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Insights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.59: Zero Fucks: 10 Things to Stop Caring About at MidlifeReady to reclaim your energy, sanity, and self-worth? In this episode, we’re diving into the unapologetic, liberating mindset of giving zero fucks—specifically, the 10 things we’ve learned to stop caring about at midlife. From good girl conditioning to comparison culture, we unpack the beliefs and behaviors that no longer serve us and explore what it means to live more freely, authentically, and powerfully in this season of life. Episode Highlights:[0:03] – Reclaiming your time and energy with a zero-fucks midlife mindset [0:40] – Why being nice instead of honest keeps us stuck ...2025-08-0646 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.58: Rethinking Menopause Naturally with Maryon StewartThis episode we’re joined by the incredible Maryon Stewart, a global pioneer in natural hormone rebalancing and women's health advocate. Maryon drops serious wisdom about how women can navigate perimenopause, menopause, and beyond—without relying on HRT. We talk all about phytoestrogens, nutritional deficiencies, and how small, science-backed changes in diet and lifestyle can lead to huge shifts in how we feel.Whether you're just starting to notice changes or deep in the menopause journey, Maryon’s natural hormone rebalancing protocol (NHRP) offers a roadmap to feeling vibrant again. We go deep into what’s actually happenin...2025-07-3048 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.57: Stepping Out of Victim: How to Get Out of the Drama Triangle with Friends, Family, and Co-WorkersHey friends! In today’s episode of Insights from the Couch, we’re exploring one of our favorite (and most handed-out!) psychological models—the Drama Triangle. If you've ever felt stuck in dysfunctional relationship dynamics, unsure why you're constantly the “rescuer,” “victim,” or “persecutor,” this one's for you. We break down how these roles silently fuel relational chaos and emotional suppression—and most importantly, how to get out.We also introduce the Empowerment Triangle, the powerful antidote that helps you reclaim your agency and transform your relationships. We’re not here for surface-level chatter—we’re all about taking personal resp...2025-07-2345 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.56: Midlife Weight Loss Hacks: What Actually WorksMidlife weight gain feels like it sneaks up on us—and suddenly what used to work, doesn’t. In this episode, we sit down with our brilliant friend and fitness expert, Dena Pistor, for a no-BS conversation about what it actually takes to manage weight and feel better in perimenopause and beyond. Whether you're frustrated by belly fat that seems to appear overnight, curious about the truth behind diet shots, or just feeling stuck with your health goals, this is the conversation you need.We talk openly (and laugh a lot) about shifting hormones, genetic set points, unre...2025-07-1646 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.55: The Midlife Mirror: How Toxic Vanity can Derail Happiness and how to Find Peace and Acceptance With AgingWhat happens when the reflection staring back at you no longer matches the youthful image in your mind? In this episode, we peel back the layers of the “midlife mirror” to explore how aging intersects with body image, vanity, and the deep-seated need for validation. We get raw and real about the emotional shifts that come when our appearance begins to change—and how those shifts impact everything from self-esteem to social dynamics.Join us as we unpack the roots of toxic vanity, explain what dysmorphia really looks like (clinically and subclinically), and reflect on our own person...2025-07-0932 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.54: Fired Up: Confronting and Healing from Sexual Abuse with Alreen HaeggquistThis week on Insights From the Couch, we sit down with the powerhouse attorney, author, and survivor, Alreen Haeggquist. From her deeply personal story of growing up in an abusive household to becoming a leading legal advocate for survivors of sexual harassment and assault, Alreen’s journey is a testament to the strength of the human spirit—and the power of owning your story.We explore the long path from trauma to triumph, what it really takes to heal, and how acknowledging the past is the first step toward freedom. Alreen shares how inner child work, therapy, and...2025-07-0244 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.53: Self-Care is an Inside Job: How to Find Your Recipe for ReplenishmentHey everyone—We’re diving into a topic that gets tossed around a lot but rarely unpacked in a way that actually matters: self-care. If you’ve ever felt confused or overwhelmed by what self-care really is (and isn’t), this is for you. In this episode, we unpack the myths, call out the cultural noise, and get real about what it truly means to care for yourself, especially during midlife.We talk about the difference between real self-care and the performative kind, and how embodying your values, setting boundaries, and nurturing self-compassion can actually refill your tank. We...2025-06-2533 min
KANE 1240 AMCollette Fehr - June 18, 2025Colette Jane Fehr, a psychotherapist, author of The Cost of Quiet, a TEDx speaker and host of the podcast Insights From The Couch: Mental Health at Midlife. https://www.colettejanefehr.com/2025-06-1813 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.52: Happiness Hacks: What Arthur C. Brooks Can Teach Us About What Really WorksIn this episode, we're taking a closer look at the science (and soul) of happiness—not that shiny, fake, “good vibes only” stuff, but the real-deal, research-backed version. After attending a powerful talk by Harvard professor and happiness expert Arthur C. Brooks, we came back buzzing with insights, and we couldn’t wait to break it all down for you.We’re exploring what happiness actually means—spoiler: it’s not just about smiling all the time—and how much of it is actually within our control. From the surprising role of genetics to the transformational power of habits, trans...2025-06-1838 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.51: The Power of Secure Attachment: Co-Regulation, Connection, and Creating Lasting Connections with Tara BoothbyHow do we create deep, secure, and lasting relationships—not just in romance, but in parenting, friendships, and even with ourselves? In this episode, we sit down with Tara Boothby, psychologist, author of Love and Love’s Energy, and expert in attachment science. She takes us on a journey into the heart of connection, breaking down the complexities of attachment styles, emotional safety, and the power of co-regulation.We explore the difference between being loved and lovable, how attachment wounds impact our relationships, and why true security is something we earn over time. Plus, Tara shares her own...2025-06-1157 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.50: One Year Anniversary! Just Start: How to Bring Big Ideas to Life (Without Having it All Figured Out)Hey friends! We cannot believe we’re saying this—but it's officially been ONE YEAR since we launched Insights from the Couch! Not only are we celebrating our podcast anniversary, but this is also our 50th episode, and we're taking a moment to reflect on the wild, messy, beautiful journey that brought us here. Spoiler alert: we had no idea what we were doing when we started, but we’re proof that big things can happen when you leap before you feel "ready."In this episode, we open up about the highs, the facepalms, and everything in betwee...2025-06-0439 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.49: Glow Up at Midlife: What Works, What Doesn’t, and What’s Worth It With Dermatologist Dr. Mary Alice MinaWhat actually works for healthy, vibrant skin—and what’s just hype? In this episode, we sit down with the brilliant and refreshingly honest Dr. Mary Alice Mina, Harvard-trained dermatologist and host of The Skin Real podcast. We dive deep into what midlife skin really needs, what treatments are worth the money, and how hormonal changes can shake up everything we thought we knew about our skincare routines.Together, we unpack skin minimalism, sunscreen truths (spoiler: it really matters), and the difference between aging gracefully and chasing the next trending procedure. We also get personal—sharing our own fr...2025-05-2844 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.48: Beyond Survival Mode: How to Stop Playing Small and Start Living Big with Debbie WeissWhat happens when you spend your whole life taking care of others, and suddenly realize you’ve lost yourself in the process? In this powerful episode, we sit down with Debbie R. Weiss, bestselling author, entrepreneur, and inspirational speaker, who shares how she spent decades as a family caregiver—first to her father, then to her son with autism, and later to her husband battling mental illness and cancer. At 50, she had an epiphany: if she didn’t start prioritizing herself, she’d keep putting her own life on hold.Debbie opens up about her journey of shifting...2025-05-2145 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.47: Losing a Loved One: How to Cope, Heal, and Move Forward with Helen Keeling Neal, LMHCIn this heartfelt episode, we’re joined by our dear friend and fellow therapist, Helen Keeling-Neal, as she bravely shares her journey through grief after the sudden loss of her husband. Helen opens up about the profound and unexpected challenges that come with navigating life as a young widow and single mom, all while finding ways to heal, grow, and embrace a new path forward. Whether you’ve experienced a similar loss or simply want to support a loved one going through grief, Helen’s story is full of insights, compassion, and real-life wisdom.We explore the comple...2025-05-1433 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.46: The People-Pleasing Trap: Why It’s Holding You Back and How to StopDo you find yourself saying “yes” when you really want to say “no”? Do you feel responsible for keeping the peace, even at your own expense? If any of that sounds familiar, this episode is for you. From childhood conditioning and gender expectations to how this behavior shows up in our adult relationships—romantic, professional, and personal—we’re talking about it all.In this episode, we get real about our own struggles and growth around people pleasing. We explore the line between kindness and self-abandonment, how saying “no” can actually strengthen relationships, and the subtle (and not-so-subtle) way...2025-05-0737 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.45: Ditching Diet Culture: Healing Your Relationship with Food and Body Image with Nicole SwartzIn this eye-opening episode, we sit down with Nicole Swartz, a licensed therapist specializing in helping people heal from the damaging effects of diet culture and generational body-image trauma. Nicole shares her personal story of overcoming an eating disorder, offers insights into her revolutionary coaching program, and explains how shifting mindsets around food and body image can create lasting, positive change for both individuals and families. This conversation dives into how diet culture infiltrates our lives, generational differences in attitudes toward body image, and the transformative power of self-compassion and acceptance. Episode Highlights:...2025-04-3050 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.44: Dating After Divorce: Andrea Baker’s Hilarious & Honest Take on Love, Lessons, and Second ChancesAre you navigating the tricky world of dating after divorce? In this heartfelt and hilarious episode, we sit down with the incredible Andrea Baker, an actor, voiceover artist, and co-host of the pet-centric podcast Tales to Tell. Andrea opens up about her personal journey through divorce, the unexpected twists of dating midlife, and the surprising lessons learned along the way. Together, we explore the challenges of rediscovering yourself, setting boundaries, and embracing both independence and connection.Andrea’s candid and relatable storytelling will leave you inspired and laughing, while her practical insights might just reshape how you th...2025-04-2339 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.43: How to Parent Tweens and Teens Without Losing Your MindBuckle up. In this episode, we get real about what it's like to raise kids between the ages of 10 to 18 in a world that looks nothing like the one we grew up in. From the emotional rollercoaster of middle school years to navigating social media, anxiety, and the constant pressure to be “on,” we break down the mental load parents are carrying—and what actually helps. Spoiler: It’s not control, and it’s definitely not panic.Join us as we unpack what long-leash parenting really looks like, why emotional regulation (yours and theirs) is key, and how to cre...2025-04-1646 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.42: How High Functioning Women Can Manage Stress and Prevent Self Abandonment with Dr. Kelly KesslerIn this episode of Insights from the Couch, we’re joined by Dr. Kelly Kessler, a physical therapist and transformation coach, who’s on a mission to help high-achieving women break free from self-abandonment and stress. Kelly shares her own journey of moving from a life of chronic self-sacrifice to one of self-honor and balance, offering strategies that can help you find your way back to yourself. She talks about nervous system regulation, the power of breath work, and why setting boundaries is essential to reclaiming your well-being. Together, we uncover why it’s crucial for women to prio...2025-04-0940 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.41: Sex, Power & Betrayal: The Twisted Psychology of White LotusWe’re back for Season 4 of Insights From the Couch: Mental Health at Midlife, and we’re kicking things off with a juicy deep dive into the twisted psychological underpinnings of HBO’s The White Lotus. As therapists and mega-fans of the show, we couldn’t resist unpacking the layers of sex, power, betrayal, and just downright messed-up family dynamics in this season. From the uncomfortably intimate Ratcliffe family to the passive-aggressive unraveling of a trio of longtime female friends, we’re peeling back the layers and asking—what’s really going on beneath the surface?In this episode...2025-04-0247 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.40: From Stuck to Inspired: The Secret to Unlocking Your Creative SuperpowerLet’s get into one of our favorite topics—creativity and life force. Have you ever felt stuck or disconnected from your true self? In this episode, we explore how creativity can be a powerful tool to reconnect with your life force and live your best life. Whether it's through artistic practices, engaging with nature, or simply tuning into your surroundings, we discuss practical ways to awaken your creative energy and feel more alive.Join us as we share personal anecdotes, practical tips, and insights from influential books that have inspired us, including Rick Rubin’s "The Creati...2025-03-2638 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.39: Rewiring Your Brain: Neurofeedback, Meditation & Healing with Natalie Baker, LMHCEver wondered how mindfulness, neuroscience, and therapy intersect to create profound healing? In this episode, we’re thrilled to chat with Natalie Baker, a licensed psychotherapist, meditation teacher, and Neurofeedback expert. Natalie shares how her unique blend of Eastern and Western psychology—alongside cutting-edge brain training techniques—helps people overcome anxiety, trauma, and other challenges. From rewiring the brain for resilience to cultivating self-awareness, Natalie’s holistic approach inspires balance and growth.We dive into fascinating topics like neuroplasticity, how neurofeedback taps into your brain's natural ability to reset, and why meditation is more than just a stress-r...2025-03-1940 min
Turned On With Sue And JohnSex Talks With Your Partner - Addressing The Elephant In The Room With Colette FehrSex With Sue presents - Turned On With Sue and John - Episode #126!We are now the #2 podcast on Apple and Spotify for people searching for “spicy discussions” - #6 for lifestyle discussions! Thank YOU!
This week… Meet Colette Fehr, a licensed marriage & family therapist, licensed mental health counselor, TEDx speaker, podcast host, and author of the book ‘The Cost of Quiet.” She discusses why having those, sometimes, uncomfortable conversations with your partner, about sex, are so important!
Also this week:- Why straight women watch lots of lesbian por...2025-03-1854 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.38: Navigating the Squeeze: Surviving the Sandwich Generation's ChallengesIn this episode, we tackle the challenging topic of the Sandwich Generation – those caught between raising children and caring for aging parents while managing their own careers and lives. Let’s get into the emotional, financial, and physical toll this can take. We will offer practical advice on how to cope without losing oneself to help you navigate this demanding phase of life.We will discuss strategies for setting boundaries, asking for help, and maintaining your well-being. Whether in the thick of it or just preparing for what’s ahead, this episode provides relatable experiences and actionable tips t...2025-03-1231 min
Last First Date RadioEP 651: Insights from the Couch - Dating and Finding Lasting Love at Midlife with Sandy WeinerI loved my interview so much with couples therapist Colette Fehr and individual therapist Laura Bowman on their podcast, Insights from the Couch, I am reposting it here with their permission.Insights from the Couch takes women on a deep dive into the issues you care about most at midlife: relationships, parenting, career, health, aging, personal development and more. In this episode, they interviewed me about dating and finding love later in life. We discussed the surprising ways midlifers can find lasting love and what it really takes to build a meaningful relationship at this...2025-03-1140 min
freemom, conversations for modern mothersModern Marriage in the Age of Technology & AI with Colette FehrHave you ever thought about - or fought about - how our phones, screens, and even artificial intelligence impact our most important relationships? Have you ever been guilty of avoiding a conversation with your spouse by hiding on your phone? Maybe tuning out of a story about their day to scroll? I know the answer is yes because we are all guilty of it. So what can we do to stay connected to our partners in a world designed to distract us?Let’s start with the data. Research indicates that the average American checks the...2025-03-0534 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.37: Yucks, Yums, and Yes Please: Discover What Turns You On With Dr. Juliana HauserIn this episode, we’re inviting you into a conversation that might just change the way you think about sexuality, agency, and self-discovery. We’re joined by the incredible Dr. Juliana Hauser, a psychologist, sex educator, and thought leader in holistic sexuality. If you’re wondering what that means, you’re not alone! Dr. Juliana walks us through the nine pillars of holistic sexuality and why understanding ourselves as sexual beings is the "final frontier" of self-development.We explore everything from sexual agency and desire in midlife to the unspoken barriers that hold us back from fully embracin...2025-03-0558 minInsights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.36: What Makes a Good MotherHey everyone, Colette and Laura here! This week, we’re diving deep into one of the biggest, most emotionally loaded topics: What makes a good mother? If you’re a parent (or ever had one), you’ve likely asked yourself this question in some form—whether it’s self-reflection, societal pressure, or those internalized voices from childhood.We unpack the emotional complexities of motherhood, the impact of attachment, and how our childhood experiences shape the way we parent. Plus, we dive into the wild case of Ruby Franke—the “mommy blogger” turned convicted abuser—to contrast what real maternal love...2025-02-2648 min