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I Think I Like YouHow do we sit with the desire for a relationship while also not knowing when it will happen? | Ep 123This is a question I dance with, and often, with clients. How do we sit with our desire for something, and attempt to work towards it, but not know if or when or how it's going to come to fruition? How do we do so while we watch it happening for other people around us?In this episode I'm addressing both how to sit with the unknown and tangible ways to move us closer to relationship. These are the exact practices I've walked my clients through over the past six years.I'm specifically covering:...2024-09-2048 min

I Think I Like YouHow making a list of all the things you want in a partner is working against you, not for you | Ep 102In today's episode, I'm digging into a recent question from a listener:Hey Clara! What are your thoughts on a long list of requirements for a partner?Oooh this is *such* a good one, and while I'm all for getting clarity on what you desire and need in a partner, I find when we start talking lists (and very specific ones), they're not that helpful.A list can give us a false sense of clarity and control. It can also keep us from the deeper work we're being called to do that will...2024-04-0244 min

I Think I Like YouWhat to do with all the feelings of, "I'm behind in life. I'm never going to meet someone." And so forth. | Ep 92Do you feel behind in life? Do you wrestle with feelings of...if I just had:That jobThat houseThat relationshipThat moneyThen I'd be....golden (insert sunglasses emoji).I wrestle with these feelings consistently, and while they've waned in nature as I've gotten older, I'm still every so often hit with that swirl of anxiety, fear and shame, that my life just won't ever look like how I want it to look. But more so, that it won't take a shape that others deem good and successful. I've touched on this subject before, b...2024-01-3140 min

I Think I Like YouThe holidays are effing hard, a casual chat w/ my husband James | Ep 85A fun episode for your holiday travels or time in the kitchen. xx ClaraWork with me PrivatelyConnect on InstagramWebsitePodcast Production by James Jorge 2023-11-1943 min

I Think I Like YouWhy it's so damn hard to build confidence + self trust in dating, relationships + sex (and how we actually go about doing it) | Ep 81Recently a listener reach out with the following question:"Hey Clara — I'm 35 and have never been in a relationship or had sex. I find most content around self confidence and self trust to be over simplified, somewhat condescending, and bordering on toxic positivity. Do you have a way you work through this with your clients?"The short answer, yes. In this episode I dig into:How I help my clients build more self confidence and self trust in the space of dating, sex, and beyondHow I help my clients understand why they lac...2023-11-0127 min

I Think I Like YouOn stepping into marriage and motherhood in your 40s | Ep 77In today's enlightening episode, join me as I have a deep conversation with Kerri Keaton, a corporate executive turned human design specialist, a devoted mother, a thought leader, and a change maker. Kerri's unique journey is a testament to the possibilities that exist beyond societal norms, as she entered into marriage at 41 and embraced motherhood at 45. Her story is a beacon of hope for the many women in their late 30s and 40s who yearn for the experiences of partnership and parenthood, but rarely see these paths modeled beyond their mid-30s.In this episode, we explore:2023-09-261h 31

I Think I Like YouMost dating advice is doing a bang up job of making us feel like we're not doing enough | Ep 76Have you ever read a bit of dating advice, only to implement what it said and have it either a) not work, or b) make you feel worse about yourself? #raiseshandTo be clear, this episode is not about throwing anyone under the bus, nor saying that MY advice is perfect. Hardly. Rather, it's to illuminate the landscape of dating wisdom, how most of it only scratches the surface of our intimacy and romance obstacles, but delivers big promises. You'll meet you person! All will work out! And then you don't and tell yourself you're doing it...2023-09-0437 min

I Think I Like YouMy husband and I chat about our childhoods, how those experiences show up in our marriage now, and how we navigate the differences | Ep 75I'm delighted to bring my husband, James, back on the podcast today for an open conversation around what I believe to be one of the most crucial areas of understanding within a relationship — your varied background and history. Your childhood, yes, but we pull the lens out a bit father than that. This is one of many conversations I hope to have of this kind. For me, when I was seeking a partner, one of the most crucial elements I desired in another individual was someone who had an introspective relationship with themselves. Could be through therapy, cou...2023-09-041h 04

I Think I Like You*Fall Teaser* Here's what's coming in Sept! 🍁🍁🍁A short preview of what's coming this fall.Work with me PrivatelyConnect on InstagramWebsitePodcast Production by James Jorge 2023-09-0106 min

I Think I Like YouWhen you *know* there's something standing in the way of your growth but you can't put your finger on it | Ep 74When my dear friend Katherine came to me a few months back and said "I did mushrooms and I need to tell you what came up," it wasn’t the mushrooms that had me going; it was the way this modality fit within the larger frame of her work on herself.So often I speak with folks about how tired they are — tired of reading all the books and doing all the therapy and trying all the things. They do and don’t want to keep working on themselves. It’s just….where is it getting them? Is it reall...2023-08-161h 21

I Think I Like YouKris Wylder on Navigating Relationships + Motherhood Not Looking Like What You Thought It Would | Ep 73I've had the pleasure of knowing Kris for over a decade, and boy have our lives changed within that timespan. What began as two fellow food bloggers bumping into each other at events in the city (pre-Instagram days), has transitioned into a know ya from afar digital connection, with those early influencer roots.Recently turned 40, Kris has had her fair share of ups and downs in relationships (which we dig into in the episode). Her life looks nothing like what she thought it would, but she embraces it — and the growth and evolution — with such grace....2023-08-091h 03

I Think I Like You4 Common Pitfalls in Dating Where I See People Getting Stuck | Ep 72On a recent walk with my pups, I was marinating on the shared habits and characteristics of my clients who are now in long term relationships. It got me thinking about the inverse behavior — less of what people actually do and more of what people don't do that blocks them from growth and change. Not just in relationships, but in any area of their life. In todays episode I'm digging into those four common pitfalls.They center around:Circumventing your painBeing obsessed with the how of dating (i.e. how to meet someone) versus looking closely at t...2023-08-0331 min

I Think I Like YouThe unique struggles overachievers face in dating + relationships | Ep 71I meet so many women —often in their later 30s— who say something along the lines of "I focused on my career, that's why I'm single." They're no stranger to hard work. They're the quintessential over achiever and they've been that way for as long as they can remember.But is their "focus on work," really the reason they're still single? This isn't about pointing fingers or laying blame, this is about getting curious to the consistent pattern and narrative.In this episode, I'm digging into the learned behaviors of overachievers and how that actually come...2023-07-261h 00

I Think I Like YouThe practice that is *actually* helping w/ my sex life (and so much more) w/ Ishtara Founder, Tracy Harward | Ep 70I've spent the past decade trying everything from traditional sex therapy to "yoni massage," (yes, that's a thing), to bring more pleasure and freedom not just into my sexual experience, but my body. Nothing has been as transformative as Ishtara. Join me for an intimate conversation with the founder to learn more about the practice, her story (what brought her to this work), and how it's played such an integral role in my own healing.Join me for a retreat in the Hudson Valley!~2 spots left~September 12th to the 16thSet in a g...2023-07-191h 12

I Think I Like YouNancy Levin drops the knowledge on relationships for overachievers | Ep 69On today's podcast I'm chatting with author and master life coach, Nancy Levin. I was introduced to Nancy by my own coach years ago, via her best selling book Setting Boundaries Will Set You Free. I have purchased this book — I sh*t you not— 22 times for 22 different clients. And I have to be honest, I'm sitting here thinking: I know there are more clients— why haven't I sent it to them all?! It's THAT good.Here's what we dig into in this episode:A really simple way to understand codependencyThe connection between being codependent and strugg...2023-07-121h 10

Pollen: For Creative Entrepreneurs with Diana DavisS2 E4 People Pleasing in Business and in Your Relationships with Dating Coach Clara Artschwager 🤝 🩷Hey Pollen! I’m back with another exciting episode and this time, we’re joined by Clara Artschwager! This expert episode on people-pleasing and finding the right match for you will no doubt be a juicy treat for you. So many of us are used to bending over backward to cater to the needs of others. Sometimes, it’s the only way we know how to survive and keep a calm environment. Other times, we want to make other people comfortable so we can be comfortable. This people-pleasing tendency often shows up in both our businesses and relati...2023-07-1258 min

I Think I Like YouA dating Q+A w/ Amy Nobile | Ep 68Amy Nobile is the founder of Love, Amy, a dating coaching service that marries the holistic view of human-to-human energy and connection with the technology of modern-day dating. We had so much fun when I was guest on her podcast, we decided to do it again, but this time as a listener Q+A episode. Here are the questions we dig into: What's our perspective on manifesting soulful, romantic love into your life and purely focusing on that versus getting onto apps and swiping away?How do you deal with shame around feeling like you haven't bee...2023-07-051h 10

I Think I Like YouEveryone is IN it and here's the deal w/ Psychological Astrologer Dani Beinstein | Episode 67" Real love stories are inconvenient. As a culture we’ve thrown away romanticism in favor of extreme practicality. "Earlier the year, on the heals of my convo w/ Dani Beinstein, we said "Let's connect in August and record again late summer!" And left it at that.But then, in the last few months, the consistencies arising in myself and my clients was so profound, I had to reach out again. Those consistencies weren't just housed in relationship but in this grander evolution of safely. Namely:The death of our "good girls"Breaking from conditioning in...2023-06-281h 18

I Think I Like You3 clients who have found flow in their dating lives | Episode 66In light of some new one to one coaching spots opening up (pssst, I'd love to work with you!), in today's episode I'm walking you through the three consistent patterns and habits I see in clients who are finding flow in their dating life. By flow I mean,They're finding ease in the process of datingThey're not wracked with a scarcity mindset or fear of never meeting someone — they've truly surrendered to the process and the timing of their own romantic journey They're able to make sense of their dating trajectory and larger romantic historyThe...2023-06-2149 min

I Think I Like YouEpisode 65: Should I settle for this? How do I know?SETTLING. We're so rattled by it. We want rules and directions. Just tell me what I should and shouldn't ok in a partner in order to have it all work out perfectly! In order to meet someone sooner rather than later!The thing is, knowing what we do and don't need in a partner is such an inside job. The more we look elsewhere for the answers, the more we drive ourselves crazy. If you often find yourself in dating wondering: Am I doing this right? How do I know if this person is or i...2023-06-1441 min

I Think I Like YouEpisode 64: How to meet met who actually want to commit.On the heels of last week’s episode that blew the pants off everything we know to be true about anxious attachment style, this week’s episode is very much a part two. Why is it that those of us who are most hungry for partnership, most hungry to connect deeply with someone, keep finding ourselves in brief, one off, go nowhere scenarios, or relationships where we completely lose ourselves?It all has to do with our capacity for receiving. I.e. our capacity to let someone in and let them actually love us. You might be thin...2023-06-0646 min

I Think I Like YouEpisode 63: How I drastically mitigated my anxious attachment style.Nearly a decade ago, on a the heels of life-altering breakup, swimming in self help, I landed upon the book Attached. Like many people, I was eager to take the quiz and find out "What was my attachment style???" But more so, how could knowing this information release me from my pain? I don't think I really needed the quiz to confirm I had an anxious attachment style, but even once it did — it didn't give me much to then do. I was aware, sure, of what was creating a lot of havoc in my dating life, but wtf wa...2023-05-301h 13

I Think I Like YouEpisode 62: On the crushes we just can't quit.Do you have a crush you just can't let go of? It's as if they've got their proverbial teeth sunk soooooo far into you? Maybe they live in another state, maybe they're already coupled up, maybe you don't have the same life goals— and STILL, you're so into them! It's almost as if they haunt you in a way.In this episode, I'm digging into not just the nature of this type of crush, but also the greater language of our crushes in general. What does who we're drawn to and how we're drawn to them say ab...2023-05-2543 min

I Think I Like YouEpisode 61 (Bonus!) *Special Announcement*Register for I Think I Like You the course, here.Work with me PrivatelyConnect on InstagramWebsitePodcast Production by James Jorge 2023-05-2115 min

I Think I Like YouEpisode 60: What your adolescent + teen identity have to do with your dating + relationship life NOW.I Think I Like You, the course (save $100 if you register by 5/22)Register for my Free Webinar on 5/19— The 6 Things That Made All the Difference When I Was DatingHow did you identify as a kid? Better yet, in middle school, high school, and so on? We're you rife with young crushes and boyfriends? Did you go to school dances? Did you feel like you could just hang— with anyone and everyone? I certainly didn't. And most of my clients sit in a similar position, but completely unaware of how that sense of self is playing out i...2023-05-1645 min

I Think I Like YouEpisode 59: How social stalking is hurting more than helping (and what your tendencies say about YOU).I Think I Like the Course: Peep the Curriculum6 Things That Made All the Difference When I was SingleDo you get the urge to stalk? Maybe he's linked his Instagram to his dating profile, or maybe you just know enough to suss out his account (and it happens to be public!) because, well, it's 2023.Here's the tricky thing though: The information we glean from stalking ends up consisting more of our limiting beliefs, insecurities and projections than it does any actual helpful information about our potential suitor. Even more so, if we've got s...2023-05-1235 min

I Think I Like YouEpisode 58: What our mom's careers have to do with our dating lives.This episode was specifically recorded in follow up to the following reel I posted earlier this month. In the reel I talked about how if, in your family, your mom shifted her career (either took a step back or fully gave it up) in order to take care of the family — even if she didn't express any disdain for this, the experience can impact your dating life today. This episode breaks down the latter impact and how you can thoughtfully manage your beliefs to shift your dating patterns.This episode will resonate with anyone:Whose mother's ca...2023-04-3018 min

Beyond BalanceA Frank Convo About Having Kids with Clara ArtschwagerCath & Clara are back in their frank conversation series, this time talking about the decision to become a parent (or not). Clara asks Cath pointed questions about her own journey into motherhood. And as usual, Cath's approach is to hopefully bust some of the myths of "stress culture" that lead parents to burnout and keep us from being present as parents. This episode provides some honest insight into a mindful and empowering approach to motherhood. And gives you the tiniest peak -- whether you're a mother or not, whether you're considering parenthood or not -- in...2023-04-2747 min

Beyond BalanceBusting Marriage Myths with Clara ArtschwagerJoin Cath & Clara Artschwager for a frank conversation series, this time talking about marriage and relationships and how to avoid the myths that "stress culture" keep us feeling bad when things aren't "perfect." Cath interviews Clara in this episode to talk vulnerably about Clara's new marriage and her realization that not having a "honeymoon period" was actually OK and how her relationship serves as a mirror to her relationship to herself. This episode gives you the tiniest peak -- whether you're married, partnered, or single -- into the "Remembering You" women's retreat that Clara and Ca...2023-04-2749 min

I Think I Like YouEpisode: 57: On letting go of the ones who can't give you all you need.Why do we love to obsess over men who are nice, fun, kind, maybe there's a lot on paper that's just so damn good— and yet it just isn't fully there. I know that dance and I know it well. In follow up to Tuesday's ep from two weeks back all about my journey with emotionally unavailable men, this week I'm digging into:Why it's so hard to let go of these almost there connectionsWhat we fear slipping back into if we let someone goHow the hanging on hinders are long term pursuit of partnership And how, when you'r...2023-04-2540 min