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The Art Of Imperfect AdultingMarriage, Divorce, and Emotional Growth with Colette FehrIn this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Colette Fehr about marriage, divorce, and the impact of family dynamics on adult relationships. Based in Orlando, Florida, Colette candidly shares her journey from growing up in a traditional, conflict-filled New York household to navigating her own early marriage, divorce, and eventual career as a couples therapist. Listeners will gain insights into how childhood experiences unconsciously shape relationship choices, why emotional disconnection—not conflict—is a leading destroyer of marriages, and how to have the difficult conversations that lead to lasting love.About Colette Fehr...
2026-01-3143 min
Insights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.84: How to Finally Get the Life You Want with Katherine Woodward ThomasIn this episode, we sit down with the incredible Katherine Woodward Thomas, and honestly—you’re going to feel this one in your bones. We dive into why so many of us do all the insight-oriented healing work, understand our trauma inside and out… and still feel stuck repeating the same patterns. Katherine helps us name the missing piece: learning how to orient toward a future self that’s bigger than our past.Together, we explore how identity, trauma, and self-beliefs quietly shape our choices, our relationships, and our sense of what’s possible. This conversation is rich, hope...
2026-01-2839 min
Jim Colbert Show: The GoodsJCS: Relationship Expert Colette Fehr 1/22/2026Colette Fehr, a couples therapist, relationship expert, TEDx speaker, and author, talks about how couples can learn to reconnect and save their relationship, her new book The Cost of Quiet, and more.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
2026-01-2339 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.83: Healing from Heartbreak: Rebuilding a Life You Love with Cole ZesigerIn this episode, we sit down with dating and heartbreak recovery coach Cole Zesiger for a deeply honest conversation about what really happens after a breakup—and why healing is so much harder than people want to admit. We talk about why heartbreak can feel all-consuming, how our brains are wired for attachment, and why “just move on” is some of the least helpful advice out there.Together, we explore what it actually takes to recover after loss, rebuild a meaningful life, and create healthier relationship patterns moving forward. Whether you’re newly single, stuck in an on-again...
2026-01-211h 01Insights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.82: The New College Admission Reality and How Not to Lose Your MindCollege admissions have changed dramatically since we were applying—and if you’re parenting a teen right now, you probably feel that in your bones. In this episode, we talk honestly about the new reality of college admissions, why even “perfect on paper” kids aren’t guaranteed a spot anymore, and how this process has become a major source of anxiety for both parents and teens. We share personal stories from our own families and what we’re seeing every day in our therapy offices.More importantly, we dig into how not to let college admissions take over your id...
2026-01-1433 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.81: The Essential Guide to Divorce at Midlife with Oona MetzIn this episode of Insights from the Couch, we sit down with licensed therapist, writer, and divorce support group leader Oona Metz to have one of the most honest, grounding, and hope-filled conversations we’ve ever had about divorce—especially at midlife. We talk about why divorce still carries so much stigma, why so many women feel isolated and ashamed, and what actually helps people heal instead of staying stuck.Together, we explore the emotional reality of divorce, why it can feel like a total identity loss, and how healing doesn’t come from rushing forwar...
2026-01-0747 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.80: The Year End Audit: What We're Shedding and What We're Keeping in 2026As we wrap up the year, we’re inviting you into a different kind of year-end ritual—one that’s less about resolutions and more about reflection. In this episode, we’re doing a midlife audit: looking honestly at what we’re ready to shed and what we want to intentionally carry forward into 2026. From other people’s opinions to outdated expectations, we’re talking about the emotional baggage that quietly drains our energy—and how freeing it can be to finally let it go.We also dig into what we’re keeping: connection, meaning, nervous system regulation, health...
2025-12-3137 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.79: Ready for a Reboot? How Functional Medicine Gets to the Root of Midlife Health with Dr. Tracy McCarthyIn this episode, I had the pleasure of sitting down with Dr. Tracy McCarthy, a brilliant functional medicine physician and psychiatrist, to talk about what it really takes to heal—especially in midlife. We explored how functional medicine goes beyond symptom management and instead focuses on the root causes of chronic conditions like anxiety, fatigue, brain fog, and digestive issues. Tracy's perspective on how nutrition, inflammation, gut health, and lifestyle play into our mental and physical well-being is deeply empowering.As someone who works with women navigating health and identity shifts in midlife, I found this conversation to...
2025-12-2450 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEP 78: The “Superwoman” Trap That Leads to Midlife Burnout with Nora NeitermanIn this deeply honest episode, we sit down with Nora Neiterman, creative director, brand strategist, and founder of Unsweetened New York, to talk about what happens when success comes at the cost of yourself. Nora shares how building a powerful, authentic brand while juggling motherhood, caregiving, and perfectionism eventually pushed her into full-blown burnout, and why ignoring the warning signs is so common for women in midlife.Together, we explore the hidden toll of living in constant overdrive and why healing doesn’t start by doing more, but by slowing down. Nora opens up about perimenopause, grief, ne...
2025-12-1743 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.77: Why Holiday Burnout Hits Women Hardest and How to Fix ItThe holidays are here, and if you’re already feeling that mix of excitement, pressure, and low-key dread, you’re in good company. In this episode, we dig into why holiday burnout hits women so disproportionately hard, how old expectations keep sneaking in, and what we can actually do to reclaim joy, presence, and a sense of sanity this season. From perfectionism and invisible labor to new traditions and deliciously low-effort holiday moments, we’re getting honest about what has to shift.Together, we explore the inner work, the practical strategies, and the gentle permission slips that help u...
2025-12-1031 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.76: Mr. Unavailable: Breaking Free From Loving Emotionally Unavailable Men with Dr. Marni FeuermanIn this heartfelt and revealing episode, we dive deep into the patterns, red flags, and emotional toll of loving someone who just can’t meet you emotionally. We’re joined by our brilliant friend Dr. Marni Feuerman—psychotherapist, author of Ghosted and Breadcrumbed, and relationship expert regularly featured in outlets like Psychology Today and SELF. Together, we unpack the signs of emotional unavailability, why so many women get stuck in these painful dynamics, and how to reclaim your power and self-worth in love.If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a loop of confusing relationships, holding out hope...
2025-12-0352 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.75: Thanksgiving Episode: How to Deal with Difficult Family DynamicsIn this Thanksgiving episode, we’re settling in together—just like we would the night before a big holiday—to talk about the messy, heartfelt, complicated world of family dynamics. Even though both of us are having quieter Thanksgivings this year, we’re deep in our own real-life family seasons, and this conversation comes straight from the thick of it. We explore why the holidays stir up so much, why cut-offs have become so common, and how we can show up for ourselves without losing connection to the people we care about.We also dive into emotional toleranc...
2025-11-2636 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.74: The Defining Decade: Parenting Kids in Their 20's With Dr. Meg Jay, PhDIn this episode, we're joined by one of our absolute favorite authors and experts, Dr. Meg Jay, PhD. She's a clinical psychologist and bestselling author of The Defining Decade and The 20-Something Treatment, and she dives deep with us into why our 20s are such a defining time—and how many of the same principles can also empower us in midlife.We explore identity capital, weak ties, economic uncertainty, and how to better support our 20-something children as they navigate early adulthood. If you're in your 40s or 50s and parenting adult children, or just looking to re...
2025-11-1947 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.73: Understanding OCD with Dr. Brady Bradshaw MD and Dr. Robyn Cohen, PhDIn this episode of Insights From the Couch, we’re diving deep into what Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) really is—and what it’s not. Forget the casual "I'm so OCD" comment—this conversation is all about the real, often misunderstood experiences of those living with this challenging and complex disorder. We're joined by two of our favorite experts: Dr. Brady Bradshaw, a child, adolescent, and adult psychiatrist, and Dr. Robyn Cohen, a developmental neuropsychologist. Together, we explore the many faces of OCD, from harm OCD to contamination fears, and mental compulsions that happen entirely inside someone’s mind.We’re al...
2025-11-1249 min
Love Thy Neighbor ShowLTN 7 - The Online Dating Disconnect• Launch of "Love Thy Neighbor" with Dan, Tom, and Colette Fehr • Banter about walking to Publix and Colette teasing Dan • Colette attends "Pitch a Friend" Orlando dating event and explains its PowerPoint pitch format • Discussion of dating app burnout, swipe fatigue, and loss of real connection • Colette's "Red Flag or Green Flag" game and insights on in-person chemistry • Jokes about people falling for the presenter instead of the friend pitched • Commentary on gendered dating perceptions and differing timelines • Emphasis on body language, vibe, and physical chemistry over screens • Comparison of "vibes" vs. science in attraction • Event at Gravity Tap Room; next one Dec 3...
2025-11-0645 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.72: The Power of Being Difficult: How to Reclaim Your Boundaries and Your Voice with Tonya LesterWe are beyond excited to welcome the brilliant Tonya Lester to the couch this week! As a psychotherapist, writer, and author of the new book Push Back: Live, Love, and Work with Others Without Losing Yourself, Tonya joins us for a raw and resonant conversation about how women lose their voices in relationships, how to reclaim them, and why it’s never too late to start showing up fully for yourself.We dig into some of the most pressing issues we see with women in midlife—emotional labor, resentment, perfectionism, and the dreaded “burned out pursuer” dynamic. Tonya sh...
2025-11-0546 min
Love Thy Neighbor ShowLTN 6 - Colette VS Whatever• "Love Thy Neighbor" with Dan, Tom, and therapist Colette • Colette's California media tour for her book • Colette appears on the controversial "Whatever" podcast • "Whatever" framed as alpha/anti-woke male genre • Critique of toxic masculinity and "men under attack" tropes • Other shows mock/analyze these alpha podcasts • Past "Whatever" guests include Charlie Kirk, Candace Owens • Secretive taping: last-minute address, security, metal detector • Overloaded studio: 9–16 mics; strict mic rules enforced • Tom's old-school gripe: too many open mics • OnlyFans model spotlighted; show leans on visual appeal • Colette cast as the feminist voice on the panel • Her therapist stance: note rare valid points, reject nonsense • Rage-baiti...
2025-10-3044 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.71: Reclaiming Identity After Divorce with Heather SweeneyIn this deeply moving episode, we sit down with the brilliant author and military spouse-turned-memoirist, Heather Sweeney. Her new book Camouflage: How I Emerged from the Shadows of a Military Marriage takes us inside the complex emotional terrain of identity loss, divorce, resilience, and ultimately, self-discovery. Heather's story is not just one of heartbreak, but of reclaiming voice, power, and purpose—especially for women navigating life after a long-term partnership.We talk about everything from the layered reality of military marriage to the quiet courage it takes to start over. Heather shares what it's like to lose yo...
2025-10-2943 min
Love Thy Neighbor ShowLTN 5 - Outdated Relationship Myths• Introduction of "Love Thy Neighbor" with Colette Fehr • Discussion of recording schedule and Twitch/YouTube streams • Breakdown of seven relationship myths and modern realities • Myth 1: Compromise often means mutual loss—prioritize listening and connection • 69% of problems are unsolvable; focus on empathy, not victory • Use 1–10 scale to gauge partner priorities and set boundaries • Avoid people-pleasing; long-term avoidance kills authenticity • Myth 2: Open communication doesn't mean oversharing—filter strong emotions • Clarity before honesty prevents resentment and defensiveness • Humor and tone matter when giving feedback • Myth 3: Small stuff matters—minor hurts build into resentment • Direct, qui...
2025-10-2344 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.70: The New Rules of Parenting and Grandparenting Toddlers with Devon KuntzmanEver feel like your toddler is trying to break you? You’re not alone. In this episode, we’re joined by the incredible Devon Kuntzman—toddler parenting expert and author of the brand new book Transforming Toddlerhood: How to Handle Tantrums and Power Struggles and Raise Resilient Kids Without Losing Your Mind. We dive into the real talk about toddler behavior, emotional regulation, and how we as parents can stay sane and connected in the chaos.Whether you’re in the thick of toddlerhood yourself, preparing for grandparenting, or just love understanding the "why" behind those tiny tornadoe...
2025-10-2242 min
Love Thy Neighbor ShowLTN 4 - Navigating Breakups• Introduction to Love Thy Neighbor and listener anonymity • Loveline-style approach to relationship advice • Divorce: emotional and financial toll, stigma, changing views • Hidden unhappiness in long marriages • Why people stay or leave relationships • Social media's impact on love, breakups, and jealousy • Deleting or keeping exes online; regret after erasing memories • Emotional recovery and boundaries with new partners • Growth through heartbreak and dating experience • Generational differences before social media • Keeping memories for children and history • Insecurity and jealousy over old photos • Attraction to emotionally intense partners • Insecurity and trauma behind jealousy • Communicating reassurance and setting boundaries • Humor about following exes or staying friends • Men vs women i...
2025-10-1644 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.69: Mothers Gone Wrong: The Psychology of Unknown Number and the Most Notorious True Crime CasesIn this intense and emotionally charged episode, we dive deep into some of the most chilling and perplexing true crime cases involving mothers who committed unimaginable acts against their own children. From psychological abuse to cold-blooded murder, we’re peeling back the layers on what happens when motherhood takes a dark, dangerous turn.We explore the twisted motivations and complex psychopathology behind cases like Unknown Number, Casey Anthony, Lindsay Clancy, Ruby Franke, and her notorious partner Jodi Hildebrandt. We’re not just recapping the crimes—you’ll hear our raw reactions as therapists and mothers, and we’ll take yo...
2025-10-1548 min
Love Thy Neighbor ShowLTN 3 - Accepting Jealousy Without Control• Introduction of "Love Thy Neighbor" with therapist Colette Fehr • Welcome new listeners and mention high podcast ranking • Hosts called "teenage boys" for humor and immaturity • Men maintaining adolescent humor • Humor as coping mechanism and healthy outlet • Colette's husband's immature fraternity text thread • Male vs. female friendship communication • Women maturing faster than men • Relationship strain from maturity gaps • Midlife women feeling disconnected • "Six second kiss" relationship exercise • Dan performing kiss with his wife before daughter • Oxytocin and affection modeling for kids • Teaching children healthy relationship behavior • Transition to jealousy in rela...
2025-10-0943 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.68: Disappointing Affirmations: The Sarcastic Self-Help You Didn't Know You Needed with Dave Tarnowski We’re thrilled to bring you this heartfelt and hilarious conversation with Dave Tarnowski—author, creative force behind the Instagram phenomenon Disappointing Affirmations, and the man redefining self-help with a dose of sharp wit and raw honesty. With over 2.5 million followers, Dave’s take on mental health, neurodivergence, grief, and healing resonates deeply—and this episode is no exception.Together, we explore Dave’s late-in-life diagnoses of bipolar disorder and ADHD, his journey through therapy, sobriety, and grief, and how humor became his lifeline. We dive into the making of his newest book, Sorry in Advance for Making Thin...
2025-10-0850 min
Love Thy Neighbor ShowLTN 2 - No Perfect Relationships?• Introduction of Love Thy Neighbor as a relationship-focused show with hosts Colette Fehr, Daniel Dennis, Tom Vann • Early success: ranked #141 worldwide in relationship podcasts, airing on Real Radio 104.1 with affiliate expansion plans • Key truth: no perfect relationships; flaws, wounds, unrealistic ideals exist • Every relationship can improve, though not all marriages; toxic or abusive ones should end • Examples of divorced couples maintaining healthy or even friendly ties, often for children's sake • Self-reflection and personal responsibility as crucial for improvement • Awkwardness of exes with new partners, but maturity can turn it positive • Emotional extremes in love and hate...
2025-10-0242 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.67: Healing From Trauma Bonds with Dr. NaeIn this deeply moving and eye-opening episode, we sit down with Dr. Nadine Macaluso—therapist, author, and trauma bond expert—to explore the insidious dynamics of trauma bonded relationships. Nadine bravely shares her own experience as the ex-wife of “The Wolf of Wall Street,” shedding light on the coercion, manipulation, and psychological warfare that define these toxic partnerships. But more than just surviving, Nadine walks us through what it truly takes to heal, reclaim your identity, and find peace on the other side. We unpack what trauma bonding really means (and what it doesn’t), the behavioral patterns that make these...
2025-10-0139 min
Love Thy Neighbor ShowLTN 1 - Why Couples Stop Talking!• Launch of "Love Thy Neighbor" with therapist Colette Fehr • Colette's TEDx talk on relationships (April 3) and 13 years of experience • Her first marriage as "surface perfection" (family, labs, SUVs, picket fence) but emotionally empty • Husband's disengagement, loneliness, and realization of controllable vs. uncontrollable factors • Conflict avoidance as central issue; fear of arguments; lack of modeled healthy resolution at home • Growing up in "suffer in silence" or emotionally closed households • Comfort discussing with colleagues vs. difficulty with spouses due to higher stakes • Acting despite fear as her first principle; few families openly model conflict • Breaking intergenerational anger patterns and temper issues • Avoidance behaviors...
2025-09-2642 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.66: Discovering Your Sexual Self: Sensuality, Pleasure, and Desire at MidlifeHey there, friends! In this episode, we sit down with our fabulous returning guest, Dr. Juliana Hauser, to talk about her powerful new book, A New Position on Sex. Trust us when we say, this conversation is one you do not want to miss. Whether you're feeling disconnected from your sexual self, stuck in old beliefs, or just plain exhausted, Dr. Juliana offers an entirely new—and deeply empowering—way to approach sexuality in midlife.We dig into everything from sensuality and sexual agency to what it means to feel vibrant, connected, and alive again—on your own te...
2025-09-2450 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.65: Overcoming Imposter Syndrome at MidlifeIn this episode of Insights from the Couch, we're diving into one of the most talked-about but least understood challenges many women face at midlife: imposter syndrome. We're Colette and Laura, two therapists and best friends, and we're getting real about the self-doubt that shows up right when we're trying to level up in life, work, and relationships.We unpack why imposter syndrome hits so hard in midlife, how it keeps you stuck in comparison and perfectionism, and why it's time to ditch the stilettos and stop shrinking. We also share our personal stories of growth, setbacks...
2025-09-1737 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.64: Everything You Need to Know About GLP-1 Medications at Midlife with Amy Wrenn, NPIf you’ve been hearing all the buzz about GLP-1 medications like Ozempic, Wegovy, or Zepbound, and you’re wondering if they could be the right fit for you at midlife, this is the episode to press play on. We brought on nurse practitioner and health optimization expert Amy Wrenn to demystify what GLP-1s actually are, how they work, who they’re for, and what you really need to know about taking them during perimenopause and menopause. Amy is passionate, informed, and totally relatable—she cuts through the hype to bring clarity to a topic that’s been wrapped in...
2025-09-1045 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.63: Women Waking Up: How to Create a Midlife Transformation With Passion, Purpose, and PlayIn this episode, we sit down with the vibrant and inspiring Wendy Valentine, host of The Midlife Makeover Show and author of Women Waking Up: The Midlife Manifesto for Passion, Purpose, and Play. Join us as we talk about how midlife doesn't have to mean crisis—it can mean awakening. Wendy shares her deeply personal story of rebuilding her life from the ground up, and the radical self-love and resilience that fueled her transformation. We dive into the emotional truths of midlife, from grief and divorce to rediscovering joy and authenticity. Wendy doesn't just inspire, she equips you with ta...
2025-09-0346 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.62: Perimenopause and Menopause: What You Need to Know with Dr. Kelly CaspersonWe're thrilled to bring you this powerful and myth-busting conversation with Dr. Kelly Casperson, a board-certified urologist, author of You Are Not Broken, and host of the top-rated podcast of the same name. If you’ve ever felt confused, dismissed, or flat-out frustrated by the information (or lack thereof) around perimenopause and menopause, this episode is for you. Dr. Casperson breaks down the science with clarity and humor, helping us all better understand what’s really going on with our hormones—and why we don’t have to just "tough it out." We cover everything from early symptoms like brain fo...
2025-08-2753 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.61: 7 Skills You Need to Master MidlifeIn this episode, we’re discussing the real, raw, and essential skills that every woman needs to navigate midlife with grace, grit, and a whole lot of self-compassion. We’ve been through the highs, the lows, the chutes and ladders of this season, and today we’re pulling back the curtain to share the seven foundational skills we believe every woman should know to not just survive, but thrive. These are the skills we teach in our Midlife Master Class, and the ones that have held us up through the toughest times. From boundary-setting and assertive communication to frustration tolera...
2025-08-2051 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.60: Undoing the “Not Enough” Story: Hypnosis and the Subconscious Mind with Christina WoodsHey friends! In this episode, we're thrilled to welcome the incredible Christina Woods—a Clinical Hypnotherapist, Rapid Transformational Therapist, Empowerment Coach, and Reiki Master. Christina brings a wealth of knowledge and a deeply personal story of transformation after decades in corporate leadership. Together, we explore how childhood beliefs, people-pleasing patterns, and midlife awakenings can shape—and reshape—our lives.Christina gets real about her journey from high-achieving executive to empowered healer, sharing how modalities like hypnotherapy, EMDR, and energy work helped her (and now help others) move from burnout to balance. We dig into subconscious beliefs, emotional healin...
2025-08-1344 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.59: Zero Fucks: 10 Things to Stop Caring About at MidlifeReady to reclaim your energy, sanity, and self-worth? In this episode, we’re diving into the unapologetic, liberating mindset of giving zero fucks—specifically, the 10 things we’ve learned to stop caring about at midlife. From good girl conditioning to comparison culture, we unpack the beliefs and behaviors that no longer serve us and explore what it means to live more freely, authentically, and powerfully in this season of life. Episode Highlights:[0:03] – Reclaiming your time and energy with a zero-fucks midlife mindset [0:40] – Why being nice instead of honest keeps us stuck ...
2025-08-0647 min