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The Reveal Podcast with Elle ChaseExploring The Depths of Eroticism w/ Cyndi DarnellIn this episode, Elle Chase explores the concept of eroticism, distinguishing it from mere sexuality. The discussion delves into how eroticism encompasses imagination, creativity, and presence, rather than being confined to sexual acts. The episode features Cyndi Darnell, a clinical sexologist, who shares her expertise on intimacy and desire, emphasizing the importance of personal definitions of eroticism. CYNDI DARNELL: Cyndi Darnell (she/her) is an internationally acclaimed clinical and somatic sexologist. She's the author of Sex, When You Don't Feel Like It: The Truth About Mismatched Libido & Rediscovering Desire (Bloomsbury). Originally from Australia, she's now...
2025-08-1835 min
Girl Boner Radio: True Sex and Relationship StoriesSex When You Don't Feel Like It, with Cyndi Darnell - Summer Replay 3:4Did you know that horniness is one of hundreds of reasons folks feel motivated to have sex? It's not even the most common. Understanding your own desire, and what sex and relationship therapist, Cyndi Darnell, calls your erotic template, can help you cultivate an erotically charged sex life – whether you're single or partnered. (Originally released in July, 2022) Learn more from Cyndi: https://cyndidarnell.com/ IG: @GirlBonerMedia FB: @MyGirlBoner TT:: @augustmclaughlin.gb augustmclaughlin.com/girlboner patreon.com/girlboner Get free shipping at Crave! Elegant, woman-designed jewelry and toys:
2025-07-2342 min
Well Enough Alone - A Guide To Thriving SoloCyndi Darnell: Sex and the single life – intimacy, sexuality and non-traditional relationshipsThis week’s episode is a really juicy one so buckle up! Can we have a fulfilling, safe and healthy sex life when we’re unpartnered? Is sex an essential part of the human experience or are there other ways to find intimacy? Our guest this week is Cyndi Darnell, a certified clinical sexologist, psychotherapist and couple's counsellor based in New York. She works with singles, traditional couples and people in open, polyamorous, kinky and consensual non monogamous relationships. She walks us through what sex...
2025-03-0252 min
The A to Z of SexEncore: M is for Mismatched Desire/Libido with Cyndi DarnellEncore: M is for Mismatched Desire/Libido with Cyndi Darnell and Dr Lori Beth Bisbey
2025-01-2749 minThe A to Z of SexEncore: M is for Mismatched Desire/Libido with Cyndi DarnellEncore: M is for Mismatched Desire/Libido with Cyndi Darnell and Dr Lori Beth Bisbey
2025-01-2749 minCurious Conversations About SexEp 89 Re 10 Public Figure in SexI’m still here. I still love you.
Since we last spoke, a lot of extraordinary things happened, resulting in me stopping workshops kind of abruptly, and selling The Practice Lab.
I will probably say more about all of that in a future episode, but for now, perhaps as a down-payment on some of that, let’s listen back all the way to 2017, with Barbara Carrellas and Cyndi Darnell.
So I’ll probably do an episode about that.
And I’m planning on doing a whole bunch of episodes after that on where I think th...
2024-07-0900 min
Wild & Sublime"Sex When You Don't Feel Like It" with Cyndi Darnell [rebroadcast]Do you and your partner have mismatched libidos? In this fascinating interview that turns many long-held ideas on their head, sexologist and author Cyndi Darnell talks about her book that helps people connect to their authentic desires and build connection. [Rebroadcast] In Chicago on Saturday May 4? Get tix to our live show and podcast recording!Buy Sex When You Don't Feel Like It on Bookshop, our affiliate partner.In this episode:Cyndi Darnell - Sex & relationship therapist, clinical & somatic sexologistBuy Sex When You Don't Feel Like It: The Truth about Mismatched L...
2024-05-0245 min
See You On The Other Side45 | Sex When You Don't Feel Like It (with Cyndi Darnell)Let's talk about sex! With Cyndi Darnell. A clinical and somatic sexologist and author of Sex, When You Don't Feel Like It: The Truth About Mismatched Libido & Rediscovering Desire. Originally from Australia, she is now based in New York City where where she runs a global consulting practice to clients worldwide. A psychotherapist by training, Cyndi currently supports individuals, couples and polycules navigating relationships and sexual difficulties, plus professional mentorship and case consultations to clinicians and sexologists worldwide seeking to deepen their understanding of the links between psychotherapy, sexology, relationships work and somatic practice. She's a Clinical Associate of Pink...
2023-05-151h 15
Why Does My PartnerNeed Sex to Feel Connected While I Need to Feel Connected to Have SexWelcome back to the WDMP Podcast. Today’s question leads us into exploring what we each understand sexual intimacy to mean, and what we can do if that understanding doesn't seem to line up with our partner’s. We’re encouraging you, dear listeners, to start to learn about and understand your own sexual templates: what are your likes and dislikes, what are some of the beliefs you have about what those preferences mean, and what in your history has led you there? When you and your partner each engage in that personal work, then there’s an opportunity to talk...
2023-04-1819 min
Culture Sex RelationshipsCyndi Darnell Sex When You Don't Feel Like ItRenowned sex therapist and educator Cyndi Darnell joined me to talk about her amazing book ‘Sex When You Don’t Feel Like It’. We critiqued the idea of libido itself, the importance of curiosity, the new three word model you should be using instead of GGG on Feeld, the importance of allowing the body to speak, why talking about problems is often not helpful, the possibilities for the body to show the path to freedom and connectedness, and the difficulties of being saturated in discourse and how to become resourced.
Here’s a link to the book (I earn a small co...
2023-02-101h 00
The Erotic PhilosopherThe Wonderfully Weird History and Science of Masturbation with Dr. Eric SprankleJoin us for the final episode of Season 4 while I take a break for a while and you have time to catch up on all the past episodes you may have missed. While you’re here a HUGE request to please leave us a rating and review on Apple – your reviews make such a difference to our visibility and viability to return with even more episodes. To remain ad free and bullshit free – your support REALLY matters Now this episode’s guest...someone whose internet presence is as witty and acerbic as it is compassionate and insightful. Known on...
2023-02-0755 min
The Erotic PhilosopherOpen Deeply: In Conversation with Kate LoreeToday's guest is Kate Loree, is a sex-positive licensed marriage and family therapist with a specialty in non-monogamous, kink, LGBTQ, and sex worker communities and the author of Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships. She cohosts her own sex-positive podcast, Open Deeply, with Sunny Megatron. In this episode Kate and I dig into the work of intimate relationships and she offers insight into how we can show up better in our relationships. We look at how to manage triggers during communication, what to do when a situation feels dire and hopeless and how...
2023-02-011h 01
Luvbites by Dr. TaraThe Ways to Increase Sexual Desire EpisodeGet ready to revamp your sexual desire! This week Dr. Tara is determined to uncover the truth about confronting issues of mismatched libido with clinical and somatic sexologist and author of Sex, When You Don't Feel Like It: The Truth About Mismatched Libido & Rediscovering Desire. Cyndi Darnell! A psychotherapist by training, Cyndi currently supports individuals, couples, and polycules navigating relationships and sexual difficulties. In this episode, Cyndi explains the three best ways to rediscover your sexual desire. Either within yourself or with your partner. Cyndi breaks down the causes and effects of mismatched libido and why people would rather...
2023-01-3131 min
The Erotic PhilosopherThe History & Truth About Cuckolding with Dr. David LeyThis week is Cuckweek! Who knew? - not me until I recorded this interview with Dr. David Ley, someone whose work I have followed for many years and indeed the world's foremost expert into the world of cukolding, hot wife-ing and the impact of religonn on human sexuality. Dr David Ley is a clinical psychologist, sex therapist and author, based in Albuquerque, New Mexico. He's the author of several books and research articles on sexuality, including his first book, Insatiable Wives, Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them, known as the “Bible of Cuckolding.” With Just...
2023-01-231h 08
The Erotic PhilosopherWho Is Pleasure Really For? with Goody HowardToday's guest is an absolute delight and I am thrilled to introduce you to Goody Howard. Goody is an award-winning sexologist, educator, and consultant. She provides pleasure development and professional development workshops worldwide. Her authentic and enthusiastic presentation style allows her audiences to connect quickly to the concepts and enjoy learning about sexual health, pleasure, and human variance equity. She makes pleasure-inclusive, comprehensive sex education accessible, intentional, and fun! While Goody’s pleasure-focused offerings are her most popular classes, she also teaches relevant career development workshops for educators, social workers, and healthcare providers. In this in...
2023-01-1751 min
The Erotic PhilosopherWhat We Want To Know About Kink with Richard Sprott. PhD.Ever wondered what makes a person kinky? How we define it or what does it mean you’re your partner is into kink and perhaps you are not? Today’s guest is Dr Richard Sprott. received his Ph.D. in Developmental Psychology from UC Berkeley in 1994. He is currently directing research projects focused on identity development and health/well-being in people who express alternative sexualities and non-traditional relationships, with a special emphasis on kink/BDSM sexuality, and polyamory or consensual non-monogamy. He is the Past President of the Society for the Psychology of Sexual Orientation and Gender Diversity (APA Divis...
2023-01-1746 min
The Erotic PhilosopherSexual Communication Tips with Dr. TaraToday's guest is Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn a sex and relationship expert, tenured professor, relationship coach at Luvbites.co, and host of Luvbites by Dr. Tara Podcast with a bustling social media presence on TikTok. From a shy immigrant from Thailand to a confident sexpert, her goal is to normalize talking about sex in a healthy and fun way. In this episode we learn about Dr Tara's research into sexual communication and we explore what makes sex fulfilling no matter the stage of life yo'ure at or what you're into. Dr Tara asks me about my e...
2022-12-2856 min
The Erotic PhilosopherReclaiming Pleasure and Surviving Sexual Assault with Dr Holly RichmondIn this episode we meet Dr. Holly Richmond - a Somatic Psychotherapist, Certified Sex Therapist, and Clinical Board Member for Dame Products. Her newly released book Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex-Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life (New Harbinger, Oct. 2021) is an innovative look at both somatic and psychological factors in survivors’ erotic recovery. In this interview we look at what it takes to recover from sexual assault, what SA even is, we bust some myths about who this affects and where /how it happens and how to begin on the road to recovery. A pow...
2022-12-2844 min
The Erotic PhilosopherPower, Empowerment, Vulnerability & Squirting with LolaJeanIn this episode we meet Lola Jean. A Sex Educator, Fetish Wrestler, ProDomme, and World Record Holder for Volume Squirting (solo). She provides the 'No Frills Sex Education' we both need and deserve. Lola brings a refreshing understanding to sex, sexuality, and kink to invite individuals through what they think they are capable of. In this episode Lola Jean talks to us about her signature squirting demos, but then we take an intimate turn into how LolaJean deals with performance pressure, sexual and emotional anxiety and why vulnerability is a normal part of life we all caln learn from. ...
2022-12-2847 min
The Erotic PhilosopherYour Brain on Pleasure with Dr Nan WiseDr. Nan Wise is a certified sex therapist, relationship specialist, neuroscience researcher, and author of Why Good Sex Matters: Understanding the Neuroscience of Pleasure for a Smarter, Happier, and More Purpose-Filled Life. Her research has addressed gaps in the literature regarding the neural basis of human sexuality and garnered international attention. Her clinical approach highlights the critical role our evolutionarily wired-in “core” emotions play in physical and mental well-being. Imbalances in these core emotions contribute to anxiety, depression, stress-related disorders, and sexual dysfunction, and anhedonia, or the inability to experience pleasure. This pleasure crisis is evidenced by soar...
2022-12-0954 min
Sex Ed Shouldn't SuckSex When You Don't Feel Like It with Cyndi DarnellThis week we talked to Cyndi Darnell, author and sex therapist from Australia, all about her new book "Sex When You Don't Feel Like It." She tells us about how her clients inspired her to research pleasure and desire, offers sage advice on how to talk to intimate partners, and basically gives us both a free therapy session on the pod!
If you like this episode of the podcast, definitely go purchase and read a copy of Cyndi's book, "Sex When You Don't Feel Like It." For a chance to win a free copy, check out our I...
2022-12-0254 min
The Erotic PhilosopherSoma Cultural Liberation with Dr Roger KuhnThis week's guest Dr Roger Kuhn is a Poarch Creek Two-Spirit Indigequeer soma-cultural activist, artist, sex therapist, and sexuality educator. Roger’s work explores the concepts of decolonizing and unsettling sexuality and focuses on the way culture impacts and informs our bodily experiences. In addition to his work as a licensed psychotherapist, Roger is a faculty lecturer of American Indian Studies at San Francisco State University. He is a board member of the American Indian Cultural Center of San Francisco, a community organizer of the Bay Area American Indian Two-Spirit powwow, and a member of the LGBTQ+ Advisory Commi...
2022-12-0158 min
The Erotic PhilosopherSpeaking From The Heart: A Practical Guide To The Modern Love Languages with Anne Hodder-ShippIf you've ever felt conflicted about your relationship to love, romance and even how you love, you're going to enjoy today's guest Anne Hodder-Shipp an award-winning certified sex and relationship educator dedicated to providing accurate, expansive, and compassionate care. They are the founder and lead educator at Everyone Deserves Sex Ed, a sex ed and professional development organization, and they work with people and couples of almost any age to help build skills, knowledge, and confidence around identity, pleasure, relationships, and communication. Most recently, Anne wrote the groundbreaking expansive love language ebook, Speaking from the Heart: 18 Languages for Modern L...
2022-11-2443 min
The Erotic PhilosopherEnding Childhood Sexual Abuse with Ignacio G. Hutía Xeiti RiveraIgnacio G. Hutía Xeiti Rivera (they/elle), M.A., is a cultural sociologist with expertise in sexual trauma, healing, and liberation for marginalized people. They are an internationally known gender non-conforming speaker, trainer, and consultant. Ignacio is the Founder and Co-Executive Director at The HEAL Project, where they work to prevent and end Childhood Sexual Abuse (CSA). Ignacio is the co-host of 'Caution: Unrestricted', a survivor-centered talk show inviting everyone to engage with the Culture of Sexual Violence through brutal, and at times sarcastic, truth-telling. They are the co-developer of the Rivera-Azad Sexual Healing Integration Model (RASHIM). Learn m...
2022-11-1756 min
The Erotic PhilosopherSex after Prostate Cancer with Eric G SchneiderIn this episode I am rejoined by my dear friend Eric G. Schneider who you met in Season 3, but this time he joins me to discuss his very personal experience of with surviving and living with the effects of prostate cancer and its impact on his relationship and his sex life. Eric's willingness to share his story here is a cruicial aspect of our collective healing work - insofar that few men discuss or extrapolate the emotional and personal impact this condition has on them, their relationships and their sex lives. Men and the people who love t...
2022-11-0955 min
The Couples Therapist Couch174: Eroticism in Couples Therapy with Cyndi DarnellFind out more about the Couples Therapist Inner Circle In this episode, Cyndi Darnell talks about how we need to change the way we talk about sex, gender, pleasure, and power. We also discuss some of the mistakes that therapists make when talking about sex with their clients. To find out more about Cyndi Darnell visit cyndidarnell.com The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. Please subscribe t...
2022-11-0348 min
The Erotic PhilosopherHow We Bond, Relationship Satisfaction & Raising Children In Polyamorous HouseholdsWelcome back to Season 4 of The Erotic Philosopher. In this episode we talk with Dr Eli Sheff, one of the world's foremost relationships researchers. Dr. Elisabeth “Eli” Sheff is a researcher, expert witness, coach and educator. With a PhD in Sociology and certification as a Sexuality Educator from AASECT, Dr. Eli specializes in gender and sexual minority families, consensual non-monogamy, and kink/BDSM. Sheff is the foremost academic expert on polyamorous families with children, and her 25+ year Polyamorous Family Study is the only longitudinal study of poly families with children to date. Dr. Eli has served as faculty at seve...
2022-11-021h 07
The Erotic PhilosopherBringing Sex Educaton into the 21st Century with Justin HancockIn this final episode for season three we finish by completing the circle of sex education with Justin Hancock. Justin is a sex and relationships educator, trainer and practitioner working with young people and adults in this field since 1999. His website BISHuk.com is one of the leading sex and relationships advice websites for all those over 14. It receives thousands of visits per day and is highly regarded by young people and practitioners alike. Justin has worked in schools, colleges, universities, and youth projects for over 20 years delivering relationships & sex education (RSE) with young people over 14.
2022-08-0351 min
The Erotic PhilosopherThe Wheel Of Consent Revolution with Dr Betty MartinYou may not have heard of the Wheel of Consent, but you really should. So much more than consent as a Yes / No transaction, "The Wheel" as its referred to in sexology circles, offers a frame work through which we can discuss sex , pleasure, power and so much more. This really is the sex education all of us should have received in high school, but I am certain none of us did. To me, the wheel is one of the most powerful revolutions in sex education in a generation and today's guest is te creator of that...
2022-07-2942 minWild & Sublime"Sex When You Don't Feel Like It" with Cyndi DarnellKaren interviews sexologist Cyndi Darnell about her new book that helps you connect to your authentic desires and work with mismatched libidos within partnership.In this episode:Cyndi Darnell - Sex & relationship therapist, clinical & somatic sexologistBuy Sex When You Don't Feel Like It: The Truth about Mismatched Libido and Rediscovering Desire on Bookshop – support independent booksellers and Wild & Sublime when you buy through our link! Plus many more sex & relationship book recs. Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our website.Looking for episodes on...
2022-07-2844 min
Permission for PleasureWant Better Sex? Ask Yourself These QuestionsHave you and your partner experienced conflict over mismatched sexual desire or frequency? Have you ever asked yourself: why sex matters to you? Cyndi Darnell joins me to talk about the healthy questions to ask yourself for better sexual self-understanding - which can lead to better sex! Learn the truth about mismatched sexual desire, the problems that result when couples equate frequency with quality, and ideas for creating a more satisfying sex life. Cyndi Darnell is a clinical and somatic sexologist and author of Sex When You Don’t Feel Like It: The Truth About Mismatched Libido & Re...
2022-07-2731 minGirl Boner Radio: True Sex and Relationship StoriesSex When You Don't Feel Like it, with Cyndi DarnellDid you know that horniness is one of hundreds of reasons folks feel motivated to have sex? It's not even the most common. Understanding your own desire and creating what sex and relationship therapist Cyndi Darnell calls your erotic template can help you cultivate an erotically charged sex life, whether you're single or partnered. Learn about common libido myths, the difference between responsive and spontaneous desire, the role somatics can play in desire challenges and more. Save 30% on your copy of Sex When You Don't Feel Like It: The Truth About Mis...
2022-07-2744 min
Health Babes Podcast#063 Sex When You Don’t Feel Like It with Cyndi DarnellDr. Campbell and Dr. Hohn talk with clinical and somatic sexologist and author of Sex When You Don’t Feel Like It, Cyndi Darnell. She covers many topics in the episode like mismatched libidos, the differences between arousal, libido, and desire. We also get into myths around sex, stigmas surrounding pleasure, romance culture and much more. TOPICS: Meet Cyndi (00:10) Misconceptions relating to libido & relationships (03:14) What is libido? (13:40) Sex as a quest to be seized (18:45) Somatics (21:06) Why pleasure is overlooked (26:41) Going deeper with intimate relationships (28:27) Misunderstandings about fantasy (34:58) MORE FROM THE HEALTH BABES...
2022-07-2645 min
Sex and Psychology PodcastUncovering Your Core Erotic ThemesThere are a ton of sources for sex advice out there, which is great. But too many of them suffer from the same problem: they take a one-size-fits-all approach when, in reality, different things are going to work for different people. We each have a unique sexual self, which means that if you don’t have a certain level of self-understanding, it can be difficult to know which advice to take–and which advice to leave. So that’s what we’re going to be talking about today: how to uncover your core erotic themes and increase sexual self-understanding.
My...
2022-07-2247 min
The Erotic PhilosopherWhen Trauma Informs Pleasure with Alex Iantaffi & Meg John BarkerThis episode brings two leading powerhouses of gender, trauma and their intersections with sex and pleasure. In this episode we look at the notion of intersectionality and how pleasure is informed by so much more than whats in our pants. You can find joy and pleasure after trauma and why generic sex advice can often make things worse for us than we intend. Alex Iantaffi, PhD, MS, SEP, CST, LMFT (they/them) is a family therapist, WPATH certified gender specialist, AASECT certified sex therapist, Somatic ExperiencingⓇ practitioner, clinical supervisor, and author. Alex is Chair of the Trans an...
2022-07-2151 min
The Erotic PhilosopherPleasure, Pain & Anal Sex - Loving Black Men with Dr. Patrick GrantStrap in friends. This episode I dive deep with Dr Patrick Grant a Clinical Psychology Resident in Atlanta, GA. His interests include using clinical practice and research to expand the narratives of Black folx; and exploring the ways diversity-related experiences impact mental health outcomes. Grant’s published works primarily center same gender loving (SGL) Black male issues, which include but are not limited to the availability of sexually liberating spaces for Black queer men. Should anal sex hurt and when it does, are you more of a man? As a Top are you more dominant if your pa...
2022-07-1452 min
Naked EncoreImproving Your Sex Life Through Introspection with Cyndi DarnellWhen it comes to sex, are we asking the right questions? Vikki and Brian speak with sexologist and author of Sex, When You Don’t Feel Like It: The Truth About Mismatched Libido & Rediscovering Desire, Cyndi Darnell, about how myths about sex misguide us and what we can do to get on the right track.
2022-07-1251 min
The Erotic PhilosopherSex, Psychadelics and Therapeutic Integration with Dee Dee GoldpaughDee Dee Goldpaugh, LCSW (they/them/theirs) is a psychotherapist and clinical supervisor in private practice specializing in sex and relationship therapy, trauma, spirituality, and Psychedelic Integration Psychotherapy. They are also a member of the Woodstock Therapy Center Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy (KAP) Team. Dee Dee has written and presented widely on the topic of psychedelics and sexuality, queer identity, trauma, spiritual practice, and pleasure. Dee Dee is the Community Support and Integration Director of the Hudson Valley Psychedelic Society and has a clinical training background in Sex Therapy, EMDR, Internal Family Systems Therapy, and psychodynamic psychotherapy. They are an artist...
2022-07-0644 min
The Erotic PhilosopherPolyamory, Opening Up and Creating Secure Attachment with Jessica FernJessica Fern is a Psychotherapist, Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, and author of the book Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Non Monomgamy. In her international private practice, Jessica works with individuals, couples, and people in multiple-partner relationships who no longer want to be limited by their reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles, and past traumas, helping them to embody new possibilities in life and love. Learn more at JessicaFern.com
2022-06-3043 min
The Erotic PhilosopherDemocratizing Porn, Power, Profit and Pleasure with Shine Louise HoustonAs the founding producer and director of Pink & White Productions, (CrashPadSeries.com, PinkLabel.tv), SHINE LOUISE HOUSTON has always had unique vision. Graduating from San Francisco Arts Institute with a Bachelors in Fine Art Film, her works have become the new gold standard of adult cinema. During a five year position at the women-owned, sex toy purveyor Good Vibrations, Shine recognized an underserved demand for an alternative to mainstream pornography, and began to create well-crafted queer made porn. Shine’s films have been recognized among the next big wave of women produced porn and have been internationally screened from Am...
2022-06-2151 min
The Erotic PhilosopherSex, Art & Rope with MidoriTrailblazing educator, sexologist, artist, and irritant to banality, Midori founded Rope Dojo and ForteFemme: Women's Dominance Intensive. She penned the first English instruction book on Shibari, "Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage" in 2001, paving the way to the popularity of rope. Dan Savage calls her the "Super Nova of Kink," while others affectionately call her Auntie Midori for her cool, tell-it-like-it-is, funny, reality-based teaching.
She is also the author of "Wild Side Sex," "Master Han's Daughter," and "Silk Threads.” During this pandemic and beyond, learn, laugh and enjoy her special online classes, events and art at www.patreon.com/PlanetMidori ...
2022-06-1451 min
American SexMismatched Libido & Rediscovering Desire w/ Cyndi Darnell - Ep 190Many of us go through periods in our lives when we’re not happy with the amount of sex we do or don't want. In Ep 190 of American Sex Podcast, Cyndi Darnell gives tips for changing our relationship to pleasure and navigating intimacy when one partner is perpetually ‘not in the mood.’ Some of the things we touch on: Mismatched Libido Responsive vs spontaneous desire Arousal vs libido vs desire vs attraction How gender & orientation factor in Reasons people have desire changes & discrepancy Common myths about desire & arousal that keep us stuck How to talk to partners & work togethe...
2022-06-061h 15
Turn Me OnErotic RisksNYC-based sex and relationships therapist Cyndi Darnell is debuting her new book, "Sex When You Don’t Feel Like It: The Truth About Mismatched Libido and Rediscovering Desire." Jeremie and Bryde chat with Cyndi about desire, erotic risks, and what brought Cyndi to where she is today. cyndidarnell.com @cyndi_darnellThank you endlessly to all the Patrons of the podcast at patreon.com/turnmeonpodcast. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
2022-06-031h 09Turn Me OnErotic RisksNYC-based sex and relationships therapist Cyndi Darnell is debuting her new book, "Sex When You Don’t Feel Like It: The Truth About Mismatched Libido and Rediscovering Desire." Jeremie and Bryde chat with Cyndi about desire, erotic risks, and what brought Cyndi to where she is today. cyndidarnell.com @cyndi_darnellThank you endlessly to all the Patrons of the podcast at patreon.com/turnmeonpodcast. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
2022-06-031h 09
The Erotic PhilosopherWhat Makes A Relationship..really? In conversation with Eric G. SchneiderJoin me this week (after a brief hiatus - apologies life got in the way) for a good ol' chin-wag with my buddy, collaborator, wisemind companion and peer therapist Eric G. Schneider. Eric & I dig into the nature of intimacy. What we experience in contrast with what we believe. The myths that infect and interfere with romantic partnerships in particular, and how we are with ourselves, and each other, impact all our relationships from friends through to lovers and partners. For the past 33 years, Eric has been/and is an experiential, dynamically oriented psychotherapist privileging h...
2022-06-021h 00
The Erotic PhilosopherSex Positive Education & Kids with Nadine ThornhillThis week Nadine Thornhill Sexuality Educator, and all round wise tour-de-force explores what it means to guide young people in helpful ways around, sex, pleasure, gender, power and relationships cultivating healthy minds and healthy bodies. Far from the simple yes /no tropes of consent, Nadine offers insight for parents, carers and families to create meaningful sexual discussions at home, that reduce shame, and increase fun, pleasure and respect. IG: @NadineThornhill YouTube: Nadine Thornhill
2022-05-1649 min
Connectfulness PracticeThe Truth About Mismatched Libido & Desire with Cyndi DarnellWhat our culture teaches us about sex isn’t very useful. Many of us have absorbed the message that sex is a means to some kind of end–orgasm, connection, a baby. We’ve learned that there’s a right and a wrong way to do it. We’ve even learned that sex is natural. It’s no wonder then that when our libido doesn’t match our partner’s or our desires don’t match our politics, we assume there must be something wrong with us. Here’s the real truth: There is nothing wrong with you. Or your partner. So many of...
2022-05-131h 13
The Erotic PhilosopherUnderstanding Compulsive Sexual Behavior with Silva NevesSex Addiction? Porn Addiction? Think again.. This week we are joined by Europe's leading expert in compulsive sexual behavior Silva Neves. In this episode, Cyndi & Silva talk about the roots of this condition, how common it is, what it is and how media spin has made this the monster under the bed of male sexuality over the last 30 years. https://www.silvaneves.co.uk https://www.sexpositivityuk.com Twitter: @SilvaNeves3 Instagram: @silvanevespsychotherapy
2022-05-0557 min
The Erotic PhilosopherThe Body, Somatic Arousal, The Nervous System & Sex with Ellen Heed PhDSomatics nerds gather 'round. This discussion with somatics expert and doyen sexological bodyworker Ellen Heed PhD, is a grand schooling into the machinations of sex, arousal, the body, pleasure and how these things work together. Not a light discussion, but a meaty inquiry, Ellen & Cyndi dive deep into how our bodies really work and how these functions inform sex and pleasure. https://ellenheed.com/ https://www.scartissueremediation.com/ https://www.facebook.com/ellenheed.somatic.educator https://www.instagram.com/ellenheed/
2022-04-2648 min
Sluts and Scholars206 Sex When You Don't Feel Like It with Cyndi Darnell This episode feautures clinical sexologist, sex coach, and author Cyndi Darnell. We talk all about how to have more pleasure through erotic embodiment. Ads: Dipsea is offering an extended 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/sands Cyndi: https://cyndidarnell.com/ Cyndi's Journal Articles: https://cyndidarnell.com/published-works/ FOLLOW US Twitter Instagram Facebook Send questions, comments, stories, rants to: SlutsAndScholars@gmail.com Sluts And Scholars is a production of sluts and scholars media.
2022-04-2149 min
The Erotic PhilosopherPelvic Pain, Pleasure and Power with Dr "UC" Uchenna OssaiIn this episode Cyndi is joined by the wonderful Dr UC, Queen of the Pelvis and The Erotic Philosopher's first physical /physio therapist. In this episode we explore the relationship between the pelvis, pleasure, sexuality and so much more. This is a feel-good joy and love packed episode. Pour yourself a Bourbon and settle in for a heart-warming lecture of love, pride and possibility with Dr UC www.youseelogic.com Socials @youseelogic
2022-04-1954 min
Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam Fraser#108 Sex Therapy: Masculinity and Pleasure-Negativity (with Cyndi Darnell)On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Cyndi Darnell. Originally from Melbourne, Australia, Cyndi is now an honorary New Yorker. She is a certified clinical sexologist and trained therapist & couple's counselor offering holistic counseling, sex coaching, marriage counseling, life coaching, and integrative couple's retreats in New York, plus online video consulting around the USA and across the world. Cyndi serves individuals, traditional couples and people in open, polyamorous, kinky and consensual non monogamous relationships. She warmly invites LGBTIQA & straight identities. You will often see and hear Cyndi within international media. She was the principal sexuality consultant and primary...
2022-04-161h 06
The Erotic PhilosopherStraight Eye for the Sex Guy with Cam FraserThis week we are joined by Aussie sacred sex teacher and men's coach Cam Fraser. Cam and Cyndi explore why so few straight guys are interested in sex education and the effect it has on their relationships & lives. Cam is a Certified Professional Sex Coach, Certified Sexologist, Registered Counselor, and Registered Tantric Yoga Teacher. His work integrates scientifically validated, medically accurate information about sexual health, with sacred sexuality teachings from the mystery traditions. As a coach, he helps men go beyond surface-level sex and into full-bodied, self-expressed, pleasure-oriented sexual experiences free of anxiety or shame. w...
2022-04-1157 min
Love, Sex & IntimacyThe truth about desire and how to cultivate it with Cyndi DarnellI’m delighted to share this conversation with Cyndi Darnell, a clinical sexologist & sex & relationship therapist and author of Sex (When You Don’t Feel Like It): The Truth About Mismatched Libido and How To Find Desire, which will be available in June 2022. We covered so much in this conversation, including the common myths about sex and desire and what is really true, why you might not feel desire for sex, a different perspective on mismatched desire and how to create a sex life you desire. I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did. Cynd...
2022-04-1059 min
The Erotic PhilosopherTrans Sex with Lucie FieldingSex therapist and educator, self-described queer-as-fuck author and creator Lucie Fielding joins Cyndi on The Erotic Philosopher podcast. Learn about the revolution in gender affirming erotic embodiment with author of "Trans Sex" (Routledge 2021) Lucie Fielding. IG:@sexbeyondbinaries Twitter @lucie_fielding www.luciefielding.com
2022-04-041h 00
The Erotic PhilosopherSex, When You Dont Feel Like It with Cyndi DarnellWelcome back! Kicking off season 3, Cyndi is the guest on her own podcast, being interviewed by Elle Chase about her forthcoming book Sex, When You Dont Feel Like It: The Truth About Mismatched Libido & Rediscovering Desire. In this discussion Cyndi & Elle discuss the nuances of desire, what it is how it works and so much more. Perfect listening for partners experiencing mismatches in the bedroom and singles longing to feel passion again. Order Your Copy Here
2022-03-2953 min
That Voice Podcast99. How's your sex voice? with Cyndi Darnell (all stars) Ever thought about the role of voice in your sex life? According to sex therapist Cyndi Darnell it says a lot about how you're feeling - the voice can lead the way for how the body feels. Tune in for a great technique to improve your vocal tone - and in turn your experience in the bedroom. Join the wait list for Speak from your Soul - https://www.sallyprosser.online/speak-from-your-soul Join the wait list for My Six Week Voice Makeover - https://sallyprosser.mykajabi.com/my-six-week-voice-makeover Access the Masterclass Vault - https://sallyprosser.mykajabi.com/members-only
2021-11-2107 min
The Erotic PhilosopherHow To Create Deeper Connections with Rebecca WongIn this final episode of Season 2, Rebecca Wong shows us what's at the root of our struggles in connection and what we can do when our partners are getting on our nerves, over and over and over again. After years of witnessing clients & having deep conversations about life, love, and legacy work as the host of the Connectfulness® Practice podcast and the (archived) Practice Of Being Seen podcast, Rebecca realized that all the big things we struggle with — fear, imposter syndrome, not-enoughness, you name it — come back to the same thing: disconnection. And, there’s something we can do about i...
2021-03-2243 min
The Erotic PhilosopherUsing Pleasure To Heal & Create Your World with Ali DuncanAli Duncan, energy healer & spiritual erotic pleasure guide transformed her life, and now teaches others to do the same. After realizing the shoe no longer fit, Ali was awaked to the power of pleasure and now teaches people to take control of their lives and bodies through Chinese medicine, Tantra and breathwork. As grandmother of 8, she knows what it means to love and be loved and offers advice on authentic parenting (and grandparenting) while enjoying her body and sexuality. In this episode, Ali lays it down. www.aliduncan.me
2021-03-1546 min
The Erotic PhilosopherQueer Menopause with Tania GlydeTania Glyde (they/she) is a psychotherapist in private practice in London, specialising in working with Gender, Sex and Relationship Diverse clients, offering both individual and relationship therapy. In 2014 they founded the London Gender, Sex and Relationship Diversity Practice. They trained as a somatic sexologist in 2017. ‘Although my private practice is talk-only, the opportunity to learn in a somatic environment has been invaluable when working on sexual issues with clients. It has also contributed to making my practice more trauma-informed.’ Tania has published three books and has written for the Lancet and Lancet Psychiatry. They...
2021-03-0734 min
The Erotic PhilosopherHedonism, Sex Work & Queer Utopia with Gala VantingGala Vanting is a writer, sex worker and advocate living and working as a migrant settler on Gadigal land. Her work has woven through the brothel, the boardroom, screen, stage, and page, public health and sex education. She aims to create compassionate and justice-driven dialogue about gender and power, sexuality, technology, media and culture, and is an advocate for the human rights of sex workers. www.galavanting.info @msgalavanting
2021-02-2647 min
The Erotic PhilosopherHedonism, Sex Work & Queer Utopia with Gala VantingGala Vanting is a writer, sex worker and advocate living and working as a migrant settler on Gadigal land. Her work has woven through the brothel, the boardroom, screen, stage, and page, public health and sex education. She aims to create compassionate and justice-driven dialogue about gender and power, sexuality, technology, media and culture, and is an advocate for the human rights of sex workers. https://galavanting.info/
2021-02-2546 min
The Erotic PhilosopherPleasure After Betrayal with Renelle E NelsonRenelle E Nelson is an engaging and charismatic clinician and speaker that gives out hope and actionable steps to create change. She founded Kaleidoscope Services LLC to create a safe and non-judgmental space for clients who may not can change their circumstances but can change their view. Renelle uses her past experience with sexual disconnection and betrayal to show her scars to give hope on healing. She has assisted numerous couples and individuals through the sex love and chaos of their relationship to the renewal of love, reconnection, and healing. Renelle combined being a Licensed marriage and...
2021-02-1641 min
The Erotic PhilosopherRethinking Sex Addiction - with Doug Braun-HarveySexual health author, trainer and psychotherapist Douglas Braun-Harvey, MFT, CST, CST-S bridges sexual and mental health and facilitates organizational change. In 2013 Doug Braun-Harvey and Al Killen-Harvey cofounded The Harvey Institute, (www.TheHarveyinstitute.com) an international education, training, consulting and supervision service for improving health care through integration of sexual health. His new book "Treating Out of Control Sexual Behavior: Rethinking Sex Addiction" written with co-author Michael Vigorito was selected as the 2018 Health Professional Book by the Society for Sex Therapy and Research (SSTAR). Previous publications include "Sexual Health in Recovery: Professional Counselor's Manual" (2011) and "Sexual Health in Drug a...
2021-02-0943 min
The Erotic PhilosopherSex, Depression & The Conversations We Aren't Having with JoEllen NotteJoEllen Notte is a writer, speaker, researcher and mental health advocate whose work explores the impact of depression on sex and relationships. Since 2012 she has written about sex, mental health, and how none of us are broken on her award-winning site The Redhead Bedhead as well as for Glamour, The BBC, Bitch, PsychCentral, and more. You can read her blog at redheadbedhead.com and follow her on Twitter at @JoEllen Notte. JoEllen's book The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression, and the Conversations We Aren't Having out now Thorntree Press
2021-02-0239 min
The Erotic PhilosopherBlack, Poly, Porn & Representation with Dr. James WadleyDr. James Wadley is Director for the Council for Relationships Sex Therapy Program. As a scholar-practitioner, he is a licensed professional counselor, AASECT certified sex therapist and supervisor and maintains a private practice in the States of Pennsylvania and New Jersey. In this episode James digs deep into Blackness, deep relationships, creating connections that last, non monogamy, intimacy & arousal, fucking and so much more. www.drjameswadley.com Social @phdjamesw
2021-01-2643 min
The Erotic PhilosopherPhilosophy, Pussycats & Porn with StoyaStoya has been working with sexuality for over a decade. She is the co-founder of ZeroSpaces.com, where you can follow her current adult work. In this episode, hear how Stoya's beginnings primed her to the the 'PornoDiva' she is today, why she's so passionate about communication & hear Stoya & Cyndi respond to a listener quandary about sex in friendships. In addition to having written for The New York Times, The Guardian, Playboy and others, Stoya is the author of Philosophy, Pussycats & Porn. zerospaces.com onlyfans.com/stoya Twitter & IG @stoya
2021-01-1940 min
The Erotic PhilosopherPleasure, Power & Innovation with Nenna JoinerNenna Joiner started Feelmore out the trunk of their car and owns 2 adult shops in Oakland / Berkeley. Changing the way people see adult stores in their city by being apart of the community not just people's beds! Paper by Audre Lorde Uses of The Erotic www.Feelmore510.com All social: @FeelmoreAdult
2021-01-1240 min
The BreadwinnersLove (and Sex) in the Time of CovidThere’s no getting around it: relationships take work. In this episode, sex and relationships therapist Cyndi Darnell shares her insights on how the pandemic is impacting our sex lives, the power of being vulnerable and relationship myths.
“One of the biggest myths we believe is that the skills necessary to navigate relationships and sex are ‘soft skills.’ Frankly, there’s nothing soft about these skills because they’re some of the hardest you’re going to learn” — Cyndi Darnell Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2021-01-0721 min
The Erotic PhilosopherIdentity, Desire, Fantasy & Sex Therapy with Dominic Davies Pink TherapyDominic Davies is the Founder & CEO of Pink Therapy an organisation he set up in the UK 21 years ago. He has worked as a Psychotherapist & Clinical Sexologist for almost 40 years specialising in working with Gender, Sex and Relationship Diverse clients. During this time he's seen a lot of changes to the evolution of human sexuality discussions including identity, , expression and how we think about these in our lives. He directs an international online training programme training the next generation of sex therapists to think more broadly about sex, pleasure and identity. He is a Fellow of both the National C...
2021-01-0531 min
The Erotic PhilosopherThe Art Of The Hook Up - with Georgie WolfThere's nothing casual about casual sex. Although our attitudes towards sex have evolved in recent times, we still often assume that partnered, romantic sex is more meaningful than a casual encounter...but hook ups, one-night stands and online flings offer many possibilities for personal growth and connection, if we take them seriously. Georgie Wolf talks about how our devaluation of the humble hook up is a self-fulfilling prophecy, where we still get consent and sex ed wrong and what's possible when we treat every sexual encounter with the reverence it deserves. https://www.artofthehookup.com/ ...
2020-12-2940 min
The Erotic PhilosopherSex & The Vagus Nerve (Bonus Info Episode with Cyndi Darnell)Learn how working with body can reduce tension and help you have better sex. Many of us feel uncomfortable about sex. After all we liv in a culture that doesn't respect it and doesn't teach us much, but instead tells us it's natural - we get tricked into thinking there's nothing to learn. But If this were true, nobody would struggle with sex. But millions of people do. The vagus nerve and developing good vagal tone ( like muscle tone, but reps of activating the vagus nerve) can help reduce sexual anxiety caused by trauma, stress and shame. Learn a...
2020-12-2315 min
The Erotic PhilosopherSeduction, Orgasms & Sex Down South with Marla Renee StewartMarla Renee Stewart, MA is a professional sexologist, intimacy/relationship/sex coach, speaker, and author. She is the owner of Velvet Lips, a sexuality education company, as well as Contract Liberation, a company focused on research for non-profit groups. As a Lecturer at Clayton State University, she teaches Sociology and Women’s and Gender Studies. As the Co-Founder of the Sex Down South Conference, Marla aims to bring diverse groups together to learn and share their experiences in the essence of being authentic and fostering sexual liberation across communities. Marla has studied human sexuality for over 19 years, has educated ov...
2020-12-2231 min
The Erotic PhilosopherAdam Bee on How to Ask For More PleasureAdam is a sacred intimate based in New York City. His work centers around guiding clients into accessing and creating deeper levels of pleasure in their body and lives. https://adambee.com https://www.instagram.com/adambeenyc/ https://www.facebook.com/adambeenyc
2020-12-1535 min
Takakansi-podcast - kiireetöntä kirjapuhettaKristiina Vesanen - nautinto ja seksuaalinen hyvinvointiVieraanani oli Kristiina Vesanen ja keskustelimme nautinnnosta ja seksuaalisesta hyvinvoinnista. Kävimme läpi aiheeseen liittyviä kirjoja ja niiden puutetta, sekä sitä miten aiheesta puhutaan. Onko nautinto kaikkien oikeus? Miten voi selvittää mistä itse nauttii? Pitääkö noudattaa jotain valmiita malleja vai etsiä oma? Mistä saa lisää tietoa? Mikä auttaa jos puhuminen on vaikeaa? Mm. näitä ja monia muita kysymyksiä ihmettelimme. Kiitos Kristiina vierailusta! Alla pitkä kirjalista teemaan liittyen. Jakso äänitettiin kulttuurikahvila Arkikullassa Hyvinkäällä.
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2020-10-071h 21
The Erotic PhilosopherWhen Life Gets In the Way of Great Sex - with Shadeen FrancisIn part two - (the final episode of Season 1) of The Erotic Philosopher with Shadeen Francis, we take a look at why people struggle with sex around the world. What affects what we believe about sex and exactly how healthy is 'healthy sex'? What happens when Canadian & Aussie sex therapists get to work in the USA? Are American sex problems unique to Americans and how do cultural differences affect how people thrive in sexual relationships? In turbulent times, our sex lives can take a hit.
2020-09-3026 min
SexologyEP196 - Dating in the Time of Coronavirus with Cyndi Darnell Welcome to episode 196 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Cyndi Darnell to the podcast. In this episode Cyndi talks to me about dating in the time of coronavirus, exploring your sexuality during a pandemic and improving intimacy during this challenging time. Cyndi Darnell is a NY based, internationally renowned sex & relationships therapist & clinical sexologist. Originally from Australia, her approach spans the clinical to the esoteric. Her academic work is published in the Journal of Sex Education (UK) & Sexual & Relationship Therapy (UK). She holds a board affiliate position for the Unive...
2020-09-2929 min
The Erotic PhilosopherGetting It On When You're Getting On - With Joan PriceEver wondered why we glorify sex as being a practice for the teens and 20s, when research suggests people have better sex in their 40s, 50s and beyond? Why are there so few role models for ageless sexuality? And what holds us back from exploring pleasure at any age? Wonder no more. We have senior sex expert Joan Price. Joan Price calls herself an advocate for ageless sexuality. She has been called other things by the media: “senior sexpert,” “the woman leading a sex revolution for seniors,” and—her favorite—“wrinkly sex kitten.” She is the author of four noteworthy...
2020-09-2339 min
The Erotic PhilosopherKink, Power & Letting Go - with David OrtmannWhat is kink these days? And how is it addressed in therapy & sex therapy? What does BDSM offer all of us in terms of dropping the bullshit about the human experience? Where are you coming from and what motivates you erotically? David’s story of self-acceptance, growth and coming of age waking up to pleasure when you’re a sexual outsider. David & Cyndi discuss the squeamishness of discussing sex practices and embodiment in therapeutic training. DAVID ORTMANN, LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist, sex therapist, keynote speaker, and author with private practices in New York City and San Fran...
2020-09-1644 min
The Erotic PhilosopherSex, The Body & The Media - with Elle ChaseWhat is sexy? How do we discover what turns us on, (even if it doesn’t make sense)? What happens in a loveless, sexless marriage when you have an affair and then discover the wide world of porn? Our guest today Elle Chase (she/her) tracks her foray into the world of online feminist porn, body acceptance, sex education and censorship. What does the body positive movement have to offer all of us regardless of size and how helpful is it anyway? Elle answers listener letter on making peace with her body Elle Chase, CSE is a ce...
2020-09-0930 min
The Erotic PhilosopherMental Health, Black Men & Sex with Greg DawsonGreg Dawson is a Texas based social worker and sex therapist. Greg runs CAYA, a sex therapy based private practice, and Come-passion, an education and sexual expression site for all genders, cultures and races. For Greg, a young black kid who grew up in the south, he is inspired by dealing with shame and seeing how others address the daily challenges of it in their personal lives. This is one of the main reasons, outside of enjoying sex, as to why Greg became a sex therapist. He hopes to battle shame, educate the masses and help people become connected...
2020-09-0239 min
The Erotic PhilosopherReleasing Sexual Shame with Elise Bish Desire CatalystHow do we release generations of internalized sexual shame? Desire Catalyst inspired relationships to desire. Systemic family constellations. Transgenerational patterns The power of lineage and repetition in families around sex & relationships. DNA shifts alterations after trauma. How can plant medicine and herbalism help shift sexual healing and whats the relationship between ancestral wisdom and plant medicine? Pleasure is the point of life! Listener letter Patricia afraid of being single. Four generations of lone parents. Gets into relationships then loses interest in sex. How do our beliefs about sex/ relationships i...
2020-08-2633 min
The Erotic PhilosopherIt's So Hard To Grow When Everything Is Great with Dirty LolaDirty Lola (she/her) is an edutainer, Sex Educator & presenter of Sex Ed A Go Go But being a sex educator doesn't mean we don't have our own sex & relationship problems. In this episode we talk about what to do when life is just really hard and love falls apart Transformations Lola shares deep, intimate hard truths about divorce after 17 years of (non-monogamous) marriage. She navigates fear, uncertainty, loneliness, hard grief, the importance of being heard and brand new beginnings. How do we break up when change is inevitable but still so painful? And how d...
2020-08-1932 min
The Erotic PhilosopherHow To Deepen Your Sexual Pleasure with T.T. BaumIn this episode we dive deep with T.T Baum. T.T. is a sacred intimate who teaches people to connect with their own erotic wisdom. We explore what holds people back in sexuality Erotic Philosopher listener Robin asks T.T about keeping interested in sex when his heart gets involved. We explore - Do hook ups have to be cheap? Can intimacy exist in a hook up? Can slutty sex be sacred? T.T breaks down internalized homophobia and highlights the freedoms afforded to men who have sex w...
2020-08-1220 min
The Erotic PhilosopherGetting Unstuck with Shadeen FrancisToday's guest is Shadeen Francis - a licensed psychotherapist, graduate professor, and author that specializes in sex therapy and social justice. In the first of 2 parts with Shadeen, Cyndi jumps right in with a listener quandary for Shadeen about a couple who have lost their erotic traction. One says she doesn't enjoy sex with him anymore and tells the Erotic Philosophers that sex has become a chore! No matter what, they cant seem to get out of this funk - Shadeen has some great responses and reflections Shadeen has been featured on platforms like ABC, C...
2020-08-0526 min
The Erotic PhilosopherHow to Get Better At Talking About Pleasure with Dulcinea Alex PitagoraIn this episode of The Erotic Philosopher, Cyndi sits down and goes deep with Dr Dulcinea (Alex) Pitagora. Where else to start except heteronormativity, anal sex, sexual shame, pride and anally receptive straight cis men! Yes, they go right there. How does privilege protect us from sexual shame and what effect does our identity have on our shame and practices? Alex tells us about their PhD research into anally receptive straight men and how pressure reduces pleasure! Speaking of pleasure, how do you talk about unsatisfying sex in a relationship? What are the benefits of...
2020-07-3036 min
The Erotic PhilosopherWelcome To The Erotic PhilosopherWelcome to the first episode of the first season of The Erotic Philosopher, the podcast where we examine and explore erotic quandaries through social, personal, cultural, political and other lenses with the world's wisest erotic philosophers.
2020-07-2801 min
Bawdy Storytelling‘New York Mini-Orgy‘ (Cyndi Darnell)Do you prefer the direct approach when it comes to sex? Famed Australian sexologist Cyndi Darnell was in a casual relationship with New York City for nearly a decade, but she couldn’t commit. Till a wintry all-nighter in Harlem featuring Idris Elba, Wolverine & some high quality clown porn changed her mind. Plus: Dixie plans to up the ante on the next Bawdy Livestream because it’s her Birthday - so she’s created the Buttplug Club #YoureWelcome #BPC #SheCallsTheShots #RedNose #BigFloppyShoes Learn more about Cyndi Darnell’s Atlas of Erotic Anatomy & Arousal at https://cyndidarn...
2020-05-0847 min
The Soft ScienceSex Issues Across the World ft. Cyndi DarnellThe world has issues around sex. The issues are more common than you would think. Erika talks with Cyndi Darnell, international sex and relationship therapist. Cyndi has moved from Australia to the United States and explored the commonalities and differences between the countries and issues with sex and relationships. Full show notes here.
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2019-10-3128 min
Is Our Love ____? with Lola Jean & The Reluctant SexpertIs Our Love Intimate (with Sex Therapist Cyndi Darnell)In our continued pursuit of all conversations sex & kink, this weeks' guest Cyndi Darnell, a leading sex therapist and educator, brings us back to our human core: INTIMACY. We have an in depth convo about fostering intimacy within our various types of relationships. Cyndi also illuminates how her clientele has changed over time, and addresses some of the most common issues that bring clients into her office (we're looking at you sexual dysfunction stress!). PLUS Lola and Stephen cover some butt stuff with a listener email. With so many great nuggets from this weeks episode perhaps the most poignant...
2019-09-111h 24
Connectfulness PracticePleasure and the Body's Wisdom with Cyndi DarnellCyndi Darnell is an internationally renowned sex and relationship therapist. Her approach spans the clinical to the esoteric. She’s spearheading progressive sex & relationships seminars and workshops for adults and clinicians that deeply change people’s lives. Cyndi’s on a mission to eliminate stigma from discussions around sex, erotisim and pleasure and changing our fears and transform it into freedom.In this episode, Cyndi and I discuss:How the sexual revolution missed the boat to discuss pleasure (especially womxn’s pleasure) that center on what each individual’s motivation is. Permission to own your motivation.Understand...
2019-03-1355 min
Sex With EmilySecrets To A Better Sex Life With Cyndi DarnellOn today’s show, Emily is joined by sex & relationship therapist Cyndi Darnell and they’re talking about all the ways to tap back into desire & arousal for a better sex life. Emily also discusses the importance of keeping your sex life top of mind and keeping your horny light turned on, gaining your sexual power, and tips on starting your own plan for the bedroom. Thank you for supporting our sponsors who help keep the show FREE: Hot Octopuss, PlusOne, Woo More Play, Gainswave, and SiriusXM. Follow Emily on all soci...
2019-02-2244 minCurious Conversations About SexHow To Have More Interesting Sex (replay)Today, we’re having another listen to a conversation with two of the world’s best sex educators and prioneers, about how to introduce more interesting sex into a relationship.
My first guest is Cyndi Darnell, who is an educator and counsellor based in New York. She’s available for sessions via video conferencing.
My second guest is Barbara Carellas, also a sex educator and pioneer, and offering workshops around the world. Among many other achievements, Barbara wrote the book ‘Urban Tantra’, which I warmly recommend; it certainly shaped a lot of my journey.
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2019-02-2000 min
American Sex PodcastCyndi Darnell: #MeToo, Aziz Ansari & Sex Ed - Ep 25Sexologist Cyndi Darnell dives in deep discussing #MeToo, the Aziz Ansari story, and how it relates to all of us. We know that #TimesUp and things have to change but how do we go about that? What steps do we take? What’s our personal responsibility? We discuss effective sexual communication, the role sex ed plays in all of this, plus Cyndi gives tips for sex-positive parenting. Before the interview, Sunny & Ken talk about hangovers and drinking Downy, plus Sunny has an embarrassing recording mishap.
2018-01-221h 00
American SexCyndi Darnell: #MeToo, Aziz Ansari & Sex EdSexologist Cyndi Darnell dives in deep discussing #MeToo, the Aziz Ansari story, and how it relates to all of us. We know that #TimesUp and things have to change but how do we go about that? What steps do we take? What’s our personal responsibility? We discuss effective sexual communication, the role sex ed plays in all of this, plus Cyndi gives tips for sex-positive parenting. Before the interview, Sunny & Ken talk about hangovers and drinking Downy, plus Sunny has an embarrassing recording mishap. Cyndi also tells us a hilarious story about a date gone very wr...
2018-01-221h 00
Practice of Being SeenCyndi Darnell: Mindful Sex: Pleasure, Power, PermissionSex is a richly complex part of being human and there’s no one way to experience it. It can be a catalyst for spiritual connection or a source of deep trauma. It thrives on play. It emphasizes pleasure for pleasure’s sake. It enacts politics and power plays. It insists on respect and permission. And, in our culture, it is tightly bound to shame. This week’s guest is Cyndi Darnell, one of Australia’s leading sex and relationship therapists, and she asks us to consider what would change if we acknowledged that we do in fact have b...
2017-11-2900 min
Sex With EmilyGoing Down (Under) with Cyndi DarnellSex and relationships go great together-- there’s no doubt about it. But the two are not interchangeable. In today’s show, Emily’s joined by one of Australia’s leading sex and relationship therapists Cyndi Darnell to talk about how to get both back on track! How do you prep for “Mr. Right” when you enjoy your playful lifestyle? Think you’ve tried it all and you STILL can’t orgasm? You’re brimming from cheater’s regret-- should you come clean? Emily and Cyndi answer these difficult dilemmas, plus the pair discuss the highly dreaded mismatched libido wi...
2017-06-0955 min
Sex Nerd SandraSex Prep - Your Erotic Personality with Cyndi DarnellGETTING THE HOT SEX YOU WANT! Australian sex therapist and coach Cyndi Darnell shares how to lay the groundwork for expanding your sex life. TOPICS: Coach vs Therapist, Depths of Sexuality, Sloppy Communication, Erotic Fear, Showing Desire, Feminist Men, Learning to do it, Reproduction, Cooking, Hottest Experiences, Jack Morin, Expanding Your Sex Life, Compliment Sandwich, Conscious Sex, Fantasy, Ruining the Mood, Speaking Up for Yourself, Needing to be Liked vs Honorable and How Your Parents Effect Your Sex Life!
2014-11-1655 min
The Tantric Lounge Radio ShowEpisode 3:3 The Anatomy of SexThe human body is an incredible pleasure machine, the sensations and experiences we can potentially experience are incredible. Until recently though, it wasn’t really an aspect of science that was studied particularly thoroughly. Even today there is a lot that is unknown or unconfirmed. There’s a lot that is though, and it’s a lot more than you would have learned in school sex ed classes (if you were even lucky enough to get sex ed.) That was more about reproduction than sex, more about how to have babies and not have babies, than about pleasure, intimacy and sexual...
2014-07-3035 min
Talking PoofyThe Poofcast 80 (S5E6)Talking Poofy (Scott Brennan, Adam Richard, Toby Sullivan) present The Poofcast 80 (Season 5 Episode 6) guest starring Cyndi Darnell and Wes Snelling as The Gimp.Adam has his own Dear Talking Poofy, which involves his straight friends bumping uglies and the role of the 'gay best friend.' Also, because we've had so many Dear Talking Poofy letters about impending "first gay experiences," we've enlisted sex therapist Cyndi Darnell (Minus 18) to talk us through the first time.WARNING The Poofcast contains sexually explicit discussion, coarse language, adult themes and Wes Snelling. The...
2012-07-0931 min