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Enneagram and MarriageMen, Intimacy, & the Marriage They Really Want w/Eric MacDougall, 4, Evolved MarriageIn this episode, Christa sits down with men’s marriage coach Eric MacDougall, an Enneagram 4 with 8 tendencies (4-3 pairing), to talk honestly about why so many men unknowingly disconnect emotionally, even while trying to “do everything right.” Eric shares the breaking-point moment when his Enneagram 3 (with-9) tendencies wife told him she loved him but wasn’t in love anymore, and how that revelation pushed him to confront his patterns of overworking, performing, and using sex or productivity as substitutes for true intimacy. Together, they explore why men often rely on sexual touch to soothe deeper loneliness, and how emotional leadersh...
2025-12-0358 minEnneagram and MarriageThe Darkness Before the Holidays: Finding Your Worth with Dr. Ed NewtonAs the days get shorter and the holidays approach, many of us feel that familiar darkness creeping in, doubt about our gifts, questions about our worth, uncertainty about whether we're enough. Pastor Ed Newton, Lead Pastor of the 27,000 member Community Bible Church in San Antonio and author of Why Not You?: Believing What God Believes About You, sits down with Christa for a conversation about finding faith, truth, and doing the deep personal work required to believe you're worthy, even in your weakest moments. Ed shares his own journey of therapy and spiritual work, unpacking how he learned he...
2025-11-1744 minEnneagram and MarriageSpooky Season Special: Stranger Things w/Gen Alpha & Z Lucas Wilson & Jack Hardin (Melody Hardin and Abigail Perry)Get ready for a 1980s blast from the past twist on The Enneagram and Marriage Podcast this spooky season! In this family-friendly special episode, Christa welcomes two very special guests making their podcast debut: her nephew Lucas Wilson and son Jack Hardin, representing Gen Alpha, along with Gen Z E+M Certified Coaches Melody Hardin, 9 and Gen X Abigail Perry, 3. Together, they dive into typing beloved Stranger Things characters, predictors for the next season, and fave characters including Lucas Sinclair, Dustin Henderson, Joyce Byers, Jim Hopper, and more, just in time for the final season. This fun, intergenerational conversation...
2025-10-2935 minEnneagram and MarriageNew Heights in Love: What Taylor Swift Can Teach Us About Joy and Redemption in RelationshipsJoin Christa and Melody for a fun, insightful conversation about Taylor Swift's "The Life of a Showgirl" album and what it teaches us about celebrating joy in relationships. Inspired by Taylor's New Heights podcast appearance and her approach to happiness with cautious discretion, Christa and Melody go track-by-track through the album, exploring themes of authenticity. and growth in the ways of love. They discuss the Enneagram's role in how different types respond to their spouse's joy, the courage it takes to be genuinely happy publicly, and why the best marriages have space for both partners to reach new heights...
2025-10-1340 minEnneagram and MarriageWhen AI Infiltrates Your Marriage with Amy Wicks, 7What do you do when AI infiltrates your marriage? When you and your spouse are talking to ChatGPT more than each other, it becomes a problem, but that's not the only way tech is taking from our relationships. Find out how you have recover your relationships in the real world in this episode with Christa Hardin, as featured on Amy Wicks' Wholehearted Enneagram Podcast, which we're sharing on our mid-week episode today! Watch on YouTube!
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2025-10-0143 minEnneagram and MarriageAI, Tech, Smartphones, & Your Kids w/Hannah Hardin, Type 4AI is novel and it seems to be here to stay, but what good (or bad) is it doing for your kids? We love tacking this topic with a research base, but we also want and need to drive forward with actual human connection. We get to do just that in this episode with Hannah Hardin, Type 4 today, as she discusses what it's like as a Gen Z tackling the issue of AI in classrooms, on social media, finding identity off social media, and so much more in this short but essential episode. Join us for tips and connection...
2025-09-2420 minEnneagram and MarriageThe Stories We Tell About Each Other: Shaping Healthy Narratives in MarriageTransform your marriage by understanding how the stories you tell about your partner's Enneagram type literally create your relationship reality. Marriage coach Christa dives deep into the psychology of narrative and reveals how negative internal stories become self-fulfilling prophecies that either invite growth or trigger defensiveness in your spouse. Discover the neuroscience behind why focusing on your partner's growth edges blinds you to their gifts, and learn the "both/and" approach that separates challenging behaviors from core identity. Explore how every type's greatest strength and biggest struggle are intrinsically connected, why defensive responses actually prove negative narratives "right," and...
2025-09-1015 minEnneagram and MarriageBreaking the Cycle: How to Stop Protest Behaviors from Destroying Your MarriageLearn how to break destructive protest behavior cycles before they destroy your marriage! In Part 2 of the protest behaviors series, marriage therapy expert Christa Hardin explores why these patterns escalate from mild criticism or withdrawal to explosive fights and emotional shutdown. Discover childhood origins of each Enneagram type's specific protest strategies, from Type 8s who learned vulnerability was dangerous to Type 5s who learned people drain them. Learn general and type-specific ways to create emotional safety that prevents protesting, how to respond during protest episodes to de-escalate rather than inflame, and repair strategies that actually heal after damage occurs...
2025-09-0129 minEnneagram and MarriageAI in Your Marriage: For Better or for WorseIs artificial intelligence becoming the third party in your marriage? In this timely episode, we explore the growing trend of couples turning to AI for relationship advice, planning, and emotional processing. Based on survey data from real couples, Christa unpacks three major benefits AI brings to marriage—from vacation planning to communication tools—and three significant concerns about emotional bypassing, digital intimacy, and false authority. Drawing from relationship research and real-world examples, including insights from Simon Sinek about the importance of authentic conflict, this episode offers practical guidelines for using AI to enhance rather than replace genuine marital connection. Whet...
2025-05-2828 minEnneagram and MarriageEmbracing Adventure & Partnership in Marriage w/Hillary McCaskey (8-9 Pairing)Influencer and Coach (Enneagram & Coaching) Hillary McCaskey, 9w8 joins Christa to explore how her Enneagram type shapes her marriage to an 8. Together they discuss how Hillary's 972 Tritype influences her ability to support her Type 8 husband's dreams while finding her own voice—culminating in both a healthier and more attuned marriage as well as their bold decision to embrace a comfortable life on the road as the traveling duo @VanKaskeys on YouTube. Hillary also shares her powerful journey through grief and strength rising after losing her mother, a pivotal experience that awakened her strong 8 wing and transformed her approach to li...
2025-05-1954 minEnneagram and MarriageEnneagram Wing Influence: Understanding Subtle DifferencesChrista takes you on a journey through the subtle influences of Enneagram wings in marriage relationships. In this illuminating episode, she explores how our wing tendencies can sometimes take over our interactions with our spouse without us even realizing it. From the silent withdrawal of a 1w9 to the stubborn resistance of a 9w8, Christa breaks down real examples of how each type's wings manifest in marriage - both helping and hindering connection. Discover practical strategies for finding balance and appreciating your partner's full Enneagram makeup while learning to temper your own wing influences when they become domineering.
2025-05-1425 minEnneagram and MarriageHealing Childhood Wounds Together: Supporting Your Partner's Growth PathJoin Christa as we explore the delicate dance of healing childhood wounds within marriage. Discover how to create safe spaces for growth, understand your partner's healing journey, and navigate triggers with grace. Whether you're supporting a partner through their past pain or seeking understanding of your own patterns, this episode offers practical wisdom and hopeful strategies for growing together. Let's transform old wounds into deeper connection! 🌟💫 Watch on YouTube
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2025-01-2928 minEnneagram and MarriageThe Social Heart Learns Self-Care: A Conversation with Wes HardinOn today's soul-stirring episode, Christa welcomes a special guest – her husband Wes. As a social dominant, Wes has spent years mastering the delicate art of balancing his natural pull toward community and connection with the equally vital needs of self-preservation and one-on-one intimacy. Join us for an intimate conversation that weaves through the landscape of instinctual drives, exploring how we can honor our core nature while growing into our blind spots. Whether you're social-first like Wes or simply curious about the dance between giving to others and nurturing yourself, this episode offers wisdom, vulnerability, and practical insights for anyone se...
2024-12-2336 minEnneagram and MarriageBonus Holiday Episode: A Parks and Rec Typing Special w/Melody Hardin, 9 and Christa Hardin, 7The people in the fictional town of Pawnee, Indiana try their best to make sure the world is run according to the best of their ideals on one of the world's favorite shows to binge, Parks and Rec. The show, a political satire, is ultimately a tribute to loving your neighbor even when your neighbor is frustrating for you and has different ideals. Today, Christa and Melody are taking a fun time-out during the holiday rush to collaborate on typing the show's biggest personalities. We hope you’ll enjoy typing them with us in this just-for-fun E + M episode! Mu...
2024-12-1540 minEnneagram and MarriageFive Joyful Habits to Set For Your Holiday: An E + M Mini-EpisodeWith the holidays around the corner, it’s time to get refreshed and to get into better habit-building for you and your marriage and family. Today Christa takes you through five areas for better habit-building that you can work on individually or together with us! Take a moment to set some Atomic Habits around fitness, food, communication, marriage, and tech this season. Watch on YouTube here! https://youtu.be/xCGF7tIgppoWho can you share these tips with? Spread the word about the podcast here by leaving your review so others can find it, to...
2024-11-1311 minEnneagram and MarriageThe Enneagram for Teens w/Author Ainsley Britain, Type 2 (and Hannah Hardin, Type 4)Modern-day kids have so much to contend with between technology, AI, and also just learning who they’re becoming as they rapidly change. As a parent, you want to give them great tools to learn about who they are and who they’re becoming and the Enneagram offers such a big help with this! Join us in a pivotal conversation about the Enneagram and kids right here! Whether you're trekking through this stage now or just want to have fun with us as you look out at what's on the horizon, your kids and you deserve the very best toge...
2024-11-1151 minEnneagram and MarriageDealing with the Mental Load in Your Relationship: An E + M Mini- EpisodeThe term mental load is a hot-button issue right now in relationships, and for good reason. Many individuals, often women, but sometimes men too, find themselves in a never-ending but invisible stage-manager-like role for the family. They are behind-the-scenes, organizing everything and everyone and burnout hits hard. Tune in to this E + M mini episode today to find out more about how you can reduce mental load and find more joy in your life together again. Watch on YouTube here! https://youtu.be/B6UkJCr2wAIWant to share your mystery story ending to our C...
2024-10-3022 minEnneagram and MarriageHealing from the Inside w/Marriage Therapist Blake Roberts, MMFT, Type 9Many times we want to work everything out relationally with our partner, but often the work must start within by finding your beliefs, emotions, and story. Today we have the rich expertise of husband, father, photographer, and marriage and family therapist Blake Roberts, MMFT, Enneagram 9 to help us through to trauma to regulation. Join us for an important talk with action steps for you regarding how you can find your stride, and learn more about Blake and his 9-2 story as well right here, too!Watch on YouTube here! https://youtu.be/eTheRuiHC4cFind...
2024-10-2854 minEnneagram and MarriageHealing Misalignment As a Couple: An E + M Mini-EpisodeWhen you're feeling misaligned as a couple, relationship desire is lower and you feel so misunderstood. Today not only do you get to walk through the various ways couples can become misaligned, but most importantly Christa guides you back to alignment together right here! You'll find out ways every type comes to find themselves misaligned as well as get step-by-step processes for finding the ways you join best once again or for the very first time. Listen to this E + M Mini episode here!Watch on YouTube here! https://youtu.be/7JxglOMRbQAWant to be...
2024-10-2320 minEnneagram and MarriageWhy Healthy Authenticity is Everything in a Marriage (And How to Bring It!)Authenticity is deeply important for a thriving marriage, yet authenticity without intentional growth can bring out the very worst of humanity. Listen to this foundational E + M episode to learn several ways to thrive in authenticity and as a result, bring your marriage to new levels of acceptance, love, and grace, even if you've had an avoidant or anxious attachment in the past, and been afraid to be real. We cover stories, tangible ways to grow in authenticity, and most of all, how you can grow closer.Watch on YouTube here! https://youtu.be/i9J5SMl6...
2024-10-2132 minEnneagram and MarriageBonus Episode: How to Recover Lost Desire in MarriageIn our series, we’ve been connecting on how desire is built, but in this deeper dive episode, we talk about what prevents desire and how it is lost and recovered. We talk about the shadows we carry that carry us farther apart from another and how to return home to desire for one another as well.Visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for more tools and freebies! Visit Apple Podcast to subscribe to all the podcasts in the "Building Desire" series!Want to share the light? Spread the word about the podcast here by leaving your re...
2024-10-1632 minEnneagram and MarriageFinding Harmony Together in Conflict w/Kristi Rowles, Type 6 of Enneagram UniversityAlthough it's true that often the partners in a relationship have differing desires, it's also true that we must find ways back to harmony after conflict. Today we get to talk to Enneagram expert Kristi Rowles (Enneagram University), cp6, about how to work through conflict with scaling, balancing of instincts, and so much more. We also learn more about the counterphobic 6 space and Kristi's open cart anf sale for Enneagram University!Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Hv3IVHVVxAMThe Enneagram University: https://www.theenneagramuniversity.com/?ref=6c4c6f Find Kristi on I...
2024-10-1648 minEnneagram and MarriageHeal your Faith, Sexuality, and Relationships from Toxic Beliefs w/Dr. Camden Morgante, Type 6Growing up in spaces of faith, many if not most of us have inadvertently picked up on several toxic fallacies as we consider both how to espouse a mature Christian faith and yet also strive for a thriving sex life together in marriage. Many of those beliefs have even been taught from the pulpit, even the ones stirring us to become sexual objects. Yet both biblical truth and research portray for us that guilting or shaming one another in the bedroom instead draws a wider gap of true intimacy. Dr. Camden Morgante, Pys.D., is here to help you...
2024-10-1238 minEnneagram and MarriagePreparing for the Storms of Life Together: An E + M Mini-EpisodeWe don't always know what to do when storms hit us, whether bad weather hits us internally or externally (such as the current hurricane season), but here on today's mini pod, Christa gives everyone the much-needed reminder of doing what we can do (and even should do) when choices are otherwise limited. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/ix3o_O_CAcc.
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2024-10-0913 minEnneagram and MarriageHealing What's Within When You're Wounded, Weary, and Wandering w/Dr. Chuck DeGroat, Type 4Even if you're lined up with meaningful work you enjoy, if you're burning the wick at both ends in any way, your central nervous system doesn't know how to respond, and your body may be experiencing trauma. If you're feeling weary on the journey of life or faith at all, make sure you take a deep breath with us and shift back into health as we invite the esteemed author and professor Dr. Chuck DeGroat on the podcast today to address helping you to find safety with yourself and with God as we share healthy rhythms for you and...
2024-10-0746 minEnneagram and MarriageFinding Your Purpose Together in Marriage: An E + M Mini-EpisodeIn your marriages, sometimes you may feel like the only purpose you have is just to get by. Today’s episode offers tips for each and every type to not just survive, but to thrive with self-care, connection, but also specific purpose so they can live out their beautiful God-given dreams together and individually as well. Tune in here for just the mini-dose of inspiration you need this E + M mid-week!! Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/bociq4n1tSY
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2024-10-0228 minEnneagram and MarriageCreating a Culture of Healthy Authenticity in Marriage w/Leadership Coach Lantz Howard, Type 9Often, you can’t quite put your finger on what’s wrong in your marriage, but you know you’re floating in opposite directions, drifting apart, and headed into a danger zone. This episode with marriage and leadership coach Lance Howard, Enneagram 9 (9-6 pairing), is full of great insights and tips so you can find more about your God-given gifts and goals individually and together. This is an episode for anyone who is struggling to find their values, live them out, or speak them out.
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2024-09-3042 minEnneagram and MarriageWhy Your Furnishings Matters Deeply in Your Marriage: An E + M Mini-EpisodeConversations around furniture are frequent in couples' sessions. Where couples sleep, how they sit, and where they eat - all of this carries meaning to every couple. In other words, the setting for the stories we tell matters. How does the way you set up your home matter to your marriage? There are many intimacies lost and found in the way we organize our furnishings in the home, as well as how we vie for power, distance, struggle, and lament can result. Listen to this essential E + M mini to get tips for crafting a home that is intimate...
2024-09-2520 minEnneagram and MarriageReclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality w/Marriage Therapist and Writer Sam Jolman, Type 4Today's must-listen podcast episode is a vital piece of the sex talk you never got - a conversation about sexual issues as they show up in almost every marriage as a result of shame and contempt born of most men's first encounters with sex because of the earliest introductions to sex via pornography and other counterfeit distortions with marriage therapist and author, Sam Jolman, Type 4 (4-4 pairing). Here we bring a respectful conversation geared toward the reminders of the God-given gift of wonder, awe, and innocence that you can truly bring into your marriage for a renewed sense of...
2024-09-2351 minEnneagram and MarriageHealing Disconnection in Your Marriage: An E + M Mini-EpisodeIn our quest to ensure our needs are met, it’s very common to start the work by getting self-care and then getting irritated with our spouse when they don’t know exactly how to meet our needs. Today’s mini-podcast helps you to get unstuck when you’re in process and trying to move through conflict in healthy ways and then find a disconnection ensues. Whatever you do, don’t withdraw away from the most important conflicts you need to have, instead listen to this mini episode for encouraging tips on how to get back to peace together right here...
2024-09-1816 minEnneagram and MarriageUnearthing Beauty in Your Story & Relationships w/Mara Eller, Type 4Trauma is so psychologically destructive largely because our brain is not able to create a coherent and empowering narrative out of what happened without support. Today on the podcast, writing teacher and coach Mara Eller, MA, Type 4 (4-7 pairing), gives us that support as she shows us how at the right time and with the right support, we can relive some of those stories in a supportive context where we are safe, and as well as move past these hurts with wisdom and integration. Mara also shares beautiful strategies for narrative writing from her class called, Unearthing Beauty that...
2024-09-1659 minEnneagram and MarriageAn E + M Special: Breaking the Cycle of Sexual Exploitation w/Exodus Cry Founder Benji Nolot, Type 4Today, in this E + M special, we take the justice-fighting lens together as a community to bring awareness to the issue of sex trafficking and sexual exploitation in relationships and around the world. We have a leading world expert with us to talk about it today, Exodus Cry founder, filmmaker, and artist, Benjamin Nolot (Enneagram 4), who shares the mission and issues involved on all sides of sex trafficking and exploitation, from pornography to sex trafficking. Make sure you tune in as we break down understanding of cycles of disempowerment, why people get caught up in these cycles, and most...
2024-09-1143 minEnneagram and MarriageFinding and Releasing the Emotions Holding You Back w/Adam Young, Enneagram 8Culturally, it's very hard for busy, overwhelmed individuals to take time to sit with and process emotions. Yet today's podcast guest, renowned trauma and StoryWork therapist Adam Young, (The Place We Find Ourselves podcast) Enneagram 8 (8-9 pairing), encourages us to do exactly that - sit in the hard and allow yourself time and attention to what's holding you back from thriving so you can heal together with support. This is a must-listen episode as we examine his journey on this, why many people ignore their own issues in favor of helping others with theirs, and what we must do...
2024-09-0935 minEnneagram and MarriageFinding Our Way Back Together in Conflict & for Each TypeEvery couple desperately needs to know how to repair, yet few know the steps for doing so. Finding one another after a conflict is hard, since couples typically either self-protect by imploding while still hurt or by lashing out. Today Christa educates you on one-to-one tactics you can use to bring life back into the relationship. In today's E + M episode, individuals get the chance to get those tangible steps, both in general and type by type. Tune in to this must-listen episode and save it again for a time of conflict, too!
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2024-09-0418 minEnneagram and MarriageShifting Into Healthy Vulnerable in Relationships w/Raleigh Sadler, Type 6It's one thing to be vulnerable by choice and quite another to find yourself unwittingly so. Today, we discuss the healthiest ways to share our human vulnerabilities with expert Raleigh Sadler, Enneagram Type 6 (The MercyCast ) in a rich conversation on what vulnerability is and how hard it is to be vulnerable in relationships, especially when we've been burned or haven't known how to navigate sensitive terrain. Here you'll find tips for when to lean in, when to set some distance, and when rest is needed after a vulnerable event. We also specifically give tips for men seeking a culture...
2024-09-0254 minEnneagram and MarriageAn E + M Mini: Finding and Aligning Your Values in MarriageWhen spouses don't align on their deepest core values, it's hard to get along and yet many spouses find it hard to articulate what those core values even are for them. Today Christa walked you through a few simple exercises to get in touch with the values inside of you so you can live most authentically as yourself, and also learn to appreciate those values your spouse brings to the table, disparate though they may be. Listen right here on this brand new mini-episode just for you as you align with yourself and one another again or for the...
2024-08-2820 minEnneagram and MarriageBringing Your Laments Into the Light w/Tanner Olson of Written to Speak, Type 3When heartbreak happens, you're not alone. Yet often our first human instincts involve shutting down fast and then isolating ourselves, spilling grief into unhealthy corners such as overworking, overly seeking commendation, or just disconnecting from God and others in our lament. Today we talk with author and poet Tanner Olson, Type 3 (3-5 pairing), @Written to Speak, about instead bringing these laments into the light. Tanner takes us on a deep dive into his experience of finding the light of Christ even in the darkness of life's unexpected twists and turns, including unexplained infertility. Whatever your experience of uncertainty in...
2024-08-2642 minEnneagram and MarriageEmotionally Attuning w/Yourself This Season: An E + M MiniEach of us has emotional parts of ourselves that are difficult to access - we are busy and survival does not allow for constant and deep self-attunement. Today, in this powerful E + M mini-episode, Christa welcomes you to find your healthiest rhythms with yourself as we walk through several simple self-attunement exercises as you welcome a new season. Here we invite you to deeper emotional practices and margin to bring you more in touch with yourself and the ways you’ll need to balance and truly thrive this season. Here's the Refresh Prayer Cycle from the episode also: https://do...
2024-08-2116 minEnneagram and MarriageWriting the Book Inside of YOU w/Best Selling Authors Ariel Curry, 9, and Liz Morrow 5Eighty percent of adults say they want to write a book, but getting started can be intimidating. How does one even go about starting? How do you get an agent, and what are the first steps? Can you get help in the process? Today in this fascinating episode of the E + M pod, we're answering all these questions and so many more about the steps to making your writing dreams come true right here on today's show. And to help you truly thrive in the process, we're joined by none other than best-selling authors Ariel Curry, Type 9 and Liz...
2024-08-1953 minEnneagram and MarriageChasing Your Calling with Courage w/Dr. Sandra Richter, PhDIt’s hard to be brave enough to step into our calling sometimes, especially if there's fear that God won’t show up for us. When we have heroes in real life or from our ancient narratives alike, we can be assured that we have a heritage of faith, tenacity, and even wins of epic proportions. Today, we are joined by exemplary scholar, Dr. Sandra Richter, PhD, Harvard-trained biblical scholar and The Robert H. Gundry Chair of Biblical Studies at Westmont College, to walk us through the captivating story of Deborah of the Old Testament in her new Bible stud...
2024-08-1457 minEnneagram and MarriageFighting for One Another's Dreams & Values in Relationship w/Lauren Handel Zander, Creator of the Handel MethodAfter the honeymoon years, it's easy to miss one another and see one another as enemies in relationship versus fighting for one another's dreams and aligning together. Lauren Handel Zander, Enneagram 8w7, helps you see things differently and then to find the life you're intentionally seeking together. Lauren, the developer of the highly esteemed Handel Method is an author and an international corporate consulting and private coach, empowering many public and private clients (Dr. Mark Hyman, Hugh Jackman, Destiny's Child Michelle Williams), professors, politicians, award-winning artists, and Fortune 500 CEOs. Her method has been taught at MIT, Stanford University, NYU...
2024-08-1247 minEnneagram and MarriageHow Incorporating Internal Family Systems Can Heal Your RelationshipCouples work involves not just the external families each partner comes from, but also the internal systems each brings to the relationship. IFS (Internal Family Systems) research reminds us that couples can grow these internal systems with self-awareness and compassion individually and together. Today Christa offers the E + M audience a few basic strategies for doing this work together today. Join us for the deeper dive ISF couples episode today for the next level of care on Apple Podcast by subscribing (or if you're in the membership group, it's included through the website login here!)
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2024-08-0717 minEnneagram and MarriageThree Steps for Bringing Your Joyful & Value-Driven Life to LightIt’s important that as we live out our day-to-day life that we also make sure these daily rituals we are taking part in are also truly bringing our deepest core gifts and values to light. When we are deeply intentional with rooting ourselves in our core values and then shaping our marriage relationship and social giving around that, we find the deepest joy and personal refreshment. Today, Christa walks you through a life coaching session of sorts as you bring this joy and purpose forward through the lens of the Enneagram instincts, as you journey toward your next se...
2024-08-0547 minEnneagram and MarriageExploring the Scientific & Historical Validity of the Enneagram w/Tyler ZachMany would argue that the Enneagram is an extremely helpful tool to help us organize and sort out our struggles in nuanced ways so we may more accurately heal and connect with mental health treatments that work. Yet is it a scientifically validated tool? Is it historically sound against naysayers? Perhaps most importantly, do the insights help people to live better lives? Join us to learn about the practical, scientific, and historical usage of the Enneagram and to learn more about the amazing event put on by our guest today, author Tyler Zach (@gospelforenneagram, @enneasummit) who is interviewing twenty-eight...
2024-07-3143 minEnneagram and MarriageGoing for the Gold for Every Type in RelationshipAs the Paris Olympics gets off the ground this summer, we've got a few fun recommendations for you as well as some personal growth tips for finding the shining virtues for you and your relationships as well. Join Christa (and early guest Melody Hardin) for a discussion on what to be on the lookout for this Olympic season as well as what YOU can do to get back to your healthiest expressions and virtues. We've got tips both by personality type as well as by instinctual variant for you right here so make sure to tune in here for...
2024-07-2931 minEnneagram and MarriageExploring the Hidden Chapter in The Enneagram in Marriage: Finding Your Bedroom GlowMarriage issues in the bedroom can be downright confusing and complex across varying couple dynamics and seasons of marriage, especially when an unhealthy message is unintentionally filtered in from trauma in any capacity. In this short, sweet, and yet deep-diving episode, Christa walks you through the highlights of The Hidden Chapter of The Enneagram in Marriage so you can find your intimacy stride again or for the very first time. Join us as we talk about purity culture issues, common dysfunctions, hormones, type-by-type issues, and instincts in the bedroom right here today as we highlight the hidden chapter. Join...
2024-07-2431 minEnneagram and MarriageRecharging with Joy w/Carla H. Hayden, Type 8Do you feel a lack of direction or margin in your life or relationship? That once you do get a few minutes to yourself, you’re overwhelmed and bogged down versus experiencing the refreshment, joy, and abundant life you know you're wired for?
Today on the E + M podcast, you'll find the margin and clarity you need to thrive as we're joined by marketplace leader Carla H. Hayden, Enneagram 8, as we learn her recommendations for how a busy individual can partake in refreshing rituals for replenishment and direction. Tune in right here!
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2024-07-2239 minEnneagram and MarriageAll About Type Ones + Ones With Each Type in RelationshipIt feels so good to be known and seen for who we are, as well as to have clarified spaces from which to grow. To this end, today’s special shorter episode is a walk-through of the Enneagram type Ones and who they are, as well as who they can become as they walk toward health. If you're a One, learn how to become the healthiest version of yourself in relationship and take a special mini-peek at how Ones relate with each and every type in marriage or relationship of any kind. Enjoy this episode as you learn more ab...
2024-07-1724 minEnneagram and MarriageAll About Type Twos + Twos With Each Type in RelationshipIt feels so good to be known and seen for who we are, as well as to have clarified spaces from which to grow. To this end, today’s special shorter episode is a walk-through of the Enneagram type Twos and who they are, as well as who they can become as they walk toward health. If you're a Two, learn how to become the healthiest version of yourself in relationship and take a special mini-peek at how Twos relate with each and every type in marriage or relationship of any kind. Enjoy this episode as you learn more ab...
2024-07-1029 minEnneagram and MarriageThe Enneagram for Moms w/Beth McCord, Type 9Healthy parenting involves not only the journey of helping to love our kids but also understanding ourselves and the ways we handle stress. This often involves doing some healing around our own developmental stories. When we learn to self-regulate well, we bring a non-anxious connected presence of attunement with our kids so they thrive and we thrive, too. Today the Enneagram & Marriage audience is learning from master Enneagram coach, Beth McCord, Type 9 (Your Enneagram Coach which has over 3 million Enneagram test takers!) who teaches you steps to grow in your parenting and on your journey as well as she...
2024-07-0841 minEnneagram and MarriageAll About Type Threes + Threes w/Each Type in RelationshipIt feels so good to be known and seen for who we are, as well as to have clarified spaces from which to grow. To this end, today’s special, shorter episode is a walk-through of the Enneagram type Threes and who they are, as well as who they can become as they walk toward health. If you're a Three, learn how to become the healthiest version of yourself in a relationship and take a special mini-peek at how Threes relate with every type in marriage or relationship of any kind. Enjoy this episode as you learn more about yo...
2024-07-0328 minEnneagram and MarriageHow to Negotiate Well in Your Marriage w/Dr. Wyatt FisherMaking negotiations in marriage is essential yet how we come to these is quite the task to undertake without good tools and training. Today we learn from an expert at negotiating in marriage, Dr. Wyatt Fisher (type 3/5) who has so many great tips for us today! Join in as we walk through them together strategically right here and use the tips today in your marriage for your toughest issues. Watch on YouTube here!
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2024-07-0131 minEnneagram and MarriageAll About Type Fours + Fours With Each Type in RelationshipIt feels so good to be known and seen for who we are, as well as to have clarified spaces from which to grow. To this end, today’s special shorter episode is a walk-through of the Enneagram type Fours and who they are, as well as who they can become as they walk toward health. If you're a Four, learn how to become the healthiest version of yourself in relationship and take a special mini-peek at how Fours relate with each and every type in marriage or relationship of any kind. Enjoy this episode as you learn more ab...
2024-06-2624 minEnneagram and MarriageAll About Type Fives + Fives With Each Type in RelationshipIt feels so good to be known and seen for who we are, as well as to have clarified spaces from which to grow. To this end, today’s special shorter episode is a walk-through of the Enneagram type Fives and who they are, as well as who they can become as they walk toward health. If you're a Five, learn how to become the healthiest version of yourself in relationship and take a special mini-peek at how Fives relate with each and every type in marriage or relationship of any kind. Enjoy this episode as you learn more ab...
2024-06-1923 minEnneagram and MarriageRedeeming Your Time & Relationships with Best-Selling Author Jordan Raynor, Type 3Do you feel like you have a lot of work goals but can't seem to accomplish anything in the allotted time your day actually gives you? Do you feel frenetic because you're trying to do a good job at work but then your family life, not to mention your marriage or life with God, is majorly lacking? There are so many shifts we can make as humans, and each of us will have to move a bit differently to accomplish the goal of margin and redeeming our time so we can each make every day count. Yet there are...
2024-06-1738 minEnneagram and MarriageAll About Sixes + Sixes With Each Type in RelationshipIt feels so good to be known and seen for who we are, as well as to have clarified spaces from which to grow. To this end, today’s special shorter episode is a walk-through of the Enneagram type Sixes and who they are, as well as who they can become as they walk toward health. If you're a Six, learn how to become the healthiest version of yourself in relationship and take a special mini-peek at how Sixes relate with each and every type in marriage or relationship of any kind. Enjoy this episode as you learn more ab...
2024-06-1221 minEnneagram and MarriageTips for Traveling for Every Type in Relationship, w/Geographer + Travel Expert, Angela Gilmeister, Type 1As Tolkien once said, "Not all who wander are lost," and you will be even less relationally lost as you wander into learning with E + M about the ins and outs of traveling with your spouse and/or family and friends! Take some time today to invest in the tips in this episode from travel expert and geographer Angela Gilmeister, Type 1 (Wild Hair Travels, Happy Women Travel Podcast) in this extra special E + M episode! Details include an excursion about traveling alone as a couple, a couple with kids, along with friends, and other combos too, as walk you...
2024-06-1053 minEnneagram and MarriageAll About Type Sevens + Sevens With Each Type in RelationshipIt feels so good to be known and seen for who we are, as well as to have clarified spaces from which to grow. To this end, today’s special shorter episode is a walk-through of the Enneagram type Seven and who they are, as well as who they can become as they walk toward health. If you're a Seven, learn how to become the healthiest version of yourself in relationship and take a special mini-peek at how Sevens relate with each and every type in marriage or relationship of any kind. Enjoy this episode as you learn more ab...
2024-06-0536 minEnneagram and MarriageHow to Stay Married: The Most Insane Love Story Ever Told with Dr. Harrison Scott Key, Ph.D.When infidelity wounds a couple, in the wise words of our guest today, Dr. Harrison Scott Key, Ph.D, best-selling author and the winner of the Thurber Prize for American Humor, there's a marriage murder mystery to be solved: Who killed this marriage, is it really dead, and can it come back to life?
Join us for a riveting and deep-diving episode with Key, surrounding the events of his unexpectedly vulnerable marriage epic about when his wife confessed to infidelity that comes out this week in paperback“How to Stay Married: The Most Insane Love Story Ever To...
2024-06-0359 minEnneagram and MarriageAll About Type Eights + Eights w/Each Type in RelationshipIt feels so good to be known and seen for who we are, as well as to have clarified spaces from which to grow. To this end, today’s special shorter episode is a walk-through of the Enneagram type Eight and who they are, as well as who they can become as they walk toward health. If you're an Eight, learn how to become the healthiest version of yourself in relationship and take a special mini-peek at how Eights relate with each and every type in marriage or relationship of any kind. Enjoy this episode as you learn more ab...
2024-05-2930 minEnneagram and MarriageSomatic Tips for Every Type in Marriage w/Author and Coach Melissa Kircher, Type 5What a necessity it is to have great tools to process our conflict and trauma together in marriage, parenting, and relationships, and yet often in the moments of great felt threat or pain, our very bodies rise in protective styles, even possibly blocking us from doing this work. Today we get to talk about bodywork or somatics and to learn some helpful trauma tools, both in general and type by type, with coach Melissa Kircher, Enneagram 5. Melissa is not only an author and artist, but she also shares from a very personal space about her 5-3 marriage, her journey...
2024-05-2751 minEnneagram and MarriageAll About Type Nines + Nines With Each Type in RelationshipIt feels so good to be known and seen for who we are, as well as to have clarified spaces from which to grow. To this end, today’s special shorter episode is a walk-through of the Enneagram type Nine and who they are, as well as who they can become as they walk toward health. If you're a Nine, learn how to become the healthiest version of yourself in relationship and take a special mini-peek at how Nines relate with each and every type in marriage or relationship of any kind. Enjoy this episode as you learn more ab...
2024-05-2224 minEnneagram and MarriageMental Health & Relationships Across Personality Types w/Danielle Fuller, MS, Type 9May is mental health month, a time dedicated to bringing awareness to those struggling or wondering what may be going on with them on days when you feel less healthy. On today’s podcast, we are statistically shedding some light on which mental health struggles each type has significantly reported, including depression, anxiety, ADD, neurodivergence, and more. We’re also helping couples to understand more about how they can support one another with these mental health concerns if they’re relatable in any way as well as some prevention tips. Don’t miss this important episode with the fabulous Scientif...
2024-05-2048 minEnneagram and MarriageSpecial Episode: This is Us Typing Episode w/Dana Lawson, Type 9So many times, we relate to characters in a song or media outlet, and we don’t get to process them further. Today, you have a chance to do this with Christa and guest Dana Lawson, Enneagram 9 (9-4 pairing), as they walk through This is Us with you! Join Christa and Dana with a cup of coffee or tea for a meaningful chat as we discuss the Pearson family, including but not limited to the Big Three! Listen right here and cast your vote on which types of characters are by writing to us on Instagram in the DMs!...
2024-05-1545 minEnneagram and MarriageHow to Stop Striving and Live Purposefully and Abundantly w/Author Becky Kiser, 3w2It can be so hard deciphering what your God-given dream is and then trying to get the steps just right, especially when you’re in the throes of motherhood or another busy season of life. Today we are joined by author and Enneagram 3w2 (3-6 pairing), Becky Kiser to talk about how she has learned to stop striving to slow down and listen with discernment about which steps to take in her busy life. Becky shares not only biblical wisdom but examples of how she has come to a place of both rest and production by listening and pausing to...
2024-05-1335 minEnneagram and MarriageWhat Every Partner of a 4, 6, or 8 Need to Know About Processing ConflictWe often find ourselves struggling when we have a spouse with a different way of solving conflict than we have. Today we talk about having conflict with our passionate 4s (artists) 6s (loyalists) and 8s (protectors) and what we can each to do find not only common ground but also passionate, enduring love!Don't forget! Mother's Day is coming! Get your beautiful free Mother's Day card download from Alisa here! https://alisataylordesign.etsy.com?coupon=FREEDOWNLOADFind Alisa's beautiful art here otherwise: https://www.etsy.com/shop/AlisaTaylorDesign
2024-05-0822 minEnneagram and MarriageMother's Day Special: Around the Table with Each Enneagram Type Mom w/Alisa Taylor, Type 9Happy Mother's Day to you and yours! In this Mother's Day week coffee chat with Christa and her dear friend of over twenty years, artist Alisa Taylor type 9, we both celebrate the gift of mom friends as well as discuss ways we can serve our children the very best nourishment across all levels of their emotional, spiritual, mental, and physical palates. Today we talk about what moms of each personality type have on their metaphorical table or plate and what they can share with joy as well as what they can keep working on to make sure we don't...
2024-05-081h 04Enneagram and MarriageFinding Hope in Hard Times w/Author and Pastor Matthew Stephen Brown, Type 3Across the personality spectrum, we each offer different giftings, and Type Threes offer us the reminder of holy Hope - the reminder that the race is not over even when it's hard or even if it feels like a marathon. Today we are given hope today afresh as we are joined by author, pastor, and founder of Sandals Church, Matthew Stephen Brown, Enneagram 3 with the refreshing reminders of faith in the midst of constantly scanning for negativity, especially in hard times. If you could use some encouragement and a reminder to stay strong to hold onto your marriage and...
2024-05-0636 minEnneagram and MarriageWhat Every Spouse of a 2, 7, or 9 Partner Needs to Know About Processing ConflictMany couples are frustrated by differing conflict styles and miss getting to resolution because of it. In this mini-episode, Christa assesses how to deal with conflict with someone who is positively-wired in the 2 (the Giver), 7 (the Enthusiast), or 9 (the Peacemaker) personality spaces. In this mini-episode Christa gives both general and type-specific tips for you to relate better with these types in your life and relationship! Come check it out!Spread the Enneagram & Marriage love! 🥳💕 Leave your review of "The Enneagram in Marriage" book right here: https://www.amazon.com/Enneagram-Marriage-Thriving-Together-Pairing/dp/1540903370Spread the word about the po...
2024-05-0123 minEnneagram and MarriageWorking on Toxic Patterns in Your Relationship w/Psychotherapist Charisse Cooke, Type 2How much emotional pain do couples have to endure before making the healthy changes that often feel so scary to initiate? This is a question many need to ask themselves since it's so vulnerable to break deep patterns of trauma together. Today Christa helps you to work through toxic relationship patterns with London-based psychotherapist and influencer Charisse Cooke as we talk about healing toxic bonding and trauma bonding. You CAN learn to find health and healing again or for the very first time and you're going to learn how right here!Find Charisse:Find Charisse's...
2024-04-2941 minEnneagram and MarriagePost-Traumatic Growth Lyrical Lessons from TTPD, Taylor Swift's The Tortured Poet's Department Dark Night of the Soul AlbumOn this special surprise mini-episode for Swiftie fans and for inquiring minds otherwise, Christa takes you on a journey of finding ways through pain to post-traumatic growth, analyzing through the lens of The Tortured Poet's Department Album (TTPD) from Taylor Swift. Join us for therapeutic lessons, fun, and a few meaningful takeaways for healthy ways to process grief, love, loss, and angst. In this episode we analyze Taylor's vulnerable path forward to healing, adding tips for post-relationship hurt growth healing for you and yours as well! Bring your journal to this pod!SHOW NOTES:Can...
2024-04-2419 minEnneagram and MarriageBringing Minimalism to Your Marriage w/Diane Boden, The Minimalist Mom, Type 7 (7-5 Pairing)How do you go from busy and overloaded to present in marriage and family, especially when we know that "turning towards" behaviors are what make relationships succeed or fail long-term, especially when we differ SO much after a long span of time together in marriage? As we strive to connect in a truly frenetic world when we have so much to do along with all of these differences, today Christa is sharing a meaningful and uplifting conversation with you and top podcast expert on the massively successful The Minimalist Mom Podcast and Instagram influencer, Diane Boden, Enneagram 7 (7-5) pairing...
2024-04-2232 minEnneagram and MarriageBringing Joy & Clarity to Your Work w/Marty Munger, CEO, Work Coach Co, Type 7Whether at home or the office, your work life is an enormous part of the day and deserves rich contemplation and optimization. Today Christa invites you to a conversation to greatly benefit you by bringing joy into your work rhythms by discovering your own Enneagram intelligence, emotional, and instinctual work strengths and areas for growth. With the new assessment that today's guest, Marty Munger, CEO of WorkCoach.co and her team developed just for you, you'll be able to thrive with clarity and direction. Make sure to tune in as we talk with Marty not only about relationships (of...
2024-04-1542 minEnneagram and MarriageAll the Light We Cannot See, w/Wes Hardin, Enneagram 1When you share the gifts you have, the whole world is improved, little by little. In contrast, when couples and individuals get caught up in the dark desire to get ahead for themselves despite what happens to others, those who are weaker, elderly, less affluent, less desirable or otherwise more culturally marginalized get forgotten and discarded. In this episode, Christa walks you through sharing your light, even through discouragement, through the lens of the magnificent WWII novel, "All the Light We Cannot See" along with her husband Wes, who joins in for a conversation walking through the important elements...
2024-02-1951 minEnneagram and MarriageAn E + M Holiday Mini: Analyzing Our Favorite Family Christmas Movies w/Hannah Hardin, Type 4In this fun Christmas movie episode, we take a break with our favorite holiday drink to allow cinematic mastery to woo us into a healthier intimate dance of relationship together in middle marriage. Here, Christa is joined by Hannah Hardin, 4 as we talk about a favorite family and more realistic middle-marriage movie to watch during the holidays (and a modern nod to It's a Wonderful Life), The Family Man with Nicholas Cage, Tea Leoni, Don Cheadle, and Jeremy Piven, as well as another family fave. We not only talk about the personality type growth we see happening on screen...
2023-11-2924 minEnneagram and MarriageSpecial Episode: Marvel Character Typing w/Melody Hardin, Enneagram 9In this episode, join Christa and Melody Hardin, Enneagram Nine as they walk through each Enneagram type through the lens of Marvel characters. Join us as we hack out each type in nuanced detail with some superhero fun typing Iron Man, Black Widow, Loki, Bucky, Roadie, Dr. Strange and more and bring joy but also meaningful insights as we enjoy a lighter moment on this Hallo-week episode! Get Christa's book, "The Enneagram in Marriage: Your Guide to Thriving Together in Your Unique Pairing" here paperback, Audible, or Kindle! Use the Baker code "EMBOOK40" for 40% off and free...
2023-10-3132 minEnneagram and MarriageFinding Your Marriage Mission Together: Part 2 w/Wes Hardin, Enneagram 1To find our truest mission, it's not only important to find our personal gifts, but there's a deeper joy in marriage in finding collective missions, too, not just to be self-serving as a couple. Here in this episode, Christa helps you to find synchronization together with your partner, to encourage growth in one another as well as celebrate one another's gifts and struggles. She brings her husband Wes, Enneagram 1 also on as he helps you to learn to sit with your spouse's gifts and struggles with grace, a lesson we all need in an ongoing way. Tune in here!
2023-10-2525 minEnneagram and MarriageThe Top Three Reasons Couples Divorce (and How to Stay Strong Together)Though each of us is unique, today on this E + M short, we're talking about the three most common reasons why couples cite divorce and ways to prevent your own relationship from becoming a passive casualty. One of the main ways we will keep this episode hope-filled is that we're also sharing tools for the specific timelines where issues tend to crop up and take down 43-44% of married couples. Don't miss this noteworthy, logical, and encouraging episode that will help you sit up, take note, and move into a healthy direction together today! Get the 52 Week...
2023-10-2317 minEnneagram and MarriageSoul Care in Marriage with Executive Editor Stephanie Duncan Smith, Enneagram 4Today we take a peek into the soul of the Enneagram in Marriage book in a heartfelt conversation with Christa and the Baker Books executive editor Christa worked with on the pages of it, Stephanie Duncan Smith (Slant Letter, @stephanieduncansmith on Instagram). Stephanie and Christa discuss not only the heart of the mission of E + M in the pages of the book but also private writing as soul care, and how partners can and must give one another support, liftoff, and a safe place for us to explore our dreams. We hear about Stephanie's 4-8 marriage pairing, her reason...
2023-10-1136 minEnneagram and Marriage"The Enneagram in Marriage" Series: Book Backstory & Rising Above Our Vices in Marriage w/Wes HardinWhen you're in seasons of shadow, it often feels like your spouse is the antihero and you're not only the hero but the author, writing your own story and having to rely on whatever methods you need to survive. In the new "Enneagram in Marriage" book, we remember together that it's not so much about casting judgment on one person wholly as it is about discovering the emotional backstory behind the maladaptive marriage struggles in one or both partners - and more, just what can be done about this so your vices don't inevitably make things worse. I...
2023-10-0928 minEnneagram and MarriageQuestions from An Enneagram Skeptic w/Wes Hardin, MA, Enneagram 1Many of us from faith circles have been asked questions about the Enneagram origins and whether they are compatible with a Christian or even logical scientific worldview. Today we take time to process this question in detail with Christa's husband Wes Hardin, MA, who has a degree in biology and philosophy as well as a Master's in Theology from Wheaton College, along with his medical degree as a PA. Join Christa in the interesting conversation with Wes from a historical, faith-centered, and scientific logical viewpoint so you can learn more for yourself and more about how to discuss the...
2023-09-2537 minEnneagram and MarriageMore Than Just Your Instincts: An E + M Mini w/ChristaWe work very hard to balance our self-preserving, sexual, and social instincts, but who are we outside of that - and more importantly, above these base instincts? Christa walks you through the higher virtues lying outside of the instincts today so that you cannot only keep balance amidst the lower-hanging fruit of the three instincts themselves but also keep a higher plain of goodness in your life. Check out this in quick but important E + M mini right here! Watch on YouTube here! Click here to join our Goodreads Giveaway! Get on the...
2023-08-2313 minEnneagram and MarriageAttachment Needs for Every Enneagram Type in Marriage How does your Enneagram personality type specifically get in the way of your deepest attachments in marriage? Without a safe language, you're probably deeply uncomfortable talking about the vulnerabilities that are preventing you from truly bonding intimately. Today we will talk from an attachments framework about each and every Enneagram type in marriage and the ways you can become closer together in this brand new episode. Christa finally shares the big E + M news also! Listen up, now for special bonuses!! Show links: Pre-order Christa's new book, The Enneagram in Marriage: Your Guide to Thriving...
2023-06-0533 minEnneagram and MarriageAn E + M Mini: BookTok Picks Across the Enneagram Types, Melody Hardin, Enneagram 9 Sometimes you just need to let down and read a really good book, and today Christa is joined by her daughter Melody Hardin, Enneagram Nine, to discuss exactly that - great books for each and every personality type! Join us for this exclusive episode where we wind down after a busy spring, and prepared to launch ourselves into summer with some levity, love, and, fun literature as well! Check out Melody's book club reads on her page on the E + M website here! Wes and Christa's Book Recommendations for Each Type Instagram Reel ...
2023-05-0332 minEnneagram and MarriageLife and Marriage with an Enneagram 1, Wes Hardin In this "Life" series, you're getting to listen in on the relationship stories of each of the Enneagram types. It's a time for you to experience sitting with an authentic person of each personality type in a very authentic fashion as you join us for a meaningful chat as we finish our last dripping of the Enneagram type series of chats, ending with Christa's hubby Wes today, who helps us learn more about the Type 1! Christa and Wes have shared over twenty five years of growth together and so you're in for a treat as you dive deep with...
2023-04-2655 minEnneagram and MarriageLoving Each of the Enneagram Types in Marriage w/Dani Cooper of Deep Waters EnneagramAs we explore the heart of romance together, one of the most important ways we can connect hearts together is by really understanding the deepest needs of our spouse. As we walk through today's episode with Dani Cooper, certified Enneagram teacher, author, and coach for individuals, couples, and teams, (and 1-6 marriage pairing with her hubby Sean), we get clarifying reminders about what each personality type really ultimately delights in receiving in terms of their deepest needs. Don't miss this heartfelt episode and fun episode even as we gently challenge one another to the most bountiful kinds of love!
2023-02-1346 minEnneagram and MarriageGetting Healthy Together in Marriage with Wes Hardin, PA-CAs we lean into our health and fitness focus on the podcast this month, Christa takes an interview-style approach with her husband Wes, a specialist in family medicine, who has helped thousands of families with their healthcare needs across seasons of life and marriage. Make sure you tune in to this important discussion of getting and staying as healthy as possible together for your own happily ever after! Grab our month by month and week-by-week Enneagram & Marriage Relationship Glow Planner so you can join us in the year's plans! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our...
2022-08-0841 minEnneagram and MarriageAdventures in Marriage with Christa and Wes HardinThis special anniversary episode with Christa and Wes as they go over the very best and worst of adventuring together in marriage. You'll get tips for how to plan for as well as to enjoy your marriage and plan for amazing adventures together as we open up the month of June and hear from various couples and individuals about how to plan the adventures of a lifetime together! Join us for this special anniversary episode with us! Join the E + M Membership, the E + M Collective here through June 14. Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our...
2022-06-0640 minEnneagram and MarriageThe Enneagram and Typing Your Kids with Hannah and Melody Hardin, 4 & 9Join this fun episode of Christa interviewing her teens Hannah and Melody about using the Enneagram as they talk casually and candidly about how the Enneagram can help or hurt them in their developing lives, families, and friendships. Figure out the best timing in sharing the Enneagram with your kids as you plan for, begin, or continue the parenting journey, how to grow and glow in type across time, and about how to both find your identity as well as avoid your kids getting boxed in by evolving type work. Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out...
2021-12-2043 minEnneagram and MarriageA Deep Dive Into Enneagram Arrows in Life and MarriageJoin Christa for an episode packed with hands-on tips for re-energizing your Enneagram route to healing by living with intention as you grow in your life and marriage. Today's podcast differentiates wings from arrows and takes every listener on a type-by-type journey of how they can reclaim their arrow lines to offer them more routes and healthy options in their Enneagram growth journey, both personally and in marriage! Listen to Christa's husband Wes talk on the Joy FM about our new couples' mystery dinner game Grab our newest Christmas mystery game right here! Head o...
2021-12-1358 minEnneagram and MarriageA Christmas Movie Enneagram Typing Rom-Com Special with Christa and OliviaJoin Christa and Olivia for the annual E + M Christmas movie typing special in analyzing the rom-com "Serendipity." Set in Christmas in New York City in the early 2000s, Serendipity has so many playful and fun, romantic characters to type. The movie also brings so much encouragement to those seeking the right relationship as well as those seeking to revive their love. Grab some popcorn and a mug of hot cocoa and join us for this fun special and not-so-serious Enneagram and movie review and typing episode! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of ou...
2021-12-101h 09Enneagram and MarriageSpecial Episode: All Things Enneagram & Preparing for the HolidaysHolidays are a time for families to come together but often with the extra time comes the noticing of our disparities in marriage as well. Take time to listen to this week's episode with Christa and her assistant, coach Jenn Johnson (1-3 Glow) for a chat about all things love stories, Enneagram and the holidays. You'll get tips for how to keep your love alive as well as tips to avoid and work through marriage and relationship triggers, plus ideas for the kids also. Episode notes: These are the bingo cards Christa makes for her kid...
2021-11-2243 minEnneagram and MarriageSpecial Episode: Creating Together in Marriage with Moriah SmallboneJoin Christa for a special conversation with Mexican-American recording artist Moriah Smallbone the day she releases "Worth," a song she produced with her Grammy-award winning husband Joel Smallbone on her brand new EP Live at the Quarry. Moriah and Christa discuss the stories behind the songs, Moriah's marriage story, and the ways they continue to inspire one another together creatively in their marriage glow. Amidst Enneagram learning, Moriah also discusses finding herself through history, culture, family, and most especially, faith. To find Moriah's new release and all of her albums, visit: https://www.moriahsmallbone.com...
2021-10-2944 minEnneagram and MarriageA Deeper Dive Into Love Languages and the Enneagram w/Lisa Carter, 7-8 GlowChrista is joined by Enneagram and Marriage Certified Coach Lisa Carter of the 7-8 Love in Motion Glow pairing for a deeper dive into love languages. Christa and Lisa walk through the focus on the five love languages through the unique lens of the Enneagram and marriage, sharing how each type not only gives love but also feels loved. Lisa also introduces us to the ways Enneagram types speak forgiveness languages as well so a couple's gifts can shine all the brighter together in the world. Email Lisa @ couples@stonegatefellowship.com Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.c...
2021-10-251h 03Enneagram and MarriageThe Enneagram and Faith with Beth McCordToday Christa and Beth McCord explore the Enneagram and relationships together as well as the deeper implications of the Enneagram. How does the Enneagram theory work with someone who's a Christian? Is it a healthy tool spiritually? How can we use it to grow closer to God? Finish out Season 2 with a close chat between Christa and Beth and find your way to grace, balance, and as always more great tools, including Beth's book, Becoming Us. For a deeper dive into each type as you grow in your faith, check out the E + M personal link to t...
2021-08-0958 minEnneagram and MarriageSpecial Episode: Guess Our Enneagram Types: A Marriage MysteryHave you ever been told you’re good at guessing the types of others? Do you like hearing stories about couples who have gone the distance together? Today's episode is full of fun, family stories and forgiveness in marriage and is all for you as you get to try to figure out the mystery. What are this couple's types? Join us as Christa talks with Sears and Alisa Taylor on their surprising trek from fast-paced architecture life in the Windy City to farm-to-table life in Yuma AZ, where they homeschool their six kids and work out their version of ha...
2021-05-3151 minEnneagram and MarriageEnneagram Types and Gender DifferencesDid you ever wonder what the differences are between males and females in personality? How about the types that are considered more masculine while others are called feminine types? Join Christa in dissecting not only human and animal studies in terms of gender but a type by type journey of comparing Enneagram traits. Christa shares both your research as a community as well as reflects on couples and families she's worked with over the past two decades. Don't miss out on ways you can grow! https://www.judithsearle.com/sexuality-gender-roles-and-the-enneagram htps://typevolution.com/2017/07/26/f...
2020-12-071h 06Enneagram and MarriageUp Close & Personal With Christa's Husband Wes, Enneagram 1?Join us for this special episode as host Christa Hardin and her guest, her husband Wes, Enneagram 1, get serious as well as laugh as they contemplate their relationship and whether he's actually been a 3 all this time. This is a special peek into a twenty-four year long relationship and especially relevant if you're someone who wonders about your non-Enneagram obsessed spouse or someone who just want an inner look at another couple's Enneagram + Marriage story! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a spec...
2020-03-2326 minEnneagram and MarriageDebunking Marriage Myths Using the EnneagramIn this week's episode, Christa Hardin explores and disproves popular marriage myths. From identifying Enneagram types that work well together, to learning how to manage expectations within marriage based on your type, this episode will answer your burning questions and will show how the Enneagram can help in various life situations. NEW EPISODES EVERY MONDAY Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepodcast reflectionscc.com | enneagramandmarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2020-01-0635 minEnneagram and MarriageWelcome to the Enneagram and Marriage Podcast! In this inaugural episode, Christa Hardin, MA, shares about the purpose of the Enneagram and Marriage Podcast, her background in clinical psychology, how the E and M Instagram came to be, why the Enneagram is so important, and more. Join our membership The E + M Collective now! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific relationship question for the show? Fill out this form to get your podcast questions answered! If you want your question shared on the E + M Podc...
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