happiness too. The two, grief and joy can in fact coexist. Visit: https://chantalcontorinescoaching.com to learn how to work with me. Grab my free parenting resource: https://chantalcontorinescoaching.myflodesk.com/free-how-to-guide Join my monthly membership for protective parents: https://chantalcontorinescoaching.com/monthly-membership Follow me on Instagram: @chantal.contorines.coaching
2026-01-1611 minThe Survivors PlaybookEp.24: How to heal from the inside out with Alexis Tanner, Holistic NutritionistSend us a textIn this lightning episode, I talk to Alexis Tanner, aka The Nutritionist Mama, about how she took control of her life, and healed herself using food, supplements and lifestyle changes. Stress, abuse, causes so many internal issues and ailments, but you can in fact, heal yourself, and it starts from the inside out. You can follow her on IG at @thenutritionistmama or via her website at: www.thenutrionistmama.com.Visit: https://chantalcontorinescoaching.com to learn how to work with me. Grab my free...
2026-01-0922 minThe Survivors PlaybookEp.23: Navigating the Legal Arena with Angela Jane BatesSend us a textIn this episode, I talk with advocate (lawyer), mediator, parenting coordinator and advocate for children and adults, Angela Jane Bates. She gives us her top 5 tips for navigating this and we talk all things worldwide family court. She's worked in various areas throughout the world, and ended up in family law. She's not only a wealth of information and whip smart, but is also funny AF.You can find her on social media @familylawyersaVisit: https://chantalcontorinescoaching.com to learn how to work with me. G...
2026-01-0254 minThe Survivors PlaybookEp.22: Decision FatigueSend us a textThis is the episode for EVERY protective parent, especially during the holidays. I deep dive into what decision fatigue is, how it presents, and what you can do to help lessen it's impact on you. Visit: https://chantalcontorinescoaching.com to learn how to work with me. Grab my free parenting resource: https://chantalcontorinescoaching.myflodesk.com/free-how-to-guide Join my monthly membership for protective parents: https://chantalcontorinescoaching.com/monthly-membership Follow me on Instagram: @chantal.contorines.coaching This podcast is for educational purposes only a...
2025-12-1911 minThe Survivors PlaybookEp.21: Navigating Family Court with THE RIGHT STRATEGIES with Alex MackSend us a textIn this episode, I talk to the amazingly knowledgeable Alex Mack of NarcSurvivorAdvocate about how to navigate family court. You know I'm not a proponent of entering into family court, but when you have to, or are forced to by the super fun narcissist, you need someone like Alex Mack in your corner, giving you the right tools and strategies. This is a must listen for anyone navigating the dumpster fire that is family court. You can find her on social media @narcsurvivoradvocate or on her website: exodusstrategyconsultants.c...
2025-12-1223 min
The Survivors PlaybookEp.20: Navigating the Holiday SeasonSend us a textIn this episode, I talk about ways you, the protective parent, can protect your peace and create memorable moments that will surpass the chaos and confusion your counter parent just loves to create. It's full of insights, tips and reframes to help you enjoy the upcoming holidays with far more confidence, less pressure and less stress.Visit: https://chantalcontorinescoaching.com to learn how to work with me. Grab my free parenting resource: https://chantalcontorinescoaching.myflodesk.com/free-how-to-guide Join my monthly membership for protective parents: https...
2025-12-0417 minThe Survivors PlaybookEp.19: Parental Alienation with Charlie McCreadySend us a textIn this incredibly educational and empowering episode, I talk to Charlie McCready, a parental alienation expert and coach. We explored the topic of parental alienation in depth, covering its dynamics, tactics, and emotional impact on both parents and children. The discussion concluded with insights on the challenges faced by narcissists and empaths in high-conflict situations, emphasizing the importance of self-care and personal growth for parents experiencing alienation. You can find Charlie on social media- @charliemccready1 or on his website at www.charliemccready.com. Visit: https://chantalcontorinescoaching.com to learn ho...
2025-11-2849 minThe Survivors PlaybookEp.18: The Importance of playfulness in your homeSend us a textIn this episode we talk about the importance of injecting more playfulness and silliness into your home. Abuse and abusers rob victims, children and adults alike, of their ability to be playful and silly. Adding more playfulness and silliness in your home creates core memories, allows your children to simply be children, and helps to regulate their nervous systems. Lots of easy, low energy but high impact, ideas here. Visit: https://chantalcontorinescoaching.com to learn how to work with me. Grab my...
2025-11-2122 min
Frolo: The Single Parent PodcastCo-parenting with a narcissist with Chantal ContorinesIn this episode of the Frolo podcast, Zoë Desmond speaks with Chantel Contorines, a certified high conflict divorce and co-parenting coach. They discuss the complexities of co-parenting with a narcissistic or controlling ex-partner, the ongoing challenges of post-separation abuse and the impact of such dynamics on children. Chantel shares insights on navigating the legal system, the importance of community support and strategies for educating children about healthy relationships. Listen now to hear more about:💚 Why co-parenting with a narcissist is often more about counter-parenting💚 How post-separation abuse can be m...
2025-11-1453 minThe Survivors PlaybookEp. 18: Let's Talk About ACEs with Dr. TorieSend us a textIn this episode, I talk to the amazing Dr. Torie-ACEs educator, author and speaker- about all things ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences, how our children are impacted by this, when they have an abusive parent, and how we, as protective parents can help support them. Dr. Torie is a wealth of information and is truly passionate about educating everyone about how these scores, how ACEs, show up in society, and how trauma impacts children. Knowledge truly is power and empowering, and this episode is exactly that: empowering. You can f...
2025-11-1436 minThe Survivors PlaybookEp.17: Healing from, and creating boundaries with, a covert narcissistic mom- Terri's StorySend us a textThis is such a great conversation with the amazing Terri of Character Outs Podcast, who was raised by a covert narcissistic mom. We dive into her childhood, her adulthood, and how she make the very hard, but also, very necessary decision to go no contact with a mom who manipulated her at every turn. Spoiler alert- Terri has created a life she loves with a husband she loves, and children she loves and even a grandchild. It turns out, you can in fact create a great life and break cycles of dysfunction and...
2025-11-0737 minThe Survivors PlaybookEp. 16: Retraining your brain with Paola Telfer creator of Sens.aiSend us a textThis is such a powerful episode, where I talk to the amazing, whip smart and incredibly articulate, Paola Telfer, a UBC electrical engineering grad, turned entrepreneur who created Sens.ai, a revolutionary at home brain training system. Her own accident, which left her at rock bottom and wanting to heal herself, was the catalyst for her wanting to create a system that was far more accessible to the average person. We dive into how this product can help survivors retrain their brain, create new neuropathways, and really live lives they love, d...
2025-10-3143 minThe Survivors PlaybookEp. 15: John's Story Part 2Send us a textThis is part 2 of John's story- from toxic dysfunctional family, to marriage to a covert narcissist, to divorce, and the parental alienation that occurred both during as well as after the divorce. This is a story of triumph over pain, of creating rock solid impenetrable boundaries, of finding your people outside of your family of origin, of creating a life you love, despite what the abusers in your life do or don't do. John shows us how to live life outside of abuse, of manipulation, of rejection. You...
2025-10-2430 minThe Survivors PlaybookEpisode 14: From a dysfunctional family to a toxic marriage, John's story Part 1Send us a textThis is Part 1 of John's story- you may know him as the creator of the social media page "Male Victims of Female Narcissists". He was raised in a dysfunctional and emotionally stunted family and then served over a life sentence with a woman who was not interested in a partnership, but rather, a dictatorship. He's suffered tremendous pain and suffering at the hands of those who were meant to love and support him. But, this pain has not stopped him from creating a life he loves, which has started with his creation of...
2025-10-1730 min
Sherapy Sessions: Cutting Toxic Family TiesCo-Parenting with a Narcissist & Healing After Toxic Relationships with Chantal Contorines (Bonus Episode 34)In this eye-opening episode, Dr. Sherrie sits down with Chantal Contorines to unpack the hidden realities of parenting with or after a relationship with a narcissist. Chantal brings deep wisdom, compassion, and clarity to one of the most complicated and painful dynamics families face today. What we cover: 🍏 What led Chantal to specialize in narcissistic abuse and parenting after trauma 🍏 Why “co-parenting” with a narcissist isn’t actually co-parenting—and what to do instead 🍏 How humor and sarcasm can be used as tools of cruelty and control 🍏 The biggest myths society pushes...
2025-10-1557 minThe Survivors PlaybookEp. 13: From alienated child to thriving adult, Maegan's storySend us a textThis is the episode for every protective parent who is worried about how the abuse is affecting their child. For every protective parent (that includes you too, stepparents), who have watched their once bonded child align completely with their abusive parent. How many of you have sleepless nights, wondering if they'll ever see through the lies, confusion, brainwashing, and chaos? Wondering how they'll possibly ever come back to you?? This is Maegan's story, as a child with two narcissistic caregivers and one protective mom, a mom who never stopped loving her, s...
2025-10-1036 minThe Survivors PlaybookEp.12: From hiring the right attorney to Parallel Parenting and everything in between with Carl KnickerbockerSend us a textIn this episode, I talk to the amazing Carl Knickerbocker, of Unapologetic Parenting- he's a father, a husband, an ex husband, an author of not one, but two books, and to top it all off, he's also a divorce and family law attorney who has become an expert in narcissistic counter parents. We talk about the legal aspects, his tips for those divorcing a narcissist, hiring the right lawyer, and move into the ins and out of parallel parenting. This episode is full of nuggets, tools, tips and strategies to help you navigate...
2025-10-0329 min
Be A Better YouEpisode 183: Navigating High-Conflict Divorce: Strategies to Protect Your Peace & Power with Chantal ContorinesLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Going through a high-conflict divorce can feel overwhelming, isolating, and downright scary. In this rapid-fire episode of Be A Better You Podcast, host Allison K. Dagney sits down with Certified Divorce Coach Chantal Contorines to answer the toughest questions women face when divorcing a high-conflict personality.You’ll learn:How to recognize high-conflict behaviors and protect yourselfThe biggest mistakes to avoid in communication and co-parentingWhy documentation and boundaries are your survival toolsHow to respond when your ex refuses to follow your boundariesHow to...
2025-10-0253 minThe Survivors PlaybookEp.11: Trauma bonds and their effects on children with Dr Nadine MacalusoSend us a textIn this episode, I have the pleasure of talking to the amazing Dr. Nadine Macaluso, the ex wife of the Wolf of Wallstreet, therapist, author, and all around amazing human who turned her life completely around, with 2 young children, and with nothing to her name. We talk about trauma bonds and cognitive dissonance, and how these affect every survivor of narcissistic abuse, but also, children victims too. This episode is full of juicy tips and nuggets that I know are going to help you create a life you love, despite what t...
2025-09-2637 minThe Survivors PlaybookEp.10: The Mindbody connection between trauma and chronic pain- with Adriana BucciSend us a textThis is the episode for anyone who has suffered, or is suffering from chronic pain. Wowza. Adriana shares her story of growing up with a narcissistic mom, to dating various narcissistic men (so common, as your body goes with what it knows), to suffering debilitating chronic pain attacks, in rapid fire. From this, to building a life she loves. It's a power half an hour full of tips and tools to help you navigate this with far more clarity and confidence, and also, hopefully, help you regain your own personal power. A...
2025-09-1928 minThe Survivors PlaybookEp.9:Radical Acceptance- Accepting the UnacceptableSend us a textIn this Episode, I talk about the importance of radical acceptance, reframing and mantras to help survivors, specifically those protective parents, navigate the ultra marathon that "co-parenting" with an active narcissistic counter parent is. I then move into a discussion about how these tools can help those protective parents whose children have been turned against them. It's a powerful episode full of insights and tools and mindset shifts to help you live a life you love, despite what the narcissist in your life, does, or doesn't do. Visit: https://chantalcontorinescoaching.com t...
2025-09-1238 minThe Survivors PlaybookEp.8: Document like a pro with Courtney GilmartinSend us a textIn this episode, I talk to Courtney Gilmartin, a documentation expert, the founder of the Monarch Method, as well as the New Jersey Protective Moms a Non-Profit organization. Documentation is truly the foundation of your case proving your ex's patterns of behaviour, so, it's vital that you become an expert in this area, as they are always going to counter parent, and very rarely do what's actually in your children's best interest. Courtney drops some key tips and tricks that are sure to help any protective parent listening in.
2025-09-0538 minThe Survivors PlaybookEp.7: How doing the inner work helps you create a life you love with Allison DagneySend us a textIn this episode, I talk to the amazing Allison Dagney, emotional abuse recovery mentor, 2 times best selling author and host of her own podcast. She is both a survivor and an expert. She shares her story of abuse and escape with us, and then, shares her path to healing, which is full of helpful tips and tricks to help you create a life you love, despite what the abuser in your life does, or doesn't do. You can find her on IG at allisonkdagney or on her website a...
2025-08-2944 minThe Survivors PlaybookEp.6: Talking all things Legalese and Family Court with Attorney Renee BauerSend us a textIn this episode, the amazing Renee Bauer, family law attorney, author and app creator, joins us to help you navigate the legal system and your lawyer, with more confidence, while giving you real life tips and tools that will save your sanity, your peace of mind, your time, your energy and your bank account. You can find Renee on IG @msreneebauer or via her website at: www.familylawyerct.com and her app: @parentcopilot Visit: https://chantalcontorinescoaching.com to learn how to work with me. Grab my free pa...
2025-08-2230 minThe Survivors PlaybookEp.5: From Disempowered Victim to Thriving Survivor and Reconnecting with your child with Jill WiseSend us a textIn this episode, I connect with the truly awe inspiring Jill Wise @the_enlightened_target, about her harrowing journey, from the child of a malignant narcissistic father to the wife of a narcissistic abuser, who later colluded with her father to fracture her bond with her son. Over a decade in the court system; having her ex and her father join forces; and experiencing her son be alienated from her. All of this could easily break a person. While Jill found herself at rock bottom, isolate, broke, and without her son, s...
2025-08-1534 min